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No one can deny the enduring appeal of books that feature animals, whether tales of animals in the wild, animal heroics (think Togo the sled dog or Scarlett the cat), animal antics that make us laugh, and fictional animals that take on human characteristics—both good and bad.

Why is animal fiction so plentiful and popular? Neuroscientists suggest that our brains treat reading about an experience almost as if living the experience in real life. In children’s books, animal characters can portray a broader range of traits, both good and evil, than we would tolerate in stories about humans (think the “big bad wolf”). These portrayals allow the reader to process powerful emotions and to imagine how others process feelings and experiences. The stories can be scary, but ultimately, the characters aren’t human and the story isn’t real. The power of the well-written allegory, whether featuring gods or humans or animals, is to deliver difficult messages and complicated themes in easy-to-read stories.

Books about real animals, particularly animals in the wild, serve to educate readers about nature and, sometimes, our impact on it. Misty of Chincoteague was my very favorite book series as a girl. I read it over and over and credit my lifetime appreciation for the natural world to lessons learned in reading those stories. Just last month, I traveled for the first time (and with my college-age son) to the Virginia island where the real-life Misty lived. Misty’s story has helped keep Chincoteague Island a beautiful refuge for feral herds of ponies.

Here’s a list of our favorites—a little something for animal lovers, inquiring minds, or any child looking for a great story to read on a  warm summer day.

Grades Kindergarten to Second

What’s Your Favorite Animal edited by Eric Carle, various authors
Thirteen beloved authors and illustrators, including Jon Klassen, Lane Smith, Mo Willems, and Rosemary Wells, collaborated with Eric Carle to draw their favorite animals and explain why they love them. This collection is sure to keep youngsters engaged, and may inspire them to write about and draw their favorite animals. At the end, the reader will find a childhood photo of each contributor with their pet, as well as information about their books. All profits go to benefit the Eric Carle Museum of Picture Book Art.

Yaks Yak: Animal Word Pairs by Linda Sue Park, Illustrated by Jennifer Black Reinhardt
This clever introduction to animal-themed homographs also works as a vocabulary lesson and a catchy read-aloud. Our children are introduced to an array of animals paired with verbs that share their names: “Cranes crane” their elongated necks in one spread, while “Slugs slug slugs” with boxing gloves. “Ack! I’m upside down! I’m upside down!” yells a floundering flounder, and one badger badgers another about the apple it’s carrying, his long-winded pleas too big to fit in the speech bubbles above his head.

Grades 3-4

Misty of Chincoteague (series) written by Marguerite Henry, Illustrated by Dennis Wesley
Marguerite Henry wrote nearly sixty children’s books and stories based on real animals, but this Newbery Honor book is by far her most well-known. In the 1940s, she went to a Virginia island, where she learned all about the herd of wild ponies originating from a sunken Spanish galleon off the coast. Spending time on the island, getting to know the families, and even bringing a Chincoteague pony back to her home in Illinois to spend time with while writing, were all part of the creation of this historical fiction series. This is a charming and memorable tale of a young boy and girl living in a much simpler time, whose hard work and patience paid off. Misty’s descendants still roam the beaches of Chincoteague, partly in thanks to this compelling novel.

I am Jane Goodal – Ordinary People Change the World (series) written by Brad Meltzer
This series was written for the author’s own children so that they could understand that the power to change the world is within them. The heroes are depicted as children throughout, telling their life stories in first-person present tense, which keeps the books playful and understandable to young children. This book starts with her love of animals as a very young child and has a beautiful message to children about accomplishing your dreams by being patient, working hard, and knowing that each of us has an impact on the world.

Grades 5-8

Song for a Whale written by Lynne Kelly
Twelve-year-old Iris, the only deaf student in her sixth-grade class, struggles to communicate with kids at school. She feels a strong connection with Blue 55, a lone whale who can’t communicate with others because its voice is on a different frequency. Iris becomes determined to compose a song for Blue 55 at his frequency and to play it for him in person. This story is great for anyone who loves animals or has struggled to fit in.

