I’m planning your retirement party next week, even though you’ve mostly just been a pain in the butt for that last year. You regularly made me late to meetings or required me to duck out early. You interrupted my work flow at your convenience, and you made me stress out like crazy if I didn’t get to you on time. Thanks to you, I ate lunch at my desk almost every day because you took up what little free time I had. You are loud and annoying, and frankly, you’re a little embarrassing.

You gross some people out. You require so much attention, and in some cases, that time and effort provides so little return. Sometimes you make me feel like you’re just extra baggage to carry around. So many people questioned why I associated with you for so long, knowing how much I disliked you. Some people thought I shouldn’t have formed a relationship with you at all in the first place. Most people are shocked that despite our rocky relationship three years ago, I still opted to work with you again this last year.

I can’t tell you how many times I wanted to give up on you. There were so many moments I felt that putting effort into our relationship just wasn’t worth the mental and emotional costs. Often, I even worried that associating with you was affecting my career growth. But I guess when I think about it, you’ve done some good, too. Despite the tax on me mentally, there’s no arguing that you’ve helped me lose some weight.

You’ve saved me thousands of dollars, too. You’ve also shown me that I have grit and commitment like I never thought possible. It’s almost hard to believe you’re retiring. I’m fairly confident that after your retirement, I will never see you again. I can’t really say I’ll miss you, but I can say thank you. Thank you for nourishing my babies even when I was working 40, 50, or even 60 hours a week.

Thank you for showing my family that my stubbornness could be put to good use. Thank you for being the reliable, rhythmic workhorse that allowed me to breastfeed as a full-time professional. So here’s to you, breast pump! Cheers to your retirement. I can say with certainty that I will absolutely have a drink (or three) in your honor!

Keren is a business owner x2 (flat-fee lawyer and digital marketing operations) in active pursuit of the elusive work-life balance. With a couple of demanding jobs, a husband who travels for work and two little kids, she maintains her sanity by reading and engaging in inappropriate banter with friends, family and strangers. 

My whole career as a stay-at-home mom I never thought myself capable of balancing anything more than taking care of my home and family. I put my whole heart and soul into caring for my children but little heart into caring for myself. I have put my children’s needs above my own. 

Of course there is nothing wrong with being unselfish and putting others first. Especially your children. But, you cannot neglect yourself. 

School, work, self-care. All of it went right on the shelf when I became a mother. And I’m sure I am not the only one. Motherhood, at the beginning with young children is often chaotic, overwhelming, and just plain exhausting. Suddenly having these precious lives in your care can be a daunting task. 

I don’t have any regrets of my decision to stay home exclusively with my children. I believe it is what I needed to do to figure this whole motherhood thing out. But now I am finding myself yearning for something more. More for me. 

A desire to change my way of life has snuck into my heart. Ideas and exciting projects have formed and are constantly forming within my head. Having the opportunity to find ways and time to work on my ambitions has become a constant goal.

Not being home with my children 100% of the time doesn’t sound so bad. In fact, I am coming to believe that I will be a better mother if I can get away and do more for me. Focus on some of my dreams and passions.

Too often do women, and I believe more often mothers, put their own desires, needs and passions on hold. 

I understand finding the balance can be difficult. We, as mothers and women, need to learn how to reach out beyond ourselves and find the help we need. We cannot parent alone. We need to share the load with our partner or spouse, ask family for assistance, or find a suitable caregiver to give us the time we need. We need to learn to let go and realize the whole world will not crumble if we take some time away to do what we want to do. 

It is a constant battle for me to fight the mommy guilt. To let go and know everything will be ok without my presence. But I know it is something I need to do to feel happy. And I cannot neglect my own happiness. Of course I will continue to give everything to my children but I’m also making my dreams and passions a priority as well. I’m starting to open up the opportunities for myself to walk out my door, leave the guilt behind, know my children are in good hands, and rebuild myself into who I invision I can become.

 

I'm a big believer in opening up your raw emotions and feelings as a mother and woman for the world to see. We need more reality displayed online versus the picture-perfect moments. 

When it comes to academic success, it’s not just studying that makes a difference. A new study found that students with higher emotional intelligence tend to gain higher grades and achievement test scores.

