Staying connected online is a necessity these days. Working from home, social distancing and homeschooling can be isolating and overwhelming, so we’ve found over a dozen Facebook groups you can join to reach out and connect with other parents in the San Diego community. Read on to find that support, shared knowledge and camaraderie are just a few clicks away in a local online group for parents.

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SDPopUp Play Date
SDPopUP Play Date is how you can find out where kids can get those wiggles out! Littles can dance to the virtual concerts by Hullabaloo while you get the latest scoop from San Diego parents. With plenty of playdates booked at fun and unique venues (once life is back to normal) and cool parents, this is a great online group.

San Diego Mom
Nurture yourself. This group is specifically for San Diego moms and focuses on life in the city. They talk about everything that you deal with as a mother. This is a place to lift up, support and offer help with parenting. With over 11,000 members you’ll find a conversation and mom village that’s perfect for you.

San Diego Moms Co.
You'll definitely want to click the "like" button to follow San Diego Moms. This Facebook community defines itself as a "parenting resource community in San Diego written by moms and for moms. We meet online and offline at community events, moms night outs, and more" (once Covid restrictions are lifted). Their page spotlights local moms, provides distance learning tips, keeps you in the know on the latest and greatest summer camps and even provides some comic relief.

San Diego Moms
Connect with other parents all over the city, get recommendations about local businesses, find the best family photographer, get advice and input from other moms about a wide range of topics: from what to do when school starts again and you're an essential worker to finding a babysitter or the best hiking spots.

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Buy Nothing Grateful Hearts
Do you need clothing for your kids or new housing decor? Then join this community group where you can give and take––helping each other out where help is needed. Anyone can receive, gift, request, trade, and swap. There’s no monetary attachments whatsoever. Everything in this group is absolutely free.

Mom Tribe, San Diego
Log on and talk about topics ranging from identity-loss and boredom to self-doubt, and loneliness to name a few. As a mom, it’s easy to lose track of your own needs, so Mom Tribe is a place for San Diego moms to connect and refresh. This Facebook page is about coming together in motherhood. It’s also a wonderful source of services and events that honor women as whole beings.

San Diego New Moms Network
Started by a first time mom living in San Diego, this is a group for moms with infants and toddlers to network, support each other, share local events and resources, meet, ask for or share referrals, and whatever else could be of interest and relevance to newer moms.

San Diego Kids Activities
Click on this page to learn about so many fun things to do with your kids all over the city. In their own words: "this Facebook page is about making new friends and discovering new things to do with our kiddos in the San Diego area. If you see something fun to do, please share it with our group! Let’s make raising our kids in SD an amazing experience for everyone!" 

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The Well
This new Facebook community/San Diego business offers the following: "At the physical location of The Well, we provide co-working space, events, and an inclusive kid’s program so that you can create, gather and grow in all areas of your life. Through our social media platforms, we want to engage all of our community to provide resources and encouragement to inspire you and make connections with others!"

San Diego Autism Support Group
Whether you are a mom, dad, family member of someone with autism, or you yourself are on the spectrum, you are welcome to join this group. Share stories, ask questions, post accomplishments and frustrations, and feel like you have a place to connect.

Real Moms of North County
Live in North San Diego? Then this group’s for you. Local North County moms who are doing their best to enjoy parenthood yet honest enough to admit that some days bedtime can’t come soon enough! This Facebook group is a resource for local events, doctor recs, school changes and any other recommendations to make the most of this stage of life.

San Diego Circle of Moms
Organized playdates and meet-ups, inspirational quotes and more will flourish in your feed when you follow San Diego Circle of Moms. One of their most recent get-togethers was a field day at Liberty Station Park where they had activity stations set up for kids ages 1-6, including ball toss, tube crawls, and hula hoops. Fun!

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San Diego Moms Chat, Meet-Up & Network!
Are you a mom new to the San Diego area? Do you need to have an adult mom conversation? Or are you a local who just wants to touch base with other moms? Join this smaller Facebook group and chat it up!

Single Moms of San Diego
Join a group of single moms for emotional support and camaraderie. Here, mothers may speak openly about challenges concerning the separation process, career advancement, child rearing, dating, and more. This group is meant to empower and provide a safe space for single moms.

San Diego Dads Group
This is a group for dads in San Diego who want to connect with other fathers, ask questions, help each other out and socialize and network.

 

––Nikki Walsh & Beth Shea

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Whether you’re a first-time mom or adding to an ever-expanding brood, raising kids is hard (like, really hard). Luckily, social media can be super helpful when it comes to finding your tribe. We looked through a ton of Facebook groups for every type of mom, every type of family, and every type of need and narrowed it down to our favorites below. Keep reading to find one that’s perfect for you.

Groups for New Moms & Babies

Pregnant Moms Due in 2020, 43.8K members
Find other moms due the same month as you in 2020.

Fussy Baby Support Group, 35K members
This group is perfect for moms feeling overwhelmed by fussy or colicky babies. They make sure moms know it’s a safe no-judgment zone where they can come with questions and get advice. But, they also recommend their members give advice from experience as well.

The Beginner’s Guide to Baby-Led Weaning, 85.9K members
As the name suggests, encouragement and support for moms who are weaning their babies.

Exclusively Pumping, 31.5K members
Another descriptive group name, this group is intended for Exclusive Pumpers to share information and support.

The Mommy Grind, 37K members
This group was created to help new moms navigate the first few years of motherhood. They are also adamant about no solicitations, no contests, no giveaways, etc.

Car Seat Safety, 88.9K members
This group is great for new moms (and dads, of course) who have questions, concerns, and are looking to purchase a new car seat. This group aims to empower and educate their members, but a big goal is to help reduce child injury and death in the event of an accident.

Milky Mommas, 110K members
Breastfeeding is a lot more complicated than it looks. There are latching issues, mastitis (OUCH), nipple confusion and more. Milky Mamas is there to help.

