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Reading together is not just about learning to read. Until a child learns to read on their own, many families carve out moments for storytime and reading aloud. These bedtime stories, afternoons in a reading chair (or wherever families gather to read) aren’t just opportunities to build early literacy skills. They’re moments that foster warmth, connection, and a shared understanding of the world and our place in it. With that in mind, storytime remains important for people of all ages.

Why Storytime Matters for Babies

Long before babies can walk, talk, crawl, or even babble, they can see and hear—and learn. The stark shapes and bright colors in board books help develop visual acuity. Likewise, repetition, rhythm, and rhyme teach babies so much about words and language. Even though babies can’t read, they are learning about the nature of books and reading—that, in English at least, we read top to bottom and left to right, that words are related to pictures, that storytime is intimate and cozy, even fun.

Why Storytime Matters for Toddlers

Once children begin to speak, we have more insight into what they are thinking and feeling, what they like and “no like.” Storytime provides ample opportunity for pointing and naming, questions and answers and early intellectual investigations, like Where did that bunny go?

Toddlers are now self-sufficient (and opinionated!) enough to choose books that hook into their budding interests, and they begin to learn the things that build emotional IQ—imagining the feelings and motivations of a character they identify with.

Why Storytime Matters for School-age Children

For children in elementary school, stories become longer, less picture-driven, and more complex. There’s humor, drama, and more complicated social dynamics. Each of these elements helps to build compassion and empathy while entertaining entertain.

As important as storytime can be, this is when it tends to stop. One British study found that most parents stop reading to their children by the age of 8, the age when children typically read independently. Less than 20 percent of 8- to 10-year-olds in the study were read to daily by an adult.

Sabrina Grimes is a third-grade teacher in Pasadena, Calif., and by the time students enter her class, she sees that kind of data play out in real life.

“I wish parents would continue to read with their children, whatever their language,” said Grimes, who still reads aloud with her son, who just entered the sixth grade. “They still need it.”

Why Storytime Matters for Tween and Teens  

For tweens and teens, storytime and reading aloud is rarer and rarer still, particularly once you consider how screens dominate their lives. (Even teens are concerned about how much time they spend on phones or online—nine hours for teens, six for tweens, per one study.)

Meghan Cox Gurdon, the children’s book reviewer for The Wall Street Journal, still reads to her teen and even adult children. Not using books to connect at this age is a missed opportunity. Reading aloud gives adults and teens alike an alternative means of communication, “without the nagging, negativity, and silences that often creep into that dynamic,” she told The Guardian.

“It is a wonderful way of being together without having that pressure or being asked lots of questions,” she said.

The same basic mechanics are at work for this age group. Reading aloud (and being read to) builds vocabulary, grows knowledge, improves listening skills, instills empathy, and, as stories become more mature, can open up ways to discuss difficult topics, like abuse or death.

It’s also, importantly, a balm against the screen. “[Reading together] is an extraordinary distillation of the good things that we want in our lives,” said Gurdon. “We need human connectedness. Many of us want the richness of story and culture and language, something that is deeper than Twitter.”

Why Storytime Matters for Adults

Storytime doesn’t just benefit children, mind you. Gurdon, for one, reads aloud with her husband.  As she wrote in her book, The Enchanted Hour (which also champions reading together), “The deeply human exchange of one person reading to another is, in fact, human, which means that its pleasures and benefits are open to everyone” at any age.

 

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The physical and emotional changes that come with puberty can be challenging for tweens, but these books can help. From expert guides filled with detailed biological facts to the funny Wimpy Kid installment in which Greg freaks out about zits, body hair growth, and B.O., these titles address the anxiety and confusion that boys and girls feel at this sensitive time. Don’t miss the “conversation starters” included with every pick to really maximize the benefits of sharing these terrific tomes with kids.

1. The Care and Keeping Of You: The Body Book for Younger Girls: Authored by Valorie Lee Schaefer; Illustrated by Josee Masse; American Girl Publishing, 2012

This comprehensive book is geared toward girls who are nearing—or just beginning—puberty. It covers all the basics of self-care, such as keeping hair clean and tangle-free, using sunscreen, cleaning teeth with braces, coping with acne, pampering blisters, and treating a sprain. This empowering self-care manual is perfectly targeted to young girls who are on the brink of growing up—and trying to figure out how to embrace these major changes with competence and confidence.

