Home Real Talk 5 Ways to Practice Compassion through the Holidays By Give InKind Tinybeans Voices Contributor December 9, 2019 Search more like this holiday seasonfood bankhow toself esteemstory tellingcompassionget organizeddivorcecounselortherapistdiagnosismindfulproblem solvinggratitude Advertisement Trending Now Entertainment & Movies The First Cast Photo for Netflix’s ‘Wednesday’ Is Here—and Amazing Recalls 2 Million MamaRoo & RockaRoo Baby Swings Recalled after Infant Death Viral & Trending School’s Cell Phone Policy Goes Viral after Mom Refuses to Comply: ‘Nope’ News California Becomes 1st State to Provide Free Meals to Public School Kids News Nanny Job Listing Goes Viral Because It’s Bonkers Advertisement Photo: Artem Maltsev on UnsplashThe holidays are a time when families come together to celebrate the season of gratitude and while the season is often marked by abundance, it can also be a time of great need. College students may be struggling emotionally, extended family members may be going to the food bank for the first time, a mom may be secretly going through a divorce and wondering how to get by during the coming year, and some family members and friends may be facing a diagnosis that will require hospitalization. Why not use this time together to look for and help your friends and family that could use an extra hand this holiday season? Here are five ways to weave compassion—for yourself and others—into the coming holidays. 1. Check-In: Don’t Assume It’s All Okay. Do you have a friend or family member that you think might be going through something? Check-in and ask. Offer to take them out to lunch, send them a card or a text. Make a phone call. You don’t have to pry into their life but be there and listen to what they have to say. The holidays can trigger all kinds of feelings and are a good time to touch base, especially amid the flurry of holiday cards and photos.2. Listen to Understand. There’s a difference between “listen to talk” and “listen to understand.” Listening to understand means you’re actively listening to the other person. You’re not in the “problem-solving mindset,” you’re in the “exploration” mindset. Your friend may simply need to talk. Or they might need advice or a second opinion. Whatever it is, you won’t know unless you practice listening to understand. Creating space for those story-telling family members is a great place to start—studies show that recounting stories improves self-esteem in seniors.3. Care for Yourself. Maybe you’re the one who is always there for everyone and always showing up when people need it most, and maybe this year, you’re going through struggles of your own. Tell someone you need to talk and make the time to do it, whether it’s a friend, a family member, a therapist, or a counselor. Your needs are valid and important and your family and friends will respect that you know how to ask for and get the help you need to live your best life. Make it the gift you give yourself this year.4. Find Causes That Speak to You. Find nonprofits and causes that you can make an ongoing part of your life. Why? Because when a cause speaks to you, you’re more likely to look for creative ways to help it. When you’re actively involved with a cause you believe in, you’re more likely to talk about it with your friends and encourage them to give back in ways that are meaningful in their lives. Giving Tuesday is just one day, but a great day to start.5. Get Organized. When you know someone who is going through a hardship, like a loved one in the hospital, the birth of a new baby, a sick child, or the death of a loved one, organize your friends and family to help them. This can be done with online tools like Give InKind that help you coordinate financial contributions, calendar tasks, chores, and more on a dedicated page that helps the person in need get exactly what they need.Spending time with family is a great opportunity to pull together and make a plan to support someone you love. No matter how you give and give back this holiday season and beyond, stay mindful about those in need. May we all be lucky enough to not need, but when we do, may we all have the support of our loved ones and community to help us through. This post originally appeared on Give InKind Blog. Give InKind Tinybeans Voices Contributor Give InKind is an intelligent social support platform that helps friends and family coordinate tangible, financial, and emotional support for those who need it. Our custom Care Calendar + Wishlist + Fundraising in one free tool is making support simple. From new babies to cancer support, Give InKind. 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