Female-centered stories don’t only benefit girls. Shannon Hale, the New York Times best-selling author of some 30 children’s and young adult books, noticed something as she toured the country: Boys didn’t seem to be reading her books, and it was mostly because adults thought they wouldn’t want to.

As Hale wrote in the Washington Post, “It’s clear that our culture assumes: 1. Boys aren’t going to like a book that stars a girl. 2. Men’s stories are universal, while women’s stories are only for girls.”

But that’s not always the case. With a little effort, plenty of parents of boys have made “girl stories” resonate for all involved.

Iva Marie Palmer, author of the YA series, Gabby Garcia’s Ultimate Playbook, and a mother in Los Angeles, has been reading stories with female protagonists to her eldest son since he was born, and has continued with her younger son. Palmer read A Wrinkle in Time to her eldest, around age 3, but Harriet the Spy really captured her son’s imagination. “He was 5 or 6, and kind of a mischievous kid who might be interested in that character, I thought,” Palmer said. “I wasn’t really even thinking, Is this a boy book? Is this a girl book?” 

Later, he took to the Ivy and Bean series, after a teacher read one in class. “He checked out six or seven of them,” says Palmer. And his enthusiasm proved infectious. “Other boys, when they see a boy reading these books, it’s an endorsement,” she said. “Pretty soon all the boys were reading Ivy and Bean.” These books were funny, the plots resonated and the gender of the main characters was beside the point.

This thread follows through to YA readers. At the book events Palmer has attended, there have been plenty of boys in each crowd who have read Gabby Garcia—not despite the fact that it’s about a girl, but because it’s about baseball. Gabby’s bravery, humor, feelings of awkwardness, desire to be naughty, and love of baseball know no gender.

Linnea Covington, a mother in Denver, Colorado, has read two series featuring female protagonists to her 4-year-old son: Zoey and Sassafras by Asia Citro, and Princess in Black by Shannon and Dean Hale. “For him, I want good books with strong characters, despite the gender,” she said. “At least he is seeing interesting and strong girls to go with his manly superheroes.”

Some parents leave gender out of it completely, pitching titles featuring female protagonists as “kids’ books” or “classics.” Some—especially those with younger kids—switch the pronouns in the text. Grace Per Lee, a mother of two boys in Burlington, Vermont, said, “The hungry caterpillar, the runaway bunny… they don’t need to be male.”

The context is larger than pronouns, however. “I want them to know that girls and women are real people with wants, needs, challenges, triumphs… the heroes of our own lives,” she said. “We’re not just the supporting characters in books that feature boys and men.”

Nikki Yeager, a mother in New York City whose son is 4, almost exclusively reads books to him with female leads and characters of color. “I believe that he’ll see so many amazing men who look like him represented throughout his life, I want to make sure he gets an equal amount of woman-first content at home,” she said. As an athlete, she’s thrilled that, even at a young age, he’s aware that girls are strong and more than capable. “The other day we were talking about jobs and being a ballerina came up,” she added. “I asked him if he wanted to be a ballerina and he said, ‘I don’t think so. They’re too strong! Only girls can be that strong.’” 

Whether through tales of strength, courage, failure, redemption, or something far sillier, these parents are proving that it’s the story that counts—whoever the central characters might be. 

“You’re learning about characters and their experiences, whether they look exactly like you or not,” Palmer said, adding that the main point is that kids are reading. 

“Kids get it,” wrote Hale. “They just want a good story.”

 

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If you’re looking for some true inspiration, this mom’s Black History Month photos are absolutely everything. Sasha Bonner wanted to give her toddler daughter, Riley Johnson, a strong foundation. So the North Carolina mom started snapping pics of her two-year-old dressed as famous and fearless black women icons.

Bonner initially started this project as a way to bond with her daughter and inspire her little girl. After posting the photos on Instagram, these dress-up pics became something much more.

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The mom wanted her two-year-old to grow up having heroes that looked like her. In an interview with TODAY Parents, Bonner said, “Growing up, it wasn’t really showcased for us even when it came to female (role models) let alone African-American women.”

So, what famous faces did Riley portray during these fab photo shoots? The pairs’ Beyonce photo shoot was a favorite for both mother and daughter. Bonner is a mega fan of the singer and Riley reportedly enjoyed getting to wear lipstick.

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Another top pick for the toddler was their photo of prima ballerina Misty Copeland. According to her mom, Riley enjoys ballet—and she already had the tutu!

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Along with these famous women, Riley’s pics also included aviatrix Bessie Coleman, the first African American female to hold a pilot’s license.

