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During this past summer, nothing would have made my 10-year-old son happier than getting Fortnite, the new video game that’s all the rage these days. Not only did he talk endlessly about the full game, my son constantly asked if I would download the free Fortnite: Battle Royale to our iPad. Since I prefer to limit my kids’ screen time, I wasn’t keen on that idea of dropping $40 or more on the full game.

I admit that when my son first told me about Fortnite, I had no clue what he was talking about. After doing my research and finding out more about the game, I slowly shifted from cluelessness to ambivalence. So what is Fortnite, exactly? You’ve heard about it everywhere, I’m sure.

Fortnite is a multiplayer shooter game that has managed to garner millions of fans, with some estimating that it has racked up to 125 million fans worldwide. There are two versions of the game, the first being Fortnite: Save The World and Fortnite: Battle Royale. When you hear your kids say they’re playing Fortnite, they’re probably enjoying the second version as it is the free-to-play version.

From my understanding, the game is basically like the TV show Survivor, only instead of competing against each other in various challenges, players arm themselves and fight each other until the last player standing is declared the winner.

Reasons for the game’s popularity include the excellent graphics which lend it a well-polished yet cartoony feel and the new features, items and play modes that are constantly released and updated to make the game more fun and interactive. Fortnite is also a cross-platform game so kids can play together regardless of whichever game console they have, be it a PlayStation, Xbox, Nintendo Switch or even on regular smart devices.

To (Let Them) Play—or Not

I’m torn about whether or not I should allow my son to download and play the game. As a parent raising kids in the digital age, I worry about internet addiction and how much time screen time is ideal for my kids, and it seems like Fortnite plays into all of my concerns about having my children online and interacting with strangers of all ages. Also, I would love my son to trade some of his video games for books that excite him just as much, but I very well can’t force him to read.

Additionally, I am worried about the effect video games have on kids and the contradictory messages we are sending, especially to young boys. We lecture them on the hazards of violence, then allow them to play games like Fortnite for hours on end where all they do is find different ways of killing off their opponents. We encourage them to be fierce competitors and win no matter what, but then ask them to play fair.

On the other hand, I like the fact that a game like Fortnite encourages teamwork and cooperation. Also, part of me doesn’t want my kid to be excluded when all his friends are talking about the latest upgrades and the rounds they’ve played together. Besides, the game has parental controls that will allow me to limit the length of my son’s gaming sessions. That way, I can set and enforce screen time limits to encourage him to head outside for some real-life pastimes instead of remaining cooped up indoors.

Ultimately, the decision on whether or not to allow kids to play Fortnite depends on individual parents and what works for one family might not be ideal for another.

Tyler Jacobson is a happy husband, father of three, writer and outreach specialist with experience with organizations that help troubled teens and parents. His areas of focus include: parenting, social media, addiction, mental illness, and issues facing teenagers today.

 

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I remember when it seemed like just yesterday that Twitter users had to contain their witticisms to 140 characters or less. Oh wait, it actually was almost yesterday: in November 2017, Twitter doubled its character count to 280 characters.

While many bemoaned the possibility of boring, longer diatribes, longer tweets have proven to be a boon for parents. Instead of trying to confine the daily insanity that is parenting small humans to a mere 140 characters, we can now practically compose daily memoirs with 280 characters! This of course means that your favorite funny moms of Twitter have become even funnier thanks to those extra 140 characters they didn’t have before.

If you’re looking for some serious motherhood hilarity to get you through those days when you’re freezing gum out of your kid’s hair (again) or fishing the tablet out of the toilet (again), look no further than these 15 moms who are absolutely killing it on Twitter in 2018.

vodkamom (@vodkamom)

From her Twitter bio: "I am a first grade teacher, writer, blogger and exhausted mother. Don't bother calling me because I never answer the phone." Follow @vodkamom on Twitter.

Mommy Cusses (@mommy_cusses)

From her Twitter bio: "5% lady, 80% pervert, 90% awkward." Follow @mommy_cusses on Twitter.

