It’s 6:00 p.m., I’m getting my daughter in the shower, it’s just another regular night. Except…it isn’t. She says “Mom, my armpits stink”. Naturally, I’m thinking there’s no way. She’s only 7 years old. I take a whiff just to amuse her, and sure enough…there’s the slightest smell indicating she should probably start wearing deodorant. It wasn’t very strong, but it was enough.

I’m freaking out. She’s ecstatic. She’s a big girl and gets to wear deodorant now. I’m nearly hyperventilating because…how do I explain this to my 7-year-old? Do I have the puberty talk with her? Do I go into detail? I gave her a shower and got her settled on her bed. She was blissfully unaware of what I was about to explain to her. Here, in bullet form, I have neatly laid out for you the list of what to expect from puberty in girls:

  • Body odor
  • Acne
  • Hormones (insert eye roll here)
  • Breast Development
  • Hair growth
  • PMS
  • Periods

That’s just a short list. By the time I had finished listing and explaining the first few, my daughter’s eyes were as wide as saucers. Great. Had I already messed that one up? I thought to myself…”I didn’t expect to have this conversation today. I haven’t even had time to Google anything!”

Amid my internal freak out session, I stopped myself. I didn’t want the words coming out of my mouth to be from somebody else. I wanted to explain to her what I thought was the best way. I finally explained (lightly) about periods and why girls have them and what happens when they do. I didn’t have the sex conversation. That, I feel, she is still too young for but I shared my experience with my first period and explained to her that I was telling her so that if she saw blood one day, she would understand why and that it was okay.

Puberty doesn’t have to be something that girls are afraid of. The more comfortable we can make them with it, the easier the transition will be for them. Girls have a hard enough time with puberty and bodily changes, but especially ones that are ahead or behind their peers. They just need a gentle reminder that even though their armpits stink, we still love them.

“A flower does not think of competing with the flower next to it. It just blooms.” ~Zen Shin

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Actress Zoe Saldana’s house is fit for a kid. Actually, it’s fit for three kids—her four-year-old twins Cy and Bowie and two-year-old son Zen!

Saldana opened up to Architectural Digest, sharing her views on creating a family-centered home space. The actress noted that even though she grew up, “in that generation where you only had one room in the house that was for the kids and then every other room you weren’t supposed to go in, because that’s where Grandma’s china was,” her home has plenty of places for the kiddos to play.

What’s it like to live like Saldana? While she and hubby Marco Perego enjoy their home’s interior Italian ’60s modern aesthetic, they also take their children into consideration. Saldana told Architectural Digest, “I wanted to make sure that in addition to everything being beautiful and affordable and super artistic, I wanted it to be child-safe. I have three boys and they’re going to be jumping, ripping and biting. I also wanted it to be durable.”

Child-safe, affordable and durable? Yep, we totally get that!

—Erica Loop

Featured photo: Zoe Saldana via Instagram 

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Parents are getting through the tail end of being couped up with the kids this winter by sharing some hilarious sentiments on Twitter this week. Whether it’s reveling in that cup of coffee or wondering why we just can’t stop repeating ourselves, our roundup of funny tweets will give you a chuckle.

 

1. ::oommmmmm::

2. ☕☕☕

3. Samesies.

4. Tiny daggers 🤣

5. Enjoy that alone time while you can get it!

6. GENIUS!

7. Because parenting.

8. Basically.

9. NOOOOOO

10. What, WHAT?

––Karly Wood

photo: Ryan McGuire via Gratisography; composite by Karly Wood for Red Tricycle

 

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Any parent will tell you that when it comes to nap time, the struggle is real. In order to help you out, we’ve collected the best sleeping tips from moms who have spent time on the front lines. From creating a zen vibe to being totally prepped, here’s how to nail nap time, all the time.

For Under 6 Months

1. Be Hands Off
At this age, lots of parents can only get baby to nap with/on Mom or Dad. Try rocking baby close to his crib and as soon as he’s asleep, lay him down with one hand on his stomach and at his side. He’ll probably wake up and fuss for a minute, but keep your hands on him to assure him he’s okay. When he’s drifted back to sleep, remove your hands and walk away.

