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All car accidents take a heavy toll on all individuals involved in the accident. However, things can be even more difficult when our children are involved in a car mishap. I sincerely hope and pray that your teens never run into such incidents. However, it really helps to know what a parent should do under such difficult situations. Always remember that when a teenager is involved in an accident, their emotional health is the most important factor to focus on. Everything else can be dealt with later on. 

Enquire about Your Child’s Health: When you first come to know about the accident, your initial comments must be focused around your child’s health and others involved in the incident. Even if you are worried about the damage to your car, don’t talk about it right away. Accidents can be much more traumatic for a teenager than you think. In these circumstances, most of them feel that they have failed themselves, as well as, their parents. They also understand that the accident has its financial consequences that their parents will have to bear. Therefore, as a parent, your job is to reassure them that they are not a failure by any means. 

Go to the Accident Scene: Get to the accident scene as early as possible because your presence will provide the much-needed emotional support to your kid. Your presence on the scene will also act as a buffer from other parties involved in the accident because these individuals are not likely to be understanding of a teenager’s mistake. 

Moreover, you will also get an opportunity to inspect the accident scene and understand what actually happened. It is likely that your child will be in a state of shock. On his or her behalf, collect detailed information of the other parties involved in the accident, and take photos of the accident scene. Also, if the police have still not arrived at the scene, protecting crash site evidence is important. Once the police arrive, try to collect a copy of their accident report.  

If your child is injured in the accident, take him or her to a nearby medical facility, and arrange proper care as early as you can. Don’t forget to collect the detailed examination report from the facility, because this will help you while filing an insurance claim. 

Call the Insurance Company: Your next important task is to call the insurance company. Provide them all the details you have about the accident so that they can process your claim immediately. During this entire process, have your child nearby, so that he or she can hear everything. First, the insurer may ask questions that you may not be able to answer. Second, by being a part of this discussion, your child will understand how auto insurance policies work, which will certainly benefit them in the long run.  

As time goes by, your child will gradually come out of the stressed emotional state caused by the accident. However, in the aftermath of the accident, the parents must do certain things. 

  • Reinforce the value of responsible driving: Remind your child of the potential consequences of driving too fast, using mobile devices while driving, and distracted driving. This may end up becoming an emotional discussion, but will surely make your kid more responsible in the future while driving. It is also a good idea to have them enrolled in a local driving safety class

  • Get them back to driving: After an accident, your teen may feel hesitant to start driving again. However, once the emotions settle down, try to get them back in the driving seat as soon as possible. If required, be with them for the first few times to provide a sense of comfort and security.  

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When Natalie Bell posted pics of her personalized seat belt covers on Facebook she got an overwhelming response. The covers, which include the child’s health issues or medical conditions, can alert emergency personnel of potential problems in the result of an accident.

Bell, whose daughter has a cochlear implant, wrote on Facebook, “I always wonder what would happen if I was in a car accident with my daughter in the car and I was unable to let the doctors know that my daughter could not have a MRI due to having a cochlear implant, now I don’t need to worry about that with these seat belt covers. ”

The clever covers aren’t just for kiddos with cochlear implants. Bell personalizes the much-needed medical help items for plenty of other needs too.

In the weeks following Bell’s initial post, the pics of the covers have gone viral—with over 206,000 reactions and 758,000 shares to date. And parents aren’t the only ones praising Bell’s post. The wife of one emergency responder commented, “My husband is part of Fire and Rescue and said that this is a brilliant idea. Such a valuable piece that provides a lot of information clearly so that personal involved can approach situations with knowledge and care” and a police officer wrote, “This is an amazing idea! As a Cop, I wish I could hand these out to anyone who needs them…. I will share this to everyone I can.”

How can you get one of these genius seat belt covers? Check out Bell’s website, Personalised by Nat. The covers are $15 each, but currently (due to high demand) take two to four weeks for delivery.

—Erica Loop

Featured photo: Personalised by Nat via Facebook

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Becoming a mom is often times nothing like what you read in the guidebooks. There are all sorts of wild and wonderful changes, but also changes you truly never imagined (or swore would never happen—until you experience them for yourself). Here are 21 hilariously true things that go down in motherhood.

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1. You grow eyes in the back of your head (and you get super speed). How else are you able to catch the baby that decides to roll herself off the bed?

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2. A mini-van starts looking cuter and cuter.

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3. Laundry day turns to laundry-every-darn-day.

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4. You get real suspicious of silence.

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5. You have a newfound appreciation for your own parents.

