It’s no secret being a mom is hard. I think it once was a secret, but it isn’t any longer. Too many of us blabbing about it on the internet. I knew before kids it would be, but It’s a different kind of hard than I expected. Mothering is a paradoxical life event. An ability I was born with. A biological and worldly life calling I never doubted. It’s a weight though. A heavy life-altering load. It changes your identity, It consumes you in every way.

I have two kids. They are my everything. My oldest, Johnny, is five and on the autism spectrum. Something I wasn’t prepared for. I’m consistently trying to learn and grow, but it’s hard. There is no guide book given to the parent of any child, but especially a child with autism. We have a lot of ups and downs.

Everything in our life is off the beaten path. It’s hard to explain, but we have days, and sometimes weeks, where Johnny is more engaged and aware. He is still autistic and himself but it’s like he is with us more. He has more gains and wins. I’m not going to lie, it’s easier. It’s the time of hope and payoffs to all the hard work.

The other times that my husband and I usually compare with babies “Wonder Weeks”, he’s grumpier, temperamental, and sensitive. These weeks bad behaviors like spitting, screaming, meltdowns, rough nights, etc. become the norm. During these times I feel down, lost, and discouraged. The older he gets, the back and forth between these times get harder.

I should expect the roller coaster, but I always hope they will level out, and hopefully with us on top. On the hard days, I try to stay positive but doubt and worry swarm my mind. This week, it’s very hard. It’s hard not to internalize your child yelling at you, hurting you, and hurting himself. The worst is how I don’t know how to make it better for him. I don’t know why or what is causing it.

When you have a child you take on the responsibility for their life. It’s your job to raise, protect, and teach them. I’m trying my hardest to do those things but it wears on me. Right now it feels like I’m talking at the wall. Like teaching is off the table. It’s pure protection, planning, and defense. I need breaks from my child sometimes. Not in the cute hiding in the bathroom eating a candy bar way, but in the crying into my pillow wishing I had more endurance and patience way. A way that hurts my soul that makes me feel wrong.

I don’t know what I thought motherhood would be. I’ve taken on an enormous task I knew wouldn’t be easy, but I didn’t quite understand the effects. I don’t feel like my child needs to change or fit, but more like I’m the one that doesn’t fit. I should be strong and endure. I should be able to do what needs to be done. I should be able to stay calm in the storm. I do those things 90% of the time, but it takes a toll. Some days it breaks me a little bit. It’s my darkness, but luckily I know it will go. I’ll go for a walk and I will recenter myself and get back to it because I’m the mom and I love my kid.

This post originally appeared on Johnny's Spirit.

Jaime Ramos, is a mom from Colorado. She's married to Isaac and has two kids, Amelie and Jesse. Jesse, her Johnny, is on the Autism Spectrum. She went to school to be a filmmaker, but now spends her days mainly as a stay at home mom.

 

Photo: Jaime Ramos Via johnnysspiri

I use the word “obsessed” a lot, especially when it comes to my five-year-old autistic son, Johnny. He really gets into certain toys, songs, and shows. It annoys my husband that I use the word so much. “He’s not obsessed, he just likes it” and to his credit, the interest comes and goes often even though he does fixate for a short time. 

The one thing—not even my husband can den—is that Johnny is obsessed with my stomach. The kid loves it. It can drive me insane, but something about it fascinates and comforts him. Sometimes it is in a silly, squishing my flab, way; other times it is him resting his usually restless head on it, or hiding his face in it when he is anxious or nervous in public.

I’m sure it stems from the hours of skin to skin as a baby, the comfort of laying on mommy as a toddler, and all the encouragement to touch and love on it when it held his little sister. 

The older he gets the more we work on the appropriateness of it. He’s still little, but attempting to lift up my shirt at home or grab my tummy in public isn’t going to work. He has to learn to respect my space and body. The moment I lie down when he’s around he goes straight for it. You will hear “no belly” often, in our home.