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Here she is a Mamie Phipps Clark, an American social psychologist.

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We love this collage featuring American civil rights activist Ruby Nell Bridges Hall.

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Riley totally nailed it a supermodel Naomi Campbell.

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Look for more of these magical moments on Bonner’s Instagram throughout Black History Month.

—Erica Loop

Featured photo: Kiana Bosman via Unsplash

 

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According to U.S. News & World Report, approximately 80 percent of resolutions fail by the second week in February. Why? Because dramatic and immediate changes are not sustainable long-term. So make this not a year of resolutions or diets but one of incremental changes to instill habits that create real, long-lasting results.

Do What You Enjoy

Commit to trying new things or even old things to remind yourself of what you enjoy. This is especially true for keeping active and fulfilling your body’s desire for movement and exercise. This can be taking frequent walks through nature, biking, dancing, hiking or yoga.

Start taking ballroom dancing lessons that you promised yourself you would try years ago. Take a barre method class where you can let your inner ballerina shine. Better yet, put that music on full blast while you are preparing dinner and dance like no one’s watching. It is not about perfection, it is about finding what you love to do and what brings a smile to your face, then it becomes fun and not something you want to do.

Add Things—Don’t Remove Them

If your goal is to improve your nutrition to lose weight and improve your energy levels, try adding foods into your diet like vegetables. Find fun ways to prepare them to fit your taste buds. Often times if you start with a deprivation statement like, “I am going to stop eating all carbs,” then the only thing you will think about is carbs.

When you introduce something new and start noticing the benefits of that change, then you are often inspired to move on to add the next change. Think addition—not deprivation!

Stop Eating by 6 p.m.

If you want to encourage the body to burn fat for energy, stop eating by 6 or 7 p.m. This allows the body to put most of its energy into rejuvenating and restoring the body for the next day. It also gives the body all time it needs to use up all the sugar storage in the liver so then it can start burning the fat cells for needed energy.

Take Five Minutes to Stop & Breathe

If one of your goals is to start being more mindful or to simply start incorporating some relaxation techniques to help you react to stressful events with more ease then perhaps going from not meditating to promising to meditate every day for 45 minutes a day may be a bit overwhelming. Try this simple strategy:

Wake up in the morning, take a deep breath and then record in a journal or on your phone one thing you are grateful for, appreciate or just makes you happy. Read it out loud and then follow with five slow breaths and really feel that joy.

This way you are starting the habit and getting your body used to what relaxation and being in a state of gratitude feels like. During the day when things get hectic, pull out that book or play that recording and take five deep breaths. Fast, easy and often times very effective for decreasing the effects of those stress reactions.

Go to Bed 15 Minutes Earlier

Work on getting a good night’s rest. A healthy amount of sleep helps you to be more alert, make better decisions, maintain a healthier weight and helps you to look and feel younger. Go to bed 15 minutes earlier each week for a month so you total an hour more of sleep. Remove all electronic devices in the bedroom that gives off artificial light and creating a bedtime routine that signals the body that it is time for bed.

Spend Your Time with Like-Minded People

Make an effort to spend more quality time reconnecting with family or friends.  Individuals who have social connections suffer less symptoms of depression and may live longer healthier, lives. Also, establishing a support group can help to stay on track with our goals. This may look like once every two weeks to a month spending some time with your girlfriends or Skyping or FaceTiming them to catch up.

Making these gradual changes can help you to create habits that will help to feel more energized, feel less stressed, think more clearly and make better choices for you. With each choice comes the opportunity to be the person you have always envisioned.

Eudene Harry MD is the medical director for Oasis Wellness and Rejuvenation Center, a wellness practice devoted to integrative holistic care. She is a veteran physician with over 20 years of experience. Her most recent book, Be Iconic: Be Healthy & Sexy at Any Age, is now available on Amazon.

First birthdays are big deals. While planning a party is no cakewalk, it’s more fun when you have a theme. From camping to circuses to carousels, there are tons of choices you can run with. Click through our photo album for inspiration from super-creative moms and rest easy knowing your baby’s big toothy (or toothless) smile will make it all worthwhile.

Ballerina Bash

When little Brooklynite Eloise celebrated her big first, she had a pink ballerina party at Jane’s Carousel. With the Brooklyn Bridge and Manhattan cityscape framing her photos, the stunning backdrop was all the decoration this party needed. Click here to check out our guide to planning the perfect carousel party.

photo credit: Raquel Frechette

Got any great first birthday party theme ideas? Let us know in the Comments section below. And don’t forget to check out our party theme-o-matic guide for more stellar ideas! 

