The American Academy of Pediatrics has issued a policy statement on why parents shouldn’t spank their children, and the group remains firm on its previous stance that corporal punishment can cause harm to children in the long run.

Twenty years ago, the AAP published Guidance for Effective Discipline advising that parents be discouraged from using spanking or any form of corporal punishment to discipline their kids. The authors of the statement noted that “there appears to be a strong association between spanking children and subsequent adverse outcomes.”

Now two decades later, the AAP has reinforced its policy with a statement titled Effective Discipline to Raise Healthy Children. The group states that it not only strongly opposes using spanking, but also explains the detrimental impact that spanking can cause on a child’s heath and development. The statement lists several examples of the adverse effects associated with spanking, including:

  • Corporal punishment of children younger than 18 months of age increases the likelihood of physical injury;
  • Repeated use of corporal punishment may lead to aggressive behavior and altercations between the parent and child and may negatively affect the parent-child relationship;
  • Corporal punishment is associated with increased aggression in preschool and school-aged children;
  • Experiencing corporal punishment makes it more, not less, likely that children will be defiant and aggressive in the future;
  • Corporal punishment is associated with an increased risk of mental health disorders and cognition problems;
  • The risk of harsh punishment is increased when the family is experiencing stressors, such as family economic challenges, mental health problems, intimate partner violence, or substance abuse; and
  • Spanking alone is associated with adverse outcomes, and these outcomes are similar to those in children who experience physical abuse.

“The purpose of discipline is to teach children good behavior and support normal child development,” Dr. Robert D. Sege, a pediatrician who helped write the statement, explained. “Effective discipline does so without the use of corporal punishment or verbal shaming.”

Sege continued, “Children who experience repeated use of corporal punishment tend to develop more aggressive behaviors, increased aggression in school, and an increased risk of mental health disorders and cognitive problems. In cases where warm parenting practices occurred alongside corporal punishment, the link between harsh discipline and adolescent conduct disorder and depression remained.”

For parents who need help with disciplining their children without the use of spanking, the AAP also suggests that pediatricians offer alternatives like time-outs and positive reinforcement. “For example, parents can learn that young children crave attention, and telling a child, ‘I love it when you…’ is an easy means of reinforcing desired behavior.”

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Whether you call it “Boo’ing” or “Ghosting” or “Boo Bags” or any variation of those, spreading a little bit of the Halloween spirit, families who love Halloween are having the best time pulling this sweet “trick” on their neighbors and friends.

What exactly is it?
Whatever you call it, surprising neighbors or friends with some extra Halloween treats (because your kids need more candy, right?) just adds to the fun building up to Halloween night. While each BOO’ing method may vary a bit, the basic idea is that you pick one friend or a handful of friends, fill goodie bags with Halloween treats and deliver them to their doorstep anonymously. The next time they open the door or arrive home, they’ll find a fun little surprise on their doorstep, including instructions on how to “pass the BOO” on to even more neighbors or friends. Once they’ve been BOO’ed, they post a sign in their front window or on the front door, where it’s visible, so that everyone knows that they’ve been BOO’ed! Easier than carving the 30-pound pumpkin your preschooler picked out at the pumpkin patch this weekend!

How do I do it?
Get started by picking how many people you’re going to BOO – typically three houses is a good place to start to get the BOO kicked off. In each BOO bag, be sure to include a simple instruction sheet that tells them that they’ve been BOO’ed and how to pass it along. You can download the Red Tricycle version here and then they can simply make copies of that sheet to put in their BOO’ing bags. Also, include a BOO sign, that they will hang in their window to make sure their house doesn’t get BOO’ed over and over again…not that it would be a bad thing! You can find the Red Tricycle version of the BOO sign here.

Once the bags are packed and ready, plan your BOO attack! If you have kids who can stay up past sundown, hit each house after dark with a little “ring and run” action – yes, drop your BOO bag on the front porch, ring their doorbell and RUN! While we generally don’t encourage teaching your kids the joys of this adolescent game that’s usually reserved for bored teenagers, there’s no harm in it… just this once. Have little BOO’ers at home? Deliver your BOO bags in the daylight hours – it’s just as fun!

