Sesame Workshop is debuting a new resource to help families talk to their littles about race and racism. As part of Sesame Workshop’s Coming Together initiative, the “ABC’s of Racial Literacy” provides a framework for parents to engage their children in meaningful discussions (on an age/developmentally appropriate level, of course) about race and identity.

The “ABC’s of Racial Literacy” includes videos that explain race and issues surrounding racism in ways young child can understand. This includes info from beloved characters and a few new Muppet friends.

Dr. Jeanette Betancourt, Senior Vice President, Sesame Workshop, said in a press release, “At Sesame Workshop, we look at every issue through the lens of a child. Children are not colorblind—not only do they first notice differences in race in infancy, but they also start forming their own sense of identity at a very young age.”

Betancourt continued, “‘The ABCs of Racial Literacy’ is designed to foster open, age-appropriate conversations among families and support them in building racial literacy. By encouraging these much-needed conversations through Coming Together, we can help children build a positive sense of identity and value the identities of others.”

Kay Wilson Stallings, Executive Vice President of Creative and Production, Sesame Workshop, added, “The work to dismantle racism begins by helping children understand what racism is and how it hurts and impacts people. Sadly, today’s announcement comes at a time of racial and social discord when many families are in need of support in talking to their children about racism.”

Learn more about Coming Together: The ABC’s of Racial Literacy and find resources for your family on Sesame Workshop’s website here.

—Erica Loop

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It’s been a year and then some for all of us living through the COVID-19 epidemic. From masking up and washing our hands to stay-at-home orders and travel restrictions, we are a world in constant response to the pandemic. Through it all, we’ve been parenting our kids, balancing distance learning, and lockdown with the need for our kids to understand, grow, and play.

Unfortunately, the past year, and the past few weeks, in particular, have revealed an alarmingly high rise in racism toward Asian Americans and people of Asian descent. Misinformation surrounding the virus, its origins, and public statements from high-ranking officials have fueled this fire. One woman with a mission is trying to change that.

Enter Dr. Li and the Crown Wearing Virus. Author of two NY Times bestselling Goodnight Stories for Rebel Girls books, Francesca Cavello wrote this book as a response to the rise in anti-Asian racism and the rampant misinformation about the virus and how it started. Illustrated by Claudia Flandoli, this book details and celebrates the important work by Dr. Li Weinlang, the Chinese doctor who was the first to bring attention and raise the alarm that a novel coronavirus was spreading in Wuhan. It also teaches children practical facts about the virus, its spread, and how to contain it. Armed with the correct information, children’s anxiety and concerns are addressed.

“As you build the future of our planet

May you always remember

This extraordinary time

When we found out

That we do not walk alone

That when one of us falls

We all fall
And when one of us rises

We all rise. “

—from Cavello’s dedication to Doctor Li’s children and to the brave children of the world.

 

In the story, we learn about Dr. Li, who risked being arrested to spread accurate information about the high-rate of transmission with COVID-19. Although he worked hard to identify and protect people, he was threatened, as were the doctors and health-care professionals who supported him and tried to pass on the information about how to protect yourself from the spread of the virus.

Meanwhile, we meet seven-year-old May who learns about Dr. Li’s work, and his death from the virus and feels afraid. Together, with her mom’s help, they set out to educate themselves about the Coronavirus. The book itself shares practical facts, beautiful images, and reassures children with researched information.

The book itself offers a Chinese hero for children to remember, and empowers kids with knowledge.

Undercats itself is a new media company that publishes “children’s books that celebrate diversity and inspire families to take action for equality.” Look for more books coming out this fall.

Learn more about Undercats and their new publishing platform, and order your copy, at undercats.com 

—Amber Guetebier

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In the past, March 2nd, the birthday of Theodor Seuss Geisel, well known as a picture book author, Dr. Seuss, was a cause for celebration. During my years as the Director of the Little Folks Nursery School in Washington, DC, on this day, children were asked to bring in their favorite Dr. Seuss books for sharing and reading aloud. Children and teachers made red and white striped “Cat in the Hat” hats. And to add to the festivities, I took the opportunity to cook up some ham and eggs —I mean green eggs and ham—to everyone’s delight!

