Despite four years of medical school, three years of residency, and over a decade in practice, I was never taught the profound connection between high childhood stress and increased risk of chronic disease. It was at a community event sponsored by our local school district that I first learned it, as I watched the documentary entitled Resilience: the Biology of Stress and the Science of Hope. Suddenly, the medical education I had been accumulating over years and years took a leap in an hour. I felt all at once grateful for the new awareness, yet stunned and also troubled by the deep public health implications. 

The documentary told about the ACEs (Adverse Childhood Experiences) study, initially published over 20 years ago (but still holding utmost pertinence), which showed that people who experienced abuse, neglect, abandonment, poverty, and other major stressors in childhood went on to have a hugely increased risk of physical and emotional health problems, including obesity, heart disease, type 2 diabetes, depression, anxiety, and addiction. The statistics are staggering, but yet supportive of our intuitive observations all along: high stress is bad for our health. Research has shown that chronic stress can suppress the immune system, change blood flow, alter metabolism, increase inflammation and even change how genes are expressed. I knew about all that. But somehow, even as a pediatrician, I didn’t realize it started so young. 

Featured in the Resilience documentary as an early pioneer in the “trauma-informed care” movement, pediatrician Nadine Burke Harris noticed a huge disparity in health between the patients from her inner-city clinic and those from other neighborhoods across town. Kids experiencing high stress and trauma tended to fall off the growth charts. Their underlying chronic conditions, like asthma, tended to be more severe or difficult to manage. The children from unstable environments carried a disproportionate number of behavioral health diagnoses like anxiety, depression, and ADHD. Dr. Burke Harris had a patient population with such a high number of traumatized kids that the bodily manifestations of extreme stress became an evident pattern. It led Dr. Burke Harris to do research of her own and to connect with others making parallel discoveries. She tells of it in her book, “The Deepest Well: Healing the Long-Term Effects of Childhood Adversity.”

Though Dr. Burke Harris first saw profound stress effects in an inner-city neighborhood, adverse childhood experiences and other stressors occur among all socioeconomic groups. The ACEs study involved over 17,000 “mostly middle and upper-class, college-educated” participants in the Kaiser-Permanente health plan and demonstrated that over two-thirds had an ACE score of 1 or more. As the ACE score got higher, the risk of chronic disease increased as well. In other words, the toxic effects of stress seemed to be dose-dependent.

Not all stress is bad—we need a degree of it to stay safe and motivated—but most of us carry more than this functional level. Michele Kambolis, Canadian therapist and author of Generation Stressed, says, “There has been an exponential shift in terms of our lifestyle. Our culture is now putting an inordinate amount of pressure on children to produce and achieve.” The kids are feeling it. One of my clients, a high school senior, expressed it this way: “Adults want us to be everything. We’re supposed to earn money for college, keep our grades up, be involved in extracurriculars, and somehow still find time to sleep, exercise and eat well. It’s an impossibility.” No wonder there is an anxiety epidemic!

The data connecting stress to disease need not serve as a prediction of doom, but as a revelation to inspire action. The first step is awareness. Read about the ACEs study. Take the ACEs questionnaire (see the link above). If you have unresolved traumas from your past, find resources to help you address them. Begin weeding out unnecessary stress in your own family. If you are a parent or caregiver struggling to provide a stable or safe environment for your children, get help. Advocate for the children in your community. Studies show that one of the most powerful buffering factors for kids experiencing toxic stress is having at least one supportive, caring adult in their lives. Who in your circles needs you to provide this role? Studies also show that a healthy foundation of sleep, nutrition, exercise, and coping strategies can also mitigate stress effects. Seek to establish healthy habits in your family. Don’t overschedule your kids. Learn mindfulness. Practice yoga. Go outside. Take a deep breath.

As Mahatma Gandhi said, “We must become the change we want to see in the world.” Rather than chasing after our goals at the expense of well-being, let’s care for ourselves and each other. Let the healing begin now.

 

I am an integrative pediatrician, author and mom of 8. I am the owner of Imagine Pediatrics Behavioral Health and Wellness and creator of the Overcoming Childhood Anxiety online courses and the Compassion Parenting program. I love singing, hiking and eating ice cream! Learn more at drmarywilde.com.

Inclusion matters in all aspects including fashion. Now you can buy clothing and accessories that are both cute and functional for people with disabilities or medical needs. Aerie has partnered with Abilitee Adaptive Wear in order to offer accessories to support all types of medical devices.