Groups for the Daily Grind

Mom Squad, 35K members
Being a mom is rough. And kids do say the darnedest things. So of course, you need a place to vent, laugh, and bond. Mom Squad is a great place to ask for advice and question things, but keep in mind, that the admins keep the page judgment-free and non-political.

Modern Parenting Hub, 15K members
Both parents and caregivers can connect in this safe space all about communication and socialization. It’s not just about advice on this page, but also about really connecting and building relationships.

Simple Families, 13.7K members
Motherhood and parenting are filled with a lot of white noise … which means nonsense. This group looks to strip down and get rid of the nonsense and help moms focus and thrive in motherhood more simply.

One Bad Mother, 10K members
Based on their Podcast, this Facebook group aims at supporting their members through all of their “genius and failures of life.” Once again, they aim to keep this a safe space where members feel comfortable asking questions, sharing goofs and just venting about the toughness of motherhood.

Cat and Nat Chat, 53K members
If you ever need a true belly laugh, check out Cat & Nat’s #MomTruth videos on YouTube. They tell it like it is, the good, the bad and the (vomit-filled) ugly. And their Facebook group reflects their sass, humor and real-life approach to things.

Slate Parenting, 13.7K members
Fans of Slate Parenting column and podcast Mom and Dad Are Fighting enjoy this dynamic group. All posts in this group are moderated by Slate’s parenting editors and columnists.

The Mom Rant, 13K members
Had a hard day? You might want to consider join The Mom Rant, a safe place for moms and moms-to-be to rant/rave and vent freely. With 11k+ members from across Canada and around the world, it’s a judgment-free place for moms to find solidarity with others.

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Food-Related Groups

Hungry Toddlers, 128.7k members
Meal ideas and recipes for keeping kids happy during the toddler years.

Costco Meal Ideas for Busy Moms, 35.9k members
Adult and kid-friendly meal and recipe ideas for shopping bulk at Costco.

Feeding the Littles, 70k members
We don’t want to scare you, but feeding young kids often stinks. They are the pickiest, strangest eaters on the planet. Check out this group if you want a safe place to share recipes, ask questions and get advice. Like most parenting groups, they urge members to be respectful and shy away from controversial topics.

Trader Joe’s Meal Ideas for Busy Moms, 130k members
This active group shares the best snack and meal recipes from TJ’s from fellow parents.

Recipe Rescue, 3.9K members
From the Cool Mom Picks team, this active group offers ideas and inspiration for preparing family meals.

Parenting Picky Eaters, 19.6K+ members
Moderated by feeding consultant, Jo Cormack from the UK, and children’s nutritionist and therapist, Simone Emery, this is a safe space for parents of food-cautious kids.

Instant Pot Parents, 19.5K members
If you like your Instant Pot and want more family-friendly ideas and recipes, this is the group for you. With over 18,00 members, there’s a wealth of knowledge here.

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Special Interest Groups

Kids’ Crafts and Activities, 73K members
There’s nothing worse than snow days, vacation days, sick days or rainy weekends without something to do. This group provides activities and shares articles, ideas, etc. for parents and kids. Think of it as a Pinterest Facebook group filled with tips, tricks and lifesavers.

Moms Who Run, 2.5K members
Mom-to-mom support to get out there and run no matter how busy life is.

Red Tricycle Book Club, 1K members
A monthly book club for moms hosted by the Red Tricycle team.

Moms in Tech, 14.8K members
Ad-free, judgment-free, solicitation-free, this is a safe space for moms working in tech (in any sort of position) looking connect and support each other. They encourage members to post job openings, share projects they are proud of, and respect other members’ privacy. Working is hard, motherhood is hard, and this group hopes to help relieve a bit of both.

Moms of Only Children, 4K members
Whether you are one and done by choice or not, if the question “Are you done having kids?” always annoys you, this is the group for you.

ADHD Parents Support Group, 139.9K members
An open, non-judgmental forum to discuss the challenges of parenting children with ADHD, as well as seek solutions.

Local Groups

Upper East Side Moms (New York City), 31K members
UES Mommas is a group where NY mommas come for support, positive and constructive guidance and community. It’s also a great place to check on great dining suggestions, what’s the deal with the Second Avenue Subway, and how’s that new dry cleaner that just opened. Plus, you can ask questions about schools, museums and more.

Upper West Side Mammas ,(New York City) 19K members
Same thing, but for the Upper West side.

Brooklyn Baby Hui (New York City), 3.8K members
Parents from the neighborhoods of North Brooklyn sharing experiences, resources and stories to empower each other.

NYC Moms- Upper East Side, 21.4K Members
Safe place for moms on the UES to connect with local parents.

Circle of Moms (Chicago), 11K members
You can join this group to chat, ask for advice, give advice, learn about events happening in the area, vent, set up playdates and more. Keep up-to-date about what’s happening in the Windy City and all there is to see and do with kids—big and small.

Washington DC Area Moms, 8.7K members
Learn about events, get great tips (Best playgrounds! Best kid-friendly dining) on this local page. They don’t allow solicitations or marketing, so this is a safe space for even the most hesitant participant.

Main Street Mamas (San Francisco), 14K members
This group claims to have an open mind and no rules, but they do insist on no judging and being respectful. Keep business posts to Momtrepreneur Mondays and classifieds on the weekends, but otherwise, come and enjoy yourself. Learn about events and get to know your SF community.

Marin Mom’s Swap, 4k members
Simple selling and swapping for Marin County mamas.

Portland Mamas, 19K members
What started as a small space for a handful of moms in the area has grown to over 19,000 members offering advice, resources and support in an open and friendly manner. Ideas come fast and thick here, so if you’re looking for the best soft shoes for your toddler or the best school backpack, strap in and get ready! It’s like crowd-sourcing from thousands of great friends who have tried it first.

