Dear Confessional,

I absolutely love writing poetry. I love it so much that in my own blank space of thoughts, I constantly make up poems about anything in my head. Something about the rhythm and melody of the words just moves me—it makes me feel so vulnerable and connected. I published my first poem when I was only 7.5 years old. From the moment that I was able to write, I was reveling in my own private world on paper.

One of the most personally impactful pieces that I have written and not yet published still resonates with me today, even more so now because of the relevance to current events. You see, I am the biggest proponent of strong people. Not physically strong, but emotionally unstoppable—people who are selfless and brave and wholehearted. Maybe a part of myself identifies with inspiring strength through weakness; finding the light through darkness; discovering motivation and empowerment through pain. I have always admired and worked to emulate the qualities in those who are passionate, giving, positive, and relentless in the pursuit for fairness and freedom.

As Harriet Tubman has been named to replace Andrew Jackson on the $20 bill, I find it only fitting to offer my personal tribute in her honor with a poem that I wrote back in 1996.

The Underground

Born in darkness, color of night

suppressed by living, suppressed by life

lingers a child denied from light

of a Maryland moon upon a bony face

battered, bruised with black-like stain.

Piercing cries replace

the resonance of a black whip beating night

upon a black exterior.

As gales wailing, waning groans grasp a might

expelled through song

of oppression and search for salvation.

Pieces of earth fall from a face from the grave after days so long;

and so she rises with the same shovel

to dig, to live. To hide among the color of night,

she fights for life through strife. Her tunnel

guides the weak, weaving finger upon finger

hand by hand creating an extraordinary force.

Fighting for freedom, her name lingers

through the air as trees whisper secrets,

humming a hymn in harmony with sound

of bare feet pit-pattering and placing permanent impressions upon solid ground.

As wisps of words whistle within strands of hair,

those who walked the path of Tubman found

themselves in Maryland, 1850, somewhere.

“Down in the waters,

down in the waters children” extend aged hands

to a black “Moses.” As now stands

death, stands life. Fate is immortality with a gun

who casts the coward within

those who turn and run.

Born in darkness, color of night

suppressed by living in terror and strife

lingers the woman who guides the light.

So much admiration and respect for this incredible individual.

“Every great dream begins with a dreamer. Always remember, you have within you the strength, the patience, and the passion to reach for the stars to change the world.” — Harriet Tubman

with Love,

Ruthi

Ruthi Davis is a the Founder of Ruth Davis Consulting LLC with over two decades of success in advertising/marketing, media/publicity, business development, client relations, and organizational optimization for a variety of clients. Ruthi is a proud mom and influencer in the parenting and family market as founder of the Superfly Supermom brand.

There are so many pressing questions for parents to answer when it comes to the tooth fairy and tradition. How much does she leave? What does the tooth fairy do with the teeth? Does she have a day job? We’ll leave the answers up to you, but if you’re looking for ways to add magic to this memorable moment in your kid’s life, we’ve got you covered. Keep reading to find your inspiration.

Shop in Fairyland

Hold the Magic

The Tooth Fairy is always looking for ways to make things more magical. Hold The Magic is all about inspiring magic and stories (no money required), with adorable tiny gifts that are Tooth Fairy approved. Each gift includes supplies for three Tooth Fairy visits and a gold bag that holds a miniature treasure, a tiny Tooth Fairy letter in a sparkly envelope and Fairy Dust.

Cost: $29.95 per kit

Online: holdthemagic.com

Leave a special token

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A keepsake leave behind makes your sidekick’s encounter with the tooth fairy even more magical. In addition to the traditional cash stash she leaves, drop the tooth fairy’s own pressed penny coin as a extra treat. Parents can choose from two different finishes, and a hole punch location if you want to turn this keepsake into a wearable memory. Cost: $4.00 Find it on Etsy

Open the door to imagination

HelloLittleCloud's Etsy shop

Fairy doors are all the rage, so why not install one for the Tooth Fairy to use? Hello Little Cloud’s fairy door has everything you need to create a magical experience for your sidekick. The included ladder, wand, fairy dust and key make it easy for your kiddo to prep for the tooth fairy’s arrival. And the poster strips that won’t damage your walls are just for you.

