Days with a baby fly by at warp speed. There is also much more to do within the same 24 hours, and it all seems harder when you’re running on limited sleep. Regain lost time with these simple ways to add anywhere from 5 minutes to 5 hours back to your day. Yes, really!

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Track Items with Apps
If the average person spends 15 minutes a day searching for misplaced items like their keys, shoes or wallet, according to a recent survey, we’re pretty sure those suffering from mom brain spend at least twice that. There are simple life hacks to avoid these daily pitfalls, like keeping a spare set of keys pinned to your diaper bag, but a more modern approach uses clever tracking devices like Tile, TrackR or Chipolo. Attach Bluetooth-enabled devices to sneakers, keys, wallets and more so your phone can help you find them.

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Put Down Your Cell Phone
The internet is like a bag of chips…a box of cookies…and a tub of ice cream. We consume it in small chunks, most of us not realizing how many little bites we’ve taken until we’ve lost hours of our day, according to a Nielsen study. In fact, studies show that most of us now spend more time on the internet than we spend watching TV. While the average American is on their mobile device about 4 hours every day, a small study suggests that new parents spend considerably more time than the average person on social media. If you’re spending your child’s nap time posting baby pics to Instagram and Facebook, you may want to consider a social media break so you can use baby’s nap time for your own naps! More on why sleep is important below.

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Catch Some Zzz’s
If you feel like simple tasks take twice as long since you had a baby, you’re probably not wrong. Fatigue causes brain function to slow down, which means you are thinking and acting slower. The first three months postpartum are the toughest: Studies show you’ll get less sleep during this period than at any other point in your life. And a new, small study demonstrated that sleep deprivation can last up to six years post-birth. The old adage “Sleep when the baby sleeps” seems impossible, but if you carve out time for a nap, it not only helps you stay rested but will help you tackle your daily must-do list with efficiency.

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Become a Better Jetsetter
Pre-bambino, getting out of the house meant grabbing your keys, wallet and possibly a pair of shades. Now, a trip to the grocery store means packing a pint-size suitcase with diapers, wipes, bottles, snacks, a back-up outfit for blowouts and more. If you’ve gone from being punctual to perpetually late, try pre-packing your car (or stroller or diaper bag) with baby essentials. Turn your car into a mobile nursery unit by stocking multiple-compartment trunk organizers. Think beyond the diaper bag: Fill your organizer with the same must-have products you keep on hand in the house.

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Go Capsule with Your Clothing
Seventeen minutes. That’s how long it takes the average woman to pick out an outfit. Take the guesswork out of your morning routine by adopting a mom uniform and reclaim over a quarter of an hour every single day. A capsule wardrobe—first made popular in the 1970s—is a curated collection of clothing staples that work for your everyday life. These could be pieces that mix and match well or a collection of the same types of clothes you like to wear (think go-to t-shirts, yoga pants and sneakers). Everything goes together, so there’s less thinking or planning. Create your collection with these 10 capsule wardrobe ideas for a new mom.

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Smarten Up Your House
Life is filled with interruptions. If you’re preparing dinner, the baby will inevitably cry for you. Feeding your little loves? Yup, someone is going to knock on the door. The problem with all of these daily little hiccups is that it’s hard to get back to the task you were originally focused on. And the worst interrupter in your day is not your recent family addition, it’s you! A recent study found that we “self-interrupt” every three minutes. Most of us call this multitasking, but switching from activity to activity while we are still, um, mid-activity can cause us to lose minutes or even hours each day. You can remove some of these distractions by putting them on autopilot through the magic of technology! Let the door answer itself with a video doorbell; get a robot vacuum to handle the dust and dirt; and invest in a programmable coffee maker or formula maker that lets you schedule when your next cup or bottle is ready.

Cut Haircare in Half
The average woman spends around 15 minutes blowdrying her hair. For a full wash, dry and style, it’s a whopping 40 minutes. Save almost an hour by skipping the shower and spraying on dry shampoo. If “dirty hair, don’t care” isn’t your thing, choose a hair dryer marketed as ionic or ceramic and invest in a blow dry accelerator spray, like AVEDA speed Of Light, both of which reduce the amount of time it takes to dry your mane.

Meghan Meyers

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Bethany Jury

I fill my cup with wellness inspired tools for the soul.Full time mom, Addiction Fighter, Mental Health Warrior, & Toddler Referee. Rock bottom has been my trampoline.