— Christal Yuen

LA is loaded with iconic spots from the Santa Monica Pier Ferris Wheel to the Hollywood Sign in the hills, but they’re are easy to see. LA is also filled with unique, must-see attractions that are little more off the beaten path. Read on to discover 10 wacky, one-of-a-kind, silly sights your family of intrepid explorers will only find in the City of Angels.

Giant Clown Ballerina

Standing watch over the corner of Rose and Main in Venice, this giant dancer acts as an unofficial mascot, welcoming visitors to the equally eccentric Venice Boardwalk. The 30 foot tall sculpture by artist Johnathan Borofsky has been peering down from his lofty perch since 1989, when his leg was originally meant to perform a perpetual ballerina kick. Though he no longer dances, he still elicits plenty of smiles and laughs from young explorers.

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Online: borofsky.com

photo: Ruth Hara via Creative Commons

What are some of your family’s favorite unique, silly sights in LA? Share any we missed in the comments!

—Shahrzad Warkentin

Have you taken your kids to see The Nutcracker yet? Whether you are reading the book, watching it on TV or seeing a live production, you can keep the magic going with this easy Nutcracker craft that’ll give your Christmas tree (or your wall) a perfect toy soldier-ballerina pair. Scroll down for the directions on how to make both figures.

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What you’ll need (for the pair):
Paint (blue, yellow, red, white, black) and paint brushes
Construction paper (black, yellow, pink)
Paint stirring sticks (available at your local hardware or paint store)
Popsicle sticks
Cupcake liners
String
Pipe cleaners
Hot glue gun

For the toy soldier:

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Step 1: Sketch out the basics (if your kids need it)
Using pencil, sketch out the necessary color blocks on the sticks so that your kids know where to paint (this is especially important for younger kids if you want your nutcracker to look anything like the above picture).

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Step 2: Let them paint!
Put dabs of paint onto a paper plate and let your little artists paint away. Make sure they leave the face blank for now (and be careful they don’t paint the entire popsicle stick red — these little guys need hands, after all).

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Step 3: Make a hat
While the paint is drying, cut out and glue together a simple soldier’s hat as shown (or choose a different design by looking online at different nutcrackers). Then, glue the hat onto the toy soldier’s head, leaving some space to draw/paint the face. Once the glue is dry, give your child a paint brush (with a narrow point) and let him paint the eyes, nose, and mouth onto the soldier’s face. Note: Younger kids might do better with a marker for this part. 

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Step 4: Glue on the arms
Glue the popsicle stick arms onto the body of your soldier, being sure to match the bottom of the sleeves with the bottom of the “shirt.” Let the glue dry completely before handling the soldier.

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Step 5: Add the details
Finish the paint job by making a yellow “X” on the body, with matching yellow buttons up as shown. Note: These smaller details may be tough for little fingers, so don’t be afraid to get in there and help your kids out.

If you want your soldier to hang… Dip a loop of string into a big glob of hot glue on the back of your soldier’s head. Wait for it to dry completely before lifting it up.

Want more? Follow the below simple steps to make a matching wooden partner for your toy soldier.

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Step 1: Paint the costume
Take the cupcake liner and let your child paint and decorate it however they like (glitter! Polka-dots! Stripes!) This will become your ballerina’s tutu. Then, set aside and let it dry.

Cut a bow out of pink construction paper (your kids can decorate, add glitter, or draw a heart in the middle of this, if they want).

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Step 2: Draw the features
Paint the body and head of the ballerina as shown. When the paint is dry, glue on the tutu and bow.

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Step 3: Add the arms
Twist a pink pipe cleaner around your ballerina to make arms. You can pose these however you want; we decided the classic ballerina arc (“fifth position”) would look cute.

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Step 4: Add the string to back
Follow the same steps you did with the soldier to glue the string onto the ballerina’s back. Let it dry before hanging.

Step 5: Nutcracker, meet Ballerina.
That’s it — you’ve got yourself a couple! Now, hang them up and go play some Tchaikovsky.

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*This post was inspired by the crafty mamas at Fireflies and Mudpies and Glued to My Crafts.

Did you try this craft? Let us know how it turned out by writing a note in the comment section below!

— Story and photos by Melissa Heckscher

 

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Did you know you and your little ballerina can whip up a DIY tutu without ever breaking out the needle and thread? The best part is, they can customize everything from color to length to level of POOFINESS, which is the crucial measure of any and all tutus. Follow these easy steps and your tiny dancer will be spinning pretty in no time!