Red Tricycle Families Seattle, 3K members
Find the tools and tips you need to parent like a rock star on Red Tricycle’s own parent group page, Red Tricycle Families Seattle. On it, you’ll find events, ideas and activities that transform everyday parent-kid outings into memorable adventures that are surprisingly easy to do. It’s also a place for moms and dads to ask the “who, what, where and when” questions that always seem to crop up. Or to post what you know by sharing your own kicking kid-friendly events within the group.

LA Mommies, 58.7K members
LA Mommies is a private group so no one outside of it will see you post about having a mommy meltdown at 2 a.m., but be prepared to (virtually) run into other mom friends. Members can post anything and everything mom-related from pregnancy and parenting advice to the best spots for birthday parties or date nights.

— Felissa Allard with Allison Sutcliffe, Shahrzad Warkentin & Karly Wood

 

Dear Confessional,

I’m sorry, but life is not “like a box of chocolates,” because if it were, then each bite would be sweet and probably not last more than 10 minutes in my hands (especially if they were filled with caramel). Life, perhaps, is more accurately depicted as that Jelly Belly BeanBoozledⓇ game where you have to spin the dial and manage through your pick—barf, juicy pear, spoiled milk, lime, rotten egg, coconut, etc. Not every experience in life is “strawberry” and “peach.” Some days are just plain “spoiled milk” and “moldy cheese.”

Yes, every day is truly a gift, on both the good days and the ones that feel like a “booger” pick. Whether you spin the dial and life lends you a sweet or foul hand, each moment is a small part of your vast journey in experiencing, feeling, learning, growing, and then back again. Reflecting back on my likely relatable lessons learned in each stage of life, I have received both the tasty and foul jelly beans, too. That is why I feel the need to share this account of my personal rainbow of flavors that I have tasted in each stage of life.

“Coconut” childhood Always trust your instincts and speak up when you need to, right away. Don’t ever feel less than anyone. You are important, smart, and worthy. When you start writing and publishing your first works of poetry, let nothing stop you. You are boundless with possibility if you truly want it. When school work starts to get you down, find a different way to study and learn. Your will to succeed and effort are far more important than the score. Do your best always, and that will be good enough.

“Barf” note to self: When you don’t like your dinner, don’t think you can fool your parents by hiding your bites in a napkin or pushing the food into really small but very tall piles. They always know!

“Tutti-Frutti” teenage years Even when your body doesn’t change as quickly as your friends’, it will happen. Stop rushing it and give it time. Let your full personality bloom to others. Don’t measure yourself so much by school scores and exam results. True success comes from your determination and passion to succeed in what you love—not from a number.

“Stinky Socks” note to self: Please stop picking any zits. Your skin is beautiful and will self-heal—so hands-off—and take out any stress through your writing, not on yourself. When you look back at this time later, you will really appreciate your flawless skin.

“Chocolate Pudding” college life Love yourself more and criticize less. Stop wearing makeup, you don’t need to hide behind a layer of foundation. Wear that bikini with pride—no stretch marks, cellulite, stretched-out skin, or wrinkles yet—and stop worrying about that thigh gap! Your financial struggle will bring out the greatest work ethic and inner strength that you will carry always. You will find a way to pay for school, a car, living expenses, and manage to save a bundle, all while taking a full load of classes and two internships. This work ethic is more valuable than the schooling itself, so stop worrying about the scores and keep pushing on.

“Rotten Egg” note to self: After you discover $5 pizzas, freshman year, and your dream guy asks you on a date, DO NOT squeeze into those black corduroy pants! You will regret bending down. Buttons will pop and tearing sounds will haunt you. He’ll still marry you, though, shameless appetite and all.

“Caramel Corn” career Follow your dreams and don’t settle. Even if you don’t get the job you were hoping right away, don’t stop until you do what you love. The money will come when you don’t give up—work hard and plan your dream into reality. You are worthy, so don’t ever let any manager speak down to you, ever!

“Dead Fish” note to self: You don’t make a good first impression by going cross-eyed and bobble-head sleeping during your first Board of Directors meeting. Your boss WILL take a picture. Get more sleep!

“Strawberry Banana Smoothie” marriage Don’t worry about everything being perfect on your wedding day because the unexpected will undoubtedly happen. Enjoy every second of your special day, soak it all in, and wear flats instead of those fancy high heels. Marriage is incredible and also takes work. Be honest and respectful always. Never go to bed angry. Stop being so stubborn, and admit when you’re a pain and apologize. Don’t forget to keep it hot—less flannel pyjamas and more slinky things, even on “fat” days. He always thinks your sexy, so stop worrying about that post-broccoli bloatation.

“Baby Wipes” note to self: When tensions rise, feed him or let him nap immediately! The hungry and tired combo is lethal.

Peach” pregnancy Being pregnant is awkward, uncomfortable, tiring, nauseating, and also such an incredible and miraculous blessing. Enjoy every second, because when you’re truly done having kids, you’ll know it—and then you’ll feel old. After each baby, don’t self-shame over your awkward figure for a while. Your body will need time to heal and your emotions time to settle before you get the proper portion and over-carbing issue in check. Give yourself a full year to get back into your pre-preggo body. When it’s time to have each baby, don’t be stubborn—listen to your body and your instincts. Sometimes, your intuition is far greater than a nurse’s or doctor’s assumption.

“Toothpaste” note to self: You don’t need to eat the entire cake, the scale doesn’t lie.

“Berry Blue” mom Being a first time mom is hard. You will be so tired. You will have a hard time asking for help. Sleep more and recharge. You are NOT a machine. Don’t over-sanitize everything—pass around the baby more. Stop micro-managing and let others find their own way. Opinions are just that, opinions—take them or leave them. Don’t use pantry-prowling and shovelling food in your face as an excuse for a break. Remember that when your child melts down, don’t crumble with her. Be the calm in her storm. Be the confident and compassionate one until the dark clouds clear. It is the only way. When the kids argue, let them. Don’t always try and fix everything, it is not your battle. Give them the tools to repair, heal, and step away. Learn from them, as they have so much to teach you.

