Looking for a fun and easy way to teach your kids about kindness? Consider joining the Kindness Rocks Project. This creative project has artists of all ages spreading happy thoughts by way of painted rocks. The idea is simple—paint something inspiring or cheerful on a rock and leave it for someone else to find. Don’t know where to start? Read on!

What It Is

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What's a rock got to do with kindness? Plenty, according to Megan Murphy, the Massachusetts woman who accidentally started the Kindness Rocks movement when she scribbled a few inspiring words on a rock and left it on a Cape Cod beach. Her Kindness Rocks Project has since gained worldwide attention, with inspirational, hash-tagged rocks popping up in at least seven countries and garnering millions of views on social media.

"The project isn’t about rocks per se, it’s about connection," Murphy said. "People find a rock, and they relate to the message on the rock. Then they connect with the fact that there is a human being on the other end of that rock, and they don't feel so alone." It can be as simple as scrawling "Hope" on a stone and tossing it on the sidewalk on your way to work, or as complex as painting an entire rock with Van Gogh's "Starry Night" and leaving your masterpiece up for grabs.

 

How It Works

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First, you should join a local rock-painting group. A quick Google or Facebook search of "kindness rocks" and your hometown will probably turn up something. If not, rev up the bandwagon and rock it on your own, like this altruistic seven-year-old from San Francisco.

Here's What You'll Need

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- Smooth rocks (you can scavenge outside for them or you can find a whole bag at Home Depot or on Amazon)

- Acrylic paint

- Paintbrushes

- Fine point paint pens (optional, but makes writing words way easier)

- clear spray-on sealer like Krylon for sealing rocks (parents should do this)

Step One: Prep Your Rock

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Since rocks are porous, it's best to lay down a layer of paint to act as a primer and backdrop for your finished masterpiece. There's no need to paint the bottom of the rock (that just makes it harder to handle as it's drying.).

Step Two: Write Something (or Paint a Picture)

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When the primer coat is completely dry, let your littles use a paint pen to write something on their rock. To help them come up with something, try asking them simple questions about kindness: What is kindness? What is a 'kind' thing to say? What message would make you happy to see on a rock? What could you hear someone else say that would make you feel special?

And, don't feel bound by words; painting cute or happy pictures works, too (Smiley faces and rainbows, anyone?)!

Step Three: Hashtag It! 

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Write a hashtag on your rock to help whoever finds it realize that they can share it with the world. Our favorite is #thekindnessrocksproject, but there are gobs of smaller groups out there for those who want to keep it local. Don't forget to check your social media channels to see if someone shared your rock! 

 

Step Four: Seal It

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Once your rock is dry, spread a layer of Mod Podge over it. This will keep the paint from chipping and will seal it against water. (Plus it will make your rock look shiny and awesome.)

Step Five: Leave Your Rock Somewhere to Be Found

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Let your kids scatter their well-wishes around your neighborhood, in a park, or on the sidewalk on their way to school—basically, anywhere the rocks can be found by someone else!

Tip: Don't hide your rock so well that it can't be easily found—and don't put it on private property where passersby will think it belongs to someone. 

 

— Melissa Heckscher

 

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This is a literary town, and not just for adults. NYC is home to not only many amazing children’s book authors and illustrators, but also spirited independent bookstores that sell — and support — their work. Read on to see some of the new fall releases for kids from local writers and illustrators we’re excited about. And don’t forget!: The Brooklyn Book Festival returns as a hybrid event with in-person and online programming from September 26 to October 4. Children’s Day is October 2, and is packed with events at which kids can meet authors and artists for kids of all ages—even some of the people below!

Major Makes History: From the Shelter to the White House 

Harper Collins

From the mind that brought you New York Times best-selling bunny Marlon Bundo (and other animals advocating things like kindness and equity) comes the tale of President Biden’s friendship with his German shepherd, Major, the first shelter dog in the White House. Written by Jill Twiss and illustrated by Maribel Lechuga, the book is told in Major's voice, and is filled with Twiss’ signature humor and heart. Bonus: this picture book for ages four to eight also includes back matter about past presidential pets and information on adopting shelter animals. 

