If there’s a silver lining to our new normal, it’s the creative ways people are spreading kindness. If you’ve chalked your walk, had a social-distancing dance party or stocked your neighborhood’s free little library, you know what we’re talking about. Now, families can keep the good vibes going at home with a free kindness curriculum developed by an Eastside parent. Find out how below.

Kindness in Return

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Long before she was a mom, Camp Kindness Counts founder, Dhaarmika Coelho had an interesting experience riding on a train. She was reading a newspaper when the man sitting next to her tapped her shoulder. She assumed he wanted the paper, so she passed it off to him when she was done. The paper made its way from one passenger to the next, before making its way back to Coelho, much to her surprise. Her kindness had been (unexpectedly) returned.

That simple interaction is what got Coelho thinking, twelve years later, about how to raise kids who would spread kindness in their community. So she started a kindness camp in 2012, with 15 participants. At camp, kids volunteered with seniors and helped people who were homeless. They spent time at animal shelters too, and at the end of the week, the kids were beyond proud of their accomplishments and wanted more.

The Greater Good

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Coelho’s program has grown to include partnerships with local school districts, camps, parent workshops and family service days. It also led her to partner with University of California Berkely’s Greater Good Science Center to develop the Kind World Explorers Guidebooks. Part of the Families Building Communities of Compassion initiative, these guidebooks bring research-based practices to parents, with a focus on fostering specific character traits like gratitude, generosity, forgiveness, authenticity and flexibility, to name a few. The best part? You can download them to use at home for free (donations are greatly appreciated).

Kind World Explorers Guidebooks

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There are four Kind World Explorer Guidebooks, the first two of which (Harmony and Purpose), are currently available to download. Save them as PDFs or print them out, then add them to your new daily at-home routine. Each guidebook includes easy activities you and the kids can try together, along with discussion questions that guide your experiences. By breaking up the activities into three categories—My World, Your World and Our World—kids can trace the ripple effect of their good actions.

Pro tip: Start your day with a guidebook activity to set the tone and focus.

Kind World Passports

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After the kids have completed their guidebook activities, they can sit down with the Kind World Passport (also free to download) to reflect on what they’ve learned. The sticker book of good deeds, this helpful companion is the incentive that’ll keep your kids doing good, day after day, in home and out.

Pay It Forward

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If you’re interested in participating in Camp Kindness Counts activities in your community (once we’re able), be sure to look into Service Camps, Kindness Challenges and upcoming Family Service Days that take place locally. You can also make a donation or volunteer your time, if you're able. There’s something to engage everyone through this non-profit.

Camp Kindness Counts
Online: campkindnesscounts.org

—Allison Sutcliffe

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One would be hard-pressed to go anywhere at this time of year and not see Santa Claus represented. Depending on the age of your child, you will confront the inevitable queries from them or ponder for yourself the question, “Is it okay to teach children to believe in Santa?” 

“Barring religious or other beliefs that might preclude the telling of the Santa myth, I am firmly in the let’s believe camp.

I love Santa, and to me, he represents magic and hope and generosity. I remember when my own children were quite young, the seeds of doubt about making my kids’ believers, crept in a little bit as the holidays approached. I asked my oldest and dearest friend, a respected pediatrician, for her thoughts on the subject. 

Her unhesitating declaration was that of course she would teach her daughter Isabelle to believe in Santa. She stated without missing a beat that she wanted Isabelle to believe that dreams can come true. Her clarity and message of hope felt right then and still does.

Young children have a tremendous capacity to pretend. Using their imagination is a way to interact with the world, to try it on and get comfortable with it. When my two-year-old granddaughter puts on her pretend goggles to pretend swim in the bathtub each night, when she stirs empty bowls and pretends to feed her stuffed animals, and when she picks up a paper towel roll and starts singing her little heart out pretending it is a microphone, she has entered the world of make-believe. This use of her imagination allows her to exercise her creativity and her problem-solving skills—all while having fun.

While introducing the idea that there is a special guy in a red suit traveling around the world in a sled pulled by reindeer delivering presents is technically “a lie,” it is also another way to engage with children in the imaginary, magical world that they already reside in. Children’s literature is filled with bears, bunnies, monkeys and animals of all sorts that talk, wear clothes and sleep in fully furnished houses, (one of my personal favorites is the one about the duck that types) and most children are read these stories with no disclaimers.

Of course, there are pitfalls to teaching your child to believe in Santa. Besides the challenge of the inevitable day of reckoning when children begin to age out of the story, there is also the stress it can cause some children if there is too much emphasis on being good.