Cost: $30

Find it on Etsy

Leave behind cute clues

15Monkeys' Etsy shop

Your winter elf leaves messes. And your family’s leprechaun drops gold coins in the trap. So it only figures the tooth fairy would leave behind some trace too. We love these shimmery little footprints you can stick just about anywhere, if you’re looking to up your tooth fairy game. They come 10 to a pack.

Cost: $3.50

Find it on Etsy

Make money magic

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Peter Pan fans know it takes a pinch of fairy dust to fly. Leave some behind on a dollar bill to really make your kid’s eyes light up. Find out how to turn make believe into reality at tenkidsandadog. We guarantee your kiddo won’t easily part with this special keepsake.

Hang it up

Pinsandseams Etsy shop

Help your Little know where the tooth fairy can find him with this hand-sewn door hanger designed by Pins and Seams. Each one has a little pouch, which means mom or dad doesn’t have to sneak in to find a pillow in the dark. And it doubles as an extra incentive for your kiddo to get up and at ‘em in the morning.

 Cost: $12.50

Find it on Etsy

 

Make a wish

Coastalloveuk's Etsy shop

If your kids are anything like ours, they’re firm believers in the give/get exchange rate. So if they leave a tooth, they’ll expect something in return. When they wake up to find this fairy wand bracelet with a simple poem composed by the tooth fairy, they’ll know they’ve gotten the big end of the stick. Parents can go with the gold wand pictured, or customize their kid’s card by adding a name and charm of their choice.

Cost: $2.86

Find it on Etsy

Fold in special touches

Bypass the long raging debate about just how much parents should leave under the pillow, and focus on the presentation instead. A carefully crafted origami design tucked under a pillow is always more magical than a dollar bill stuffed into a pillow, no matter what the occasion. Try your hand at folding a heart, butterfly or how about a crane to leave in exchange for one clean, pearly white tooth.

Make her mark

Talktothesun's Etsy shop

Imagine waking up after losing your first tooth to find your tooth gone, a little something special left under your pillow and—look!—a stamp that magically appeared on your hand. If she wasn’t convinced before, she will be when she wakes up to find the tooth fairy’s signature stamp that appeared magically overnight. Thanks goodness for sound sleepers!

Cost: $12

Find it on Etsy

Make it official

TheGlassLocket's Etsy shop

If proof is what your little skeptic is looking for, make like a cashier and leave a receipt for him to find. Parents fill in the important details on this official looking document that includes a sweet reminder to brush, before silently slipping one under the pillow. Our favorite part? They can help you fill in those blank baby book dates when you finally get around to it.

Cost: $2.99 for a set of 10

Find it on Etsy

A noteworthy option

FairyTwigs' Etsy shop

When your kid wakes up and finds a special pint sized note the tooth fairy left behind just for him, he’ll flip. And with this pack of 20 personalized letters it’s easy for you to make his day, even if you’re short on time. Need letters for more than one kiddo? No problem, there’s more than one series to choose from at this shop, which means they’ll be none the wiser.

Cost: $6

Find it on Etsy

Go big from the start

FromLucyGifts' Etsy shop

When that first tooth starts to wiggle, add this adorable kit to your Etsy cart. It includes tooth-themed trinkets and baubles for your kid to play with, as well as a jar of fairy dust, the tooth fairy rules and a simple note from the night visitor herself. It all comes in a drawstring bag so you can keep everything together. And parents can personalize the kit.

Cost: $10.78

Find it on Etsy

Give it glitz

Mooreminutes.com

Follow the lead of mom-blogger, Lisa Moore of Moore Minutes who suggests leaving gold coins, and some fairy dust to match, under your kiddo’s pillow. Call your bank ahead of time to find the golden Sacajawea or Presidential dollar coins and then stock up. Sure, they’re legal tender, but your gap-grinned kiddo may prefer to hold on to these special fairy coins.

 

—Allison Sutcliffe

 

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Are you ready for some football? NFL Kickoff is a highly anticipated event that signifies the change of seasons and sprint toward the holidays. Now Tostitos  is helping fans be homegate heroes by bringing the roar of the stadium home during a time when fans truly miss the joy of tailgates, crowded bars and rowdy stadiums.

