Ask a little girl what they want to be when they grow up and you’ll get a variety of answers, many of them similar—fireman, dancer, doctor, singer, pilot, maybe a mommy or a police officer. You’d probably rarely hear the word entrepreneur. You might hear CEO.

Not every girl will want to grow up and start her own business. But the skills and concepts kids learn from entrepreneurship at a young age can help prepare them for whatever path they choose in the future.

If you have a young girl in your life—a daughter, niece, sibling or friend—you may see certain characteristics that may make you think, “This kid is going to be in charge someday—of something.” Entrepreneurs come in all shapes, sizes, temperaments and personalities, of course, but many have similar traits in common.

If you spot these in a young girl, they are good traits to encourage and develop.

She’s a natural leader.

Natural leaders aren’t always just telling other people what to do, and even kids who seem shy may have leadership tendencies. Leadership attributes can look different in each individual. Your daughter may have a knack at assembling a team of people and getting a group project done. She may be able to easily identify someone’s skills and match them up with the perfect task.

Maybe she’s someone who marches to the beat of her own drum or would rather blaze her own trail than follow the crowd. All of these things point to signs that she’s a natural leader.

She’s willing to take risks.

We’re not talking about being risky for the sake of being a daredevil here—the kid who climbs the tallest tree at the park or wants to ski the black diamond runs before she’s ready is not going to necessarily start her own business by 17.

But a girl who’s not averse to starting conversations with adults, speaking her mind with confidence, talking in front of a group about her passions or spending money to make money (e.g. allowance money for lemonade stand supplies) may show signs she’s willing to step out of her comfort zone when there may be a payoff. In fact, taking a risk may be a lot more attractive to her than playing it safe.

She’s doesn’t label herself.

It’s natural for people to want to categorize themselves, kind of as a way to say, “Here’s where I fit in,” “I want to help people, so I want to be a nurse,” or “I want to work with kids, so I want to be a teacher”—these are normal things you might hear a kid say when asked what they want to be when they grow up.

Natural entrepreneurs may not think that way, however—they may not be looking for a place to fit in as much as a way to stand out. If your child hems and haws when she’s asked, “What do you want to be someday?” don’t take that as a negative sign. It could be that she wants to create her own place in the world.

She’s self-motivated and driven.

Maybe you rarely have to ask about homework because she often has it done before you even get the chance. Or maybe she took it upon herself to start learning a second language or some other skill simply because she’s interested, not because she has to.

Is her list of extracurricular activities longer than either you or she has time for? Natural-born entrepreneurs are often driven to go beyond the status quo and have ambition to accomplish and do more than what’s expected.

She problem-solves.

The Warren sisters—Lilly, Chloe and Sophie—started their company, Sweet Bee Sisters, when they realized that their parents’ beehives were not going to produce enough honey to sell, only enough for their family and maybe a few friends. Then they noticed the beeswax. Could that be worth something? They did some research, started producing lip balm, and have since expanded their product line to include lotions and sugar scrubs.

This is a perfect example of problem solving: Honey wasn’t going to make them much money, but another byproduct of the bees certainly could. If you know a young girl who thinks less in terms of “we have a problem” but more with the mindset, “let’s find a solution,” she may be born to be a business owner.

This isn’t an exhaustive list. And we’re not saying if your daughter doesn’t have these traits, she won’t be an entrepreneur. These are simply traits that might suggest you have a budding future business owner on your hands.

Nurture them. Encourage her. And let her know that, above all, she’s capable.

Sometimes that’s all a girl needs to hear to get the wheels in her head spinning with possibilities.

This post originally appeared on The Startup Squad.

I've always built businesses, from a childhood gummy bear business to adult gigs at IMAX and Coupons.com. I founded The Startup Squad to help girls reach their potential and my book series, The Startup Squad, is published by Macmillan. I live in Silicon Valley with my wife and two daughters.