Motherhood is so darn complex. We are always needing to take care of all the things; meals, baths, good hygiene, home school, sickness, appointments, sports, manners, laundry… gosh the list is endless. It doesn’t end there. We get a little “work” break from our kids for about 2 hours, before some sort of chaos, bad dreams, thirsty throats, or someone wet the bed- ensues into the night hours. These are the days we prayed for, am I right? It’s so true. But no one tells you that you’ll be out of gas when it comes to taking care of YOU, your mental health, and the little things that help keep you up to par in being the best mom you can be. Through my professional and personal lens, I’ve curated a small list of little things, that when added up can really make all the difference in moms filling their own cup, before they pour into others.


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Liquid I.V.

Energize with WATER

$24.99

You know so much of my adult life I had no idea that you could take care of your mental health when you take care of your body! Hydration is key in this, but I don't have time to drink 8oz of water a day. On top of that, one of the kids (or all 3), usually jacks some my water when I finally do get around to drinking it. Liquid I.V. enhances rapid absorption of water and other nutrients into you bloodstream. AKA 1 glass of water = 3 glasses! You will be amazed by how much energy you have when you stay hydrated.

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Feather the Owl Bundle

Take the guesswork out of motherhood

$135

I pride myself on giving my family the best of the best. One of the hardest things of being a mom is having to figure out if that runny nose is allergies or a cold. If that tummy ache is digestion issues, or stress. If those emotions are something underlying that happened in your kid's day or overtiredness. Not to mention the sleepless nights- oils formulated just for supporting kiddo's needs help with all that guess work. Oils take what your body needs and disperse the rest! We got this set for our 2.5 year old for Christmas last year and it's been super empowering for him.

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Decocrated Box

Timeless, Seasonal Decor sent right to your door.

$79.99

I love this box. I love decorating the house! You know what I don't love? Taking all three kids to a thrift shop, or Michaels to buy and pick out decor. Every season, Decocrated sends you a limited edition box that contains timeless, high-quality décor. Subscribe quarterly or annually, and cancel anytime hassle-free. I have been with decorated a full year now. In addition, I have bought their Halloween and Christmas boxes. There isn't a piece that I don't love in the boxes they send. A lot of the pieces I leave out all year long!

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Persona Vitamins

Who knew vitamins could support your mental health?!

I love Persona Nutrition for so many reasons. How many times have you woke up, thought you took your vitamins and/or supplements but couldn't remember? MOM BRAIN is real. Persona Nutrtion personalizes your vitamin and supplement system (after you take a quiz) and has it sent straight through your door. Not only that, they have doctors and nutritionists on staff to work with you for your personalized needs. As a mental health professional, and as a mom, I have seen and experienced supplements do wonders for mental health. Talk to your doc about what supplements you might be lacking to support your mental health, and get your own personalized vitamins sent straight to your door, monthly for 30% off through my link!

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Thieves Household Cleaner

One cleaner that replaces it all!

$30

You know what I love most about this cleaner? I mean, other than the fact that I can safely put my kids to work cleaning. No guesses? ALL OF THE UNDER SINK SPACE that I have since this one cleaner replaces it all! There is something in the Thieves line to replace all your cleaners, but if you're into DIY- you can easily make your own stuff too! I keep it simple, because DIY isn't my thing, and use one dilution ratio to clean EVERYTHING. No more worrying about my 15 month old in the cleaning cabinet. No more worrying about the boys skating across the wet floor barefoot, as I clean. This plant based cleaner is full of wonderful goodies to support our immune systems. When you make the switch, it feels like a fog has been lifted within the home. I love that Thieves made it easy for me to make the switch. Don't let the price tag defer you from the purchase. I use 1.5 capfuls per 16oz bottle, and it ends up being cheaper per oz, than other plant based cleaners on the market!

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PACT Clothing

Sustainable Clothing for the WHOLE Fam

$25

If you haven't noticed YET, I'm all about 'dat toxin free and sustainable living life! PACT clothing is the company for you if you're into that too. They're a fair trade company, so in addition to helping save water, and using nontoxic chemicals in their clothing, Pact empowers and uplifts local communities! Okay, okay, enough about the company- why PACT for MOMS? They're affordable, comfortable, and I can take any piece and make it versatile for dressing up or lounging around the house. Plus, who doesn't like to feel good about supporting the planet?

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Goli Apple Cider Vinegar

Tastes like Candy

$19

What m-o-m has time to be sick? I don't have a Mary Poppins, so not me. ACV has so many benefits (google a credible source)! One of those, is supporting your immune system. This is an easy, affordable and tasty way to do that. Once you go to the site and view the benefits, you'll be on board!