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6. You call everyone under four feet tall "sweetheart" or "sweetie."

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7. You rarely get to have all of your dessert to yourself. Everyone wants a bite.

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8. You swear you're not scatterbrained ... and then you realize you walked out the door wearing your leggings inside out and tried to unlock your car with a pacifier.

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9. Something will inevitably break. Something important like your great-great grandmother's 18th-century tea set.

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10. You've learned how to turn the most simple and cheap things (like a plain ol' bucket of water) into hours of afternoon fun.

 

 

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11. You frequently end phone conversations with "Stop that! Gotta go." And your friends understand why.

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12. Hand sanitizer never leaves your side. Like, never. No, seriously, never-ever.

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13. You call your husband "Daddy" in a way that is anything but kinky. Even in public. Even long after the kids have gone to bed.

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14. You start talking in a high-pitched baby voice at home and sometimes to the grocery store checkout person, by accident.

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15. You point out the cute doggie or the firetruck, and then realize your kids aren't in the car and your best friend isn't all that interested in "pretty doggies."

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16. The slow cooker has become your new best friend.

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17. What gym? Your workout routine now consists of squatting to pick up the toys and books littering your living room. Feel the burn!

 

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18. You vow to teach your kid good manners. And it works out—sometimes.

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19. You have one really buff arm from carrying around a massive diaper bag. And, after that, a 20-pound toddler.

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20. You think "sleeping in" is waking up at the ripe hour of 6:30 a.m.

 

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21. You feel like your real, true self. And you've never been filled with so much love.

— Ayren Jackson-Cannady, Kristina Moy, Phebe Wahl, Meghan Rose, Janine Dodge, Ruby Germain, Erin Lem & Kelly Aiglon

 

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My mother is disabled. She has been paralyzed since she was 42 when her light-blue VW bus was struck by another vehicle while stopped at an intersection. Her body flew through the front windshield, and she was declared dead at the scene. She wasn’t. She had seven children all under 14 and we needed her. I was three.

I don’t remember much from that time, just a string of well-meaning neighbors and relatives and a lot of frozen lasagna. I do remember visiting her in the hospital on her birthday later that summer. My father had to sneak me in because no children were allowed in the ICU, and I hid under his trench coat so that no one would see me. When I saw her, she was immobilized in a hospital bed and was dressed from head to toe in pale green hospital apparel. She looked shockingly weak. I remember her smiling at me. I was afraid that she would never come home.

After months of hospitalization and rehabilitation, she did come home. The accident caused her to permanently lose the use of her right arm, left leg, diaphragm and neck mobility. Breathing was difficult, and she often became out of breath just from trying to read out loud to me. She couldn’t walk. She couldn’t cough. She couldn’t write. She couldn’t kneel. She couldn’t carry things. She couldn’t do many of the many activities that had comprised her life. And she had seven children, did I mention that?

Against all odds, as time passed, she started walking. I am not sure how it was possible, but my understanding is that she retrained different muscles in her body to compensate for those that could no longer work. At first, the walks were short, but they got progressively longer until eventually, she could poke along for several blocks. She learned to write left-handed. She learned to knit with one hand and has created countless beautiful pieces. She relearned to drive with a special knob on the steering wheel. She relearned to swim by holding on to little floaties. She is a fantastic cook and learned to utilize all manner of cool, one-handed contraptions to help her navigate her way in the kitchen. She seemed to refuse to give anything up. But all this was lost on me because I couldn’t remember her any different.

By the time I was six, I had become well-versed in pushing her wheelchair, and I would torment her by pushing her over grates that opened to the subway far below and laugh and laugh as she would shriek in fear. Sounds mean, right? But, to me, there was nothing wrong with her. I was just teasing, and she seemed to be playing along. Her disability was as normal as any mother’s slightly annoying, but endearing habit. As I got older I would push that wheelchair down bumpy, forested paths up and over all manner of tree roots and gravel. She would groan good naturedly and hold on tight with her good hand. She has been launched from that thing several times and is always trying to find a wheelchair more suitable for all-terrain travel. Just last year I pushed her through a jungle in Mexico so that we could see Mayan ruins. It can’t be comfortable, all that jostling and jarring, but she always wants to go.

I cut her no slack. She cuts herself no slack. Today she is 87.

