A woman’s viral TikTok video calling out bad mother-in-law behavior is all the evidence we need for allowing moms to ban anyone from the delivery room
The moment your child is born (and all the time you spend in labor leading up to it) should be a special memory that you treasure with your most loved people—your partner, maybe your own mom, and whoever else you choose to allow in the delivery room. The key word here is “choose”—one woman is going viral on TikTok for sharing her birth story, and how a couple of uninvited (by her) guests ruined the entire memory for her. It’s enough to make any mom see red.
Bramty Juliette, a social media influencer, podcaster, and mom of three, shared the story on her podcast, BRAMTEA, which she co-hosts with her husband, Luis Espina.
@bramty Mother in law ruins my birth experience!! 😭BRAMTEA the Podcast. MAY 4TH! ☕️
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When she was 19 years old and pregnant with their first daughter, Bramty explains how there were only two people she wanted in the room with her when she gave birth: Luis and her mom. But Luis wanted his own mom to be present, too, and he insisted on it, despite his wife’s wishes. And when the time came, he also invited his aunt in, which, oof.
“When you give birth, it’s about the wife, it’s about the mom,” Bramty said, adding that at the time, Luis didn’t agree. “She’s the only one giving birth. She’s the one going through things physically and mentally. Whatever she’s comfortable with is most important. But you didn’t have that mentality. You had your mom’s back most of the time.”
So when her water broke and she headed to the hospital, Bramty found herself in a room with Luis, her mom, his mom, and his aunt. And that’s not even the worst part.
“I remember your mom and your aunt taking pictures of my vagina while I was pushing,” she said. “Then later find out that your aunt had sent those pictures to family members.”
Excuse me, they what? In what world is that an appropriate thing to do?
The commenters basically exploded with all the rage we’re feeling right now.
“I would have lost my mind,” one wrote. Another added, “That’s sounds so traumatizing. I’m so sorry you had to go through that as your first labor experience.”
Let this be the story that finally settles this debate: the only person who gets a say in who is in the room during a birth is the person giving birth. During such a vulnerable time, they deserve to feel safe, loved, and supported. Full stop.
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