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Breastfeeding is hard enough, but going through the ups and downs of lactation and feeding during a global pandemic makes things infinitely more stressful for moms. It’s such a vulnerable time for both mom and baby that extra care should be made to make sure everything is functioning properly and the mom feels well supported.

There are 5 essential things new moms can do while breastfeeding during this challenging time:

1. Go Big on Sanitizers: Wash your hands before feeding or pumping. Step up your sanitizing routine by creating a nursing nook that includes a hand sanitizer for your hands and disinfectant wipes for your materials. Make it an important part of your baby feeding schedule but also for any other time with the baby.

2. Balance Your Time Online. While it’s great to stay informed on current events around the web, prioritize time away from the screen to maintain balance of mind and body when feeding your baby. Embrace that time while keeping stress low, practicing both social and mental distancing.

3. Switch up the Normal Routine. You want the newborn journey to be enjoyable, but it’s hard to enjoy your time with your baby when you can’t leave the house. The key is to find activities around your home that are enjoyable—like creating fun new ways to play with the baby, taking the baby into the tub with you, going on walks, creating a fun nighttime routine, etc.

4. If You Have Been Diagnosed, Wear a Mask. If you have symptoms or have been diagnosed, you should still breastfeed, but do so with a mask. The CDC says breastmilk is the best source of nutrition for baby and limited early data suggests that there is no risk of infection to babies via breast milk. However, always check the CDC website for any updates and new findings around breastfeeding.

5. Control Visitors. Keep “non-essential” family members away from the baby. If grandparents want to be close, they must quarantine, or wash their hands, use sanitizer and wear a mask—and even though he/she may seem irresistibly cute, no kissing baby’s face.

This is a hard time for everyone but moms and babies are particularly vulnerable right now to experiencing challenges along the breastfeeding journey. These are just a few of the things moms and their caregivers and family members can do to make sure things go as smoothly as possible during this precious moment in time in the baby’s life.

 

Linda M. Hanna, RNC, MSN/Ed., IBCLC, and co-founder of Mahmee, has been a registered nurse since 1978. She pioneered the Great Starts program at Kaiser Permanente Woodland Hills, which was so successful it was adopted by Kaiser locations throughout the US. She also developed Cedars-Sinai's Lactation Education program. 

I love babies. Seriously, I’m what you might call a “baby person.” I love nothing more than the feel of a newborn on my chest, their tiny body cozy in footed pajamas. I always knew I would be a mom and I always knew I wanted a bunch of kids. What I didn’t realize is that a time would come when that desire would completely end. Don’t get me wrong—I’m still the first to volunteer to hold someone’s baby. I’ll rock him to sleep, change her diaper, sing “Open Shut Them” a thousand times. But I have no desire to have that in my own house. And here’s why.

1. My Kids Can Wash Their Own Hair 

Yes, bathtime is adorable. Rubber Ducks, bubbles, Barbies. But after 11 years of bathing children, I nearly threw a party the first time my daughter insisted on taking a shower and washing her own hair. The fact that all three of them can be sent upstairs—(after arguing that they really don’t need to take a shower because they took one three days ago) to bathe and get ready for bed while I finish my second glass of wine (oops!) and stalk Mormon families on Instagram—has seriously changed my life.

2. We Can Leave Our Kids Home Alone

There was a time when schlepping one kid to soccer meant dragging all three. Or running out to the grocery store for milk meant strapping everyone into their booster seats. Having a twelve-year-old in the house is like having an au pair—only better because I don’t have a stranger living in my house. Running errands or sneaking out to an adults-only happy hour hasn’t been this easy since pre-kid life. And they love that they get to hang out with the dog and watch TV and play Fortnite on the Xbox. Everybody wins!

3. The Kids Can Leave Us Home Alone

The flip side is that our kids can now venture off without us. One of the benefits to living in town is that they can walk to the local candy store– even though, ironically, the owners don’t like when kids walk in. Or they can ride their bikes with their friends to the playground. They feel independent and free, despite the fact that they’re only a few blocks away. And we can send them to pick up dinner or something from the CVS. Again, everybody wins!

4. Traveling Is So Much Easier

We were never the family who stayed home because we had kids. Our oldest was on a plane at 10 weeks. Our kids are phenomenal travelers, which is good because I have a serious problem where I’m either on a trip, planning a trip or researching destinations to travel to before I’m 50. But there was a time when the things we had to bring actually outnumbered us. Suitcases, carry-on backpacks, strollers, car seats. Insane. The first time we went to Disney without a stroller, my husband and I practically skipped down Main Street.