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FÜM

Ground yourself with good FÜMs

$34

Did you know that smell is the only sense of our 5 senses, that has a direct connection to our emotional brain and ability to ground your fight or flight in your prefrontal cortex of the brain? If you weren't aware, I am an addict in recovery from drugs and alcohol. Motherhood brings upon plenty of triggers for me in my sobriety and my mental health. I have talked to other mother's (not in recovery), and they experience triggers in motherhood too! Not so much to reach for drugs, but for wine. FUM is a tool that allows for a natural way for me to ground myself when I'm feeling flighty, or triggered. Whether you have smoked in the past or not, you know that a hit from a cigarette or medicinal marijuana can allow grounding for a person. This, is a non mind altering alternative, that I highly recommend!

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Coco Village

Heirloom Toys, for Cool Families

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Resource for Sobermoms

Momming Aint Easy

While I designed this course for my clients and mothers in recovery, I have shared it many a times with mothers who aren't burdened with the disease of addiction, and they find it very resourceful. Feel free to join for a free 5 day course on making momming just a wee-bit easier!

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As we all have learned over the past few months, working from home, social distancing and homeschooling can be isolating and overwhelming. One of the only things that makes it bearable is knowing that everyone else is dealing with the same issues. Which is why staying connected online is a necessity these days. To help, we’ve found almost 30 NYC parenting Facebook groups you can join to reach out and connect with other parents in your community, whatever, and wherever that is. Read on to find that support, shared knowledge and camaraderie are just a few clicks away in a local online group for parents. (P.S. not all groups have Facebook pages: find more NYC parenting groups here!)

Facebook Groups for Manhattan Parents

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Chelsea Mommas, 2.0K members
Open to moms and families in general, head here for happenings in the nabe, recs and community. 

Harlem Moms, 2.2K members
A private group for uptown moms offering the scoop on events, activities, classes and more.

Hudson River Park Mommas, 2.1K members
A public group for parents in lower Manhattan neighborhoods, HRPM is a place for info, support, helpful programming on all kinds of parenting issues and more.

Madison Square Park Moms, 6K members 
A private group with 6000 members, this active forum is a place to to ask questions, find kid activities and events, share experiences, milestones, and frustrations, and post important info such as safety issues, recalls, great deals, etc.

Manhattan Freecycle, 2.4K members
Give, receive, all for free. 

Manhattan Twins  NYC, 1.3K members
Got double the trouble (or twice the love?). This private group of parents with twins in Manhattan will share wisdom, tips, and photos.

NYC Moms- Upper East Side, 21.4K members
Safe place for moms on the UES to connect with local parents.

NYC Moms-Lower East Side/East Village/Lower Manhattan, 2.5K members
Downtown ladies on the east side connect here for tips, advice, activities and community. 

Parenting in Tribeca, 2.3K members
A public group for families in the downtown area, "because it's all about tribes."

Upper East and Upper West Side, 5.1K members 
One of the newer NYC parent Facebook groups (it was founded in 2018), this group still boasts over 5000 members. Head here to network, buy, sell, swap, get recs and advice and more. 

Upper East Side Moms, 39K members
With almost 40,000 members, UES Mommas is a wealth of knowledge, support, referrals and recommendations. (It's also not without its disagreements between members, which have sometimes led to the group suspending activity temporarily.) Still, that's a lot of mom brain to pick and the members just keep coming to this private Facebook group.

Upper West Side Mammas, 19K members
Similar to the Upper East Side group, but for the UWS.

Washington Heights/Inwood Moms, 2.3K members 
Moms in this northern nabe can find and help each other here. 

Facebook Groups for Brooklyn Parents

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Bay Ridge Parents, 6.9K members
This private moderated group is a place where area parents can talk schools, events, local businesses, kids items for sale, parenting or other family-related advice, plus advice or steam-releasing vents about living and parenting in Bay Ridge. 

Bed Stuy Parents, 2.7K members
Connect online with other parents in Bed-Stuy with this private group.

Brooklyn Baby Hui, 4K members
Parents from the neighborhoods of North Brooklyn (Williamsburg, Greenpoint) share experiences, resources and stories to empower each other in this private group. (It's pronounced "Hoo-ee.")

Brooklyn NY Freecycle, 3.2K members 
Great for getting and giving, this site facilitates passing along items and keeping them out of landfills. Swapping is also allowed, but NO money should change hands.

Brooklyn Bridge Parents, 1.9K members
Join this public group for news and info for parents in Downtown Brooklyn, Brooklyn Heights, Carroll Gardens, Cobble Hill, Boerum Hill and DUMBO.

