Social skills are skills that involve everything social—which encompasses a lot more than you might think! In order to make friends kids need to be able to initiate appropriate interactions and conversation, and then maintain those interactions and conversation. They also need to be able to maintain relationships, which means they must be able to empathize with others, problem solve, and react appropriately to negative situations. Social skills are really important because kids need friends. Children who have difficulty with social skills may feel lonely and isolated at school, and these are not fun feelings for anyone to have. If you feel your child has a true social skills deficit, you should seek professional help. In most cases, group activities are a great way to promote social skills development.

And while any group activity will involve some degree of social skills, there are activities that will provide more opportunities for social interaction than others. And because practicing any skill is important, the more opportunities your child has to practice social skills within a class the better.

Team Sports

This category is broad and includes classes that are not organized sports but involve teams of children working towards a common goal. When a team is working towards a common goal they must interact in order to do so successfully. Even if your child is on the quieter side, she must be observant of her teammates and interact with others in order to participate in the activity. Observing other children interact is a good way for children who have difficulty with social skills learn more about what appropriate social interactions look like among their peers, which can help improve their skills even when they were not a direct part of the interaction.

Creative Classes

When choosing a creative class for your child, you may want to take your child’s personality into consideration. Depending on how your child reacts in certain situations you may want to choose a creative activity she has a lot of experience in or one that is completely new. For example, if your child tends to be shy and easily embarrassed, you probably don’t want to sign her up for an activity she’s never done before, because it is likely to make her feel incompetent which will not put her in the mood to interact with others. However, if your child is the kind who tends to dominate social situations and enjoys showing off, giving her the opportunity to try a new activity that she is not likely to be the “best” at may set her up for more success socially during the class. Regardless of which creative activity you pick and why, creative activities provide good opportunities to practice social skills, especially when children are working in close proximity to each other. Creative activities tend to be very relaxing for children and can help children come out of their shells, which opens the door for a  lot of opportunities for practicing social skills. Additionally, creative activities tend to have quieter environments than team sports which will allow your child to focus more on interaction in a less stressful way.

Because children who have difficulty with social skills will benefit from not only initiating but also maintaining relationships, you should consider signing your child up for a series of classes, rather than a drop in class, where she will get the opportunity to spend time with the same group of kids every week. Luckily for your child, and you, you can do so quickly and easily through GoBambino!

This post originally appeared on Bambinoculars.
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Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) is characterized by a difficulty paying attention, hyperactivity, and impulsivity. Diagnosing ADHD in children is difficult because, let’s face it, almost every child meets those criteria. Whether your child was diagnosed, or you suspect they may have ADHD, here are some things to consider.

Since it’s a neurobehavioral disorder, a licensed clinical psychologist or psychiatrist should be consulted for a formal diagnosis to be made. There are various therapeutic and medicinal methods available after psychiatric consultation. For most children, a regimen of cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) will be used. CBT is the most popular therapeutic method for treating people with ADHD. This concerns changing the child’s behaviors to improve their focus and lower impulsivity over time.

Talk therapy may also be used for symptom management. Most therapists will use a combination of CBT and talk therapy to effectively treat ADHD. If symptoms endure or are particularly severe then a psychiatrist may speak with you about prescription and non-prescription options. Paradoxically, stimulants often help hyperactive children with their ADHD symptoms. This is because they interact with the neurotransmitter dopamine, which plays a role in attention and focus. Depressants may also be prescribed if your child doesn’t respond well to the stimulants.

The prospect of giving your child prescription medicines can be frightening. So, doctors have recently begun looking into over-the-counter medicines as well as dietary components to substitute prescriptions. Some of these supplements include L-theanine, hemp extract, 5-HTP, and various vitamins. New research suggests that certain foods may also contribute to ADHD and related symptoms. These include refined sugars, caffeine, milk, chocolate, and food dyes.

Since children with ADHD are typically high-energy, it’s also important to give them an outlet to channel it through. Signing them up for sports and clubs are great ways of doing this, especially those involving lots of teamwork and body movement. Playing sports or physically engaging clubs that conclude about an hour before bed will exhaust your child’s energy and help them sleep, as well. This also presents a wonderful opportunity to strengthen social skills, which can be challenging with ADHD.