Release date: Sept. 28, 2021
$18.99
Buy it!

Nina: A Story of Nina Simone

G.P. Putnam’s Sons Books for Young Readers

Queens-based author Traci N. Todd and renowned illustrator Christian Robinson (Last Stop on Market Street) have collaborated on the first-ever American picture book biography of legend Nina Simone. This vibrant and illuminating book tells the story of little Eunice who grew up to become the acclaimed singer Nina Simone and her bold, defiant, and exultant legacy.

Release date September 14, 2021
$18.99
Buy it!

The Vanderbeekers Make a Wish

Clarion Books

The latest in the New York Times best-selling series from Karina Yan Glaser, this book for kids ages eight to 12 follows a Harlem family as they try to find the perfect 40th birthday present for dad. Along the way, they learn a lot more about their mysterious grandparents. The fun and funny tale all goes down in Harlem, the NYC neighborhood Glaser calls home. 

Release date Sept. 21, 2021
$16.99
Buy it!

Make Meatballs Sing

Enchanted Lion Books

Writer Matthew Burgess and illustrator Kara Kramer (both Brooklyn residents) tell the story of artist, nun, educator and activist Corita Kent in this biography for ages six to 12. Made in close collaboration with the Corita Art Center,  it includes reproductions of her colorful works, a chronology, and author and illustrator notes.

Release date Sept. 7, 2021
$18.95
Buy it!

KALEIDOSCOPE

Scholastic

Brian Selznick (author of The Invention of Hugo Cabret, Wonderstruck and more) is back with Kaleidoscope, a story of two people bound to each other through time and space, memory and dreams. At the center of their relationship is a mystery about the nature of grief and love which will look different to each reader. Selznick brings his masterful storytelling ability to the book, illuminating how even the wildest tales can help us in the hardest times. Recommended for ages 10 and up. 

Release date: September 21, 2021
$19.99
Buy it!

Vampenguin

Simon & Schuster

On a Saturday morning, baby Dracula visits the zoo with his family, where baby Penguin lives with hers. But these intrepid young adventurers are not content with staying in their proper places. Baby Dracula slips into the Penguin House to spend the day eating, swimming, and hanging around, while baby Penguin waddles into the stroller to explore the rest of the zoo. Dracula’s family doesn’t even notice the switch—will they bring the right baby home? 


Release date July 2021
$17.99
Buy it!

Pony

Brooklyn Book Festival

Author of the smash hit Wonder R. J. Palacio's latest is Pony, a coming-of-age adventure that explores what it means to be courageous. After a harrowing night, a boy sets out on a quest to rescue his father, with only a ghost as his companion and a mysterious pony as his guide. 

Release date September 28, 2021
$17.99
Buy it!

Frankie & Bug

Aladdin Paperbacks

Set in the summer of 1987, this coming-of-age story is the debut middle-grade novel from best-selling author Gayle Forman. Bug's looking for someone to hang out with, but mom's busy and her brother is down on the boardwalk with his friends. The only one around is her neighbor's nephew Frankie, and she's less than thrilled. Over the course of the season, two become friends, helping each other learn about family, friendship, allyship, and finding your way in a complicated world. (P.S. the audio book is narrated by Stockard Channing!)

Release date: Oct. 12, 2021
$17.99
Buy it!

The Grandmaster's Daughter

Harper Collins

For the kids who spend a lot of time at the dojo (or watching Cobra Kai), check out this story of imagination and determination from Dan-ah Kim. A picture book featuring a young, female black belt, The Grandmaster’s Daughter is a celebration of teamwork and friendship for fans of The Three Ninja Pigs and Hello, Ninja.

Release date November 9, 2021 
$18.99
Buy it!

Have You Seen Gordon?