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Moms and dads, start your engines—literally. It’s just about time to load up the car and start moving those boxes of cookies that fans clamor for year after year, right around this time. 

With visions of shortbread, chocolate mint wafers, peanut butter crème and caramel-y goodness dancing in your head, you might be thinking, “How do we get rid of all these boxes and pronto?” At the same time, we’d encourage you to use this season as a way to bond with your daughter, help her learn important life lessons and create memories that’ll last a lifetime. 

The Startup Squad created some awesome tips and great ideas for your daughter, to help her become the best little entrepreneur she can be. To make it easy, we’ve created a convenient cookie-selling tip sheet for her that you can download and review with her here. For all the the parents of Girl Scouts, here are 5 tips to support your salesgirl in training:

Teach your daughter how to speak with confidence. Even if she’s a raging 10 on the extrovert scale, she still may need a few pointers on how to speak confidently with strangers—especially adults and especially the ones she’s asking for money.

“Look people in the eye when you’re speaking to them.”

“Talk loud enough for them to hear you.”

“Speak clearly.”

“Don’t fidget or dance around too much; stand still while you’re talking.”

“Be prepared for what you’d like to say.”

You could even roleplay with your daughter, giving her a chance to practice on you or other family members. That might make her feel more comfortable when she’s ready for the real selling to begin.

Help her think outside the cookie box. By this, we mean brainstorm selling points with her that’ll motivate customers to buy more boxes, so she’s ready to sell more than just the cookies themselves. Sure, most people love cookies. But there might be other reasons people would be willing to support her and her troupe, as well. Where does the money go? And why cookies—how did this tradition originate and what’s the story behind it? What are her goals and how can she talk about them as she’s selling? People are often motivated to buy cookies because, well, they’re good. But beyond that, they may be motivated by an emotional pull or to support a cause. Help your daughter verbalize what that cause is and how she can communicate it succinctly to customers.

Let her “own” her business. It’s so easy to want to step in and do it for her, right? Making the signs or posters, talking to potential customers, setting up a display, helping her write an elevator or sales pitch. But when you take an approach that’s too hands-on, you rob your daughter of the opportunity to learn and grow in valuable life skills. Of course, she needs you for things like spreading the word on social media or helping to carry boxes or just supervising her overall efforts—but for the things that she can do, let her. Even if it means facing a little failure in the process. Learning to fail, then get back up and start again is one of the most important life skills anyone can learn.

Look for teachable moments. If she’s set a goal that she’s in danger of missing, talk about how to pivot and take a different approach or maybe reset her goal to be more attainable. If she’s constantly comparing herself to other girls and measuring her success against theirs, it might be a moment to discuss self-worth and learning to be content with her own strengths and abilities. Or maybe she really wants to sell cookies, but she doesn’t want to talk to people—that’s a great time to introduce her to the concept of stepping out of her comfort zone and pushing herself. Be aware of how she’s feeling, what issues she’s wrestling with and how you can use those things to see the bigger picture and learn important and memorable lessons along the way.

Have fun. You’re selling cookies—how fun is that?! This is a great opportunity to connect with your daughter in a meaningful way while enjoying the chance to do something fun with her, support her and watch her become a strong, confident, considerate young lady. Embrace the process, however imperfect. Put down your phone and give her your full attention. And know this time is precious—it won’t last forever and one day, she’ll crave more independent opportunities where you become her cheerleader on the side while she ventures down her own path. You have an opportunity now to invest in your relationship in a unique way. Have fun doing so.

Happy selling and may you savor every cookie crumb along the journey.

This post originally appeared on The Startup Squad Blog.

I've always built businesses, from a childhood gummy bear business to adult gigs at IMAX and Coupons.com. I founded The Startup Squad to help girls reach their potential and my book series, The Startup Squad, is published by Macmillan. I live in Silicon Valley with my wife and two daughters.

