Banish the one-word response by asking a different question
As parents, we all want to know what our kids are up to during their school day. But the truth is, asking, “How was your day?” often leads to a pretty lackluster response. This back-to-school season, let’s try a different approach. We got expert advice on when and how to get the need-to-know scoop from kids, plus 25 creative prompts to get the conversation flowing. With any luck, the word “fine” will be banished forever.
Dr. Rebecca Jackson, a Brain Wellness Expert and author of ‘Back on Track, A Practical Guide to Help Kids of All Ages Thrive,’ emphasizes the importance of asking questions at the right time and in the right way. Instead of parents bombarding their kids with questions when they get home from school, she suggests waiting for about 20 minutes and (always!) offering a snack before starting a conversation. Additionally, parents should give their kids enough time and space to respond, as they may need more time to process information.
Dr. Jackson also recommends leading with curiosity and avoiding a confrontational tone that may leave kids feeling defensive. When parents stay positive and show support, it encourages kids to share their true thoughts and feelings.
Related: 45 Conversation Starters That’ll Get the Kids Talking
Wondering how to get the conversation started? Try these creative prompts that work better than ‘How Was Your Day?’