Kim Bongiorno (@ LetMeStart ))

From her Twitter bio: "Took away TV privileges from my daughter as punishment so now both our afternoons are ruined." Follow @LetMeStart on Twitter.

Susan McLean (@NoDomesticDiva)

From her Twitter bio: "Somewhere between love & madness lies... Motherhood. Humorist, Author, Blogger. Sharing the lighter side of parenthood & rockin' what I've got left." Follow @NoDomesticDiva on Twitter.

SpacedMom (@copymama)

From her Twitter bio: "Writer of freelance copy. Cultivator of small humans. Documenter of absurdity." Follow @copymama on Twitter.

The Magnitude of Margaretude (@Bollingmargaret)

From her Twitter bio, she hails from "Queen of the Double Entendre." Follow @Bollingmargaret on Twitter.

Mommy Owl (@Lhlodder )

From her Twitter bio: Don't let "Writing and literature professor" lure you into thinking she's not funny because boy howdy, she's funny. Follow @hlodder on Twitter.

MotherPlaylist (@MotherPlaylist)

From her Twitter bio: "I was told there would be snacks here..." Follow @MotherPlaylist on Twitter.

Paige Kellerman (@PaigeKellerman)

From her Twitter bio: "Writer, humorist and mother. People say I'm a bad cook. They're right. If you ask nicely, I'll write something for you. But you'll have to give me money too." Follow @PaigeKellerman on Twitter.

Chrissy Teigen (@chrissyteigen)

Celebrity mom she may be, but she is one helluva funny Twitter mom, too—with baby number two on the way, no less. From her Twitter bio: This mega model and wife of singer John Legend is a self-described "de-motivational speaker." Follow @chrissyteigen on Twitter.

Amy Flory (@FunnyIsFamily)

From her Twitter bio: "Named one of @Mashable's 17 Funny Moms on Twitter, one of @Parenting's 10 Handles to Follow, and World's Meanest Mom by my kids." Follow @FunnyIsFamily on Twitter.

Mommy, for real. (@MommyisForReal)

From her Twitter bio: "Wordsmith. Humorist. Seriousist. Getting real about motherhood with a cocktail of humor and neuroses." Follow @MommyisForReal on Twitter.

Mom of All Capes (@MomOfAllCapes)

From her Twitter bio: "We're life-nerds searching for the answers through experience." Follow @MomOfAllCapes on Twitter.

Jennifer Lizza (@outsmartedmommy)

From her Twitter bio: "When my kids grow up I'm going to knock on their doors & demand to know what's for dinner. Then I'll cry & use all the ketchup." Follow @outsmartedmommy on Twitter.

Ponies and Martinis (@PonyMartini)

From her Twitter bio: "Herding kids and dogs daily. One day, I hope to complete something I start. Or, at least complete a thought." Follow @PonyMartini on Twitter.

Who tops your Twitter list of funniest moms? Share your favorite Twitter parent personalities in the comments.

—Keiko Zoll

 

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Most grocery stores offer sanitizing wipes as an option to wipe down your cart before starting your grocery shopping. I really do appreciate the opportunity to decontaminate my shopping cart, especially with cold and flu season in the air. After all, I have read that shopping carts are one of the germiest things we touch in public… When you think about it, diaper-aged kiddos sit in the cart… Add in any kind of meat juices, plus any germs from the previous cart pusher…. YEEESH.

Shopping Cart Study

In 2012, University of Arizona microbiologist Charles Gerba, PhD, sometimes called “Dr. Germ” conducted a study on total numbers of bacteria on grocery shopping cart handles and seats. The results of this study found the shopping cart seats and handles to be bacteria-laden, and suggested the need for improved sanitation of shopping cards/baskets.

This study was conducted 5 years ago. After 5 years of wiping down shopping carts, and many parents using blankets/cloth seat protectors for their kids, I wondered if shopping cart conditions have improved. And truthfully, I really dislike using those wipes. I don’t like getting my hands all wet, and it seems to take forever for the cleaning solution to dry on the handle.