This summer we have three vacations where we are only flying with carry-ons. No checked luggage. All five of us. I’m almost more excited about that than the actual trips. When we share a hotel room, my husband and I used to sit in the bathroom with our wine and magazines until the kids would fall asleep. Now we say goodnight to them and head down to the hotel bar. A date night on a family vacation? Yes, please.

5. I Have Rediscovered My Marriage

My husband and I have an amazing marriage. Through the sleepless nights of newbornhood, the absurd tantrums of toddlerhood, the stress of homework and school projects and the beginnings of hormonal adolescence, we’re a good team. But that doesn’t mean that we haven’t had times when that “spark” wasn’t there or weeks where we felt like we barely had the chance to have a conversation. But over the past year (and after turning 40), I’ve felt a shift. Our kids’ independence has allowed us to reconnect.

We find ourselves talking about an interesting story we read while the kids are out riding their bikes. Or we’ll take the dog out for a walk while they’re home watching a movie. This shift isn’t one I thought we necessarily needed, but at the same time, it’s one I’m grateful for. It’s nice to remember that you really like that guy across the room who is scraping burnt eggs off a pan.

So while I get teary-eyed when I watch an old home movie, or when a Facebook memory pops up and reminds me of how delicious my kids were when they were tiny, I’m ready for this next phase. I like that my kids are actual people who have their own interests and things going on. I like that we can discuss current events as a family and that my husband and I feel like a couple again. As for the smell of a newborn, or those ridiculous baby clothes I sometimes find myself looking through at Nordstrom Rack? That’s what grandkids are for… eventually!

I'm Missy, a mother of three and a middle school drama teacher at a private school. I'm obsessed with my Vizsla (dog), traveling, and the musical Hamilton. I also enjoy writing and sharing fun parenting stories, which is what brought me here.

According to a survey by FlexJobs and Mental Health America, 75% of people have experienced burnout at work, with 40% saying they’ve experienced burnout during the pandemic specifically. This is not surprising as many are currently working longer hours than usual. A flexible workday was listed as one of the top ways their workplace could offer support during this time.

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However, just 21% said they were able to have open, productive conversations with HR about solutions to their burnout. Fifty-six percent went so far as to say that their HR departments did not encourage conversations about burnout. This survey was conducted by FlexJobs, fielded in partnership with Mental Health America (MHA) in late July 2020.

“One of the most important things remote workers can do is to set clear boundaries between their work time and non-work time, and HR needs to take an active role in helping workers practice healthy boundaries between their professional and personal lives,” said Carol Cochran, VP of People & Culture at FlexJobs. “Offering flexible scheduling to employees can have a dramatic impact on reducing burnout, since rigid work schedules usually magnify conflict between work and family, leading workers to mental exhaustion. Most importantly, leaders should strive to create a healthy company culture that values the individual as a person, and prioritizes the overall wellness of its workers,” Cochran recommended. 

Employed workers are more than 3x as likely to report poor mental health now vs before the pandemic (5% vs 18%). 42% of those employed and 47% of those unemployed say their stress levels are currently high or very high.  More than three-quarter (76%) agreed that workplace stress affects their mental health (i.e., depression or anxiety). Only about half (51%) of workers agreed that they had the emotional support they need at work to help manage their stress.  

Top stressors include COVID-19, personal finances, current events, concern over their family’s health, the economy, and job responsibilities. 

People are eager to attend virtual mental health solutions offered through their workplace, such as meditation sessions and virtual workout classes

Employed workers are more than 3 times as likely to report poor mental health now vs before the pandemic. Before the pandemic, 5%  of currently employed workers said their mental health was poor or very poor. That number has now jumped to 18%. Unemployed workers are more stressed as well. Before the pandemic, 7 percent of currently unemployed workers said their mental health was poor or very poor. That number has now jumped to 27 %.

“Company leadership, including executives, HR, and management, have a responsibility to their employees to model and talk openly about behaviors that reduce stress, prevent burnout, and help employees establish the appropriate boundaries when working remotely,” said Paul Gionfriddo, President and CEO at MHA. “Offering flexibility during the workday, encouraging employees to use their PTO when they need a vacation, and providing time off for employees to tend to their mental health can help employees at all levels of a company cope with COVID-19 and other stressors.”