The One and Only Ivan written by Katherine Applegate
Ivan is an easygoing gorilla. Living at the Exit 8 Big Top Mall and Video Arcade, he has grown accustomed to humans watching him through the glass walls of his domain. He rarely misses his life in the jungle. In fact, he hardly ever thinks about it at all. Instead, Ivan thinks about TV shows he’s seen and about his friends Stella, an elderly elephant, and Bob, a stray dog. But mostly Ivan thinks about art and how to capture the taste of a mango or the sound of leaves with color and a well-placed line. Then he meets Ruby, a baby elephant taken from her family, and she makes Ivan see their home—and his own art—through new eyes. When Ruby arrives, change comes with her, and it’s up to Ivan to make it a change for the better. If you like this Newbery Award-winning book, try the sequel, The One and Only Bob.

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What happens when you physically can’t be in two places at once? And, all of a sudden, you’re relying on someone else to pick up the slack, the slack you dropped, regardless of what circumstance caused you to drop it. Then, imagine that the person you have to depend on is (a) someone you hadn’t counted on in a long time and (b) someone you certainly wouldn’t want to know you needed help.

On a snowy day soon after my divorce, that’s what happened, and, for the first time, I got a taste of what being a divorced single parent was all about. Despite being newly free from a marriage that brought me pain and dragged me down, I hadn’t counted on the rush of emotions I would experience after missing something as simple as a 20-minute parent-teacher conference.

And, damn it, I deserved that romantic getaway, too! It was my off-weekend or, as I like to call it, divorce’s silver lining. I had recently started dating a man, someone I liked very much. I was living in Minnesota, co-parenting with my ex-husband nearby. The man I was seeing, however, lived in Seattle. So the night before Thanksgiving, I dropped the kids off at my ex’s and got on a plane to the West Coast to spend some time together.

I scheduled myself to fly back to Minnesota on Sunday, right in time for my daughter’s sophomore parent-teacher conferences on Monday. Up until that point, I had never missed a parent-teacher conference for any of our four kids. But as I sat at the Seattle airport looking at unseasonal snow everywhere, I realized there was a first time for everything. I was beside myself with guilt.

Reluctantly, I called my ex-husband and told him that I would need him to attend the conference. He had only gone to a few such conferences over the years, but I knew he’d be fine. Unfortunately, he didn’t feel the same sense of confidence I did. Believing he needed a cheat sheet, he instructed our 15-year-old daughter to write a paragraph about each class.

She was horrified. How could her dad ask her to do homework when she already had so much, and only so he could attend her parent-teacher conference? It was ludicrous. I didn’t know whether to laugh or cry. I think I did both, along with our daughter, although for different reasons. Could my missing something as basic as a parent-teacher conference cause such pain to all of us?

Our daughter did the “assignment” and then blamed me. After all, if I hadn’t brought this new man into my life, which meant into our family, I wouldn’t have fallen short on missing yet another important “Mom” thing. She was right. But she was also wrong because I knew in my head that as a single woman, I should have the chance to find a partner I would be happy with and want to share my life with one day. Either way, it didn’t stop my heart from hurting. Because of my trip, my so-called selfishness, I was the one who failed. I was sick with guilt.

As for the conference, my ex-husband passed with flying colors. He heard all about our daughter’s classes, how she was doing, and what areas she needed to work on throughout the school year. He relayed the information to me, and although I felt guilty that I missed hearing the information firsthand and that my ex punished our daughter because I wasn’t there to listen to it directly, I felt relieved.

Even in my absence, the sun still came up the next day, my ex-husband survived the ordeal, and our daughter eventually forgave me. I knew then I wasn’t the only one who had to be in a certain place at a certain time or do everything with and for my kids just because my title was “Mom.” With that one missed flight and one missed conference, I was liberated from all of the pressure I put on myself. It was life-changing—for the better, for all of us as a family, including my ex-husband.