As a nursery school teacher, I witnessed children who became quite anxious as the adults around them sang songs about this all-seeing, all-knowing Santa person and his more modern helper, the Elf on the Shelf. The anxiety that some children feel when taught that they are being watched over at all times by Santa, a hidden elf or whatever, is only exaggerated when they fear they might be receiving only sticks or lumps of coal instead of toys.

I remember one child in particular who had an unusually sunny disposition who became quite agitated, crying daily as the holiday excitement ramped up around him. He frequently mentioned that he was afraid of getting ashes in his stocking because he sometimes forgot the rules. After checking in with his parents—who immediately backed off the “you better watch out routine” and reassured him that he was a good boy and that Santa would bring him a present-he quickly relaxed and returned to his happy-go-lucky self.

I have a distinct memory of explaining to my mother when I was in the third grade that I knew Santa wasn’t real, but that I wanted to believe in him anyway. I wasn’t ready to give up on the vision of a magical jolly gift-giver bringing joy to children everywhere.

She happily went along with this approach and continued to sign her holiday presents to me with a “Love from Santa” card, for the rest of her life.

I am a parent and grandparent with over four decades of experience in early childhood education. I share my passion, wisdom and experience, with parents and the people who care for and about children at Little Folks Big Questions, where we're out to answer the questions parents face in today's world.

The Giving (Family) Tree

Some of my earliest and fondest memories of my parents are the ones where we gave back to our community. You see, my mom and dad were always charitable people, long before they had the means to make significant financial donations. I remember once, my dad’s close friend suffered a debilitating stroke and my dad immediately took up the cause, dedicating his time and energy to further grow the Rehabilitation Institute of Chicago (now the Shirley Ryan AbilityLab). I remember my mom sitting at our dining room table, addressing donation envelopes by hand. The point is, philanthropy has always been a core part of our family and when I had kids, I began to think, how can I make sure my kids understand the value of giving back?

I figured you might be asking the same thing. So here, I’ve assembled my top four tips for raising kind and generous kids.

One In, One Out: For me, the key was to start instilling generosity when my kids were, well, still kids. Our house had a very firm “get a toy, give a toy” policy around Christmas and birthdays: If my kids received a new toy, then they had to choose one of theirs to give to kids that didn’t have many toys. Admittedly, it’s not a flawless system: A 10-piece toy would come in and a beloved stuffed animal would go out, but still, it planted the initial seed of giving. Admittedly, it also helped me keep down the clutter that comes with parenthood.

About Allowance: When my kids were old enough to start doing chores and earn allowances, we stressed “Save Some,” “Give Some” and “Spend Some.” A friend of mine even divided her kid’s allowance into three labeled envelopes to engrain this…sort of self-explanatory system, but the whole goal was to build a solid foundation of saving money and cultivate the value of giving back.

Holiday Spirit: No season better embodies the spirit of giving quite like the holidays. Every year at Christmas, we would adopt several families in need and, together, my kids and I would shop for and wrap gifts for the families. My kids would contribute some of their allowance to help buy the presents. I wanted my kids to understand that it’s not about the size of the check, but rather about giving of yourself to something you believe in.

Beyond Your Family: I realize I keep writing “my kids”. But they haven’t been kids for a long time. Now they’re grown and married, have kids of their own, and still adopt families at the holidays. I’ve been proud to watch them create their own paths in philanthropy. So now I’m left wondering, What’s next? For me, the answer was to look outside of my own family and make an impact on the community at large. I decided to put my 40-years of corporate experience to work and create a charity called Enchanted Backpack to deliver resources to underserved schools. Starting your own charity or becoming deeply involved in one you truly believe in is the best way to encourage others to be charitable. People follow by example. Whether it’s your kids or your best pals, when they see you being passionate about philanthropy, they’re likely to follow suit—or at least join you for an afternoon.

Giving back doesn’t just make an impact on your community, it makes an impact on your soul. Nothing warms my heart more than seeing the impact Enchanted Backpack has made in Chicagoland or watching my children become involved in their own charitable endeavors. And I know that, wherever they are, my parents would be proud, too.

Carol Lavin Bernick
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Carol Lavin Bernick is a former executive chairman of Alberto Culver, civic leader, working mother and philanthropist. She is the author of Gather As You Go, a collection of short, digestible stories that offer powerful lessons, key insights and helpful tips based on her life experiences.

From the stuffies on their bed to the cat videos they watch, chances are your kiddos love animals. A little boy is doing his part to help Australia cope with the devastation of the wildfires happening thousands of miles from his home in Hingham, Massachusetts. 

