Kids have a natural empathy, especially for other kids. When kids see someone struggle, they automatically want to help. As parents, it’s up to us to encourage them into volunteering, by putting them in the right situations and circumstances (safely organized, of course). The camaraderie and energy developed during these projects build self-esteem and inclusiveness. It’s also fun to incorporate a cool activity with a volunteer project or trip that gives everyone something special to look forward to and builds amazing family memories together.

Here’s a shortlist of tips to get started modeling, teaching empathy, and giving:

​1. Be their example! Getting your kids interested in charity and volunteering begins at a young age, primarily through examples you set.
Anything on a large scale, like cleaning up after a natural disaster or traveling to a foreign country to assist in aid projects, is great, but not really the easiest place to start for most kids. Doing small meaningful things in your own community is the best place to start. And every parent knows if you model a behavior often enough, the little ones will follow. Be proactive with your own empathy by “adopting” families during the holidays (YMCA is a great place to find holiday requests), have children share part of their allowance to donate to their favorite charity, or organize an outdoor walk—a fantastic way to stay socially distanced, but also give back in a fun way!

My son organized the “Brooks’ Buddies” walk to benefit JDRF (Juvenile Diabetes Research Foundation). He’s living with Type-1 diabetes and loves sharing his knowledge about diabetes with friends and family every year. This takes a little bit of planning, some social media outreach and signs around the neighborhood. The funds collected are then sent to your child’s charity of choice. Brooks got pretty creative with this project: he designed his own t-shirts and had an outdoor party after to thank everyone that participated. This initial drive to help friends understand his disease has helped to foster a philanthropic spirit in him.

2. Have them look at the world around them! Open your child’s mind for everyday opportunities to do good.
Do your kids write thank-you notes? Not just for gifts but for the kindness of others? If a family takes them on a trip or out to eat, why not acknowledge how fun it was with a note? What if a teacher helps through a tough spot, acknowledge their kindness. This manifests gratefulness and accountability.

Keep them involved in some sort of spiritual community. Take them out into nature and teach them not only to respect other human beings but also our world and the creatures in it. Encourage them to help clean up the community around them on Earth Day, or make it a monthly event for the neighborhood. Get outside: hike, camp, boat, travel, but don’t just do it, engage your kids into the experience and discuss what they are grateful for and how they can pay it forward.

3. Turn it into a philanthropy adventure!
The goal is to have fun together, learn a new culture, understand the bigger picture. Pick somewhere fun that coincides with and/or coordinates with a needed project. Helping can be rewarding in more than one way. The fun coincides with the work which then becomes a habit and lasting memories are made. This does not have to be overseas—there are great Habitat for Humanity projects in our country as well as clean-up opportunities in natural disaster-affected areas.

4. Keep it simple and make philanthropy fit the child.
Volunteering doesn’t need to be an all-consuming event, I suggest starting small. For example, if your kid likes sports, encourage them to support a disabled sports team. If they love to read, have them read to kids in the hospital or help with storytime at your neighborhood library. Even donating books to a local “little library,” will foster charity in children. Designating a box for toys to donate and then having your child help make the drop-off will give them a strong sense of pride knowing they are helping. Older kids can apply for service scholarships, which is another way to help them realize the fruits of their labor.

5. Help to build awareness.
Visit national and local volunteer websites. Many of these sites, like VolunteerMatch.org, are a great way to narrow down volunteer opportunities. Plan a family field trip to expose them to an important social issue, such as homelessness, animal rescue, or helping the environment to create enthusiasm for future volunteer activities. By showing your child who and what needs help, you’re building up their problem-solving skills and helping them tap into how they can make a difference.

Encourage your children to ask, “Who can I be a superhero to today?” Talk to them about the animals in shelters and what they need to feel safe. Bring them into your pantry and ask, “Who can we share food with today?” And then start to find activities that fit your family lifestyle. If you have older kids who can walk dogs at the local shelter, then set aside time on the weekends. If your kids are younger, ask them to help you pick up extra dog food to donate to the animals in need. Giving them a sense of ownership for their philanthropy is important.