“Skunk Spray” note to self: Enjoy bringing your baby to the supermarket because when they’re all in school, you won’t have anyone to blame when you pass gas. 

“Lime” back to ME time Having a free moment once all kids are in school will feel strange and will take some time before you stop looking over your shoulder or automatically opening all of the car doors every time you get in or out of the minivan. Take the time to find yourself again. Pursue your true dreams in the few hours you have—you will be surprised by how fast it happens. Wear your body like a badge of honor—you did create four miracles with it. You are not perfect and don’t need to pretend to be. Be real. Be honest. Be selfless and kind, and teach your children the same. They are always watching. Don’t live with guilt or regret. Do what you love and show others how much you appreciate and love them. “You are your own perfect imperfection.”

“Booger” note to self: Really try and get more sleep because your wide-gapped mouth will appear both frightening and morbid when you fall asleep in the passenger seat or airplane. Even though it’s the law of gravity, people WILL stare, take pictures, point, and laugh.

Enjoy the journey and keep learning. Even in the moments that may taste like “canned dog food” or “lawn clippings,” you never know what you’re going to get.

Take every moment with patience, open-mindedness, and willingness to understand—and always remember to laugh, hug, and find thankfulness in any situation.

Remember, it’s not about the flavor of the bean that your dealt with, but rather the experience, the laughter, and the company that makes it all worth while during the game.

With Love,

Ruthi

Photo: Ruthi Davis Photography

Ruthi Davis is a the Founder of Ruth Davis Consulting LLC with over two decades of success in advertising/marketing, media/publicity, business development, client relations, and organizational optimization for a variety of clients. Ruthi is a proud mom and influencer in the parenting and family market as founder of the Superfly Supermom brand.

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Dear Mama,

Here we are. In this life of raising littles. We can look at one another with the same weary smile and “get” what the other is feeling. We know the struggle between needing alone time and feeling guilty for taking it. We are all too familiar with the frustrations of our kids NOT getting the hang of potty training, and feeling teary-eyed at their newfound independence. We ask ourselves day after day amidst the sweeping, wiping, and PB&J-making if we nurtured their little hearts. Did we model Jesus to them?

Still, there you are with your growing pregnant belly, asking me how in the world I do it with three? (I may not be expecting, but trust me, I still wonder how those other moms do it with 4 or 5!) I just have to say that you will. You totally will. And dare I say that it will be easier for you than it was when you only had one.

I mean, you have already made it through the toddler years with one of them. You are pretty much smack dab in the middle of them again with your second. You have mastered multitasking. You know that you can’t leave home without snacks and extra clothes. You already know which sippy cups leak all over the place and which two brands are even worth the cash. You know what to do for crying, gas, teething, sleep regressions, growth spurts, etc. You know that a pacifier right after birth is NOT the end of the world and that your newborn’s heartbeat is actually supposed to be super fast. You can function throughout the day on little sleep with coffee, naptime, and Little Einsteins.

I think what I am trying to say is logistically three littles might be harder, but you are also better.

The past five years do count for something you know. Remember how you made it through things like NICU stays, colic, moving, living far away from family, nursing, sickness while raising your family, loss, travel, preschool, and potty training? Just to name a few. Plus, how many doubts, fears, and insecurities have you already overcome as a mother and woman? The things that you used to be so unsure about, or had caused you unnecessary stress, or made you question yourself or your capabilities as a mother that now hardly cross your mind. Those changes are huge.

You are no longer navigating the newborn and new mother stage at the same time. You will be welcoming a new little life into a family that has grown up together. You will get to mother this new babe as a mother who has already overcome, experienced and learned so much. You’ll pay closer attention to the fleeting moments, and worry less about the to-do list.

You will figure out how it works best to make trips with three instead of two. You will learn how to give your older two the attention and love they need while attending to the needs of a new baby. You will “get it all done” because it is just what you do. Even if you don’t realize it, it is what you already do every single day.

So that’s it, friend. You are better at doing what you already do. That’s how you will do it when baby three comes along.

My only advice is to definitely drop the guilt about taking some time for yourself.

With love & solidarity,

—Another Mama of Three

This post originally appeared on Choosing Grace Blog.

Our family moved from the Chicago subrubs to rural Western Michigan to pursure our dream of homesteading. We're learning together as we homeschool our three daughters. I am passionate about thriving despite autoimmune disease, and encouraging other mamas. I serve on the editorial team at www.kindreddmom.com and write at www.choosinggraceblog.com

Being a first time mom can be a nerve-wracking experience with more questions than answers, but now expectant moms have somewhere to turn––Danielle Fisher’s new Netflix series A Little Bit Pregnant.

The Orange Is the New Black star is back with a brand new Netflix series that helps answer all the questions that are on parents’ minds as they prepare to have their first baby. “This is all you need to know: Netflix Family YouTube series A Little Bit Pregnant,” Brooks says in the promo video below, showing off her baby bump. “Actually, I’m a lotta bit pregnant.”

The four-part series made up of eight to ten-minute episodes will follow on Brooks’ pregnancy journey as well as dispelling common myths about pregnancy and the postpartum period. “Doulas, midwives, experts—I’m gonna be talking to them all. First up: my baby shower,” Brooks says.

The promo video also reveals the gender of Brooks baby. The cannon full of pink confetti is a clear sign that the excited mom will be welcoming a girl.

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There will also be a special episode that addresses questions specifically for expectant dads. The series will be available to watch on the Netflix Family YouTube channel as well as the  Netflix Family social media channels. The series will premiere in November.

—Shahrzad Warkentin

Featured photo: Danielle Brooks via Instagram

 

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You did it! You’ve crossed the finish line that is the end of summer and are sending your kiddos back to school. Whether you’re a first-time mom who’s wiping away a few tears or a seasoned parent cheering in celebration, here are a handful of tweets that are all about this most wonderful time of the year.