76% of respondents were currently working remotely. To help remote workers avoid burnout, FlexJobs has compiled these key tips for them to consider.

  • Develop boundaries. One of the difficult things about being a remote worker is that you’re never really “away” from your work physically, and you need to develop actual barriers between your work and personal life. One boundary is to have a dedicated work space that you can join and leave. Or, put your laptop in a drawer or closet when you’re done with work. Start and end your work day with some kind of ritual that signals to your brain it’s time to change from work to personal or vice versa. 

 

  • Turn off email and work notifications after work hours. Turning off email when you’re not “at work” is important — you shouldn’t be available all the time. Let your teammates and manager know when they can expect you. Let people know your general schedule and when you’re “off the clock” so they aren’t left wondering. 

 

  • Encourage more personal activities by scheduling them. Most people struggle with the “work” part of work-life balance. Schedule personal activities and have several go-to hobbies that you enjoy so you’ll have something specific to do with your personal time. If you don’t have anything planned, like a hike after work or a puzzle project, you may find it easier to slip back to work unnecessarily.

 

  • Ask your boss for flexible scheduling so you can better control your days and balance both your personal and professional responsibilities. 

 

  • Focus on work during your work time, rather than letting “life” things creep into your work hours too much. If you’re productive and efficient throughout the day, then at the end of the day it will be easier to walk away feeling accomplished and not be tempted to work into the night to finish what should have been completed during the day.

 

  • Take a mental health screen. If your stress feels unmanageable or you have other mental health concerns, take a free, confidential, and anonymous mental health screen at https://screening.mhanational.org/screening-tools. Online screening is one of the quickest and easiest ways to determine whether you are experiencing symptoms of a mental health condition.

—Jennifer Swartvagher

Featured photo: Chris Montgomery on Unsplash

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If the COVID-19 pandemic has taught us anything, it’s that we all cope with uncertainty in different ways. For cousins Sabrina Haechler & Jessica Bukowski, quarantine led them to channel their energy into helping others. Their new project called resilienSEED features handmade bracelets with words spelled out in Morse Code using seed beads. Profits from all the bracelets are donated to causes that align with Sabrina and Jessica’s values. Read on to find out more about resilienSEED and these charming bracelets that are handmade with love.

What are resilienSEED bracelets and who makes them?
Handbeaded in Mill Valley, California, resilienSEED bracelets are simple, stylish and functional. They’re made out of waxed polyester, which makes them totally waterproof. You can adjust them to fit all wrist sizes and they can also slip easily on and off.

The cousins tell us, “We’re super fortunate to have a lot of help from our relatives, many of whom live nearby. On any given day, there’s a good chance that you’ll find our parents, aunts, uncles, siblings, and cousins helping us out with beading. So many great things have come from resilienSEED, including the bonding of our family during the pandemic.”

Where do the profits go?
To date, resilienSEED has raised around $1,500. Sabrina and Jessica explain that, “originally, we were focused on raising money for COVID-19 relief. We chose to donate to the Child Mind Institute’s COVID-19 response after Emma Davidson, a family member and Psychotherapist, spoke to us about the importance of mental health, especially during these uncertain times. After a month of launching resilienSEED, we realized that we could have a greater impact in our community. Now, we stay up-to-date on current events, and we’ve expanded to raising money and awareness for social justice (Campaign Zero), LBGTQ+ suicide prevention (The Trevor Project), and tuition for children affected by cancer (The Forever 49 Foundation).”

Designs and custom orders
Choose from 10 different designs with empowering words like “Strength”, “Love”, “Unite” and “Justice” spelled out in Morse Code.

The dynamic duo reveal, “We knew that we wanted each type of bracelet to represent something different, which is why we use seed beads. Each bracelet is beaded with two different colors of seed beads, which collectively spell out a word in Morse Code.”

resilienSEED also accepts custom orders for $10. We ordered a bracelet with our kids’ names spelled out in Morse Code.

Order yours at resilienseedbracelets.weebly.com/. Prices start at $6, inclusive of shipping.

—Erin Lem

Photos: resilienSEED

 

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Teaching children about racism can be hard but it is very necessary. Luckily, parents have many resources to help them navigate this difficult conversation. Vera Ahiyya, a kindergarten teacher from New York created a video explaining racism to her young students in a way they could understand. 

Ahiyya’s kindergarten class has grown accustomed to distance learning. Last week, she decided, in light of current events, to read her class a book that she felt was extremely important, Let’s Talk About Race by Julius Lester. 