2. Consistency Is Key
Although it’s tempting to let your little one sleep in the car seat, it’s okay to move a sleeping baby. In fact, it’s downright necessary if you ever hope your baby will sleep in a crib and be a good napper. Each time it’s nap time, try and make sure your baby is in her designated sleeping space.

photo: Abigail Batchelder via Flickr

For 6 – 12 Months

3. Tools of the Trade
Have the tools for happy naps at the ready. Keep baby’s pacifier, sleep sack and sound machine at hand so that if she happens to fall asleep in her chair, it’s easy to transfer her to her crib. Doing this will help cement the fact that when their heads hit the crib mattress, it’s time to doze.

4. Create the Right Climate
There are a lot of potential distractions for babies during the first year of life, so cut out the easy ones: light and noise. Turn on the sound machine, close the blackout curtains and help them get used to knowing that when it’s “night time,” it’s nap time.

5. Let Them Self Soothe
You don’t need to use the CIO method in order to create a champion napper. But, even letting your little one cry for a full minute before charging into the room gives her a chance to simply resettle on her own. Sometimes an instant interruption from Mom will only disrupt sleep further.

photo: Shelley Glapion via Flickr

For Two-Year-Olds

6. Keep It Simple
Don’t get too involved. Although we’re prone to create elaborate routines to get our kids ready to settle, the more elaborate the routine, the more they may rely on it in the long run. Keeping a nap time routine simple (i.e. one quick book as soon as they start rubbing their eyes) is one that you can perform anywhere, which could be the secret behind raising an easy napper.

7. Don’t Force It
Pay attention to sleep schedules. If your child is already getting 12 hours of sleep at night (lucky you) then a two-hour nap might not be what they need. Instead, settle him down when you notice the need for a rest, and encourage him to do so. If your son only needs a 30-minute snooze midday, forcing him to sleep too much could end up ruining his nighttime slumber.

photo: Dan Pearce via Flickr

For Three-and Four-Year-Olds

8. Create a Spa-Like Experience
Cue up soothing spa music, which you can find on any music app. Use a diffuser to pump out a relaxing spa scent (lavender, eucalyptus, etc.). Kids will feel instantly relaxed the same way we immediately get zen vibes when we walk into a spa. Now if only we had time for pedicures.

9. Have Their Favorites on Hand
Kids at this age can go either way with napping, so try thinking about the items needed to get them to nap longer. Keep a sippy cup of water in the crib in case your kiddo wakes up thirsty. Or make sure her favorite lovey is with her in case she needs some extra coaxing during nap time. Whatever it takes, make sure all the tools for a happy sleeper are available.

10. Make It Something to Look Forward To
Change your tone when it comes to gearing kids up for a nap. Make it a thrilling event, with a book they can pick out and an exclamation at how cozy it is to snuggle up and hit the hay. If it helps, let your kid know that it’s time for Mom or Dad to nap too. If she think everyone’s doing it, there will be way less FOMO.

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Do you have any nap time or sleeping tips? Share with us in a comment below.

—Laura Serino

 

nap longer

World Peace Day is November 17, and it seems like this year, finding a path to peace is more important than ever. Labyrinths aren’t just for meditative moms and dads; the pattern has a strong pull on little people, too. While your wee ones might not reap the Zen effects of following an ancient spiral pattern, they will have a blast walking (or running) through, again and again. Read on to discover our favorite local magical spirals.

photo: Peace and Awareness Labyrinth and Gardens via Facebook

Zen Awaits at the Peace Awareness Labyrinth and Gardens
Here’s your chance of practicing Zen and the art of entertaining the kids! This spiritual oasis and Los Angeles Cultural Heritage Monument in the heart of the city features a marvelous hand-carved stone labyrinth made of Travertine and modeled after the labyrinth in the medieval Chartres Cathedral in France. Tire the tykes out first by checking out other aspects of the gardens, such as the Koi pond, water fountains and lush, green nooks. This way they might be better equipped to practice quiet appreciation as they walk the peaceful path. Admission is free but reservations (easy to make online) are required to enter the grounds. Unlike the labyrinths listed below, this place has a bit of a hushed, meditative vibe, as people are drawn here to reflect quietly. It’s a great opportunity to teach peace and mindfulness to even the youngest set.