Frito-Lay North America is rolling out its 2020 NFL Kickoff campaigns, anchored by a star-studded TV commercial creatively themed “‘Twas the Night Before Kickoff,” relating the sense of wonder and excitement of the night before Christmas from the original iconic poem to the night before NFL Kickoff. Picture Tom Brady and Rob Gronkowski in pajamas giddy with glee. The portfolio campaign leads Frito-Lay’s return to NFL Kickoff that also includes programming from Tostitos, the Official Chip & Dip of the NFL.

“There’s something magical about NFL Kickoff that truly evokes this sense of excitement and anticipation — it’s a time when fans can set their hopes and dreams for their team,” said Rachel Ferdinando, SVP and CMO, Frito-Lay North America. “This year, the return of the NFL matters more than ever. America is looking for a sense of normalcy, and the return of one of the country’s largest cultural events is sure to provide that joy. Our campaign is meant to tap into the excitement and anticipation kickoff provides and evoke some of the same magical feelings we have during the holiday season.”

Rob Gronkowski

Frito-Lay is rolling out its 2020 NFL Kickoff campaigns, anchored by a star-studded TV commercial, “’Twas the Night Before Kickoff,” relating the sense of wonder and excitement of the night before Christmas to the night before NFL Kickoff. The hilarious commercial features NFL pros and legends, including Tom Brady and Rob Gronkowski — both starring in their first commercial in a Tampa Bay uniform — Tony Romo, Dak Prescott, Ezekiel Elliott, Katie Sowers and Marshawn Lynch. 

Katie Sowers

Directed by renowned director Peter Berg, it will air during the NFL season kick off game between the Kansas City Chiefs and Houston Texans on Sept. 10 on NBC.

Tostitos

Tostitos is also releasing limited-edition, custom FanTrack bags – a first-of-its-kind technological innovation – that feature chip-activated motion sensors and built-in speakers that automatically play fans’ favorite chants with every bowl of Tostitos poured.

To celebrate the launch of the innovative FanTrack bags, Tostitos is partnering with Dallas Cowboys quarterback Dak Prescott to share his tips for hosting the ultimate NFL homegate. “Football is returning at a time when fans and players need it most, and I’m thrilled to partner with Tostitos to make this season feel as normal and exhilarating as possible,” said Prescott.

The bags are available in 10 unique team designs with coordinating iconic sounds: Baltimore Ravens, Dallas Cowboys, Green Bay Packers, Kansas City Chiefs, Los Angeles Rams, Minnesota Vikings, New England Patriots, New Orleans Saints, Seattle Seahawks and Tampa Bay Buccaneers. 

They’ll be available to hundreds of fans nationwide via a Twitter giveaway. To score a bag, fans can enter to win by tweeting @Tostitos using #HomegateHeroEntry and tagging their favorite FanTrack bag NFL team.

—Jennifer Swartvagher

All photos courtesy of Frito-Lay

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At the start of the year, no one suspected

That a virus, COVID-19, would be detected.

This virus has spread faster than anyone might have guessed.

Leaving families in the lurch, unprepared and hard-pressed.

Many are struggling to pay bills and find food.

Juggling/losing jobs, homeschool/parenting; in general, feeling screwed.

How could this happen? Who dropped the baton?

Yet playing the “blame game” won’t help us move on…

Toward solving the issues presented before us,

I have a few thoughts that I’d like to discuss.

Possible ways to mentally manage and cope

With the unknown, the future, and yes, offer hope.

1. When you start feeling mad, count to 10 and breathe deep

Increased oxygen levels decrease stress/ improve sleep.

Speaking of sleep, make sure you get lots,

This will help you remain in control of your thoughts.

2. During times when you question your value and self-worth

Reverse that thought from doubt to rebirth.

You’re growing and stretching in unusual places

This doesn’t mean you’re losing, but rather covering your bases.

3. Embrace the “unknowns” the “WTF’s” and “isolation”

Reframe this time as a “social vacation”.

Make time for your family, hold them close, cuddle much.

Research has shown decreased loneliness with a healthy touch.

4. Increases in frustration, depression, and anxiety

WIll be seen in yourself, your family and society.

These responses are normal during times of confusion

Cut yourself slack and don’t jump to conclusions.

5. Living with ambiguity makes planning seem fruitless.

Life feels unmanageable with all the sudden “newness.”

Slow down your thoughts, one step first, then another,

Look for new paths and new ways to discover.

