Never being angry with our kids is up there on the list of things we said we’d never do as parents. Right alongside never buying plastic toys or giving them an iPad.
And it seemed like a pretty realistic goal when they were teeny tiny. But then they grew up and when it feels like they are pushing your buttons, it can be super hard to retain the level of calm and zen you imagined would define you as a parent. Before you actually became one.
A student who spent over a year living in an Inuit community observed an extraordinary ability to control anger and shared her observations and it has challenged us to think differently: “With little kids, you often think they’re pushing your buttons, but that’s not what’s going on. They’re upset about something, and you have to figure out what it is.”