Ditmas Park Families, 3.2K members
Connect with other families in the neighborhood on just about everything, from class recs to restaurants reviews, day trips, swapping and selling. 

DUMBO Moms, 2.2K members
A private group for moms of all kinds—new, experienced, etc—to share info, recs, frustrations, etc. 

Parents Around the Hill, 1.2 K members
Connect with other families in the Fort Greene, Clinton Hill, Bed-Stuy neighborhoods with this group. 

Park Slope Parents, 8.3K members
Despite its name, this Facebook group for the longtime popular Brooklyn parenting resource is open and visible to all families in Brooklyn. To access all the resources of the group, join Park Slope Parents for a reasonable annual fee. 

Windsor Terrace/Kensington Parents, 1.1K members 
Parents and soon-to-be parents can buy/sell/swap, share tips and recommendations and more in this group. 

Facebook Groups for Queens Parents

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BushRidge Parents, 2.6K Members  
Yes, this is a Brooklyn/Queens group, as the parents in Bushwick in Brooklyn and Ridgewood in Queens are close neighbors and hang together.  Connect, share info and support, and let each other know about local events and issues here.  

Forest Hills Parents, 10.7K members
Join the army of parents in Forest Hills at this Facebook page, for all things parenting in the area. P.S. There's a smaller, Progressive Parents of Forest Hills group here

Mommies of Long Island City, 3.3K members
For recs, advice and community in this booming area, head here. 

MOMally Parenting, 6.3 members
An offshoot of the MOMally Astoria page (which is more focused on reducing parenting anxiety), this group is the place to come with parenting questions and to receive support from area parents. Another option in the area is Astoria, NY Families, which has 4.6K members. 

Sunnyside Moms, 3K members
A private group for parents in the Sunnyside and Woodside communities, this group is open to parents of all kinds, including if your baby "was delivered to you by an alien." (They obviously have a sense of humor!)

Facebook Groups for Bronx Parents

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Bronx Moms, 1.7K members
Head here to join a group of like-minded moms in the Bronx sharing everything from parenting tips, events, free stuff and funny stories. 

Bronx & Westchester Moms Group, 6.2K members
These moms may technically live in different cities, but they are close neighbors. Join this private group for info on area happenings, advice and supports. 

Facebook Groups for Staten Island Parents

Staten Island Children's Museum

Staten Island Moms & Dads, 6K members
One of the largest Staten Island parenting groups with 6,000 members, offering info on what's happening on the island for area families. 

Staten Island Moms, 2.1K members 
Join this public group for resources, support and buying and selling among Staten Island mothers. 

Staten Island Parents of Special Needs Children, 2.5K members 
A group created to help parents navigate the educational system, and offer support, info, and socialization.

Specialty Facebook Groups for NYC Parents

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LGBTQ+ Moms, 2.9K members
This private group for mothers of LGBTQ+ kids is a place to come together online and share in their daily experiences of motherhood.

NYC Dads Group, 4K members
A popular online place for NYC dads sharing events, tips, discussions and more. 

NYC Parents of Kiddies with Special Needs, 2.6K members 
This is a private group for NYC parents of kids who have special needs, ranging from very minor speech/language/OT, to severe. Parents can ask questions, as well as share ideas and resources, and receive support from fellow members.

New Moms in NYC, 17.6K members
Connect early (and often) with this group for new NYC mothers. 

Bilingual Families of NYC, 2.3K members
Connect, get info, schedule playdates and more.

Single Parents By Choice, 200+ members
A private group for those parents who had a child without a partner.

New York Adoptive, Foster and Kinship Parenting Support Group, 1.3k members
A private group for families and parents with adopted or fostered kids, or those taking care of a child through kinship. 

The Parents & Nannies of NYC, 5.2k members
A private group created to connect families with nannies and nannies with families. 

—Mimi O’Connor

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About six years ago when I was pregnant for the first time, I was talking to a co-worker that was also pregnant. This was her second pregnancy and she already had a toddler at home.

We were discussing mom brain. She told me that it just gets worse after the baby is born because you have to remember literally everything that has ever occurred or could possibly occur in the future and when. Things like how many ounces your newborn drank at what time on which side, when is their next pediatrician appointment, if they are old enough to start eating solid foods, if the cleaning supplies you are using will put them at a disadvantage on college applications and if they are pooping regularly.

Oh and you have to remember to go to work five days a week and try to fit in a shower here and there.

I seriously thought she was exaggerating.

WRONG!!

Mom brain gets worse when you have kids. There is just so much to remember that your brain is in a constant state of thinking about random things, like if you put your toddler’s sippy cup back in the fridge before you went to work or if you will find it in a month in the bottom of the toy chest.