3500 W Adams Blvd.
Los Angeles
Online: peacelabyrinth.or

photo: Sylvie Greil

The Little Mermaid Leads the Way to the Forest Lawn Memorial Park Labyrinth
This privately owned cemetery in Glendale is open to the general public and features a bombastic statue collection, including a replica of the original Little Mermaid from Denmark at the pond by the front. The Memorial Park is gorgeously landscaped with gently rolling, green hills and has a beautiful, small labyrinth, also modeled on the famous original in Chartres. Set at the Gardens of Contemplation, this tiny, but very pretty stone labyrinth boasts fantastic views. Fun at a cemetery may sound a bit blasphemous, but sculpture scouting (peacefully and quietly that is) on a Sunday drive is a concrete way to connect the kids with art history. Yes, you need your car. The area is immense. The lush park was designed with an eye toward classic European art. Thus you’ll find a statue of David by Michelangelo, lots of Old World children statues, and other really cool stuff like imposing murals and art. Tip: Bring flowers to place at a site that captures your fancy.

1712 S Glendale Ave.
Glendale
Online: forestlawn.com

photo: Wendy L. via Yelp

An Ancient Affair: Labyrinth at Arlington Garden in Pasadena
This lovely, formal botanical park feels like someone’s private garden but is actually Pasadena’s only dedicated public garden. It’s small but full of treasures to discover. Part of the fun of a visit is exploring what’s around the next corner: an olive allée, a small, fragrant orange grove, all manner of plant arrangements, sculptures and the piece de resistance: a beautifully serene spiral. The pattern of this classical, seven-circuit labyrinth is more than 5,000 years old. Boggle your kids’ minds by telling them they are walking one of the oldest and most sacred designs in the world. Admission is free daily from sunrise to sunset and visitors are invited to linger via little tables and chairs hidden along and dotting the paths. Bring a picnic, as there are a plethora of sweet nooks for chillaxing and snacking.

275 Arlington Dr.
Pasadena
Online: arlingtongardenpasadena.com

photo: Sylvie Greil

A Mini Stonehenge and More: Descanso Gardens Labyrinth
At this lush, 160-acre escape, you get two labyrinths at the price of one: a Fibonacci sequence tucked away among the oaks and ferns and a mini hedge maze for the littlest ones. Each has a magic of their own. You can tell you’re getting close to the Children Labyrinth near the Rose Garden from the squeal of toddlers as they run through the maze, featuring a couple of adorable miniature chairs fit for gnomes and fairies in its center. Tell the kids to behave, as the site is guarded by animal statues that want them to respect the forest!

The Fibonacci is more deserted, made of 33 small, Stonehenge-like rocks set too far apart for kids to jump on or over, but loads of fun to explore. The way the light filters through the canopy here is dreamy. After some labyrinth loving, hop on the Enchanted Railroad (check schedule ahead of time) for a sweet choo choo ride. There’s also the Japanese Garden and the Ancient Forest, growing plants pretty much unchanged since dinosaurs roamed the earth. Descanso holds lots of events such as movie nights, the Little Owls Reading Nest, Toddler Treks and more. Admission is $4 for kids and $9 for adults.

1418 Descanso Dr.
La Cañada Flintridge
Online: descansogardens.org

photo: Sylvie Greil

 

Have you encountered any magical mazes or labyrinths in or near LA? Recommend your favorites in the comments.

—Sylvie Greil

Longing for the days when self-care Saturdays included sleeping in, brunching, facialing, massaging, and manicuring? Us too! With kiddos afoot, we’re lucky if we get to wash our face. The secret to getting your gorgeous on without rushing through the motions is to let Junior get involved. Below are a few of our favorite hand and feet pampering salons that are both grown-up- and kid-friendly.

Photo: abby batchelder via Flickr

Progressions
Progressions Salon offers an array of options for mom, including scalp treatments, facials, and all manners of nail services. And there’s a mini mani/pedi for your kiddo while they wait. The mani/pedi time for your little one does depend on their age ($10 for anyone under the age of 10, and $15 if they’re between 11-14).

