Tess Holliday Posts Moving Instagram about Unrealistic Expectations on New Moms

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Plus-size model Tess Holliday has long used her Instagram account to advocate that beauty comes in all shapes and sizes. She’s been equally empowering and candid about her own journey to motherhood. The 32-year-old Holliday is a mother of two boys, Rylee (12) and Bowie (2). On Tuesday, Tess Holliday posted a powerful Instagram about unrealistic expectations placed on new moms—and every mom can totally relate.

Despite her youngest being nearly two-years-old, Holliday opened up about the extreme postpartum depression she’s faced since giving birth to Bowie in 2016. In March, the model posted to Instagram, “Since becoming a new mom (again!) I’ve been very open with how hard it’s been. From dealing with extreme PPD, to at times feeling really isolated and overwhelmed.” Tuesday’s Instagram was even more candid, putting her vulnerability out there not as a grab at fan sympathy or pity, but in solidarity with a community of moms just trying to keep it all together.

“Moms are expected to ‘bounce back’ physically & emotionally,” Holliday wrote on Instagram. She continued, “We are expected to ‘stay strong’ for the family. Yet most of us (myself included) still have days where we feel like a stranger in our bodies, unattractive to ourselves (& partners), lonely because friends stop inviting you to stuff, etc.” She thanked her friends, family and other supports in her life to keep her from spiraling downward. “I guess what I’m saying is, moms/parental figures: you have to take time to care for YOU. Don’t let it get to the point mine did where you feel like you’re losing your mind,” Holliday warned other moms.

According to women’s health website Postpartum Progress, as many as 1 million women each year suffer from postpartum depression up to 12 months after the birth of their baby. But in Holliday’s case, her youngest is about to turn 2—and she addressed her critics directly on Instagram: “Don’t think because your child isn’t a ‘baby’ that you couldn’t still be suffering from PPD, because I’m here to tell you, you most definitely can.”

Holliday closed out her ‘gram with some important advice for any mom who feels like she’s struggling: “Ask for help, talk to someone, find a support group or hell, message me. You aren’t alone & you don’t need to suffer alone.”

Preach, mama.

—Keiko Zoll

Featured Photo: Tess Holliday via Instagram

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