In the report published by the American Psychological Association, researchers looked at data compiled on more than 160 studies, including over 42,000 students from 27 countries, published between 1998 and 2019. The students ranged in age from elementary school to college. So what did they find?

photo: stem.T4L via Unsplash

The findings showed that regardless of age, students with higher emotional intelligence were more likely to earn higher grades and do better on achievement tests than those with lower emotional intelligence scores.

“Although we know that high intelligence and a conscientious personality are the most important psychological traits necessary for academic success, our research highlights a third factor, emotional intelligence, that may also help students succeed,” said Carolyn MacCann, PhD, of the University of Sydney and lead author of the study. “It’s not enough to be smart and hardworking. Students must also be able to understand and manage their emotions to succeed at school.”

So what is the reason emotional intelligence has such a big impact on academics? There are several factors, according to MacCann. “Students with higher emotional intelligence may be better able to manage negative emotions, such as anxiety, boredom and disappointment, that can negatively affect academic performance,” MacCann said. “Also, these students may be better able to manage the social world around them, forming better relationships with teachers, peers and family, all of which are important to academic success.”

—Shahrzad Warkentin

 

RELATED STORIES

A Majority of Kids Have a Smartphone By Middle School, According to Study

This Study Offers New Insight Into Toddler Language Development

Kids Allowance Is Increasing Faster than American Wages, According to Study

Photo: igor kisselev/shutterstock.com

When learning how to form the letters of the alphabet, children respond differently whether they are kinesthetic, auditory, tactile, and visual learners. In addition to supporting a child’s preferred learning st‌yle, using various methods can also increase the “fun factor” when practicing how to write!

Kinesthetic Learners:

Kinesthetic activities provide children with opportunities to learn through movement. Children who prefer this learning st‌yle may find it more challenging to sit still when engaged in a learning activity. Their capacity for learning increases when both their brain and their body are engaged.

You may think a kinesthetic-based activity is a challenge for an activity that is traditionally done with paper and pencil, but movement can definitely be incorporated into writing activities. For example, have children hold scarves and use big arm movements to write the letters in the air. Or, have the children move around the room then freeze when you call out a letter. Their task is to form the letter with their bodies. They might create the letter “L” by having two friends lie on the floor in the correct formation. Or, they might decide they can make the letter “t” all by themselves by sticking their arms straight out on each side.

Auditory Learners:

Auditory activities appeal to children who learn best through actively listening. They may also find it helpful to talk about the material they are learning. Providing auditory learners with opportunities to both hear and recite information is ideal.

To incorporate the auditory learning style in writing practice, children can be taught rhymes or sayings that help them remember the pathways to use when forming letters. For example, children can use the rhyme, “Pull straight down for capital E. Then add some shelves. 1, 2, 3!” Hearing this rhyme, then remembering and reciting it themselves, can help children when they forget how to print a letter.

Tactile Learners:

Children who prefer tactile activities learn best by touching and manipulating objects. They generally prefer “doing” over simply hearing or seeing instructions. They are often referred to as “hands-on learners,” and prefer activities like building, using art materials, and using manipulatives.

There are many ways to incorporate tactile opportunities into learning how to write letters. Children can use their index finger to practise printing letters in trays filled with salt, sand, or shaving cream. Children can use paintbrushes and water to “paint” the letters on chalkboards or other surfaces like a brick wall. Tactile learners may enjoy using playdough to create the letters. Working with a partner, they can also take turns printing letters on each other’s back. To support tactile learners’ recall of letter formations, have them make the letters using art materials like stamps, pipe cleaners, or stickers.

Visual Learners:

Visual learners benefit from seeing the material they are learning. They may prefer to read and write versus listening and speaking. They can typically recall information better if it has been presented to them visually.

When learning how to write letters, children who are visual learners can benefit from seeing the letters and writing them. Provide these learners with a visual of what the letter they are learning looks like. Provide them with opportunities to trace the letter before moving on to independent practice where they write the letter themselves. Visual learners who are focusing on printing can benefit from the handwriting worksheets.

These tracing letters worksheets provide children with the steps to forming each letter, using the proper pathways. Tracing the letters allows children to rehearse the pathways before moving on to independently writing.