ADHD often co-exists with social anxiety, depression, conduct disorders, and learning disabilities. The latter of which is typically from a difficulty focusing and not from any deficit in intelligence or other cognitive impairment. To avoid social anxiety, it’s important to make sure your child socializes outside of school for at least an hour or two a day while also having a couple hours of alone time afterwards to de-compress. ADHD children may also have a lot of creative energy that’s hard to express in school, so making sure they can let their imaginations take them at home is vital.

It’s easy for children with ADHD to feel depressed from a young age. This often results from an amalgamation of social stress, low self-esteem, difficulty ‘fitting in’, and lack of direction. To remedy these issues, it’s important to talk to your child about their interests, speak with their teachers about their conduct at school, and be sure they have a solid group of friends. Depression can also be diet or sleep related, so keeping those in check is always important. This is especially true since ADHD can make sleeping difficult in young children.

My name's Vicky and I have a beautiful four-year-old son named Paul who just started preschool. When I'm not being a mother, I practice tennis and play with my corgi, Milo.

Every parent wants their kids to succeed in life but recent studies liken the snow plow or lawn mower parenting style to helicopter parenting and how it impacts children. Named by former high school teacher David McCullough back in 2015, this parenting style is founded on the idea that parents remove barriers in their children’s lives to ensure success.

Much like a snowplow or a lawn mower removes debris from its path, snowplow parents are characterized by a commitment to keeping their kids from failure. Though it comes from a place of good intentions, not allowing kids to fail can have devastating consequences.

photo: Matthew Henry via Burst

When children learn early on that they can be successful at everything if their parents just pave the way, it can lead to unrealistic expectations in the future. The fact is, no one can succeed all the time and failure is not only a fact of life, but a healthy part of growing up.

Since this parenting style is rather new, there have been very few studies documenting the impact it has on kids. However, it has been likened to the helicopter parenting method, in which parents have an overactive involvement in every aspect of their children’s lives.

Children of helicopter parents were found to have difficulty in managing their emotions later in life and one wonders if similar results will come about as a result of snowplow parenting down the road.

––Karly Wood

featured image by Nicole De Khors via Burst 

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Got a little putter in your house? With a few household items you can create a golf course for them that will entertain them, rain or shine. You can go elaborate and make each room of the house a different hole or keep it simple and do it all in your yard. Your only limitation is your imagination (and your swing). Read on for ideas.


photo: Katia Strieck via flickr

No Golf Set? No Problem!

If you don’t have a toy golf set get creative. Unless you’re playing outside and the kids don’t have wild swings, you can use superballs, ping pong balls, or even a tennis ball. No putter? Try out a sword, stick or even your own hands. Just keep the size of the ball in mind when you are creating your obstacles.

photo: Craftulate

Boxes

Use a cardboard box like Craftulate did here to create a simple three-hole obstacle for the kids. Make one hole harder by making angling the box, or try making the holes different sizes. You can also use empty cereal or tissue boxes. Try turning them on their side or even at an angle by taping them down with duct or packing tape. Old wrapping paper or packing tubes can become tunnels.

photo: Dimitri K via flickr

Cup, 2, 3, 4

There’s nothing like a plastic cup to make a “hole” for your golfers. Turn the cups on the side and tape them lightly in place to putt gently into them, or put them upright across the yard and see who can get their ball in. Tupperware works great for this too! Household items like runner rugs, paper plates and pillows can all be used to make pathways and “holes” for the golfers to target. 

 photo: jlaswilson via pixabay 

Get Creative with Toys

Create an obstacle course more challenging than your local mini-golf with toys you have around the house. Use LEGO bricks to build arches and tunnels; Hot Wheels tracks to create an extra-tricky way to level-up (bonus to anyone who can keep their ball on the track); books to create ramps and tunnels; and even stuffed animals to make gaps that the kids have to hit between.

photo: makelessnoise via flickr

Stop, Chalk & Roll

If you are playing outside, create difficulty levels for each area by drawing targets or boundaries with chalk. Use rocks to make roadways that kids have to hit through.

photo: Florida Fish and Wildlife via flickr 

Scoring Tips

Unlike many other games, less is more with golf. The lower your score the better you’re actually doing. Basically, each stroke you take counts as a point. If you want to be true to the sport assign each hole in your obstacle course a number of difficulty beginning at Par 3 and moving up.

