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I was one of the lucky moms who got to work from home. I got to contribute financially to my family, and at the same time spend precious time with my baby. A dream come true, right? Well, it was much harder than it sounds. What most people don’t understand, is that working from home meant my baby controlled my schedule.

The other day, I had a conference call at 9:30 a.m. for 30 minutes. Perfect! That was just in time for my daughter’s first nap, so I could take the conference call without her cooing in the background. I woke up that morning confident that I could tire her out in time for the call and that I could give everyone my undivided attention during the meeting.

Here were the events that pursued:

9:20 AM: I received a text from my manager that the meeting was delayed 15 minutes. Okay, not the end of the world. My daughter was already sleepy so I was in the process of putting her down for her nap, but perhaps she could still sleep through the whole meeting. 45-minute naps are not unheard of, right?

9:43 AM: Another text. They needed another 10 minutes. All right, no worries.

9:55 AM: Yet another text. The meeting was delayed to 10:15 a.m. Most likely Zoe would be awake by then, but that’s okay. She might be playing and cooing in the background during the call, but my coworkers were pretty used to hearing baby noises by now.

10:15 AM: The meeting finally started, but surprisingly, my daughter had not woken up yet. I anxiously looked at the baby monitor like it was a ticking bomb, hoping that she would by miracle sleep another 30 minutes. But 5 minutes into the meeting, she woke up screaming like someone was about to take her hostage. I put myself on mute, threw the phone on the ground, and ran to grab her. With my baby still in a bad mood and howling in my ear, I sprinted back to get my phone and tried to listen to my coworkers as much as I could.

Man did my daughter wake up on the wrong side of the bed. I tried distracting her with different toys, laying her down on the ground, walking her around the room…nope, she was not having it. I strained to hear my call and prayed that nobody would need me or ask me a question. Taking myself off mute would be a horrible idea right now.

However, I knew that I would have to speak eventually. There were topics on the agenda that needed my input, so my plan of action was to get my baby to be quiet immediately. I whipped out the magical boobs…or at least, they were magical when my son was an infant. It didn’t matter what was bothering him, as soon as I popped him on my breast, the world was a better place.

My daughter, unfortunately, does not share the same sentiments toward my milk jugs. I tried nursing her, and she just seemed to get angrier. Panicking, I started walking around the room again with her while trying to nurse her at the same time.

Wait, there was hope! She finally latched on and seemed to have quieted down for a few seconds!

Luckily, I was able to speak a few sentences while frantically pacing around the room feeding my daughter. Just as I spoke my last words, I could feel my let-down reflex happening, so I quickly pressed the mute button again just as my daughter pulled off my breast, angrier than ever.

For those of you who do not breastfeed, let-down is essentially when you turn on the faucet and the milk really starts to flow. Unfortunately for my daughter, my let-down was quite forceful, so instead of a faucet, think of the Hoover Dam opening its gates and all the water flowing out. My daughter quickly pulled off so she wouldn’t choke on my milk, which left my boob uncovered, shooting milk everywhere. I was holding my baby with both arms and had the phone wedged between my ear and my shoulder, so there was no way to somehow pull up my bra.

Just when this was all happening, our dog walked into the room. She got sprayed in the face by my breast milk and she got excited thinking I was playing with her. She chased me around the room, jumping and licking at my breast milk as it sprinkled the carpet, the sofa, everything. My coworkers, clueless about what was happening, continued their deep discussion, and all I could do was listen and try to remember what was being discussed as much as I could over my daughter’s cries.

I was sweating as if I had run a marathon, and my arms were burning from holding my baby for the past 20 minutes. Finally, my let-down stopped and my dog calmed down (though she continued to lick the carpet whenever she found a spot with milk on it). 

At least, there was peace and quiet. My daughter popped back on my boob and started nursing again, and I could sit down on the sofa and relax. I turned my attention back to the call and I heard, “Okay good call everyone, let’s get back together again after lunch.”

Seriously?

Betty Boiron is a mother of two who strives to inspire other moms to embrace motherhood as the hot mess it is. When she is not busy chasing after her kids or digging herself out of piles of laundry, you can find her writing on her blog Mombrite.

 

Have the realities of the “fourth trimester” got you down? If nursing your newborn is literally a pain, Frida Mom has you covered with a line of new breast-friendly products!

Frida Mom launched in 2019, with a collection products to help women during the postpartum period. With the brand’s newest line, Breast Care, Frida Mom is about to become your “breast friend.”