While many were shocked by the announcement yesterday to cease publication of six of Mr. Geisel’s books, I believe that we have even more to celebrate, with this decision by Dr. Seuss Enterprise, the keeper of his legacy. Some may cry “cancel culture” at the news of this choice. But, I, for one, applaud it and appreciate the greater awareness brought to his past instances of racial stereotyping.

How can we be more sensitive to this type of transgression if we don’t point it out when we see it? In Theodor Geisel’s case, racist and anti-semitic depictions can be found in drawings from his college days, his early cartoons, and long before he became a successful children’s book author. When delving into his early work, there is no mistaking his ugly and hateful depiction of Blacks, Asians, and Jews; it is indefensible. More subtle insulting imagery of non-whites in his children’s picture books resulted in the decision to discontinue their publication.

Like all humans, artists are flawed…and full of contradictions. Still, we can “call out” their harmful mistakes while acknowledging their positive contributions. And moving forward, we all can learn from and make a more significant effort to represent all book characters with dignity and respect while acknowledging when someone falls short.

In Mr. Geisel’s case, his later attempts to instill tolerance, diversity, and compromise in books such as The Sneetches and Other Stories, published in the late fifties, can be embraced and appreciated. In The Lorax, published in 1971, readers are introduced to environmentalism and the importance of taking care of our earth. So, like Dr. Seuss himself, who grew and changed with the times, our consciousness can be broadened as well, if we welcome an honest look at the expression of others. We can take the good, leave the bad, or at least acknowledge how wrong and damaging degrading representation can be.

As an educator, parent, grandparent, and human, I know that representation is important. When children do not see themselves in books or see depictions that are negative, no matter how subtle, true damage is done. When they see others represented in a negative way, those thoughts and feelings are internalized. We all have a responsibility to think critically and call out such representation.

While I approach the idea of censorship with caution and a genuine concern for free speech and the exchange of ideas, I don’t see how the discontinuation of these six books affects either free speech or an exchange of ideas; if anything, it encourages reflection and discussion.

I am not buying the notion that we must endure offensive imagery or language because of nostalgia or the risk of censorship gone too far. Lies, hateful and hurtful visuals can and should be named. Some are more worried about being called “PC” or politically correct, than undoing the damage caused by white supremacy and white privilege. If that is where the concern lies, there is more to worry about than a publishing decision by an organization that is, after years of consideration, trying to get it right for our future and the future of our children.

In my view, it is the past acceptance or obliviousness to the subtle and not-so-subtle racist messages in books, television, movies, and advertising that contribute to the disease of racism. It isn’t the only factor that feeds it, but it plays a role, and acknowledging it as such is a step in the right direction.

Like the Dr. Seuss Enterprise, I look forward to a new chapter.

I am a parent and grandparent with over four decades of experience in early childhood education. I share my passion, wisdom and experience, with parents and the people who care for and about children at Little Folks Big Questions, where we're out to answer the questions parents face in today's world.

Hank Aaron, the baseball legend and MLB Hall of Famer, passed away Jan. 22, 2021. During his lifetime, he broke records, racial barriers and fought for equality. Read on to learn a little more about his legacy.

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Hank Aaron was born Henry Louis Aaron, on Feb. 5, 1934, in Mobile, Alabama.

His nickname was "Hammer" or "Hammerin' Hank" because of the high numbers of both home-runs and RBIs throughout his career.

A player's RBI total indicates their number of "Runs Batted In" or how many runs scored as a result from a player's hit. Hank Aaron had 2297, which is the Major League Baseball all-time record to date.

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Hank Aaron signed with a scout from the Major League Baseball Boston Braves in 1952, but didn't start his official MLB career until April 1954 with the Milwaukee Braves (who later moved to Atlanta). 

He hit his first home run on April 23, 1954.

On April 8, 1974 Hank Aaron hit his 715th career home run, surpassing Babe Ruth's record of 714. 

His signature on a Braves jersey is on display at the Smithsonian National Museum of African American History and Culture. 

He finished his career in Milwaukee with the Brewers, with a total of 755 home runs. This record held for 33 years. 

Hank Aaron's brother, Tommie Aaron, also played in the MLB. Tommie's career of 13 home runs brings the MLB-brothers total to 768, the highest combined sibling total ever. 

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Hank Aaron was inducted into the Baseball Hall of Fame in 1982.

Hank went pro in 1951 when signed to the Negro American League team, the Indianapolis Clowns.