 

1. Maybe next year.

2. And a three, four…

3. Asking for a friend.

4. There will always be glitter.

5. Oh, happy day!

6. Happy birthday to ME!

7. Yes, yes you do.

8. Truth.

9. But they look so cute!

10. 🙌

11. Enjoy it while it lasts, kids.

12. Let’s DO THIS.

13. Off to a great start!

14. What? That’s not normal?

15. So. Much.Labeling.

 

––Karly Wood

 

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Being a newly minted parent anywhere comes with a specific set of challenges (i.e. changing poopy diapers in the dark). But for brand new moms in the DMV, things can get particularly complicated. From maneuvering traffic on the Beltway with a fussy baby in tow to scoring mommy-and-me time that’s not in the middle of a tourist crush, here’s how to make being a first time mom—by way of D.C.—a piece of (smash) cake.

Photo: Tzuhsun Hsu via Flickr

1. You don’t have to cancel your gym membership. MINT Dupont, known for its bright and airy layout, is one of the many local gyms to start offering baby-care (in an equally bright and airy play room). For mamas and papas at MINT with a Family membership ($237 per month with classes or $157 without classes), the service is free and starts at four months old. If you’re an individual member, childcare costs $10 for 90 minutes, which is plenty of time for a serious sweat session, or you can add unlimited childcare for an extra $30 per month. 1724 California St., NW, Dupont Circle

2. Some movie theaters actually want you to bring your newborn. At least the Angelika in Fairfax’s Mosaic District does (on Mondays at 11 am for $8). Angelika’s Crybaby Matinee lets you relax and enjoy grown-up films like Fifty Shades Freed, without worrying about unexpected tantrums or feedings in the dark. Lights are dimmed, the volume stays low, and there’s even a changing table in the back of the theater.  2911 District Ave., Fairfax, Va

 

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3. Infants—even crying ones—are welcomed at the library. D.C.’s public libraries are chock full of great early literacy programs for itty bittys. There is a 20-minute baby story time at Mt. Pleasant Neighborhood Library, which caters to just-borns through one-year-olds with interactive lapsit time full of songs, rhymes and super-short stories. If your little one gets fussy, it’s all good—their new baby BFF’s have been there and understand. 3160 16th St., NW, Columbia Heights 

4. Three words: Nordstrom’s. Women’s. Lounge. The Nordstrom’s located in Tyson’s Corner Mall is outfitted with a spiffy women’s room that is a haven for breast feeding mamas who prefer privacy. The clean, plush lounge area (outside of the restroom) comes with cozy chairs just for nursing mothers, and is a perfectly peaceful spot for feeding or just taking a chill out moment from the hustle and bustle of the mall. 8075 Tyson’s Corner Ctr., McLean, Va

5. The DC Urban Moms and Dads forum will save you hours of research. You pose a question—about what to do when baby can’t sleep, won’t eat, or whatever—and receive a slew of responses from other parents within a day. It’s really that easy.

Photo: Jonah’s Treehouse via Facebook

6. Indoor play spaces aren’t just for older kiddos. At Kidville babies rule the roost. Gym classes for kids under 12 months focus on free climbing and interactive play. Babies and toddlers stay close to their grown-ups as they navigate mazes, crawl through tunnels, and dance until they’re all tuckered out. 4825 Bethesda Ave., Bethesda, Md

7. You won’t get the stink eye if you order a beer at Comet Ping Pong with baby in tow. The hipster-heavy pizza parlor is a favorite for families with babies and young kids. The thin crust pies are tasty, the beer line-up is extensive, and there’s table tennis galore. 5037 Connecticut Ave., NW, Chevy Chase

8. A good night’s sleep is a phone call away. If you’re desperately seeking a full eight hours of shut eye, contact Hush Hush Little Baby. The local company offers registered baby nurses for overnight care and baby sleep consultations.

Photo: Wee-Sale Children’s Consignment Sale via Facebook

9. You don’t have to spend all of your savings on baby clothes. Sure, you get a slew of clothes at your shower for newborns, but what about month 3 and 9 and 12. Kids grow like weeds, but there’s no reason to pay full price for cool threads. Wee-Sale is a GINORMOUS seasonal consignment sale in Maryland that stocks gymnasium amounts of gently used and brand name baby gear. It’s also one of the most organized consignment sales we’ve ever witnessed.

10. Get your java fix on the go. The weather’s bad. You’ve got a fussy babe. You’re still in your pajamas. Make scoring a fresh cup of coffee a breeze by pulling up to one of the D.C.-area’s drive-thru coffeehouses. Zu Coffee in Annapolis, Maryland has a kicky Orange Cappuccino that’s a must-try. And, ye olde standby Starbucks now has a drive-up location in Alexandria (with super chipper baristas, to boot).

11. Find plenty of breastfeeding support. If you’re looking for parenting and breastfeeding support you’ll find new BFFs (breastfeeding friends!) at the Breastfeeding Center for Greater Washington. The center is committed to providing expert-led, free and low-cost classes and private consultations to help make your breastfeeding experience successful. Take advantage of their breastfeeding boutique, off-site classes, nursing lounge and milk depot.

Photo: Intel Free Press via flickr

12. Get free, expert help installing your child’s car seat. You can rest assured that you’ve checked all the safety boxes by letting experts inspect the installation of your child’s car seat. The District Dept. of Transportation offers free car seat inspections as a courtesy to all residents. By appointment, Mon.-Fri. 9am to 3pm. 55 M St., SE Suite 400.