The thing is, sometimes I look at my belly in the mirror after the shower and think I feel ashamed of it. My 30’s belly is much different than the almost flat stomach from my 20’s. My workouts come and go, as do my healthy eating habits. I try but I’m also a tired and exhausted mom who has been through many ups and downs. 

So, I won’t lie, he’s not catching rock hard abs there, It’s surely a comfortable and soft pillow. 

The neat thing is he doesn’t see it as fat, or unhealthy, or shame, he simply sees it as mom, comfort, and safety.

No judgment, just love. 

My son loves a part of me that I find hard to, and that changes the way I see it. Don’t worry I’m not using it as an excuse to stay unhealthy or out of shape, but it is a reminder of my son’s beautiful, unconditional acceptance and love.

So when I stand in the mirror looking at that belly, I can say it’s the way it is because I carried two beautiful children in it and because I’m a special needs mom who has had some really hard days. It’s not perfect because there is not time for perfection in my life right now, maybe there never will be. But I am doing my best and that’s okay. 

I’m loved and accepted no matter what, by my son.

Johnny is different. The amazing thing about him is that he does not judge. He doesn’t look for the flaws in others or make fun of others, instead, he seeks. Seeks what makes him happy, and what he loves. 

There is something undeniably beautiful in that and I’m grateful for that unconditional love and for someone who truly loves my flaws.

This post originally appeared on Johnnysspirit.com.

Jaime Ramos, is a mom from Colorado. She's married to Isaac and has two kids, Amelie and Jesse. Jesse, her Johnny, is on the Autism Spectrum. She went to school to be a filmmaker, but now spends her days mainly as a stay at home mom.

 

Why is an infant play mat or baby gym such a must-have for little ones? Floor exercise is an essential part of every stage of baby’s development, from your newborn’s first tummy time to crawling and beyond. Whether you’re looking for a space-saving option, one that’s full of all the bells, whistles, mirrors and rattles, or something to fit in with your home décor, you’ll find it in these baby play mats below.

Infantino 5-in-1 Epic Developmental Learning Gym

This open-ended play gym keeps kids occupied with lots of ways to play and learn. There's an electronic light-up piano, a tropical-themed play mat theme, wild animal flashcards, baby toys, a mirror, rattle and much more. Give your baby four different tummy time experiences and three new ways to play once they can sit up. Use the included prop-up booster pillow for more comfortable tummy time or to keep a new sitter upright.

Available at infantino.com, $69.99.

Baby Bonding Playmat from aden + anais

aden anais

This plush playmat boasts more than 30 features to support a child's motor skills and sensory and cognitive development. Made from hand-embroidered cotton muslin, this generously sized mat (45 x 45 inches) is big enough for adults to share and has removable plush toys and a sun mirror baby can play with. Babies will also be excited to discover that the leaves crinkle and some items rattle. It's machine-washable and reversible, with a subtle gray print on the reverse side.

Available at adenandanais.com, $99.99.

Tinkle Crinkle & Friends Activity Gym by Baby GUND

GUND

Bright colors, eye-catching patterns and a host of cute and cuddly characters encourage babies to learn, play and interact. The fluffy cloud is a helpful tummy-time friend, and the sun mirror is baby-safe. Press the caterpiller to hear fun sounds, and the bunny, bird and hedgehog offer opportunities to grasp and rattle. The activity gym can be set up in just a few minutes.

Available at gund.com, $89.

 

Regalo My Play Mat

Regalo

This soft, foldable mat means play time and tummy time can easily be moved to any room, outside or to a park or Grandma's house. It's made from soft foam and wipeable with a wet cloth, and there's an included carry bag with a strap for easy portability. One side of this reversible mat features the alphabet and cute cartoon characters, while the other side is a tasteful gray chevron pattern.

Available at regalo-baby.com, $49.99.

Infantino Twist and Fold Activity Gym

The versatile Twist and Fold Activity Gym from Infantino will catch any baby’s eye with its bold colors and design. Your little one will love the hanging toys and catching a glimpse of their face in the peek-a-boo mirror. It also comes with a pillow to prop baby up during tummy time. The mat itself is super easy to clean with the wipe of a cloth. The exclusive twist and fold feature makes for easy transport and for quick storage under the crib or tucked away in a corner of the closet.

