In a recent essay for The New York Times Parenting section, Reddit co-founder Alexis Ohanian got real about career expectations, becoming a father and paternity leave.

While Ohanian was lucky enough to take 16 weeks of paid paternity leave after his wife, tennis star Serena Williams, gave birth to daughter Olympia in 2017, not all dads are as fortunate.

In his essay, Ohanian writes, “Before Olympia was born, I had never thought much about paternity leave and, to be honest, Reddit’s company policy was not my idea. Our vice president of people and culture, Katelin Holloway, brought it up to me in a meeting and it sounded O.K., so why not?”

But after Williams’s complication-filled delivery of Olympia, Ohanian realized just how important his paid paternity leave was, writing, “Nothing could have dragged me away from my wife and daughter in those hours, days and weeks—and I’m grateful that I was never forced to choose between my family and my job.”

So why does Ohanian think men aren’t asking for paternity leave? He wrote, “The short answer is stigma. Men are conditioned to be breadwinners, exclusively—and another mouth to feed calls for more bread on the table (to say nothing of college tuition)—so off to work we go. Our sense of duty is often fear-based: Men assume their bosses will frown on paternity leave, so we don’t dare to go there.”

Underscoring the importance of the post-birth time for dads, Ohanian added, “I took my full 16 weeks and I’m still ambitious and care about my career. Talk to your bosses and tell them I sent you.” While a direct order from the Reddit co-founder may not score your S.O. paternity leave, it may start a conversation that’s all too necessary.

—Erica Loop

Featured photo: Alexis Ohanian via Instagram

 

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Working at Walmart will now have some incredible benefits. Walmart employees can attend college for one dollar a day under the company’s “Live Better U” initiative.

Employees at Walmart will have the opportunity to earn degrees and certificates in a variety of tech-oriented fields from science to cyber security all for the low price of just one dollar a day. These changes come under the expansion of the company’s college and job training initiative that was launched last year.

In addition, workers who are still in high school will be able to earn free college credits and other educational perks, like free prep classes for the ACT and SAT. Over 7,500 Walmart employees have already taken advantage of the program which offers courses of study at Brandman University, the University of Florida and Bellevue University. The program expansion will bring more schools on board including Purdue University Global, Southern New Hampshire University and Wilmington University.

“They wanted access to higher education to improve their lives,’’ Drew Holler, senior vice president of associate experience at Walmart, said in a statement. “What we know also is it’s going to help us with retention … and it’s providing skills we need in the future.”

—Shahrzad Warkentin

Featured photo: Mike Mozart via Flickr

 

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When raising a family, we do our best to ensure their health, happiness, safety, and security. We strive to provide them with all of the skills, resources, and opportunities they need to grow up to lead a happy, successful, and fullfilling life. In doing this, every mom needs to know how to save for college, which is a very expensive commitment.  The best approach is to start early, as the power of compounding over time is powerful, and was called the eighth wonder of the world by Albert Einstein.

Here are ways to reduce the financial worry, ensure your family’s ability to afford the cost of the degree, and start successfully saving for your child’s future. 

Enroll in a 529 plan. One of the best ways to save for college for your child is a college savings 529 plan. These state sponsored higher education savings accounts grow tax-free if the rules are followed. Each state determines the maximum contributions, eligible investments, and tax advantages. Although there is no tax deduction, distributions are tax-free if used for qualified education expenses of the beneficiary of the account. These expenses include such items as tuition, fees, textbooks, supplies and equipment required for enrollment, and special needs services. Where the student is attending at least half the time and the payments are made directly to the college, they also include room and board costs. Supplies may include a laptop, printer, computer, and internet service. Some expenses that are not qualified include travel, a cellphone, student loan repayment, health insurance provided by the college, or a sports or club membership.

How to get a waiver of the 10% penalty. Non-qualified withdrawals of income from a 529 will be subject to ordinary income tax as well as a 10% penalty to the person who receives the money, which can be either the owner or the beneficiary. The principal portion of the withdrawal will not be subject to tax. For exceptions to the 10% penalty, see below. It is very important to make sure that the withdrawals are used only for qualified expenses to avoid taxes and penalty.