Years later, when my new husband (the same guy I was visiting in Seattle) and I were traveling and both unable to attend my son’s sixth-grade parent-teacher conference, my husband’s daughter, a recent college grad, was up for the challenge. She went on mine and my son’s father’s behalf, as he still lived back in Minnesota and was unable to come. (He later moved to Seattle, too, to avoid missing such moments.)

Everyone at the school commented about how “cool” it was that my son’s older step-sister came to the conference, how many insightful questions she asked, and how supportive she was of him and his learning. And she did it all without making her stepbrother do extra homework, sending my newly blended family straight to the head of the class.

Elise Buie, Esq. is a Seattle-based family and divorce lawyer and founder of ​Elise Buie Family Law Group​. A champion for maintaining civility throughout the divorce process, Elise advocates for her clients and the best interests of their children, helping them move forward with dignity and strength.

Tablet-based edutainment apps are great for busy families on the go, but for kids who have access to a laptop or desktop computer, browser-based online games can provide a much-needed reprieve from tablet fatigue. There are plenty of kid-friendly, educational online game sites to choose from, and many offer a selection of content free of charge. Read on to see our picks of the best online games for kids of all ages.

MarcoPolo World School

MarcoPolo

This award-winning platform offers a dynamic, relatable STEAM curriculum featuring over 450+ lessons and over 3,000 activities, with new content added weekly, this is your go-to for kids from 3-7. With a diverse array of projects, including hands-on arts & crafts, stunning videos and more, your kiddo can travel the world learning about science, technology, engineering, art and math without ever leaving your house. 

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ABCMouse.com Early Learning Academy

Featuring more than 850 lessons across 10 levels of learning, ABC Mouse is a one-stop-shop for pre-school and early elementary online education. The website’s online curriculum includes more than 9,000 individuals learning activities in reading, math, science and art. Young learners will be delighted by the website’s interactive games and activities, which are brought to life with colorful animations and fun music, but older kids may find some of the lessons a bit too easy. ABCmouse.com members also can download the mobile app to access many of the same lessons, compatible with most smartphones and tablets.

Preschool to third grade, subscription plans start at $9.95/monthly, abcmouse.com

ABCYa!

ABCYa! offers more than 300 online games for students ranging from preschool to fifth grade. While many of the website’s large collection of gamified math and reading lessons are available free of charge, an online subscription removes ads and gives access to additional content. Nifty video tutorials on the website show kids how to make a variety of crafty projects, like origami tulips and slime. Like an increasing number of formerly online-only gaming sites, ABCYa! is also available as a mobile app for Android, Kindle and iOS, which provides access to most of the website’s catalog of games and activities.

Preschool to fifth grade, subscription plans start at $6.99/monthly, abcya.com

BrainPOP Jr.

While BrainPOP Jr.’s website offers some free content, including select games and videos, the good stuff can be found behind a subscription paywall. Designed for students in kindergarten through third grade, BrainPOP Jr.’s curriculum is standards-aligned and features movies, quizzes, games, and activities that cover subjects ranging from science, reading and writing, math, health, social studies, and arts and technology. As learners graduate to more advanced learning, there’s BrainPop, for fourth graders and older, and GameUp, a companion educational gaming site.

Kindergarten to third grade, subscription plans start at $9.45/monthly, jr.brainpop.com

Fact Monster

Not so much an online educational gaming website, Fact Monster is a neatly organized, kid-friendly online resource for elementary school students to discover fun facts and get homework help on a wide variety of subjects. Curated by educational professionals, the detailed content is rich with information that’s easily accessible and comprehensible to young learners. Students can easily navigate through the website and select specific skills and concepts that they want to explore. Think of it as an interactive, virtual encyclopedia.

Kindergarten to fourth grade, free, ad-supported, factmonster.com

Fun Brain

Started more than 20 years ago, Fun Brain is a leader in free educational online games for kids, offering hundreds of games, books, comics, and videos that help students develop skills in math, reading, problem-solving, and literacy. Although there are plenty of banner ads on the website, the collection of fun, interactive games will engross students who may not even realize that they are learning while they play. As a bonus, site visitors also can read a variety of popular kids’ books and comics, including Diary of a Wimpy Kid, Amelia Writes Again, and Brewster Rocket.