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What You Need

Scissors

Approx 50 yards of tulle on a 6-inch spool

Ribbon ( enough to wrap around the waist and tie a bow)

Tape

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Step 1
Figure out how long you want your tutu to be. Find a large piece of cardboard or even a big coffee table book and wrap the tulle around it as your guide to cutting the strips. You should have about 50 strips for a toddler or small child’s tutu.


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Step 2
Lay the ribbon out on a table or the floor and tape each end of it down. Tie the tulle onto the ribbon in slipknots. To do so, fold the tulle strip in half. Put the folded end under the ribbon and stick the other ends up and through it to make a slipknot. Repeat the process until the tulle-covered ribbon is full enough to reach around your waist. Make sure to pull the knots tight so that the waist doesn’t get lumpy. You can alternate colors, or do all one color at first and then go back to add a second color in between.

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Step 3
Push the tulle together and keep adding more strips until you get the desired fullness. If you want a really full tutu, use 3 or 4 strips at a time and tie them all in the same knot. Go through with the scissors and shape it a bit by cutting off a little from the top layer to tier it a bit.

Find an instructional video and inspirational images to soup up that tutu right here on DIYnetwork.com.

Have you made a tutu for your little dancers? 

—Erin Feher

Whether your kids attend public or private school, their back-to-class ensembles won’t be complete without some great kicks on their little feet. Check out some of the best shoe stores for kids in Manhattan and the boroughs so your kids can go back to school in style, from head to toe! This list of favorites includes a shop where you can get a haircut at the same time and ones with sizes for the whole family from newborn to adult. (Don’t feel too guilty if you pick up some new shoes for yourself in the process – it’s hard to resist temptation!)

The New York Tradition: Harry’s Shoes for Kids. A real New York gem, Harry’s Shoes has been selling footwear to adults in the city since the 1930’s, and their amazing, stand alone children’s store (located half a block north of the main store) carries shoes for kids of all ages and foot sizes. Popular brands for the little ones include Biomechanics, Sperry, Hush Puppies and Primigi. (2315 Broadway, Upper West Side)

The “we don’t wanna leave!” shop: Ibiza Kidz. A well-known and well-stocked shoe, toy and clothing store, Ibiza Kidz isn’t just a great place to find a great pair of back-to-school sneakers or boots. It’s the kind of store that caterers to kids and aims to keep them busy while you work on outfitting them. They’ll love playing in the carpeted sections – that is, when they’re not shouting, “Mommy, can I pleeease have this?!” Popular shoes in stock this season include brands Geox, Primigi, Saucony and more. (830 Broadway, Greenwich Village)

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The fashion-forward store: Tip Top Kids. The owner of this kids’ shoe store says this season, both short boots and tall boots are walking out the door, riding boots – both flat and with wedges – are popular, brown leathers are coming on strong especially with the ‘worn look,’ and kids are gravitating towards silver rubber Hunter boots and styles from Steve Madden, Michael Kors, Tommy Hilfinger and more. Always popular, Skechers with lights, are also in-demand. Be forewarned that this store can get busy, so you may want to go in off hours if you can. Need shoes for yourself? Visit the adult outpost next door. (149 W 72nd St., Upper West Side)

The ‘Who Knew?’ shoe store: Shoe Parlor. When walking past Shoe Parlor, both locals and pedestrians may not immediately realize this large store also carries a variety of children’s shoes at great prices. They even sell baby shoes. Kids and parents are on the hunt for Converse, New Balance, Doc Maartens, and Sketchers this season. (851 Seventh Ave., Midtown West)

The trusty chain: Stride Rite. When it comes to chain stores, Stride Ride is aces; they’ve been fitting tiny toes for generations. This well-known shop carries its own line of colorful sneakers and shoes for boys and girls, but you’ll also find other brands such as Merrell, Hush Puppies and Crocs. Their niche theme shoes include Sesame Street, Disney and Star Wars for those kids that just gotta have their characters. (151 W 34th St., Midtown West)

The place for exclusive styles: Little Eric Shoes. This family-run shop carries its own exclusive line for children. (Celebs stop in to get kicks for their kids.) All high-quality leather shoes under the Little Eric label are manufactured in Italy and best-sellers include cowboy boots in vibrant colors, traditional Mary Janes, basic loafers and ballerina flats in various styles. Kids can also take a ride on the store’s mechanical train and horse. (1118 Madison Ave., Upper East Side)

–Rachel Sokol

Awesome! Your kid wants to take up tumbling (and be the next Nadia Comaneci…snatch!). Not so awesome—the closest in-gym lessons aren’t so close, and getting there involves creeping down the interstate during rush hour. Lucky for you, the D.C. area is full of instructors that will come to you. That’s right! Whether your little one wants to learn with her friends or go at it solo, these classes—from gymnastics to cooking—are taught in the comfort of your own home.