• If a child does not go to college or receives a scholarship, the owner may change the beneficiary to another child or member of the beneficiary’s family. This flexibility makes a 529 plan a very attractive investment.

• If a withdrawal is made from a 529 plan because the beneficiary dies, becomes disabled, or has earned scholarships and doesn’t need the money, the 10 percent penalty may be waived. Income taxes will still apply to the income portion of the amount withdrawn.

Know the most advantagous investment options. The investment options offered include a variety of mutual funds. Aged-based funds are very popular, as the investments are more heavily weighted in stocks with a younger child and are rebalanced to become more heavily weighted in bonds the closer the child gets to college age. To open a 529 plan, you may either make a lump sum investment or set up a monthly bank draft, a great way to save for your child’s future.

Make monthly or annual contributions. There are no income restrictions to making a contribution to a 529 plan. Although there is no annual maximum, contributions per year over $15,000 to a 529 plan will be subject to federal gift tax rules.  Each state has a specific maximum account size, which generally varies between $235,000 and $500,000. You are not required to contribute to your state’s 529 plan but will want to consider state tax advantages when making a decision. Distributions may be used for schools out of state.

• Accelerated gifting of 5 years of contributions may be made to a 529 plan, a total of $75,000 per individual or $150,000 for a married couple filing jointly, without having to file a gift tax return. An important tax benefit, the value of account and its tax-free growth will be excluded from the contributor’s estate for federal estate tax purposes. To avoid having to file a gift tax return, no additional contributions may be made for 5 years if the full accelerated gifting has already been implemented.

• The contributor to a 529 plan is normally the account owner, but not necessarily. For example, a grandparent may fund a 529 plan with a child as owner and a grandchild as beneficiary. The owner of the account will name a successor co-owner and beneficiary, choose the investments, and decide when and how much to distribute.

• Parents, grandparents, relatives and friends who are U.S. citizens or resident aliens and at least 18 years old may open a 529 plan and make contributions. They may also make contributions to 529 plans owned by others. You may want to ask relatives to make a contribution to a 529 plan in lieu of gifts that will eventually be discarded by your child.

Understand the differences between a 529 Plan and a ROTH IRA. The annual contribution amounts are considerably higher for a 529 plan than for the ROTH IRA, which is currently $7,000 per year if under age 50. It is possible to save a much greater amount that will grow tax-free with a 529 plan. The ROTH IRA also has income eligibility restrictions, unlike the 529 plan. Withdrawals may be made tax-free without age or time restriction from a 529 plan if used for qualified education expenses. That is not the case with a ROTH IRA. If the ROTH IRA account holder will be under age 59 ½ when the withdrawals are made, earnings will be subject to ordinary income taxes, a real disadvantage. Only the 10% penalty will be avoided if the withdrawals are used for qualified education expenses in the same year. Earnings may be withdrawn tax-free from a ROTH IRA only if the account has been held for at least 5 years.  In most cases, a 529 plan is a much better way to save for college.

How 529 plans impact financial aid. The 529 plans owned by college students or their parents will reduce need-based aid by a maximum of 5.64% of the current market value. This calculation also affects the parent’ savings, checking and brokerage accounts, real estate other than the primary residence, ETFs, and mutual funds. Withdrawals that are made from a 529 plan held by a non-custodial parent will be assessed as income against financial aid, just like those held by grandparents.

In conclusion, your savings plan should be personalized and specific to your family’s needs and goals for the future. To find the right college savings plan for your specific situation, ask your financial advisor to compare plans for you and to explain the costs, fees, and risks. Prepare a budget to determine a realistic amount that you can set aside regularly for this long-term goal. In addition, make sure that you also regularly fund an account for your own retirement. You are a priority, as well as your children. This is very important to consider when deciding how to allocate your resources.