Let’s take this photo as an example. This was taken five years ago, as you can tell cause at the top that says, “5 Years Ago.” I went to visit a friend that lives an hour away with my three-month-old.

I forgot the pack and play. AKA I forget to bring A BED FOR MY INFANT BABY TO SLEEP IN. So he slept in a drawer. He actually slept extremely well and I would like to thank Sweden and my smart friend Stefanie, aka Larry, for thinking of this.

Let me say this upfront—I have zero solutions to mom brain. I don’t think there is one.

My mom brain has progressively gotten worse because I added another one to the brood. Now I have to worry about two kids.

Two years ago, before we left for vacation, I spent a ridiculous amount of time making lists and packing for me, a one-year-old and a four-year-old. It was a very detailed list, down to the exact clothes I was bringing for both of them.

The day we were leaving arrived and the car was finally loaded. I did one last house check to make sure we didn’t miss anything and patted myself on the back for being so prepared. We started on our ten-hour journey to South Carolina.

Not surprisingly, we had to pull over after 30 minutes. I went to get our four-year-old out of the car and realized that HE WAS BAREFOOT.

This was the year of the rain boots, and I had left the mother-f’ing rain boots at home. I didn’t pack any other shoes for him because he wouldn’t wear anything but rain boots. He even wore them in his preschool picture that year.

So pretty much, you can plan for weeks in advance and your mom brain will be so focused on one thing that you forget the obvious. Like shoes for your child for a week-long vacation.

There is no moral to this story. I am not offering a solution to mom brain. I am just reiterating that this s**t is real. You probably thought about ten tasks you should complete all while reading this post.

So the next time you need to know the last time you bleached your kid’s toys, remember that you never actually did that in the first place. But it’s okay, those germs build immunity.

Until next time,

Jamie

 

This post originally appeared on Hashtag MomFail.

I am a full time working mom with two little boys, Henry and Simon. I write about real life and real life gets messy. Contributor for Motherly, HuffPost Parents, Scary Mommy, Today Parents, Love What Matters and Her View From Home. 

Mental fitness is just as important as physical fitness, regardless of your age. Especially as we get older, it’s crucial to do brain training in order to stay sharp and retain good cognition. Whether you want to sharpen your mind or boost your performance, it’s always a good idea to work on improving your memory. You can boost your memory by improving the health and vitality of your mind with just a few simple daily steps (and kick that forgetfull mommy-brain to the curb). If you’re able to incorporate the following activities into your daily habits, you’ll be well on your way to improving your memory and mental fitness.

1. Meditate, Meditate, Meditate. You might not instinctively think of meditation for improving memory, but studies have shown that this activity can have serious benefits, including boosted memory. It’s a simple but powerful activity you can practice daily with no special equipment.

It does make sense when you think about it—mindfulness and meditation not only help you to relax and reduce your stress levels but also help you to feel more focused in the present moment. By training yourself to not let your mind wander, you’ll be better able to focus on information in your daily life and remember it more effectively.

It’s very easy to get started with meditation. You just need to have a quiet place for your practice and some patience with yourself. If you’re feeling intimidated, there are lots of great apps and resources that can help you get started!

2. Work Out! (Your Mind, That Is). You have to work out your brain as well as your body. The good news is that brain “workouts” can be a lot of fun. Lots of people enjoy brain teasers and puzzles that can help the brain stay sharp. If you like activities like doing Sudoku or jigsaw puzzles, solving the crossword, or working through brain-teasers, then you’re in luck: these are all great ways to boost your brain. Try incorporating a little more fun into your everyday life for the sake of your memory and your happiness!

3. Healthy Body, Healthy Mind. All of the body’s systems are interconnected, and the health of your body will either harm or enhance the health of your mind. For this reason, it’s important to create a sustainable exercise regimen you can stick to. Your memory will thank you!

Exercise doesn’t have to be a chore. You can choose something fun, like swimming, dancing, or playing a sport, something relaxing like yoga, or just make brisk walks part of your normal routine. What’s important is that you move your body several times a week.

4. Get Social. Talking with other people can really help to boost your mood and brainpower. Social activity is key for improving and maintaining cognition, especially as a person ages. People who are isolated are even more likely to develop dementia.

If you want to improve your memory, then it may be time to make some plans with friends, attend a community social event, or call a family member. It’s important to interact with other people on a daily basis—you’ll be working on your focus and recall skills by participating in various conversations.