Available at amazon.com, $51.81.

Fisher-Price Deluxe Kick & Play Piano Gym

For your Mozart-in-training, the Deluxe Kick & Play Piano Gym from Fisher-Price is the perfect choice. Laying down, younger babies learn cause and effect as they kick and the piano plays and play with overhead toys that hang low so little arms can reach them. During tummy time, babies will have lots to explore on the mat. And older babies can sit at the piano and bang away at the keys to activate the music.

Available at fisher-price.mattel.com, $49.99.

Toki Mats

Get down on the mat and play with baby on these super comfy Toki Mats. Once baby is mobile, their falls are cushioned by the breathable, eco-friendly foam made from rubber-tree sap. The washable covers come in a selection of modern designs that are interchangeable. The mat folds in half for storage, but it’s fashionable enough you may just want to leave it out.

Available at tokimats.com, from $165.

Lovevery Play Gym

Designed by a team of experts (including a neuroscience professor, Montessori teacher and occupational therapist), the Lovevery Play Gym has something for each stage of babyhood. The hanging toys are safe for chewing, batting, and grasping. There are hidden pockets, different textures, sounds, and a selection of visually stimulating cards for older babies to explore. It even has a cover that converts it into a fort! Plus, parents get a play guide for a full year’s worth of ideas to keep baby engaged.

Available at loveverybaby.com, $140.

Bright Starts 5-in-1 Play Activity Gym

The Bright Starts 5-in-1 Play Activity Gym comes with lots of fun features. The toy bar has hanging toys and teethers, the electronic elephant has flashing lights and plays more than 20 minutes of music, and there is a tummy-time pillow. Best of all, the sides of this gym fold up to convert it into a ball pit for toddlers. There are 35 balls included in a handy storage bag.

Available at amazon.com, $79.99.

Skip Hop Reversible Playmat

Want a mat you don’t have to hide when entertaining grown-ups? Look no further than the DOUBLEPLAY Reversible Playmat from Skip Hop. One side of the cushioned mat features either a village or animal theme (with Skip Hop's menagerie of cute creatures), while the other has one of two sophisticated, contemporary looks. In case you do want to store it or bring it with you, simply roll it up.

Available at skiphop.com, $110.

 

Katie L. Carroll

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We all have met that certain someone in life who never seems to lose their sh*t. Recognize them? Everything is always fine, they never encounter a challenge, and they always remark about how extraordinarily wonderful everything is. They are quite possibly the worst humans on the planet.

The worst is when these people are also mothers. You know who I am talking about. They have perfect children who never cry and even if they do it doesn’t bother them in the least. They are never fazed by the stressors of mothering and they look at you like you are an alien when you tell them that you want to find new living arrangements for your youngest child. I have come to the conclusion that these individuals fall into one of three categories:

1. They are completely delusional
2. They are really good liars or
3. They are always drunk

I remember the days. And if you are a reasonable, intelligent person you will agree that you know what I’m talking about. The glitter of life had totally worn off. Tired doesn’t begin to describe it.

The days when both kids are sick and you need to give an eighteen-month-old baby a breathing treatment. That task is about as easy as licking your own armpit and truly just about as beneficial. The demands of mothering wear on you. There were days when I was so tired and lacking excitement about my own life.

I know you know. It’s usually right about the time when you have reached your limit of how many surfaces within your home can tolerate a smearing of tomato sauce. Or when the littlest decides she doesn’t need a nap, but even the mail carrier can see she needs one. In the time it takes to heat up dinner, the other one manages to effectively stop the dishwasher cycle, inappropriately text family members, and set the television language to Spanish.

There is no joy. On days like this there is just no joy.

Even now, as my kids have grown older, I can easily admit that not every day is joy-filled. As soon as I think I’m about to have my house tidied up, I hear the crash and burn. Sometimes I am not interested in hearing about suspension bridges. For crap’s sake, it would be nice to, for once, not step on a Lego while walking to the kitchen.