Idina Menzel, the Broadway star and voice of Elsa in Frozen and Frozen II, along with SB Projects, has just launched a brand-new kids series on YouTube called Idina’s Treehouse, and she films it in her son’s real treehouse! She reads books like The Day the Crayons Quit, chats with friends like Farmer Scott and Mrs. Roper, talks about words of the day with Aunt Cara and sings in that famous Elsa voice that’ll have the whole family wanting to listen.

Kids need meaningful connections even more these days, and parents need a break. Menzel says, “Just something I started working on during quarantine. Hope you all like it. In search of a little peace and quiet during the lockdown and stressful homeschooling I took refuge in my son Walker’s treehouse. Started talking and singing to myself. Delirium? Stir crazy? Mother gone mad? I offer up myself for your children’s amusement. Love you all. Hope you enjoy. Xoxo”

Follow Idina’s Treehouse on social: YouTube, Instagram Twitter Facebook, and watch the premiere episode by scrolling down!

—Gabby Cullen

Feature image: Instagram

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It’s the same song and dance every year: My husband asks what I want for Christmas or my birthday, and poof! All ideas disappear from my brain. We all know that solid gift ideas help people buy things we ACTUALLY will love and enjoy, so here are 9 great products to ask for.


1

Leather Zip-Top Transport Tote

Stylish & efficient on the go

$188

This leather tote bag is a bestseller and for good reason: It's big enough for all of Mom's essentials, while being beautifully crafted. If you're going to use something every day, it might as well be gorgeous.

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2

HomeChef Meal Subscription

Time is the best gift of all!

$6.99

Mom's work is never ending. Maybe the very best gift of all is simply taking something off your plate! A meal subscription service would be an amazing gift.

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3

AirPods Pro

The best sound with no wires

$219

Christmas is the best time to treat yourself! Ask for the newest pro version of Apple's AirPods, so you can enjoy your favorite music at the ultimate highest quality - with no wires!

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4

Barefoot Dreams Cozy Cardigan

The internet won't stop talking about this blanket aka cardigan

$116

Women everywhere are talking about this cardigan! It's essentially a blanket that's socially acceptable to wear in public. Sounds absolutely perfect!

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5

Clever Fox Planner

Help organize the chaos and plan big goals

$24.99

After researching all the planners out there, I chose this one- and it transformed my year.

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6

At-Home Professional Teeth Whitening

Professional treatments at home for a fraction of the price

$34.95

I will never find the time or money for whitening in a dentist's office. This is a sensitive, dentist-recommended formula that can be done on your own time in your own home!

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7

Silk Pillowcases

Lay your head on luxury

$59 BUY NOW

Perhaps the most luxurious way to make a bed, silk pillowcases instantly lift your mood and prepare you for an amazing night's sleep.

8

Black Stone Essential Oil Diffuser

A gorgeous oil diffuser

$119

Indulge in a beautiful oil diffuser that adds to your home's style, instead of distracting with cheap plastic.

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9

Faux Rabbit Fur Blanket

Cozy up this winter

$29.99 BUY NOW

This is my favorite blanket- it's slightly weighted due to the faux fur fabric, and so lusciously soft.

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For generations of kids, parents, and grandparents, Thomas the Tank Engine has been a fixture of storytelling and play that they’ve grown up with and passed along. This year marks the 75th anniversary of Thomas & Friends and the Fisher-Price Thomas & Friends Talking Thomas & Percy Train Set is perfect for little engineers ages 3 and up. It comes ready-to-run with more than 35 pieces of track and accessories. Thomas and Percy are both motorized —powered by included AAA batteries—and recognize each other on their adventures. They’re best friends, so they like to stop and chat about their work throughout the day. Sometimes they’ll simply exchange a cheery “hello, friend,” while other conversations might be longer and delve into where they’re headed and what they’re up to.

Read the full review on thetoyinsider.com, and check out the Toy Insider’s full Holiday Gift Guide to see the top picks of the hottest toys this holiday season!