6. With spouses and children, possibly pets at every turn

The space where you live may cause you heartburn.

Take a few Tums, a 5-minute break.

Do something for you, hell, bake a huge cake!

7. Music is something you can use to spark joy

So dance when negative thoughts start to destroy.

When you listen to music your entire brain is engaged.

So your feelings of happiness will overpower the rage.

8. Whether you like structure or prefer to “hang loose”

Having some sort of “guideline” can help to diffuse

Potential fights around “screen time”, expectations and chores

Offering choices empowers others “you wanna wash the clothes or the floors?”

9. It’s become clear that the longer “quarantine” remains

More and more people will start feeling “chained”.

The restlessness will result in many disobeying

Leaving their homes to socialize with others left praying.

10.  For the sake of your countrymen, your family, the lot

Please follow the doc’s orders, we’re all that we’ve got.

I know distance blows, it’s disturbing and tense.

Never fear, someday soon, we’ll hear “let the huggin’ commence.”

Not everyone has a say in how they “will serve”

Whether sitting at home or rushing orders to curbs.

Some are deemed “essential” and we wish you good luck.

Hopefully soon this will all get unstuck.

When it’s all said and done, and restrictions are lifted

Let’s remember this time as a gift that shape-shifted.

A pleasant surprise at the core of the storm.

Like a large, plush soft blanket all cozy and warm.

We have a choice every day when we wake

To embrace the new challenges head-on and remake

A life that more resembles our hearts and our minds

One kinder toward animals, the earth, humankind.

I’ll leave you with these final words of advice

Hold your partner, kiss your kid(s), nothing less will suffice.

For tomorrow brings challenges, for now the unknown.

So today embrace “the moment” before the time’s flown.

 

 

I am a 42-year-old biological mother of two young children in a same-sex relationship, a clinical psychologist with a specialty in neuropsychological assessment, a music therapist, a trainer of therapy dogs and ex-communicated Mormon from Indiana with a wicked sense of humor. 

Photo: Pixabay

If we think we know a thing or two about life and love going into parenting, we realize the moment our child first rests in our arms just how shallow our roots of understanding. Which makes sense because the greatest path to knowing self is by coming to know who we are as a part of someone else.

And as a mom, fusing ourselves to the heartbeat of our kiddos is indescribable. While we learn a whole lot of good about the true meaning of love, our children also have an uncanny ability to point out massive flaws in our character. Thank God. Really, God, thank you.

Our kin become a perpetual mirror for us to gaze upon as they reflect back what we like about our self along with what needs some finishing touches. Since I’ve somehow managed to log 23 years of parenting three kids in like 20 seconds of real time, the length of journey allows me to ponder all the lessons learned. And let me tell you, the instruction is kinda sorta picking up steam as I steward young adults in their 20s. Fair warning.

So here are 36 beautiful lessons—based in part from Robert Fulghum’s poem, All I Really Need to Know I Learned in Kindergarten—we can glean from our precious ones, split into Act 1(birth to 12) and Act 2 (13+) of child rearing. Act 1: All the Insight Needed to Become Selfless Your Young Kids Will Teach You

  1. Cherish everything.
  2. Fight fair.
  3. Don’t compare yourself to others.
  4. Put everything into perspective.
  5. Worry about your own mess.
  6. Don’t expect others to see things the way you do.
  7. Say I love you. Always.
  8. Count to ten before anything.
  9. Pray.
  10. Trials and struggles enlighten you.
  11. Live a grateful life.
  12. Trust more, think less.
  13. And love and hug and listen and laugh.
  14. Speak, but also be.
  15. Make some time for you every day.
  16. When you feel like you’re alone on an island, know a million other parents share the same shore.
  17. Communicate, then succeed and fail together.
  18. Become a child once again.

Act 2: All the Insight Needed for Authentic Freedom Your Teens Will Teach You

  1. Let go of almost everything.
  2. Give up the fight.
  3. Don’t take things personally.
  4. Change your perspective.
  5. Stop worrying.
  6. Try to see things as others do.
  7. Love. Everything. Always.
  8. Count your blessings daily.
  9. Pray. Pray. Pray.
  10. Let yourself unfold.
  11. Live simply and simply live.
  12. Be more open-minded.
  13. And observe and breathe and be and become.
  14. Project less.
  15. Love yourself each day.
  16. When you feel like you’ve done nothing right, pause and turn to God for His opinion.
  17. Communicate by listening first, speaking if necessary, extending Grace always.
  18. Embrace the dichotomy of life.