13. Dance at the zoo. If there’s anything kids love more than music and animals, we don’t know what it is. The Zoo Tunes program at the National Zoo lets toddlers bop around to animal-themed tunes, explore musical instruments and listen to a story. It’s the perfect way for you and your tot to spend a weekday morning. Plus, after class, you can stroll through the zoo. Thursday and Friday mornings at 10 a.m. 3001 Connecticut Ave. (Woodley Park)

14. Enjoy a kid-friendly hotel staycation. If you want to get away without the bother of planes, trains, or automobiles, take a staycation at The Darcy, DC’s kid-friendliest hotel. Check in begins with chocolate cookies and Oreo ice cream sandwiches for the kids, plus a Jameson ice cream sandwich for you (nice!). Before you head out to see the sights, grab your complimentary themed backpack filled with activities related to DC’s major attractions. 1515 Rhode Island Ave., NW.

15. Parents Day Out classes are the truth. You may not be ready for your bambino to go to a daycare every day or for a regular nanny. But, you’d love a morning or two a week to do grown-up things like laundry, doctor appointments…or, wash your hair in peace. Enter Parents Day Out classes, which are offered at many daycares and preschools around the district. Your best bet is to do a Google search and schedule a tour. Your scalp deserves it.

—Jamy Bond and Ayren Jackson-Cannady

 

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Introducing your little one to their first foods can be an exciting, yet nerve-racking adventure. How do I start? What do I feed my baby? Which first foods are best? Do I still breastfeed her? How often? How thick or thin does the food need to be? What nutrients does she need? What if she has an allergic reaction? A million and one questions about starting solids are probably buzzing through your brain right now. I get it.

As a first-time mom, these same questions kept me up at night. Amid all the uncertainty circling through my head, however, I knew 2 things for sure: 1) I wanted to feed my baby the best food out there in order to give her the best start in life and 2) I didn’t want to make it myself (hence the reason we have Once Upon a Farm today, but that’s a story for another day)!

With lots of trial and error…LOTS, we figured it out and I was able to set my little one up for a lifetime of healthy eating from the very first bite. For you moms and dads in this tricky territory for the first time, here’s what I’ve learned throughout my journey of motherhood, including my top 5 tips for starting solids!

Variety is Key When Starting Solids

The collective conversation around starting solids used to be that you need to start your baby off with one food at a time, preferably veggies, moving later to fruits. While the importance of feeding babies a variety of fresh foods holds true today, starting them on one food at a time and waiting a few days before introducing another, however, does not. You can feed them carrots on day one and mango on day two if you want!

The key to having a lover of fruits and veggies is to give your babe a variety of options including all types of fruits and veggies with lots of different flavors and textures early on. Although people may tell you that you must start with veggies, starting your baby on fruit does not mean they’re going to be adverse or despise veggies later on. Variety is key, so feel free to give them fruits and veggies either together or separately. There is room to play. In fact, research has shown vegetable acceptance to be improved when paired with fruits! (1) And don’t give up if you get a “NO WAY, closed mouth, I’m not eating that” reaction. It can take up to 10-15 times for a baby to become accustomed to eating a certain food, so keep on truckin’! (2)

The most important thing to remember when starting solids is VARIETY. Expose your little loves to lots of different foods and flavors to expand their palates and start a love of food early on.

Don’t Give Up

Lots of parents will give up after a few tries when starting solids and conclude that “my baby doesn’t like that” if their baby refuses to eat something. Remember, that’s not necessarily the case. It can take multiple attempts at feeding a new food (and trying at different times of the day) before your baby will like it. Keep trying and don’t give up! Just because they make a “sour” face doesn’t mean they don’t like the food. It’s new and something they’re getting used to, so keep introducing it. If after 10-15 times they still say no, you can probably confidently conclude they don’t like it… for now.

If they seem to scrunch their nose and close their mouth in response to that yummy green veggie you present to them, remember to make feeding fun. My littles always love when food becomes an airplane flying to come in for a landing or when they themselves become a “shark” who has to eat all the little fishies on their plate. The possibilities are endless if you let your imagination soar a bit.

Develop a Routine

Have a routine around eating and START EARLY. Habits are easier to form early on so if you want your kids to love sitting down at the dinner table when they’re older, start now! Pull that highchair right up to the table, sit down with them and feed from a spoon. When they’re ready to feed themselves, the pouch is the perfect way to let them experiment with and learn how to do that.

Bring on the Nut Butters!

Peanut butter at 5 months!? Yep! Long gone are the days of avoidance when starting solids.

The AAP recommends that infants as young as 4 months of age get exposed to allergens early on to prevent allergies later in life. The statistics are astonishing. In the Learning Early About Peanut (LEAP) study, infants who showed only a mild allergy and infants that had an absence of an allergy were exposed to peanuts between 4-6 months of age and both groups showed a decreased presence of allergies at 5 years old. (3)

For the study, there were two groups of babies and each group was split into two. Group 1 babies showed no indication of allergies using a skin test. Group 2 babies did show a mild indication of allergies according to the skin test (babies with severe allergies were excluded from the study). At 4-6 months of age, both groups were randomly split in half. Half of each group was exposed to peanut butter and half of each group had no exposure to peanuts.

In the group that showed an absence of allergies at 4-6 months and was EXPOSED to peanut butter, only 1.9% tested positive for allergies at age 5. The other half of this “no allergy” group that AVOIDED peanut butter showed a 13.7% prevalence of allergies at age 5. In the group that originally showed mild signs of allergies at 4-6 months and was EXPOSED to peanut butter, only 10.6% still had allergies at 5 years old. The half of this “positive allergy” group that AVOIDED peanuts showed a 35.3% prevalence at age 5. A huge difference! (4)

So, not only are you setting up your little one for a lifetime of healthy eating by giving them nut butters,  you are also giving them excellent nutrition and helping them feel satisfied for longer (nut butters are a good source of protein and good fats) while helping to fend of nut allergies. (5)

Incorporate Different Textures

We’ve covered how important different flavors are, but different textures are equally as important when starting solids! (6) What your baby eats now will likely be what they prefer later on, so exposing them to textures (thin, medium, thick, semi-chunky, chunky) is a GOOD thing. Baby food should not be all the same. Save the bigger chunks, and more textured or chewy foods for when they are around 9+ months (stage 3) to 12+ months (stage 4) and always make sure to talk to your pediatrician to ensure they’re ready for more textures. Every baby is different.