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Six years ago, Aerie stopped airbrushing its models. In the years following, the brand has worked towards inclusivity, showing different body types, different races, skin “imperfections,” models in wheelchairs, and women with chronic illness and who use an ostomy and arm crutches.

According to Aerie’s post on Instagram, “@AbiliteeAdaptiveWear is a change-making brand creating adaptive apparel for people with disabilities & medical needs. We’re so excited to sell some of their empowering products at Aerie.com!” 

The accessories line includes items like an ocean blue insulin pump bag, a baby pink cath clip, a soft arm sleeve for PICC lines, and a cheeky ostomy cover.

—Jennifer Swartvagher  

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The world in which we’re raising our kids is very different from the one in which we grew up. Although this is true with each generation, there are two important over-and-above differences for this Gen Z population: personal technology, and the immense pressure to “be successful.” Note that in this context, societally-defined success for kids centers around grades, behavior, adult-created extra-curricular activities, pursuing a college track and college choice—all with an eye to future status and material wealth. And, because this is the societal definition, it often subconsciously becomes our parental definition. Many experts and studies have drawn a link between these changes and the escalating incidence of stress and anxiety in our Gen Z kids.

The Prevalence of Childhood Anxiety and Stress

Stressful events certainly happen at any age, including childhood, but the chronic stress that pervades youthful lives is highly concerning—for both mental well-being and physical health. A 2018 poll reported that over 45% of teenagers feel stressed “all the time.” Similarly, although occasional anxiety is a normal part of childhood, we’re talking here about anxiety disorder, where kids chronically experience nervousness, shyness, and fear, often avoiding places and activities due to their battle with the inner monster of anxiety. Anxiety disorder affects one in eight children. It’s important to note that both stress and anxiety can lead to depression.

Meanwhile, 95% of teens have access to a smartphone, and social media platforms like Snapchat and Instagram have experienced parallel explosive growth, with 70% of teenagers using social media more than once a day, and 45% saying they’re online on a near-constant basis. There are certainly benefits to personal technology devices (PTDs) and their apps, but a specter called digital stress has risen from these new technologies. We’re only just beginning to understand how PTDs and social media affect our kids. What we do know is that digital stress—which can lead to anxiety and depression— arises from technology addiction, cyberbullying and navigating over closeness in relationships that are inherent with PTD and social media use.

This new phenomenon of digital stress, added to societal and parental pressure to succeed, equals our unique and gifted Gen Z kids having a lot of heavy demands piled on their youthful plate. Among other outcomes, children experiencing anxiety and stress are at a higher risk to perform poorly in school, miss out on significant social experiences and engage in substance abuse.

When our kids are struggling, it can be hard to not take it personally. The parent-child bond is deep, and we want them to be well and happy. And sometimes we feel that their anxiety or stress is a reflection of our abilities as a parent. Powerful stuff. Here are four ways to focus your energy where it will make a difference:

  1. Dig deep on your expectations. Pay special attention to the small messages and demands that you make. Do they match your values? Are you parenting according to what you think is important, or what society thinks is important?
  2. Focus on what matters. Focus on their success as a human being, instead of as an achiever. Make sure their dreams and aspirations are truly theirs.
  3. Leave judgment at the door. Judgment creates barriers in communication and serves nothing.
  4. Recruit close friends for support. A child’s struggle can add stress to family life. You need support too. Your feelings are better discussed with an adult confidante than with your child.

How Parents Can Help Their Kids

There are five key approaches you can take to help your child with stress and anxiety—with avoiding it, or with navigating it:

  1. Pay attention to your child’s feelings. Does your child seem to feel more often worried, shy or anxious than other kids their age? Are they continually talking about how overwhelmed they feel? If so, it may be time for some heart-to-heart conversations.
  2. Provide unconditional support and understanding. Be okay with not being able to immediately fix the mental health challenges for your kid. Recognize that stress and/or anxiety is their journey to traverse, and give them unconditional support and understanding.
  3. Stay calm, caring, and centered when your child expresses stress or anxiety. This can be challenging, but your calm and presence will help to keep the situation from elevating. Try to keep a normal routine, but be flexible when needed.
  4. Help them learn how to say no and create healthy boundaries. Often, we’re still learning this as adults, so make it a team effort!
  5. Help your child build confidence and resilience. Sometimes we want to take over for our stressed or anxious child, in an innate act of protection. Instead, help them grow. For a child with anxiety, search for areas where your child can show they’re good at something that they like, give them some chores that help them feel like they’re contributing to home life, and praise your child for small accomplishments, facing challenges, trying something new or demonstrating brave behavior. For your child navigating chronic stress, help them set healthy boundaries, learn to say no and manage their time, and check how your own expectations may be affecting them.