Witnessing the chaos, magnificence, unpredictability, grand metamorphoses of all things ‘growing up’ reminds us how much we need to unlearn as adults to become like little children once again.

The joys of motherhood speak for themselves, but it’s in the messy pile where we find our authentic self.

The gift of motherhood full of collateral beauty we never signed up for and receive anyway: freedom to unfold and become the best version of ourselves right alongside our kids.

What a blessing.

A self-described “sappy soul whisperer/sarcasm aficionado,” Shelby is a wife of 27 years & mom of three millennials. She co-authored How Are You Feeling, Momma? (You don't need to say, "I'm fine.") Her stories are in print at Guideposts, online at sites like Her View From Home and Parenting Teens & Tweens, and at shelbyspear.com. Get 3 FREE chapters of Shelby's book

The words of Robert Fulghum’s essay, “All I Really Need to Know I Learned in Kindergarten,” hung on my kitchen wall like a whisper of God’s grace amidst our daily living when my three kids were tiny tots.  He reminds us with profound wonder how most of what you need to know about life you learn in kindergarten: share everything, play fair, clean up your own mess, to name a few.

If you’ve been a parent for any length of time, say, a few months, I’m guessing you’ve come to learn the school of parenting includes an even deeper sandbox of lessons from which to scoop meaning and purpose. And not because counting forward from the date on our birth certificate equates to wisdom either. Wisdom is knowing what you don’t know, which is a lot of not knowing much about anything when entering parenthood.

Kids are ego smashers, and the “in the sand experience of raising them” offers many opportunities to knock down our castles of pride and self-preservation. After 23 years of feet in the gritty stuff adventure, my soul walks much lighter having had fortresses of vainglory crumble.

The journey of raising kids does a number on our heart, whatever the real meaning is of such a cliché. But doing a number on us in terms of parenting means unexplainable twists and turns, tugs and pulls of emotions. And if we allow ourselves to learn from the flux, the experience can and should transform our heart in any number of ways.

For me, doing the mom thing for decades means a head full of retrospect and a heart which continues to morph in a million ways. Consider the following poem my parenting heartspeak in 100 words—inspired in full by the talented and wise Robert Fulghum.

Cherish everything.

Fight fair.

Don’t compare yourself to others.

Put everything into perspective.

Worry about your own mess.

Don’t expect others to see things the way you do.

Say I love you. Always.

Count to ten before anything.

Pray.

Trials and struggles enlighten you.

Live a grateful life.

Trust more, think less.

And love and hug and listen and laugh.

Speak, but also be.

Make some time for you every day.

When you feel like you’re alone on an island,

Know a million other parents share the same shore.

Communicate, then succeed and fail together.

Become a child once again.

Our children see the world from a different vantage point. Finding the courage to stoop to their level is akin to sprinkling pixie dust upon any beleaguered, disparaging, and calloused life views. The evils of fallen nature have yet to tarnish the innocence, so the wonder, wide-eyed amazement and unconditional love of everything in sight still tumbles through their spirit. Choosing to go along for the ride can awaken our tired adult selves and rebirth a knowing of what matters most.

And these are only some of the lessons we learn in the first decade. The second half of child-rearing is a close encounter of the undefinable kind, unfurling life lessons from every quantum cranny of the parent-child universe. Stay tuned as I sit crisscross applesauce in my empty nest and muse over how to pen the adolescent years into 100 words or less.

And if you know a mom or dad who would enjoy this post, please share. The more insight we can garner and pass around, the better journey for us as parents—which means even greater rewards for our kids going forward.

Transform on, crazy Mamas!

A self-described “sappy soul whisperer/sarcasm aficionado,” Shelby is a wife of 27 years & mom of three millennials. She co-authored How Are You Feeling, Momma? (You don't need to say, "I'm fine.") Her stories are in print at Guideposts, online at sites like Her View From Home and Parenting Teens & Tweens, and at shelbyspear.com. Get 3 FREE chapters of Shelby's book

Teachers deserve more than an apple or freshly sharpened bouquet of pencils when it comes to showing them your appreciation. So why not do something thoughtful to show them how grateful you really are? Here are five ideas for recognizing and thanking your children’s amazing teachers.