Simon & Schuster

The narrator wants to play hide and seek with Gordon and the reader, but kooky Gordon just wants to stand out. This madcap, fourth-wall–breaking picture book from writer Adam Jay Epstein and illustrator Ruth Chan is packed with humor and full, zany spreads with details kids will love to point out time and again. Recommended for kids ages four to eight. 

Note: Chan will be participating in the Brooklyn Book Festival's popular illustrator draw-off event, which is always a good time!

Release date September 28, 2021
$17.99 
Buy it!

Looking for A Jumbie

Harper Collins

Do you believe in jumbies? Naya does, and she sets out to go find one. In this picture book for kids ages four to eight, New York Times bestselling author Tracey Baptiste takes readers on a fun, creepy romp through a forest filled with creatures from Caribbean folklore. Amber Ren provides illustrations. 

Release date September 9, 2021
$17.99
Buy it!

— Mimi O’Connor

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DIY Dino Eggs You Can Totally Do Yourself

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Your little kid-o-saurus is ready for some hands-on action this afternoon but you aren’t equipped with a crafter’s closet. No worries, we weren’t either, but this dinosaur egg project is so easy, you won’t need much more than a few eggs. Read on for the complete how-to.

This crafting tip is sponsored by Squeakee the Balloon Dino! Part dino, part balloon animal and part breakdancer, this giant toy is a must-have for any dino lover. It has over 70 sounds and reactions, including chompin’, stompin’ and even dancin’! 

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You’ll Need:

Three glass cups

Hard-boiled eggs

Food coloring (red, green and blue works best)

Water

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Instructions:

Step one: Hard boil your eggs. We know there’s a lot of methods and theories on how to make the best hard-boiled egg. Use whatever works for you, but we found that this way renders great results.

Step two: Once your eggs are cool crack them all over. It’s ok if there are pieces missing.

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Step three: Add water to your cups just enough to cover your eggs.

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Step four: Add food coloring to each cup–we measured out about 5 drops. If you’re feeling extra imaginative feel free to make your own colors like mixing red and blue to make purple.

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Step five: Drop one cracked egg into each of your cups.

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Step six: Let your eggs sit for a few hours in the refrigerator. If you’re feeling extra patient allow them to sit in the dye overnight. The longer the eggs sit in the cups the bolder the colors on your dino eggs.

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Step seven: Carefully drain the water in the sink and pull out your egg. Peel the outer shells off the hard-boiled egg. Mom and Dad might need to help with this step.

Step eight: Ta-da! You have a set of dino eggs. We set ours up with some pet dinosaurs. Psssst…if the colors don’t weird you out, the dinosaur eggs also make great egg salad sandwich ingredients!

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Don’t forget to bring their best dino-friend home! Whether your little one is into Tyrannosaurus or Brontosaurus, they’ll love Squeakee the Balloon Dino! 

 

A special thanks to the blog, Our Best Bites for inspiring us to make these eggs!

photos by Christal Yuen; copy by Erin Lem

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When James and I were first trying to conceive, I was a bundle of nerves, crying at every turn, especially when getting pregnant didn’t go how I had (meticulously) planned it. We stopped using contraception and proceeded to “try” for the next year. When about 14 months had passed and I still wasn’t pregnant at the time of my next gynecologist appointment, I asked what we should do. She referred us to a few fertility specialists in the area. I was devastated. It wasn’t supposed to be like that. We had been so careful to make sure we didn’t get pregnant before we were ready, I hadn’t considered it might be a challenge once we were ready.

Despite fertility treatments becoming more and more common and hearing extended family members’ stories, I felt ashamed about my inability to conceive.  I had been open with friends about wanting to start a family, but now that we were possibly not going to be able to, I shut down. I stopped talking with my family as often. Whenever friends asked how it was going, I brushed it off with a “hasn’t happened yet…” and changed the subject. It took six months before I was finally ready to pick up the phone and schedule an appointment with the specialist. It was another month before they could fit us in as a new patient.  We were finally ready to take action and we jumped in with some initial testing before two failed rounds of IUI.