Stress and anxiety are normal intermittent experiences for kids; they are not normal as chronic companions. In today’s environment, we can re-commit every day to helping our kids become the most content and healthy version of themselves that they’re able to be.

I work as a change agent for empowered well-being in body, mind, and spirit. I help people and organizations be healthier and happier via speaking, writing, corporate consulting, and working with individual clients. I enjoy nature, music, reading, travel, my four kids, and my two grandchildren.

Kids are getting ready to head back to school, and many are feeling stressed. They may feel pressure to make good grades or feel anxious over social pressures such as dealing with bullies or making new friends.

Common signs of back-to-school stress include crying, headaches, and expressing fears about social situations or failing grades. Some stress is normal and to be expected. However, chronic stress can have lasting effects on children as they grow, studies show.

When kids exhibit ongoing dread, fear, or worry, it can indicate an underlying emotional issue—what I call “Trapped Emotions.” Trapped Emotions are unresolved emotional energies from negative life experiences that can affect a person’s health, happiness and ability to learn.

For instance, one of the most common emotions kids feel when it comes to heading back to school after summer break is anxiousness. This is quite normal; however, if a child expresses persistent and ongoing dread or worry as the start of school approaches, it may be a sign the child has a Trapped Emotion related to some trouble they have experienced.

Children can develop Trapped Emotions from events at school and family situations, or they can pick up on the emotions and stresses of others around them. Trapped Emotions can have an effect on children’s behavior, family relationships, performance in school, and health.

Some signs a child may be experiencing stress due to Trapped Emotions include:

  • A child who is normally happy and eager to learn grows angry, disobedient, and distant.
  • A child continually expresses dread about the start of school but refuses or is unable to explain why he or she is feeling this way.
  • Frequent complaints about stomachaches, trouble sleeping, and disinterest in activities that the child once enjoyed.

Children who have stressful and difficult lives are prone to having Trapped Emotions. But any child can have Trapped Emotions, no matter how much love they receive or how favorable their home environment may be.

Parents can help their children overcome stress related to Trapped Emotions by learning to identify and resolve this emotional baggage or energy. The Emotion Code™ provides simple ways parents can help their kids:

  • Determine if a Trapped Emotion is present.
  • Identify the emotion.
  • Release each Trapped Emotion and verify that it is gone.

To help adults and children identify and release Trapped Emotions, we developed a formalized process that involves asking a series of questions and getting the answers from the subconscious mind through muscle testing, a simple form of biofeedback.

Muscle testing enables us to tap into the subconscious mind. Answers are determined by measuring minor changes in resistance to pressure on a subject’s arm. Using flow charts from The Emotion Code™ we ask questions to determine if a Trapped Emotion is present, identify the emotion, and ultimately release it.

Another technique we use for identifying Trapped Emotions is the “sway test.” The person using this method stands still, with feet slightly apart and eyes closed and attempts to remain motionless. The practitioner then goes through phrases and questions organized in the flow charts. We can detect and identify Trapped Emotions by the motion of the subject’s body swaying forward or backward in response to these questions.

Parents can use these very simple and non-invasive techniques to help determine if their child has one or several Trapped Emotions, and to permanently release these unwanted feelings. Free instructions are available at www.emotioncodegift.com.

Helping kids identify and release potential Trapped Emotions can improve their overall happiness and ability to learn. Getting rid of emotional baggage can help kids shift out of fear of starting school or a new grade, stop worrying about upsetting incidents from the past, and be more relaxed, confident, and happy in the year to come.

 

Dr. Bradley Nelson
Tinybeans Voices Contributor

Veteran holistic physician and author of The Emotion Code, Dr. Bradley Nelson is an expert in the emerging fields of Bioenergetic Medicine and Energy Psychology. He has certified thousands of practitioners worldwide in helping people overcome unresolved anger, depression, anxiety, loneliness and other negative emotions and the physical symptoms associated them.

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Chronic complainers, whether kids or adults are no fun to be around. They drain your energy and sap your strength. It can be especially hard for parents to listen to their kids complain, whine and nag all day. But why do they do it?

Some kids complain mostly because they want something different from what they are getting or they’re uncomfortable about a situation and don’t know how to effectively communicate their needs. Others simply do it because it’s a way to establish contact or get a reaction from you.

Older kids like tweens and teens often complain because it’s uncool to seem enthusiastic about anything. As they progress to adulthood, teens constantly look for ways to assert their independence and to them, complaining or being contrary is their way of doing that.