I hold tight to the fact that I know I’m not the only one. I am not alone in the challenge of mothering. I continue to remind myself that this is not forever— feeling this way will pass. It always does. It may take a little work but if I look hard enough I can always find the joy.

The truth is, the joy is never really gone. It just gets hidden under all of the crap we encounter during the day. It’s tucked away somewhere between a unicorn pillow pet and a left-over Buddy Fruit. Some days we just have to take a minute and look for it.

I found it.

Granted, I had to look rather hard for it, but I did find it. I knew it wasn’t gone forever I just had to open myself up to it. I found it when my daughter looked at me and earnestly asked 

“What are instant cookies?” I hugged her and began to dance. She was confused. “It means we bake! It means you don’t know what slice and bake cookies are because you and I bake! We really bake!”

I found it when I saw my son sitting in a chair that he wasn’t supposed to be in, looking ever so quite proud. I’m sure he’s thinking, ‘Lady, I single-handedly made irreversible changes to your television. I can handle the chair. Relax.”  That may not have been what he was actually thinking but what he said to me was, “Mamma.”

Joy.

There it is! Welcome back. I’ve missed you.

Melanie Forstall is a full-time mother, full-time wife, full-time teacher, and never-enough-time blogger at Melanie Forstall: Stories of Life, Love, and Mothering. She holds a doctorate in education and yet those many years of schooling have proved to be utterly useless when it comes to actual mothering.

February is a busy month for the Tooth Fairy. Not only is she keeping up with all those lost teeth, but she’s celebrating Children’s Dental Health Month and Feb. 28––National Tooth Fairy Day!

In honor of this special time of month, Hold the Magic wants to give parents a way to provide a more meaningful experience beyond finding a few coins under the pillow. The website has everything you need to bring your family’s tooth fairy to life!

Hold The Magic wants to make losing teeth and an encounter with the tooth fairy more than just about money, and more about keeping childhood wonder alive with tiny gifts and stories that deliver lots of memories and a little bit of magic.

Each set is imported directly from Fairyland with gifts for three Tooth Fairy visits in each set. You’ll find a gold bag that holds a miniature treasure, a tiny Tooth Fairy letter in a sparkly envelope with a positive life lesson and of course, Fairy Dust to sprinkle lightly.

You can shop the entire selection of gifts at holdthemagic.com for $29 each. Overnight shipping is always an option, because you never know when your little might lose a tooth!

––Karly Wood

All photos: Courtesy of Hold the Magic

 

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We all want that Pinterest-worthy house but let’s face it: once your kiddos outgrow their cribs their rooms become a little more in need of photoshop than photos. But you can give your kid’s bedroom a refresh without adding shiplap or buffing the floors: just slap on a fresh coat of paint (or not) and snag a few of these affordable, durable items from Amazon! We especially love the AmazonBasics kids bedding (think bright, simple colors and fun patterns like lions, dinos, space, unicorns and more). Read on for our top picks for a cozy, affordable refresh.

The Best Kids Bedding & Sheets

1. Snuggly Micro Fiber Sheets in Claw

Get everything you need for a woodsy vibe with the Bear Buddies collection. Start with a set of micro-fiber sheets in "claw"

Shop them here. From $17.99.

2. A Cozy Napping Set

Tuck them into a cozy Sherpa blanket, ($21.99) or add a nap set with Bear Pillow and fleece blanket set,

Shop it here, $26.08

 

3. Gender-Neutral Spacey Sheets

Honestly, we want these Navy Galaxy sheets for ourselves.

Get them here. From $17.99, available in Twin, Full or Queen. 

4. Complete Bed-in-a-Bag in Llama

This set comes with one top sheet, one fitted sheet, a single pillowcase, a sham and a comforter. Comes in twin or full/queen.

Get it here, from $38

5. A Luxe Sherpa Blanket for Dinosaur Lovers

This cozy blanket comes in sizes from throw to king and dinosaur pattern is just one of many including bears, lions, kittens and solid colors.

