If there’s one thing that not enough men understand about the world, it’s the differences in the pressures put on men and women when it comes to aging and looks. But one dad definitely gets it, and his wife captured him in a brilliant TikTok video where he responds flawlessly after she compares herself to JLo. Naturally, the internet can’t get enough of his enlightened perspective.
In the video, Chrissy Powers and her husband are sitting on their deck when she says, “I just looked at a picture of… Jennifer Lopez. And I said, ‘How does she look that good at 50 something?’ And you said …”
Her husband replies, “I said she spends millions of dollars on herself to look like that … That’s the problem with patriarchal culture. The patriarchal culture tells women that if they don’t look like a celebrity, their value is nothing.”
@chrissyjpowers Sunday Sermon: How the patriarchy makes women question their beauty and then makes money of their insecurities. #realbeauty #aginggracefully #embracingaging #consciousrelationships
♬ original sound – Chrissy Powers
He goes on to call out the beauty industry, and the constant messaging women receive that we have to stay young and beautiful or risk losing our value.
“The idea that a woman is only valuable when they’re between the ages of 18 and 25. That’s ridiculous,” he says.
Powers asks, “I’m more valuable now, right?”
He responds with an exasperated, “Yes! Listen, women have to stop believing the lies that the patriarchal culture machine tells them that their value is only because they look young. It’s ridiculous.”
But the best part of the video comes when Powers asks her husband if he thinks she’s hotter now than when they met. His response is so thoughtful and genuine.
“Oh, 100%,” he says. “Oh, God, you’re so much more beautiful. I mean, you were hot then. You have, there is a wholeness to your beauty now because it comes with wisdom. It comes with inner knowing. It comes with doing the work that is required to get you to this point. Because if you’re not growing, you’re stuck. So you’re doing the beautiful work of the change, the lasting change of moving forward, which is wisdom.”
He nailed it. No notes.
