Back-to-School Sleep Tips

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Let me just start off by saying honestly and sincerely, no judgment for what might have gone on in the last couple of months. I know…I’m a pediatric sleep coach and you may think that I’m going to chastise you for the late bedtimes, unenforced rules, inconsistent schedules, or any of the many “inadvisables”
that may have occurred over your summer vacation.

But I get it. I know how precious the summer months are. You want to squeeze in every minute of joy and togetherness during the long, glorious days. If it’s a choice between bedtime battles or staying up to watch the fireworks, c’mon, that’s a no brainer.

No matter what might have happened over summer vacation, consider it all forgiven. The mission now is to get your child back on track so that they can get to sleep at a reasonable hour as they head into their first week back at school. Here are my top tips for sleep success this fall:

How Much Sleep Does My Child Need?

First things first: What time should your child be going to bed? Many parents I work with are surprised to hear that I recommend sometime between 7:00 p.m. and 8:00 p.m. They’re even more surprised when I suggest keeping that time frame until their child is about 12 years old. There are two reasons why I think kids should be in bed by 8:00 p.m.

  1. Kids need, at minimum, 10 hours of sleep each night.

If your child needs to be up by 6:30 a.m. in order to get to school, they should be asleep before 8:30 p.m. Factor in the time it takes them to fall asleep after they get into bed, and they should be in bed well before this time in order to get the sleep they need.

  1. You, as a parent, need to exist child-free for a few hours a day.

You need to be able to watch mindless TV, to eat some junk food without fear of being spotted, and to just do grown-up things and recharge those parenting batteries. It is vital to your relationship with your partner and with your kids. 

So now that we know when to put our kids to bed, let’s move on to the significantly more difficult issue of how.

Adjust the Schedule Gradually

Hopefully you’re reading this while there’s still a couple of weeks before school starts because the easiest way to get back on track is little by little.

If your child has been going to bed around 9:00 p.m. all summer, try moving up bedtime by 15 minutes every 3-4 days until you’re back to their normal, more age-appropriate, bedtime. If this requires a little deception on your part by adjusting the clocks in their bedroom, just go ahead and get sneaky. Sometimes the ends really do justify the means.

Embrace a Bedtime Routine

If you had an effective bedtime routine before your summer vacation threw everything off, then try to re-implement it as much as possible. Familiarity will definitely help your child settle back into a schedule quicker and with less resistance than trying out something new.

On the other hand, if this is your first time implementing a bedtime routine, let me stress how much easier a repetitive, predictable bedtime routine can make your life. When your child’s body and brain start to associate things like taking a bath, brushing teeth, reading stories, and putting on pajamas all in the same order at the same time every night, it cues up their melatonin production making sleep come easier. I seriously cannot recommend bedtime routines highly enough. 

Use a Timer

Of course, things like baths and stories are super fun so there is a tendency for your child to try and negotiate for more time in the tub or just one more story. If you find yourself constantly having to play sheriff, a timer can be your best friend for keeping things on schedule and take the blame off of you. Mom may be able to be reasoned with, but a timer is pretty black and white.

Limit Screen Time

Along with slack enforcement of bedtimes during the summer, we also tend to ease up on the rules surrounding TV, video games, or otherwise staring at screens during the hours leading up to bedtime. When there’s no homework to be done, it’s much easier for the empty time to be filled in front of our devices.

The thing about screens—whether they’re phones, tablets, TVs, or computers—is that they emit a massive amount of blue light. This blue light can inhibit melatonin production so screens before bed can actually have the unwanted effect of firing your child’s system back up when it should be powering down. Try to avoid any screen time for at least two hours prior to bedtime. (Note: this also applies to adults, so if you’re having trouble falling asleep at night, try reading instead of watching TV before you turn out the lights.)

Make it Dark

While we’re on the subject of light, many of you living in the northern areas of the planet may notice that it’s still not getting dark until after 8:00 p.m and the only thing that simulates sunlight more than a TV screen is…well, actual sunlight. If your child’s bedroom is still light when you’re putting them to bed, I suggest investing in black-out shades.

Firm Up Boundaries

One final note: Experiencing some leniency regarding bedtime can suddenly transform your child into quite a sharp lawyer. Arguments for why they should be allowed to stay up later are likely to be heard for at least a few days and potentially the next several years. Luckily, parenting is not a democracy. It is a glorious dictatorship where “Her Highness, Mom” gets to make all the rules. Don’t give in to the pressure, because as I mentioned earlier, an early bedtime should be in place for several years. The sooner they accept that as the norm and their summertime hours as special circumstances, the easier the whole “bedtime thing” will be for you both.



I hope you’ve had a wonderful summer vacation and that your children are looking forward to starting school again. I promise that no matter what grade they are heading into, nothing will help them begin a new school year with a better attitude and a more positive outlook than plenty of sleep.