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Let’s start with the obvious.  Parenting is not easy.  Especially in our 24-7 world that churns at the relentless, unforgiving pace of our handheld devices. It makes getting a meal on the table seem like a small victory.

One of the most powerful frameworks for parents to lean on is the three unique strategies of Habits-Routines-Rituals.  Each of these three elements play a key role in bringing sanity and a sense of purpose to our fragmented days.

To make the Habits-Routines-Rituals framework both understandable and actionable, let’s start by exploring the daily bedtime traditions that we utilize (or have utilized) with our little ones.

It starts with the habit of teeth brushing. A habit is an action we do in an effortless and almost-automatic way. Once established, a habit requires little or no conscious thought.  But let’s not kid ourselves.  Habit formation with our little ones takes patience and perseverance.  For parents, until the teeth brushing habit is established, bedtime can feel like a teeth-pulling experience.  It is truly a magical moment when we remind our kid to brush their teeth and they reply . . . “I already did!”

Next is the bedtime routine.  It’s one thing to turn teeth brushing into a habit but as our children get older, we try to establish a bedtime routine that may include a range of activities.  For our kids we actually had a check-off list that was posted on their bulletin board:

  • Pick up room
  • Put on jammies
  • Lay out tomorrow’s clothes
  • Pack school bag
  • Wash up & brush teeth

Think of routines as a regular way of doing things in a particular order. A routine requires more intention and effort than a “habit” because it involves multiple activities that are grouped together. However, completing the entire routine can give our kids a sense of accomplishment (while enhancing their organization skills).

The final element is the ritual. A ritual is a routine that has a special significance and meaning. We slow down for rituals. For bedtime, the story we read together becomes the well-deserved reward for completing the bedtime routine.  We are now ready to put a special end to the day by reading a favorite book together.

Instead of treating story time as part of a “checklist” (just getting through it)—we bring a special emotion and attentiveness to it.  It feels like a ritual—one that will hold a special place in our child’s memories.

I want to give a special plug to the importance of rituals in establishing a rich family life.  The opportunities are boundless.  Traditions like taking a picture on the first day of school; carving pumpkins on Halloween; and Thanksgiving gratitude practices help children to fully experience family time.

The cool thing is that you don’t always have to consciously create these rituals because your family is naturally developing them.  Whether it’s Sunday morning pancakes, bedtime blessings, or the unique way you celebrate birthdays, new traditions are always emerging.  Just add appropriate amounts of love.

You get the idea.  Like the bedtime example above habits, routines and rituals can bring some needed structure and meaning to our go-go days. Below I  created a simple chart that highlights the natural progression for fully leveraging this simple framework as our kids grow into their teen years. We only pass this way once, so enjoy the journey!

Habits

“Almost Automatic”

Routines

“A regular way of doing things”

Rituals

“A routine with meaning”

Pre-Schoolers

  • Please & thank you
  • Brushing teeth
  • Bedtime checklist
  • Simple chores
  • Bedtime story
  • Holiday celebrations

Grade School

  • Clean-up after oneself
  • Table manners
  • Organizing bedroom
  • Managing Homework
  • Family reading time
  • After-school walk with mom

 

Teens

  • Active listening
  • Healthy eating choices
  • Self-managing school activities
  • Responsibility area (pet care, gardens, etc.)
  • Dinner -time gratitude expressions
  • “Skip school & ski with dad day”

 

Mike Morrison Ph.D.’s passion centers on developing leaders at all ages, from pre-schoolers to the corporate CEO leading a global enterprise. In today’s world, we all need to lead in some way and Mike has helped illuminate that path through three books, his most recent being Small Voice Says.

Every parent wants the very best for their baby, but the cost of baby products—like diapers and wipes—can get pretty steep. Now you can score high-quality items with very wallet-friendly prices, thanks to these new Brandless baby and pets collections!

Brandless launched in July 2017, offering organic food staples and household items for a very exciting price of just $3 per item on most items. Since then, it has expanded to include safe beauty products and non-toxic household cleaners at the same cost. Now, Brandless is introducing new items made just for babies and pets.

The new collection—which launched today—includes super adorable diapers that are just $9 a pack and made with sustainable plant-based materials. They are also hypoallergenic, free from latex, fragrances, lotions and chlorine and come in six cut prints in non-toxic ink in sizes 1 to 6.

Besides diapers, the Brandless baby the collection also features baby care products including Plant-Based Baby Wipes, Unscented Baby Lotion, Tear-Free Baby Shampoo and Wash and Non-Nano Zinc Oxide Diaper Rash Cream. All items are just $3 and are free of parabens, phthalates, sulfates and fragrance.

