Are you achy and exhausted all the time? No, you’re not just getting older (although parenting will age you faster), it could be that you’re suffering from repetitive stress injuries from carrying a baby. It’s a serious problem, but luckily there are some things you can do to lessen your pain.

After pregnancy, “Your body is completely changed,” Dr. Karen Sutton, an orthopedic surgeon and sports medicine specialist at Stamford, Connecticut’s Hospital for Special Surgery, explained to The New York Times. Joints and ligaments loosen, your abdominal muscles separate and your pelvic floor muscles are weakened, leaving your core weak postpartum—which can all lead to bad posture and back pain when lifting and carrying a baby.

Here’s how you can combat all those body aches when carrying your little one.

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Scapular Retractions

Several times a day, like each time your changing the baby’s diaper, perform 10 scapular retractions, says Dr. Sutton, which means pulling your shoulder blades toward your spine.

Stay Supported

Whether breastfeeding or bottle feeding, all that time holding your baby as they eat can create a strain on the back, neck and arms if you don’t have the right support. “Your arm should be supported so you can relax those muscles and not be constantly straining them,” says Anna Ribaudo, a physical therapist at the Hospital for Special Surgery.

Car Seat Transfers

Bending and twisting to secure your infant in the car seat can take a toll. “I teach them, take your time, face the car seat, bend at the hips and knees, don’t twist,” says Dr. Ribaudo. Also, are you carrying your car seat the right way?

Kegels

Dr. Sutton suggests starting with simple exercises to build strength. Ah kegels: those pelvic floor exercises you meant to do, but never got around to during pregnancy can help postpartum too.

Be Patient

“It took your body 10 months to get here,” Dr. Ribaudo says, “I think unfortunately in our society, giving birth has become something where everyone’s expected to bounce back in a month or two, and it’s just not true.”

—Shahrzd Warkentin

 

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Recently, a friend of mine mentioned that she didn’t like running that much.  It wasn’t because she wasn’t in shape, or she wasn’t fast, or she didn’t have the time…it was because she felt like she had to pee every time she took a step and that was holding her back from doing what she once loved to do years ago.

Ladies, if you had to pick ONE exercise to do every single day, it should be training and toning your pelvic floor. 

I used to think that the pelvic floor, or “doing your Kegels” had more to do with enhancing your sexual pleasure than really anything else.  We’ve all seen Sex and the City and heard the talk (mainly from Samantha) about the importance of doing Kegels and why.  It’s true that having a strong pelvic floor can definitely help in this department but that’s only one reason.  The other (in my view, even more important) reasons why having a strong pelvic floor is so important isn’t really discussed as much, or at least as openly, as it should.  Yet it affects everyone (men and women, of all ages), not just post partum or post menopause women.  Especially if you are active, here are some reasons why strengthening your pelvic floor NOW is so helpful:

●The pelvic floor is part of your general core. When you think “abs” and “core”–this also includes your pelvic floor muscles.  In fact, your Deep Core Stability Muscles include the pelvic floor.  Having strong pelvic floor muscles help support your overall core stability and strength.  When you have a strong core, it helps with your overall stability, posture, and form, all of which make you a better runner and athlete.  If you want to be a faster and stronger runner, you should be doing your pelvic floor exercises.

●The pelvic floor supports your lower back (lumbar spine area) and your hips.  If your pelvic floor is weak, it further increases your risk of injury to this area (or other areas that are supported by the pelvis, lower back, and general core…like glutes, hamstrings, groin).  Doing pelvic floor strengthening can also help with any pain management you may have in your have lower back pain or pain in your hips.

●A strong pelvic floor will help with incontinence issues.  Just because you feel like you may need to urgently pee when you are exercising at a higher intensity doesn’t mean you’re exempt from training your pelvic floor.  Or that one time you sneezed and you felt like you needed to pee (or maybe you even leaked a bit of urine)…or even worse–you sneezed during exercise, that’s probably when you really noticed an issue.  Developing a stronger pelvic floor can help with any incontinence issues, no matter how minor they may seem. 

●A weak pelvic floor can make constipation worse.  The pelvic floor muscles are really a hammock of support for your bladder, uterus, vagina, and rectum.  So if your pelvic floor muscles are weak, these areas won’t function as well as they should.  When you train your pelvic floor, you are more able to have a healthy elimination.

●A strong pelvic floor helps with childbirth and postpartum recovery.  If you are thinking about having a child, whether you are a first time mom or not, having better control of your pelvic floor will help with delivery (it helps move the baby down the birth canal, and during the “pushing” phase of birth).  And doing pelvic floor exercises immediately after giving birth can be a great way to help regain strength in this area (again, it’s part of your core), and also promotes healing from any tearing sustained during childbirth.  Your pelvic floor muscles get stretched out in just a matter of hours during childbirth vs. the 40 weeks that it takes your abdominal muscles to stretch out, so it’s extremely important to begin a regular strengthening routine for your pelvic floor.  Once you are “cleared” for other exercise, having a well-established deep core routine and stronger pelvic floor muscles will be so beneficial to a mother’s mental and physical wellbeing.  While there is a lot of discussion in our culture about “getting our bodies back” and “getting rid of our mommy’s pooch,” working towards a strong pelvic floor should be the primary go-to exercise in the postpartum exercise routine.