1. Nominate a teacher for an award!
The Oregon Lottery has partnered with The Oregon Department of Education to offer a Teacher of the Year program! Nominate a teacher who truly inspires students and makes a difference in the community. The winning teacher receives $5,000 and a special fund to cover all travel costs for the year, plus $5,000 for his or her school. Just in the past two years, the Oregon Lottery has awarded $537.7 million to K-12 public education. (That’s about $460 per student each year!) Nominations for the 2021 award are open until January 31, 2020. And just think about all the textbooks, computers, services and equipment that money can buy!

2. Say something special
Let your child’s teacher know how much you appreciate them by putting pen to paper and writing a heartfelt and sincere note. Be specific with your gratitude. Tell them what they do that you find so wonderful and valuable for students. If you have a specific story to highlight then go for it. There is perhaps no such thing as too much praise in this case! Then, have your child write a card with a poem and/or drawing that illustrates what an impact the teacher has had in their life.

3. Give a really great gift card!
Who doesn’t love permission to buy something just for fun? Pick out a gift card for your child’s teacher and know that they will appreciate the gesture. There are practically infinite online retailers to choose from, in addition to local restaurants and bakeries, bookstores, spas or salons, and fancy food markets.

4. Make something delicious in the kitchen
You don’t have to be a great chef to whip up something sweet to gift a teacher. Bake a batch of cookies, brownies or muffins either from scratch or from a store-bought box. Even better if you enlist your kid to help you! You can have fun in the kitchen making roasted chickpeas or nuts, a warm soup or sauce, homemade granola or whatever your family enjoys and wants to share with a special teacher.

5. Shop local!
Track down the most popular favorites at all your local haunts and get a little something from each store. Grab the best coffee beans, bagels or doughnuts, deli pickles and a gift certificate for a manicure around town and wrap up everything in a basket or tote to gift to your child’s teacher with a quick note of thanks.

 

Do you know a deserving teacher making a difference for students in your community? Nominate them for Oregon Teacher of the Year at OregonTeacherOfTheYear.org!

—Whitney C. Harris

New Year’s is a fun time to congratulate what our kids have accomplished this year at home through their chores, or at school, or in the field, and also help them get excited to take on new big goals. Whether creative, athletic, or intellectual, goals help our kids grow to effective, happy adults. Sticking to the very useful S-M-A-R-T model ensures they’ll have a better chance at reaching their goal. 

#1. BE SPECIFIC. The clearer the better. The more focused the efforts and laser targeted the resolutions are, the higher likelihood for success. Help your kids narrow down a specific goal, even if short term. Start with a list of 10 fun things they might see themselves doing in 2020. Then order them according to the time of year most likely to get done.

Finally, have them pick the top 3 tasks they think they SHOULD do along with the top 3 they are EXCITED to do. Encourage them to pick from the ‘excited list over the ‘should list’. This will help them find their voice, value their opinion and stay engaged. Then, if you’re on S’moresUp, organize these into their 2020 chores.

#2. CREATE MEASURABLE LIMITS. Without a measurable endpoint, our kids don’t know when they’ve completed the challenge (this is very familiar to the families I work with on my app, who use S’ mores as rewards). The mind likes to know when to celebrate, when to internalize the “win” as part of their forming identity. Their goal has to have a very clear deadline.

Short term goals help kids associate trying with rewards, keeping them engaged and excited. Long term goals have the added benefit of helping kids set up benchmarks and “build resilience and cope with setbacks”.

Help kids stay motivated by encouraging them to “track their goals;” To revisit their goals and remind the mind to focus on them by rewriting the goal.

#3. STICK TO ACHIEVABLE THINGS. Our mind feels rewarded when we hit our goals. Tiny wins build the momentum of big wins. We want our kids to set achievable goals and know when they are winning. We want them to dream big while building confidence and muscle memory through consistent good habits that yield little rewards.

As they get clear about their big goals, help them set smaller benchmarks easier to consistently achieve. Remind them that they are loved no matter the outcome and that staying the course achieving the little wins is more important than the overall outcome of the big reach goal.