Pre-k to eighth grade, free, ad-supported, funbrain.com

Mr. Nussbaum

Boasting more than 3,500 pages of content, including plenty of learning games on a variety of subjects, Mr. Nussbaum is free educational gaming website created by a school teacher named Greg Nussbaum. The look and feel of many of the games are decidedly old school, but unexpectedly addictive. Students can learn math skills, language arts and geography, among other subjects, through engaging interactive games and activities.

Pre-k to sixth grade, free, ad-supported, with paid ad-free memberships coming soon, mrnussbaum.com

Multiplication.com

Imagine playing Super Mario Bros. and in the middle of collecting coins, you have to answer a multiplication question in order to move on. That’s a little bit like the experience of playing the interactive multiplication games on Multiplication.com. Which is to say, the gameplay is super-fun—at least for students who like math and gaming. Although the website has a generic look and feel, the games are engaging and effective. Most games are free, and a paid subscription removes ads.

Second grade to sixth grade, subscription plans start at $9.45/monthly, multiplication.com

National Geographic Kids Games

National Geographic’s free gaming hub for kids is chock-full of more than 100 fun, interactive games and activities themed around science and geography. Gameplay range from quizzes to puzzles, as well as videos and beautifully photographed stories and essays. Parents and kids can register for a free subscription to monitor and save progress on the website, and a link to Nat Geo’s online store sells neat educational products like STEM toys and science- and geography-related books.

Kindergarten to fourth grade, free, kids.nationalgeographic.com/games

PBS Kids Games

The appeal of PBS Kids online game hub is the free access to a huge number of browser-based gaming experiences based on popular character franchises like The Cat in the Hat, Curious George, Sesame Street, and more. Online games are organized by subjects that include math, healthy habits, science, reading, and teamwork.

Kindergarten to fifth grade, free, pbskids.org/games

Prongo.com

Prongo.com is an educational website that offers fun, interactive, and educational games for kids. In addition to engaging interactive games and activities, the website also features free downloadable clip art, wallpaper, kids jokes, screensavers, and more. Online games are sorted by age groups, ranging from matching and memory games, mazes, puzzles, tic-tac-toe, and more. Brain Teasers are timed quizzes that cover topics such as dinosaurs, the human body, outer space, and inventors.

Preschool to fifth grade, free, ad-supported, prongo.com

Scholastic Games

Education publishing house Scholastic’s online hub offers a fun place for kids to spend time and learn while they play. With content organized by age and interest, the site features web-based games and quizzes as well as links to Scholastic’s growing catalog of mobile apps. Much of the content is geared toward parents and teachers, but there’s plenty of fun stuff for kids that’s interesting and engaging, including Scholastic book-themed games, like Captain Underpants, Goosebump, and The 39 Clues.

Kindergarten to fifth grade, free web games, with additional purchase options, scholastic.com/kids/games

Sheppard Software

This barebones educational gaming website features a collection of hundreds of interactive games aimed at young learners. From science to math to language arts and more, the Flash-based gameplay lets players click-and-drag through different activities that will engage young students with sounds and visual effects to make learning fun and more memorable.

Preschool to second grade, free, ad-supported, sheppardsoftware.com

Starfall

Funded by the Starfall Education Foundation, a publicly supported nonprofit organization, the Starfall website was created in 2002 as a free, public service to help teach children to read wtih phonics. Using audiovisual interactivity, games on the website are suited for kids in preschool through second grade. An optional membership expands the free content to include additional music, math, and reading activities.

Preschool to second grade, free with additional membership options, starfall.com

—Kipp Jarecke-Cheng

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Did you know that reading aloud is the single most important activity you can do to help a child succeed in reading? It’s true! And here are just four of the many reasons why.