To support visual learners who are focusing on cursive writing, worksheets that follow the same pattern as the printing worksheets can be used: Provide a model of the letter, allow for opportunities to trace the letter, then move on to independent practice.

These cursive letters worksheets also provide students with practice linking cursive letters together to form words.

The worksheets noted above have been carefully crafted with appropriate lines to promote the correct sizing of letters. Young children who are experimenting with writing may print very large letters. As they become more experienced with writing, children need guidance around which letters are tall and which letters are short. They also need guidance to correctly write “tail” letters, which have parts that hang below the line, like “p” and “y.”

Providing children with multiple ways to practice writing letters can help them to be successful and also maintain their engagement in the learning process. Worksheets will help them achieve the end goal of being able to correctly form written letters on paper.

Alesia is a founder of PrimaryLearning.org, an educational website that helps elementary school teachers and homeschool parents with hands-on worksheets, activities and thoughtful articles.

Build-A-Bear Workshop and iHeartMedia are teaming up! Build-A-Bear Radio, which recently celebrated its one-year anniversary, is now available on the free iHeartRadio app and on iHeartRadio Family.

The streaming station will feature all your child’s fave Build-A-Bear shows, such as “Build-A-Bear On Air with the Moseley’s” as well as fave pop songs from family-friendly artists and curated shows. So how can your kiddo listen to the streaming radio station?

 

Kids can tune in to Build-A-Bear Radio through the iHeartRadio app on your mobile phone, wearables, in your car and other compatible devices! Sharon Price John, president and CEO, Build-A-Bear Workshop, said in a press release, “The goal of Build-A-Bear Radio, as with Build-A-Bear Workshop, is to create a fun and safe place for families to have a great experience and for kids to be engaged and empowered.”

Price John also added, “iHeartRadio is the perfect platform for us to bring our popular family-friendly music and content on Build-A-Bear Radio to more families than ever before. With hit songs and original tunes offered in our sound chips that go inside furry friends, music has been a key part of the Build-A-Bear Workshop experience for many years.”

The CEO continued, “Our recent partnership with Warner Music Group’s Arts Music division and a publishing deal with Warner Chappell to create Build-A-Bear Records, a newly formed record label, positions us to take music and radio to the next level as we move to the iHeartRadio platform. The iHeartRadio deal and Warner Music and Warner Chappell deals were both put together through Foundation Media Partners.”

Stream Build-A-Bear Radio’s shows, stories and songs 24/7 via iHeartRadio on more than 250 platforms. Click here to download the iHeartRadio app now.

—Erica Loop

Featured photo: Build-A-Bear Radio via Instagram

 

RELATED STORIES

Build-A-Bear Just Released “Nightmare Before Christmas” Bears

Bear Builder University Makes Your Kiddo’s Build-A-Bear Dreams a Reality

Build-A-Bear Just Launched a Subscription Box & Every Item in it Is an Exclusive

Photo: Shutterstock

Parenting isn’t easy. Despite all the books that offer advice, websites that give suggestions, experiences that we can access every day, there is no clear and authoritative manual. We make mistakes as parents all the time, some bigger than others. When we do, the guilt can be overwhelming.

But you don’t have to be perfect. The best thing you can do is be honest in your actions with your child. By setting an example now and forming habits that they can emulate, you will be doing more for them than any picturesque Leave It To Beaver life ever could.

Here are three beneficial habits to help develop that will encourage your children to be healthy, happy and well adjusted by the time they are teens.

Communicate Fairly

This is a hard one because it takes a lot of patience, forgiveness and calmness to pull off. Mindful communication means being aware of your feelings, thoughts and needs. But it also means being open to hearing and accommodating the needs of others.

If your child hears you accusing your partner of always doing this, or never doing that, they will start to say the same things. If they hear your partner and yourself call each other names, they will start to do that. If they listen to you shouting insults at a driver who cut you off…well, you get the picture.

Put Away the Smartphone

We spend far too much time on our phones and we all know it. Which is fine, a good portion of the time. But we are becoming so reliant on technology that we are missing out on experiences and awareness of what is around us.