When I ask my kids, “What inspired you most to be philanthropic?” Two things always stand out:

1. Watching mom create her own philanthropic mission.
2. The different unique family opportunities like hiking adventures and spending time in senior centers made it cool.

Giving should not be seen as a chore, it should be something everyone looks forward to and should be in context with a larger adventure vs. a thing to cross off the list. Let your children give back to the world in the way that resonates most with them and their empathy will take on a life of its own.

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Michelle Moore is the mom of three boys and founder of Mother’s Grace, a nonprofit addressing the critical needs of mothers and children. Her book, A Mother’s Grace: Healing the World One Woman at a Time shares stories of 12 rockstar moms, setting the world on fire helping others.

 

Treat your little reader to a bundle of books for a good cause. Simon & Schuster’s Adams media is partnering with HumbleBumble to bring families a great deal on a collection of eBooks!

Starting Mar. 18, 2021, you can nab a bundle of up to 36 eBooks for as little as $1. That’s right—one dollar. All you need to do is name your bundle price.

photo: Alex Green via Pexels

For $1 you can choose up to eight eBooks that incclude titles such as 365 Ways to Live Green for KidsEverything Kids’ Book of Outrageous FactsEverything Kids’ Nature BookHow to Play HarmonicaScreen-Free Fun and more.

For $10 you can also unlock 11 additional reads, including 3D Origami FunEverything Kids’ Astronomy Book, and Project Garden. Increase the price you pay to $18 and unlock all 36 of the books. Along with the other top picks, you can also select from Advanced Roblox Coding BookDad’s Book of Awesome Science ExperimentsEverything Kids’ CookbookEverything Kids’ Dinosaur Book and How to Play Ukulele.

Not only does your book bundle purchase give your child plenty to read, it also helps your fam do some good for others. All purchases raise money for the charity organization Worldreader, which supports underserved and vulnerable communities by providing digital reading solutions.

Visit HumbleBumble’s website here to order your bundle.

—Erica Loop

 

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Children want to matter. They want to do the right thing. They notice far more about what is happening around them than we sometimes give them credit for. When we speak of self-esteem in children, we are not talking about encouraging entitlement or arrogance. We are talking about nurturing the kind of self-esteem that gives them the confidence to be kind and empathetic individuals. What children experience in the home, they extend to those they socialize with outside of the home… classroom, playground, the sports field, etc. Building self-esteem in young children gives them the confidence to step up to appreciate, participate and nurture kindness in their environment. 

Reminding your children that even the smallest among us can make a big difference. 
Children doing good deeds is one of the most heartwarming things you’ll ever see, so why not encourage your children to be that spark for the people around them? But keep in mind that children will often get cold feet when push comes to shove, so practice with them in advance of the “big day.” Do some role-playing with them, going over the different experiences they might encounter while doing their good deeds. This practice will help them to step up automatically in the future.

Be a good role model—start by displaying acts of kindness towards others.
Children model what they live and experience. It goes without saying that kindness in the home translates to kindness outside of the home. No home or family experience is perfect 100 % of the time…let’s be real, but that is the basis of a nurturing, loving, stable environment. Sometimes kids emulate their parents, and when they see you make a gesture of kindness or compassion, they themselves will become confident in expressing their own form of kindness towards others. Modeling the right attitude is very important.

Encourage responsibility.
Age-appropriate responsibility helps children build their self-worth. They begin to understand that making their bed, taking their dishes from the table after a meal, helping a younger sibling with a puzzle or homework is noticed by their caregivers and they understand that they are respected for their actions. As children get older, their responsibilities grow, of course, but gaining responsibility within the family unit correlates with growth and development.

Teach your kids to be thankful for at least one thing every day.
The oft used phrase “gratitude is attitude” holds true. There has been a great deal written about the importance of gratitude in a fulfilled life, but perhaps one of the most effective ways to help children learn to practice gratitude is for the adults in their lives to model it. If they hear the words: “thank you,” “we should be so grateful,” “count our blessings”, etc. they begin to value that sentiment and it becomes more natural for them to practice it themselves. 