Recommended for ages 8 and older.

Conversation starters:

  • Families can talk about body image and confidence. Are you happy with the way your body is changing? What messages in this book were most helpful to you?

  • This book gives a lot of attention to girls’ concerns about body image. Do you think there’s an ideal body type? Do you compare yourself to other girls, or models, or actresses

2. Guy Stuff: The Body Book for Boys: Authored by Dr. Cara Natterson; Illustrated by Micah Player; American Girl Publishing, 2012

This is a head-to-toe guide for boys on how to care for their changing body, from fighting off funky smells to cultivating healthy habits with lifelong benefits. It’s an engaging book for boys to read solo and an excellent ice-breaker for parents who’d like to be more comfortable talking about puberty.

Recommended for ages 8 and older.

Conversation starters:

  • Does the casual style here make it easier to read—and hopefully talk—about subjects that might make you feel self-conscious? Is the candid language helpful? Does knowing the facts make some of this less awkward?

  • How do you feel about the way boys’ and men’s bodies are portrayed in movies, on TV, and in magazines?

3. The Period Book: A Girl’s Guide to Growing Up: Authored by Karen Gravelle; Illustrated by Debbie Palen; Bloomsbury USA, 2017

Author Karen Gravelle helps girls and their families grow more comfortable talking about periods, pubic hair, and pimples without blushing in this friendly, compassionate update of her sex-ed book, first published in 1996. It arms girls with the information they need to feel confident and capable through puberty. It’s packed with reassurance and practical advice and well served by informative and entertaining illustrations.

Recommended for ages 8 and older.

Conversation starters:

  • Families can talk about the frank language and illustrations in The Period Book. Do they make it easier to discuss menstruation and puberty with your parents or friends?

  • Have you or any of your friends or classmates been involved with sexting—sending nude photos? What happened?

4. Diary of a Wimpy Kid: The Ugly Truth: Authored and illustrated by Jeff Kinney; Amulet Books, 2010

The fifth book in the incredibly popular Wimpy Kid series features the same clueless, often irresponsible Wimpy Kid, but now he’s about to go through puberty. There’s talk of puberty everywhere—in health class, in Greg’s mom’s column (how embarrassing!), and even with great-grandma, who gives a secret lecture to everyone in the family when they reach that special age.

Recommended for ages 9 and older.

Conversation starters:

  • Why do you think kids like Diary of a Wimpy Kid so much? Do kids find it’s easy to laugh at Greg’s antics? Do you think he’ll ever become more responsible? Would the stories be as funny?

  • Can you relate to any of these anecdotes? Where do you think the author gets it right—and where does he get it wrong?

6. What’s Going on Down There? A Boy’s Guide to Growing Up: Authored by Karen Gravelle; Illustrated by Robert Leighton; Bloomsbury Children’s Books, 2017

The sexual landscape has shifted since Karen Gravelle first published this book for boys in 1998, and this welcome revision speaks to current concerns about social media, harassment, and body image. The book has a nonjudgmental tone and includes diagrams of external and internal male and female anatomy, along with straightforward, factual information on sexual activity, sexually transmitted infections, birth control, and more.

Recommended for ages 9 and older.

Conversation starters:

  • Families can talk about the explicit detail in What’s Going on Down There? A Boy’s Guide to Growing Up. Does reading this book make it easier to talk about puberty and sex?

  • Do you think this book is appropriate for kids your age?

6. Are You There God? It’s Me Margaret: Authored by Judy Blume; Yearling Books, 1970

Although this was first published in 1970, tweens will find that it still pretty much rings true today as a pretty realistic take on what it’s like to be a sixth-grade girl. Margaret is such a relatable character—she worries about being normal, sometimes says the wrong thing, and even hides her true feelings to be accepted by her friends. Readers will appreciate her honest narration—which will make them feel a whole lot better about that their own anxieties about growing up.

Recommended for ages 10 and older.

Conversation starters:

  • Do you think a lot has changed since this book was first published in 1970? Do you feel like you relate to Margaret?