Brandless also wants to help you feed your baby healthier products without steep prices and now offers organic, non-GMO baby food pouches in six flavors across two developmental stages for just $3 for a pack of four. The collection also has teething wafers in two flavors.

You can also score great deals on things for your fur babies. The new Pet collection features protein-first treats, supplements, non-toxic toys and clean pet care products.

All of the items are now available on Brandless. You can also set up subscriptions for items like diapers and wipes to have them delivered regularly. &

—Shahrzad Warkentin

All photos: Courtesy of Brandless

 

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You have young children and need time to work, so childcare is a must—but where do you start? Do you need a nanny, a family assistant or should you use daycare and augment with a babysitter? With so many different terms and titles, it can certainly feel overwhelming!

“A big challenge in the industry is that terms are often confused. It leads to a disconnect in expectations making it harder for families and nannies to manage expectations about job duties and compensation,” shares Daryl Camarillo, owner of Stanford Park Nannies.

While there are training programs and state requirements for daycare workers and teachers, no qualifications are required for nannies and sitters who work in our homes. “Licensed childcare certification programs for nannies, like Amslee Institute, are vital to help families ensure their children are cared for by qualified persons,” shared Dr. Lauren Formy-Duval, a child psychologist, adjunct professor and a mom.

“Nannies and sitters investing in affordable and high-quality training not only gain practical skills but also enable a career path, just like teachers and other professionals,” she adds.

First, Take a Look at What Your Family Needs

The childcare costs are often the second largest family expense and the salary you can afford to pay is one of the most important elements to finding a great nanny. What is your budget? How many hours of childcare are needed? Do you need backup care if the nanny isn’t available? Do you need overnight care?

Take time to write out as many of the logistical needs as possible. Then, create a separate list of all the activities and tasks that need to be completed.

Get to Know Job Titles & What Each Means

Matching the family needs to childcare job titles and skills is vital to find the best fit. Families can’t realistically hire Mary Poppins at a babysitter rate, so it’s important to understand the different types of sitters, nannies and family assistants.

Babysitters provide for the safety of children for several hours, often with the family members nearby and available by phone. Babysitters may have some childcare experience but are often early in their childcare career.

Parents’ Helper

Parents’ sitters are considered babysitters-in-training, as they help care for children under the direct supervision of a parent or guardian. Often too young or inexperienced to care for children independently, Parents’ sitters play with children, feed babies or make easy lunches and perform light housework.

An entry level position in childcare, parents’ sitters should have CPR and First Aid training, but may not have experience working with children. For those less than 16 years old, the American Red Cross offers an online class and local YMCA’s may host a babysitter training day.

Babysitter

Babysitters provide for the safety of children for several hours, often with the family members nearby and available by phone. Usually working over the weekend, Babysitters offer playtime, snacks and help children get ready for bed. Sitters may do light housekeeping, such as washing the dishes or emptying the diaper bin. Sitters should have CPR and First Aid certification and it’s recommended they compete childcare training.

Nanny (Part or Full Time)

Nannies have contracted, consistent work for at least 3 months but usually a year or more and are responsible for several children throughout the work day while family members are at their places of employment. Care includes providing meals and activities for the children, but also includes outings and additional support such as transporting children to and from school, from school to clubs, sports practices, play-dates and other activities. Nannies work autonomously and may have full responsibility to care for the children when families are out of town.

All nannies, whether part or full time, should have CPR and First Aid certification and invest in childcare training that teaches age appropriate growth, development and activities from newborn through primary years. Nutrition, fitness, health, art, music and communication courses provide practical skills to help nannies excel as in-home childcare providers.

Professional Nannies & Family Assistants

Professional nannies are the central core to managing all schedules, logistics and needs for the entire family. Daryl Camarillo describes the role of a professional nanny:

“Families think of [professional] nannies as in-home professionals who do everything to care, nurture and develop the children. These include household duties related to childcare and the upkeep of the home such as washing bottles, meal preparation for the children, emptying diaper bins and the child’s laundry. Families are seeking nannies to take the child to activities and invest in their development and growth. They view the nanny as part of the childcare team.”

Professional nannies can have different types of specialization based on training and experiences that elevate their skills as family assistants, early childhood educators or special needs. Family assistants (sometimes referred to as household managers or nanny managers) perform childcare duties with additional responsibilities such as managing a weekly schedule, scheduling and attending doctor appointments, picking up the dry cleaning, planning and hosting birthday parties, household organization, shopping, pet care, meal planning and preparing meals for the family.