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The brand’s CEO, and mom of three,  Chelsea Hirschhorn wanted to help other women demystify breastfeeding comfort. Instead of the hacks you can find on random websites or YouTube tutorials, Frida Mom’s line can help to ease discomfort without kooky or convoluted so-called hacks.

You’ll find everything you need to nurse without pain, stay healthy, and make milk in Frida Mom’s collection. The line’s highlights include an Adjustable Nursing Pillow, 2-in-1 Lactation Massager, Instant Heat Breast Warmer, Breast Masks for Lactation, Engorgement and Hydration, Postpartum Gummies for Lactation, and a Breast Care Self Care Kit.

Find Frida Mom’s new postpartum Breast Care products, along with other must-haves for the new mom, at Target, Amazon, or FridaMom.com.

—Erica Loop

 

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Editor’s Note: Here at Red Tricycle, we respect and celebrate every mom’s feeding journey. Bottle? Boob? It doesn’t matter—we believe fed is best. Our Spoke Contributor Network is inclusive and open to all parenting journeys—yours, too!

Neither of my breastfeeding experiences went exactly as planned. The first time around, I had no reason to think that I wouldn’t have a full milk supply. I read all the books, I took the class, I even researched what to do if my baby had a tongue-tie, since I knew that ties ran on my husband’s side of the family.

Not once had anyone told me that it might not be possible to make a full supply. I hadn’t seen the signs, because I didn’t know to look for them. I assumed that I would be capable of exclusively breastfeeding, and even had fantasies about making so much that I could donate milk to moms in need.

Surprise! My body had different plans for me. I didn’t know that when my breasts had developed as a teenager, they developed with an under-researched and widely misunderstood deformation called hypoplasia. I always knew they were what I would describe as “weird,” but I had no idea there was a name for their uniqueness.

Hypoplasia is associated with its sister diagnosis, Insufficient Glandular Tissue (IGT). The constricted formation of the breasts that occurs with hypoplasia can cause the glands to become underdeveloped. Hormonal or environmental disruptions during any of the four stages of breast development can cause it. This often equals less milk, but not in every case.

There are many other physiologic factors that can result in low supply, many of which are common for those with hypoplasia, such as thyroid dysfunction, insulin resistance, PCOS, and low prolactin levels. For me, the boxes that I checked (determined by bloodwork or visual assessment) were hypoplasia, hypothyroidism, and insulin resistance. You can see how it was the perfect cocktail for low supply, and how complicated it can be to diagnose the underlying problem(s). It’s largely a process of elimination.

Perpetuating the myth that every biological female is capable of breastfeeding does more harm than good. The above hormonal health issues are not uncommon amongst women of reproductive age. In the low supply community, there is an overarching frustration that, despite all the breastfeeding preparation we go through, not once did anyone ever tell us that it may not be possible to have a full supply.

I’m also a doula, and there’s not much awareness in the birth sphere about physiologic reasons for low milk supply. Moms who experience low supply are usually treated as if they are capable of having a full supply—there’s just something that they’re doing wrong. Just take some fenugreek, eat some oatmeal, and nurse on-demand.

The implication of this one-size-fits-all treatment of low-suppliers is a real shame because these moms don’t get the help they need and may walk away from breastfeeding feeling like a failure. It’s common to internalize the experience, with thoughts like, “What kind of a mother am I if I can’t even feed my own child?”

Last year during World Breastfeeding Week, I shared a bit about my personal story with having a low supply on my Facebook page. A well-meaning doula friend launched into “Well, did you try this?” Yes. Yes, I did. “How about this?” Yes. “Well usually when you do it this way, then this happens…” And so forth. I eventually just stopped replying, painful thoughts bubbling to the surface even though I hadn’t attempted to breastfeed in a year.

If you’re currently struggling with low supply, just know that it’s not always just a supply and demand problem. Seek help from a breastfeeding consultant, and shop around for one that specializes in low supply. There is a wide spectrum of the amount of understanding about the topic even among breastfeeding professionals.

And if you know someone currently in the trenches, please support their efforts and tell them that they’re a good mom, and the size of their supply doesn’t equal the size of their love for their baby. And for goodness sake, whatever you do, don’t shame them for supplementing. Babies have to eat, whether it be their mother’s milk, another mother’s milk, or formula. Remember, the size of your supply does not determine your worth as a mother. Everyone’s journey is different, and every drop counts.