1. Builds Vocabulary 
Young children learn words primarily through listening. Obviously, conversation plays a big role but reading picture books offers more rich and diverse language than child-centered conversations alone. And don’t worry about kids understanding every word. Just hearing the words in context is helpful.

2. Increases Focus
Unlike watching TV, being read to delivers a slower pace of ideas. Children learn to listen and concentrate as you explain the unfolding events of a story. Over time, this can help increase a child’s attention span.

3. Encourages Bonding & Creativity
There’s no question that your voice is the one that makes a difference! Snuggling up for a good read helps a child feel secure which allows her or his imagination to soar. Even books that seem beyond a beginner’s comprehension can mesmerize a child because of the rhythm of your language. Reading aloud to grandchildren is especially impactful in strengthening multigenerational relationships.

4. Fosters a Life-long Love of Reading
According to Jim Trelease, author of The Read-Aloud Handbook, “Every time we read to a child, we’re sending a ‘pleasure’ message to the child’s brain.”  This creates a happy association with books and reading. Further, an enjoyable read-aloud experience often encourages a beginning reader who might be having difficulty mastering early skills.

There’s no way you can make a mistake reading aloud to a child. But here’s a tip. Before you read a book to a young child, experts often recommend you take a “picture walk” through the pages. This allows you to set the stage for reading by pointing out the setting. You can also ask your “Little” to make a prediction about what might happen next.

The beauty of building a strong read-aloud culture in your home is that it lasts for such a long time. Even when children can easily read on their own (9-11 years old), they love to listen to a book being read—and discussed—with them. My own sixth grade teacher knew this well. Each day after lunch she would sit at her desk in the front of the classroom and patiently wait for us thirty breathless kids to wind down our rowdy recess personas and give her our rapt attention.

At first we were insulted by the whole notion. How could the senior leaders of the elementary school submit to such a juvenile practice? Little did we know that after just a few days we would be absolutely hooked! To this day I remember her animated voice as she toured us through the classics. My personal favorite was A.A. Milne’s Winnie-the-Pooh in which a bear “of very little brain” obsessed about honey while teaching us all a thing or two about the important art of friendship.

When the class moved on to junior high level, the quiet regret of so many of us was that we had to leave our read-aloud time behind. In retrospect, I’m quite sure that those lovely hours spent appreciating the written word was one of the contributing factors that led to my own love of story—and my career as a children’s book author.

Remember, you don’t need a special occasion to read with a child. Parents often establish a bedtime routine with children but there’s no reason you can’t enjoy a read together any time! And time is also not a factor. Even a 15 minute ritual can reap major benefits.

So enjoy the read-aloud experience…and just watch the benefits grow!

 

Kate Jerome, a seasoned publishing executive and award-winning children’s book author, is co-founder of Little Bridges, an innovative company dedicated to creating products that foster enduring multi-generational experiences, including themed, intergenerational activity kits with content and activities designed to encourage interactive experiences and meaningful conversations based on family traditions and history. 

Are you happy?  The question is innocent enough. My four-year-old who is running around the house with his plastic sword in case we get attacked by Princess Robots (yeah, don’t ask) stops dead in his tracks to ask me.

I’m always happy when I’m with you, I instinctively reply. The truth, the truth, I’ll always tell him the truth, I think to myself as I justify the obfuscation by rationalizing that I am indeed always happy in his presence. But this prescient, empathic, stubborn-persistent little boy follows up: Are you happy when you’re sad? I smile. Caught.

In the moment’s melancholy and awed by his ability to read me, I answer: Yes. I’m thinking of your Abuelo. And I’m happy and sad. Content that he got the answer he knew was right, he moved back to the Princess Robots. An Abuelo he’s never met. An Abuelo who would revel in his prescient, persistent precociousness. An Abuelo who doesn’t know he exists.