12211 Nebel St. (Rockville, Md)
301-231-8757
Online: progressions.com

R.E.A.L. Kids Family Salon and Spa
A Waldorf, Maryland favorite, R.E.A.L. Kids Family Salon and Spa has kid-tastic vibes and sea spa packages down pat. If pop would love to get in on the mani-pedi action then he should definitely try the Daddy’s Day Out Package, which includes a mini mani-pedi AND a mini facial all for $50.

2078 Crain Hwy. (Waldorf, Md.)
301-374-2228
Online: realkidssalon.com

Nail Saloon
This nail shop offers a great smelling, five-free environment, as well as a mani/pedi for your younglin’, complimentary beverages, and a bevy of salon services. You’ll also be helping to give back to the community in the process. So get on down to the saloon! 
Mani for Momma starting at $32 and Mani for your L.O. starting at $18.

1508 14th St., NW (Logan Circle)
202-299-0095
Online: thenailsaloon.com

Varnish Lane
If mama is going solo (because, let’s be honest, you have to go alone every now and then), Varnish Lane is the place to go for super zen vibes with a chic all white interior and waterless treatments to not only save your mani but also protect you AND the environment. Manis start at $28.

5236 44th St., NW
202-506-5308
Online: varnishlane.com

Beauty in a Beat
Started by a mom that knows the struggle of remembering the importance of self care, Beauty in a Beat is a mobile concierge that offers salon treatments starting at $35. Perfect for when you put the kiddo down for a nap and just need a little “me time.” *Slowly raises hand. 

202-676-7310
Online: beautyinabeat.com 

Know of any other kid friendly nail salons in in the DMV? Drop us a line in the comments below!

–Miller Jackson

Even if you know how important it is to take “you” time, your busy schedule (and selfless mama brain) says no way. So classes at the new XO Fitness in Sherman Oaks are just what you need: it’s amazing for your body and brain and simultaneously benefits your family, because not only will you increase your overall fitness, but also your endurance, posture and attitude. You’ll come back from a class so happy and energized, your family will beg you to go back!

So Zen, So Pretty, So Clean
You walk in and it’s gorgeous. Clean, minimal, looks like the design of a hip new restaurant. Relaxing. Well, take a deep breath and enjoy a zen moment, because that’s about to change. For the next 50 minutes, you’re going to have your butt kicked, in the best possible way.

Meet Sara Lewis, Your New Inspiration (and Friend!)
Founder/Creator Sara Lewis started out as an athletic yet uncoordinated and unfitness-y kind of gal. So you can relate to her, and she can relate to you. After struggling to find a class that would address cardio needs while also making sure to strength train the core, upper and lower body, she came up empty. After trying everything: Pilates, barre, bootcamp, Cross-Fit, yoga, boxing, rowing, dance and ballet, she realized that class didn’t exist. So she’d better invent it.

One Class To Rule Them All
This is why we love her. She gets that busy moms need everything all at once. We can’t take 8 different classes a week. And we’re used to multi-tasking. We bore easily. So she opened her first studio with this in mind, and has now expanded with an even larger new place, XO: Cross Over Fitness. The format here includes boxing and cardio, reformers, springboards, weights, rowers and heavy bags. It’s the ultimate, full body experience. One 50-minute class to rule them all.

Let It Be Hard
Sarah is currently pregnant with her second child, and can help you adjust your workout for wherever your body is in motherhood: pregnant, post-natal, or even “Oh my god, the kids are getting older and I haven’t been in a gym in years.” But don’t think she’ll take it easy on you. She says, “My philosophy is: Let it be hard; it already is. Let’s not deny that what we are doing is tough, but instead, let’s embrace that this is hard and we are stronger and better for it.”

And you will be. Stronger and better.

Three Strikes, You’re In!
There are three good reasons why it’s easy to avoid the gym. And XO Fitness knocks out all of them.

One: Gyms and classes are dirty, with all those sweaty bodies sharing equipment. Nope, this place is the cleanest we’ve seen. Spotless. Cleaned thoroughly between classes, there are new boxing gloves and wipes readily available for you to use.