Our kids can be even worse, as they have grown up with this technology. So put away your phone during meals, when you are in the car, when you are at the park, when they are speaking to you…it will make a difference.

Be Understanding of Faults and Mistakes

No one likes to make mistakes, but everyone does. It is important that we learn to be kind to ourselves and others when it comes to mishaps, mess ups and our overall faults. That little voice that tells us we aren’t good enough? We can quiet it and help our children to do the same.

Not only will these habits help you, they will help your children as well. Especially once those difficult teen years begin.

Cindy Price would like to say she's a parenting expert but she knows better than to do that. As a parent educator and writer for over 15 years, she's well-aware how quickly parenting practices evolve. Family is her greatest joy and she hopes her writing can help make families stronger. 

Michael Phelps and his wife Nicole are expecting baby number three! The 23-time Olympic gold medalist and his wife both shared an adorable image on Instagram on Sunday, announcing the news their family is growing by one more.

The new baby will join big brothers, Boomer, 2 and Becket, 1 sometime this year. Nicole shared a photo with big brothers riding in a toy truck is adorned with gold letter balloons spelling out “baby” and could the Phelps boys be any cuter!?

Phelps has expressed the family’s desire to include three kiddos in the past, so we weren’t totally taken aback at the wonderful announcement. Neither Phelps nor his wife shared the due date or gender of the future bundle of joy, so we will all have to stay tuned.

Boy or girl, Phelps is well on his way to forming his own mini-swim team!

––Karly Wood

Featured photo: Michael Phelps via Instagram

 

RELATED STORIES

Reese Witherspoon & Jennifer Garner Hilariously Team Up End to Pregnancy Rumors

Hilary Duff ‘Grams the Moving Moment After Her Daughter’s Birth & It’s Precious

After 9 Months of Pregnancy Drama, Jessica Simpson Gives Birth to Baby Birdie

We want our babies to be sweet and healthy, so maybe that’s why we like to compare their fetal development to fruit (and the occasional veggie). Get to know your baby bump better with this weekly guide to baby’s size and monthly check-in on baby’s amazing physical growth while in the womb. And keep in mind, healthy babies come in all shapes and sizes, so guides like this are just for fun.

photo: Public Domain Pictures via Pixabay

First Trimester

Whether your bump is bumping or nonexistent, your baby is experiencing a lot of growth during this first trimester. The brain, nerves and spinal cord start forming, as do those cute baby fingers and toes, and baby’s heart begins to beat (you’ll hear it at your prenatal check-ups!).

Let’s see how big baby is, starting at week 4. Why week 4? Because conception is usually tracked from the first day of your last period, so you’re generally not pregnant until week 3, when fertilization occurs.

photo: Skitterphotos via Pixabay

4 weeks—poppy seed
At this stage, baby is a blastocyst, a rapidly dividing ball of cells that will become the embryo and placenta.

5 weeks—sesame seed

6 weeks—pomegranate seed

7 weeks—blueberry

photo: couleur via Pixabay

8 weeks—raspberry
Your baby’s nose, upper lip and taste buds are forming, and the tail is nearly gone.

9 weeks—cherry

10 weeks—kumquat

11 weeks—fig

photo: Tesa Photography via Pixabay

12 weeks—lime
This is the week when fingernails generally form and baby’s face begins to look more human, with eyes and ears moving into their typical spots and a clear profile you’ll soon see during your ultrasounds.

13 weeks—small lemon

Second Trimester

In this trimester, your baby will likely begin to move and hear, along with other exciting developments.

14 weeks—peach

15 weeks—apple

photo: Ponce Photography via Pixabay

16 weeks—avocado
By the four-month mark of pregnancy, babies can usually make a fist and suck their thumb. They can move their eyes and have begun to develop toenails.

17 weeks—pear

18 weeks—bell pepper

19 weeks—mango

photo: StockSnap via Pixabay

20 weeks—banana (in length)
You’ve hit the halfway point on your pregnancy, and you may be able to feel baby’s fluttery movements! Your baby is now regularly sleeping and waking and is drinking several ounces of amniotic fluid a day.

21 weeks—carrot (in length)

22 weeks—papaya

23 weeks—eggplant

photo: Couleur via Pixabay

24 weeks—ear of corn (in length)
Babies are skinny and wrinkly at this stage but will start to plump up soon. Their skin is now starting to become more opaque (it had been translucent).