 

 

Monet Florence Combs CD(DONA)
Tinybeans Voices Contributor

Monet Florence Combs CD(DONA) is a mom of two tiny humans and motherhood transition coach who is obsessed with helping improve maternal mental health by teaching new moms how to reprogram their beliefs on her podcast, Birth of a Mother

The first three months of life are often referred to as the fourth trimester when your little one is still adjusting to life outside of the womb. During this adjustment, baby is depending on you to lead in building healthy habits – including healthy sleep habits.

 At first you may be overwhelmed with your little one’s irregular sleep patterns. While it will be a gradual shift to sleeping more consistently at night, it will happen. So, how can you help support your little one through this transition during the first few months of life? 

Educate yourself on newborn and infant sleep patterns. You can expect your baby to sleep between 16-18 hours per day for the first month and 11-15 hours per day the following two months. Your little one’s longest stretch of sleep will probably be between 2-4 hours at first, increasing as time goes on. Remember, even though having a familiar routine is important, try to be flexible instead of adhering to a strict schedule these first few months. 

Learn about feeding patterns. Did you know that feeding on demand – whether by breast or bottle – promotes healthy sleep? You can expect your little one to feed 8-12 times per day. As we mentioned above, be flexible with your little one’s feeding needs. Babies tend to cluster feed – again, whether by breast or bottle – around the 2nd day, 2nd week and 2nd month of life. 

Pay attention to sleep cues. Some cues may seem obvious – yawning, rubbing their eyes, heavy eyelids or interacting less than usual – but when you yourself are sleep deprived, it can feel impossible to tell what your baby wants. Your baby may exhibit one or more of these sleep cues, or may have other indicators of their own. Just pay attention and as time goes on you will learn what they are. 

Consider how surroundings affect sleep. At night, lay your little one down in a dark, quiet room to sleep. During the day, leave lights on and make noises as usual. This will help your little one gravitate toward sleeping at night when the atmosphere is more calm and serene. Also take into consideration how warm or cool the room is since your baby cannot yet regulate their own temperature. Colors, smells and other sensations can also affect their sleep. 

Help your little one self-soothe. Your newborn will not be able to self-soothe at first, but swaddling and patting them can help them feel calm and safe as they grow. As you near the third month, begin limiting talking and interacting during sleep times. You may want to begin introducing a pacifier or lovey that will provide comfort as well. 

Introduce a routine. Even though your newborn will have their days and nights mixed up at first, just give them time and it will slowly get better. The sooner that you can introduce a routine, the easier it will be for your little one to catch on. Maybe you read a book to your little one before bath time and lotion. Maybe you have a familiar song you sing or a toy that plays music to cue that it’s bedtime. There is no right or wrong, just create a routine that works for you. 

Hindi Zeidman is a former infant mental health clinician and the founder of Ollie Swaddle—The Smarter Swaddle that’s made better, feels better, and helps your baby sleep longer and better. The award-winning Ollie also help baby self-calm, reduces colic/fussiness, and prevents overheating through its special patented moisture wicking fabric.

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There’s no doubt that becoming a mom for the first time is something that will change you forever. It’s definitely one of the happiest moments in your life, but that doesn’t mean it’s going to be the easiest. That’s why influencer Emilia Taneva has put together three tips that every new mama should prepare for.

Breastfeeding as Early as Possible

Breast milk is ultimately the best source of nutrition for a newborn. It is packed with immune-boosting nutrients and can protect against infections and diseases such as diabetes, obesity, and asthma. For mothers, breastfeeding helps reduce the risk of breast and ovarian cancer and speeds up recovery after delivery. Most hospitals have lactation consultants on staff who are always happy to teach you and your baby to latch. Don’t get discouraged and look for assistance if breastfeeding gets difficult or painful. Remember that some moms can’t breastfeed and don’t have enough supply. Supplementing or feeding with formula won’t make you a bad mother!

Take Care of Yourself & Research Breast Pumps and Products That Will Save You Time

Take care of yourself and sleep whenever you can. Nobody will judge you if your house doesn’t look perfect—household tasks can wait. Accept any help you can get for babysitting, cleaning, laundry, and cooking. Be kind to your body and don’t expect to get back in shape overnight. Drink at least eight glasses of water per day and eat healthy so you could feed your milk supply. Research some of the wireless breast pumps that fit in your nursing bra so you could pump hands and cord-free anywhere in any position while working on other tasks. If you have to go back to work immediately, make sure you create a pumping nest in your office with all the necessary things like hand sanitizer, breast pump sanitizer spray and wipes, breast milk cooler carrier bag, milk storage bottles and bags, breast pads.