She shared her video on Instagram and YouTube so that she could reach a larger audience with her message. She writes, “ I made this video for the kindergarten students at my school. I realize this might be a helpful video for non Black children to also watch. In the video I discuss what racism is and how it’s impacted the lives of Black and Brown people. I also read aloud the story Let’s Talk about Race. Finally, I encourage young people to think about what actions they can take to use their voice to speak out against injustices.”

—Jennifer Swartvagher

Featured photo: Element5 Digital on Unsplash

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The impact of police brutality on the Black community is highlighted in the 2018 movie, The Hate U Give. This week it was announced that the film will now stream for free on all digital platforms. This comes as more and more people are looking to educate themselves about the treatment of Black people in light of current events

“Our story is a reminder to never be afraid to raise our voice in the name of justice,” director George Tillman Jr. tweeted Tuesday. “We must stand up for what we believe. The time for change is now!”

 

Currently, The Hate U Give is available to stream for free on all digital platforms including YouTube, iTunes, Amazon Prime, Google Play and Vudu. The movie is also available to purchase at a discount (3.99) as well. 

According to the film’s description, Starr Carter is constantly switching between two worlds: the poor, mostly black, neighborhood where she lives and the rich, mostly white, prep school she attends. The uneasy balance between these worlds is shattered when Starr witnesses the fatal shooting of her childhood best friend Khalil at the hands of a police officer.  Now, facing pressures from all sides of the community, Starr must find her voice and stand up for what’s right. The Hate U Give is based on the critically acclaimed New York Times bestseller by Angie Thomas and stars Amandla Stenberg as Starr, with Regina Hall, Russell Hornsby, Issa Rae, KJ Apa, Algee Smith, Sabrina Carpenter, Common and Anthony Mackie.

—Jennifer Swartvagher

Featured photo: JESHOOTS.com from Pexels

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Maybe you’ve thought about learning a new language during this period of PAUSE. (No judgements if you’re more the binge Netflix type. We feel you.) But this could also be a fun time for your kid to learn a new language, too! We’ve found virtual bilingual singalongs and story times, as well as fun language classes from NYC businesses in Spanish, Mandarin, French and even Urdu! (Some are for new learners, others are for native speakers.) Some of these online language classes are free, others are as little as $5 to $10 a class.

Bilingual Birdies

Bilingual Birdies

Choose from Mandarin, Spanish or French with Bilingual Birdies. For as little as $15 a week (plus the cost of an adorable $35 "Mini Birdkit" to get your started) your child can take part in live, 30-minute sessions filled with singing, dancing, puppetry and learning. Payment gets you access to all classes, so theoretically, your kid could learn all three languages. Classes take place Tuesday through Friday at various times. 

Online: bilingualbirdies.com

Music Together in the City

Music Together

Longtime favorite of NYC families, Music Together in the City is offering Spanish immersion and Mandarin introduction classes. 

In Canta y Baila Conmigo you and your child journey into Spanish language and its cultures through music. Sing, dance and play along to the sounds and rhythms of Spanish speaking countries.  

Music Together with some Mandarin introduces your family to Mandarin through music. Trained Music Together teachers speak fluent Mandarin and incorporate the language into songs and activities. While not a language class or immersive, this is a great way to introduce or support Mandarin study in babies and children. 

Bargain alert: Families can attend all 11 weekly classes (English, Spanish and Mandarin) for only $175 for the rest of the Spring semester, which ends in mid June.

Online: musictogethernyc.com

Toc Toc Spanish for Kids

Toc Toc

The popular Toc Toc is online, teaching kids Spanish through games, songs, dancing and stories. Daily live stream classes are offered for kids ages two to five (Monday to Sunday at 11 a.m. and 2 p.m.), and six to 12 (Monday to Sunday, 4 pm. for beginners, 5 p.m. for advanced.) The cost is $5. Want to set your own schedule for a private lesson? You can do that too! 

Online: toctocspanish.com

BaoBao Singalong @home From Mandarin Seeds

Mandarin S. via Yelp

BaoBao Singalong @home is Mandarin Seeds' in-person grownup and me classes adapted for an online environment. This Mandarin immersion music class for kids three and under is a fun introduction to the language for both children and grownups alike. (Yes, you can learn Mandarin too!) Classes are six days a week, and cost $10 each. You must register in advance for classes. 