 

Sarah Daren has been a consultant for startups in industries including health and wellness, wearable technology, and education. She implements her health knowledge into every aspect of her life, including her position as a yoga instructor and raising her children. Sarah enjoys watching baseball and reading on the beach. 

I remember the fear that consumed me when I was pregnant with my second child. A relatively new mom to a toddler not yet two years old, I was just getting my groove in this motherhood journey.

I had read a lot of the books. I was starting to find a schedule that was manageable. My little boy was starting to really blossom: walking, first words, a growing personality… these were the days I’d been dreaming of for so long.

And amongst all these factors was an all-encompassing love that filled my whole heart. I never knew such love until I became a mama to this little miracle.

So where, exactly, would I make space in my heart for another living breathing human to enter? Because I believed with every cell in me that my heart was full. No vacancy. Not even a broom closet of space for another person.

Not to mention my brain, which was also at max capacity. It took me almost two years to read this little boy’s facial expressions, the color and texture of his poop, his different cries and now his gurgling jabber. I knew how long naps would last, how much food to make and how much soothing to calm a meltdown. I had it down to a science. How on earth could I keep these plates spinning when another child entered the picture. It all seemed so apocalyptic.

You would not believe what happened when my second child, another darling boy, entered my world. Beyond my greatest fears, my heart did not explode. Aside from my certainty the world would end, my love for my first child did not get moved, erased or compressed.

My heart simply grew.

It was the most natural adjustment in the world. One minute my heart was one size, the next minute—its size had doubled. All my worries were for nothing. My body, my heart and my love knew exactly how and when to shift and expand.

The parenting journey is an exciting, momentous, overwhelming time for first time mothers. And the heart is our strongest muscle for good reason… It will double in size with the birth of a sibling.

If only the brain would do the same. But I can assure you that you do learn to keep the plates spinning. You do learn to incorporate new facial expressions, new schedules, new bedtime routines. It’s a much slower process, guaranteed and a few plates will break in the adjustment. But while our heart is a mom’s strongest muscle, our brain is slightly slower to acclimate.

I’m pretty sure that’s where the expression “mom brain” was derived from. And it’s all par for the course on this motherhood journey.

Hi! I’m Celeste. I consider myself a relatively new mom with two boys ages 4 and 2. Other titles I go by include: wife, marketing guru, avid reader (self-help books are my favorite), writer, travel/adventure seeker and fitness nut.

Birth control can be a great tool for preventing an unplanned pregnancy, but when you’ve already got mom brain it can be hard to make sure you take it correctly every day. That’s what makes a new kind of birth control such a game-changer, as this micro-needle birth control patch means all you’d have to do is give yourself a little tap once a month.

According to a new study published in the scientific journal Nature Biomedical Engineering, researchers at Georgia Institute of Technology have developed a patch that uses dissolvable micro-needles to inject levonorgestrel, a common hormonal medication that prevents pregnancy.

photo: Christopher Moore/Georgia Tech via EurekAlert

All users need to do is apply the patch to their skin and the tiny micro-needles break off, implant themselves under the surface of the skin (where they dissolve) and slowly release the drug over time. Despite the tiny needles, the entire process is painless. The price tag is also pain-free—with the researchers reporting that each patch should only cost about one dollar.

Don’t call your OB/GYN just yet, however. So far the drug has only been tested successfully on rats, but the researchers are hopeful that it will have similar results in humans.

Mark Prausnitz, a regents’ professor at Georgia Tech’s School of Chemical and Biomolecular Engineering and author of the research paper, said in a statement to EurekAlert, “Because we are using a well-established contraceptive hormone, we are optimistic that the patch will be an effective contraceptive. We also expect that possible skin irritation at the site of patch application will be minimal, but these expectations need to be verified in clinical trials.”

—Shahrzad Warkentin

 

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I don’t really participate the whole New Year’s resolution hubbub. That being said, I do get that adrenaline rush from the idea of a fresh start and some good ol’ goal setting. Or a fresh new notebook. (I am a sucker for a fantastic notebook.)

Anyhow, I go through cycles throughout the year of gym-going, book-reading, meal-planning and all the things I guess I think I am supposed to improve upon as an adult. Sometimes I do quite well. But I don’t really see it that way—and it sucks.

Take exercise, for example. I set a goal to exercise four times in a week. Then, my week ends and I have exercised three times in said week. Do I celebrate the three times I busted my arse?! Nope. I harp on the one stupid workout that I missed or skipped. Or, I set a goal to start meal planning and to prepare home-cooked-goodness five nights in a week. Even, if by some miracle, I meet that goal, I still beat myself up because I don’t sustain it in the weeks that follow.

