A new dad took to the internet to find out if he’s the worst for being mad his wife wouldn’t let his friends come over—just weeks after she gave birth
Reddit’s “Am I the As*hole” forum can be a bit of a mixed bag. Usually, when you have people there telling their stories to get the internet’s judgment, there are people who can see both sides—even though there might be a majority one way or another. But once in a while, there’s someone so clueless that the entire internet unites for one, beautiful moment to tell them what an awful person they are—and such is the case with this newborn dad.
The dad came to Reddit to ask if he was the as*hole for getting mad at his wife when she wouldn’t let his friends come over. But of course, there’s much more to the story than just that.
AITA for telling my wife I’m that I’m mad that she didn’t let me have my friends over
by inAmItheAsshole
“Last Saturday I went over to a friend’s house to hang out with the guys. My wife (who gave birth to our son 6 weeks ago) also had her friend over to our house,” he writes. “So I finish up at the gym, head over there and sit down to play some games. After playing for about 30 minutes, my wife calls me (her friend is gone now) and asks if I can come home because a bump on her skin has gotten more painful and she doesn’t want to be taking care of the baby alone when it’s painful for her to stand and walk at this point (previously it only hurt while she was sitting). Obviously I’m disappointed that I have to leave but it is what it is. So I get up and tell my friend who gave me a ride over that I need him to give me a ride home. Everyone is confused and upset that I’m leaving, especially since now they’re going to be short a person for their game.”
So this dad comes up with a solution: “On the ride home I call my wife and suggest that I just bring my friends over to my house instead, that way I can help with the baby whenever she needs me to and I’ll still get to hang out with my friends whenever I’m not needed by her. She says that she doesn’t want people over, and we hang up. At this point I’m mad.”
Once the dad gets home, he’s huffy enough to cause his wife to ask, “are you seriously mad right now?!”
He writes, “I’m not mad that she wanted me home, but I’m mad that she won’t let me have my friends over when in my mind it makes no difference to her. They’ll be out in the living room the whole time, it’s not like she’s going to be leaving the bedroom anyways, since it hurts for her to walk. She has no reason to in the first place when I’ll be in the house and will be available at her beck and call. She says my priorities are all wrong. I tell her that she comes before my friends, but that I don’t see why I cant be there for her when she needs help, and then also be able to go out into the living room to see my friends when she doesn’t.”
Oh boy.
Oh, and in case you need to laugh so hard you cry, he added this at the end: “Please dont leave negative comments about my wife being a baby or anything. I’m not here to make her look bad or to bash her, I love and care about her a lot. I just need to know if I was being a jerk or not.”
Naturally, the comments let this oblivious dad know what was up.
“YTA and so are your friends. Why on earth would they be confused that you were going home to your wife and newborn?” the top comment reads. “You have a NEWBORN and a wife who hasn’t physically healed from the birth yet. You should be at home taking care of the two of them. Your job right now is to make life EASIER for your wife. Not harder.”
Another highly rated comment adds, “It’s hilarious that you think anyone is going to perceive your wife coming off as ‘being a baby’ or that your post will make her ‘look bad’. Thank you, it’s been a rough day and that was the comic relief I needed.”
In case anyone is still on the fence, the dad reveals in the comments that the “skin bump” his wife was complaining about is actually a pilonidal cyst. You know, those things that make it absolutely excruciating to sit, stand, walk, lay down—exist.
Hopefully, this thread is what the dad needs to get the message: HELP YOUR WIFE, DUDE. She’s not even two months postpartum and has an extremely painful cyst—the gym, games, and your friends can definitely wait.