●Your pelvic floor muscles will get weaker with age and non-activity.  Just like any other muscle, if you don’t focus on strengthening or using it properly on a regular basis, it becomes weaker over time.  And hormones won’t help, which is why postmenopausal women suffer more from pelvic floor dysfunction. 

So, how do you begin?  There are lots of variations, but the most basic one is that of a Kegel.  You can do this sitting or standing, anywhere and everywhere.  Begin by tightening your pelvic floor muscles, starting from the back to the front (anal sphincter to vaginal sphincter), and hold for a few seconds.  Then release, allowing your muscles to soften and then gradually relax for a few seconds.  Remember to breath throughout this process (have your breath start with your diaphragm, then chest), as you would when you are doing any other strength training exercise. You can repeat this sequence 10 times, and do 3 reps. You can gradually work up to tightening your hold for more seconds at a time, increasing the intensity of your effort, and the frequency of these exercise.  Like any strengthening routine, it takes time to see results.  But doing them on a regular basis, especially combined with diaphragmatic breathing, will eventually give you a stronger inner core.

For those that think they have more of a severe issue, the good news is there is additional help out there.  You can talk to your OB GYN (who should be checking your pelvic floor strength as often as they see you, but many of them do not), or you can also go to a Physical Therapist who specializes in the pelvic floor.  If you also practice yoga or Pilates, you can also talk to your instructor about additional exercises to do to help with pelvic floor awareness and strengthening.

In my own practice, I have found that incorporating them into my daily activities like putting my makeup on, eating breakfast, riding the subway, or washing dishes help me to be as regular about doing them as I am about brushing my teeth.  Aside from the stated benefits above, training my pelvic floor has helped me become more aware of my entire body, especially my core, and not just the “outer unit” muscles. As an athlete, it’s extremely important to be attune to not only the muscles that you think you may use in a specific exercise, but to be aware that your body is a system of interconnectivity.  If one area is (or becomes) weak, it’s going to eventually affect another area that is more dominant. The pelvic floor is unfortunately a very common weak area for most everyone, and yet if affects us in so many ways when we’re exercising or going about our daily lives.  The benefits of doing these exercises on a regular basis last a lifetime, so start today. 

Rachel Spurrier, Founder of Go & Glow, is an RRCA Certified Running Coach and Pre and Post Natal Corrective Exercise Specialist.  A seven-time marathoner and Boston Marathon qualifier, she is also a mom to a two year old and currently pregnant with her second child. 

Baby’s first few months bring such joy. Cuddles. Kisses. Co-sleeping. If only getting dressed were as pleasant. While you probably dream of fitting into your pre-pregnancy jeans the minute you get home from the hospital, you might need to adjust your reality. Leaky boobs, swollen ankles and a little jiggle around the middle are just some of the culprits that make finding the right fit, post pregnancy, so challenging. Here are ten style solutions that will help you look and feel your best in the fourth trimester after baby arrives.

1. Splurge on something fun. Chances are you’ll want to burn your maternity clothes after you give birth. Unfortunately, it might be a while before you can finally pack away those oversized tees and stretch pants. Shopping for just a few new stylish pieces can help you get through that wardrobe limbo. Look for special outfits that you can wear on your first night out or on your next family outing. Au Lait makes nursing dresses that are forgiving and functional. Their Going Home Dress ($138) and The Tee Dress ($168) are especially chic and versatile.

2. Show some skin. Shapely shoulders. Sleek arms. Muscular legs. Showing off your favorite body parts can be a great way to draw attention to your best assets. The trick? Don’t overdo it. Wearing off-the-shoulder cuts and wide necklines is a great way to reveal just a little skin and take attention away from the belly.

3. Comfy shoes are a mommy must. Walks with the pipsqueak are a special part of those first few months. Make sure that you have supportive sneakers or sandals so that you don’t develop any additional swelling or back pain. Just because a shoe feels comfortable doesn’t mean it’s giving you the support you need. Toms makes cute, affordable sandals that offer arch support and a cushioned footbed.

4. Wear the right shapewear. Bodysuits are downright awful. We wouldn’t advise any new mama to squeeze into one. That being said, if you’re planning a night out and you feel the need to hide that postpartum pooch without cutting off all circulation, Spanx makes a great pair of shaping briefs. Their Slim Congnito’ Mid-Thigh Bodysuit Shaper ($78) is much more wearable and comfortable than a full on bodysuit. It provides control for your tummy and hips, and even gives a slight lift to the rear.

5. Flowy tops are your friend. Long flowy tops are flirty, feminine and a wardrobe staple in the fourth trimester. Pairing a loose blouse with fitted, straight line jeans will compliment your figure and hide any extra weight in your midsection. They can also double as a makeshift nursing cover, which comes in handy when you’re out and about with your little one. Zara sells several cute loose-cut blouses. Their Crochet Front Top ($59.90) and cape-sleeve Printed Top ($69.90) are great options for summer.