Find ways to involve your children in acts of charity.
We generally think of charity in terms grand gestures. We are thankful for those magnanimous actions and generosity. There are also many levels of charity that children can learn and participate in. Parents can actively seek out age-appropriate community service opportunities for their children until the kids find them for themselves whether that be through school projects or service groups. Kids can help pack up dry goods/canned food for food pantry donations, donate gently used clothing and toys for others. Seek out charities in your area that need your help. Being part of something like this will make them feel good about themselves. Self-esteem grows when children see that what they do has a positive impact on others.

Teach Self-Affirmation: Positive self-talk: Mindfulness
This is something that we work on as adults. It is a skill that we develop. Why don’t we teach children how to do this? It is critical to self-image, self-confidence, and self-esteem. That conversation that we have in our head about ourselves influences our behavior and in many ways encourages us to step up and speak up for others. In the book A Little Spark, Spark tells himself many times, “I can do more. I know I can.” This helped him believe that if given the opportunity, he would step up too. In terms of mindfulness, it’s important for kids to take time to unplug, be still, and calm their thoughts. Kids with self-esteem think good things about themselves.

Last year I had the opportunity to work with an amazing Grade 1 teacher in Dallas, Texas, to develop a pilot project using some of the lessons from “A Little Spark”. She made this observation: “I personally loved the lessons learned in the story, especially that even the smallest creature can make the biggest difference. That is especially important for children to hear because they so badly want to be seen and heard.” We need to continuously help children build the confidence needed to step up, be heard, and look for ways to be that Spark.

Chris Parsons grew up in Flatrock, Newfoundland. After many years of telling his stories, he published his first book "A Little Spark" in October 2020. The book is a fully illustrated chapter book - complete with a Soundtrack and Audiobook. The book recently received the Mom's Choice Gold Medal. He resides in Dallas.

If you’re not-so patiently waiting for your free short stack from IHOP on National Pancake Day, you’ll have to wait a little longer. With Covid concerns a top priority, the iconic eatery has chosen to postpone its annual giveaway.

This year, IHOP’s National Pancake Day free pancake offer will look a bit different—kind of like just about everything else in 2020/2021. Instead of a one-day deal, IHOP will celebrate with a month-long event.

photo courtesy of Business Wire

Jay Johns, President at IHOP said in a press statement, “At IHOP, our top priority is the safety of our guests and team members.” Johns continued, “Given nothing about this past year has been ordinary—and while we look forward to celebrating National Pancake Day with guests under our blue roof in the future – we recognize it’s not possible to gather millions of our closest family and friends in our restaurants on a single day this year. As a result, we decided to flip National Pancake Day on its head and give our guests an entire month to redeem their free Short Stack with an IOU, while also continuing to put purpose behind our pancakes by giving back to those most in need: our charity partners.”

MyHOP email club members and customers who register for MyHOP by Mar. 31, 2021 will receive an IOU for a free short stack of buttermilk pancake goodness. You can redeem your coupon in IHOP restaurants, on IHOP.com, or through the IHOP mobile app starting Apr. 1, 2021. Use the coupon any day in April for in-restaurant or to-go orders.

Don’t worry if you forget to register for MyHOP. Non-members can get a free short stack in April (limit one per customer) with a $10 or more purchase.

—Erica Loop

 

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My oldest daughter was eight when the business world came knocking at her door. She joined the Girl Scouts and we all know what that means: cookie sales. Then, two months after cookie season, she and a friend ran a bake sale to raise money for the local food bank.

In both cases, her mission as a somewhat shy, funny little second-grader was to sell delicious baked goods. But her method? Well, that was yet undetermined—and that was, in fact, her biggest challenge. She knew she wanted to sell and be successful. She just didn’t know how.

As a business exec who’s had the fortune of helping build several world-class brands and companies throughout my career, I could have stepped in and given her a formal business plan or step-by-step instructions on how to get her fledgling baked goods businesses off the ground—but not only would that have been way too advanced, it was unnecessary.