I only have one memory of my mother before her accident. I am sitting on a metal folding seat, attached to the back of my mother’s black, clunky Schwinn. The seat is covered with a blue-plaid vinyl. It has little metal armrests and a small backrest. Not at all safe by today’s standards. My legs dangle freely below. I kick them forward and back. My mother’s legs are pedaling up and down, and her butt is in my face. It swishes a little, side to side. I don’t mind. Her efforts are creating a nice breeze, and the landscape whizzes by. Green grass, suburban lawns, huge maple trees. She is talking and laughing with my father who is on a matching bike.

I know there must be some connection between my mother’s internal drive and my quest to remain physical and engaged with life. She could have given up so many times, but she didn’t. She still doesn’t. She is hauling herself up to an island in Maine from Philadelphia for a visit again this summer. The trip involves a lot of logistics and not everything is handicapped-accessible in the little cottages she rents. Her mobility is decreasing and little tasks are getting more difficult, but she’ll be damned if she is going to stay home and sit around. She doesn’t want to miss out!

My determination pales in comparison.

Beginning in August 2019, my son Oakley and I will cycle across America over the course of three months. Oakley is a spirited 15-year-old boy who has always struggled to fit into the confines of mainstream culture. I am Leah, his mother—and we are ready for adventure.

 

 

In a touching Instagram post actress Jenny Mollen, wife of actor Jason Biggs, revealed that her five-year-old son recently fractured his skull. Even though her son, Sid, spent some time in the  ICU, Mollen assured her IG followers that the little boy is on the mend.

So how did the five-year-old fracture his skull? In what’s pretty much every parent’s waking nightmare, Mollen accidentally dropped her child on his head. Mollen described the incident on IG, “On Saturday evening I dropped my son on his head causing him to fracture his skull and landing him in the ICU.”

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Mollen also sent a major shout-out to other parents, writing, “My heart goes out to all parents who have or will ever find themselves in this kind of position. You are not alone.” Along with the other mamas and papas out there who’ve been in similar situations, the actress also sent some social media love to her devoted hubby, Biggs, adding, “Thank god for you! Thank god, thank god, thank god.”

Despite the fall, fracture and time in the ICU it looks like Sid is recovering well. Mollen wrote, “He is also eating a lot of chocolate dipped ice cream cones and plans to try cherry dipped soon.”

The well-wishing comments for the mama and her family poured in via Instagram. And like her IG followers, we also send our love to Mollen, Biggs and their brave little boy!

—Erica Loop

Featured photo: Jenny Mollen via Instagram

 

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As much as we might try to plan our families, as Bob Ross would say, sometimes a “happy little accident” can happen. If a happy accident has happened to you or someone you know, human error isn’t necessarily at fault. New research published in the journal Obstetrics & Gynecology may have found a reason for why birth control fails for some women.

Researchers at the University of Colorado Anschutz Medical Campus studied 350 women who had had a contraceptive implant in place for 12 to 36 months. Five percent of the participants had a gene called CYP3A7*1C—and it’s that gene that put women at greater risk for hormonal birth control failure, according to the researchers.

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So what does a gene have to do with unintended pregnancy? The CYP3A7*1C is typically only active in fetuses. After birth the gene switches off—or at least it should. If the gene, which manufacturers the CYP3A7 enzyme, continues to work after birth, it can contribute to the breakdown of the hormones used in some birth control methods.

So what does this mean for you? In theory, if you have the gene in question, your hormonal birth control could fail. But unless you have a full genetic workup, it’s not likely you’ll ever know you have an active CYP3A7*1C. The research is a starting step towards a better understanding of the influence our genes have on what we put into our bodies.

According to the study’s lead author, Aaron Lazorwitz, MD, assistant professor of Obstetrics and Gynecology at the University of Colorado School of Medicine, “When a woman says she got pregnant while on birth control the assumption was always that it was somehow her fault. But these findings show that we should listen to our patients and consider if there is something in their genes that caused this.”

—Erica Loop

 

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The grocery store nearest our house has my daughter’s favorite carts. There are standard shopping carts with an addition at the front turning them into a race car, a taxi cab and a fire truck. We do not shop here often so she is always especially happy to find that we need to pick up a quick thing or two from the comfort of her pink race car. We stopped by for only four things and I anticipated a quick in-and-out trip.

This store also has a wide and quite amazing selection of balloons. There’s one in particular that my daughter has been pining for since the first time she saw it. I see the appeal of this balloon. It’s clear and has all of the Disney fairies on it. It is really beautiful and I would love to buy it for her someday. But today we came for soy milk and vegetables.

As we walked/rode the race car past the balloon, Ruby started to ask over and over for the balloon. She even reached out to grab it. I could see it in her face that she really wanted that balloon. I had genuine empathy for her and expressed it saying, “You really want that balloon so bad. You’ve seen it here every time we’ve come and you never get to take it home.”

