On March 13, 2015, when I was 8 weeks along in my first pregnancy, I was diagnosed with breast cancer. This time in my life that I had so looked forward to was suddenly filled with uncertainty and fear. At the time, it seemed like a curse. And obviously, nobody wants to hear the words, “you have cancer,” especially when you’re pregnant. At first I thought the timing couldn’t be worse. 

But my baby, Nico, was a blessing. He dragged me out of my self-pity and helped me focus on the light at the end of the tunnel (him), and he has continued to do so since his arrival last September. If it hadn’t been for him, that infamous lump on my left breast would have gone undetected for much longer.  He helped me survive. 

I like to define “survivor” as anyone who has lived through the words, “you have cancer.” Survivorship for me is doing my best to not dwell on the “what if’s” and “why’s” of cancer, but to be present with my miracle baby. Just like he helped me focus on him during my pregnancy, he deserves my attention on the outside. He saved my life. He saved my spirit. I owe it to him to be here with him 100%. He reminds me every day that I am the luckiest person in the world. He fought with me through surgery and chemo, and he made me a mom. Truly, we are both survivors. 

The fear is still there, looming in the background. It rears it’s ugly head whenever I’m approaching a scan or mammogram, or on significant dates like the anniversary of my diagnosis.  When I experience things like headaches and minor aches and pains, my mind immediately assumes it’s cancer. And I still deal with things like chemo brain and chronic pain from the surgery and radiation. I’m working through what I’ve come to learn is ptsd, which is common for people diagnosed with cancer. My treatment technically ended last Christmas Eve, but I’m still recovering.   

It’s been over a year and a half since the day I heard those life-changing words, but I can still recall the details of that moment with acute clarity. The exact spot I pulled my car over on Belmont Avenue when the doctor called me with the test results. The hesitation and reluctance in her voice. The crushing words, “it is cancer.”  The only thought I could vocalize: “will my baby be ok?” Her answer: “I don’t know.”  And I remember the gut-wrenching fear that followed as a dear friend drove me home while I sobbed. I remember saying over and over again, “how will I ever sleep again?” How could I ever escape this terror? At the time, it seemed impossible.

But here I am, over a year and a half later. Smiling and laughing. Breathing. Sleeping (as much as my 13 month old early bird son will let me). Doing my best to not take for granted this life that I now know is so fragile. I guess you could say I’m surviving. 

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Beat breast cancer while I was pregnant with my son, who just turned one. Still trying to find a new normal after becoming a mom and being diagnosed with cancer at 33 years old. I teach music and yoga to kids, I'm married to a chef so I never cook.

When most parents think about babies and rashes, it is usually diaper rashes that come to mind. However, there is another skin problem that you will often have to deal with: the drool rash.  While this problem can be distressing for you and uncomfortable for your baby, there are some quick and easy ways you can deal with this problem and get your baby’s skin back to normal.

What is a Drool Rash?

If you have never seen a drool rash before, when you first see the small red marks appearing around your baby’s mouth and chin (and also possibly on the chin and chest), your first reaction might be to panic! But don’t worry.  Particularly when your baby begins to teethe, you will notice that the amount that he drools will greatly increase – and that sometimes he will drool in his sleep and lie on this during the night.  However, the constant moisture that this causes can irritate the skin and cause a raised, red rash to develop. It can also surprise you by how quickly it develops – your baby can be fine one day, then wake up the next morning with this rash.  The good news?  There are some simple steps you can take to make this go away.

Keep the Skin Clean and Dry

One of the most important things you can do when your baby comes down with a drool rash is to keep the area dry and clean.  This might sound like it is impossible, but it can be done: just make sure to use a clean, soft cloth for this purpose and dab your baby’s chin, neck and chest as needed to keep it dry.  You can also wash it gently with warm water as needed and pat that dry as well in order to keep it clean. Avoid rubbing the cloth on the skin, however, as this can only irritate the skin further.  Also, it is best to not use any soap or other cleansers, even if they are baby-friendly, because this can further irritate your baby’s skin.

Apply a Protective Cream

Apart from keeping your baby’s chin, neck and chest clean and dry, using a protective barrier cream on the affected area is also a great way to help treat this problem.  Make sure to use a product that is hypoallergenic and baby-friendly – and does not contain any dyes, fragrances or other ingredients that might irritate your baby’s skin.  Products which contain lanolin are a good bet and just plain Vaseline is often popular, too.  Be sure, however, to apply it in a very thin layer on the affected area so that your baby will not ingest it. This creams will form a protective barrier on your baby’s skin that will keep the drool from causing any problems.

Understand Prevention

If you are worried about the problem of baby drool rash, the good news is that there are a few simple tricks to help prevent the issue from happening to begin with. One easy way to help prevent your baby from sleeping in drool overnight is to put a towel or other absorbent material under your baby’s blanket in order to help absorb the drool when they sleep so it will not pool against the skin and cause irritation.  Also, if you notice that your baby is drooling more than normal, it is also ok to apply a thin layer of protective cream on the chin, neck and chest.  This will help to protect the skin from the excess moisture before it even has a chance to develop in the first place.

Know When to Call the Doctor

In most cases, a baby drool rash can be taken care of at home with the measures mentioned above and it does not require any further treatment. However, it is also important to know that there are cases when the doctor should be notified.  If the rash does not appear to be getting any better even if you are keeping it clean and dry and using a protective ointment or if the rash appears to be itchy or painful for your baby, a doctor’s visit will likely be needed. Something these problems can indicate another issue such as a bacterial or fungal infection of the skin or another, more chronic issue like eczema  — and this can require a higher degree of medical treatment.