The Toy Insider is the go-to source for product information and the latest news about children's toys, tech, and entertainment. Its team of toy experts publishes two annual gift guides—one for summer and one for holiday—and reviews toys 365 days a year on thetoyinsider.com, a trusted resource for parents. 

The holidays are on the way––how’s your wish list shopping going? To help parents find the hottest toys this year, shopDisney has revealed the 2020 Top 15 Holiday Toys list.

For the third year in a row, Disney is sharing the best holiday gifts for families and super fans and this year’s list includes inspiration from The Mandalorian, Marvel, Frozen 2 and more. You can already shop 13 out of all the top gifts, with two super hot toys releasing Oct. 26.

photo: shopDisney.com

So who made the list? You can check out the top toys below:

 

Arendelle Castle Play Set– $139.95

Buzz Lightyear, Woody and Toy Story Alien Interactive Talking Action Figures ($32.95 each)

Mickey Mouse House Play Set ($69.99)

Disney Animators’ 5″ Doll Set ($99.99)

Mack Friction Motor Hauler and Six Die Cast Cars Set ($79.99)

Disney Princess Cinderella Carriage *Includes 11″ Cinderella doll ($79.99)

Disney Princess Classic Doll Collection Gift Set – 11” ($129.99)

Beauty and the Beast ”Be Our Guest” Singing Tea Cart Play Set ($49.95)

Disney Frozen and Disney Frozen 2 Mega Figurine Set ($49.99)

Minnie Mouse Sweet Treats Stand Play Set ($79.99)

Star Wars: The Mandalorian Talking Action Figure ($32.99)

Vanellope with ”Comfy Princesses” Dolls Gift Set – Disney’s Ralph Breaks the Internet ($119.99)

Disney Animators’ Collection Littles Advent Calendar ($44.99)

Star Wars Exclusive Item – INFO TOP SECRET until October 26. 

Marvel Item – INFO TOP SECRET until October 26.

 

––Karly Wood

 

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During ordinary times, children learn about elections in school, as part of their social studies curriculum. In the United States, the study of democracy and voting typically begins around third grade. However, currently many children are learning at home and, at the same time, we are experiencing a highly contentious presidential contest. When children and teens ask tough questions about the election, parents and caregivers are often at a loss about what to say.

Keep It Simple
Young children need accurate but brief explanations in language they can understand. They need to know how elections work and why this election season is particularly stormy. Older children and teens may be ready to engage in more involved political discussions.

Of course, children also need emotional support from their families when they are feeling confused or worried. As parents and caregivers, our job is to acknowledge and affirm children’s feelings and provide encouragement and a sense of security. That’s a pretty heavy lift these days, but here are some suggestions for how to frame these challenging conversations.

Talking Points: Preschoolers

Young children’s questions will be fairly straightforward.

  • What’s an election?
  • What does vote mean?
  • Why are people voting?

Young children who have not yet learned about elections in school will need simple explanations about how democracy works. These explanations can focus specifically on the presidential election.

  • An election is a way to include many people in making a decision.
  • The election coming up right now is for deciding who will be the next president.
  • Each adult gets one vote. A vote is a chance to say who they think should be president.

It’s not necessary to explain the complexities of the electoral college to preschoolers. It’s fine to say, “The person with the most votes wins the election.”

Reassure your preschooler that elections are a good thing.

  • Sometimes people get upset about elections, especially if they feel really strongly that one person should win.
  • But elections are important. Elections are a way for everyone to have a say in big decisions.

Your preschooler may also enjoy one of these children’s books about elections:

Talking Points: Grade-Schoolers

Grade-schoolers are better able to discuss current events and may be ready to learn more details about how elections work.

For example, your child might ask, “What’s the difference between Democrats and Republicans?” You might offer a simplified explanation such as, “In general, Democrats believe that it is the job of the government to help people and to make rules. Republicans generally believe that individuals should have a lot of freedom to make their own decisions and their own rules.”