Either way, as parents, we can all agree that listening to our kids complaining gets old real fast. So what can you do about it?

Consider why it gets you so worked up.

Knowing why your kid’s complaining pushes your buttons can allow you to find calm ways of dealing with it. Does their complaining trigger your anxiety? Do you feel responsible for your child’s happiness? Whatever it is, figuring it out is the first step.

Be a good role model.

Kids emulate us, so if you’re a chronic whiner and complainer, don’t be surprised if your kids take after you. If you constantly catch yourself complaining or regretting things you say in the heat of the moment, perhaps it’s time to change your habits.

Reflect, don’t react.

Try not to get pulled in by your kid’s negativity. Practice active listening and validating their feelings but don’t feed their mood. While it can be hard to hear your children whine, sometimes they just need to vent, and being overly critical of this can only make them dig in.

Encourage problem-solving.

Sometimes our kids can resort to complaining if they feel overwhelmed. Going on and on about their fears and worries might be their way of seeking control in various situations. If you notice this is the case, equip your child with problem-solving skills

The next time they come to you with their complaints, try asking them, “What can you do about it?” This turns them from focusing on the problem to looking for possible solutions.

Put a time limit on complaining.

Another great idea is to establish a complaint time in your household. This could be 10 minutes after dinner, or any other appropriate time, where your kids are free to complain about everything that’s bothering them. Ensure you limit it to that particular time then encourage them to find something to be grateful about.

Dealing with kids who complain all the time isn’t easy. However, finding the root cause of their complaints and encouraging them to solve their own problems can work wonders.

Tyler Jacobson is a happy husband, father of three, writer and outreach specialist with experience with organizations that help troubled teens and parents. His areas of focus include: parenting, social media, addiction, mental illness, and issues facing teenagers today.

 

Is your job stressing you out? You aren’t alone. The World Health Organization now includes “burn-out” as a mental health issue associated with employment in the ICD-11 diagnostic tool.

The frazzled feeling that hits you at the end of a 40 hour (more like 40 plus, plus, plus) week is real. According to the WHO’s ICD-11 definition, “Burn-out is a syndrome conceptualized as resulting from chronic workplace stress that has not been successfully managed.”

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So how does WHO characterize work-related burn-out? The ICD-11 definition includes, “Feelings of energy depletion or exhaustion,” along with, “increased mental distance from one’s job, or feelings of negativism or cynicism related to one’s job” and, “reduced professional efficacy.”

Even though the global ICD-11 guidelines now count workplace burn-out as an actual mental health issue (at least when the guidelines take effect in 2022), the U.S.’s DSM-5 diagnostic manual does not include the all-too-common problem. But don’t let that make you feel like the serious case of exhaustion you have is just a case of the post-work Friday evening tireds. Judging by WHO’s newest definition, job-related stress is the real deal for many adults worldwide.

—Erica Loop

 

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Connecticut is on the verge of passing the first statewide soda tax in the country. Connecticut Governor Ned Lamont recently proposed a 1.5 percent per-ounce tax on beverages with added sugar, which could earn the state some seriously sweet cash—and all while making residents healthier!

While there are plenty of cities across the United States (and around the world) that already tax soda, there are no statewide laws. The proposed Connecticut law could earn the state a projected $163.1 million in its first year alone.

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In a statement to USA Today, Gov. Lamont’s spokesperson, Maribel La Luz, said, “The governor believes that in addition to addressing our long-term fiscal stability, the budget should also help outline policy priorities for our state.” Even though the state doesn’t seem to have a problem meeting or exceeding national health targets, a sugar-filled beverage tax could do more to reduce the incidence of some chronic conditions, such as heart disease and cancer.

The proposed tax must still pass the Connecticut state legislature before Gov. Lamont can sign it into law. The proposed soda tax is already being met with resistance from some food and beverage industry leaders and manufacturers.

The big question of course, is whether or not soda taxes really work. The University of California, Berkeley has some answers. Following Berkeley’s 2015 adoption of a sugary drink tax, residents in lower income neighborhoods reported drinking 52 percent fewer servings of soda.

—Erica Loop

 

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Regular attendance at school is vital to ensure a student’s academic success, as well as their future health and yet more than 6.5 million U.S. kids miss more than 15 days of school each year. The American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) hopes to change that with new guidelines to prevent chronic absenteeism in schools.