Lastly, listen to your parent wisdom when feeding. It’s in there, but sometimes it can get lost with all the external information we are bombarded with. I am a firm believer that Mama always knows best, so stick to your gut and have fun!

As a recap, see below for a brief Q&A for starting solids!

  • How do I start?
    • When your little one starts showing signs of being ready for solids (typically around 5-6 months), you can start with pureed or mashed fruits and veggies!
  • What do I feed my baby?
    • Variety is key here. Whether you start with fruits or veggies, make sure to mix it up so they become accustomed to a variety of foods.
  • Which first foods are best?
    • I started my kiddos with organic avocado, sweet potato and butternut squash as they’re nutrient dense, easy to mash and yummy, but you can start with any fruit or veggie!
  • Do I still breastfeed? If so, how often?
    • It’s up to you. I breastfed until my little ones were about 18 months old. They naturally ate more solids as they gold older and I naturally started to breastfeed less.
  • How thick or thing does food need to be?
    • Start with thinner purees and gradually work up to more textured or “chunky” blends when ready (we add chewy/textured ingredients to our Stage 3 organic baby food blends to promote oral and motor development).
  • What nutrients do they need?
    • Some of the most important nutrients for growing babies are calcium, fat, folate, iron, zinc, b-vitamins, protein and carbohydrates.
  • What if they have an allergic reaction?
    • Always check with your pediatrician, but the AAP recommends that infants as young as 4 months of age get exposed to allergens early on now to prevent allergies later in life. I know that can be a scary introduction, so if you’re worried about it, you can bring nut butters to your next pediatrician appointment and introduce them there. If your little one has an allergic reaction to any of the foods you introduce, call your pediatrician right away.

*** The advice provided in this article is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical diagnosis, advice or treatment for specific medical conditions. Always consult a pediatrician to understand the individual needs of your child. 

Sources:

  1. Havermans RC and Jansen A. 2007. Increasing children’s liking of vegetables through flavour-flavour learning. Appetite. 48(2):259-62.
  2. Mennella JA, Nicklaus S, Jagolino AL, and Yourshaw LM. 2008. Variety is the spice of life: strategies for promoting fruit and vegetable acceptance during infancy. Physiol Behav. 94(1):29-38.
  3. “Randomized Trial of Peanut Consumption in Infants at Risk for Peanut Allergy | NEJM.” New England Journal of Medicine, Oxford University Press, nejm.org/doi/full/10.1056/NEJMoa1414850.
  4. Sicherer, Scott H. “New Guidelines Detail Use of ‘Infant-Safe’ Peanut to Prevent Allergy.” AAP Gateway, American Academy of Pediatrics, 16 May 2018, www.aappublications.org/news/2017/01/05/PeanutAllergy010517.
  5. “Going Nuts – For Nut and Seed Butters, That Is.” Today’s Dietitian, www.todaysdietitian.com/newarchives/090313p64.shtml.
  6. Forestell CA and Mennella JA. 2007. Early determinants of fruit and vegetable acceptance. Pediatrics 120(6):1247-1254.
This post originally appeared on OnceUponaFarmOrganics.com.

As a mother of three and Co-Founder and Chief Innovation Officer of Once Upon A Farm, I’m helping change the landscape of childhood nutrition by creating high quality, farm-fresh recipes for kids of all ages. Our organic, cold-pressed baby food, applesauce and smoothies are as fresh as it gets without parents making it themselves. 

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Anxious About Our 2nd Kid and My Husband’s Fledging Business

My occupation: social media strategist
My partner’s occupation: self-employed. A year ago he left his corporate job to start his own design firm.
Annual household income: $120,000
City: San Francisco
Our ages: 35 (me) and 38 (him)
Childcare costs: part-time $30,000/year under the table
How we found our nanny: a private local mom’s group. One of the moms in the group only needs help in the afternoons so we use her nanny during the morning shift.
Our kid(s) ages: a two-year-old boy with a baby boy due in March

 

Anyone who doesn’t live in the Bay Area will roll your eyes at me, but let’s just get this out of the way: $120,000 household income in San Francisco is small potatoes. Last year my husband left his full-time corporate job to start his own design business. We knew what we were getting into giving up his generous six figure salary, but we had planned for this. For a few years prior we lived frugally knowing the day would come when we’d basically be on one income with one, possibly two kids. Sure enough, our second kid is due in March and we’re trying to navigate how we’ll make it work if my husband’s business doesn’t gain traction. Do we give up the nanny? Do we opt out of preschool? Should we sell our condo and move out of the city (cue my tears)? While we prepared on paper for being a one income family, I still lose sleep over our meager income in probably the most expensive city in the country. But, on the other hand, what pregnant woman actually sleeps well? Kidding…sort of.

Morning

My husband’s been up working answering emails from an east coast client when our son wakes at 7 a.m. When that happens all bets are off—it’s like the road runner invades our house and it’s impossible to get any work done. My son had a rough night and was up at 1 a.m. and again at 3 a.m. with bad dreams—so we’re all extra groggy this morning. As a first time mom, I’m not sure how to quell his bad dreams so we just rock and soothe him until he falls asleep (open to tips here, seasoned mamas). I grab a banana and cup of coffee and feed my son yogurt, sliced apple and a granola bar.

Our nanny arrives at 8 a.m.. She’s with us Mon.-Fri. from 8 a.m.-1 p.m. We pay her $25/hour under the table. Our nanny not only takes our active son out to an activity every day, but she also prepares all his meals and if she has time, straightens up our house. I feel like we got a great deal since she goes above and beyond typical nanny duties. In the city, I found that nannies asked for $23-$30/hour, which was a wide range to consider. We also pay for her monthly Muni (public transport) pass ($70/month), and give her a preloaded debit card for museum outings or for emergencies. We also provide for three weeks of fully paid vacation, but we all try to time it for when we’re both away like over major holidays. She’s in her 60’s with kids and grandkids of her own and has really helped me navigate new parenthood. She’s the one who told me when to transition from two to one nap and was the first to notice his sensitivity to eggs.