Because of rampant racism in the United States,  American baseball was segregated. (Blacks and non-white players were not allowed to play on the same team as white players.) The Negro American League began in 1937 (and disbanded in 1962) was one of several"Negro leagues" established during this time.

This segregation in Major League Baseball was also referred to as the Color Line, which Jackie Robinson broke in 1945 when he signed with the Brooklyn Dodgers. Robinson began playing for the Dodgers in 1947.

Hank said that he decided to become a MLB player after hearing a speech by Robinson. Hank was just 14. 

While playing for the Milwaukee Braves affiliate team, the Jacksonville Tars, Aaron faced rampant discrimination, especially when traveling in the South. He was often forced to travel separately from his (white) teammates and had to eat or sleep in different accommodations.

Throughout his outstanding baseball career, Hank faced prevalent racism. While playing for the (Atlanta) Braves as he approached the season (1974) where he was likely to break Babe Ruth's record, he began receiving death threats and a tremendous amount of hate mail. There was even a threat to kidnap one of his daughters. None of this stopped him.

Hank Aaron was a supporter of civil rights, the NAACP and countless other humanitarian efforts to better the lives and rights of African-Americans in the US. 

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Hank was dad to five children: Gary, Lary, Dorinda, Gaie, Hank Jr. and Ceci. 

He wrote an autobiography called I Had a Hammer in 1999. 

He was the recipient of the Presidential Citizens Medal in 2001 and the Presidential Medal of Freedom in 2002. The Presidential Medal of Freedom is the highest honor a citizen can be awarded in the United States. 

In 2005, the NAACP Legal Defense Fund awarded him the Thurgood Marshall Lifetime Achievement Award. They also established the Hank Aaron Humanitarian in Sports Award.

The famous boxer Muhammad Ali once said that Hank Aaron was, "The only man I idolize more than myself." 

 In 2001, Hank Aaron was awarded an honorary Doctor of Humanities degree from Princeton. 

Read more about Hank Aaron at the Baseball Hall of Fame.

—Amber Guetebier

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Last year, This Book Is Anti-Racist hit the shelves at an important time in our history. Now, author Tiffany Jewell is back with another must-have book to help further the discussion and education on anti-racism.

This Book Is Anti-Racist Journal ($12.99) will drop on Feb. 2 and is packed over 50 activities “wake up, take action and do the work.” The official companion to This Book Is Anti-Racist, the journal is adorned with beautifully illustrated pages that provide space for young readers to grow and learn.

photo: Francis Lincoln Children’s Books

A toolkit of sorts, the activities include issues of identity, history, family, your universe, disruption, self-care, privilege, art and expression. Kids will be able to write a letter to their future self, brainstorm anti-racist visions of what communities can look like, discovering the diversity in their own universe and much more.

This Book Is Anti-Racist Journal will release on Feb. 2 and is ideal for kids 10 and older.

––Karly Wood

 

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Reading is fundamental—unless, of course, those fundamentals are biased or racist. And so it goes with some of the most classic kids’ books. They were once apropos—sort of—but now they are a bit problematic and may require further explanation for your kid’s. From Little House on the Prairie to Peter Pan, these tomes prove that they aren’t necessarily timeless. What was once meant to comfort and entertain kids may now do major harm by spotlighting some of the racist ideology that many parents today try to shield from their children. Read on to learn more about six books intended for kids that you might want to shelve.

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Charlie and the Chocolate Factory 

In its most basic form, the plot of Roald Dahl’s well-known children’s book takes readers on a journey through a zany candy factory. Sounds sweet, right? Maybe not. In Dahl’s original 1964 plot—two movie adaptations have since followed suit—the Oompa Loompas were not orange with green hair. Instead, they were described as black pygmies “from the very deepest and darkest part of the African jungle where no white man had been before.” It wasn’t until after readers decried the quite obvious slavery undertones of the Oompa Loompas, that later versions of the text remixed their skin color from black to white (which then turned to orange and green in the 1971 film).

The Secret Garden 

There’s no denying the fact that Frances Hodgson Burnett’s early 20th century novel about an English girl (Mary) who is forced to move back to her green and picturesque hometown after her parents die in India, is full of some good moral lessons (think: caring for others as they have cared for you). Some of the dialogue, however, may furrow your feathers. Example: Mary meets a servant girl named Martha, who thought Mary would be black (coming from India and all). Stereotypical, yes. But, wait—it gets worse. Mary replies to Martha by saying, “blacks are not people.” Double yikes!

