Although cell phones and computers have been around for decades, digital media consumption is very different among Generation Z, compared with Generation X and even Millennials. Nowadays, children are surrounded by digital devices since birth and their devices are considered essentials of daily life, not just sources of occasional entertainment or educational tools.

The average age at which a child starts using their first device—2 years old—trends younger with every research study. However, exposure to the internet begins far earlier, at around three years old. As teenagers, that jumps to nine hours a day. Statistics like these concern parents about exactly what kids are experiencing on the internet.

Below are five ways to keep up with kid’s online lives and protect their online activity.

1. Educate Yourself: To ensure your children are safe online, educate yourself about existing dangers. Stay up to speed with the latest trending apps, games, social media, and websites popular with kids and teens. Be particularly aware of unsafe apps such as anonymous apps, which can be used for cyberbullying or by internet predators.

2. Open a Discussion: As children are spending the majority of their time on the internet, it is important now more than ever that you have the necessary discussion about online safety and it is never too late to start. Provide your child with information rather than a list of don’ts. Talk about the risks involved with social media. Try not to be confrontational and ask open-ended questions. Let your child know that they can come to you if they come across disturbing content and if they are being bullied.

3. Set Rules: Collaborate as a family to clarify rules and expectations around internet activity and home devices. Consider things like time limits, priority family commitments, and social engagement at home with each other. Coming up with rules as a family helps everyone be on the same page, and gives children expectations before they start using devices, so there aren’t any surprises. Rules and expectations can be compiled into a “tech contract” so they are easily accessible for all members of the family.

4. Use Parent Controls: Use a powerful parental control solution like Hub by Securly to manage and monitor their online habits. After setting a clear agreement and expectations with your children, explain to them that these are your devices, and you will review them because as parents, you only wish to keep your children healthy and safe. Hub by Securly allows you to limit your child’s internet access by turning off the internet with a tap. With the Hub, you can also put blocks and monitoring on your kids’ devices. Most kids aren’t searching for bad content. They just stumble on it but they can’t unsee what they’ve seen.

5. Be a Role Model: Oftentimes, children copy what their parents do, so it’s best to try to set a positive example for them. Not only does it help manage your own screen time, but it also sets a healthy device standard in the household. It is a good idea to enforce “screen-free time” into your daily routine, such as at dinner and during bedtime.

Linsly Donnelly, SVP of Consumer and Parent Operations at Securly, an online solution for managing children's devices and online activity to ensure their safety. 

We generally want our kiddos to say “yes” to the wonders of life, from trying out experiences as a family, a range of foods at the dinner table and different ways of thinking in the classroom. They now have a new role model with an eager attitude in Archibald Strutter, the literary-protagonist-turned-animated-star of the new Netflix series, Dreamworks Archibald’s Next Big Thing. Hitting the small screen on September 6, families now have a new show to enjoy together.

Archibald, so you know, is one confident chicken, envisioned by Tony Hale, star in his own right of Veep and Arrested Development and co-author with Tony Biaggne and Victor Huckabee of the original children’s book. Now Hale, as the voice of Archibald, joins famous guest voices like Julia Louis-Dreyfus and RuPaul to bring Archibald’s world—which is all about celebrating the journey, not just the destination—to life. Read on for valuable lessons little viewers can take away from Archibald’s adventures.

 

1. Say, “Yes!”
Whether he’s buzzing about with trusty sidekick Bea in his hometown of Crackridge, or flapping around his egg-shaped home with siblings Sage, Finly and Loy, Archibald doesn’t let a comfort zone stop him. Instead, he’s game to say “yes” to whatever opportunity comes his way, be it having a go at breakdancing, exploring a mysterious cave, trying a funny-looking fruit or getting to know a giant whale. He’s never afraid to give it a try.

2. Be a Cheerleader
Archibald also encourages others to tag along. After all, you don’t have to be the best or the brightest at something in order to embrace the experience. Let’s be clear: this encouragement isn’t about peer pressure. Archibald respects others while seeing the benefits of celebrating life’s little joys and stretching one’s wings in the process.