The earliest memory I have of my Father, is of him giving me 15 cents (I am that old) to go to the corner of the strip-mall to buy a colada. For the uninitiated, a colada is a cup, yes a cup, of espresso that is then poured into tiny cups that people do as shots. He would watch me from one end of the strip-mall as I walked to the other end, to make the purchase at the bakery window. Most bakeries in Miami, at least those that aren’t particularly fancy, have take-out windows. I could do this because at six-years-old I was a big-boy. And, I was allowed certain freedoms and responsibilities.

By eight-years-old, I was helping him in the family business; digging in the earth, planting trees, fertilizing plants. But not too much. My brother did most of that work, with rare protest. I was the fancy child even then. I can, however, still recite the mantra he instilled in me: Make the hole bigger than the root ball so that it fits comfortably in the ground; throw some loose dirt at the bottom and around the root ball to make it easier for the roots to spread; don’t pack the dirt too tightly, you’ll just get in the tree’s way; water, fertilize and leave the rest to nature. I still plant trees in the same way. Little did I know then, the old man was also teaching me how to raise a child. But that’s the subject of another essay. Always leave them wanting more.

By age 15, we would get into ferocious arguments about the need to lift the trade embargo against Cuba. I was for lifting, he was against. His heart still freshly bleeding from the wounds of having to leave a country he loved; even though it had been almost 30 years by then. Of course, during that time, my Father knew nothing, and I knew everything. Still, I marveled in awe with how he could recall with precision his exploits in Cuba and Venezuela, at first selling fruit on the streets with my Mother to eke out a living in support my brother and sister, long before I was born. Then later, owning businesses that were acclaimed by heads of state. I still wish I had told him then how much I loved his stories.

In my early 20s the distance grew between us—physical distance; as I left that godforsaken city and traveled to Washington, D.C. to study. I made the begrudging weekly phone calls. And I remember one in particular. I was on the verge of quitting law school: emotionally wrecked, overwhelmed, and anxious as all. Yet, using every ounce of skill he had as the finest negotiator in the world, he talked me off the edge of the cliff. Not too bad for a guy who never got past the sixth grade. This time, he recalled with great joy my great exploits, and how proud he was of me. He drew on examples of things I had long since forgotten or thought trivial; yet, in his fatherly eyes were luminous.

In my 30s our relationship hit its emotional stride. My Father knew everything, and he acknowledged I knew some things. In his 70s he was funny, uncensored, irreverent, and sharp-as-a-tack. He would go toe-to-toe with me, and with my husband quip for quip. He would regale us with stories of things that happened when I was a child; of his adventures with my mother; of my siblings. We traveled the world together. But we did notice his short-term memory started to fail.

One Thanksgiving, while staying at my sister’s house for a week, I noticed my Dad had been washing his underwear daily in the sink. I checked his suitcase, sure enough, his then-wife had packed him enough underwear for the entire stay. I asked him why he was washing his underwear. I need clean underwear, he answered.

At 93 Dad remembers nothing. The deterioration was slow. And painful. And excruciating to watch.  And the memories that are locked inside that, yes, beautiful mind are inaccessible.

My son does not know his Abuelo. I will regale him with stories that are locked in my mind, for as long as I am able. Stories about that prescient, empathic, stubborn-persistent man that he will never meet; a man that he would revel in. A man that in his youth, as a prescient, persistent precocious child, worked the sugar cane fields to support his family. A man that talked me off many a ledge. A man that raised his own brothers. A man that knew to give a root ball space. A man that was happy, even when he was sad.

And even though I am a more imitation than original, he will still hear his voice. And together they will fight the Princess Robots.

 

 

This post originally appeared on Mr. Alex’s Bookshelf.
ALEXANDER FERNÁNDEZ
Tinybeans Voices Contributor

Father, children's book critic, writer, judge, director, actor and amature photographer—together with his husband of 25 years—raising an energetic four-year old! "Parent is not just a noun, it's a verb.  If you're ever in doubt as to what to do, substitute the word caregiver.  It will steer you in the right direction."  

