Alaina Stephens doesn’t believe in soulmates. But she does believe in love, romance and everything else that comes with a relationship—including teamwork. When her husband, Ryan, recently posted the pairs’ rules for marital success, their idea of becoming lifelong “teammates” threw the Twitter-verse for a loop.

If being “teammates” over “soulmates” seems foreign to you, read on to learn more about the Stephens’ awesomely insightful marriage rules!

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1. No Behind-the-Back Talking

Your BFF totally gets it when you make a gentle jab at your honey.But there’s a major difference between between joking with friends about your spouse and stabbing them in the back with some serious character defamation. Stop yourself from spilling the not-so-nice details about your relationship—to anyone other than your S.O.

2. Communicate Too Much

There are no crystal balls or psychic powers here. In her “marriage rules” blog post Alaina notes that couples she never assume the other person understands what they mean. This can only result in miscommunication.

3. Try Together

Trying new things isn’t always easy—especially as an adult. But that doesn’t have to mean you should stay stuck in the same old, same old. The Stephens suggest that couples try new things, getting out of their comfort zone together.

4. Champion and Celebrate

Be your spouse’s cheerleader. When they have a win, celebrate it with them and for them.

5. Show Respect

The Stephens don’t just advocate respecting each other privately—they expect it of each other publicly too. In his tweet, Ryan adds that the shows of mutual respect should extend to what you do in front of your kiddos too.

—Erica Loop

 

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Even though it was his sixth Super Bowl win, Tom Brady’s daughter didn’t really seem to care about the big game’s results. The six-year-old joined her New England Patriots QB daddy on the field following the team’s big win—but seemed to enjoy the colorful confetti more than just about anything else!

In a pre-game day press conference, the father to three (Jack, 11, Benny, 9, and Vivian, 6) dished on why his kiddos enjoy watching him play. His eldest, Jack, actually likes the game. Of course like any almost-tween, Jack and his grade school pals are totally into football. But unlike his older bro, Benny enjoys the games for the food. Come one, popcorn, candy, and all kinds of treats? Sounds like a nine-year-old’s dream.

When it comes to six-year-old Vivian, according to Brady, she’s the fam’s biggest cheerleader. While Vivian may have her dad’s back during game-time (shouting, “Daddy go!”), the youngest of the Brady clan was all about that post-win cascade of red, white, blue and silver confetti.

Like just about any six-year-old would, Vivian got super-excited about the falling paper pieces—and the internet totally noticed. Twitter lit up with cute comments about the little girl’s absolute adoration for the confetti. So your dad just won the Super Bowl? That’s okay. But confetti? For a kiddo, that’s where it’s at!

—Erica Loop

Featured photo: Tom Brady via Instagram

 

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I have banned New Year resolutions in my home, at least for myself. I’m sure that sounds odd; After all, the new year is when you’re meant to make all these grand resolutions about changing our lives, but really, how many of us actually keep them?

Personally, I realized I rarely stick to my resolutions beyond the third week and it wasn’t because my goals weren’t worthwhile. So this year, I decided to change my approach to see if I could carry my goals further. Instead of resolutions, I opted to define what my priorities are in my daily life and long-term, especially as a parent.

This year, I want to connect more with my family, to be more present and involved in my kids’ lives and to be a better father and husband. After deep reflection, here’s how I plan to commit to my priorities this year.

Spend more time with my kids.

I’ve noticed that I have a tendency to get lost in work or the business of providing in general and have long stretches where I don’t spend much quality time with my kids aside from family dinner.

That changes this year as I plan to spend as much time with my kids as possible. This focused priority means taking them out on father-child dates, participating more in their hobbies and cutting down on how often I say “Just a minute, I have to wrap this project up.”

Have more conversations with my children.

I want to have those in-depth conversations and lively debates that will improve our communication and give me more insight into who they really are. I am hoping that whether we end up chatting about their favorite superheroes, the state of the country or their hobbies, we’ll come to appreciate each other’s different viewpoints and I can increase my family’s connection to each other.