3. Show Your True Self
Youngsters are bound to relate to one of the different characters on the show, be it outdoorsy Sage, musical Finly, scientist Loy or Archibald himself, who doesn’t let anyone or anything pigeon-hole him. He is a chicken, after all, and he’s living life to its fullest. Whenever we express our truest selves, it’s all the easier to do so.

4. Look for the Best
While making the most of the moment leads to exciting adventures, some sticky situations are bound to ensue—like, er, taking the door to a rocket ship rather than a restroom. The lesson here is that Archibald doesn’t let setbacks sour his attitude. He stays positive about the situation at hand as well as his cohorts. As Archibald would exclaim, “I’m going to go with adventure!”

Tune in to watch season 1 of DreamWorks Archibald’s Next Big Thing, exclusively available on Netflix on September 6.

— Jennifer Massoni Pardini

all photos courtesy of DreamWorks Animation

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Chronic complainers, whether kids or adults are no fun to be around. They drain your energy and sap your strength. It can be especially hard for parents to listen to their kids complain, whine and nag all day. But why do they do it?

Some kids complain mostly because they want something different from what they are getting or they’re uncomfortable about a situation and don’t know how to effectively communicate their needs. Others simply do it because it’s a way to establish contact or get a reaction from you.

Older kids like tweens and teens often complain because it’s uncool to seem enthusiastic about anything. As they progress to adulthood, teens constantly look for ways to assert their independence and to them, complaining or being contrary is their way of doing that.

Either way, as parents, we can all agree that listening to our kids complaining gets old real fast. So what can you do about it?

Consider why it gets you so worked up.

Knowing why your kid’s complaining pushes your buttons can allow you to find calm ways of dealing with it. Does their complaining trigger your anxiety? Do you feel responsible for your child’s happiness? Whatever it is, figuring it out is the first step.

Be a good role model.

Kids emulate us, so if you’re a chronic whiner and complainer, don’t be surprised if your kids take after you. If you constantly catch yourself complaining or regretting things you say in the heat of the moment, perhaps it’s time to change your habits.

Reflect, don’t react.

Try not to get pulled in by your kid’s negativity. Practice active listening and validating their feelings but don’t feed their mood. While it can be hard to hear your children whine, sometimes they just need to vent, and being overly critical of this can only make them dig in.

Encourage problem-solving.

Sometimes our kids can resort to complaining if they feel overwhelmed. Going on and on about their fears and worries might be their way of seeking control in various situations. If you notice this is the case, equip your child with problem-solving skills

The next time they come to you with their complaints, try asking them, “What can you do about it?” This turns them from focusing on the problem to looking for possible solutions.

Put a time limit on complaining.

Another great idea is to establish a complaint time in your household. This could be 10 minutes after dinner, or any other appropriate time, where your kids are free to complain about everything that’s bothering them. Ensure you limit it to that particular time then encourage them to find something to be grateful about.

Dealing with kids who complain all the time isn’t easy. However, finding the root cause of their complaints and encouraging them to solve their own problems can work wonders.

Tyler Jacobson is a happy husband, father of three, writer and outreach specialist with experience with organizations that help troubled teens and parents. His areas of focus include: parenting, social media, addiction, mental illness, and issues facing teenagers today.

 

When 21-month-old Joseph Tidd met professional soccer player Carson Pickett it was more than just a fun, fan-friendly gametime greeting.

The toddler, who was born without a left forearm or hand, got some serious inspiration from the athlete—and the pics show just how magical the moment was! Pickett, who was also born without a left forearm and hand, is a pro player for the Orlando Pride. During a recent game, Joseph got the chance to fist bump his new role model.

Joseph’s dad, Miles Tidd, told Today, “Carson knelt down next to Joseph and showed him her arm. It was this instant bond we can’t begin to understand.” He also added, “Carson believes she can do anything, and that is the mindset we want Joseph to have as well.”

This isn’t the first time the soccer star and the toddler have met. Pickett posted a pic of the two on Instagram last spring, captioning it, “Soccer means the world to me, but the platform that soccer provides me for things like this takes the cake. Joseph, you’re my new hero for life.”