“Being a teenager is so easy,” said no one ever. The tween and teen years can be difficult, as kids face topics and social situations that can dramatically affect their outlook and self-esteem. As parents, we strive to help our kids be the best they can be, but it’s a brave new world out there and finding but positive outside influences to help kids cope and comprehend isn’t always easy either.

Enter Melissa Hart’s Better with Books: 500 Diverse Books to Ignite Empathy and Encourage Self-Acceptance in Tweens and Teens. This is not just a list of great titles every kid should read (although we do think every kid should read all of these, and every grown up for that matter). Hart has carefully read and evaluated hundreds of books—500 to be exact—and chosen them as recommended reading for tweens and teens, categorized by important topics modern kids face.

Chapter topics include homelessness, immigration, adoption, body image, race, gender identity, mental health and more. Each chapter includes a thoughtful, personal essay from the author on why this topic was important to her to address.

Inspired by her experience with eh own daughter, Hart says:

“I really owe this one to my daughter, now in sixth grade. In her early years of grammar school, she struggled with anxiety related to loss and neglect—issues common to children adopted from the foster care system, and, in many cases, from international adoption situations. […] My daughter and I found, in studying a literary novel each month over two years, that our compassion for marginalized people and animals increased. As exciting, my child—who had struggled with severe anxiety and depression—began to develop a great deal of empathy for herself.”

If you’re looking to diversify your books at home, school or your local library, Melissa Hart just gave you marching orders. It’s up to you to fulfill them.

Find it here $11.79

Learn more at melissahart.com

—Amber Guetebier

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The year was 1973, and my first act of subversion (or at least that was how the principal described it) was to allow the girls a turn to play with the large red rubber playground balls.  Until my arrival as a fifth-grade teacher at the public school in an urban area near Boston, girls were given jump ropes to play with during recess while boys were given large red rubber balls. They were assigned separate areas of the blacktop lot where recess took place to use the balls and jump ropes. 

The boys had a lively game of “punchball” each day which along with promoting lots of physical activity and social interaction, looked like tons of fun. Chatting about the day’s game continued in the classroom well after recess had ended. I asked the girls in my class if they had any interest in playing punchball, and they wholeheartedly agreed that they did, but reiterated to me the rule of the school—that balls were for boys only.

When asked about the jump ropes, the boys were less interested in using them until I mentioned that boxers and other athletes jumped rope to stay in shape.  When I later displayed some magazine photographs of Mohammad Ali and other sports figures using a jump rope, they definitely became more enthusiastic.

I put the topic of recess equipment on our agenda for our next class meeting, and it was decided after much discussion that the kids would take turns trading off the use of the balls and jump ropes, every other day. While most of the boys weren’t thrilled with the arrangement initially, everyone agreed that this was the fair thing to do. Everyone that is, except the principal.

Once news of this new arrangement reached him, I was called into his office. He was quite upset with me that I was interfering with what had always been the tradition at the school. His branding of me as a “woman’s libber” was not meant as a compliment, but I was determined to keep up the new turn taking. I reminded him of the recently passed Title IX law of the Education Amendments Acts of 1972, which essentially extended equal access to athletic programs for girls and boys and as far as I was concerned that included our red punchballs and jump ropes.

It was the first of many small but hard-fought battles against rigid gender stereotyping that I would wage for my students both male and female in the years to follow. I was reminded of this particular challenge recently when a friend forwarded this article about a gender neutral nursery school in Sweden that specifically sets out to tackle gender stereotypes.

It is a fascinating article, well worth the read. The nursery school described in the article has taken serious measures to address all areas of gender stereotyping, well beyond my attempt at mixing up recess, back in the day. And while I am not an enemy of gender or advocating for gender policing, as an educator, I have always felt a responsibility to challenge rigid gender roles in any educational community that I have been a part of.

As a nursery school Director, I dissuaded my staff from calling attention to gender by addressing the students not according to their gender, but as children. Teachers were discouraged from having the children line up in two lines, one for boys and one for girls. When I was growing up in the fifties and sixties this was not only common practice, but many schools had separate entrances, with the words “Boys” and “Girls” etched in stone above the doors. It really makes you wonder what they thought would happen if a child used the wrong door!