Get it here. Starting at $22.99.

 

6. Cheerful Rainbow Pillow Case Set

Easy wash, standard pillowcases in a pattern sure to make them smile.

Get yours here. $10.19/set of two. 

7. Colorful, Concealing Bed Skirts

Get yourself some sturdy under-the-bed storage bins for all those seasonal clothes or LEGO bricks and then put a skirt around the bottom to hide the stash. You can choose from pleated or ruffled, sizes from twin to king and an array of colors. Our top choices this year are the pleated bed skirt in Oh So Orange and the Mountain Mint Green ruffled skirt. From $11.79 up. 

Adorable Furniture & Curtains

8. Sweet Stackable Horse Chairs

For just shy of $50, you get two adorable, durable plastic chairs that can transform any situation into pretend play or just help the kids wiggle while they work. Available in either black or white, they give off a decidedly "Queen's Gambit" vibe. $47.76

9. Stacking Elephant Chairs

We haven't seen chairs this cute since...well those horse chairs above. These elephant chairs are wipeable, stackable and as sweet as can be. Plus a two-pack is under $30!

Shop them here. $28

10. Kid-Sized Room Darkening Curtains

PSA: Room-darkening curtains do not need to be dark! We love these bright, unicorn-themed curtains that just might encourage early risers to sleep a little bit longer. 

Get yours here. Set of two for $25.64

Easy & Attractive Storage Solutions

11. A U-Fill Bean Bag Perfect for Stuffies

Get some of those stuffed animals off the floor and make a cozy place to read, too. This simple storage bean-bag cover is affordable, durable and comes in several cute patterns. 

Shop it here. $33

12. A Handy Metal Cart for School Supplies

When the remote-day is done, get all that school clutter off the kitchen table/bed/floor and wheel it back into a corner, safe and sound. It also comes in red, black, and white. 

Get it here. From $32

13. Kid's Closet Organizer

Encourage your kiddos to put their clothes away and get dressed independently by giving them easy access to the items they need the most with this handy closet organizer. The bins can be filled with socks, undies, or pajamas and the hanging items easily reached. 

Get it here. $26

14. Slow Movement Storage Trunk

This soft-sided, sloth canvas storage chest will make the kiddos' room neat and sweet in a hurry. Just don't expect anyone to go too fast. 

Shop it here. $37.99

—Amber Guetebier

All images courtesy Amazon 

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Just in time for the New Year, Pottery Barn Kids is releasing its first-ever collaboration with Dr. Seuss’ The Lorax. The beloved story of The Lorax is brought to life in colorful and amusing patterns inspired by the characters and famous Truffula trees nestled in the beautiful valley of Seussville.

The new collection includes personalized bedding, pillows and wall art.

Organic Dr. Seuss's The Lorax Sheet Set & Pillowcases

Organic Dr. Seuss's The Lorax Sheet Set & Pillowcases
Pottery Barn Kids

This charming sheet set and pillowcases are GOTS certified organic cotton and will have kids ready for bedtime in no time.

Available in twin, full or queen, Organic Dr. Seuss's The Lorax Sheet Set & Pillowcases retail from $79 to $129.

Dr. Seuss's The Lorax Pillow

Dr. Seuss's The Lorax Pillow
Pottery Barn Kids

The Lorax pillow is made from OEKO-TEX certified cotton. Its appliqué design brings the beloved Dr. Seuss character to life.

Dr. Seuss's The Lorax Pillow retails for $39.50.

 

Happy Patchwork Quilt & Shams

Happy Patchwork Quilt & Shams
Pottery Barn Kids

The traditional style will last for years to come and will keep them comfy and cozy all night long.

Happy Patchwork items retail for $36.50 to $209.

Dr. Seuss's The Lorax Art

Pottery Barn Kids

Dr. Seuss’s famous words are printed on stretched cotton canvas that’s ready to hang with the included hardware.

Dr. Seuss's The Lorax Art retails for $79.