For example:

Par 3 means it’s a shorter hole and you should be able to get it in within three strokes

Par 4 means you should be able to get it in the hole with four shots (or less)

Par 5: five strokes or less

Par 6: six strokes or less

(etc.)

Tip: Make some of the holes a high par so that the kids almost always score under! 

photo: Torrey Wiley via flickr 

Fun golf terms to shout out!

Birdie: one less than the expected, so one under par

Eagle: two under par

Bogey: one over par

Double bogey: two over par

Triple bogey: two over par

Quadruple bogey: four more than par

(etc.)

 

Have you tried making a course at home? What are your ideas? Share them with us in a comment below. 

—Amber Guetebier*

*actual golfers were consulted in the writing of this story

featured image: clappstar via flickr

Trying to keep track of your wiggle worms and all the stuff they have to bring while traveling is no easy feat; it’s a given that treasured items may go missing (FYI: airplanes and cars love to eat LEGOs). This year, keep your losses at a minimum, and try stocking up on gear that travels well. Flip through the album below to sneak a peek at 10 magnificent magnetic toys that’ll stick around long enough to get from Point A to Point B.

Patterns on the Go

Pattern and puzzle lovers will stay occupied for hours with an Imagination Patterns Kit. Self-contained in a sturdy carrying case with rope handle, it opens up to a dry erase board, 42 colored, magnetic pieces and 50 full-color puzzle cards varying in difficulty. Kids can either use the cards, or their own imagination to create patterns and pictures and the magnetic pieces will limit the amount of time you spend digging under the seat for that last building block. Ages 3 and up.

Available at Mindware.com, $34.95.

What’s your favorite toy to take on a family trip? Share with us in a Comment below.

— Gabby Cullen

You’ve seen them at the zoo lounging around in trees, and you’ve probably cooed at least a little over their cute faces but sloths are full of surprises. Read on to learn a few things you might not know about one of the slowest mammals around.

photo: miranda via flickr 

Two-Toed Sloths

The scientific name for a two-toed sloth is Choloepus didactylus (nope, not “Slowy Jones”). There are two species of two-toed sloths: C. didactylus and C. hoffmanni. Both are native to Central and South American tropical rainforests.

1. Sloths really are slow. So slow, in fact, that in the humidity of their native climate an algae actually grows on their fur. This gives them a greenish hue, which acts as camouflage.

2. Sloths, moths and algae have a beneficial relationship: The pyralid moth is a species of moth that lives in the sloth’s fleece. There is also an algae species that grows in the grooved hair of the sloth. Scientists believe that the moth transports nutrient-rich waste from the sloth’s poop to fertilize the algae. In other words, the moths are algae farmers on the sloth’s back. And guess what else? The algae is a key source of food for the sloth!

3. Sloths have 10 upper teeth and 8 lower teeth.

4. They can weigh between 8-17 pounds and grow to be between 21–29 inches in length.

5. Two-toed sloths can live up to 20 years in the wild and 30-40 years in captivity!

6. Sloths cannot shiver to stay warm, and so have difficulty maintaining their body temperature on rainy days.

7. Sloths see better at night than in the day and they have very poor hearing. They rely on their sense of smell to locate food and other sloths.

8. Sloths come down from their canopy about once a week to pee and poo unless there is a danger or predator. If that’s the case they do it from the trees!

9. They are good swimmers, especially the backstroke.

10. While they are very quiet in general, if scared they will hiss or moan.

11. Sloths eat leaves, twigs, berries, fruits and the occasional insect or small animal.

12. Females sloths are pregnant for six months.

13. Sloths usually mate and give birth while hanging in trees. Mothers will birth their babies either on the ground upside down in a hanging position. After it is born the infant grabs onto the mother’s fur and makes its way to her chest to nurse.