“Yes, mama. I NEED it. I love all of those fairies so much.”

I leaned down on the cart and got really close to her. I wrapped my arms around her and said, “Oh my love. It’s so hard. I hear you telling me how badly you want that balloon. We are not going to buy it today. Should we put it on your wish list?”

“I NEED IT NOW!”

Reminding her of our day yesterday, I asked her what we had gotten at the store. “I got a ball and that lantern. Okay. Can I get the balloon next week?”

“We can definitely get the balloon really soon.”

Things seemed to be settled so I turned my attention to getting the soy milk. There was a grocery store stocker next to me filling in the empty spots in the milk case. The row where I find my milk was empty. I turned to the stocker and asked if there was any more available. He said, “I’m sorry but that’s all we have. I’m bummed, too. I like to have it all full and looking perfect.”

I grabbed my second choice and turned to set it in the cart. At the same time, my daughter said, “Mama, I feel really sad about the balloon.”

“I know, sweetie, it’s really hard when something doesn’t work out the way you want it to.”

Ruby nodded and the grocery store stocker looked me right in the eyes and said, “Thank you, that’s exactly how I feel.” It took me a moment but I realized that he thought I was giving him the empathy about his work not being as he wanted it. He said, “I just want it to look right.” I smiled and said, “Of course you do. Your job is important to you.” He thanked me with such sincerity as we left to finish our shopping.

As I told the story to my husband, we both had a good chuckle over it especially that the stocker seemed perfectly comfortable with me calling him sweetie. It is a funny story but it’s also a reminder than empathy always works, even when it’s on accident.

How will you use empathy today?

This post originally appeared on www.becomingpeaceful.com.

I’m Lisa. I am an MSW, a mother of a six-year-old girl and a Certified Peaceful Parenting Coach. Using my knowledge, professional experience and personal journey as a parent, I coach other parents to develop happier, healthier and more peaceful relationships with their children.

When kids have their say, they want their parents to be happy—together. The sweetest gift two parents can give their children is to have a meaningful, passionate relationship with one another. Easier said than done, for sure. Kids’ needs can’t always wait and parenting demands seem endless. So it’s easy, maybe even normal, to put mom and dad duties up front and stash our couple needs in the trunk and forget about them. Of course, putting love, romance and sexual desires away doesn’t make them go away—it only makes them get weird and cranky.

When you have kids, keeping your relationship healthy requires a pro-active shift in mental thinking. Parenting is a side-by-side venture, the two of you rubbing shoulders together to focus on your children. Coupling is face-to-face, sitting across from one another, looking one another in the eyes to appreciate and adore each other all over again. This doesn’t happen by accident. You have to make it a routine to think about yourself, your partner and your relationship. When or where you do this reflection doesn’t matter—car, beach, pillow at night—but how often you reflect does. An occasional reflection won’t get you far; it works best when it becomes a habit.  So whether you’re trying to stay on course or get things back on course, here are three questions worth thinking about on a routine basis.

“What is it like to be in a relationship with me?”

Are you acting like the kind of person that you would want to love? Are you bossy, arrogant or lazy? Judgmental? Do you take more than you give? You don’t need to lay a guilt trip on yourself or over-focus on your faults, but it is surprising how much energy we spend thinking about how our partner treats us compared with how we treat him or her. A large part of being happy in a relationship is understanding how our partner sees us and being honest with yourself. It’s not an option, it’s essential to look at yourself through the eyes of your partner and make adjustments when possible. You may worry that this kind of self-reflection would make you codependent or weak, but the opposite is true: Self-awareness is a strength. Being honest with ourselves makes us confident and independent. It puts the power back in our own hands. Thinking about how you can make things better is never a mistake and often helps.

“Am I seeing my partner in the best light possible?”

Are you over-focusing on your partner’s flaws and overlooking his or her strengths? Do you see only shady intentions when your partner is trying to do the right thing? Nothing he does is right; everything she says is suspect? Psychologists call casting dark shadows “negative attributions,” and these attributions say more about us than they do our partner. We see what we want to see and sometimes hurt and anger lock us into negative views of our partner that are not only unfair, but aren’t even true. You can’t look on the bright side all the time—conflict, frustration and criticism may be legitimate and shouldn’t be ignored–but the ratio of positive to negative attributions has to lean heavily in the direction of positive. It’s the ratio that matters and being aware that we see what we want to see will help get the ratios right.