Listen to Your Baby’s Cues

Babies will give different behaviors and tones of crying. Within the first few weeks, pay attention to those signals so you could easily decipher what it is your baby is trying to tell you. Cues for hunger such as fist sucking, lips smacking, restless acting, reaching with arms and legs start way before crying. When the baby wants to play, they will give engagement cues which might include eye contact and smile, babble or coo. If your baby is tired, they might turn their head away, squirm, yawn, wrinkle their forehead or frown. Responding to the baby’s signals will help regulate his emotions, develop a sense of trust, and prevent the full-throated wail.

Ruthi Davis is a the Founder of Ruth Davis Consulting LLC with over two decades of success in advertising/marketing, media/publicity, business development, client relations, and organizational optimization for a variety of clients. Ruthi is a proud mom and influencer in the parenting and family market as founder of the Superfly Supermom brand.

Going back to work can be hard for any new mom, and being a breastfeeding mom who has decided to pump at work presents its own set of challenges. But have no fear! We’ve gathered what you need to know, what you need to have, and the easiest ways to get it done when pumping at work.

photo: Willow

Know Your Rights

We hope you have a supportive work environment for pumping breast milk, but it’s always good to know your rights. Federal law in the U.S. requires employers to provide break time and a private space that is not a bathroom for breastfeeding mothers with a child under one year. There are exceptions noted in the law that you should be aware of, for example with companies that have fewer than 50 employees. Many states have their own laws that must be met, so check with your HR department to understand your rights.

What You’ll Need

The Right Pump. From medical-grade rentals to manual pumps, there are lots of pumps to choose from. Many are covered by insurance, so looking up what models are included in your plan is a great place to get started. Some things to consider as you’re choosing a pump: Efficiency is one of the most important features, like that provided by a double electric pump, meaning you can pump both breasts at the same time. If you’re going to be lugging the pump around all day, you’ll want a small, portable model. Depending on where you’ll be pumping, you may need a battery-operated pump versus a corded one. Some other factors to take into consideration are how loud the pump is and whether it has a hands-free option. Check out the Willow (pictured above), an innovative hands-free pump that fits inside your bra without any external tubes, cords, or bottles.

Pumping Accessories. Once you have the pump, you’ll need the right parts and accessories:

  • A bag for carrying everything to and from work is key. There are bags specifically for breast pumps, or you can use a fashionable bag that’s big enough to fit the pump plus all the extras, like your cords and battery packs. The Sarah Wells collection comes in a variety of stylish patterns, and the bags are super functional with thermal-lined pockets and space for a laptop.
  • Most pumps include standard-size breast flanges (the plastic piece that fits over your nipple to create a vacuum and extract your milk), but you may need to purchase a different size for your best, and most comfortable, results. Talk to a lactation consultant if you think your flanges are the wrong size.
  • Depending on your method of pumping, you’ll want to have plenty of leak-proof storage bags or pumping bottles on hand.
  • Plus, you’ll want room for all your personal and sanitizing products.

photo: Larken

Other Essentials. Clothes can make the difference when pumping at work. Wear nursing tops or button-downs that give you easy access; a non-nursing dress you have to remove can leave you chilly or overexposed. Disposable or reusable nursing pads will keep your clothes dry and stain-free if you happen to leak, but it’s always good to have an extra shirt at work in case of leaks and spills. Hands-free bras, like the Larken X Nursing and Hands-Free Pumping Relaxed Bra (pictured above) have slits where you can insert the flanges for full use of your hands while pumping. Also, have your favorite nipple cream handy to prevent sore nipples. We like Earth Mama’s Organic Nipple Butter, which can be used directly on the breast or flanges and doesn’t need to be washed off before nursing.

Getting the Job Done

Starting Early. As for the actual deed of pumping, you’ll want to begin a few weeks before you go back to work. Start with replacing one nursing session a day with pumping and then feed baby with a bottle to get them used to the bottle. Try having another caregiver do the bottle feeding to mimic what it’ll be like when you’re at work. Aim for completely emptying both breasts every time you pump. Slowly replace more nursing sessions at home until you’re up to the number of feeding sessions you’ll be gone for each day. This will give you and baby time to adjust to the new routine and allow you to test out the best methods and equipment for successful pumping. You’ll also want to build up a stash for that first day and to have as a backup.

