Spending your days with baby can get a little lonely, and if you have a lot of friends who don’t have kids, it can be harder to find time to get together. We all find our kids enthralling, but for someone who doesn’t have a baby, watching a a baby grab its feet repeatedly is maybe…less so. And then you can’t move around as freely as you used too. Babies get bored by long leisurely dinners in nice restaurants.
Having a mom friend helps, but striking up a conversation with people and finding friends can be an anxiety-inducing experience. It’s not like when you’re a kid and you make friends with whomever is roughly the same size. So how can you find like-minded women who will be right there with you on this parenting journey? In honor of National BFF Day on June 8th, here are a few ways to get you started on your search for new mom friends.
Keep an eye out for mom meet-ups
When you’re just starting out, websites like Meet Up will be key. You can search for hundreds of events, like parenting outings, play dates, mommy networking nights, or running groups. You’ll likely find events for every weekend, so there won’t be a shortage of things to do.
Start swiping (for a friend, not a date)
Apps like Peanut are like Tinder but for finding mom friends. The nice thing about Peanut is that everyone you see on the platform is in the same boat as you and is looking to form a meaningful friendship, so don’t feel like you’re intruding and say hello!
Check out children's activity centers
Activity centers like My Gym are an excellent opportunity to meet other parents with children around the same age as yours. The best part is that you take classes every week so you’ll always have a chance to connect with someone there. Try taking a morning class – maybe one day you and your new friend will want to continue the conversation over lunch!
Try private Facebook groups
If you live in a metropolitan area, you may be able to find private Facebook groups that are dedicated for mommy meet ups in the area. You can also use this opportunity to ask questions about upcoming events, opinions on daycares, or if anyone would like to join you and baby at the playground.
Strike up a conversation during a shared activity
You’re likely going to meet lots of moms if your children are involved in the same activity. Next time you bring your little one to ballet or music practice, approach one of the parents and just have a casual conversation. You never know what you two may have in common.
Host a "Mom's night out" event
Once you’ve found your core 1-2 new friends, host a night out and encourage them to bring their friends so you can all introduce yourselves to a big group. It’s a great chance to meet new parents (and let off some steam with a little vino).