#4. STAY RELEVANT. Help your kids pick something they actually want to do, not something YouTube or their peers say they should do. They are more likely to stick to goals they’re genuinely interested in and can build pride around finishing. The goals they choose should be in alignment with the overall person they are trying to become.

Examples include 

  • Practicing their dance routine every day for 2 weeks leading up to an audition

  • Reading a new book per month 

  • Shooting 100 free throws a day 5 days/week before screen time

  • Submitting a poem to a local paper within 2 weeks  

 Whatever lights them up, make sure it’s very specific and they know what they are aiming for.

#5. BE TIMELY. Timing matters, particularly with growing and always-changing kids! Direct your kids to pick goals that matter to them NOW. They will grow and change and some things won’t be relevant anymore in 3, 4, 5 years. For example, that favorite song they’re trying to learn on the guitar is a hallmark of this point in their life and will motivate them the most right now but may not be relevant in 5 years.

Priya Rajendran  is a developer and “Silicon Valley tech mom” who’s created S’moresUp an innovative iPhone and Android solution to the problems of managing family’s day to day life, with over 100,000 moms and dads already on board.  She’s a technology veteran who lead the team behind Paypal's Wallet.

 

Around this time of year, we often take a step back and think about all of the things and experiences for which we are grateful. At Stratford School, we are incredibly grateful to the amazing authors who visit our schools and share their books with our students. An author visit is a rich experience that students not only learn from but remember for a long time. Each visit provides the entire school community with a common learning experience and lends authenticity and credibility to the reading and writing process. We are grateful to the diverse group of authors who have shared their stories with our students over the years. So, if you are looking for a great book to give this season, below is a featured list of some of the best books authors have recently shared with Stratford:

Preschool to First Grade

The Tales From the Chinese Zodiac by Oliver Chin

A rainbow of animals inhabits the popular annual series, The Tales from the Chinese Zodiac. This is the only series in English that features each of the animals of the Lunar New Year. There are twelve unique adventures that have been revised with a bilingual translation in simplified Chinese. Children love to read the book about the zodiac animal from their birth year.

The Cazuela That The Farm Maiden Stirred by Samantha Vamos

With the help of her animal friends, a farm maiden begins to cook. The goat lends some butter; the cow, fresh milk; the chicken, a few eggs-all for a pot of rice pudding. Inspired by “The House that Jack Built,” Vamos offers a fresh, new twist, playfully introducing Spanish into this cumulative tale. The illustrations are acrylics-on-wood paintings and have a burnished copper glow that is exquisite.

Second, Third and Fourth Grade

The Code Busters Club (series) by Penny Warner

Four code-loving fanatics join forces to crack mind-boggling mysteries involving spies, rare Egyptian artifacts, haunted lighthouses, and much more!  Finding the missing key isn’t the only thing solving these puzzles. The code busters discover that friends are the most valuable key and can be as different as the symbols they solve. These exciting interactive adventures will bring out the true code buster in any young reader eager to learn and decipher more than fifteen codes.

I’m Just No Good at Rhyming and Other Nonsense for Mischievous Kids and Immature Grown-ups by Chris Harris

Lovers of Shel Silverstein will laugh until they cry. This book is so cleverly written that kids and adults alike will quickly become obsessed with finding their new favorite poem to read. Paired with perfectly matched illustrations by Lane Smith, the book’s collection of poems are hilariously silly and quirky, with topics that your children/students will find relatable, for example. “Sometimes I don’t want to Share,” a poem that expresses the anguish of having to share a delicious cookie.

Fifth Grade and Middle School

Aruh Shah and the End of Time (series) written by Roshani Chokshi

Best-selling author Rick Riordan introduces this adventure by Roshani Chokshi about twelve-year-old Aru Shah, who has a tendency to stretch the truth in order to fit in at school. While her classmates are jetting off to family vacations in exotic locales, she’ll be spending her autumn break at home, in the Museum of Ancient Indian Art and Culture, waiting for her mom to return from her latest archeological trip. Is it any wonder that Aru makes up stories about being royalty, traveling to Paris, and having a chauffeur? Witty humor and fast paced fun keep readers content through the Kingdom of Death in this fantasy rooted in Hindu mythology.