Other questions and conversations may be sparked by what children see on the news, in social media, or by listening to political discussions happening around them.

  • Why are people so upset about voting?
  • Why is this election such a big deal?
  • Why do we even have elections if they cause so many problems?

Again, remind children that elections are a good thing.

  • People get upset because they have such strong feelings and opinions.
  • Elections are important. Elections are a way for everyone to participate in democracy.

Give children an opportunity to develop their own opinions and ideas. Ask open-ended questions such as “What do you think about that?” Let them know that it’s okay for people to have different opinions and model that in your family by demonstrating all the ways you listen to each other.

Some recommended kid-friendly news sources include:

Time for Kids Scholastic Kids Press Corps

Talking Points: Preteens & Teens

Older children and teens may have questions about specific issues and how they are related to the election. They may want to talk about social justice or how the COVID-19 pandemic has impacted the election process.

Many children will have questions, spoken or unspoken, about the future.

  • What will happen after the election?
  • What if the candidate I like doesn’t win?
  • Will things ever get better?

Parents and caregivers may have similar questions and doubts. Remember that young people are looking to adults to be supportive role models. It can be helpful to intentionally foster a sense of optimism about the future. The message to convey is that our country has been through hard times before and we will find our way through this.

If your preteen or teen is anxious about the outcome of the election, it might also be helpful to provide some historical context. Remind them that the United States has been having elections for a long time. Change is a process. Consult websites like PBS Learning Media to access a searchable library of videos and articles that demonstrate this long arc of history.

Most preteens and teens get their news from social media, which is a notoriously inaccurate source when it comes to politics and the 2020 election. You can help your preteens and teens develop media literacy by encouraging them to check the credibility of social media postings and candidate claims through sites like FactCheck.org and ProCon.org. Teens may also be interested in apps and digital games related to the election process such as the iCivics game Win the White House.

Next Steps
If your child is asking lots of questions about politics, they may be ready to get involved as a volunteer or activist. One option is Rock the Vote, which uses music to engage teens.

Keep checking in with your child to gauge how they’re feeling and what they’re thinking as we draw closer to election day. Invite conversation with questions like, “How are you feeling about the election coming up? Any thoughts about that?” 

Listen carefully before jumping in with explanations. Take a breath and say, “Tell me more about that.” During this contentious election season, one of the most valuable lessons we can offer our children is modeling how to listen to each other.

Sources
American Psychological Association, “Talking to Children About the Election,” 2016
Common Sense Media, “17 Tips to Steer Kids of All Ages Through the Political Season,” 2018
Cornwall, Gail, “The Right Way to Talk About Politics with Your Kids, According to Experts,” 2020
Parker, Wayne, “Discussing Politics and Elections with Your Children,” 2019

Learn More
Koralek, Derry, and Colker, Laura J., “The Optimistic Parent,” 2020
Gadzikowski, Ann, “Your Family’s Guide to Media Literacy,” 2020
PBS Learning Media, The Election Collection

This post originally appeared on parents.britannica.com.
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Congratulations! Kelly Rowland announced she is expecting a second child with husband Tim Weatherspoon. She revealed the happy news on the November cover of Women’s Health.

Kelly Rowland

“We had been talking about it loosely, and then COVID happened, and we were just like, ‘Let’s see what happens,’” she shared before admitting that she got pregnant right away.

“You still want to remind people that life is important,” she said, “And being able to have a child…I’m knocking at 40’s door in February. Taking care of myself means a lot to me.” 

The new baby will join big brother Titan Jewell.

—Jennifer Swartvagher

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Parenting in the time of coronavirus is like walking a blind dog down a dark alley while wearing sunglasses. There is a lot of bumping into walls, crying, and flailing around, trying to grab hold of something seemingly sturdy or concrete. It’s a whole new type of parenting. Scary, weird, aimless, and sprinkled with impulsive maniacal laughter. Or is that just me?  