She didn’t need a business plan; she needed basic business skills. (Very basic). And I was quite happy to stand back, let my wife be the mentor and watch the situation all unfold.

I knew this selling experience was going to be a significant opportunity for my daughter to begin learning the important things I wanted her to know—lessons I want every young girl to know, really: that it’s okay to fail as long as you try your best and you get back up to try again. That basic business skills will help you succeed in life even if you don’t want to be a business person. That grit and a growth mindset are essential tools for success in life, no matter the path you choose.

We taught our daughter three skills during her first foray into the business world (mostly thanks to my wife) that I would love for every girl to learn, whether she goes on to become an entrepreneur or not. These are skills that will serve every child well on her journey.

Say “good morning” to get people’s attention.

Translation: Have a script to make conversations easier. This was my wife’s advice to my daughter as she stood at the end of our driveway, unsure of what to do while fumbling around with her boxes of Thin Mints, Samoas and Peanut Butter Patties. She was a little wary of talking to strangers—not necessarily a bad thing, but neither is it conducive to successful selling. Even when your product is cookies.

Shyness is common among elementary-age girls, so encouraging them to be bold enough to initiate conversation and prepare in advance what they want to say may be the first step in empowering them to get out of their shell and simply connect with others.

Look people in the eye when you talk to them.

Translation: Be confident. This is a tough one, right? Making eye contact with an adult can feel intimidating to a child. Notice where many kids look when they’re talking to you—at their feet, at their parents, off to the side, maybe at a friend next to them. That’s because making eye contact requires a certain amount of self-confidence, which is something many elementary-age girls lack. But sometimes you have to fake it till you make it. By instructing our daughter to look people in the eye when she talked to them, my wife knew this might feel unnatural at first, but it would help her grow in her ability to communicate confidently and effectively. And speaking from experience, my wife has perfected this skill. Trust me.

Make sure to tell people the money goes to charity. Even if they don’t buy, they might make a donation.

Translation: Know how to appeal to your customers. During her charity bake sale, my daughter wasn’t just selling cookies and brownies; she was selling an opportunity to do good. Positioning your product and appealing to your audience is not a skill that’s necessarily innate for a grade-school kid. But when it’s learned, it can help them not only become entrepreneurs, but also help them succeed in life by knowing how to convince people to buy what they are selling (be it a physical good or a something less tangible, like their point of view).

It also helps them recognize when others are doing the same to them. It’s about articulating your position and convincing others to do what you want them to do–an essential skill for becoming a savvy teenager: “Mom, you wouldn’t be just buying me a new car. You’d be buying your independence. I’d be getting a car, but you’d be getting your freedom from having to cart me around.” 

It’s a skill that could work against you—just be aware! But if your child gets so good that they’re able to actually sell you, congrats! Your kid is poised for a successful career.

This experience of watching my daughter fumble around with baked goods, trying in earnest to sell her wares but not actually knowing how, was a big part of my inspiration behind The Startup Squad. She may not grow up to start her own business, launch anything beyond a bake sale or become a CEO.

But the experience of entrepreneurship–learning those basic business skills, knowing it’s okay to fail and learning the importance of grit and a growth mindset–will help her succeed in life no matter her passions.

This post originally appeared on The Startup Squad.

I've always built businesses, from a childhood gummy bear business to adult gigs at IMAX and Coupons.com. I founded The Startup Squad to help girls reach their potential and my book series, The Startup Squad, is published by Macmillan. I live in Silicon Valley with my wife and two daughters.

If you haven’t yet heard about the fiver birthday party trend, it could change the way you plan parties from now on—and we bet your guests will love it, too.

The “fiver party” is a simple solution for both attendees and hosts when it comes to the big birthday gift dilemma. Instead of gifts, guests are simply asked to bring five dollars for the birthday kid. With a dozen or more kids in attendance, those “fivers” will quickly add up to a decent sum that can be used toward one big gift.