Be smarter about my kids’ screen time.

I’ve graciously accepted that screens and gadgets are a part of my children’s lives. While I can’t get rid of them, nor would I want to completely, I can help my kids make smart choices when it comes to apps, games and TV shows.

I have decided to devote more time to researching age-appropriate educational yet fun apps and TV shows that my kids and I can enjoy together.

Take better care of myself.

Any parent will agree that it’s hard to carve time out for yourself when kids are always underfoot. But I can’t be a good partner and parent if I don’t take time out for myself once in a while. Going out with friends, exercising more or just waking up half an hour earlier to meditate and center myself will all help me be a better father.

Be more loving towards my wife.

Whenever we venture outside, my wife and I do our best to model polite, appreciative behavior by being courteous to others. However, if I want my kids to grow up happy and emotionally healthy, it’s equally important that they see me being loving, affectionate and caring towards their mom.

Build up my kids every day.

With social media use on the rise, my kids are under pressure to measure up to all kinds of standards. So I’ll use our time together to build them up. I’ll be their cheerleader and sidekick and I’ll continually affirm how wonderful they truly are.

My family means everything to me and this year and I’m hoping my parenting priorities will bring us even closer together.

Tyler Jacobson is a happy husband, father of three, writer and outreach specialist with experience with organizations that help troubled teens and parents. His areas of focus include: parenting, social media, addiction, mental illness, and issues facing teenagers today.

 

School comes with a variety of amazing experiences from learning how to read to discovering your favorite teacher, and even acting in the school play. Some of the more stressful components of school include taking exams, remembering your locker combination and, of course, homework.

For some children, homework is a breeze. They might even look forward to doing it! But for others, homework can be a struggle—a dreaded end to an already long day. It’s our job as parents to help make the process of doing homework more enjoyable and less stressful for our kids.

Here are five tips and tricks that I’ve found really work when tackling homework with students.

1. Create a Special Place

Trying to concentrate on homework with LEGOs, puzzles and Goldfish crowding the table and the TV in the next room blasting Nickelodeon isn’t very practical. Just as adults need a quiet, conducive workspace, so do children when it comes time for homework.

If your child is old enough, putting a small desk with a lamp and chair in their room might be the perfect option. Let them choose their decor also—it will provide them a sense of ownership over their space. Even if placing a desk in your child’s room won’t work for you, you can still carve out a small spot among your family’s living space that is designated as the “homework area.”

Clear off one side of your dining room table, leaving it free of clutter. Have a specific drawer for school supplies where your child can find pencils, erasers, a fraction calculator or ruler and scrap paper. This way, at homework time, your child has all the supplies they need and know exactly where to find them.

2. Schedule Time Just for Homework

Kids respond well to routine. Setting up a homework schedule can do wonders for their productivity and concentration. If your child arrives home from school at the same time each day, create a schedule for what happens next.

Maybe they need to unwind a bit before diving into division and word problems. Let them have a healthy snack and 15 to 20 minutes of TV or free time before tackling homework. If your child is involved in sports, you’ll need to take this into consideration when developing a schedule. Maybe homework happens right after school, while their brain is still in “school work” mode. Or, right before dinner. Some children work best at the very end of the day. It’s important to know and learn your child’s work ethic and to create a schedule around that. This will save you both a lot of stress and frustration.

3. Be Involved

Protractors and highlighters aren’t the only tools your child needs to succeed—communication between parent and teacher is an essential tool for educational success. I know from personal experience that I’m not always familiar with the curriculum or techniques that the school is currently using to teach a common math equation. I often ask my son, “How did your teacher explain to do it?” At 7, he doesn’t always remember. To avoid frustration, I send an email to his teacher, asking for clarification. She’ll often respond relatively quickly, with a breakdown of that day’s lesson. Knowing how the information is being taught is an invaluable tool when it comes to helping my son with his homework.