25 weeks—rutabaga

26 weeks—zucchini

27 weeks—cauliflower

photo: Hans via Pixabay

28 weeks—kabocha squash
Baby can now bat their eyes at you through partially open eyelids, covered in eyelashes. Babies start to develop more fat at this stage and are practicing breathing, both in preparation for life outside the womb.

Third Trimester

In the final trimester in the womb, your baby should increase their weight significantly, so you’re likely to feel and see more of their movements.

29 weeks—butternut squash

30 weeks—cabbage

31 weeks—coconut

photo: Dezalb via Pixabay 

32 weeks—Napa cabbage
Baby is starting to sprout hair on their head and losing the soft hair that has covered their body (known as lanugo). Their formerly wrinkly skin is smoothing out.

33 weeks—pineapple

34 weeks—cantaloupe

35 weeks—honeydew melon

photo: BlackRiv via Pixabay

36 weeks—romaine lettuce
Baby’s liver and kidneys should now be working, and baby has grown so much, they take up most of the amniotic sac. You will likely feel lots of stretches and rolling movements.

37 weeks—Swiss chard (in length)

38 weeks—rhubarb stalk (in length)

39 weeks—small pumpkin

photo: FruitnMore via Pixabay

40-42 weeks—watermelon

It’s go time! At this point, baby’s lungs are continuing to develop so they can give you that big, healthy cry at birth.

Eva Ingvarson Cerise

RELATED STORIES:

Boy or Girl? 15 Fun Ways to Predict Your Baby’s Gender

Game-Changing Baby & Pregnancy Trends for 2019

8 Safe-for-Pregnancy Workouts Beyond Walking

 

 

 

Pie charts and bar graphs aren’t always synonymous with fun, but when they’re used to breakdown the truths about parenting, like these hilarious parenting drawings, they can have you laughing out loud.

Artist and mom Bonnie Kimmerly began noticing some patterns forming in her daily parenting routine and she decided to document them using charts. “Sometimes a cartoon or comic doesn’t help me get an idea across, and the part of my brain that wants to organize tells me to put it into chart or diagram form,” she told HuffPost.

Kimmerly’s hilarious drawings, like line graphs showing the relationship between lengths of naps and parent’s energy reserves, are totally relatable.

She covers everything from the proportions of food moms get to eat versus kids…

… to a compass ranking kids cartoon characters from cute to intolerable.

You can follow her Instagram feed here for more much-needed laughs.

—Shahrzad Warkentin

Featured photo:

 

RELATED STORIES:

62 Hilarious Memes That Moms Will Love

This Woman’s Viral Parody of Trendy Baby Photos Is Pretty Hilarious

10 Hilarious & Clever Mom Catch Phrases, Courtesy of Reddit

The advantages of being fluent in multiple languages are pretty obvious, but knew research has uncovered some surprising advantages for kids who grow up in a bilingual home.

A new study conducted by York University’s Faculty of Health has found that the advantages of learning more than one language can start as early as six months old. It’s not just academics and future careers that can benefit from being raised in a bilingual home. As it turns out, infants who are exposed to more than one language show better attentional control.

photo: Rawpixel

The study involved the use of eye trackers to assess attention and learning. The researchers found that babies who were raised in bilingual homes were more adaptable to change, showing that language can influence the development of the attentional system.

“By studying infants—a population that does not yet speak any language—we discovered that the real difference between monolingual and bilingual individuals later in life is not in the language itself, but rather, in the attention system used to focus on language,” says Bialystok, co-senior author of the study.

“This study tells us that from the very earliest stage of development, the networks that are the basis for developing attention are forming differently in infants who are being raised in a bilingual environment. Why is that important? It’s because attention is the basis for all cognition,” Bialystok added.

—Shahrzad Warkentin

 

RELATED STORIES:

Study Finds Kids Have the Energy of Endurance Athletes as Parents Say “No Duh”

When Kids Start Kindergarten Too Early, Study Finds This Diagnosis Is More Likely

Parents Who Speak This “Secret” Language Raise More Verbal Babies, Study Finds