 

 

 

Rosemary Lombardy is a financial advisor with over 35 years of experience and a domestic abuse survivor. She is the founder of www.breakingbonds.com, a free resource for abused women, and author of Breaking Bonds: How to Divorce an Abuser and Heal - A Survival Guide.

I was so excited to go to college when I graduated high school and my initial ideas about the degrees I wanted to pursue were ambitious. When I actually began college, the reality of the long road ahead of me hit and I began to second guess my choices.

This is when I changed my major so that my classes and the journey to graduation weren’t as intimidating. But the more classes I took, the less sure I was about what I actually wanted to do. About half-way through my Bachelor’s degree I became overwhelmed by the cost of my classes and I lacked a clear direction for my future career.

I really wasn’t motivated to finish, so I dropped out of college with no real plan of when I would go back.

Fast forward three years and I was now married with a two-year-old son. My job involved different responsibilities but I enjoyed the aspects that allowed me to work with children the most.

All of a sudden, it became very clear to me: I needed to get an education degree. 

I enjoyed being with and teaching children and the idea of studying how children grow and learn had always been interesting to me. I had a focus and a desired career in my sights but how was I really going to do this? I was working, taking care of my son and our home and my husband and I were so young and couldn’t take on the cost of a college tuition. It seemed like there were more obstacles in the way of completing my degree than ever before.

I was so much more determined and driven though and I knew that I couldn’t waste my time. If I was going to do this, I was going to have to make a plan, work hard and consider this a part-time job.

My first semester, I took one class online and one in-person—and I was immediately overwhelmed. The mere review of the syllabi filled me with regret about what I was getting myself into and had me questioning how I could balance everything in my life.

Thankfully, that feeling didn’t last long. Each assignment I completed gave me a little confidence and each good grade or encouragement from a professor that I received pushed me to work even harder. Every semester seemed to be more difficult in some way but working towards a goal and seeing progress made me feel accomplished and it helped me to stay sharp and focused.

Honestly, it also added a layer to my identity. Before I went back to school I mostly saw myself as “just a mom” and didn’t think of myself as being that good at anything besides motherhood. I had to remind myself of the truths about motherhood that I forgot. No one is “just a mom,” because the role of being a mom is the most mentally and physically challenging thing one could take on. It’s also humbling, rewarding, joyful and empowering.

When I graduated with my Bachelor’s degree, my life looked much more different than when I began. My husband now had an awesome job, my son was four and in the middle of his first year of school, I had an 11-month-old daughter and I already had a teaching job that I loved.

Getting that degree is by far my proudest accomplishment, besides my family. It taught me and prepared me for so much more than just teaching a class of children. I learned how to manage my time and prioritize my responsibilities better. I would tell any parent who is considering going back to school that if it’s something you really want, you will find the time, resources and energy necessary to get it done. 

The reality is that you will probably be up late most nights, you will probably need to sacrifice a lot of your weekend and you will probably feel like you can never get ahead. I had many nights that I wanted to wait until my kids were asleep before I started working on assignments, but they struggled to settle down so I was up way too late working.

My daughter was 11 months old when I graduated so as you can probably guess, I was in school through my whole pregnancy and she was born during one of my winter breaks. The fall semester right before she was born brought the hardest workload of my college career but it seemed to help distract me from the less fun parts of pregnancy somehow.

Some advice I would give anyone interested in going back to school is don’t let finances stop you from going back to school. I got so much financial help when I went back to school by applying for financial aid as early as possible and applying for tons of scholarships through the university. I’m a very ordinary person, my GPA from my early college years wasn’t stellar and I wasn’t a part of any organizations or doing anything special so I was amazed that I was being awarded scholarships. I really believe that writing an honest application and showing that I was serious and driven, led to some generous donors investing in me.

I didn’t write all of this so that someone would think that I did something extraordinary. I’m writing this because as parents, we all have this determination inside of us. We can go after whatever goals and dreams we have because we all have this super parent within us. And I think we can all look back on our lives before we were parents and laugh about the things that we thought were hard or challenging then—because we’ve overcome so much more now.