Online: mandarinseeds.com

Smith Street Workshop

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Join Smith Street Workshop for a singalong of original compositions en Francaise for kids six months to four years old. Kids explore rhymes, tonal and rhythm patterns. "All you need is your child and some kitchen utensils." Classes are drop in and cost $15. 

Online: hisawyer.com

Lucy Kalantari & the Jazz Kats

Lucy Kalantari & the Jazz Kats

Brooklyn's own Grammy-winning Lucy Kalantari & the Jazz Kats hosts ¡Bienvenidos!, a Spanish Sing-Along on Facebook every Monday. 

Online: facebook.com/LucyKalantari

Brooklyn Beanstalks

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Brooklyn Beanstalks has both Spanish and French activities happening online. For little ones two and three years old, there's free “Tiempo de Cuentos," Bilingual Spanish Story Time With Laura on Thursdays at 9 a.m., and for kids ages four to six, Spanish Little Giants, also free, on Thursdays at 11 a.m.

And for older kids ages eight to 12 who know some French, there's Le Club des Jeunes Reporters, for budding journalists. Together, through a bilingual class, the group will create a magazine in French. Students will learn to write a news story, a review, an editorial and a column and see how they work together as a whole. Each participant will get a written and/or photo assignment that will be published, and the class will include discussions of current events and online debates. Cost is $200 for nine classes. 

Online: brooklynbeanstalk.com

Flor Bromley

Flor Bromley via Facebook

A frequent performer at Wave Hill, the Sugar Hill Storytelling Museum, New York Public Libraries and more, Flor Bromley is bringing her Spanish singing and storytelling talents online. Join her for bilingual fun on Mondays and Fridays at 11 a.m. Suggested donation is $5. 

Online: playtimeplaylist.com

Sonia De Los Santos

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Join musician Sonia De Los Santos in her home for En Casa Con Sonia, a Latin American family music video series featuring her performing her own songs, as well as those of some her favorite artists.  She' also shares the stories that inspire her music.

Online: soniadelossantosmusic.com

Spanish, Urdu & More : Storytime with Brooklyn Public Library

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The Brooklyn Public Library holds story time for kids five and younger in several languages at various times throughout the week on its Facebook page. (The library also hosts lots of other classes and events for kids and adults.) 

Online: bklynlibrary.org

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Elmo is on Zoom! On Apr. 14, your favorite red monster is inviting viewers to join him for Sesame Street: Elmo’s Playdate. This half-hour special will feature guests Lin-Manuel Miranda, Anne Hathaway and Tracee Ellis Ross as part of Sesame Street‘s new Caring for Each Other initiative.

The “virtual play date” special follows Elmo, Grover, Cookie Monster, Abby Cadabby and a few famous friends as they find new ways to learn together online and discover fun things to do at home with their families like baking cookies. They will also celebrate EMTs, doctors, and other everyday heroes who are helping families through the health crisis. The special is taped to look like a video conference, which is becoming more common for kids these days due to virtual classrooms and parents working from home.

“We hope Sesame Street: Elmo’s Playdate will entertain and inspire families at a moment when so many are feeling isolated and overwhelmed by current events,” said Steve Youngwood, Sesame Workshop’s President, Media & Education and Chief Operating Officer. “With help from our distribution partners around the world, this special will encourage parents and kids to gather and relax as a family, in a way that only the Sesame Street Muppets can.”

Sesame Street: Elmo’s Playdate will air Tuesday, April 14 at 7 p.m. ET, and will be available on all WarnerMedia Networks: HBO, Cartoon Network, Boomerang, TBS, TNT, truTV and PBS KIDS.

—Jennifer Swartvagher

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The Holderness Family are known for their totally relatable parenting music videos. In light of current events, their current videos have centered around quarantines and zoom conferences. Now, the Holderness Family has partnered with UNC Health to encourage safe distancing. 

   

 

The song “Gimme Six Feet” emphasizes the importance of keeping 6 feet of distance between yourself and others in public spaces to help prevent the spread of COVID-19.

"Gimme Six Feet"

The new video features the many of dedicated staff members from UNC Health. 

"Gimme Six Feet"

“Gimme Six Feet” (Physical Distancing REMIX) was produced by The Holderness Family.

"Gimme Six Feet"

—Jennifer Swartvagher

All photos courtesy of UNC Health

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2017 is officially in the history books and along with it, shelves full of parenting research become part of history too. Fortunately for us, a few gems of research made it out of the universities and into our lives this year.