  • Margaret’s friend Nancy spreads gossip about Laura—she says that Laura lets boys feel her up and that even their teacher can’t keep his eyes off her figure. What do you think it’s like to be Laura? Do you think girls who develop early still get targeted in this way?

7. The Care and Keeping of You 2: The Body Book for Older Girls: Authored by Dr. Cara Natterson; Illustrated by Josee Masse; American Girl Publishing, 2013

Puberty will always be both a little exciting and anxiety-provoking, but this easy-to-read guide makes it less mystifying by explaining exactly what’s going on—and how to roll with the changes. Written by pediatrician Cara Natterson, this tome equips girls with the biological information they need to better understand why they’re changing and how to adapt.

Recommended for ages 10 and older.

Conversation starters:

  • Families can talk about the biological details in The Care and Keeping of You 2: The Body Book for Older Girls. Does knowing how and why your body is changing make it easier for you to embrace it?

  • Do you feel as if you’re treating your body respectfully? What changes could you make?

8. The Girl Guide: 50 Ways to Learn to Love Your Changing Body: Authored by Marawa Ibrahim; Illustrated by Sinem Erkas; Harper Collins, 2018

Reading The Girl Guide is like hanging out in your fabulous big sister’s bedroom for a candid “ask me anything” session: It’s packed with answers to questions girls may not even think to ask about the ups and downs of growing older. Fifty short chapters take on acne, periods, big butts, hair growth — and hair removal, crushes, staying fit, bras, eating disorders, and more. Author Marawa Ibrahim is fiercely feminist and body-positive: “Say it loud and say it proud: Vagina, vagina, vagina” prefaces a two-page illustration of vaginas fashioned out of cut paper.

Recommended for ages 10 and older.

Conversation starters:

  • How do you feel about the candid tone of this book? How does it compare with more straightforward books on puberty?

  • Do you have questions about your body or your emotional health that this book didn’t help you with? If so, ask a trusted adult for information or advice.

9. It’s Perfectly Normal: Changing Bodies, Growing Up, Sex, and Sexual Health: Authored by Robie H. Harris; Illustrated by Michael Emberley; Candlewick Press, 2014

The 20th-anniversary edition of It’s Perfectly Normal is an unflinching and fully illustrated guide to sexual health for girls and boys that presents sexual activity as enjoyable but requiring mature, careful decision-making. It supports postponing and abstaining from sex but also provides information on contraception and abortion. It aims to arm kids with the knowledge to make informed, thoughtful decisions about their sexual behavior and relationships, and it does so with a frankness that some families will find refreshing while others may feel it’s inappropriate.

Recommended for ages 12 and older.

Conversation starters:

  • Families can talk about why people often are uncomfortable talking about sex and whether It’s Perfectly Normal makes it easier. Are you more comfortable talking about sex with your family, or do you prefer learning from books like this?

  • Have you come across sexual content online or in talking with friends that are upsetting or confusing?

10. Girling Up: How to Be Strong, Smart and Spectacular: Authored by Mayim Bialik; Philomel, 2017

This fantastic book uses biology and neuroscience to answer questions many tweens and teens have about how their brains, bodies, and emotions change during puberty. Actress and author Mayim Bialik puts her Ph.D. in neuroscience to good use as she explains in detail, with anatomical illustrations, the hows and whys of puberty, from body image, coping with stress, nutrition, and school to hormones, dating, sex, and more.

Recommended for ages 12 and older.

Conversation starters:

  • Families can talk about how knowledge is power in Girling Up. Did you learn anything surprising? How will what you’ve learned help you as you grow into adulthood?

  • Why do you think a successful actress like Mayim writes books, too? Do you think she’s genuinely passionate about “girling up”? What about financial rewards?

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Wishing you could channel that same fabulous flair that made your Trapper Keeper so awesome in sixth grade? Now you can with new Lisa Frank-themed phone cases from Casetify.

The newly launched Lisa Frank x CASETiFY collab includes twenty different iPhone case designs all featuring the signature bright colors, adorable animals and rainbow cheetah print you knew and loved from your childhood.