The floor has been pulled out from under us. Nothing fits anymore. We are in crisis mode, doing our best but likely letting go of some higher standards we once held when we possessed the time, energy, and wherewithal to enforce them. Frankly, the things we used to fret about, like an early bedtime and a low screen limit, have turned into rules working against us in our utterly unchartered lives. Late bedtimes are in, or rather, no bedtimes. And screen time is more like the best time and, sure, have another hour or two, kiddos. Because what else is there for you to do? All of the stress, confusion, emotional exhaustion, life responsibilities, and oh yeah, the lurking coronavirus threatening every move we make, can cause a parent to feel like a spinning cap trying not to spin out of control.

Rest assured, if you have felt any of this, you are not alone. If at any point you have found yourself sinking into guilt or anxiety over the difficulty of balancing everything on your shoulders, or your new habit of letting your kids eat popsicles for breakfast, try not to worry. You have not failed them. If you’re freaking out about how all of the mandates and changes in the schools and communities will affect your kids, take a deep breath. Fear and worry can grab ahold quickly when we doubt ourselves and feel lost in a forest of fog and trees too high to see the sky. Remember, the sky is there. It has not abandoned us. Reach deeper into the darkness for hope and light, and look deeper into yourself and trust that you already have everything inside of you that you need to get through this. You are a good parent.

Ask yourself these questions about ways you may already be weaving strong bonds and cultivating resiliency in your kids to help them strive despite having to go through hard times such as this:

1. Do I hug my kids?
2. Do I tell them I love them?
3. Do I laugh with my kids?
4. Do I listen to them when they have something to say?
5. Do I ask them questions about who they are, what they like, what they think, and how they feel?
6. Do my eyes light up when they walk into the room?
7. Do I compliment their hair, st‌yle of clothes, ideas, and little things they do?
8. Do I read to my kids?
9. Do I show them trust and respect?
10. Do I spend time with them?
11. Do I know their love language and try to try to show love in that way?
12. Do I keep boundaries for safety and security even if some of the other limitations like bedtime and screen time are a little looser?
13. Do I talk about my feelings and validate theirs?
14. Do I show interest in their interests?
15. Do I apologize when I make mistakes?
16. Do I help them when they need help?
17. Do I get support for my kids’ mental and behavioral health needs?
18. Do I hold them when they need to be held?
19. Do I try every day to do my best?
20. Do I forgive myself when the day is over, and it wasn’t perfect?
21. Do I wake up and do it all over again?

If you answered yes to most or even some of these, your kids are good hands. You are already doing the most important things during this new and bazaar situation that we are still trying to figure out how to handle.

This year will be hard, and school and sports will look different. Kids will not be doing all the things they were supposed to do. There may be a time when we have to catch up, or relearn some things, resocialize and process all the big feelings from all the days inside. That’s okay. Right now, talking, connecting, rolling on the floor, grabbing your belly laughing because a rerun of America’s Funniest Home Videos is on for the one-hundredth time, and it’s still hilarious, is the most important stuff right now. That’s enough. Hugs, hope, snuggling reading together, talking about whatever your kids want to talk about even if it makes your eyes roll into the back of your head with boredom, are the essential things. Good job. Keep going. Your kids are lucky to have you.

When you start to worry that your kids are missing out, or that you’re not ready to become a teacher 3-5 days a week because you have no clue how to teach a kindergartner to read and you don’t remember a single thing from fifth-grade social studies, close your eyes and wipe the sweat off your brow. Look back at times you thrived through adversity. Think about the hard places you’ve worked yourself out of, and the times in your life you grabbed hold of your spirit and grit and incredible sense of humor and made the most of a lackluster situation. These are the skills that serve you well in a long beautiful life. Your kids are learning everything they need to know about life right now from you, and they will be all the better for it.

Krissy Dieruf is a licensed marriage and family therapist. She lives in Minnesota with her husband and three children, loves to sing and dance around the house and has a soft spot for rebels and crazy hair.