“No Martha, those five healthy, delicious, locally-grown, cruelty-free meals you just made your family don’t count. Sorry. Try again.”

Why does my brain do this? Am I alone here? Is there anyone out there?

Actually, I know you’re out there. In the world of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), this negativeve self-talk is called “filtering” or “negative filtering” or “mental filtering.” It is one of the many cognitive distortions people can experience. The general idea is that you filter only the potentially negative sides of things and then magnify them. This can result in everything positive—the success, the accomplishment—being completely overshadowed.

WTF brain?! Why would you do this to me? I just did all those burpees and then ate millet and ramps. Let me mentally celebrate a little, will ya?

As if getting along with ALL THE PEOPLE (kids, husband, parents, in-laws, colleagues, neighbors, etc.) weren’t enough, now I need to get along with my own head? Like, tell myself to stop bullying myself. Blerg. Doesn’t seem fair.

From what I can gather, there are two possible solutions. One is something they call “cognitive restructuring” or “reframing.” The negative filtering is a stress-inducing habit. With restructuring or reframing, you can work to alter or rewire those habits and hopefully, decrease or eliminate that mental stress.

The second solution is to set your goals low. I’m talking exercise-once-a-month, read-one-book-this year, don’t-eat-pizza-three-times-in-a-week low. Then, I can spend all my mental energy focusing on the goals I have achieved. And more importantly, tell everyone I know that I have achieved 100 percent of the goals I set.

The choice is yours—but for me? I am going with the latter. Buh-bye stress! See you in 2020!

…I am only half kidding. My real answer is to set some realistic goals that not only allow for, but promote growth, rather than perfection. What am I actually going to do?

When my bully brain is telling me I am a bum for skipping a work out, I will force myself to say out loud, maybe even to a witness (get ready husband), that I did exercise three times this week. And that I had more fun running and playing with my girls because I was not as winded. That’s what it’s really all about, right? We set these goals so we can enjoy life more. Be happy more. Feel fulfilled more.

So, give it a shot. Silence that Debby Downer voice and, even if it feels really hokey at first, say the positive stuff out loud. For real.

I taught for years and now I train teachers full time. I live in Washington, D.C., with hubs and two littles of my own. Though I try to keep things simple, I’ve got lots going on to make me smile. Occasionally, when the real ridiculousness strikes, I write it down.

If you’re planning to make some changes for 2019, you’re not alone. According to data from Google by iQuanti, there are a handful of common resolutions that most people aim to achieve in the New Year. Besides sharing the most popular New Year’s resolutions, another thing we all have in common? Not following through with them.

Researchers at the University of Scranton found that just eight percent of people will achieve their New Year’s resolutions in 2019. That doesn’t mean it’s impossible—and with a good plan to help you follow through and a little family teamwork you can make positive change a reality.

Here are the top five most popular New Year’s resolutions and our best tips on how to achieve them in 2019!

Get Healthy

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As the number one most popular New Year's resolution, we've got your back to make getting healthy a priority for you and your family this year.

1. Introduce your kids to healthier eating choices with recipes that will get them to eat their veggies.

2. Whip your family dinners into shape with our 30 easy recipes for a healthy New Year.

3. Avoid the dreaded cold and flu season with these dishes packed with vitamin C.

Get Organized

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What better time than now to get your New Year organized?

1. Fight that case of mom brain with this smart organizational system that will make sure you never misplace your keys and phone again.

2. If the clutter just got worse with the addition of new holiday gifts, try these IKEA hacks to get your house organized without spending a ton of money. (These clever LEGO storage hacks will save your bare feet, too.)

3. Get your kitchen into shape for all that healthy cooking you plan to do with these simple kitchen organizational hacks.

Live Life to the Fullest

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It might seem like there's never enough time to do it all, so here are our tips to help maximize your family time in 2019.

1. Help your entire family spend more time together and less time staring at screens with this genius screentime device from TechDen.

2. Fill all that quality time with plenty of outdoor activities, like a trip to the beach that can have some amazing health benefits.

3. Plan an unforgettable family vacation with just one dollar. Not sure where to go? Check out these best new attractions for kids in 2019.

Start a New Hobby

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As much as we'd love "get the kids to school on time" to qualify as a hobby, now's a good time to delve into your interests to rev up your self-care game this year.

1. Start a new hobby you can enjoy right alongside your kids with these incredible LEGO sets made just for grown-ups.

2. Family bike rides are a great hobby you can all enjoy together, start with these simple tips to get your tots cruising on two wheels.

3. Find some time to actually finish an entire book with these mini flipback books you can read anywhere, from the school drop-off line to soccer practice.