I’m Murphee, a wife, mom of two and ocean lover! Our little family recently began a new adventure that brought a big change for me: I went from Floridian early childhood teacher to stay-at-home mom in Texas. I love exploring with my young children, trying new food and road tripping. 

Every parent knows the struggle to find the right preschool is real. Which is why we’ve researched one of the best childcare centers in the country—renowned for their outstanding infant and toddler programs—and discovered all the reasons why Bright Horizons Preschool is the answer to every busy parent’s dream. Read on to learn more.

1. Work-Life Balance

For all you working mamas and papas out there, they offer flexible scheduling and hours that mesh with the workday. The centers are open from 7 a.m.-6 p.m. and have limited closures during the year.

2. Conveniently Located

The high-quality centers are located in neighborhoods, developments, commuter rails, bus hubs and communities, making pick up and drop off convenient no matter where you live. Plus, you can visit anytime you want!

3. Your Family Time Is on Their Mind

Movement, handwriting and other curriculum-enhancing activities are offered right at your center, every day, which means you don’t have to take your child to additional activities. This equals more family time on evenings and weekends. Plus, all the outstanding enrichment classes—including music, art, yoga, gardening, cooking and more —are included in monthly tuition.

4. The Curriculum Will Wow You

The Bright Horizons Preschool curriculum, World at their Fingertips®, helps children achieve school readiness in all area of academic and social learning. In other words, they know it’s not just about learning the ABCs. Kids will learn how to share information, ask and answer questions, solve problems and explore solutions.

5. Kindergarten (& Beyond) Readiness

The holistic approach to early childhood education engages children intellectually, physically, emotionally and socially and helps prepare them to meet teachers’ and parents’ expectations.

6. Endless Exploration

The preschool program is a little explorer’s dream! Full of investigation and discovery, active and enthusiastic children will expand their skills and knowledge in a stimulating and nurturing environment.

Find a preschool near you today.

 

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“I am a single father of two, and right off the bat, this place felt like home. The most welcoming, and respectful employees I have ever met. My kids fell in love right away and it’s such a comfort to know they are in such a positive and comfortable learning environment. You all made my life so much easier! I will always recommend Bright Horizons!”

“My daughter has been going there for over a year now and she could not be happier, she feels like home, and that could not make me any happier, she is actually excited to go to school, she even plays at home pretending to be her teacher.”

“Everyone at the center is nice, they have an excellent program, I love that they even teach her to play chess, but also dance.”

“The center facilities are amazing, highly recommended.”

What do you look for in a preschool? Tell us your wish list in a comment below. 

—Amber Guetebier

It doesn’t take many diaper changes or trips to Target to realize that raising a child ain’t cheap. According to a new report from the United States Department of Agriculture, parents can expect to dish about $13,000 a year to raise a child. A middle-income, married couple with two children is estimated to spend $233,610 to raise a child born in 2015. This figure does not include college tuition.

The report, developed by economists at USDA’s Center for Nutrition Policy and Promotion, provided a breakdown of the biggest expenses: housing (29%) and food (18%) come in as the highest money eaters.

What was most interesting? Apparently, having multiple children decreased the monetary amount parents spent per child.

For scale, a family with only one child spent 27% more per child than a household with two children. On the other end, a married couple with three or more children spent 24% less per child compared to two kids, according to the report.

Dr. Lino calls this the “cheaper by the dozen effect.” He states, “as families increase in size, children may share a bedroom, clothing and toys can be reused, and food can be purchased in larger, more economical packages.”

Thank you hand-me-downs and Costco!

To read the full report, click here.

You thought colleges have strict rules when it comes to tuition payments, but this daycare may have every university beat. Reddit user ArnAnderson recently posted the fine print print in his son’s daycare contract. We’re sure the daycare means well, but this verbiage is confusing to say the least!

Photo courtesy of ArnAnderson via Reddit

The line reads “Failure to pay tuition will result in termination of your child.” Luckily ArnAnderson has a sense of humor!

What’s the funniest miscommunication you’ve seen? Tell us in the comments below!

— Noelle Buckband