Family assistants are often committed to the role as their primary employment and have the maturity to work unsupervised while remaining responsible for several children and an allocated budget.

Family assistants have a combination of childcare experience, training and organizational skills. Family assistants often have between two to five years of in-home childcare experience with additional experience managing their own household or working in the service industry as a personal chef, pet sitter or cleaning service provider. Most have CPR and First Aid certification and most have completed childcare and household management programs.

Specialist nannies have varying qualifications that often include college degrees in Early Childhood Education, Special Needs Education or Psychology with diverse work experiences as a nanny, in daycares, teaching or advocacy. Specialists may also be travel nannies or are training in Montessori, RIE or Waldorf child development approaches.

Specialist nannies are passionate about their work and are often leaders in the nanny industry. Many specialist nannies work for high profile and/or high net worth families and are extremely desirable within the nanny market.

Leverage Your Resources

After listing your family needs and matching job titles, you can use online resources and local networks to seek candidates or work through a nanny agency. Many families network with other parents, talk to daycare and children activity leaders, as well as use online job boards to find great nannies and sitters.

“It’s time consuming to screen and interview potential sitters,” said Lisa Merriweather, a working mother in Los Angeles. “I look for an investment in childcare training and I always call their references after conducting a background check.” A reputable nanny or domestic placement service can also help find top nannies and sitters in your area, saving you time and effort.

As a single mom, I needed help caring for my son. I searched for credentials that identified professional nannies, but struggled to find a licensed nanny training program. With 30 college faculty, I launched Amslee Institute and happily share our expertise and adventures working with children and childcare providers.

Want to know what your kids will be coveting this year? We hightailed it to New York for the 115th Annual Toy Fair in order to get the scoop on the latest and greatest on toys and playtime. From more collectibles than you can count to dinosaur everything, here’s what play looks like in 2018.

The Biggest Trends in Toys

Dinosaurs
Jurassic World premieres this spring, so it’s no surprise we spotted new and cool dinosaur toys and games everywhere. We especially loved the Roarivores (Spring 2018) and the Gyrosphere (Spring 2018) from Mattel’s brand-new Jurrasic World. Hasbro recently introduced the Chomp Squad (check out the new YouTube show that premiered in Jan. 2018)—a group of dinosaurs that are not, in fact, extinct, but instead, geared up to help in emergencies.

Playmobil premiered The Explorers world, which includes dinos, hidden temples, enemy airboats and more (May 2018), and HABA has a new card game—Dino World—that’ll be available soon. Even the world of stop-gap animation is in on the dino craze. Cult-hit StickBot will release its new StikBot Dino Movie Set in June.

Millenium Nostalgia
Some of the toys and games you loved as a kid are back! Polly Pocket will return Fall 2018, Spin Master will re-introduce Erector sets in the fall, and Goliath Games has a new Saved by the Bell board game hitting stores soon. Alex Toys is bringing the Big Wheel back in a big way, and Funko’s new Pop Vinyl collection includes Care Bears and Thundercats!

Potty Humor
Yes, potty humor is alive and well. Flushin’ Frenzy is a new game from Mattel (Fall 2018), the next season of Flush Force collectibles from Spin Master will be available Spring 2018, Hasbro introduced Don’t Step In It, (Fall 2018) and Plunge It from Alex Toys will be available Fall 2018.

Play with a Purpose
It’s clear that toys that teach haven’t lost their STEAM. Mattel’s Roctopus (hot toy alert!) features 15 different instrument sounds across five different genres of music for kid-powered compositions (Fall 2018). DUPLO’s new Steam Train, which comes with five action bricks, allows kids as young as two to learn the basics of coding (August 2018).

Crayola introduced the Color Chemistry Lab Set, which has everything little scientists need to explore color in over 50 experiments (Fall 2018), and The Scientific Explorers line from Alex Toys will release a new Beeology kit later this year. In addition, Learning Resources recently released Botley the Coding Robot, a screen-free introduction to coding for kids ages 5 & up (available now).
Pet Care
Pet care and rescue was a recurring theme at Toy Fair this year. Get ready for Scruff-a-Luvs—adorable pets kids can “rescue” and care for—and Fur Babies (June 2018), two brand-new lines from Moose Toys. Ricky the Trick Lovin’ Pup is the latest member of Hasbro’s Fur Real line (Fall 2018). See Meez, the uber-cool hologram pet from Redwood Ventures is a modern take on the ‘90s craze for Tamagotchi (August 2018), and Melissa & Doug debuted a whole new line of pet care, including the Examine & Treat Pet Vet Play and Track & Rescue playsets.