Spend Less & Save More

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Kids are expensive—but here's how you can save big in the New Year.

1. That diaper bill can get pricey, but it doesn’t have to be. With the new DYPER subscription service, not only will you spend less on diapers, but you’ll be saving the planet too. Total win-win.

2. Keep your house clean and save plenty of money with budget-friendly Brandless that offers non-toxic cleaning products all four just $3 each.

3. Spending less doesn’t mean giving up on fun. Major events, like kids’ birthday parties, can still be amazing without breaking the bank.

—Shahrzad Warkentin

 

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The kittens were about to run away.

My three-year-old daughter and I had just walked inside from the street and the kittens were trying to make a run for it. They were our twelve-week-old foster kittens and they weren’t supposed to be outside. I reacted, screaming simply: “The kittens!” as I lunged for the door handle and pulled it closed.

The thing is: she hadn’t wanted the kittens to get out, either. She had reacted, too—by holding her chubby arms on either side of her body and spreading her tiny fingers in a dramatic, “Don’t pass!” sort of grand gesture. What I hadn’t seen was that her little finger was just inside the hinge of the door.

That’s when I heard my daughter scream, a wail so real and so deep that my mommy brain knew instantly that this was more than her normal cry. This wasn’t a stubbed toe or a lost doll. Something was definitely wrong.It all happened too quickly.

I’ve always wondered how parents just know when their kids have broken a bone. Don’t small kids always cry when they get hurt? How do you know when it’s something worse than just a bump or bruise? How do you know they’re not just trying to get attention? Now I get it: you just know.

When we got to the urgent care center, I got to tell the story in triplicate.

Receptionist: What happened? I shut the door on her finger.

Nurse: What happened? Mommy shut the door on her finger.

Doctor: What happened? It was all my fault.

The guilt poured out of me like sweat. How could I have hurt my own child? I knew it was an accident, but still—how could I not have noticed her finger was there? Why did I panic? Why didn’t I just let the kittens run through and scoop them up when they were outside?

Ultimately, we did an x-ray and saw the damage: a small break on the tip of her little finger. It was minor and would heal just fine—but she would need to wear a splint for three to four weeks.

And so for nearly a month she wore that sad little splint like a Scarlet Letter. Every time someone said, “Awww, what happened?” I had to explain: “I shut the door on her finger.” And soon she said it, too: “Mommy closed the door on my finger.”

It broke my heart a little every time I heard the words.

But there was something else I learned as I talked to other parents, and it’s that I’m not alone. In fact: I’m Every Mom.

“I broke my daughter’s leg when we went down a slide together,” one mom told me.

“I lost the tip of my finger,” a nurse told me matter-of-factly about a similar door-slamming injury. “And it grew back!”

“My kid broke his arm when he spun off a playground merry-go-round that I was pushing,” a dad admitted.

And it made me realize that we’re all just doing our best when it comes to keeping our fragile little people safe in our care. Accidents happen.

“Every parent will inevitably hurt their child by accident at some point—often more than once,” Los Angeles pediatrician Amin Davari told me, adding that he sees such accidents almost every day of the week in his practice. “It seems like that—and the terrible guilt you feel afterward—are two guarantees of parenting.”

“I try to remind all these guilt-ridden parents that they can’t possibly protect their kids against the thousands of daily dangers that life presents and not ultimately let one slip by—even if they played a part in it,” Davari said. “Bones mend, scars heal, nails grow back—usually—but the care a child receives after an injury is what shows them the depth of a parent’s love.”

So it’s not just me. And it’s NOT JUST YOU, if you have ever accidentally done something that hurt your precious baby.

Naturally, I still feel terrible when I tell this story. And I’m now a little OCD about doors—freaking out perhaps a little too much when my kids start fighting around doorways.

But I don’t feel alone. And I know I did my best by swallowing all that guilt, letting it go and helping my daughter heal.

“I still remember when my own mom accidentally closed the car door on my thumb as a child,” Davari told me. “The tears, guilt and grief on her face in that instant gave me a better sense of her love for me than I had even realized existed up until that point. And that’s the only part of that injury that I still remember.”

Well after the splint comes off, after the pain subsides and the bones heal—here’s hoping that all my daughter remembers is the love.

Featured Photo Courtesy: Melissa Heckscher

Melissa Heckscher is a writer and mother of three living in Los Angeles. She is a former staff writer for the Los Angeles Newspaper Group and the author of several books, including,The Pregnancy Test: 150 Important, Embarrassing, and Slightly Neurotic Questions (Quirk Books, 2011).