The cases start at $49 and come in a variety of sizes to fit different iPhone models from iPhone 7 to iPhone Xs.

The collection also includes some other tech accessories to jazz up your style, like vegan leather Apple Watch Bands, iPad cases, laptop cases, wireless charging pads, phone ring holders and vegan leather pockets. All the items are emblazoned with the same colorful Lisa Frank designs. You can shop the full collection here.

—Shahrzad Warkentin

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All is fair in schools and clothes—at least in one Virginia town. The Roanoke County School Board recently voted for a dress code that treats boys and girls the same., and we applaud the unanimous vote!

School dress codes are notorious for treating boys and girls differently when it comes to standards. Instead of focusing on what all students wear, codes often address “girls’ clothing,” such as visible bra straps, tank tops/spaghetti straps or skirt length.

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Chairman of the Roanoke County School Board, Don Butzer, told TODAY, “The old dress codes we had and that many schools have today single out girls for bra straps and undergarments and many things girls wear.” Butzer went on to add, “The new policy is probably the most progressive in Virginia. Our goal was to make it as simple as possible.”

But it wasn’t the school or the school board that initiated the dress code changes. Parent Jeannie Keen had the idea after her daughter, Olivia, was “dress-coded” for wearing track shorts the school through were too short. Keen told TODAY, “Within the first two weeks of sixth grade, Olivia and many other girls were dress-coded for wearing athletic shorts.”

Keen added, “I took a photo of what she had on that day and sent it to my school board rep in order to begin a dialogue. I also used a gender-neutral dress code model from Portland, Oregon as an example of how it can be done.” And the new dress code was born!

—Erica Loop

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Parenting your kids after a divorce or separation isn’t always easy, but Anna Faris and Chris Pratt give us awesome life goals on how to co-parent.

In a recent interview with divorce attorney Laura Wasser for her Divorce Sucks! podcast, Faris revealed her hopes for the future of co-parenting with ex Pratt. Despite Pratt’s engagement to Katherine Schwarzenegger and Faris’ relationship with photographer Micheal Barrett, the parents remain committed to keeping their six-year-old son Jack their number one priority.

“Grudge-holding is not something that Chris and I do. So, we wanted to make sure, of course, that Jack [their son] was happy, but that we were happy and supportive of each other and that we could have this fantasy idea of, do we all spend Christmas together? Do we all vacation together? How do we make sure that everybody that we love feels safe, and that we also respect the love we have for each other?” Faris said on the podcast.

Faris said her hope is that as Jack grows older they will “have group Thanksgiving dinners together and to be at that place.” Under the terms of their divorce, Pratt and Faris agreed to live within five miles of each other until Jack is in sixth grade so it’s definitely possible to make joint holidays happen.

Faris has also made it clear that she has no bitterness towards Pratt’s new fiancée and believes they are both great people. “Under all of these un-coupling circumstances, I think that we are so good and respectful toward each other,” Faris said. “I think there is so much kindness and love, and I know we want to get to that ultimate goal—and I know it sounds lame and optimistic—but that’s what I want.”

—Shahrzad Warkentin

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When Arehzo Poirier’s former first grade students were ready for third grade standardized testing time, this Florida teacher had something special for them. After her then-third grade son received an inspirational letter from his teacher prior to test time, Poirier decided to pen one of her own.

Standardized testing can be a polarizing subject for some families. With a growing emphasis on the results, it’s no wonder why kids and their parents react so strongly to standardized measures. When Poirier’s former students were nearing the Florida Standards Assessment date, the teacher felt it was important to remind each child of what truly is important.

Poirier wrote, “The Florida Standards Assessments (FSA) is a big test, but it’s not an important one in my eyes.” The teacher continued, explaining, “The real test is how you present yourself as a student and as a little human every day of your life.” Here’s the rest of her moving letter:

Dear Former Poirier Friends,

Next week you will take the FSA for the very first time. This is a test I am sure you have heard a lot about. It will test you on your math and reading skills. Can you remember what I told you whenever you took a big test with me in the first grade? I always told you to stretch yoruself and brag about your brain. The FSA is a test just like any other test we took together in first grade. It will tell you and your teacher what you’ve learned in reading and math and what you can do with these skills on your own.