According to the AAP, missing a lot of school not only leads to poor academic performance, but it can also increase the risk of unhealthy behaviors as teens and adults, such as smoking and substance use. This is why the AAP is recommending that preventative steps be taken in treating chronic absenteeism as a health risk.

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The new AAP report, “The Link Between School Attendance and Good Health,” highlights some effective steps to help improve attendance at schools, including proper hygiene and hand-washing, school-located vaccination programs and access to nurses and counselors. Some of the AAP recommendations to pediatricians are:

  • Stressing the importance of regular attendance starting in preschool by checking school absences with parents at well-visits;
  • Encouraging parents to make the school nurse aware of any health concerns;
  • Providing clear guidance on when kids should stay home due to illness and when it’s safe to go to school;
  • Avoiding writing medical excuses for absences when they are not necessary and encouraging parents to send kids back to school as soon as they are all enough.

Check out the full report for more recommendations here.

—Shahrzad Warkentin

 

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From sitting in a classroom all day to screen time after school, chances are most kids might not be spending as much time moving as they should. So how much exercise should kids get? Here’s what experts have to say about new guidelines.

According to the Journal of the American Medical Association, newly updated guidelines from the Physical Activity Guidelines for Americans, 2nd edition recommend kids six years old and up need at least one hour of exercise per day. Meanwhile, kids ages three to five should have at least three hours of exercise daily.

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The new guidelines cover people of all ages—including pregnant women—but kids have their own section with specific recommendations. The report states that kids and adolescents aged six through 17 years should do “60 minutes or more of moderate-to-vigorous physical activity daily.” Exercise for kids in this age range can improve cardiorespiratory and muscular fitness, cardiometabolic health and cognition, as well as reduce the risk of depression.

For kids three years and up, in addition to these same benefits, getting enough daily exercise can also improve bone health and maintain healthy weight. “Children younger than 6 years undergo periods of rapid growth and development. Physical activity can enhance growth and development and teach important movement skills,” the report notes.

While a set standard for physical activity hasn’t been determined for kids ages three to five, the guidelines suggest that kids at this age should be physically active throughout the day to enhance growth and development. Parents should encourage kids to be active through play. The guidelines say “a reasonable target may be three hours per day of activity of all intensities: light, moderate or vigorous.”

For kids six to 17, the guidelines break down the types of physical activities that they should engage in during their daily 60 minutes of exercise:

  • Aerobic: Most of the 60 minutes or more per day should be either moderate- or vigorous-intensity aerobic physical activity and should include vigorous-intensity physical activity on at least three days a week.
  • Muscle-strengthening: As part of their 60 minutes or more of daily physical activity, children and adolescents should include muscle-strengthening physical activity on at least three days a week.
  • Bone-strengthening: As part of their 60 minutes or more of daily physical activity, children and adolescents should include bone-strengthening physical activity on at least three days a week.

The guidelines state that establishing routine exercise early on not only helps kids develop life-long healthy habits, but it can lower the likelihood that kids will develop risk factors that lead to certain chronic illness and diseases as adults.

Bottom line? Get your kids movin’ and groovin’!

—Shahrzad Warkentin

 

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Finding someone you trust to babysit your kids that doesn’t charge an arm and a leg can be hard. For many families, that’s where grandparents come in. They can seem like the perfect, no-hassle sitters, but in some cases they might not be. Do you let the grandparents babysit you kids? If so, you might want to consider these factors first.

When family lives close by it can seem like a no-brainer to look to grandparents when you need someone to watch the kids. Americans are waiting longer to have kids—which means grandparents are older as well. With one in 10 adults age 65 or older diagnosed with Alzheimer’s or dementia, chances are greater that older grandparents will be facing age-related changes that might impair their ability to look after young kids.

“Once grandparents get to age 70 or older, we start to see more of an effect on health when they’re participating in daily activities with grandchildren,” Dr. Laurence Solberg, chief of the division of geriatric medicine at the University of Florida College of Medicine, told U.S. News and World Report. Factors like poor vision, slow reaction time, muscle weakness and even medications that cause drowsiness could affect a grandparents ability to care for kids, Solberg explained.

Age-related issues aren’t always obvious and sometimes older adults don’t realize their own symptoms and limitations. There are certain signs you can watch out for says Solberg, that can help you determine if you should reconsider using grandparents as babysitters. These include cognitive decline, muscle weakness, chronic disease, trouble driving and mood changes.

Of course not all older adults face the same age-related issues and many are in excellent health. It’s just important to consider all the factors when you enlist your parents to babysit on date night, the same way you would with any babysitter.

—Shahrzad Warkentin

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