 

 

—Jennifer Swartvagher

All photos courtesy of Pottery Barn Kids 

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There are so many pressing questions for parents to answer when it comes to the tooth fairy and tradition. How much does she leave? What does the tooth fairy do with the teeth? Does she have a day job? We’ll leave the answers up to you, but if you’re looking for ways to add magic to this memorable moment in your kid’s life, we’ve got you covered. Keep reading to find your inspiration.

Shop in Fairyland

Hold the Magic

The Tooth Fairy is always looking for ways to make things more magical. Hold The Magic is all about inspiring magic and stories (no money required), with adorable tiny gifts that are Tooth Fairy approved. Each gift includes supplies for three Tooth Fairy visits and a gold bag that holds a miniature treasure, a tiny Tooth Fairy letter in a sparkly envelope and Fairy Dust.

Cost: $29.95 per kit

Online: holdthemagic.com

Leave a special token

StudioTwelve28Shop on Etsy

A keepsake leave behind makes your sidekick’s encounter with the tooth fairy even more magical. In addition to the traditional cash stash she leaves, drop the tooth fairy’s own pressed penny coin as a extra treat. Parents can choose from two different finishes, and a hole punch location if you want to turn this keepsake into a wearable memory. Cost: $4.00 Find it on Etsy

Open the door to imagination

HelloLittleCloud's Etsy shop

Fairy doors are all the rage, so why not install one for the Tooth Fairy to use? Hello Little Cloud’s fairy door has everything you need to create a magical experience for your sidekick. The included ladder, wand, fairy dust and key make it easy for your kiddo to prep for the tooth fairy’s arrival. And the poster strips that won’t damage your walls are just for you.

Cost: $30

Find it on Etsy

Leave behind cute clues

15Monkeys' Etsy shop

Your winter elf leaves messes. And your family’s leprechaun drops gold coins in the trap. So it only figures the tooth fairy would leave behind some trace too. We love these shimmery little footprints you can stick just about anywhere, if you’re looking to up your tooth fairy game. They come 10 to a pack.

Cost: $3.50

Find it on Etsy

Make money magic

tenkidsandadog blog

Peter Pan fans know it takes a pinch of fairy dust to fly. Leave some behind on a dollar bill to really make your kid’s eyes light up. Find out how to turn make believe into reality at tenkidsandadog. We guarantee your kiddo won’t easily part with this special keepsake.

Hang it up

Pinsandseams Etsy shop

Help your Little know where the tooth fairy can find him with this hand-sewn door hanger designed by Pins and Seams. Each one has a little pouch, which means mom or dad doesn’t have to sneak in to find a pillow in the dark. And it doubles as an extra incentive for your kiddo to get up and at ‘em in the morning.

 Cost: $12.50

Find it on Etsy

 

Make a wish

Coastalloveuk's Etsy shop

If your kids are anything like ours, they’re firm believers in the give/get exchange rate. So if they leave a tooth, they’ll expect something in return. When they wake up to find this fairy wand bracelet with a simple poem composed by the tooth fairy, they’ll know they’ve gotten the big end of the stick. Parents can go with the gold wand pictured, or customize their kid’s card by adding a name and charm of their choice.

Cost: $2.86

Find it on Etsy

Fold in special touches

Bypass the long raging debate about just how much parents should leave under the pillow, and focus on the presentation instead. A carefully crafted origami design tucked under a pillow is always more magical than a dollar bill stuffed into a pillow, no matter what the occasion. Try your hand at folding a heart, butterfly or how about a crane to leave in exchange for one clean, pearly white tooth.

Make her mark

Talktothesun's Etsy shop

Imagine waking up after losing your first tooth to find your tooth gone, a little something special left under your pillow and—look!—a stamp that magically appeared on your hand. If she wasn’t convinced before, she will be when she wakes up to find the tooth fairy’s signature stamp that appeared magically overnight. Thanks goodness for sound sleepers!