The Florida Standards Assessments (FSA) is a big test, but it’s not an important one in my eyes. The real test is how you present yourself as a student and as a little human every day of your life. The real test is how you showed kindness to those less fortunate that yourself. The real test is how you perservered and never gave up, even when things were tough. The real test is how some of your were able to make me laugh out loud every day. The real test is how some of you have a smile that can brighten even the darkest of spaces. The real test is how after two years you all still make me proud to have been your teacher.

I don’t write letters like this to all of my previous first graders. You were all very special to me and you always will be. I am writing this to you not because the FSA is important or extraordinary, but because YOU are.”

The first grade teacher told TODAY, “Writing the letter made me cry as I wrote it, because I meant every single word.” Poirier also added, “My son is in sixth grade now and still has that letter (from his third grade teacher) in his desk at home. As a parent, seeing the look on my boy’s face as he read that letter made me realize testing isn’t so bad if it’s approached in the right way. It inspired me to do the same with my former first grade friends.”

—Erica Loop

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As our kids move into those critical preschool through grade school years, we need to be fully attentive to their development needs. Not only are they starting to feel the tug of their conscience, they are routinely leaving the safety of their home and are more fully interacting with the world around them. As our young children become “their own little person,” we can help to enable this by promoting both their learning and empowerment.

Here are three effective strategies that you can start right away.

1. Reading, reading, reading.

You have heard this many times before but it is always at the top of my list. Some argue that reading is the key to success in life. I second that emotion. Reading is decidedly a key to success in learning. Here’s the deal: children who love to read, love to learn. Children who struggle to read, struggle to learn.

Reading facilitates thinking and communication skills—and has proven to enhance a child’s ability to learn in all subjects—including technical subjects such as math and science. Help your child develop a love for reading by filling their everyday world with reading.

We can get the ball rolling by reading frequently to our little ones. Next, start a family reading tradition where the whole family reads at least 20 minutes a day together—a nice break from all that screen time! The idea is to create a “reading culture” within the family that makes reading something we naturally do. Of course, making it fun is always part of the success formula. So make sure they get to read what interests them most!

2. Shift from telling to asking.

As our young children approach preschool, their conscience begins to develop. They are now sensing the difference between right and wrong on their own. They are also starting to see how their actions impact others (e.g., not telling the truth or not sharing their toys). It is an important time for parents to shift as well. Up until around age four, we serve as their conscience. As a result, we find ourselves constantly monitoring and correcting their behaviors—primarily to keep them safe. In short, it is a critical time to shift from telling (or correcting) to asking: “What do you think you should do?

When we can get them to think and reflect—“How will your friend feel if you don’t go to their party?”—feelings of accountability will follow. They also start to learn how to manage their emotions. The key is start to shift the sense of control by taking the time to discuss and ask questions. Plus, we want create a family culture where they feel comfortable expressing their opinions—and have them validated. Get those little wheels turning!

3. Make it fun!

This was one of my strength areas when my kids were young. I knew how to make things fun. The cool thing is that learning is often naturally imbedded in the games we play. Whether it is a simple board game that gets them thinking or a game of soccer that starts to teach the importance of teamwork, games are a wonderful source of learning. I remember the progression my kids made from checkers (which develops early cognitive skills) to playing chess when they were in sixth grade (which develops discipline and advanced thinking skills).

Of course, finding their special areas of interest is key. If they love dogs, make it a fun library project where they try to discover as many dogs as possible and pick their top five favorites. You get the idea. There is probably nothing as engaging for our young ones as a game!

Good luck mom and dad!

Mike Morrison Ph.D.’s passion centers on developing leaders at all ages, from pre-schoolers to the corporate CEO leading a global enterprise. In today’s world, we all need to lead in some way and Mike has helped illuminate that path through three books, his most recent being Small Voice Says.

There are many aspects of my more than decade-long career as a teacher that I’m proud of. My reputation for giving lots and lots of homework is not one of them.

For most of my teaching career, I taught fifth or sixth grade. Sometimes I gave more than two hours of homework. Kids complained a lot, though parents rarely did, at least not to my face. I think parents mostly felt the same way I did: that homework was the best way to practice new skills, that it teaches responsibility and helps to develop a strong work ethic, and that it’s an opportunity to reflect on new learning.