So, I decided to bring my own agar plates and sterile cotton swabs to the grocery store, and test out the handles of shopping carts myself (I did not test the seats).

Background: How I Grew Bacteria at Home

Agar Plates and Growing Bacteria

I purchased some luria broth agar plates (thank you, Amazon – they truly sell everything!), which are used to grow environmental bacteria, including E. coli. Other types of agar plates are used to grow pathogenic bacteria- I did not want to grow any of those in our home! I should also note here that only bacteria can be grown on agar plates – no viruses.

Incubator

When it was time to grow the bacteria, I placed the agar plates in an upside-down position in a homemade incubator with a temperature between 85 and 100 degrees F. For the homemade incubator, I used a plastic bin, a thermometer, and a heating light bulb as a heat source.

After 1-2 days in the incubator, I watched for the appearance of small bacterial colonies (usually white or yellow dots) on the surface of the agar plates. You need millions of bacteria in one spot just to see one dot on the agar plate.

My Shopping Cart Sampling Method

I went to two different Meijer stores, and sampled 4 different carts on 4 separate shopping trips. Meijer stores have Purell sanitizing wipes available for use next to the shopping cart corral, so I used Purell sanitizing wipes in this experiment..

So that my results would be fair, my comparison of wiped/unwiped cart handles were performed on the same cart – I used a Purell wipe on 1/2 of the shopping cart handle, and left the other 1/2 untreated. I scrubbed 1/2 of each cart handle thoroughly with the Purell wipe, and waited until it was dry before using my sterile cotton swab to test the surface of the handle, and then applied the swab to my agar plate. I left the other half of the handle untreated, and carefully swabbed the untreated 1/2 as well. Then, I put the plates in an incubator for 1-2 days to grow bacteria.

Shopping Cart Handle Results

I was surprised to find that overall, the shopping cart handles were pretty clean!

My results from 4 different shopping trips provided 7 total colonies of bacteria (not very much at all!) from unsanitized shopping cart handles vs. 1 colony from handles treated with Purell. For comparison purposes, we grew hundreds of bacterial colonies when I tested my kids’ dirty hands after playing outside. And on one sampling day, I was unable to grow any bacteria from the shopping cart handle – sanitized or not – it had been raining for about 24 hours, and I wonder if the rain helped to make this cart extra clean (my cart was dry when I got it, but it could have been rinsed off with rain and already dried).

Conclusion

So, should I use the sanitizing wipes? Sure. They do a good job of killing most bacteria. I was only able to grow 1 colony of bacteria from all 4 of my sanitizing wipe samples. Also, remember that I only focused on bacteria – the ingredients in Purell wipes are also effective in killing certain viruses.

But do I have to? If you are like me, and don’t really love the wipes, I think it’s okay to skip them. In lieu of the wipes,  I use hand sanitizer when I get into my car after a grocery trip. And, as soon as I get home but before I put my groceries away, I always wash my hands with soap and water.

The best solution for your cart-riding child? I would never take any risks with a baby/small child. I would not use the sanitizing wipes and assume that your child is safe from all bacteria and viruses. Instead, make sure that they do not touch the shopping cart handle at all – ensure that the area that your baby rides in is covered with a blanket or shopping cart cover. Even years ago, I always used a cloth grocery cart cover when shopping with my kids, and washed it when we returned home from a shopping trip. Totally worth it!

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Nadia North is a science teacher, mom, wife, and blogger. She writes about her fun and easy science experiments (plus other cool stuff that intersts her- like yummy food and home projects) at Adventures in Wonderlab. She enjoys drinking (too much) coffee, running (off the crazy), and hanging out with her awesome family!

These power moms are proving that the tech industry is no longer a man’s world. They are using their skills and mad smarts to lift other mothers up, change the world and serve as an example for other science and technology-minded women and girls. Check out their stories and accomplishments below and get ready to feel empowered!