Cost: $12

Find it on Etsy

Make it official

TheGlassLocket's Etsy shop

If proof is what your little skeptic is looking for, make like a cashier and leave a receipt for him to find. Parents fill in the important details on this official looking document that includes a sweet reminder to brush, before silently slipping one under the pillow. Our favorite part? They can help you fill in those blank baby book dates when you finally get around to it.

Cost: $2.99 for a set of 10

Find it on Etsy

A noteworthy option

FairyTwigs' Etsy shop

When your kid wakes up and finds a special pint sized note the tooth fairy left behind just for him, he’ll flip. And with this pack of 20 personalized letters it’s easy for you to make his day, even if you’re short on time. Need letters for more than one kiddo? No problem, there’s more than one series to choose from at this shop, which means they’ll be none the wiser.

Cost: $6

Find it on Etsy

Go big from the start

FromLucyGifts' Etsy shop

When that first tooth starts to wiggle, add this adorable kit to your Etsy cart. It includes tooth-themed trinkets and baubles for your kid to play with, as well as a jar of fairy dust, the tooth fairy rules and a simple note from the night visitor herself. It all comes in a drawstring bag so you can keep everything together. And parents can personalize the kit.

Cost: $10.78

Find it on Etsy

Give it glitz

Mooreminutes.com

Follow the lead of mom-blogger, Lisa Moore of Moore Minutes who suggests leaving gold coins, and some fairy dust to match, under your kiddo’s pillow. Call your bank ahead of time to find the golden Sacajawea or Presidential dollar coins and then stock up. Sure, they’re legal tender, but your gap-grinned kiddo may prefer to hold on to these special fairy coins.

 

—Allison Sutcliffe

 

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Clarissa Sidhom

I help mamas find style, sanity, and sisterhood! As a mom to two boys, my parenting and lifestyle blog shares fashion, home, and kids ideas to make life easier and more beautiful.

After a very traumatic birth experience with my first son, I was determined to do whatever I could to make my second son’s birth positive and joy-filled. Here are 5 items I brought to my second birth that completely transformed labor and delivery!


1

Extra Long Phone Charger

When you desperately need to play Candy Crush & ignore your pain

$17.59

There is nothing worse than being in pain and having no distractions from it. Many hospital beds don't have easy access to electrical plugs, which means charging your phone across the room. This 6 foot phone charger is a game changer!

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2

Structured Supportive Pillow

Hospital beds are the worst. Make them better.

$69.99

After laying in bed for 24 hours during my first labor, I cried not from contractions, but from the discomfort of the hospital bed! This pillow gives you a lot of support to change positions. This will also be very helpful during breastfeeding when you're sitting up in bed in the middle of the night!

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3

Peppermint Essential Oil

Fight pain and nausea naturally

$12.95

During the hardest parts of labor (and even during morning sickness), I put peppermint oil on cotton balls and slowly breathed it in. Peppermint helps with nausea, but it's also a strong enough smell to distract you from contraction pain. The brand is important- make sure it's a legitimate company that doesn't put synthetic fillers into their bottles.

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4

Portable Bluetooth Speaker

Connect your favorite songs to your favorite memories

$69.99

We created a special labor playlist so we would always connect certain songs with our son's birth. This portable speaker helps not only with labor music, but with party music to help pass the time!

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5

Stylish Robe for Unexpected Visitors

For your braless, milk-stained moments

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Postpartum is messy for a while. Feel put-together, unexposed, and ready for any unexpected visitors with a cute robe! This link has lots of cute patterns and colors for any style.

Tis the season for Christmas trees, poinsettias, mistletoe and scented candles.  But if your nose looks like Rudolph’s, it’s a little hard to feel jolly. Although allergies typically peak in the spring and fall, the holidays may surprise sensitive sufferers with a gift of unexpected triggers. Here are five holiday allergens and allergy triggers, along with some advice to help you stay merry and healthy during the holiday season—not sneezing, coughing or scratching.

Holiday Allergy Trigger #1: Christmas Trees

Mold is the biggest problem with live Christmas trees. Often, they are cut in advance and kept in humid environments, promoting mold spore growth. Within just two weeks of bringing a tree into your home, indoor mold counts can increase significantly, according to one study.

