Whether you’re an award-winning actress or a stay-at-home-mom, every parent makes their own choices about how to raise their kids—and they should be free to do so without facing judgment—especially from other moms. A viral post about mom-shaming offers the perfect explanation for why we should build one another up instead of tearing each other down.

Florida mom of two Kelsea King took to Facebook recently to share a quote from her friend Alee Zering. The post, which has since been liked and shared thousands of times, captures how hard it is to be a mom when there are so many preconceived notions about how moms “should” do things.

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”Mom-ing is hard when breastfeeding in public is offensive but formula feeding is frowned upon…” King’s post begins. And it only gets better.

“…When co-sleeping is dangerous but rocking your baby to sleep is wrong, when sleep training means you don’t love your baby but not having your kid on a schedule means you have no control of your kid, when putting your child in a bouncer/walker is detrimental to their development but holding them too much is spoiling them, when being a stay at home Mom means you’ve given up your career/dreams but putting them in childcare and going back to work means you’re going to miss out on all of the important things, when getting kids their shots is injecting them with poison but if you don’t you’re endangering the world, when you’re trying to be confident in your motherhood but everyone wants to tell you that you’re doing it wrong.”

It’s exhausting just reading it, but there are no exaggerations here, just the reality of what being a mom often feels like. The post ends with an important reminder, “Mom bullies are the worst. So stop. Just love, encourage, support, and give a mom a cup of coffee.”

King told Good Morning America that she believes the post is relatable to so many moms because we’ve all experienced some type of mom-bullying at one point. She said the quote, “reminds everyone that we are doing the best we can, there is no ‘right way,’ and there is no need to worry about the opinions of others.”

Check out King’s viral post below.

Be right back—texting our mom tribe about how awesome they are.

—Shahrzad Warkentin



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