Our infertility wasn’t fully explained, but the test results and failed IUIs were enough for our doctor to recommend and our insurance to support moving on to IVF. We were so incredibly lucky. Despite the heartache of the two prior years and the misery of hope, month after month, our first IVF cycle resulted in three healthy embryos. Transferring our first one resulted in implantation, pregnancy, and finally the birth of our daughter. Then, 18 months later, we were ready to do it all over again with a second embryo transfer, in hopes of another child to join our family.

There was such a relief in starting this process a second time since it worked for us the first time. I know there are no guarantees that it will work the second time around or even the third, but since we were able to have Louise, I know it’s possible. I empathize with all families who continue to struggle to conceive. We were lucky our pain of not being able to conceive only lasted a year or two, but the worry that it wouldn’t work the next time still lives on.  Despite that strain, I’m more optimistic than before about our hopes to create the family we want.

Six Months Later

It’s ironic to read back the first half of this post having drafted it months apart. I was full of optimism for our future and a new hope to move on from the struggles of infertility. We underwent a frozen embryo transfer several months ago and the long story short is that it didn’t take. We’re not expecting. After an update consultation with the same doctor who helped us have Louise, we followed a very similar protocol of medication, tests, and timing leading up to the transfer. A week into the 10-day wait to find out if it worked, I turned to James that evening and told him I didn’t think it had worked. Call it women’s intuition; call it a 50-50 guess that turned out to be right, but I just knew it wasn’t happening that time. Unfortunately, that didn’t ease the knot tightening in my stomach when the doctor finally did call to confirm the result.

That night and the days that followed, I cried just as hard as when it didn’t take with the IUIs or naturally. But I didn’t cry as long. I am constantly reminded by Louise’s infectious laughter that it has worked once. We will hopefully be fortunate again. It may work next time. It may not. In accepting the grief that comes from each failed attempt, I’m better able to pick myself up and move forward. I am present with family and friends, pursuing other passions, all while acknowledging the tiny ball of hope in the back of my brain saying it will work again one day.

 

This post originally appeared on Happy Optimizing.

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School is in and you need to keep your kids looking their best for class. That means regular cuts at a salon that knows how to make them feel comfortable in the barbers chair. Here’s the good news: Portland is packed with salons that are perfect for your young learners. These spots have experienced hairdressers and barbers who know how to make your child’s cut so fun that they’ll look forward to their next one. Read on to check out our top choices for the bets kid-friendly hair salons in Portland.

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Sit Still Kid's Salon
The Sit Still experience is more than just a haircut in a custom-made race car (although they've got those, and they’re pretty rad). From playlists to paint colors, to cold-brew and wine (for mom and dad) the family-experience details are carefully curated in an effort to create the best experience possible. This Portland hair salon goes all out to bring families the best. We're talking everything from top-of-the-line hair products to the coolest toys, t-shirts and gifts, to the most spirited and attentive staff—walking into a Sit Still is an experience you and your kids will remember.

4768 NW Bethany Blvd. & 70 N Mason St.
Portland, Or
503-747-7932
Online: sitstillkids.com/bethany-village

Pigtails and Crewcuts
Pigtails & Crewcuts specializes in cute-ification. Here you’ll find smiling staff that work specifically with kids! It’s a stress-free and clean environment that will keep your kids engaged. If you are coming in for your child’s first haircut they offer a special package just for you! Kids receive a souvenir card with their name, the date of the haircut, a lock of hair, and a photo to take home. The littles may enjoy picking a vehicle shaped chair while the older ones may prefer a professional style salon chair. They also have a wide selection of books, videos, toys, and a special wooden table to keep the kids entertained. If you’re also shopping for birthday party gifts they offer a variety of treasures such as bubble baths, nail polish, toys, and hair accessories. It's a colorful and fun experience for everyone.