The sap contains terpene and other substances that can irritate skin and mucous membranes; and pollen stuck to the tree may be released inside and lead to reactions, so you make think an artificial version is better, BUT they could harbor dust and mold from their time in storage, also triggering allergies.

Precautions: Slip on gloves and wear long sleeves when handling your fresh tree to avoid the sap coming into contact with your skin. Before schlepping your tree inside, give it a good shake (or a blast with a leaf blower) and spray it down with a garden hose (especially the trunk) to help remove some of the pollen and mold. Then sit the stump in a bucket of water and let the tree dry for few days on a covered porch or in a garage. For an artifical tree, give it a good wipe-down before decorating with lights and ornaments.  Follow directions carefully when spraying artificial snow or flocking. Inhaling these sprays can irritate your lungs and trigger asthma symptom s (better to avoid altogether in my opinion).

Holiday Allergy Trigger #2: Festive Foods

The most common food allergens are milk, eggs, soy, fish, shellfish, peanuts, tree nuts, and wheat. Of those, peanuts and tree nuts will most often make it into holiday dishes without people knowing, and have the potential to cause severe reactions.

Precautions: : It’s a good idea to let your holiday host know about your food allergies; it’s important to ask about the ingredients in each dish; and it’s very nice to volunteer to bring something that’s safe for you, and shareable with others. But what’s crucial is to be prepared with an epinephrine auto-injector (Epi Pen), an emergency dose of antihistamine, and an inhaler if you have asthm. Learn which foods and recipes are unexpected sources of allergens at FoodAllergy.org and AAAAI.org.

Holiday Allergy Trigger #3: Cocktails 

You raise a glass to your loved ones, your boss and colleagues, friends and neighbors, and even the strangers sitting next to you at a bar. There’s lots of celebrating at this time of year, but be mindful of what you’re using to toast. Some people may experience mild wheezing or other symptoms from the sulfites in wine, for example, and certain alcoholic beverages contain major food allergens.

Precautions: There aren’t good tests for sulfite sensitivity, but your reaction to dried fruit—high in this sulfur-based preservative—could be an indicator. Pay attention if you have asthma, as sulfites can trigger symptoms. Maraschino cherries contain small amounts of sulfites, as well. Stick with organic wine for a sulfite-free sip. Other triggers to be aware of: Tree nuts may be found specialty beers, particularly seasonal ales; milk is in Irish crème and white chocolate liqueurs; and egg whites may be used to add froth to specialty drinks.

Holiday Allergy Trigger #4: Travel

Staying in a hotel for the holidays may be wonderful, but not if you have allergies.  Pillows and bedding can harbor a lot of dust mites.  You may have difficulties with some of the detergents they use as well.  If you will be staying with family, they’re pets may trigger your symptoms.

Precautions: Consider bringing her own pillow, or at least a dust mite cover for the pillow. Also make sure you get a nonsmoking room.  If you’re allergic to your family’s pet, taking medicines with you.  If possible, avoid petting the animal, and wash hands after direct contact.

Holiday Allergy Trigger #5: Stress

Be aware that stress can lead to asthma attacks. Chemicals released by the body during stressful times can cause the muscles around your airways to tighten, making it difficult to breathe.

Holiday Allergy Trigger, Bonus Round! Poinsettias

This festive plant is a member of the rubber tree family and contains compounds similar to those found in latex, so stay away if you have a latex allergy. Certain groups of people—such as healthcare workers and people with spina bifida who have had numerous surgeries—are more likely to be allergic to latex.  One study Showed that 40% of latex-allergic individuals were also allergic to poinsettias.

The key is to be prepared and plan ahead. Consult with your doctor in advance.

Dr. Patel is an allergist in Pasadena California. She is board-certified in Allergy-Clinical Immunology and Pediatrics. She is the co-author of The Mommy MD guides to Twins Triplets and More! She understands that parenting is the hardest and most fulfilling job you can have. You can find her @TMommyMD.