In short, a baby drool rash can look pretty bad at first – and be particularly disturbing for first-time patients if they have never seen this phenomenon before. The good news is, though, that keeping the area clean and dry and using protective ointments will help in most cases – and after the baby’s teething finally ends and a baby’s amount of drool goes down, the underlying cause of the problem will resolve itself.  In the meantime, these simple home measures should keep your baby comfortable – and you less anxious – as you get through this next parenting challenge.

 

Brian Wu, PhD is a current medical student at the Keck School of Medicine and a proud parent. He founded Health Stories For Kids to educate and entertain kids and their families about different health topics. Check out more at www.healthstoriesforkids.com

Oh Mama, you are glowing! Pregnancy brings along with it plenty of unexpected perks and annoyances based on your fluctuating hormones. Your skin and complexion are not safe from side effects from your growing belly. Settle in and join us for Pregnancy Skin 101. By the end of our time together, you will have a better handle on what exactly is going on with your skin lately.

Photo: Phallin Ooi via Flickr

You Really Are Glowing
Your blood vessels are working overtime during your entire pregnancy, sending blood and nutrients to keep your baby growing and to keep you safe. The best part of all this extra blood production? Your glowing complexion. Chances are, you need a bit less blush these days and you get compliments on your radiant skin, but this perk doesn’t happen to everyone. Don’t hate us if you’re not so lucky.

Your Chronic Skin Conditions Get Better – Or Not
With all of your fluctuating hormones, you might find that some of your chronic skin conditions go into remission, or at least get a bit better, when you’re expecting. Don’t be surprised if your psoriasis goes MIA during your pregnancy, for example. On the other hand, chronic skin conditions can get worse. Acne typically shows up in full force during pregnancy, as does eczema. Talk with your doctor if you are uncomfortable or noticing major changes.

An Itch You Can’t Scratch Enough
Many pregnant women complain of itchy skin. If your skin is itching more than usual, there are a few culprits that could be the cause of your discomfort. Stretching skin over your belly and other growing body areas can cause itching, as can dry skin caused by hormonal changes. Don’t leave home without your favorite lotion. You’ll be more comfortable the more moisturized you are. Don’t have a favorite cream? Check out the line of body butters from 100% Pure. Our fave is the coconut lime – it’s smells like vacation!

Image from Eugene Luchinin via Flickr

Stretch It Out
Listen, the stretch mark struggle is real. Some moms-to-be get minimal to no stretch marks, while others get many more. Stressed out about your stretch marks? Don’t be. Your body is making a baby, and skin is stretching a bit quicker than it is used to. While it can be a bit of a shot to our egos, stretch marks are just par for the course many times. If you would like to get into a daily routine of stretch mark prevention, consider a cream that can help improve your skin’s elasticity. We love Honest Co.’s Organic Belly Balm.

Color Changes
Women often find that their skin tones actually change during, and sometimes after, pregnancy. If you find that you have brown patches on your face, or even red spider veins on your cheeks, go ahead and chat with your doctor to see if there’s a treatment that will work with you and make you feel more confident.

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Burn, Baby, Burn
Summer pregnancies require extra precautions to keep your skin safe from the sun. Mamas-to-be can burn much easier than normally due to extra sensitive skin. Lather up with your favorite sunscreen, and don’t forget your face and lips. You might also notice that you are burning from other skin irritants during these nine months. Common troublemakers for your newly sensitive skin are usually soap or detergent based; start using gentle versions of your favorites to see if that helps your reactions and discomfort. Unfortunately, your evening bubble bath might be doing more harm than good.

Random Bumps
Noticing extra skin under your armpits or neck? You are likely the happy new owner of hormone induced skin tags. While there’s nothing that you can do to prevent them or treat them, keep your doctor informed. Skin tags typically go away on their own after your baby arrives and hormones go back to normal. However, if you still have some tags after the fact, you can have them removed by a dermatologist quickly and painlessly.

If you haven’t realized it by now, no body part or function is safe from pregnancy bizarreness. When it comes to your skin, it’s a toss up – you might end up with that blissful glow, or you might end up with itchy stretch marks. Either way, you get a baby at the end of this journey. Stay strong and invest in some good lotion.

What surprised you about your pregnancy skin? Tell us in a Comment.

–Haley Burress

With school starting back, ’tis the season for them to start sneezin’. Don’t dread the dozens of doctor visits just yet, as you may have the cure right there in your cupboard. We asked around and gathered up wisdom from women of generations past who raised their children (somehow!) without having their pediatrician on speed dial. From urban legends that prove true to family folklore, read up on these simple solutions that have stood the test of time.

Tea

Brew up a batch of chamomile tea to treat colic and soothe baby (and you). Simply steep for a few minutes, cool to room temp and put an ounce or two in their bottle. It will help relax their intestinal muscles and is known to “promote a calm mental state”—nuff said. Or, if your tiny traveller tends to get carsick, brew them a batch of ginger tea sweetened with honey and serve either warm or iced down. Have them chug it thirty minutes before departure to ensure a relaxing road trip.

Who Knew? Peanut have pink eye? Chronic conjunctivitis? After thoroughly testing the temp to make sure they are completely cool, place tea bags on their eyes to draw out any gunk and ease the itch.

PLEASE NOTE: This information is gathered by a mom, not a MD, so you should always consult your child’s pediatrician before trying to treat something yourself—and especially seek medical attention if the issue seems serious or if there are any pre-existing conditions.

Do you have a home remedy that works? Share your secret and tell us below!

–Phebe Wahl

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