Let’s face it: getting pregnant can be a stressful journey which sometimes ends in heartache. With so many things that can go wrong, it can be hard to see what can go right. We are inspired daily by the families who choose optimism in times of uncertainty – no matter how many times their hearts have been broken. In this week’s Meet the Fam, we caught up with the Holloman family to learn about their rollercoaster experience with uterine fibroid tumors, surgeries, and IVF which ultimately led to their adorable son, Mark Anthony. We hope this column reminds you that the best things are always worth the wait.
Tell us about your family
My husband and I married in 2012 and decided to enjoy the “married-single” life for a year before extending our family.
A few years later, I was diagnosed with multiple uterine fibroid tumors and was referred to a specialist for care to allow a better chance at getting pregnant and carrying full term. The recovery after this surgery wasn’t easy and I wasn’t able to do much for myself for almost a month.
After 6 months of continued physical and emotional recovery, my husband and I decided to get aggressive with our approach to getting pregnant fearing that the fibroids might return. I underwent another procedure, which unfortunately showed our chances of getting pregnant on our own weren’t likely. The pain from that procedure along with bad news left me feeling very defeated. My heart dropped out of my chest and I didn’t know how I was going to be able to pick myself up. After a lot of thought and prayer we decided to try IVF.
On my husband’s birthday, we wrote the names of our babies on a vision board along with other prayers for our home. On the same day, we met with our nurse who showed us how to do the injections, gave us our IVF cycle calendar, and explained everything that we needed to do over the next 30 days. We were ready!
After a few injections and some blood work, we got a call that I had to stop immediately and start the process over. Yet another blow. I felt like I had failed again, like my body wasn’t doing something right. However, my nurse was so warm, caring, passionate and positive. She reminded me this was not the end, just another chance to do it right. We started over.
Another month of shots, medication and patience and we were finally ready. I was excited and my husband was of course nervous for me to be going through another procedure. To this day, I feel like my son spoke to me the moment they did the transfer because I was immediately sick and wanted salty fries!
A short time later, we were excited to get confirmation that we were pregnant and started the countdown to Baby Holloman! The many appointments, surgeries, shots, pills, calendars, alarm clocks and bloating…ALL WORTH IT!
Our handsome little guy, Mark Anthony, arrived on June 22, 2017 at 8:41pm. Because of prior surgeries, I had a scheduled c-section but I was still able to hold him on my chest the moment he came out. What a precious and beautiful sight! Our son has brought so much joy to our home, family and friends. He has a strong will that reminds us of the journey it took to get to him and a laugh that will instantly make you feel happy. He was truly worth the wait!
What is your favorite moment that you’ve captured and why?
It’s hard to say that I have just one favorite picture. My family knows I love taking pictures and capturing all the golden moments of being together. Tinybeans has really made it easy to share every big and small moment with them like first baths, first steps, cute nap times, new adventures, and mommy & me karaoke! Since I am oftentimes on the other side of the camera as the photographer, I have only a few early pictures with just the two of us, and those are favorites.
If you could give yourself one piece of advice before your children arrived, what would it be?
Talk to others, enjoy the company of your family and friends and don’t go through the process alone. I remember after going through all the surgeries, appointments and procedures, I would settle down at the end of the day and read a ton of information and think about all of this possible outcomes. I didn’t talk much about the details and how I actually felt. I realized after giving birth to my son that wasn’t healthy mentally for me. Talking to others was much more of a relief and helped me to process things. There’s always someone else going through a struggle too, and sometimes it’s more similar to yours than you think.
What upcoming milestones are you excited about?
Hearing my son tell me he loves me for the first time! My heart melts every time he gives me hugs and kisses so I just know it’s going to be even more amazing hearing those words for the very first time from him.
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