6. Don’t skimp on maternity lingerie. If you’re planning on nursing, it’s crucial that you find a few well-made bras that provide lots of support and easy one-hand access. There are some good rules of thumb when shopping for the right fit. For starters, make sure the bra doesn’t pinch you under the arm or ride up in the back. Your breast size will change fairly regularly so invest in a bra with stretchy cups. It’s also a good idea to try an underwire for more support, especially if you’re on the bustier side.

7. Black is a good fallback. It’s slimming and goes with everything. Even a baggy black sweatshirt can flatter the waistline. Pair a casual black top with interesting patterns or pops of color to create a sleek, stylish look. One slimming option – Loyal Hana’s nursing sweatshirt, which has a fabric back panel and front detail.

8. Don’t waste money on designer jeans. It’s tempting to splurge a new pair of jeans once the pregnancy weight starts to peel off. Before you do, keep in mind that your shape will probably continue to fluctuate for a while, which makes it hard to find the right fit. Denims that looks great on you today may be loose and unflattering in a few weeks. If you must buy a new pair, look for ones that won’t break the bank. H&M’s Skinny Low Jeans are a great choice: They’re flattering and under $10.

9. Leopard print yoga pants, anyone? Okay, maybe animal print isn’t your thing. But if you’re planning on living in yoga pants, they might as well have a little pizzaz. Some small detail or trimming can change your average yoga pant into something fun and different. Athleta has some great options, such as their Woodlands Chaturanga Capri and Gel Chaturanga Capri ($64).

10. Enjoy your new body. There’s no question that finding clothes to wear in the fourth trimester is frustrating. But it can also be an opportune time to reinvent your look. Follow a celebrity mom style icon on Instagram for inspiration. Create looks with your own personal stamp. And most importantly, have fun with it.

What’s your go-to fashion piece for the fourth trimester? 

–Michelle McIvor Cohen

Being pregnant is labor of love, especially if you’ve already got a mini-herd of miniatures racing around the place. Luckily, there’s no reason to play the Mommy Martyr. Go get yourself a good old-fashioned rub down at one of the following hot spots around town, and take a load off before D-day arrives.

The Pregnancy Massage Center
With five certified pregnancy massage therapists on staff, you can count on an incredible experience at the hands of someone who understands the physical strain of pregnancy, and even postpartum. As if the idea of someone rubbing your aching body wasn’t enough to make up your mind, consider this: The Pregnancy Massage Center’s nifty ergonomic cushions prop you up in a way that takes the pressure off your spine and surrounding muscles, and there is no pressure on your abdomen at all. The bottom line? These folks know what they’re doing.

Details: The Pregnancy Massage Center, 1164 N. Highland Avenue NE, Atlanta, GA 30306, 678-462-2173, Click here for pricing and scheduling information

Natural Body Spa
Another option that offers the services of certified pregnancy massage therapists, NBS has both male and female therapists on hand to address the aches and pains of pregnancy. During a massage, the mama-to-be will alternate positions from an incline wedge to being on her side, and ultimately gets to call the shots on what is comfortable versus what just doesn’t work. And since we all know that being pregnant represents losing major control over things, isn’t it appealing to get a little bit of that control back, even for an hour?

Details: Natural Body Spa, Multiple locations, Click here for appointments, $85 per 60 minutes, $125 per 90 minutes

Garden View Massage
Located in Decatur, this ensemble of talented massage therapists might be able to tell you what you’re going to be feeling throughout your pregnancy before you even experience it. Lower back pain? Loose ligaments that change your posture? Stress on you neck? Back? Carrying extra weight? Been there, done that. They know all about it. They’ll take care of you.

Details: Garden View Massage, 215 Church Street, Suite 108, Decatur, GA 30030, 404-377-2909, $75 per 60 minutes, $100 per 90 minutes, Packages available

The Spa at Mandarin Oriental Atlanta
Some days, Mama needs to live a little. If you’re up for a little splurge that doesn’t involve a trip to Baskin Robbins, head over to The Spa at Mandarin Oriental for either a 50 or 80 minute prenatal massage. As with all their spa treatments, you’ll be invited to hang out (or hide out, as the case may be) and enjoy the rest of the spa amenities while you’re there.

Details: The Spa at Mandarin Oriental Atlanta, 3376 Peachtree Rd. NE, Atlanta, GA 30326, 404-995-7500, $135 for 50 minutes, $185 for 80 minutes

The Ritz-Carlton, Reynolds Plantation
For the baby-mooners, or for the girls trip planners out there, pack your bags and head out of the city for an easy drive to Lake Oconee, where the Spa awaits. Did we mention they have a S’mores concierge every night? But we digress. The prenatal massage is performed by a certified prenatal therapist, and while you’re there, you should indulge in one of their signature Safe for Baby facials. You’ll return home feeling and looking human again.

Details: The Ritz-Carlton Lodge, Reynolds Plantation Resort and Spa, 1 Lake Oconee Trail, Greensboro, GA 30642, 706-467-0600, $145 per 50 minute massage, $215 per 80 minutes with body scrub massage, $145 per 50 minute facial, $215 per 80 minute facial

Do you have a secret spot for massages in Atlanta? Give up the goods below!

—Shelley Massey

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