2219 NW Allie Ave.
Hillsboro, Or
503-336-4778
Online: pigtailsandcrewcuts.com

Lil’ Snippers
This delightful salon was started by a mom of young children. Come in and be greeted with a waiting area filled with playhouses, books, coloring books and crayons, a pretend kitchen with food & cooking supplies, and so much more! Lil’ Snippers Hair Care 4 Kids is located in Vancouver  and is filled with knowledgeable professional staff that love working with kids. They have services like fairy dust sparkles, wash out color spray, stickers, and creative hair styling. Styling stations are equipped with hot wheel cars that have working buttons and horns. They have also partnered with Locks of Love a non-profit organization, and happily offer haircuts free of charge to anyone who is willing and able to donate at least 10 inches of hair!

3000 SE 164th Ave ste. 103
Vancouver, Wa
360-953-8524
Online: lilsnippers.com

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Kid's Castle Cuts
Once you enter this castle you can expect to encounter toy chests, trains, trucks, dolls, games, and highly qualified staff who are experienced working with kids. They cater to first time haircuts and love working with kids who have special needs. Kid can pick from car, jeep, or jet haircutting chairs and have the option to watch a video, if mom says it’s okay! They are reasonably priced and offer an engaging and interactive environment for everyone. 

6000 SE 41st Ave.
Portland, Or
503-244-0360
Online: kidscastlecuts.com

Bishops
Bishops is one of Portland's most inclusive hair salons and loves having kids at their shops. They pride themselves on being a welcoming space for everyone of all ages and genders. With locations all over the Portland Metro you won’t need to travel far for this fresh cut. Every shop has kid’s capes and a variety of toys and coloring books available. They don’t have separate pricing for kids but the menu is a-la-carte so you can pick and choose what each child wants. Parents & kids together can build a unique hair adventure. Older kids and teenagers may even enjoy trying some new colors in their hair, obviously with signed parental consent.

Find a Location that works for you!
Online: bishops.co

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Propaganda Salon
If you are looking for a great spot for your tween or teen check out Propaganda Salon. Scott, the owner has spent his entire career as a hair stylist. He has an eye for detail, a creative mind, and a patient soul. If he’s not available try one of their many talented stylists. The studio is clean, bright, and simple making it a peaceful experience for your teen.

821 SE 34th Ave.
Portland, Or
503-231-7646
Online: propagandathesalon.com

— Annette Benedetti

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Working out after having your baby can seem kind of scary. Your body has been through some pretty big changes while nurturing and bringing your gorgeous new baby into the world. It is totally okay to feel nervous about getting back into working out. However, research proves that the right exercises can positively benefit your body’s healing process and will also help boost your energy levels, your mood and your fitness. CARiFiT, the post-natal babywearing fitness experts have put together a clever checklist of things to help you ease your way safely back into your workouts.

Postapartum Exercise Do’s

  • Start gentle exercise and activity as soon as you ready. It will help boost your energy levels, improve your sleep and your mood.
  • Start your kegel exercises as soon as you can as this will help with bladder control if that has been affected during pregnancy or childbirth.
  • Speak to your OB/GYN before you start more high-impact exercise.
  • Wait for longer if you have had a c-section, and check with your midwife or OB/GYN before you get started.
  • Stay active as it will help both your healing and your mood.
  • Listen to your body and pace yourself.
  • Focus on your mental wellbeing by also taking time to rest, meet friends and share your experiences with others.
  • Try and schedule your workouts after feeding times if you are breastfeeding.
  • Stay hydrated.
  • Get a good sports bra. Your cup size will have changed and if you are nursing, it is a good idea to buy a supportive nursing bra.

Postpartum Exercise Don’ts

  • Start exercising until your midwife or OB/GYN says that your body is ready.
  • Try and restart exercise until you really feel that your body is ready.
  • Rush into high intensity workouts that could be unsafe instead you need to gently ease back into working out to allow your body to adjust to not being pregnant.
  • Put pressure on yourself. A balanced approach which focuses on safe workouts and good nutrition whilst enjoying these precious months is so important right now.
  • Focus on abdominal curls or crunches, your core will take time to recover. Kegel exercises and deep stomach breathing are preferred initially.
  • Bend from the hips when lifting the baby or heavy things, try and bend the knees so that you are not putting undue pressure on the lower back.