Two: It’s too hard figure out the equipment or moves. Not the case here. Yes, there’s a learning curve. The first class you figure out what to do (and when you want to do it—we always want to end with the boxing at Station A, FYI). But by the third class, you got it. And the unbelievably nice and helpful instructors will give you pointers if you’re confused.

Three: No time for classes. Well, this takes less than 50 minutes, and frankly the mix of pilates, abs, and core strengthening will help your posture, bone density and other pains (like back) that you’ve been picking up as you pick up baby. So, really, you’re saving time now and in the future…

No excuses left.

5 Quick LA Mama Fit Tips From Sara:

  1. Here’s an easy change everyone can make that will change your life. One of the best pieces of advice I received when I was first getting certified in Pilates was while sitting at desk laptop, keep elbow to your ribs.  I had never realized I was slouching so much at my computer—the place I was sitting 2-3 hours a day!
  2. A (Realistic) Key to Daily Sanity in 12 Minutes:  Do 1 minute plank in the morning, give yourself 10 minutes of alone time midday (sitting in your car/at your desk/while you’re nursing/napping your baby etc.) to close you eyes and just breathe, and 1 minute plank in the evening.  It will change your life.
  3. My favorite place to exercise outdoors is hiking Runyon Canyon. They just renovated it and you can bring kids and dogs.
  4. If you’re pregnant, you can and should continue your fitness routine, what you have been doing leading up to your pregnancy, as long as you have the OK from your Doctor.  Try not to be intimidated by rules.  Listen to your body, YOU know it best!
  5. My favorite post workout snack in LA is the Acai bowls at Juice Crafters.  The day I went into labor, I was eating 2 of them a day.

Classes are offered daily, and you can find a time that fits your schedule from 6 a.m.-9 p.m.  You can pay for a single class at a time ($25) or buy class packs to save money.  Your first month is only $95 for unlimited classes.

And finally, here’s why you have zero excuse not to go; the first class is free. So, go do something for you. We’re giving you permission. In fact, consider it mamma’s orders.

XO: Cross Over Fitness
13950 Ventura Blvd.
Sherman Oaks
818-506-8411
Online: thecrossoverxo.com

What’s your favorite get and stay fit tips?  Share them in the comment section!

—Meghan Rose, photos by Meghan Rose and XO: Crossover Fitness

If you’ve been looking for a place where you can set your baby free on the floor and take a nice, deep breath, stretch and feel a little more zen—your search is finally over. Happy Baby, a serene little spot on Main Street in El Segundo, offers parents and their little ones a place to say “Ohm” together (or separately) without worrying that toddler tantrums or baby blowouts will zap the zen. Read on for the scoop on this wonderful new oasis of calm.

photo: Happy Baby

Itsy Bitsy Yoga
Your baby may not know what he’s doing, but remember that time she squatted down on the floor and clapped her hands? That was yoga! So get your pint-sized yogis on the mat and see what happens. Classes for pre-walkers and toddlers will get both mom and baby moving while introducing basic yoga concepts in a light and whimsical way — i.e., if the cat/cow poses don’t catch your babe’s attention, a few rounds of “Wheels on the Bus” or “Itsy Bitsy Spider” may help. And when it’s all over, even the teensiest of fingers can come together for a little “Namaste.”

photo: Melissa Heckscher

Ohm Options
Whether it’s a 7 a.m. parent and baby pilates class or a 7:30 p.m. prenatal yoga class, there’s no shortage of choices here. Higher energy toddlers might benefit from a Yo-Hop class, which combines yoga fundamentals with hip hop-inspired dance movements. Got a little ballerina? Try Happy Baby Ballet. Baby like music? Stretch and groove in the Joyeux Bébé Musique class. Just remember, Mama: If your kiddo is under 5, you’ll need to be in the studio with her, so get ready to stretch, dance and move with your little one!

photo: Melissa Heckscher

For moms who just want a good workout with baby-in-tow, there are classes, including a hardcore baby boot camp class and a Mama Flow class, where little ones are welcome to toddle around on the floor (or sleep alongside in a car seat) while moms sweat it out. So long, sitter stresses.