When 6-year-old Owen Colley learned about the impact of the catastrophic fires on the country and its wildlife, he told his parents that he wanted to help. Owen initially set out to raise $1000 when he set up his Australian Creature GoFundMe Page. Owen creates a handcrafted clay koala for every person who donates $50 or more to the cause. His family did not anticipate the reaction his tiny clay koalas would receive.

Owen Colley Clay Koala

 

After Owen reached his initial goal, he decided to keep going. “We are humbled beyond belief — your generosity toward fire-affected animals, and to a little boy doing his part to help them, is staggering,” the family wrote on the GoFundMe page. “Your donations, messages, and support have brought us to tears. And now, we have a lot of clay koalas to make!”

Owen Colley GoFundMe

As the time of this update, donations to Owen’s page have exceeded $260K. According to the GoFundMe page, Sculpey has reached out to the Colley family and will be shipping Owen a supply of silver, pearl, and black oven-bake clay. The family will be creating a how-to video for anyone who would like to learn how to make Owen’s clay koalas too. 

All donations will be going to Wildlife Rescue South Coast Inc who are currently building aviaries, boxes and enclosures for displaced animals as well as helping individuals set up feeding stations on their properties so animals whose homes and food sources have been destroyed have somewhere to go.

—Jennifer Swartvagher

All photos courtesy of GoFundMe. 

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There’s an old saying that children are like sponges, they tend to soak up everything and every influence around them. Whether we realize it or not, we parents are the primary influence in our kids’ lives and they mirror our attitudes and actions.

Most of us expect our children to behave in certain ways. We want them to be patient, honest, respectful and so much more. Unfortunately, we also make the mistake of failing to model the kind of behavior we want to see reflected in our children.

When my kids were young, I realized that some virtues and qualities were hard to ingrain in a child’s nature if they weren’t exposed to them constantly. My wife and I then made the decision to live our lives in such a way that our kids could learn from our example in both small everyday things as well as larger ones.

Here are some of the ways we decided to be positive role models for our kids:

Good manners. It’s easy to fall into a trap of complaining that kids these days don’t have good manners. But how will they learn if we don’t model manners? I set a good example for my kids both at home and in public by being polite to everyone I meet, regardless of the circumstances. Additionally, words like “thank you”, “please”, “excuse me”, “may I” feature regularly in our daily conversations.

Respectfulness. Other than teaching my kids good manners, I also model respectfulness and kindness. I make an effort to be respectful to everyone around us from the postman and delivery guys to the neighbors. I watch how I speak to them and also how I speak about others when they’re not around. It’s also important for my kids to see me treating their mom with kindness and respect.

Generosity. From the time my kids were toddlers, they joined us in volunteering at the local animal shelter, homeless shelter, old people’s homes or veteran groups in our community. I also encouraged them to set aside part of their allowance as donations to any charity or course of their choice every year. As a result, generosity is part of my kids’ lives and they’re always psyched about giving back to the community.

Being a Good Listener. One way we keep growing is by learning to genuinely listen to others, even those with different opinions to ours. While it was difficult to learn how to be an active listener, I persisted because I wanted my kids to notice me paying attention and being considerate of other people’s points of view. This way, they’ll learn that it’s okay to have differing opinions and that they can still listen even if they don’t necessarily agree with them.

Healthy Eating. I wanted my children to not only learn to eat healthy but also how to prepare nutritious meals for themselves. To help them learn to make healthy food choices, I made it a habit to include them in meal preparation, especially over the school holidays. We’d sit down, come up with a menu together, go shopping for groceries and then we’d prepare the meals. They were more likely to eat healthy meals and snacks if they had a hand in preparing them.

We also exercise as a family whenever possible. We go out to play in the park, ride our bikes, go for hikes or swimming. Exercising together has helped us bond as a family while instilling a healthy lifest‌yle in my kids.

Prioritizing Family Time. To show my children that I enjoy spending quality time with them, I make a point of scheduling weekly one-on-one dates with each of them. We also have dinner together daily, no matter how busy my schedule gets and we have a weekly game night where the kids take turns choosing the games to play. I’m hoping that by doing this they will learn to value and prioritize family time.

As parents, we can give a thousand lectures to our kids on how to behave but these will never have as great an impact as the examples we set.

Tyler Jacobson is a happy husband, father of three, writer and outreach specialist with experience with organizations that help troubled teens and parents. His areas of focus include: parenting, social media, addiction, mental illness, and issues facing teenagers today.