Wizard for Hire by Obert Skye

Are your kids looking for something to read after Harry Potter? This series is perfect! Fourteen-year-old Ozzy is desperate for help because his scientist-parents have been kidnapped after discovering a formula that enables mind control. Their work was so top secret Ozzy is afraid to go to the police, but without help, he fears he’ll never find his parents. Then he stumbles across a classified ad in the local newspaper that says “Wizard for Hire. Call 555-SPEL.”  What follows is an adventure full of humor, danger, grief, and acceptance.

 

 

Keira Pride is the Head Librarian at Stratford School, the leading independent private school founded with a vision of creating a unique, multi-dimensional, educational foundation for children. As Stratford's Head Librarian, she manages the library services department across campuses throughout Northern and Southern California. 

When you hear the phrase “nursery rhyme,” you probably think of “simple”. They’re short, and obviously have to be able to be understood by the youngest of us. But a lot of our feelings of simplicity come from the fact that they are so familiar. We hear them thousands of times by the time we’re adults and I’m sure you can recite dozens by heart without a second thought. But many of the rhymes hide a deep complexity. To me, they prepare us for the greater stories and experiences we’ll have throughout our lives.

Take “The Itsy-Bitsy Spider.” I’ll use that as my example today because it’s one of my favorites and has been one of the favorites of every kid in my family growing up. The

First thought: It’s a boringly simple story. Not true! It follows perfectly the five act structure made famous in Shakespeare’s plays. It starts with some exposition (“The itsy-bitsy spider went up the water spout.”), the tension rises with the conflict and rising action (“Down came the rain and”) till the climax hits and calamity strikes (“washed the spider out.”). The matters begin to resolve in the falling action (“Up came the sun and dried up all the rain,”) and finally we are left with the conclusion or denouement (“and the itsy-bitsy spider climbed up the spout again.”). It may have simple concepts, but that’s anything but a simple story.

Now, I’m not saying you should go explain Gustav Freytag’s Pyramid to your child so they can understand the deep hidden meaning of this tragedy of the tiny spider, but it’s a great introduction to the stories we love best. Whether it’s Hamlet or Endgame, we learned to appreciate heroic tales sitting on our mother’s lap.

The poem contains some pretty complex language structure, too. Take a look at the rhyme broken down as a sentence diagram. (Don’t worry! There won’t be a test. I know many people break down into panic sweats when they remember diagramming sentences in school.) Notice how involved those middle two bits are. When a sentence is simple, you can basically read the diagram left to right, but you can’t do that here. That’s not to mention all the tails and branches and implied words they contain! Plus, do you notice the symmetry? Without even knowing it, your teaching your child the beauty and the complexity of language and getting them ready to enjoy the language of poetry.

Finally, nursery rhymes not only help teach story and language, they’re an introduction to social interaction as well. For my family, who live so far apart from each other, Skype has fundamentally changed how we stay in touch with each other. My little niece has been so lucky that despite living so far away from aunts and uncles and grandparents, she still gets to see our faces almost every week. It’s so normal to her that my sister has to explain to her that sometimes she won’t be able to see our faces if it’s just a normal phone call. (I’m still not sure she fully understands this). I bring this up because, like me, The Itsy-Bitsy Spider is her favorite story and she lets us know that. Before she could even really talk, she would sit in front of the camera and touch index finger to index finger and thumb to thumb, over and over again until we obliged and sang the song to her. She’d join in the motions, and clap her appreciation when we finished. Or maybe (if the adults were having a conversation) we’d say no, and she learned to patiently wait and ask again when the timing seemed right. That’s incredible social knowledge that you can’t impart on a kid by explaining it, we pass it down through interactions like this. In this day and age of screens and instant gratification, those kinds of social skills are getting harder to impart on our kids, it’s important that we continue these old traditions that do just that.

There are so many other benefits that I could list. They teach us history and metaphor. They teach us patterns and numbers. They teach us humor and morals. I’m sure you could list more. (And I’d love to hear some of them in the comments!) So I hope we never look down on our trusted nursery rhymes for being too old and simple, because they are wonderfully complex and some of the best tools we have for preparing our children for tomorrow.

This post originally appeared on Cali’s Books.

I'm a mom of two lovely chilren living in LA. I trained as an engineer and worked in banking and for Disney. Now I create musical board books for children like those I found in France, my home country. I loved books since childhood and wanted to introduce children to the joyous world of words and music.