At CARiFiT we are committed to making sure that you can get back into working out safely and our focus is always on the right movements for the postpartum body. We want all new moms to be able to feel the physical and emotional benefits of moving but we know that this is a time when you need to listen to your body and exercise appropriately. To get you started, we have rounded up the five moves all new moms should master.

Focus on perfect form first to really engage the intended muscles. If you are doing the moves incorrectly then you run the risk of injury and are unlikely to be  working the right muscles. Your time is precious so make it worthwhile! Ready to get strong? *Aim to do 8-10 reps of each following exercise, 3 times. Combine the exercises together for a full-body circuit.

1. SQUAT
Muscles Worked:
 Quads, hamstrings, glutes, core

Postnatal Benefits: During pregnancy, your growing bump pulls the body into anterior pelvic tilt, creating short stiff hip flexors and lengthening and weakening your hamstrings and glutes. Basically, your posterior chain (muscles on the back of your body) switches off. As well as getting your glutes and hamstrings firing again, squats aid pelvic mobility, restore core stability and recruit the abdominal and pelvic floor muscles as you inhale to lower and exhale to rise.

2. SHOULDER PRESS
Muscles Worked: 
Shoulders, core, upper back, triceps

Postnatal Benefits: From lifting and holding your little one to putting the groceries away or storing luggage overhead on a plane or train, a strong upper body is essential for moms. Pressing overhead doesn’t just strengthen your shoulders, it works your core, activating the deep TVA muscles and pelvic floor – jackpot!

3. LUNGE
Muscles Worked: 
Quads, glutes, core

Postnatal Benefits: Like squats, lunges build strong legs and glutes, which can help to alleviate common postpartum complaints like back and knee pain. Lunges also ease with tight hip flexors, recruit your core for stability and control and challenge your balance. We’ve focused on reverse lunges here as they place less stress on your knee joints than forward lunges, which is particularly important while the joint-loosening hormone Relaxin is still present in your body.

4. BENT OVER ROW
Muscles Worked: 
Upper and middle back, shoulders, core, arms

Postnatal Benefits: Feeding, rocking, cuddling, changing—as a new mom, it can feel like you’re forever in a hunched position, which, combined with weakened abdominals, is a fast track to back pain.  Bent over rows work your back muscles and help to counteract that rolled forward position your shoulders often default to post-baby.

5. DEADBUG
Muscles Worked: 
Core

Postnatal Benefits: Even if crunches were postpartum core-friendly (in case you weren’t sure, they’re not) there are far more effective ways to strengthen your core. The deadbug is a strong move that uses the whole core, from the deep TVA muscles to the obliques and pelvic floor, as well as the stabilizing muscles of the lower back. Performed correctly, it’s a tough one, so you might need to start with simpler variations to maximise the benefits.

For more,  join CARiFiT4ALL, a free plan to help you understand how to get back into exercise, healthy eating safely and quickly.

I have been helping new moms get back into exercise for over a decade. Dubbed the "baby man" after carrying the babies for moms whilst they exercised, I saw that by merging babywearing and fitness, we could remove the barriers to exercise and I launched CARiFiT 6 years ago!

Admit it: we’ve all become a little more reliant on delivery services in the wake of the pandemic. It’s just so easy!

Now, DoorDash is making the process of getting your goodies even easier with its new innovation, DoubleDash. In a nutshell, you can now tack on must-have items from local stores to your restaurant orders! Your selected Dasher will then deliver both your meal and store order together, with no added delivery fees.

So how does it work? Place your restaurant order on DoorDash like usual, then look for the DoubleDash option on the map to add items from nearby stores after your order is placed. Then add your items from the store page and check out with no minimum order or delivery fee.