Doctor Dolittle 

Before it was an Eddie Murphy or Robert Downey Jr. film adaptation, Dr. DoLittle was a popular kid’s book from the 1950s. The plot? A doctor realizes he can chat with animals. One part of the book, though, that you won't see in the modern flicks are when the doctor meets an African prince who wants to marry a white princess. Instead of his blessings, the doctor bleaches the prince’s skin so that he can ac

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Huckleberry Finn

Mark Twain's famous story about two runaways—one trying to get away from his dad; the other trying to get away from slavery—may not have read as ghastly when it was first published in 1885; remember, slavery wasn't completely abolished until 1865, with plenty of holdouts in the early years. But in today's readings the snippets of racism found in this classic tale—the 'N' word is used over 200 times (yes, 200!) can make for a rather uncomfortable group reading. So much so, that in 2019  New Jersey lawyers requested that Huck Finn be banned in school districts across the state.  

The Little House on the Prairie Books 

Laura Ingalls Wilder's world-famous series that follows the 19th-century pioneer family has been around for ages. In a bit of irony, many American schools have blocked the books due to the racist language. Native Americans are consistently demonized, minstrel shows are performed, and Black people are referred to as “darkies.”

Sherlock Holmes 

We know what you’re thinking. Sherlock Holmes? And Watson?! Where’s the racism? If you’re thinking of the recent BBC adaptation of Sherlock, you won’t get too far—pretty much everyone (white, Black, yellow, blue) irritates him. It’s when you go back to Arthur Conan Doyle’s original texts when questionable phrases and pages start to pop up. In “The Adventure of the Three Gables,” for example, Holmes pursues a former slave and then tells him he stinks once he catches up to him. Also, Tonga (a character from “The Sign of the Four”) describes his people from the Andaman Islands as “having large, misshapen heads, small fierce eyes and distorted features…”

Peter Pan 

J.M. Barrie’s story of Peter, the Darling children and the Lost Boys is one part magical and one part outdated. Namely, the treatment of Tiger Lily and the other native Americans is majorly stereotypical—"they carry tomahawks and knives, and their naked bodies gleam with paint and oil. Strung around them are scalps, of boys as well as pirates.”

—Ayren Jackson-Cannady

 

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2020 was a wild and sometimes challenging ride for Portland parents. COVID-19 caused schools, indoor play spaces, and even parks to close down. While navigating the constantly changing COVID safety requirements, Portland families still managed to make things work while staying safe. Some might think that most moms and dads look back on 2020 as anything but a positive time in their lives, but when we asked, we were surprised that many look back on it downright fondly. Read on to find out what Portland parents have to say about what they loved about 2020.

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Dani 

I’ve been working from home since March, and although it’s been challenging to have interruptions throughout the day as my three kids are online for school, I feel like this experience has made all of us closer. I don’t spend two+ hours per-day driving (one hour commuting each way). I’ve gotten more sleep each day not having to get up extra early to get ready to be in an office environment for the day, and nothing beats having my youngest son come in my room when he first wakes up to give me sleepy snuggles before he gets dressed for the day. Before, I’d leave the house to head to the office before my kids were even awake. I feel like I’ve had more time…more quality time…and I’m so thankful for that.

Lelah Hogan

Portland school districts have rocked the school lunch and breakfast program! I was just thinking about this today. There has been a heightened sense of community reliability and connections. I will be sad if this goes to the way side when normalcy returns.

I have a new appreciation for teachers and how crazy fantastic they have been regarding flexibility and patience with the vast amount of changes. I have heard of several families finding they love to homeschool, or parents being surprised with how well a child does academically versus in a large classroom.

Elise Bays

One thing is it’s made us all slow down a bit more. We are doing more together as a family. Less tv time and more learning together. We bought a piano and now everyone is learning. Our schedules were hectic before and it has been nice to slow it down. I would echo that teachers have been amazing during this time and give so much of their time. The online environment has actually worked better for my son. As a whole I see where people have come together more to help each other.
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Ellen

2020 has definitely…caused a slow down for many families. Its brought a new appreciation for the old recipes, traditions and generations that hasn’t been as experienced in recent years. My sons and daughter have been able to share so much with my grandbaby, talk freely with my mom and learn more about our family history. Its brought us back together in so many ways and reignited a family spark that our communities were missing for far too long.