Tina Lee, Founder of MotherCoders

This tech-minded mom started and runs a nonprofit called MotherCoders that helps other mothers get the tech skills they need to thrive in a new economy. Only five years after launching, MotherCoders has run 6 classes and propelled 34 women into technical careers. So how does a mom to two little girls in preschool and kindergarten get the inspiration to start such an awesome company? Tina says “I started MotherCoders in the fall of 2013 shortly after I had a meltdown one early morning while trying to relearn basic web development in between breastfeeding sessions with my second daughter, who was merely a newborn at the time.” MotherCoders was her response to what she believes is greatly needed to create and sustain a vibrant and inclusive digital economy—mothers.

Winning a finalist prize in the 2015 Bay Area Google Impact Challenge for MotherCoders was one of the highlights of Tina’s career, but what she’s most proud of is expanding the conversation on diversity and inclusion in the tech world to include women with kids. As for trying to strike a balance between work and her personal life, Tina says, “Honestly, I don’t do the work/life balance thing; it’s a game I’m never going to win.” She admits that she enjoys working, especially when it improves people lives and she celebrates having a partner who does his fair share of housework and parenting.

 

Do you know a mom who is killing it in the tech world? We’d love to know all about her. Share her story with us in the comment section below.

—Annette Benedetti

All photos courtesy the fabulous power moms of tech except where noted. 

 

Ashley Grimm experienced every parents worst nightmare – the loss of a child in a tragic car accident. Ashley tells her story in a viral Facebook post, explaining how four-year-old Titus was not one for wearing seat-belts and frequently unbuckled himself despite her many attempts at keeping him securely fastened. A rock hit the side of her axle, rolling her van into the side of a cliff, instantly killing Titus.

Ashley then gives advice every parent should hear. “I feel led to write this to all you Mamas because I have a longing to look each of you in the eyes and tell you this: ‘Hold your babies tight’. That’s all I want to shout to the world.”

We encourage you to read the full post below.

 

We wish the Grimm family much strength and love.

You all know the heartwarming story of LA’s brave mom Jackie MacDougall from The Silver Whining blog. (And if you don’t, you really should visit her blog, which was one of our top LA Mommy Blog picks.) Here, Jackie tells her family favorites and shares Los Angeles’ hottest family spots with Red Tricycle moms.

What is your favorite family ritual?
Pizza/family movie night! Every week, we pick a film the kids haven’t seen, often a classic (ET, Willie Wonka, Benji, etc.). After a hectic week, it’s our time to completely shut out the rest of the world — no laptops, phones or video games allowed! And when the movie’s over… my husband and I often end up sharing our own childhood stories with the kids.

Where do you like to catch a bite with the little one in tow?
Given our kids are 6, 5 and 4, we don’t often head out for meals. But when we do, we’re always on the hunt for a menu that helps kids branch out in a fun, healthful way.

Describe a perfect Sunday with your family.
Sunday is the only day we don’t have to be on a schedule or out the door early. We take the morning to sip coffee, let the kids just “be,” and decide what we’re going to do with the day. Sometimes, that includes an “adventure” somewhere in the LA area… but sometimes, it just means enjoying each other and making a pact to embrace the day.

What is your favorite pearl of wisdom for a frazzled new mom to find her happiness?
Stop trying to achieve perfection. Who are you killing yourself to impress? Babies need simple things — food, shelter, love. Forget what everyone else is doing and treat yourself the way you would treat your best friend. You have enough going on — adding your own expectations and pressure on top of that isn’t helping anyone.

What are your family’s favorite venues for catching live musical performances?
Outside venues are the best. We love grabbing a blanket, picnic and listening to music under the stars. It allows the kids to get the bugs out and reminds us that it’s important to re-connect with our pre-kid grownup.

What’s your favorite local vacation or day trips?
We love going to Ventura over the summer. I swear renting one of those little boats for an hour and getting away from it all is a perfect, inexpensive way to get in touch with peace and recharge your batteries — sometimes it just takes that 60 minutes! And when the crowds start to die down in the late afternoon, that’s when we’ll hit the beach. Playing and watching the sunset is a perfect way to end the day.