But most of all, my students’ parents and I were more than a little afraid that our kids would fall behind – behind their classmates in the next classroom, behind the kids in a neighboring school, behind the kids in other countries. Homework was considered one of many ways to prevent that from happening.

I wasn’t entirely wrong about all of that, and I still believe a lot of those things. But only for middle and high school students (and not hours of assignments). Not for elementary students, and certainly not for kindergarteners or preschoolers.

When I entered a doctoral program in education policy, I learned about the research that suggests that homework is not good for young kids. Not only does it fail to improve the academic performance of elementary students, but it might actually be damaging to kids’ attitudes toward school, and to their physical health. In a review of available research studies, Harris Cooper, a leading researcher who has spent decades studying the effect of homework, concluded that “there is no evidence that any amount of homework improves the academic performance of elementary students.”

When I became a parent during graduate school, I experienced for myself just how tired and overwhelmed kids can be after a full day at daycare, preschool, or elementary school, often followed by more after school activities. After hours spent sitting and engaging in mostly adult-directed activities, children’s minds and bodies need other kinds of experiences when they get home, not more academics.

It’s not just that homework itself has no academic benefits for little kids, and may even be harmful, it’s also that homework is replacing other fun, developmentally appropriate, and valuable activities – activities that help them grow into healthy, happy adults.

So, what are some of the things kids could be doing in those hours between the end of the school day and bed time?

1 | Jump rope.

An important part of how young kids’ minds develop is through free, self-directed play. According to David Elkind, Ph.D., author of The Power of Play: How Spontaneous, Imaginative Activities Lead to Happier, Healthier Children, free play is critical now more than ever, as recesses are shortened or eliminated, and kids’ calendars are busier than ever.

“Through play,” Elkind writes, “children create new learning experiences, and those self-created experiences enable them to acquire social, emotional, and intellectual skills they could not acquire any other way.”

2 | Talk with parents.

I’ve heard from countless friends about their daily battles with their elementary-aged kids struggling to do homework, and the way it’s negatively affected their relationships.

Instead, of parents nagging their overtired kids to do homework they’re too young to do independently, families should spent much time talking together about their day. In fact, conversation is the best way for all of us – especially young children – to learn about our world and cultivate empathy.

3 | Sleep.

The National Sleep Foundation estimates that between 25 and 30% of children aren’t getting enough sleep. Lack of sleep can cause all sorts of problems in kids, including poor attention, behavior problems, academic difficulties, irritability, and weight gain. But even small amounts of additional sleep can have big impacts. One study found that only 20 additional minutes of sleep can improve kids’ grades.

4 | Independent reading.

Most of us know that developing good habits (and hopefully a love of reading) is critical to doing well at school. However, homework can actually interfere with the time that kids can spend on reading.

5 | Listen to a book.

Studies show that kids who are read aloud to do better in school and have better vocabularies.

6 | Work on a puzzle.

Being able to play on their own without adults (called “solitary play”) builds confidence in kids and makes them more relaxed.

7 | Go up a slide backwards.

“Risky” play — activities like climbing a tree — is good for kids. Children need to explore their own limits, to be able to assess risks, and to learn how to negotiate their environments.

Researchers theorize that risky play, found across all cultures and in other mammals, has a evolutionary role in preparing offspring for life without their caretakers.

8 | Dig in the dirt.

Another type of play, sensory play, is also critical for kids’ development. When kids knead clay or finger paint, they are stimulating their senses. “Sensory experiences,” explains one early childhood educator, “provide open-ended opportunities where the process is more important than the product; how children use materials is much more important than what they make with them.”

9 | Playing with a friend in a sandbox.

Parallel play, or the type of play in which kids play next to each other, begins in toddlers. But even for older kids, parallel play can help develop critical social skills.

10 | Help with dinner.

Kids who learn about new foods, and how to prepare them, may be more likely to choose more nutritious foods later on.

11 | Walk the dog.

Kids who help take care of family pets may be less anxious, less likely to develop allergies and asthma, and are more active.