Crysta

I have six kids…I still feel that navigating parenting, working and schooling is something that should be celebrated, because it was bananas. But I took away so much from this year. I slowed down. I spent more one on one time with my kids individually and collectively. We went on adventures and learning transitioned to being outside more. We set goals and navigated mental health and how that looks for our family. It brought us together closer as cooperants to these kiddos and my work as a birth worker was refueled and rejuvenated as so many birthing people came back home to have their babies. If 2020 provided anything it was resilience and connection.

Kate VanLooven

I got to spend time with most of my kids (ages 18 to 26), time I would never have had without the shutdown. We all live in one house, usually on different schedules. We got to garden, cook, and play family games together, opportunities that would not have otherwise happened. Plus, now we know that no matter what’s going on, we will have fun. My dad lives with us, too. His grandchildren and I have been able to spend time with him while he’s still around (he’s 77). Keeping him safe with kids and COVID has been a challenge but worth whatever sacrifices we have had to make.

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Cassie Brighter

One has to work reeeeally hard to find such a silver lining. But I would say that my conversations with my fourteen-yo daughter on systemic racism, American history, the political process and our civic responsibility would be my “good thing.”
But seriously, it’s like asking what’s the best part of a hurricane.

Dawn

My son taught me some good cooking skills. He likes cooking…I don’t.

Christina

I was pregnant and gave birth in June. I swear I have such a chill baby because I was working from home and able to rest, eat healthier and have flexibility which allowed me naps. I was able to focus on having a safe pregnancy vs. commuting and being on my feet, walking to meetings, etc.

Stephanie 

Ultimately as hard as 2020 was on full time working parents, the best thing that came from it was we got to spend significantly more time with our kids. Spending so much time together made us closer. Our oldest (13) started talking to us more and wanting to do activities with us instead of playing his video games. We became our 2yr olds best friends and teachers. We got to spend months teaching both of them what we felt was important. It made both my husband and I realize that we need to focus more on our family than on our careers. Sometimes it takes a really shitty situation for you to realize what’s actually important and that was 2020 for us.

—Annette Benedetti

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Parents are searching for the perfect holiday gifts for the little ones on their list. Today, Amazon released the Best Books of the Year as chosen by Amazon’s Books Editors. After reading thousands of titles collectively over the last 12 months, Amazon’s Books Editors chose Brittany K. Barnett’s A Knock at Midnight: A Story of Hope, Justice, and Freedom as 2020’s top title.

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They also selected the following top picks for children’s and young adult titles.

Children’s

  1. All Because You Matter by Tami Charles
  2. Paola Santiago and the River of Tears by Tehlor Kay Mejia
  3. Cat Kid Comic Club by Dav Pilkey
  4. What Will You Dream of Tonight? By Frances Stickley
  5. AntiRacist Baby by Ibram X. Kendi
  6. The One and Only Bob by Katherine Applegate
  7. I Am Every Good Thing by Derrick Barnes
  8. The Silver Arrow by Lev Grossman
  9. The Suitcase by Chris Naylor-Ballesteros
  10. Skunk and Badger by Amy Timberlake

 

Young Adult

  1. Midnight Sun by Stephenie Meyer
  2. Punching the Air by Ibi Zoboi
  3. The Ballad of Songbirds and Snakes by Suzanne Collins
  4. The Cousins by Karen McManus
  5. Raybearer by Jordan Ifueko
  6. Stamped: Racism, Antiracism, and You by Jason Reynolds
  7. Crave by Tracy Wolff
  8. We Are Not Free by Traci Chee
  9. The Enigma Game by Elizabeth Wein
  10. The Extraordinaries by TJ Klune

The Best Books of the Year is an annual list featuring the Top 100 books of the year, published between January and December 2020, as well as top picks across categories like literature & fiction, mystery and thrillers, science fiction & fantasy, biography, children’s, young adult, and more.

For more information on the books featured on the Best Books of the Year list, as well as insightful reviews on new books, author interviews, and hand-curated roundups in popular categories, visit the Amazon Book Review and subscribe to the Amazon Book Review Podcast on Amazon Music, Apple or TuneIn. You can also follow the Books Editors recommendations and conversations @amazonbooks on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram.