—Erica Loop

Featured photo: Joseph Tidd via Instagram 

 

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It’s been nearly nine years since I first became a Mom. Five years after my first son was born, I truly didn’t know if I would have a second. Life got in the way, the timing never seemed right and my firstborn just kept getting older; we just weren’t sure if it made sense. Now that we were finally past the challenge of the infant and toddler years and experiencing some version of normalcy, did we really want to “hit the reset button” and start all over? With the larger age gap, would our children even experience the benefit of having a sibling around to play with and grow up together?

Now, as I look over at my toddler’s sweet, joyous face and think back on those early concerns, I know there was no reason for pause. And even with its challenges, there’s not a single thing I would change. Because right now, at this very moment, this is what it’s like to be the mom to a three-year-old:

Joyous: You’re such a happy little boy. Your smile is contagious, I watch you enter a room and spread that smile to everyone you encounter, strangers included. It fills my heart with such happiness.

Energetic: From the moment you get up (way too early) to the moment your head hits the pillow, you are going full-steam-ahead. There’s just too much to see, too much to do, and you want to experience it all.

Learning: There’s a lot for a three-year-old to learn. You’ve struggled with a speech delay and you’ve worked so very hard at it. You’ve made major strides and words I never even knew you understood are pouring from your mouth. Ironically, I can barely express how much I love hearing all the wonderful things you have to say.

Challenging: You are a toddler through and through, to a fault. And toddlers push the limits just to see how far they can go. Of all your new words “NO!” might be your favorite. And when you’re the one told “No,” watch out.

Awe-inspiring: You look at the world with such big beautiful awe. Just yesterday, when you woke up in the morning, you looked out the window and exclaimed “Wow! The sun is up, the moon is down!” I’m so lucky to be able to glimpse the world anew through your eyes.

Stubborn: It is borderline impossible to get you to do something you don’t want to do. Sadly, this includes eating 90% of the food I make, driving me insane nightly as I try to convince you otherwise. In your perfect world, you would live on a strict diet of yogurt, muffins, and crackers and hummus.

Independent: You have a big brother as a role model and you want to do everything yourself too. You think you’re bigger than you are, but that often also pushes you to do things other kids your age wouldn’t. This is a blessing and a curse as I run behind you just trying to keep up and prevent catastrophe.

Fearless: It is terrifying. After years with an older son who was more content to sit and play, and to this day, still assesses the risk factor in every challenge, you very much do not. Case in point, last week our “Sunday Funday” was spent in the ER getting five staples in your head after a rather reckless ride on your Thomas the Train toy. I’m still traumatized from it.

Smiles and Laughter: Even after a hard fall, you’re back to your sweet happy little self in no time. Your laugh is perhaps the greatest sound on earth and you spread it like confetti. Lately, you’ve taken to saying “I’m funny.” And yes, sweetie, you very much are.

Sibling Rivalry: After a rather blissful three years of you and your big bro getting along marvelously with him doting on you and affectionately calling you “Mr. Baby” (a nickname I’m so sad you’ve outgrown), you are now becoming your own person with your own interests. Unfortunately, those interests often include playing with his toys and taking his stuff. You’re no longer a harmless presence in his life and you very quickly are learning the tricks of the sibling rivalry trade yourself, pulling your own power moves on a brother almost three times your age. It’s almost impressive.

Snuggles and Big Hugs: You are a world-class snuggler and will lay on me for hours, or you’ll scoot over just an inch closer to be next to me. Your sweet chubby little arms wrapped around me, and those sweet smooches you give me when we snuggle, are the best feelings in the world. I hope it doesn’t change anytime soon.

Perfect: Ask any parent of a toddler and they will speak of the challenges and trust me when I say they are not wrong. It’s dealing with epic toddler tantrums and an unreasonable little human who has no idea what they’re doing. But three is also a rather fantastic age where the world is an amazing place and every day is an adventure. Where laughter flows openly and happiness is contagious. And I’m going to do everything in my power to soak up every minute. Because four and five and ten and twenty are right around the corner.