Licensing
The characters and storylines you know are everywhere in 2018, from Mighty Mugs and Bumkins’ adorable line of superhero and gaming bibs to Green Toys announcing their very first licensing deal with Sesame Street (look out for Cookie Monster’s playdough set!). LEGO has new Harry Potter, Disney, Marvel and Star Wars sets for 2018, and Playmobil has new How to Train Your Dragon and Spirit sets being released later this year.

3D Art
It’s all about taking art off the page in 2018. The 3Doodler pen introduced Start STEM Series Kits and Make Your Own HEXBUG Pen Set & Activity Kit (May 2018), and Alex Toys offers up Paper Swirls, which allow kids to make 3D versions of unicorns and other animals. Other 3D toys include Doh Vinci on-the-go from Play-Doh (Fall 2018) and IDO3D from Redwood Ventures (July 2018).

The Element of Surprise (Again)
The big reveal and the element of surprise is still a runaway hit with kids. Shopkins Season 10 will not only re-introduce favorite characters from previous seasons, but the actual unwrapping will be even more fun with the packaging newly designed to look like mini bags of treats and sweets.

Hasbro will introduce the Cutie Marks Crew in the fall, Alex looks to bring the element of surprise to outdoor fun in the spring of 2018 with their new Breakaway Ballz (a puzzle ball that breaks to reveal another ball inside), and the Beaker Creatures from Learning Resources combine the element of surprise with science (June 2018).

Toys That Caught Our Eye

Marvel Hero Vision
Kids can battle evil like Iron Man with the new Marvel Hero Vision AR experience. With the HERO VISION app, AR goggles and markers, kids will see digital images from the world of Avengers. There are various levels of difficulty and an open play option. Ages 8 & up, $59.99, available Spring 2018.

Smart Sketcher
It kinda looks like the projector you might remember that from high school or middle school! The Smart Sketcher teaches kids how to sketch with line-by-line directions. There are over 50 activities and things to draw, plus, the optional app allows users to take pictures and convert them into sketches. Ages 5 & up, $59.95, available now at barnesandnoble.com

History Makers Puzzle Block Set (Bevy & Dave)
This unique toy was nominated as a 2018 Toy of the Year Finalist in the Rookie of the Year category. The 30-piece wooden block set has six sides of play that includes not just numbers and the alphabet, but also historical notes about iconic African-American figures and events. It also introduces self-leadership concepts to kids and comes with a tiny history book. Available now, with new toys to be released in Fall 2018. For ages 3 & up, $24.99, available now at bevyanddave.com

Air Hogs SuperNova
We got to test out this drone that combines technology with coordination and even teamwork! It’s got motion sensors and an interactive LED light core that actually responds and reacts to the user’s actions. Simply wave your hand to send it across the room, or to another player. With over 30 moves and 9 Super Tricks, we think this will be a big hit when released in the fall. Ages 6 & up. $39.99 Fall 2018.

GraviTrax
Ravensburger will give the classic marble run a modern makeover when they release GraviTrax in April 2018. The interactive track system gives kids countless STEM challenges, from experimenting with gravity and magnetism to engineering and even kinetics. The starter pack comes not only with enough pieces to build and re-build different runs, but there’s also an optional app that lets players test their runs in a digital AR world, too. Ages 8 & up. $59.99. Available April 2018. 

What do you think of the Toy Trends for 2018? Share with us in a comment below.

— Gabby Cullen

 

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These days, seems as though there’s a camp for every interest: sailing, soccer, hiking, robotics and even film-making. What if there was a place dedicated to the tasks and skills you long for the kidlets to master and complete without you having to ask twice (or 10 times)? From Pet Care 101 to Sibling Love, read on for a chuckle-worthy list of summer camps we wish existed.

photo: Myrtle Beach The Digitel via flickr

1. Take Care of Your Own Pet Camp
For the kids who swear “I’ll take care of it!” when discussing the possibility of adopting a shiny new pet. Daily routine includes being woken every two hours with lively sounds of the selected pet du jour being pumped into the bunk, then rising at dawn to begin the daily care routine. On-site experts help campers master the following skills: feeding, watering, bathing, nail-and-wing clipping, eye-booger cleaning and disposal, cage scrubbing, liter box upkeep, pet stain removal, proper dog walking, poop scooping and animal CPR.

Good to know: Campers requesting dogs will also be trained in the art of removing any number of things that manage to get lodged in canine digestive tracts— including popsicle sticks, chew toys, socks, and string.

photo: Personal Creations 

2. Indoor Voice Coaching Camp
Taught in a state-of-the-art facility acoustically built to squelch and swallow noise, kiddos will master indoor voice techniques. Participants will be led through intense rounds of the silent game and be trained in the art of actually locating a parent (rather than screaming from three rooms away). During lunch hour, campers watch silent movies and listen to the first line of Hush, Little Baby set on repeat.