When couples come to me for a first session of counseling, I don’t go straight to their problems. I ask them to focus exclusively on what is going right in their relationship, what each is doing well. I ask each to say something positive about the other: This is difficult for some couples—especially when it flies in the face of their raw emotions. If you find yourself constantly projecting the dark side on your partner, take responsibility for figuring out your own feelings before you unleash on them. Acknowledge what they are doing well—there must be something. Appreciate it. And thank them before you start to dwell on their flaws and mistakes. Seeing the best in your partner will not only improve your relationship, but it will bring out the best in you, too.

“Do I care for my partner in ways that matter to him or her?”

The Golden Rule says we should love others as we love ourselves. That’s fine, but wouldn’t it be better to love your partner in ways that matter to him or her? Flowers and candy? Ugh, not if she’s allergic or doesn’t eat sugar. This is one of the most common problems couples run into: Assuming they know what their partner likes\wants\needs based solely on what they feel comfortable giving. It’s lazy love—the kind of love that meets your needs but frustrates and disappoints your partner. It can happen in any area of coupledom—parenting, finances, sexuality, handling the in-laws—and it only has to happen in one area to bring the whole relationship down a notch.

The list of assumptions we make about our partners goes on and on—often unchecked or never discussed. And why do we do it? Because it’s easy to love the way you want to love; it takes effort to love someone the way they want to be loved. Giving our partners what they need and desire is never easy. It means we have to grow. Change. Think twice. Reconsider. Do something we wouldn’t normally do. You can’t be everything to your partner; you can’t meet their every whim or desire. You can’t even be everything they need; none of us is that perfect. But you can always try. It’s making the effort that makes the difference. There is a view of love out there that says love is easy. Sorry; I don’t see it that way. We never know what love is until loving gets tough. If it’s really that easy, is it really even love?

Brian Jory, Ph.D. is the Director of Family Studies at Berry College near Atlanta, Georgia. His book, Cupid on Trial – What We Learn About Love When Loving Gets Tough, is now available on Amazon.

The kittens were about to run away.

My three-year-old daughter and I had just walked inside from the street and the kittens were trying to make a run for it. They were our twelve-week-old foster kittens and they weren’t supposed to be outside. I reacted, screaming simply: “The kittens!” as I lunged for the door handle and pulled it closed.

The thing is: she hadn’t wanted the kittens to get out, either. She had reacted, too—by holding her chubby arms on either side of her body and spreading her tiny fingers in a dramatic, “Don’t pass!” sort of grand gesture. What I hadn’t seen was that her little finger was just inside the hinge of the door.

That’s when I heard my daughter scream, a wail so real and so deep that my mommy brain knew instantly that this was more than her normal cry. This wasn’t a stubbed toe or a lost doll. Something was definitely wrong.It all happened too quickly.

I’ve always wondered how parents just know when their kids have broken a bone. Don’t small kids always cry when they get hurt? How do you know when it’s something worse than just a bump or bruise? How do you know they’re not just trying to get attention? Now I get it: you just know.

When we got to the urgent care center, I got to tell the story in triplicate.

Receptionist: What happened? I shut the door on her finger.

Nurse: What happened? Mommy shut the door on her finger.

Doctor: What happened? It was all my fault.

The guilt poured out of me like sweat. How could I have hurt my own child? I knew it was an accident, but still—how could I not have noticed her finger was there? Why did I panic? Why didn’t I just let the kittens run through and scoop them up when they were outside?

Ultimately, we did an x-ray and saw the damage: a small break on the tip of her little finger. It was minor and would heal just fine—but she would need to wear a splint for three to four weeks.

And so for nearly a month she wore that sad little splint like a Scarlet Letter. Every time someone said, “Awww, what happened?” I had to explain: “I shut the door on her finger.” And soon she said it, too: “Mommy closed the door on my finger.”

It broke my heart a little every time I heard the words.

But there was something else I learned as I talked to other parents, and it’s that I’m not alone. In fact: I’m Every Mom.

“I broke my daughter’s leg when we went down a slide together,” one mom told me.

“I lost the tip of my finger,” a nurse told me matter-of-factly about a similar door-slamming injury. “And it grew back!”

“My kid broke his arm when he spun off a playground merry-go-round that I was pushing,” a dad admitted.

And it made me realize that we’re all just doing our best when it comes to keeping our fragile little people safe in our care. Accidents happen.