Mid-Day

I work remotely at a coffee shop or nearby shared office space. Getting anything done with my son home would be impossible, but I wonder how it’ll be once the baby arrives and I go back to work, but need the privacy to pump (let’s shelve this dilemma for another time because even thinking about being tied to a pump for another year makes me shudder).

Luckily, everything around us is walkable so we can save money on gas and tolls. My husband rides his bike to his business partner’s house two miles away. I spend most of the day working on a deck for a potential client and answering Slack messages, while trying to ignore all my bookmark tabs on preschool research. I never thought that the preschool app process would be harder than the college admissions process. I get home by 12:45 p.m. since our nanny leaves at 1 p.m. My son is on a one-nap schedule and will go down 1-3 p.m. so I’m able to work while he’s sleeping.

Evening

While I’m nervous about being the sole breadwinner with two kids, I have to admit that I love my husband’s flex schedule. He now makes it home by 4 p.m. whereas at his old job, he’d often walk in the door past bedtime. We’ve made it a point to do no-phone family time between 4-7 p.m. and I’ve actually been really good about setting expectations at work that I’ll be offline during that time frame. I love cooking and on the weekends we’ll make a trip to the farmer’s market and cook up meals together. But, on the weekdays it’s all about saving time and honestly, I’m just too tired to do it all on the weekdays.

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We’ve found that with just the three of us, it’s more efficient to subscribe to a meal delivery kit. I’m partial to Good Eggs, but have heard great things about Gobble. Once I take into account the time spent shopping, cooking and washing dishes, meal kits are just worth it for us. While I get dinner ready, my husband will take our son and dog for a walk and by the time they get home our meal is served. My husband will clean up while I play with our son and get him ready for bed. For awhile we were doing everything together—and while sometimes we still do, the whole “divide and conquer” approach works for our family.

Bedtime

Our son is in bed by 7 p.m. We’ll do milk, a quick goodnight to all of my son’s stuffed animals, a story and then lights out by 7:30 p.m. It may be the shift in my husband’s schedule or my son senses his impending sibling, but he has not been sleeping through the night. I’ll usually try to hop online for a couple hours to answer emails and do more preschool research since I feel like I am way behind. But this baby is making me so tired so I’ve been going to bed by 9 p.m. with my husband coming in much later. Our nanny always preps my son’s breakfast so at least I don’t have to worry about that in the morning.

Nighttime

Like I expected, my son is up at midnight and again at 3 a.m. My husband and I take turns going in to soothe him. We never formally slept train him—he’s generally a great sleeper so this is really throwing me for a loop. Is sleep training a two-year old even a thing? He can’t yet communicate fully what is bothering him so we rock him until he calms down. Our nanny said he’s his normal happy self during the day so I’m hoping it’s just a phase. As they say: this too shall pass. Let’s just hope it passes by the time our baby arrives.

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Looking back at my early years as a parent, I probably spent more time getting my daughter ready for our nature walks than we actually spent outside. Weather-appropriate clothes? Check. Glasses? Hat? Sunscreen? Check. Nature scavenger hunt worksheet? Check.

I was a first-time mom and my daughter loved the outdoors, so I wanted to be sure to make the most of it.

Now, 10 years later, as long as I have my keys and a bottle of water we’re good to go. As my daughter matured, so did I. We came to see nature as a full journey, not just a destination. It goes without saying that being outdoors can be restorative to your physical and mental health, but the sheer act of “letting go” adds another layer entirely.

As adults we tend to have trouble allowing our kids to be in charge. We see mistakes and instinctively want to help rather than watch our children suffer or fail. But in nature, the tables are turned. When given the opportunity to explore on their own, children show us just how creative, curious and resourceful they can be…and how much better they are at it than we are.

Walking or hiking without a purpose or plan can open your eyes and mind to things you never saw before. Letting your child take the lead might put you down a path you may not have considered. If you have multiple children, try taking outdoor trips with each child individually so they are free of the constraints of their siblings and can truly be in charge. Here are some tips to get you started.

Offer outdoor time outside of your usual time.

Go out very early in the morning before breakfast and see the early birds starting their day. Take a walk in the late evening with a flashlight and listen closely for owls, frogs and crickets.

Stand behind your child and say “I’ll follow you.”

Let them decide which fork to take. Let them choose what feels right to them. (If you’re in a city or state park, be sure to stay on marked trails so vegetation isn’t disturbed). You can quietly be alert to where you are, but to your child you can “play dumb” and act like they’re completely in charge of choosing the adventure.

Allow time to loiter.

If your child decides to spend 20 minutes counting ants, so be it. A child-led walk or hike should have no deadlines or time constraints.

Be prepared for collecting.

Most kids are willing to haul the whole forest home in their pockets, so bring a small bag to gather pine cones, leaves and rocks.

Go out in the rain or snow.

Bad weather? Great day for a walk! Rain and mud wash off, but those squishy memories will last a lifetime.

Choose your words.

Help your child foster awareness by encouraging them to problem solve. If they find themselves in a tough spot, ask thoughtful questions instead of offering solutions, such as “What can you use to help you climb down?” or “How do you plan to get back after you cross the stream?”

With time and trust, our youngsters will naturally become more resourceful, thoughtful and respectful of the world around them. And with a little luck, we might just learn a thing or two as well.

Maggie and her family roost in the Pacific Northwest and share their travels, homeschool field trips, curriculum ideas and lifest‌yle tips from a city-based homestead. Maggie is a cooking enthusiast and avid student of history and science. She's also mother to an "old soul" tween daughter.