It’s a win-win for parents and guests, as you’ll eliminate that stack of presents that will barely fit in your overflowing playroom. Plus, guests can save money and skip the hassle of having to shop. The only downside is that young kids might miss the fun and excitement of unwrapping gifts or choosing a special present for their friend. At the end of the day, though, the birthday boy or girl will be able to use the money for something they will truly want and cherish.

If you’d like to throw your own fiver party, make sure you discuss the plan in advance with your kid so they can get excited about what they plan to spend their special birthday money on. And remember, it doesn’t have to be a toy. It can go toward an experience or become a donation to an important charity of the kid’s choosing. Make it clear in the invitation what a “fiver party” means—while it is a growing trend, some parents might not be in the loop.

According to TODAY.com, Amy McCready, author of The Me, Me, Me Epidemic: A Step-by-Step Guide to Raising Capable, Grateful Kids in an Over-Entitled World, suggests wording the invite like this:

“We’re trying to help [NAME] focus on the joy of celebrating this special occasion with his cherished friends rather than on receiving gifts.

To that end, we hope you’ll consider NO GIFTS. For those who feel uncomfortable with that, we ask you consider NO MORE THAN a $5 gift card or cash that he can put towards something special he’s saving for. Thanks for understanding and celebrating with us.”

Hopefully, we’ll see this birthday trend take off even more in 2023.

Kristen Bell and Dax Shepard were pretty busy in 2020 with their family brand, Hello Bello. The company gave back in big ways, including diaper donations and Camp Hello Bello, but it’s not done yet.

To give back even more in 2021, the brand has announced a way to make sure that parents in all 50 states have the access they need to baby products: Hello Bello Giving. Each week, Hello Bello will select an inspiring family to win a free year of diaper bundles from submissions by fellow parents, who then get to pay it forward to 52 MORE families!

 

In addition, Hello Bello will highlight a charity doing good in that coordinating state with a community call-to-action on a weekly basis. You’ll be encouraged to give back in ways like sending supplies, donating and volunteering.

To nominate a family and an organization in your state, head to giving.hellobello.com to complete the form.

––Karly Wood

Feature photo: Courtesy of Hello Bello

 

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Kids are spending more time at home now than ever before. Some are starting new business ventures, while others are perfecting their banana bread making skills or exploring the outdoors with their pod buddies. In-between the new hobbies and learned skills, 2020 has found kids completing chores, saving money and giving back to their community, according to Greenlight. Read on to discover the details of their just-released 2020 Year in Review, which reveals how many chores were actually completed this past year, the average allowance by age and the stores kids spent the most money at. The results are surprising.

Greenlight’s infographic below highlights some of their 2020 findings. We pulled out some of the most interesting highlights:

• In 2020, Greenlight saw 8.7 million chores completed, which is almost 5 million more chores completed than last year. Kids did 20% more chores each month in 2020, compared to 2019.

• The top three chores were: cleaning the bedroom, taking care of the pet and washing the dishes.

• The most unique chore? Putting on deodorant.

• The average allowance per age:
Ages 5-10: $9.20
Ages 11-14: $12.10
Ages 15-18: $16.30
Ages 19-22: $21.50

• Greenlight kids saved $51.5 million. They saved for things like a first car, holiday gifts and shoes.

• Donations increased 78% from March to April, with No Kid Hungry being the top charity.

• Greenlight kids spent $458 million on Doordash alone. In 2019, Walmart was the most popular store for Greenlight kids.

 

To learn more details of the study click here.

—Erin Lem

photo: Pixabay

 

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Kids have natural empathy, especially for other kids. I think they can actually picture themselves in others’ shoes. When they see someone like them struggle and in despair, they automatically want to help. As parents, it’s up to us to facilitate the process by putting them in the right situations and circumstances (safely organized, of course). The camaraderie and energy developed during these projects help build self-esteem and inclusiveness. It’s also fun to incorporate a cool activity with a volunteer project or trip that gives everyone something special to look forward to and builds amazing family memories together.