 

I love Christmas. I love the music. I love the decorations. I love the gift-giving, cookie eating, movie watching, and Santa letter writing. I want to share all of the fun and merriment with my children. At the same time, I don’t want to completely lose the true meaning of Christmas. While I want my kids to get excited about Santa and decorating the tree, I also want them to understand that this is really a time for reflection, generosity, and selflessness. As such, I love the idea of reverse Advent calendars. Instead of receiving a daily treat, you perform some act of kindness. Reverse Advent calendars compel us to take a moment, each day, to pause from the materialistic aspects of Christmas and to instead consider how we can be more generous and kind.

But how to make one that my three-year old can understand and perform? It took a little creativity and some consulting with other moms to compile such a list. So, in the spirit of sharing, here are 25 Advent Acts of Kindness that even your toddler can do:

1. Give someone a hug
2. Take in the neighbor’s trash cans
3. Help clean-up without being asked
4. Draw a picture for someone
5. Tell a joke to make someone laugh
6. Fill a shoebox with supplies for the homeless
7. Smile at everyone you see today
8. Help make dinner
9. Bake a treat for the mail carrier
10. Donate books from our book collection
11. FaceTime a loved one and tell them that you love them
12. Hold the door for someone
13. Give someone a compliment
14. Donate a toy from our toy collection
15. Tell someone why you are thankful for them
16. Make a homemade gift
17. Send a card to someone
18. Invite someone over to play
19. Say a prayer for someone
20. Offer to help someone today
21. Pick out a Christmas gift for someone else
22. Do something good for the Earth
23. Deliver a treat to a friend
24. Sing a Christmas song to cheer someone up
25. Let someone else have a turn first

In my former life, I spent my days teaching history to emotionally-charged teenagers. Now, I spend my days teaching kindness, hygiene, and ABCs to emotionally-charged toddlers. I love to be outdoors and I cannot wait to get back to traveling once I wrap my head around flying with kids/their gear.

Kylie Jenner isn’t just another celeb reality star. Even though the cosmetics queen/billionaire takes lavish vaycays and has a garage filled with cars that cost more than most of our homes, she’s also a generous mama mogul.

Jenner recently appeared on The Ellen DeGeneres Show, surprising Ashley Almonte and her mother Mireya Almonte (an NYC public school teacher) with a gift neither woman could believe—and it all started with a trip to Kylie Cosmetics’ headquarters!

Ashley, a 22-year-old college student, recently had to drop out of school to help financially support her mother. After learning about this, Jenner donated $100,000, to both mother and daughter (that’s $200,000 total!), to help ease the family’s financial issues. Jenner told Ashley, “I want you to be able to pay off your student loans.” She also added, “I want you to be able to go back to college.”

The generosity didn’t end there. Jenner also donated $50,000 to Mireya’s school, New York’s P.S. 35. Mireya told Jenner, and Ellen’s viewers, “We service children that come from shelters, from homeless situations. We’re like a family at P.S. 35.” She continued, “We don’t only teach them academically, we also embrace them, we encourage them, we help the parents too if they’re going through difficult situations. And most of the money comes from our pockets because we don’t get enough funding for this.”

—Erica Loop

Featured photo: The Ellen Show via YouTube

 

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As Hurricane Dorian pounded the East Coast, one boy gave up his dream vacation to Disney World in order to help evacuees and now Disney is rewarding his amazing act of kindness.

Six-year-old Jermaine Bell’s family had been saving up for a special trip to Disney World to celebrate his seventh birthday, but instead the generous, young boy decided that they should use that money to help evacuees in South Carolina. His family spent Labor Day weekend passing out food and water to those evacuating from the coast. Disney Parks got wind of his generosity and decided to gift him with his dream vacation.

As Jermaine appeared on Good Morning America on his birthday, Disney employees accompanied by Mickey Mouse himself, showed up to surprise him and deliver his birthday gift, passes for his entire family to visit the Magic Kingdom. “When Mickey came out I was just really happy,” Jermaine said in the video created by Disney Parks. “Be strong and if you do good things you will be rewarded,” he added.

This is definitely a well-deserved reward. Jermaine and his family plan to visit Disney World later this month.

—Shahrzad Warkentin

Featured photo: Disney Parks via YouTube

 

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Calling all future engineers! Amazon and the FIRST robotics program recently announced new grant funding to expand access to robotics clubs, computer science education, teacher professional development and even a tour of a local Amazon fulfillment center.

The Amazon Future Engineer Robotics Grant will provide funds to 100 schools across 21 states (in underserved areas), including $10,000 to expand access to in-school computer science education. The mentor-based programs will help kiddos in kindergarten through twelfth grade to build STEM skills that will benefit them now and for years to come. The robotics-based grant adds to the existing funding Amazon provides through its Future Engineer program.