Just your average borderline-crazed mom and snarky wife who joined this online fray to build up other awesome women around me and have some laughs along the way. Follow me at @momandburied where I share both inspiration & rants about life along with my husband Dad and Buried... snark is our love language.

With just seven percent of U.S. pilots being female, women are still in the minority in the aviation industry, but for one mother-daughter pilot team, helming an airplane together is the norm.

Dr. John R. Watret, Chancellor of the Embry-Riddle Worldwide Campus, was on a flight headed home when he captured a unique photo of two female pilots in the cockpit and decided to share his photo on Twitter.

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When Watret first boarded the plane he overheard a mom asking if her kids could visit the pilots in the cockpit. When the family returned from their visit, Watret was surprised to overhear them say that the pilots were a mother and daughter.

The tweet, which featured mother-daughter team Capt. Wendy and First Officer Kelly Rexo, instantly went viral racking up more than 40,000 likes and 16,000 retweets. “I don’t tweet a lot,” said Watret. “On Sunday morning, my phone was blowing up.”

Embry-Riddle University, where Watret is Chancellor, maintains three large collegiate chapters of Women in Aviation International, including the first-ever virtual chapter. “There has to be more diversification in the industry. It’s crucial and one of the key factors we focus on. When there are more opportunities, everyone wins,” Watret said.

He continued, “The first officer had a great role model for becoming a pilot—her mother. It’s good for aviation and inspiring for all of us.”

—Shahrzad Warkentin

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Scholastic recently released the findings from its seventh edition of its Kids & Family Reading Report. The report includes survey data from over 1,000 children ages 6 through 17 and their parents, along with 678 parents of kiddos between birth and five. One of the key findings was a sharp decline in frequency of and enjoyment in reading in kids between the ages of eight and nine-years, known as the “decline by nine.”

While 57 percent of eight-year-olds reported reading books for fun between five and seven days a week, only 35 percent of nine-year-olds did so. There was also a decline in the number of nine-year-olds who say they love reading and who think reading books is fun.

photo: Daria Shevtsova via Pexels

Lauren Tarshis, SVP & Editor-in-Chief/Publisher of Scholastic Magazines and author of the bestselling I Survived series said, “It is worrisome that the Kids & Family Reading Report shows us that many kids are losing their connection to reading when they need it most, in third grade. But the research also has a powerful message from kids that they want to read, but not just any book.”

So what can you do to prevent this potential decline? And how can you help your kiddo to find books that they actually want to read? The answer lies in more diverse books.

Pinkney added, “When a young reader finds a story that positively reflects his or her own story—or presents the stories of people not like themselves—that child becomes encouraged to read more. This has a direct impact on how kids view their place in the world, and helps them develop empathy and open-mindedness. Tomorrow’s leaders need to see themselves in books. The report empowers us to help kids do that.”

Along with adding diversity to your child’s lit lineup, act as a reading role model. Scholastic’s survey found that children who read often are often surrounded by people who enjoy reading. A whopping 82 percent of kids who are considered frequent readers reported knowing a lot of people who enjoy reading. In comparison, only 34 percent of infrequent readers said they know plenty of people who like to read. This may mean if you show enjoyment in reading, your child will too.

Beyond showing your own enjoyment in reading, the findings of Scholastic’s report underscores the importance of providing easy access to books (both at home and in school) and encouraging children to choose literature that interests them.

—Erica Loop

 

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She may look like a millennial, but Barbie is turning 60! The iconic American doll is a piece if her-story. As she hits the big 6-0, Barbie has plenty of ways for your kiddos to join her in celebrating this epic milestone.

Barbie isn’t just another doll. She’s a trendsetter, best friend and above all, role model. Over the past 60 years, the blond beauty has grown and transformed, tackling challenges through careers such as astronaut, firefighter, doctor, athlete and more—while also becoming more inclusive for both girls and boys.

photo: Courtesy of Mattel

General Manager and Senior Vice President, Barbie, Lisa McKnight, said in a press release, “For 60 years, Barbie has championed girls, inspired generations to believe through make believe and showed them that they have choices. With more than 200 careers, six runs for president and a trip to the moon before Neil Armstrong, Barbie continues to evolve to be a modern, relevant role model for all ages.”