“Every parent will inevitably hurt their child by accident at some point—often more than once,” Los Angeles pediatrician Amin Davari told me, adding that he sees such accidents almost every day of the week in his practice. “It seems like that—and the terrible guilt you feel afterward—are two guarantees of parenting.”

“I try to remind all these guilt-ridden parents that they can’t possibly protect their kids against the thousands of daily dangers that life presents and not ultimately let one slip by—even if they played a part in it,” Davari said. “Bones mend, scars heal, nails grow back—usually—but the care a child receives after an injury is what shows them the depth of a parent’s love.”

So it’s not just me. And it’s NOT JUST YOU, if you have ever accidentally done something that hurt your precious baby.

Naturally, I still feel terrible when I tell this story. And I’m now a little OCD about doors—freaking out perhaps a little too much when my kids start fighting around doorways.

But I don’t feel alone. And I know I did my best by swallowing all that guilt, letting it go and helping my daughter heal.

“I still remember when my own mom accidentally closed the car door on my thumb as a child,” Davari told me. “The tears, guilt and grief on her face in that instant gave me a better sense of her love for me than I had even realized existed up until that point. And that’s the only part of that injury that I still remember.”

Well after the splint comes off, after the pain subsides and the bones heal—here’s hoping that all my daughter remembers is the love.

Featured Photo Courtesy: Melissa Heckscher

Melissa Heckscher is a writer and mother of three living in Los Angeles. She is a former staff writer for the Los Angeles Newspaper Group and the author of several books, including,The Pregnancy Test: 150 Important, Embarrassing, and Slightly Neurotic Questions (Quirk Books, 2011). 

Packing up the car and hitting the open road can be a perfect opportunity to bond with your family. But, organizing a successful and safe road trip requires a bit of planning ahead. Take along these tips to properly prepare for your time in the car and make your family holiday road trip a happy and safe one.

Is your car safe enough for long trips?

Make sure it is. Schedule a quick maintenance appointment with a qualified mechanic at your local garage to fix anything that looks funky before it’s time to drive. Ensure that your car is in its best condition to prevent any mishaps or breakdowns while on the road. Check your brakes, tire pressure, battery, belts, air conditioner, etc. If you’re planning on driving in a region with a hot climate or in towing a boat or trailer, get a motor oil with a higher viscosity as well.

Stock up on supplies.

Take an inventory of all items in your car just to be sure you have flares, jumper cables, a flashlight, all necessary tools and other emergency supplies you may need while on the road.

Also, make sure that you don’t run out of fuel for both your car and your bellies. Keep everyone and everything fueled by stocking up on drinks, provisions, and fuel. Pack a full fuel can in your trunk just in case you run out of it in the middle of nowhere. Getting stuck on the side of the road in an unknown region won’t just delay your road trip, but it can be dangerous as well.

Pack your items safely.

Make sure you don’t have bags that aren’t properly secured or some other loose items in your car as they can become dangerous if you stop suddenly or become involved in an accident. You shoul put those items that are the heaviest in your car and toward the center. Tie down big bags or other bulky items such as strollers, and keep windows unobstructed. Give your children smaller bags to store electronics, snacks, and other essentials within reach. Don’t forget to check your child safety seats and whether everything is installed properly. If it happens that your family’s pet is making the journey with you, secure them or their traveling kennel as well.

Keep an eye on the sky.

Weather may be different in different regions, so you should make sure that you are ready for any situation. Download an application on your smartphone to stay informed on moving storms. You can also turn the radio if you don’t have a cell phone service. Look up for NOAA radio Oceanic radio station in your state or tune into any other FM news frequency to stay up-to-date with weather alerts. This can help you avoid bad weather or give you enough time to prepare yourself and find an alternate route or a safe location where to wait until the storm passes.

Get some rest.

Make sure you get some rest before you hit the road as driving while tired is equally dangerous like driving while under alcohool influence. Studies show that driving after being awake for long hours causes your brain to function like the brain of someone with blood alcohol content of 0.05% and as the time passes this amount doubles.

Statistics show that every year drowsy drivers cause over a thousand fatal accidents. So, to avoid accidents and keep your family safe on the road, get enough rest before you begin your road trip. Also, make frequent stops during your trip to stretch your legs, refresh yourself or trade off with someone who is refreshed, talk to your kids to stay alert, etc.

Be aware of other drivers on the road.

Just like there are people who drive while tired, there are also those who drive while drunk or while under the influence of some other substance. Car accidents can happen at any moment and it is best that you are properly prepared. Take all necessary documentation with you as well as your insurance card, and ask your lawyer what to do and how to behave if an accident still occurs.

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