#1 Power Tots
Running, jumping, climbing, bouncing, tumbling—sound like your little one? Need a nap just thinking about how active Junior is? Fear not Mama (or Papa); Power Tots is here to channel your hype kiddo’s overabundance of energy. Certified gymnastics instructors will come to you and not only teach the little backflipper how to cartwheel perfectly and balance, but they’ll also learn fine motor skills, colors, shapes, muscle groups and the “power of a positive attitude.” Now that’s cause for celebration.

Ages: 18 months-12 years
Contact: 301-392-0187
Online: powertotsinc.com

#2 Tiny Chefs
Pint sized kitchen helpers aren’t always so helpful (hello, flour bombs) but they usually give it the old college try before getting kicked out. For those little chefs that just won’t give up, surprise them with their very own cooking class. Instructors at Tiny Chefs show up with their own supplies, food…even a portable oven! Kids learn how to measure, combine, sift, calculate and follow recipes so that sometime in the near future, your little Ratatouille can handle dinner while you enjoy a glass of vino.

Ages: 3 years and up
Contact: 301-841-7395
Online: tinychefs.com

#3 Breathing Space
If you find yourself chanting “omm” and wishing your kids would simmer down while you try and grant yourself inner peace, it might be time to introduce them to the calmer things in life. Don’t stress if you can’t quite gather up the brood for a formal yoga class. Breathing Space Family Yoga will bring the mats to you! Taught by certified yogis, your little ones will be doing pranayama and downward dog before you know it. Bonus: Breathing Space offers birthday parties and events so little ones can relax and you can have fun. Or is it the other way around?

Ages: 0 and up
202-599-0434
Online: breathingspacedc.com

#4 Happy Swimmers
For the lucky guppies with a built in pond, swimming every day is a treasure sure to be missed come winter. In the meantime, if your little fishy needs a few more pointers on keeping those fins above water, check out Happy Swimmers where your own fishbowl becomes ground zero for back floats, freestyle and vigorus games of Marco Polo. Happy Swimmers will have your little guppy graduating to a Marlin and jumping into the deep end before you know it. When the pond’s frozen over, you can just move your lessons to a nearby indoor pool and continue the fun!

Ages: 0 and up
Contact: 202-657-4124
Online: happyswimmers.com

#5 Tippi Toes DC     
Sometimes even Angelina Ballerina needs some dance lessons. Tuttis, leotards and legwarmers (they still have those right?) will help your little princess look the part, and Tippi Toes will make sure they can dance just like a real life ballerina. Whether your little dancer wants to learn ballet, jazz, tap, or even hip hop, Tippi Toes will ensure their footwork is footloose and fancy free so that they can twirl around and around and around. Bonus: they also do princess parties, so little fans of Angelina Ballerina and Sophia the First can feel like true royalty on their special day.

Ages: 18 months – 12 years
Contact: 202-527-9089
Online: tippitoesdance.com

#6 Excite Soccer
World cup fans will scream for joy when Coach Alan shows up at their door to kick the ball into the onion net (that’s soccer slang for goal). A former pro soccer stud with Sheffield Wednesday (just a skip across the pond), Coach Alan will help your little mid-fielder, goalie or fan to start playing “the beautiful game”. Tactics, techniques, rules and lessons from the pitch will have your little soccer star yelling “goal!” before the clock runs out.

Ages: 3 years-18 years
Contact: 703-845-0250
Online: excitesoccer.com

#7 Classic Tales ‘N Tunes
Book lovers and music enthusiasts rejoice! Classic Tales ‘N Tunes combines a love of music with a love of reading to teach little ones through the expressive arts. Kids will learn classic rhyming songs, American Sign Language, Spanish, and more via sing alongs, storytime, puppet shows, props (think tunnels, parachutes (!) etc.). Your house will be transformed into a learning zone, and the kids won’t even know it!

Ages: 0-5 years
Contact: 703-848-9808
Online: classictnt.com

Has your little one taken any neat in-home classes? Tell us about it in the comments section below. 

—Hilary Riedemann

Photos courtesy of Hilary Riedemann, Breathing Space DC via Facebook, Power Tots via Facebook, Classic Tales ‘n Tunes via Facebook, Tippi Toes DC via Facebook