12 | Volunteer at an animal shelter.

Even kids who don’t have pets at home can benefit from being around animals. The emotional and psychological benefits of being around animals can also be found when kids care for injured animals and take on care-taking responsibilities for other people’s pets.

13 | Plant a garden.

Kids who work in gardens may have higher achievement scores in science than those who don’t. That’s because they’re actively engaging in scientific concepts and practicing math skills as they learn about plants.

14 | Practice an instrument.

Kids who participate in musical activities – those who practice an instrument regularly and participate actively in music groups – may have brains who are better wired for literacy skills, according to one study.

15 | Hang out at Grandma’s.

Encouraging multi-generational relationships can yield many lessons for kids. They can learn how other adult role models in their lives who love them handle conflict, create and negotiate rules and routines, and embrace family traditions.

16 | Participate in a community service project.

Through volunteering, kids can become more grateful, empathetic, and feel more connected to the wider community.

17 | Draw a picture.

For kids who have trouble expressing themselves verbally, drawing can be a way for them to relax and communicate in a different way.

18 | Do a science experiment.

Kids are naturally curious and want to know how things work. Scientific exploration outside the classroom may be particularly effective at teaching kids about scientific thinking.

19 | Play dress up.

The significance of imaginative “pretend” or “fantasy” play for kids’ creativity and future problem-solving skills is difficult to overstate. When kids pretend they’re superheroes or talk to stuffed animals, they’re learning about social roles, setting the stage for later learning, and processing ideas from the world around them. In fact, some research suggests that kids who don’t engage in fantasy play may actually struggle in the classroom later.

20 | Wrestle with a sibling.

Rough and tumble” play is not the same as aggression. It’s vigorous, free-form, whole-body, energetic, happy play.  Kids learn decision-making skills, relieve stress, improve their ability to read social cues, and enhance their cardio-vascular health.

21 | Clean their room.

When kids are spending their afternoons working on homework, there’s often not time for them to help out with housework and other chores. A University of Minnesota researcher, Marty Rossman, found that one of the best predictors of a kid’s future success is whether they contributed to household chores as a young child.

According to Rossman, “Through participating in household tasks, parents are teaching children responsibility, how to contribute to family life, a sense of empathy and how to take care of themselves.”

22 | Write a story.

By writing down stories, kids can express their feelings, stretch their imaginations, and practice their fine motor skills.

23 | Zone out.

Just as important as play is “down time.” The authors of “Overloaded and Underprepared: Strategies for Stronger Schools and Happy, Successful Kids“ argue that every kids needs PDF: playtime, downtime, and family time.

Downtime is when kids are allowed to literally do not much of anything, like sit around and listen to music or stare at the ceiling. These moments allow children to reflect, rest, and reset their minds and bodies.

24 | Meditate.

Kids also benefit from meditation. Studies have found that mindfulness and meditation can improve behavior, focus, and reduce impulsiveness.

25 | Create a collage.

Constructive play” – building a fort, making a snowman – is goal-oriented and involves kids building something using tools and materials. Constructive play also has an important role in developing children’s communication, mathematical, and socio-emotional skills.

26 | Listen to classical music.

One study found that playing classical music to children can improve their listening and concentration skills, as well as self-discipline.

27 | Learn to knit.

Knitting, sewing, and crocheting are hobbies that can help enhance fine motor skills, improve coordination, and develop longer attention spans.

28 | Take pictures.

“Photography can help develop a child’s voice, vision and identity as it pertains to their family, friends and community,” according to one photographer who teaches photography to children in Canada.

29 | Ride a bike.

Kids who are physically active – as well as adults! – have stronger hearts, lungs, and bones. They are less likely to develop cancer or be overweight and more likely to feel good about themselves.

30 | Listen to a long bedtime story.

Babies, children, and adult sleep better when they have a regular (not rushed) bedtime routine. Kids who don’t have bedtime routines are more likely to have behavior problems, be hyperactive, and suffer from emotional difficulties.

31 | Play “Simon Says.”

During cooperative games, kids collaborate to reach a common goal. There may be a leader, and kids start to learn about social contracts and social rules.