What do I BOO them with?
The best part about BOO’ing people is that it is completely customizable. Start with small bags – even simple brown paper lunch bags work well and can easily be decorated with Halloween stickers or drawings – then fill them with age appropriate goodies. Of course, candy is always a hit, but you don’t have to add to the sugar debauchery that is about to come once Halloween rolls around. Check out the Halloween section of your local drugstore, where you can often find party favor-style Halloween goods, like pencils decorated with ghosts and candy corn colored notebooks.

Skip the homemade baked goods, unless you leave a top secret note from the parents, explaining who the BOO is from… delivering anonymous cupcakes probably isn’t the best way to get them to pass the BOO and probably is counterproductive to all of those talks about “no candy from strangers.”  And, keep in mind the ages of the kids who live at the house you’re going to be BOO’ing – even though you may be BOO’ing friends from your son’s third-grade class, throw in something in the BOO bags for the younger siblings as well – their parents will appreciate it and it will cut down on the BOO-hoo-hoos.

When should delivery my BOO?
Some neighborhoods start as early as October 1st, but it’s completely appropriate to BOO your neighbors and friends all the way up until Halloween. Just make sure they have enough time to pass the BOO along themselves too!

What if they’ve already been BOO’ed?
It’s happened to every BOO’er one time or another. You have your BOO bags ready to go and just as you’re approaching a doorstep, you notice that this house has already had a BOO delivery of some kind. Makes you want to say boo, doesn’t it? Before you leave, make sure that you warn your kiddos that this may happen – especially younger ones who may have their hearts set on BOO’ing a particular friend. Always have a back-up list ready to go. For instance, if Kate’s house has already been BOO’ed, we’ll take this one to Megan’s house instead. If you’re BOO’ing late in the month, this is more of a possibility, so be sure to have that Plan B (for boo) ready. And really, even if they’ve been BOO’ed, there’s no harm in leaving them another bag, especially if it will put a smile on the face of your own little BOO delivery kid.

Share your BOO’ing traditions with us in the comments section below! We want to hear your family’s take on this fun Halloween tradition!

— Katie Kavulla

Photos via Flickr users Bunches and Bits

Every parent could use a dose of Zen in their life, so we’ve unearthed several yoga classes geared toward babies, kids and families who are interested in chanting ‘Om’ together. In addition to being a healthy and fun form of exercise, yoga classes may help aid in everything from an infant’s digestion to an adolescent’s ability to concentrate. Yoga helps improve body image and has been proven to help lengthen attention span as well. So get ready to perch atop a mat with your pint-sized yogis, and re-channel your chi at one of the following classes.
*Note: Call studios or visit websites to confirm schedules, which are subject to change.

Sellwood Yoga
Sellwood Yoga’s Kid’s Yoga Portland class is geared toward kids ages 3-7 years old. Singing, dancing, games and relaxation round-out the session, which incorporates traditional and creative yoga poses. Fridays 4:00 – 4:45 pm, Kid’s classes drop-in fee $10 or buy a Kid’s Yoga 5 pass for $40 ($8 per class, expires after three months.)

Zenana Spa
Zenana Spa offers yoga classes for moms, babies and kids. Their kid’s yoga class, on Friday’s at 9:30 am, is an interactive class designed for parents and children ages 2-5. This class highlights imaginative thinking and takes a playful approach to yoga, as participants become dogs, cats and elephants and partake in storytelling, music and games. $15 per class.

Zenana Spa also offers a class called “First Saturday Yoga for You and Baby Too!” on the first Saturday of each month from 11:30 am to 1:00 pm. This postpartum yoga class is designed for new mamas to share their birth stories, create community with other mothers and to restore their body with gentle yoga geared toward healing, strengthening and toning. The other Saturdays of the month, “Yoga for You and Baby Too! Movement Class” is taught from 11:30 am – 12:30 pm and the focus is more on practicing yoga with baby than on bonding with other moms. $12 drop-in or 5 classes for $55.

Stumptown Yoga
Stumptown Yoga has a kids & parents yoga class on Mondays & Wednesdays from 10:30 – 11:30 am. The class is geared toward ages 2-6, but kids of all ages are welcome to attend. Highlights include yoga poses, games and family bonding activities. Stumptown Yoga also offers a kid’s yoga class for ages 6-11 on Saturdays from 12:30 – 1:30 pm. Drop in rate is on a sliding scale from $8-$10 per family, or per child for the kid’s yoga class.

—Beth Shea