Keep an eye out; plans are in the works for even more Parent and Me classes, parent support groups, mindful parenting classes, and more.

photo: Melissa Heckscher

Drop-Off Zen
For older kids who need a little tension-taming, Happy Baby also has drop-off classes for kids from ages 5-12, including traditional yoga classes and higher-energy dance classes. Youngsters who want a little more action, for instance, will dig the “GroovyKids” class, which gets kids jumping with hip-hop-inspired dance moves.

photo: Happy Baby

The Studio
Nestled right next door to a coffee shop on El Segundo’s uber-quaint Main Street, Happy Baby is a sunny, airy studio with sparkling clean floors (baby-friendly cleaners only!) and bright blue walls that keep things feeling, well, happy. Worried parents will appreciate that there is nothing in the studio except a sofa and the necessary yoga props; meaning your baby can explore to his heart’s delight without worrying that he’s going to wander into unsafe territory. There are also no obligatory waiting room-style toys—a plus for parents who don’t want their little yogi to come home with a dose of zen-inspired germs.

There’s a comfy “nursing couch” in the back of the room for moms who need a quiet place to feed their little ones, and a well-stocked bathroom in the back is perfect for mamas-to-be who just can’t make it through another downward-facing dog without a potty break of their own.

photo: Happy Baby

Prices: $22 for a drop-in class; $100 for a 5-class pack; $190 for a 10-class pack; $340 for a 20-class pack; or $140 a month for unlimited classes. Class membership includes parent and child.

Happy Baby
353 Main St.
El Segundo
424-218-9774
Online: happybabyla.com

Where do you bring the kids for down dog and child pose?  If you’re looking for another fabulous family yoga spot, we’ve also rounded up our favorite places all over town.

—Melissa Heckscher

 

Whether you’re a first-time mom of a night owl newborn, or a third time mom of a baby who takes 28-minute naps, you can probably agree that sleep deprivation is one of the cruelest parts of parenting. Since there isn’t a one-size-fits-all sleep solution for babies (wouldn’t that be nice?) it often takes trial and error to determine how to get your baby to fall asleep and stay asleep. Start with these suggestions, and make sure to leave us a comment about which one ends up working for you.

photo credit: Simi Dimitric via Flickr

1. Protect the morning nap.
Naps are really important for babies, but generally speaking the morning nap is the most restorative because it’s easier for babies to fall back into deep, non-REM sleep. If you have older kids or a lifestyle that makes it hard to stay home for naps, at the very least consider prioritizing the morning nap. Do whatever it takes to insure a good nap during the first hours of the day, even if it means wearing the baby in a sling or putting them in a swing. You know your baby better than anyone else. If they have a preferred way or place to sleep, make sure you give them access to that during the morning hours.

2. Invest in a travel sized white noise machine.
Many babies are light sleepers or have trouble staying settled through sleep transitions. For on-the-go families, a travel size white noise machine can help keep babies stay asleep at soccer games, noisy playgrounds or restaurants. If you have a baby who wakes up every time the car stops, try a machine that attaches to your car seat. The consistency of sound may be enough to help them ignore a change in movement.

Photo credit: Oscar Pulido via Flickr

3. Move them to their own room.
Babies can be loud even when they’re asleep. If your child grunts, moves and fusses long before they fully wake up, it may be easier for everyone to transition him to his own room. By putting him in his own space, you’ll be able to sleep through all of his odd sounds instead of laying awake worried or analyzing whether or not he’s hungry or waking up. Some babies will actually sleep better when they’re not as close to mom’s smell. You, of course, will know what’s best for your child.

4. Try “the pause.”
Parenting book Bringing Up Bebe: One American Mother Discovers the Keys to French Parenting praises a baby sleep technique “le pause.” What is it? Essentially, it’s resisting the urge (and parenting instinct) to run to your baby at the first sound of stirring. A little grunt, a minute or two of crying (we’re not talking cry it out here), a few moments of flailing around in his crib are all a part of your baby waking and resettling himself. If you run to him immediately, you’re robbing him of this opportunity to learn to put himself back to sleep. Start le pause right away and you may see some results.

5. Try a sleep app to help analyze napping patterns.
Attention parents of cat nappers! Your baby’s 28-minute sleep cycle is totally a thing. Unlike adults, some little ones struggle with the transition between non-REM and REM sleep. The nap app Baby Connect helps parents track sleep cycles and analyze patterns such as when baby likes to sleep, and for how long. Using the information, parents can better determine when a nap is necessary, or when to be on standby to help your baby through the non-REM/REM sleep transition.