How will Barbie mark the anniversary of her first 60 years? Look for the brand to celebrate global female role models and help young girls to close the Dream Gap. According to Mattel, research shows that girls as young as five may doubt their potential. Termed the Dream Gap, Barbie and her family at Mattel are working to stop this problem in its tracks and support girls—helping them to reach their fullest potentials.

McKnight said, “The Barbie brand believes girls should never know a world, job, or dream women haven’t conquered. Through our global platform, we are igniting a movement to help close the Dream Gap and further establish Barbie as the ultimate girl empowerment brand.”

So what else does Mattel have planned for Barbie’s 6-0? Along with closing the gap by donating one dollar for every doll sold (up to $250,000) to the Dream Gap Project Fund,

Barbie will honor over 20 women “Shero’s” around the world, launch a new vlog called “Finding Your Voice” and head out on her “Be Anything” Tour. The tour starts in Bentonville, Arkansas on Mar. 9 and 10 with performances by country star Kelsea Ballerini and runs through October. With 36 stops at Walmart stores across the country, there’s plenty of b-day fun to be had—including a chance to win $20,000!

Other 60th birthday events include “Barbie Presented by Amazon” pop-up stores in five cities through Apr. 2, in-store activities at participating Target retailers on Mar. 9 and an immersive Barbie pop-up experience in New York City.

—Erica Loop

Featured photo: Alexas_Fotos via Pixabay

 

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Like childbirth, I feel that no one tells you the real truth about the divorce process.  Here are some things to consider when thinking about divorce and if you can live with them, then you may be ready.

His affair will not shock a judge.

The fact that he violated the sacred rule of marriage by having an affair will not make a judge blink his/her eye. A court will not typically agree that because he was a bad husband, he is now a bad father. Therefore the effect of an affair (even an affair with your best friend) will not have an impact on the determinations a court makes in terms of custody.

Be prepared to do everything yourself.

While you may already feel that you already do everything yourself anyway and his absence will not be noticed, there are few times that it may be and you should be ready for that. It may be cold out, but the garbage is now not going to go out by itself.

Understand and accept that he will have time alone with your children.

Many moms do not think about the fact that, except in rare situations, the fathers will have time alone with the children which will more often than not, include overnights. This will mean that you will have little to no control on what he serves them for dinner (McDonalds anyone?) and what time they go to bed (okay—you can watch one more movie).

The divorce process can take a long time.

While on TV the divorce case typically concludes and settles within a one-hour show (including commercials), it typically takes much longer in real life. If you litigate it can take years and even if you settle quickly, it can be at least three to six months before you are actually divorced. A marriage can happen in a less than an hour…but not the divorce.

You do not have to go to court to get divorced.

Many people are under the mistaken presumption that the only way to get divorced is to go to court and see a judge.  That idea is so scary that many people stay in marriages just to avoid it.  However, there are other amicable ways that are much more constructive and less scary such as the mediation process and the collaborative law process.  Both result in divorce as well.

Do not bad mouth your spouse on social media.

If you are thinking about divorce or going through a divorce—put on mittens and stay away from your iPhone.

Divorce mourning is a real thing.

Some people feel that divorce can be worse than death. In divorce, you are reminded of the failed relationship and the anger remains each time your ex picks up the children for his weekend. It is okay and even expected to go through a mourning process.

“Social Divorce” is real, too.

While everyone knows about the legal divorce that ends the marriage, few people think about the social divorce. Friends may feel the need to chose sides. It is his best friend’s wife from high school that is now one of your closest friends,  but she may not be comfortable being your confidant anymore or you may not be comfortable having her as your confidant either. Your phone contacts may change.

Hobbies help.

You should start to create your enjoyable distraction before the divorce process begins so it can be a comfort to you during and after.

You are not a bad mother or person for ending the marriage.

The studies show that children fare better when you have two parents that are happy in separate households than when you have two parents who are unhappy in the same household. Your children want you to be happy and if you feel that ending the marriage you are in will open you both up to healthier relationships that your children can role model, then maybe it is the right decision for you and your family.

This post originally appeared on Stacy Knows.