Starting young ingrains that empathy into their little souls. However, more important than anything on a large scale, like cleaning up after a natural disaster or traveling to a foreign country that may need help, is doing small meaningful things consistently in your own community. Model, model, model. Adopt families during the holidays, have children share part of their allowance to donate to their favorite charity, even better have them organize their own “walk” teams for fundraising. For example, my son organized “Brooks’ Buddies” to benefit JDRF. (Juvenile Diabetes Research Foundation) He, being a type-1 diabetic himself, loved the idea of sharing the knowledge with friends and family every year and has had up to 70 kids on his team. He designed his own t-shirts and had a party after. Today he has a photo of each year’s team and the logo for his tees on his wall and he often speaks about the events being some of his best memories. He has evolved into a young man who is always creating teams of some sort.

There are so many ways to open a child’s mind to everyday opportunities for the good around them. Do your kids write thank you notes? Not just for gifts but for the kindness of others: If a family takes them on a trip or out to eat—why not acknowledge how fun it was with a note? What if a teacher helps through a tough spot, acknowledge the kindness. This manifests gratefulness and accountability. Keep them involved in some sort of spiritual community. Take them out into nature and teach them to respect it, they need to not only respect other human beings but our world and all of the creatures in it. Hike, camp, boat, travel, but don’t just do it, engage your kids into the experience, and discuss what they are grateful for and how they can pay it forward.

Here’s a shortlist of tips to get started modeling, teaching empathy, and giving: 

1. Set up an adventure philanthropy. The goal is to have fun together, learn a new culture, understand the bigger picture. This does not have to be overseas—there are great Habitat for Humanity projects in our country as well as clean up opportunities in natural disaster-affected areas. An adventure can be across town as easily as across the country.

2. Make philanthropy fit the child. For example, if your kid likes sports, have them work with a disabled sports team. If they love to read, have them read to kids in the hospital or help with storytime at your neighborhood library.

3. Set it up as a win-win. Helping can be rewarding in more than one way. The fun coincides with the work which then becomes a habit and lasting memories are made. Older kids can apply for service scholarships, which is another way to help them realize the fruits of their labor. 

When I ask my kids, “What inspired you most to be philanthropic?” They answer that watching what I did influenced them, but incorporating the projects into unique family opportunities made it cool. Giving should not be seen as a chore, it should be something everyone looks forward to and should be in context with a larger adventure vs. a thing to cross off the list. Let your children give in the way that resonates most with them and their empathy will take on a life of its own. 

This post originally appeared on 30seconds.com.

Michelle Moore is senior VP for Laboratory Corporation of America; and the founder of Mother’s Grace, a nonprofit organization that addresses the critical needs of mothers and their children in the midst of tragic life events. Michelle is author of A Mother’s Grace: Healing the World One Woman at a Time.

Merry Grinchmas! Skechers and Dr. Seuss have teamed up to deliver a nostalgic holiday collection for women and children inspired by the author’s beloved story How the Grinch Stole Christmas. The seasonal capsule now available online and select Skechers retail stores nationwide, is the latest release from the Skechers x Dr. Seuss collaboration announced in August.

The limited-edition capsule highlights The Grinch, featuring charming illustrations of the “mean one” and utilizing his signature green coloring throughout the designs.

Grinch Skechers

Popular Skechers Street and BOBS from Skechers women’s styles get The Grinch treatment as well as three pairs for toddlers and kids.

Women can choose between the fierce Skechers Street Uno Rugged – You’re A Mean One with mischievous Grinch eyes and lug sole or the BOBS Beach Bingo – Grinchmastime slip-on from the charity-minded BOBS from Skechers line.

Grinch Skechers

Kids big and small can match mom in Grinch printed high-tops or light-up sneakers. Skechers Boys’ Duratronz – Seuss World and toddler size Duratronz – Lil Seuss-Land canvas high tops feature The Grinch in his signature Santa hat on the shoe’s exterior and an illustration of Max the dog in a matching hat on the shoe’s interior side. Red and black striped laces and Dr. Seuss branding on the tongue complete the pairs. Skechers Magna-Lights: Grinchtastic in toddler sizing rounds out the collection with The Grinch peeking out over the shoe’s light-up sole. 

—Jennifer Swartvagher

All photos courtesy of Skechers

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