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So how exactly is the Amazon Future Engineering Robotics Grant changing the lives of students? According to Dave Levin, co-founder of KIPP Public Schools in Columbus, Ohio, “The Amazon Future Engineer Robotics Grant is a game changer for middle and high school students throughout 53 KIPP schools around the country.” Levin also added, “The generosity of Amazon will ensure more KIPP students than ever will have the opportunity not only to pursue successful careers in STEM, but help diversify the industry for future generations.”

Dean Kamen, founder of FIRST and president of DEKA Research & Development, said in a press statement, “Amazon is helping FIRST in our goal to make robotics teams and programs available in every school.” Kamen went on to say, “In FIRST, every kid on every team can go pro. They gain a hands-on learning pathway in technology, computer science and engineering that propels them forward and inspires innovation.”

The Amazon Future Engineer program started in 2018, using a four-part childhood-to-career model. Through annual grants the program aims to inspire and educate over 10 million children, providing a projected total of 100,000 students in more than 2,000 high schools access to computer science classes as well as 100 $10,000 four-year college scholarships!

—Erica Loop

 

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On this Global Pay It Forward Day (Apr. 28), don’t be afraid to start the conversation with your kids, because it’s never too soon!

Kids are curious by nature—when they see a natural disaster or pass a homeless person on the street, it’s normal for them to have questions. These moments open up the opportunity to teach them about philanthropy—sometimes by taking action. As a mom of two, this is something I’ve experienced first hand—in particular with my youngest son.

A few years ago on a brutally hot summer day, I was walking around New York City with my younger son, Max. I decided to stop at a food truck to buy several bottles of water for homeless people in the area and had him help me hand them out. This was the perfect introduction for us to have the conversation of the importance of giving back to those in need.

This made a huge impression on him and sparked his charitable drive and ever since he’s been volunteering at the Salvation Army and looking for ways to help others whenever he can.

Not only has this been important to me in my personal life, but as the CEO of KIDBOX, a company with a true heartbeat of social giving, I know more than ever the importance of philanthropy and that it’s never too soon to talk to your kids about it.

With Global Pay It Forward Day right around the corner on Apr. 28, here are my top tips to keep for having this first conversation with your kids:

It’s never too early to have the conversation!

Empathy is something kids can learn from a very early age. I recommend asking your kids how they might feel if they didn’t have any toys at all and how that feeling might change if a friend shared one with them or gave them one.

Start the conversation by explaining to them what philanthropy is.

More importantly, explain why it matters, too. Explain to your kids that giving back doesn’t just mean donating money it can also be donating time and helping bring attention to those in need.

Relate it to a time they needed help.

It’s fairly easy for kids to understand needs—they know what it feels like to experience the emotion of needing something. The best way to help them understand children in need is to talk to them about a time they felt hungry, cold or sick.

Leverage the technology they use often.

In today’s digital age, talking to your kids about giving back and identifying causes they feel passionately about is easier than ever. Browse charities online with your child and explain how the charities help those in need and find educational videos for them to watch on their tablets!

Show them giving back feels good.

Helping them experience what it feels like to practice generosity will create a positive association in your kids’ future—even if the charitable giving is done in an anonymous way. When you share these types of acts of kindness early on, it’s much more likely that your children will also incorporate this kind of compassion as they grow up.

Introduce them to different charities to help them find one they feel passionately about.

Find ways to get your kids involved in giving back, from making meals for the homeless to donating new clothing to children in need, creating moments that open up the conversation will help your kids find the causes they feel passionately about.

Shop brands that make giving back fun and easy.

Shopping brands that give back like KIDBOX, BOMBAS or Art & Eden, that incorporate giving back as a part of their mission, is an easy way to start the conversation with your kids as you select the charity of your or your child’s choice. It’s seamless and integrated into the shopping experience, so kids can see that giving back is as easy and as important as shopping for themselves.

Implement giving back as a part of their routine.

By creating a recurring moment of giving back in your child’s routine, you can help them to understand that giving back isn’t just reserved for times of emergencies, but rather should be something that is a part of their day to day life.
Get them involved in philanthropy-oriented kids groups.

Groups like Big Brothers Big Sisters of America, Girl Scouts USA, Boy Scouts of America or KIDBOX’s Kids Board of Directors help surround your little ones with other socially minded kids their age. Helping them make a bigger impact on their local communities through acts of giving.

Looking for a place to start? Check out KIDBOX’s Look Good Do Good page and join our community through our little leaders or our community moms’ 50 States of Giving & Inspiration program.

Miki Berardelli is the CEO of KIDBOX, the first st‌yle box built around a social mission to clothe children in need. She is the mom of two sons, Max and Vic.