Jacqueline Newman is a divorce lawyer and matrimonial law expert. As managing partner of a top-tier 5th Avenue Manhattan law firm focused exclusively on divorce, her practice runs the gamut from prenups for high net worth people contemplating marriage to high conflict matrimonial litigation in dissolutions. 

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You want a show that you can trust and they want a storyline that’s fun and captivating. With Nickelodeon’s brand-new show, Abby Hatcher (created and produced by Spin Master Entertainment), nobody has to compromise. New this year on Nickelodeon from PAW Patrol producers, Abby Hatcher has already zoomed its way into the hearts of families everywhere with its action-packed plot lines, light-hearted antics and Abby Hatcher herself who is compassionate and determined—in other words, the perfect role model for your kiddos. Read on to discover why Abby Hatcher is the “fuzztastic” new preschool show your kids need now.

Who Abby Is & Why You’ll Love Her
Abby Hatcher is one smart, daring girl with a big, nurturing heart and plenty of tricks up her short sleeves. The cool thing about Abby is that she isn’t your typical superheroine—and that’s just the way she likes it. The new show follows Abby as she aims to create an inclusive community for one and all with her acceptance of everyone and eternal optimism.

About These Things Called “Fuzzlies”
Fuzzlies are amazing and quirky creatures that live in Abby’s family’s hotel. Abby, the accepting and optimistic girl that she is, has always known that Fuzzlies are real—it was just a matter of finding them! And lucky for Abby, the grand hotel happens to be full of Fuzzly hideouts. Abby quickly catches Fuzzly friends in each of its nooks and passageways and soon bonds with Bozzly, the cuddly Fuzzly she’s always wanted (and Abby’s the BFF he’s always wanted, too).

In order to help all Fuzzlies and humans live together in harmony, Abby gets to know each of the Fuzzlies’ unique abilities. Your kids will get to know Princess Flug, a regal slug who shimmers with (and sprays!) slime, three-armed Otis who pushes buttons in every sense of the phrase, a colorful chorus of Squeaky Peepers, and many Fuzzlies for preschoolers to catch onto right along with Abby.

Several of the Fuzzlies are learning how to manage big emotions—something parents of preschoolers are all too familiar with. How Abby deals with each of the Fuzzlies’ quirky traits is a great teaching moment for parents and preschoolers alike.

photo: Spin Master Entertainment


What Makes Abby a Good Role Model
Even when the Fuzzlies may cause Abby some frustration, her ability to stay positive aids her in her quest to help each Fuzzly find a place in the hotel. While Abby “gears up” with gadgets like a Fuzzly-Spotter Watch that tracks fuzzlies and opens secret passageways, it’s her kindness and persistence that are her real superpowers. Watching Abby as she stays positive while overcoming challenges is a great lesson for preschoolers to take back to the playground and classroom.

Why Abby Hatcher Is Especially Great for Preschoolers
Preschoolers are like sponges—every day they’re learning new cognitive and social emotional skills, from developing emotional intelligence on the playground with their friends to tying their shoes and telling time. As your preschooler navigates the transition from family to the larger world beyond, Abby’s fierce determination and ever-present optimism will help your kiddo learn up from down and right from wrong.

photo: Spin Master Entertainment

You’ll love that Abby models empathy and effort at every turn. When she isn’t doing all she can on her own to understand the Fuzzlies and what they want or need, she and Bozzly are teaming up to find solutions around the hotel. Your preschooler will watch Abby think through her problem-solving process, try and try again, and be consistently motivated to help her community. This show takes that social emotional knowledge to the next level, with Abby Hatcher showing us just how fun and rewarding it is to be inclusive.

BONUS:

Check out the trailer to this new show below:

photo: Spin Master Entertainment

Nickelodeon is kicking off weekdays at 10 a.m. with fun-filled original content your kids will love. Beginning in February, new episodes of Abby Hatcher will air again at 10:30 a.m., Monday-Thursday. Catch clips and episodes of the show here anytime and get to know Abby better by checking out her YouTube playlist!

— Jennifer Massoni Pardini

all photos courtesy of Spin Master Entertainment