Working on a Schedule. Once at work, marking your pumping time on a calendar will help keep your milk production up by ensuring you don’t miss any sessions. If your calendar is public, you can use a generic title like “Meeting” followed by your baby’s initial. In the beginning, you’ll need about 3-4 pumping sessions for a typical work day. Designate enough time to fully empty your breasts and include time to clean your pump.

More Tips. The more relaxed you can be, the more likely you’ll pump well. Easier said than done when adjusting to life as a working mom. Be gentle with yourself as pumping can be fickle and you won’t always have your most productive session. Have a picture or recording of baby handy because it can actually stimulate milk letdown. Sometimes a distraction, like a book or video, will help get the milk flowing. Eventually, the act of pumping itself should become the stimulus and you won’t need those tricks. Lactating is dehydrating and hungry work, so make sure to have healthy snacks and plenty of water with you while you pump.

photo: Kiinde

Storing Milk. It’s important for baby’s health and safety that breastmilk is stored in a safe manner while at work. The best place is in the refrigerator with each storage bag labeled with the date, amount of milk, and baby’s name if the bags will be used by a daycare or more than one mother is storing milk in that fridge. The Kiinde Twist Pouch (pictured above) allows you to pump, store, warm, and feed all with one pouch. The next best thing is storing milk an insulated cooler or compartment with ice packs until you can put it the refrigerator or freezer at home. According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), freshly expressed milk can be stored at room temperature for 4 hours, in the refrigerator for 4 days, and in a freezer for 6-12 months.

Cleaning Up. Equally as important as storing milk properly is sanitizing the parts and supplies. Always wash your hands before pumping and when handling pump parts. The CDC recommends a specific cleaning method that requires hot water, liquid soap, a scrub brush, and an area to air-dry your supplies after each pumping session. A dishwasher is a good option if you have access to one. If you can’t properly wash your supplies or don’t want to deal with cleaning everything several times a day, pack multiples of anything that comes in contact with your breast or breastmilk (such as the flanges and hoses). Then sanitize all the parts at home. Another option is the Medela Quick Clean Micro-Steam Bag, which disinfects pump parts in the microwave in just 3 minutes.

Travel Considerations

If you have to travel for work while pumping, plan ahead to figure out how you’ll be able to clean the parts and store your milk. A car charger and adapter that is compatible with your pump works well for road trips. A breast pump is considered a medical device for air travel, so it doesn’t count against your carry-on baggage. There is no specific limit on how many ounces of milk you can take on a plane, but you’ll need to store it properly. As with any liquid, you may have to take it out of your cooler during security screenings. Shipping breastmilk straight to your home is also possible with services like Milk Stork. You can supply your child with milk while you’re away, and you don’t have to carry multiple ounces back on the plane.

Katie L. Carroll

featured image: Jens Johnsson via Unsplash

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San Francisco may be home to some amazing ice cream shops and plenty of cool consignment stores (for little ones, too!). But, as Bay Area moms know, it’s also home to one of the best kids boutiques: Sprout San Francisco. Now Angelenos can finally experience the store themselves, with Sprout’s Santa Monica arrival. The natural and organic boutique stocks a carefully curated selection of healthy and safe kid and baby gear, toys, clothes and more. Read on for some of the store’s top finds, including a must-have sleep sack, baby-safe silicones bottle and more.

Sprout
1015 Montana Ave.
Santa Monica
Online: sproutsanfrancisco.com 

photo: Emma Feil for Sprout

Kangapouch

Courtesy of Sprout

Keep babies blanket-free during the winter with the super-snuggly Kangapouch, from $145. "The best sleep sack to make your kid cozy, like a wearable comforter, all organic of course," says Sprout founder Suzanne Price.

Robbie Adrian Organic Blankets and Loveys

Courtesy of Sprout

"My favorite gift for a special friend: a keepsake blanket that is as soft as the popular polyester ones out there but made of 100 percent organic cotton," Price tells us of Robbie Adrian's Organic Blankets and Loveys, from $28.

Grimm's 12-Piece Rainbow

Looking for a great gift? Price recommends Grimm's 12-Piece Rainbow, $115. "Perfect for kids to use a puzzle type stacking toy, separate to make a tunnel for toy cars, and just looks like a piece of art," she says. You can also find the smaller version of the rainbow, starting at $30. 

Comotomo Bottles

via Comotomo

"I am not a fan of any type of plastic around babies if it can at all be avoided, but people don't usually like to travel with glass," explains Price. "I love these silicone bottles that are easy to clean and also mimic the shape of a breast," she says of Comotomo's bottles, from $12.99. 

-Shannan Rouss

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