Since the program is new, DoubleDash currently only works with 7-Eleven, Walgreens, Wawa, QuickChek, The Ice Cream Shop and DashMart, a DoorDash-exclusive store with thousands of items from your local restaurants. In some markets, DoorDash is also piloting with local restaurants so diners can add add complementary items from nearby local restaurants to your initial meal order.

––Karly Wood

 

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During lockdowns, because of COVID, both parents seem to be more accessible at home because a lot more people are working remotely. But what does this mean for the future of child custody battles? Turns out, according to Jacqueline Newman, author of The New Rules of Divorce, it could impact custody battles a lot more and here’s why:

“Truth be told, I think that there has been a shift, at least the beginning of one, already, before COVID struck. The every other weekend and Wednesday dinner custody schedules were already becoming a thing of the past. Many more non-primary custodial parents were asking for more and more time. Maybe it was not always 50-50 because of the work schedules, and because of the fact that they were not as involved in the day-to-day routines of their child, but it was pretty close.

But now, after COVID? I think the shift is going to be much more extreme. We are 100% at a point where the question is now asked, “Why isn’t it 50-50?”  One of the big claims that the primary custodial parent would often make would be that the non-primary custodial parent did not know the day-to-day routines of the child. They did not know that Sally only drew with purple crayons, and Bobby would only eat sandwiches if they were cut in perfect circles. They did not know these little idiosyncrasies of their child because they just were not home all of the time to learn them.

However, now, for the last year and a half, many parents have both been home. Now we have many parents that might have previously traveled a lot or had to work late and attend work dinners that did not do that during COVID—everybody was home. So, now, both parents are so much more involved in the daily routines of their children. They both know that the math homework is due on Tuesdays, that Cindy does not like her social studies teacher, and that the Sami only likes her pasta without sauce—they know all the little ins and outs. People have been having family dinners together again. I will speak for myself—pre-COVID, my husband and I, would often not be be home for dinner with our children every night. We are both attorneys and often at least one of us would be working a late night. But now, for the last year and a half, we have basically eaten dinner together with our children every single night. And it is something that I did not give nearly enough credit to as being such valuable family time previously. However, I do now.

The fact is, now, when we are moving forward in custody battles, I think a lot of the historical arguments of, “He/She doesn’t know everything,” or “Hasn’t done it before” is just going be thrown out the window. Now you are going have parents that have both done everything. Everyone is changing diapers, everyone is doing sugar cube igloo projects and everyone is more attuned to the likes and dislikes of their children.

Now, I think when both parents want 50-50, I think that the question will be “Why not?” I also think it is going be a very hard pill to swallow for certain parents that may have sacrificed careers, and/or have dedicated their entire lives to their children as being the primary caretaker, to be told that the other parent is going have possible 50% of the parenting time is going be very upsetting. It is also important to note that in many states, the amount of days you have with a child can impact child support (not in New York). Therefore, the repercussions are not just the emotional but also have financial implications.

2022 is going to be a very interesting year when it comes to custody litigation and I expect there will a significant shift in terms 50/50 parenting time.”

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Stains: they are the hallmark of true parenting (and a sure result of a girls-night-in). While you might be able to let a few slide, some of them just could cost you the deposit on your apartment or incite a desire to replace your shag with something more, well, wipeable. We polled our editorial staff—who know a thing or two about stain removal—and got together their best tips. Scroll down for 18 simple ways to keep it clean.

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1. Use boiling water for red wine: You might have heard the tried and true soda water/cold water rinse for red wine, but here’s a method our editors swear by—pour boiling water over the red wine stain and blot it up with a cloth (Note: do not blot it before without water).

2. Use lemon for sweat rings: Use lemon juice and water on sweat stains. Make a little potion and soak the area. Baking soda and water paste can help remove underarm stains on white clothing.

3. Use salt for red wine and grease stain: Pour salt on the stain to soak up any extra wine, then soak in cold water for 30 min. For blood, one hour in cold saltwater. Salt also helps absorb grease stains!