—Jennifer Swartvagher

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Mom confession: When I started looking for a preschool for my oldest son I was out of town. We spend summers in the midwest and live in California. This means I found myself shopping around for a preschool thousands of miles from where they were located. My search consisted of cold calling neighborhood schools to check for openings. I had no criteria put together. I wasn’t worried about the curriculum. I hadn’t thought about play-based education versus traditional learning structures. The racial diversity of my child’s future school was far from a concern. After calling several schools, I finally found an opening. I tentatively signed him up—scheduled to start when we returned to California several weeks later. 

We showed up a few days early to tour the school. Greeted by the principal, she then walked us to what would be my son’s classroom. We met his teachers and future classmates. The school seemed completely adequate, safe with kind teachers and friendly students. With this less than thorough vetting process, we decided our son would attend the following week. 

Now as I look back on this moment, this choice in our child’s education, I have to admit something, racially we were the minority in this school. As we walked away the questions littered my mind. Is this a good school? Am I doing the right thing? Years later, as I am learning about my own racial lens I recognize the racism in these questions. The underlying concern to these thoughts was: There aren’t that many white kids here, does that mean this isn’t a good school? Thankfully, I also recognized the power in diversity and we sent our son to school the next week. 

Three years later and I can say without hesitation, I love the preschool our kids go to—when it was time to send my middle son we eagerly signed him up. About a year ago I entered a conversation with several mom friends centering around the concept of addressing racism with our children. At the time, I stated I was hesitant to bring up race to my children. Diversity has continued to be the main feature of the school they attend and it has proven to be one of the things I am happiest about. Both of my children have had close friends at school that are not white. They have never asked me about the child’s appearance. Not to argue they haven’t noticed, simply that the differences seem to be of little concern or question. I argued to my friends—that’s the goal, to have our children completely unaware of the weight that race can carry in this world. We want our children to see no hierarchy based upon what people look like, right? Well as it turns out, not really. 

I was scared of introducing the concept of racism to my kids. I was most fearful that it would change their outlook. That they would suddenly see themselves as better than their non-white counterparts. That maybe, the world would become a little less optimistic once they knew the pain of racism. It took too many cries of pain from the black community to open my eyes to the disservice I was doing to both my children and the greater human community. 

I am raising white men. Not men yet—they are five, three, and one. They seem harmless, powerless, and innocent right now. But one day they will be white men. And before that, they will be white teenagers. And before that, they will be white boys, hopefully, friends to people of all colors. By not educating my boys on the privilege that they carry now, and how that privilege will likely become more evident as they grow, I am taking away their opportunity to do the right thing. They will be in the position one day, sooner than I realize, to stand up and be anti-racist. They will have the potential to be a loud voice for human equality, that someone might listen to more than their black or brown counterparts. My job in raising these white boys is to give them the education to know what racism is, not only so that they can see the privilege that surrounds them, but so that they can do everything they can to stop the injustices happening in our world. 

My three-year-old’s classroom was doing a school project centered around heritage. Without many details, the teacher asked me where my son was from. Like many, we are a hybrid breed, but for the sake of the project, I told her Scotland. Seeming unsatisfied with my answer, the teacher followed up several times. Each time I answered she would ask “What do you want him to be? American or Scottish?” Honestly, I didn’t care. It seemed she preferred to have him be American, so I agreed he would be American. I laughed about this exchange with another mom from school. She and her daughter also white. We both agreed it was strange but thought little of it. 

When we showed up to the open house to see the results of our watered-down heritage, we looked at a wall covered with the students in the class. Each child had a photo of their head placed upon a body dressed in the theme of the country of their heritage. There were our children’s faces placed upon an American flag dress and cowboy-themed costume. We grimaced a bit, both of us aware of the delicate ground we stood on. I think the teacher meant well, she herself a minority. Now, at the retelling of this story, I am saddened. Saddened that two blond-haired, blue-eyed three-year-olds were categorized as more American than their class counterparts. 

Raising anti-racists needs to start with me being an anti-racist. So I am doing the work, not just for myself, not just for my sons. I am doing the work for the people in this world who need our voices to be heard when theirs are being ignored. 

 

Always on the search for faith and beauty in the everyday, I love the power of words. I believe in the strength of sharing stories to bring people together. I live in Southern California, with my husband and three sons but dream of autumn in the midwest. For more musings on the everyday: FrecklesandFortitude.com