As I did last year, I spent the last few days of 2017 going through the major themes in parenting research to see what new pearls of wisdom we learned this year.

Minimalism is not just a buzz word; its benefits are backed up by research. 

We heard a lot of talk about minimalism this year in the media. On the heels of the popular book, The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up, more parents were cutting the clutter, scaling back toys and limiting junk around their homes. Their efforts are not in vain, according to research. Studies this year pointed out that having fewer toys actually helps encourage creativity in kids. Similarly, we saw more evidence that simple, classic toys are more beneficial for youngsters than those fancy electronic ones.

Kids’ intense interests are awesome. 

Bring on the little paleontologists and toddler train lovers! Most of us who have been parents for a few years, know that our kids can go through phases where they are intensely interested in one topic–whether it be dinosaurs, trains or butterflies. I’ve always been fascinated by this and why it happens. 

Well, this year research answered our questions and informed us that our kids’ intense interests are a great sign. It turns out that those intense interests are a great learning tool for kids. It’s often their first experience with delving deep into a topic, finding answers and developing mastery of a topic (e.g., they know ALL the dinosaur names). Research tells us that kids who have intense interests tend to have higher cognitive and information-processing skills as well as executive functioning skills like attention span. You can get on board with your kids’ interests by visiting museums that feature their favorite topic or find books that discuss it. It’s a beautiful sight to see a child so engaged in their own learning.

Self-care needs to be on our priority list. 

We all know that self-care is important but it often gets pushed aside amide our long to-do lists. This year research showed us just us the consequences of lack of self-care for our parenting. Symptoms of insufficient self-care, like inadequate sleep, actually mimic some symptoms of depression making us less able to be patient with our kids. The result is often short temper and possibly yelling at our kids (and we all know that is not effective with our kids).

Similarly, research this year pointed out the mental load that moms carry (and yes, it is mostly moms). Although dads have increased their responsibilities for child care and household duties, it is still moms who carry the mental load. What is mental load? Things like remembering who is at what activity at what time, keeping up the grocery list and remembering who will run out of clothes if we don’t do laundry today. We all know mental load and feel it. Just another reason that self-care needs to be part of our lives. 

Managing technology is one of the biggest parenting challenges of our era. 

This year was full of research and media on how parents and kids are dealing with technology–together. Numerous reports emerged on how tech leaders are not giving their kids smartphones or iPads until they are almost adults. This, along with the Wait Until 8th movement, has opened parents’ eyes to the dangers of too much technology too soon for our kids. The challenge, according to research, is that we parents love our smartphones too.

New studies showed that parents who are hooked on their devices are more likely to experience “technoference” in the relationship with their kids. In other words, the device interrupts the parent-child interaction or relationship in some way. Device-distracted parenting is the new challenge facing our generation. This technoference seems to impact our kids as well. Early research indicates a link between technoference in parent-child relationships and negative behavior among kids.

This year’s revolution in gender relations affects parenting, too. 

The end of 2017 saw a seismic shift in how we discuss gender relations and sexual harassment with the development of the #MeToo movement. Although those of us with young children may feel a little out of the loop with current events (when do we have time to watch the news!), this movement will no doubt affect our parenting. Compelling articles and research pointed us to look at how we raise the next generation to deal better with gender relations in schools, workplaces and families.

The most compelling work I think focuses on how to raise children (especially boys) with a full emotional toolbox so they can be prepared to deal with people of all genders, races, beliefs, etc. In past generations, children were often taught to stuff their emotions down. However, our generation of parents is focusing on raising girls that are strong enough to speak up and boys who are strong enough to be vulnerable and emotionally available. This takes work, patience and a change of mindset for many of us. Fortunately, research can help us. Studies showed us this year that how we speak to our children about emotions matter. Discussing how others feel really does help children develop a strong sense of empathy. Empathy, of course, is one key to helping kids look beyond their own self-interest and become adults who do the same.

Well, that is a quick summary of parenting research for 2017. Based on this, I think my parenting goals for 2018 are clear: focus on empathy, managing technology, fostering interests and simplify.   What are your parenting goals for 2018? 

This post originally appeared on ThoughtfulParenting.com.

Amy is a scholar turned stay-at-home mom of two young boys. When she's not stepping on Legos, she writes at The Thoughtful Parent. With this blog she brings child development research into the lives of parents in the trenches of child-rearing.