4. Use Shock It Clean. No, we don’t mean singing perfectly on-pitch to "Side to Side" and shocking the crowd. One of our editors turned us on to this product, and we are telling you that it removes every carpet stain ever. Including that weird pee stain you only just now noticed and can’t tell if it’s human or pet.  

5. Use white wine on red wine: Yes, you have to waste a little white wine, but that’s nothing compared to wasting a good Sangiovese (Yes, we realize this is the third wine stain hack. What?).

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6. Use white vinegar to get out coffee stains: Try white vinegar on coffee stains (on clothing). Soak for at least 8 hrs.

7. Chalk works on oil: Liquid dish soap is the most effective treatment for oil stains, but a stick of chalk can help absorb it quickly. Use a paper towel to blot up as much oil as possible, then rub the chalk stick on it. Wash as soon as possible. 

8. One word: Oxiclean (That's one word, right?). Grass stains have met their match.

9. Use nail polish remover on paint: If you’ve got paint on the jeans you just couldn’t bring yourself to take off before touching up the walls, try shaving it off with a razor. Super stubborn paint stains from the people who painted before you can be combatted with nail polish remover and elbow grease.

10. Aluminum foil works wonder on rust: You can remove rust by lightly scrubbing with aluminum foil. Add a little white vinegar to really scrape off stubborn stuff.

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11. Lemons make your sink shine: Clean up the gunk and shine up the chrome of your faucets using lemons. You can use a half-lemon or a wedge to squeeze into narrow spots and it works great to get your stainless steel sink to gleam too.

12. Toothpaste will make your diamonds sparkle: Use toothpaste to polish your silver rings and get rid of those tarnished stains.

13. Take care with rubbing alcohol to get nail polish out of the carpet: If you spill nail polish on the carpet or floor, use a microfiber cloth to absorb as much as you can, then continue blotting with rubbing alcohol and microfiber cloth (Nail polish remover can damage hardwoods and other flooring surfaces, but you can try soaking the microfiber cloth in a bit of remover before washing).

14. Baking soda and white vinegar works on pet messes: To clean up poop, dog or otherwise, from the carpet you'll need white vinegar and baking soda. And a lot of paper towels. And probably gloves. Just let the paste fizz and blot, fizz and blot. It's like a mini-volcano of gross.

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15. Cornstarch on a decorated dog: Kids got markers and/or paints and painted your dog? (No, oh, just wait...) If your pooch is light-colored, cornstarch can help lighten the fur back up.

16. Shout also works on pet messes: You can try your average carpet cleaner or "pet stain remover" but we found nothing takes care of the remains of the day like a laundry stain remover, i.e. extra-strength Shout.

17. Soda on garage grease stains. Pour a can of Coke on a greasy stain in your garage. (Diet Coke won't cut it, but you can always try.)

18. If all else fails: Give up (wear dark colors, or beige if you’re preventing spit-up stains; make sure your carpets are artfully swirly; put smocks on your kids every day).

 

—Edit Team

 

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“Hey Shaq, what’s the weather today?” If you’ve ever wanted to mix up your Amazon Alexa experience, the company just dropped two new celebrity voices! Shaquille O’Neal and Melissa McCarthy are available now to tell you jokes, report on the forecast, or even do a little rap.

Following up on the hugely popular addition of Samuel L. Jackson’s voice, Amazon is offering the option to purchase two more instantly recognizable personalities at $4.99 each. Once you’ve bought one (or both) just say “Hey Shaq” or “Hey Melissa” to activate the option. If you need a little sneak preview, enjoy the following clips:

“We’re thrilled to add two new celebrity personalities to Alexa and had a great time working with Shaquille O’Neal and Melissa McCarthy on this project. We can’t wait to see what customers think,” said Toni Reid, vice president of Alexa Experience & Echo Devices.

Need more Alexa inspo? The digital assistant can read to your kids, cook your dinner, and even track Santa!

—Sarah Shebek

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