6. Put baby to sleep before they are fussy.
Babies each have their own way of communicating tiredness, and crying is usually a sign you’ve missed the optimum window. Young infants are often ready to nap again within 60-90 minutes of waking and 2 hours is a good mark for older babies, so start looking for sleep signs earlier than you may think. Eye rubbing, yawning and blank stares are all classic sleepy signs that indicate it’s time to start your bedtime or nap routine. If you catch your baby before he or she gets worked up, it will be much easier for them to fall asleep and stay asleep.

7. Try a special swaddle.
There are plenty of various swaddles, jackets, blankets and sacks on the market but the Zen Swaddle is becoming particularly popular with new parents who love how the product can fit baby from zero to six months without having to purchase various sizes. What makes the Zen Swaddle even more appealing is how it mimics a parent’s touch with two weighted pressure points, proven to stabilize heart rates and promote socio-emotional health.

8. Hire a sleep coach.
When all else fails, or you’ve simply reached the end of your rope, consider hiring a sleep coach. There are a variety of services; from local providers who can come to your house to online consultants who will e-mail you a personalized plan. The Baby Sleep Site is one such company that’s helped over 200,000 families worldwide and offers a variety of plans depending on your budget and needs. The site promises to never offer a one-size-fits-all solution, but rather works with parents to understand their child’s unique personality, and their families sleep goals.

What’s your biggest sleep struggle? Share your stories in the comments.

—Lesley Miller

It’s not like you weren’t expecting your life to get kicked up a notch (or 10) with a new baby. The shake up is what makes being a new parent so exciting, right? But, if you need a breather, don’t worry. There are simple strategies for sneaking in everything from yoga to acupressure that’ll ensure you won’t lose your cool (or your mind!). Read on for tips from relaxation experts, all who have made it through the newborn stage in the past.

Photo: kellinahandbasket via Flickr

Be a Wall Flower
To create instant calm, lay on the floor with your legs leaning against a wall. According to Gail Grossman, a yoga studio owner and mom of two, it’s super-relaxing for the legs and back and it can also re-energize the entire body. Bonus: when your baby gets old enough, she can join in on the get-zen practice before bed.

Make a Face
When you’re feeling wound up, let loose by making a funny face, suggests Emily Francis, mom of two and author of Stretch Therapy: A Comprehensive Guide to Basic and Assisted Stretching. Start by inhaling and holding your breath. Shut your eyes and  tighten your jaw. Then open your eyes and mouth as wide as you can, stick your tongue out as far as you can and do a very audible exhale to push out the tension, and make your bambino crack a gummy smile.

Turn Your Bathroom Into a Spa 
Can’t make it to yoga? Don’t worry, says Rebecca Rissman, certified yoga instructor and author of Yoga for Your Mind and Body. Instead, find another way to devote quiet time and energy to yourself. Anything can be yoga if you do it with intention. Do you love painting your toenails? The next time your little one is napping, head to your bathroom, light a candle, and paint away.

Press Here
Acupressure has been used for thousands of years for many types of ailments, including stress, says Kerry Boyle Jenni, a licensed acupuncturist in Montpelier, Vermont. The point right between your eyebrows can be slowly and repeatedly tapped on for a quick calming effect.

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Pretend Your Stress is $$$
See your stress level as currency, says Anita Marchesani, Ph.D, a licences psychologist. . How much stress” do you really want to expend on your crying babe, knowing you have a limit to how much you can comfortably give without stretching yourself too thin? Resist giving away too much of your peace and joy in life in exchange for something that has no value.

Don’t Forget to Breathe
When your baby starts to cry, pause and take one slow deep breath before responding, says Stephannie Weikert, a yoga therapist in Baltimore. You can add to this practice by saying to yourself as you inhale, “I breathe in peace,” and when you exhale, “I breathe out love.” The words peace and love can be replaced with anything that feels right to you.

Do you have any tips for finding inner peace as a new parent? Dish in the comments section below. 

–Ayren Jackson-Cannady