14. Sloth mother’s milk is higher in fat (6.9 %) and protein (61%) than cow’s milk.

Three-Toed Sloths

There are also four species of three-toed sloths including Bradypodidae pygmaeus, a pygmy species. The other three are B. torquatus, which has a mane; B. tridactylus also known as the pale-throated, three-toed sloth; and B. variegatus, the brown throated, three-toed sloth. They share many characteristics with their two-toed cousins, but a few things are different. 

1. Three-toed sloths are better swimmers than their two-toed relatives.

2. They change trees up to four times a day.

3. The are diurnal, meaning they are awake either day or night. Two-toed sloths are nocturnal.

Want to learn more about these amazing animals and how you can help protect their habitat? Visit the WWF’s sloth page.

Do you have a cool sloth fact or story? Share it with us in the comments below. 

Extra thanks to the Education Department at the San Francisco Zoo for sharing their sloth facts.

—Amber Guetebier

May is National Bike Month. And we couldn’t think of a better way to celebrate than to stack bikes on the rack, pile the kiddos into the car and head to Duthie Hill Bike Park for some serious ride time. It’s like Disneyland, for mountain bikers! The six-miles of windy trails, berms, ladders and jumps mimic intense roller coaster thrills (or at least the dizzying Mad Hatter Tea Cups), less the flight south. The fact that it’s an all-ages, all-skill-level park. Even better!

 photo: Allison Sutcliffe

Play in a Mountain Bike Paradise
Duthie Hill is just outside of Issaquah, on the Sammamish Plateau. It’s 120-acres of green spaces, with a 2.5-acre clearing that also happens to be (through the hard work of the Evergreen Mountain Bike Alliance volunteers and sponsors) a wickedly cool mountain bike course that appeals to riders of all ages. It’s a place to ride, practice and show off your sweet moves, for the young and the young at heart.

 photo: Allison Sutcliffe

Once you’ve parked and made your way down the trail into the clearing, there are lots of options. Depending on your little pedal-head’s comfort level, you can choose to stay here or work your way around the trails that branch out from there. If your sidekick is just starting out, the clearing is a good place to be. Here little riders can clock practice time on the mini pump track, building skills to take out on the trails later. And those who are working on mastering more extreme aspects of this sport can catch big air off the jumps, if they’re feeling bold. Consider the clearing to be pit stop central. Hungry bikers can nosh and rehydrate on a picnic bench (or just take a bike break), and Littles in need of the loo can find relief here too.

 photo: Allison Sutcliffe

The trails that branch out from this main playground cover over six-miles and range in difficulty from green to double-black diamonds. Each trail is clearly marked so parents know what adventures lie ahead, and they’re pretty accurate. Green means go for families looking to get out on a trail, but we recommend saving the double-blacks for later.

photo: Allison Sutcliffe

A Party on Wheels
Can’t get enough Duthie? Then get your bike geek on with the kids at the Evergreen Mountain Bike Festival, June 6th at Duthie Hill. From 9 a.m.-5 p.m. this free event will keep everyone in the fam happy and busy, doing everything from checking out the latest (and sure to be greatest) gear, to making inner tube art in the KidZone. There are still a few events yet to be planned, but the current schedule is packed with races, raffles and rides for the minis, mom and dad. Also on the docket are bikes to demo, clinics to attend and challenges to be accepted. If any of these pique your interest, plan to bring some dough ($20 for non-members, $10 for members) to purchase a Festival Clearing Pass. You’ll need one to unlock these active perks.

photo: Allison Sutcliffe 

Good to Know
1.  Duthie’s rough terrain means fat tires all around (sorry road bikes). And while balance bikes are a-okay to use, those with rubber tires are a must.

2.  The large clearing, from which all things bike extend, is about .8 miles in from the south parking lot. Don’t forget to add an out-and-back to your total mileage for the tot lot, who will sleep well after this outdoor adventure.

3.  Weekends at Duthie, especially on a sunny day, are busy, busy, busy! If you don’t find a parking spot right away, try, try again. One is sure to open up soon.

Duthie Hill Bike Park
26150 S.E. Issaquah-Fall City Rd.
Issaquah, Wa 98029
206-296-0100
Online: evergreenmtb.org/trails/duthie-hill

Have you taken your kids to Duthie Hill Bike Park? Tell us about your experience in the Comments below.

— Allison Sutcliffe