There’s nothing more confusing to a child than having a teacher and a parent try to teach them how to achieve the same answer using two different methods. To avoid this confusion, I recommend keeping in close contact with your child’s instructor. An added benefit to this report is that you can provide your child’s teacher with insight into their learning process. No one knows your child better than you. Maybe your son or daughter works best in the mornings, is left-handed, or needs to read out loud for comprehension. Unless the teacher knows this, your child might experience unnecessary distress. Keep the lines of communication open and both your child and your child’s teacher will thank you!

4. Help—But Don’t Do

This is probably the most difficult part of homework help for me. I have a tendency to give my son the answers, without even realizing that’s what I’m doing!

No one likes to see their child struggle. If your child is getting frustrated or down on themselves during homework time, take a break. Maybe go for a walk, talk about what you’re going to watch on TV that night or your weekend plans.

It’s important that you fight the urge to simply give your child the answers or make the answers obvious without having your child do the work. Without making mistakes or practicing the technique, your child will never learn how to get the answers on their own. Even if in that moment it feels easier just to tell them what to do, in the long run, you’re actually creating more of a hurdle in your child’s learning process.

5. Be a Cheerleader

Even if you never wanted to be a cheerleader in high school, now is the time!

As frustrated as your child might get with their homework, don’t be surprised if you feel the same frustration. It can be emotionally and mentally taxing when your child doesn’t understand the work or the explanation you’re trying to give. Try to stay calm and positive.

Encouraging your child can be a huge aid in their success at homework time. Point out all of your child’s accomplishments, no matter how big or small! “Look at that! You finished your reading three minutes faster than last week,” or “I only helped you with five math problems today, that’s a big improvement from yesterday.” Show your child how proud you are when they take their time and complete their homework correctly and neatly. Even if your child is still struggling, your motivation will keep them from giving up.

The most important thing to remember when helping your child successfully complete their homework assignments is to keep your attitude and the environment positive and productive. Make it a positive experience. This doesn’t mean your child will quickly finish every assignment, every day, without assistance. But it does mean you’re setting them up for success!

 

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I am a 32 year old mother of a son and wife to an officer. I am honest about both the love and struggle of parenting. I enjoy being active and writing is my passion, second only to my family.

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Your mom resume reads: cheerleader, boo-boo healer, lunch packer and support system. Inspiring your kids to be their best is just a part of who you’ve become. If you need some inspo to continue encouraging your kids to be their best and adopt a healthy lifestyle read the below five tips. You’ll be surprised how fun and simple it really is to make healthy living a part of your regular routine.



Start Your Day Off Right!
Part of being your best every day is taking care of your body from the moment you wake up. Start your day off right by fueling up on a healthy breakfast, which will give you enough energy to take on whatever the day brings. Here are 11 great breakfast recipes to get you started.

Exercise!
Get moving by getting your heart rate up, even if it’s just for a short period each day. Good news: You don’t need fancy sporting equipment or even a gym membership (here’s looking at you, Mom and Dad!) to get a workout in. Check out these easy and fun workouts you can do at home with your kids.

Stay Hydrated!
Plenty of water is necessary to sustain any active kiddo. The amount of recommended water depends on your kid’s age, weight and gender. For a handy chart for the recommended amount of H20 click here. And, for you parents, The Institute of Medicine recommends roughly 13 cups of water daily for men, and about nine cups daily for women.

Build Up Your Strength!
Bolster their strength, speed and balance by encouraging play! Get started with these 15 ideas for outdoor play.

Get Enough Sleep!
Bedtime may not be Junior’s favorite time of day, but getting enough zzzz’s is important for any growing child. If bedtime is a constant battle, here are some tips and tricks directly from our editors.

For more inspiration on how your cosmic explorer can be their best just like Miles From Tomorrowland, check out the video below!

 

How do you inspire your kids to be their best every day? What healthy habits does your family follow?