Good to know: Once your child has mastered the whisper, they’re eligible to enroll in advanced technical courses including miming, sign language and beginner-level communication via ESP.

photo: Emran Kassim via flickr

3. A Please Sit Still Sit-in
Your wiggle worms will learn the ability to remain motionless for minutes on end, without feeling the need to ninja-kick the surrounding landscape, karate chop a sibling’s face or dance circles around a person already well versed in will-you-just-sit-the-freak-still. Activities that discourage the use of appendages will be employed, including (but not limited to) being strapped into Velcro suits and delicately attached to Velcro walls.

Good to know: Mastering the highly-challenging skills at this camp come with big rewards!

photo: Brittany Randolph via flickr

4. Get Out of the House On Time Training
This training includes day-long sessions on topics such as Alarm Clock How-To, Teeth Brushing 101, and Sock Finding from A-Z. Quick breakfast snacks will be provided, but only after all campers are fully dressed, with backpacks and gear assembled by the cabin door. Timed runs in and out of car will follow breakfast, with a quick break at the park. Extra credit for doing timed runs back to the car from the swings!

Good to know: Campers will come home with full understanding of statements such as “No TV Before School!” and “Have You Seen My Keys/Purse/Sanity?”

photo: Vermont Area Public Library via flickr

5. Wipe Your Own Rear Retreat
Kids graduate from this sleep-away camp fully capable of flying solo on the potty. They’ll take classes that explore the differing, centuries-old philosophies behind wadding vs. folding, they’ll learn the concept of the courtesy flush (serving the the dual purpose of reducing aroma and clog risk), and they’ll study different styles of t.p. holders to become proficient in roll-changing. Afternoon activities include having campers use toilet paper to turn friends into mummies.

Good to know: For a minimal fee, you can add a plunging class— it comes with a toddler-sized plunger, plumber’s snake and galoshes.

photo: Maria Chambers

6. Toilet Scrubbing Continuing Education Course
Once your child has graduated from Wipe Your Own Rear Retreat, they are ready to fully immerse themselves in extra bathroom training. They’ll learn to look for and clean dribbles before flushing, so you aren’t the unfortunate victim of bad aim.

Good to know: Participants will receive a reusable toilet bowl scrubber, antibacterial toilet-cleaning wet wipes, and a fun target game to place in the bowl to encourage proper aim.

photo: Cyndy via flickr

7. Laundry 101 
This master-level course will have kids picking up, sorting by color, removing tough stains, and ditching their current wad-and-stuff process after they learn to fold with the impressive skillfulness of a well-trained retail employee. Afternoon activities include wash-cycle training and fitted-sheet folding tutorials.

Good to know: Campers receive a complimentary stain stick, toddler-height ironing board, and a FlipFold folding tool, which will have them folding t-shirts in under 5 seconds.

 photo: Maria Chambers

8. Sibling Survival Camp
Campers’ days will be remotely monitored in Hunger Games fashion for signs of dissension or disrespectful behavior. The only fighting allowed is the epic water balloon sort. Camp violations such as biting, wet willie delivery, strong or forceful hugging, pushing, pinching, punching, hair pulling or name calling will require the offender to lock themselves in a gentle embrace with the victim for a full 30 seconds.

Good to know: In order to graduate, campers will need to pass the backseat test: driving around the block until passengers can manage one trip without the words “he/she touched me!” being uttered (bonus points for using a car with no A/C in the dead of summer).

9. Pick Up Your Own LEGO Training Camp
Kids will learn to utilize their fingers as little claws perfect for grasping small LEGO strewn across the house; and will work towards mastering gross motor skills such as identifying and training muscles required for bending over, and the full rotation of the upper appendages (move arms in a crane-like fashion to get all LEGO from the floor to the designated storage device.) Intense training drills train budding builders to pick up, sort by type and color, and place LEGO in the appropriate location. They’ll race against an industrial-strength vacuum cleaner that taunts them with a see-through canister serving as a display case for LEGO lost by former campers.

Good to know: Techniques learned in this camp can be applied to picking up all sorts of objects: dirty clothes (see Laundry 101 Camp above), dishes, wet towels, My Little Ponies, matchbox cars, Pokemon cards, foam Nerf gun bullets and stuffed animals.

Got any summer camps you wished existed for kids? Make us laugh in the Comments!

— Maria Chambers & Gabby Cullen