When homework is assigned to young children, it doesn’t improve academic learning. In any case, the learning done in school is only one form of learning. Homework takes away from the time available to engage in endless other forms of learning, such as social, physical, and emotional, as well as rest.

Our kids deserve a chance to spend all their other hours outside of school doing their most important job of all: being a kid.

This post originally appeared on Parent.co.

Featured Photo Courtesy: Pexels

Jessica Smock is a writer, editor, former educator, and a mom to a six year old son and a toddler daughter. She has a doctorate in development and educational policy from Boston University. She can be found at School of Smock, where she blogs about parenting and education.

Whether you’re new to parenting, or just new to town, one thing’s for certain: you need to find your tribe, and you need to find it fast. If you’re shopping the slides for someone with a little crazy to balance your calm, or if you’re milling around the monkey bars for a pal who can give you the inside scoop on every preschool’s behavioral qualifications, we’ve got you covered. Read on for a crib sheet that will make finding your perfect parenting companion as easy as a playdate in the park.

The Panic Parent: Everything is a fire drill. The swings are squeaky? Fast, scale the pole and secure the bolts! Janie fell down? Get the first aid kit from the car, stat! Timmy needs to tinkle? Quick! Pack up everything and make a dash for the car! But, she’s the one you turn to when Junior takes a hit, so thank goodness someone was a Girl Scout.

The Honest Parent: “I stepped on my two-year-old’s fingers today and forgot to pack my first grader’s lunch—for the second time this week.” If you need a dose of honest, fresh, life-with-kids reality, head to the playground. There’s bound to be a parent there who’s ready to air a little laundry and make you feel right at home.

The Choices Parent: “I see you’ve made a bad choice, dear. Would you like me to talk with you about your options?” or “Would you prefer to eat first or play first, pumpkin?” Everything. Is. A. Choice. But, this pal has read way more parenting psychology articles than you, so she’s an excellent resource.

The Appropriate Play Parent: This one is looking after the interest of her kiddo’s future applications to private preschools (who can blame her?) and is taking every opportunity to encourage developmentally appropriate play for Junior. The Appropriate Play Parent is often identified by his or her back-to-back playdates at the park.

The Just Get Me Some Fresh Air Parent: She’s been cooped up with one kid or another for over a week because of allergies, a cold, or another kid plague, and while she seems to be engaging in dialogue, she’s really just in shock from all the Vitamin D exposure.

The Social Butterfly: She flits between mommy meet-ups with ease, often peppering her schedule with volunteer obligations—that she’s in charge of, no doubt—while donning appropriate attire for seamless transitions throughout the day. This mom can plug you in faster than an electrician can change a lightbulb, if that’s something you need.

The Put-Together Parent: He always looks like he’s ready to interview, and yet he’s still comfortable with sticky hands, bloody knees, and dirty diapers. The female version of The Put Together Parent is likely rocking a killer pair of wedges, because like the parent herself, a wedge is dressy, polished, and versatile. You just wish you could get out of your yoga pants.

The Swiss Army Knife Parent: Scraped knee? This parent has a squirt gun of hydrogen peroxide holstered to his side. Colossal blowout? How about extra wipes, a pair of shorts to borrow, and moisturizing hand sanitizer? Thirsty toddler three minutes after arriving at the playground? Juice box. Boom. Just like that—this parent’s got you covered.

The Playground Police: She means well, but “did you know your kid is on the slide by himself?” And while you may take a deep breath the moment your kiddos run joyously to the playground, The Playground Police parent goes on high alert.

The Play in the Dirt Parent: Her kids may eat, play, and roll dirt in the dirt, but dirt don’t hurt, right? Or perhaps you hear this parent say that her kid never gets sick because she doesn’t use antibacterial anything… and then you see that kid vomit in the bushes.

The Tech-Savvy Parent: Outfitted with the latest gadgets and gear, this parent makes modern technology look so easy while you just wish you could figure out how to upgrade your iPhone without losing all your photos.

The Perfect Match: You may have thought sixth grade was a tough year for making new friends until you became a parent and realized that it would all just be so much easier if you had some people. You know—your people—whoever they may be. But guess what? Your people are likely at the playground too, just looking for you.