Every nursery school teacher has heard a child announce with confidence, “Those dolls are for girls to play with” or “She can’t play with that, that’s a boy’s toy.” In my experience, the best response to such proclamations is a neutral, “Why is that a boy or girl’s toy?” and “I think boys and girls can play with any toys they want.” Children from an early age should get the message loud and clear that it is what’s so great about playing; there are no girl toys and no boy toys—just toys!

As a parent or caregiver, you are in a position to send a message about gender that is open and inclusive. Yes your son may, or may not, gravitate toward vehicles and balls, and yes your daughter may or may not, always choose the princess dress-up, and whatever their choices or preferences, all of it is perfectly okay. What is not okay is not giving children space and opportunity to explore it all. 

By the time my fifth graders moved on to sixth grade, all of the classes in the middle school were sharing all of the playground equipment, we even instituted a coed punchball game on Friday, yes, radical for the time, but lots and lots of fun!

I am a parent and grandparent with over four decades of experience in early childhood education. I share my passion, wisdom and experience, with parents and the people who care for and about children at Little Folks Big Questions, where we're out to answer the questions parents face in today's world.

How much should teachers praise students? According to a newly published study from researchers at Brigham Young University, the University of Kansas and Vanderbilt University, the answer is the more the better.

The study, which was published in the journal Educational Psychology, found a higher praise-to-reprimand ratio raised the chances of the students engaging in on-task behavior.

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Researchers collected data for three years in 151 kindergarten through sixth grade classrooms from 19 U.S. elementary schools. They discovered that the classrooms with the highest praise-to-reprimand ratios had students who spent 20 to 30 percent longer focusing on either the task or the teacher than the classes with the lowest ratios.

Paul Caldarella, a professor at BYU’s McKay School of Education and lead author of the study said in a press release, “Even if teachers praised as much as they reprimanded, students’ on-task behavior reached 60 percent.” Caldarella continued, “However, if teachers could increase their praise to reprimand ratio to 2:1 or higher, they would see even more improvements in the classroom.”

When it comes to the connect between praise and behavior, Caldarella said, “Behavior that is reinforced tends to increase, so if teachers are praising students for good behavior—such as attending to the teacher, asking for help appropriately, etc.—it stands to reason that this behavior will increase, and learning will improve.”

—Erica Loop

 

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Seattle families love our sports. From the Seahawks to the Mariners to our yet-to-be-named NHL team, we can’t get enough. Next time your kids need a sports fix, consider taking them to a college sporting event. Attending is easier and less expensive; plus, with four fantastic schools that boast an exciting array of teams, it’s a win for everyone. Read on to find can’t-miss events for the weeks to come.

University of Washington

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Whether you call them the Huskies, the Dawgs, or simply U-Dub, the University of Washington is one of the oldest and most prestigious universities on the West Coast. With 23 intercollegiate athletic programs, top-notch facilities for every sport and championship teams across the spectrum, it's easy to be a fan. Fan families can take advantage of the Pups & Parents package. Each purchase grants two admissions (one parent, one child) to designated games for these sports: volleyball, soccer, women's basketball, gymnastics, baseball and softball. Join the P&P and treat your kids to a life of athletic pursuits or at least Husky fandom.

Upcoming Events

Pac-12 Swimming & Diving Championships
Head down to Federal Way to cheer the Huskies to victory at the Pac-12 finals! Cal, Stanford and USC are all ranked in the national top 20 in each sport, but they're no match for the Huskies. Check out the schedule of events for Women's Swimming and Men's & Women's Diving and Men's Swimming. Event details.

Feb. 26-29 & Mar. 4-7
Weyerhaeuser King County Aquatic Center
650 S.W. Campus Dr.
Federal Way, WA 98023

UW Fan Fest & Spring Football Preview
Excitement is running high under new head coach Jimmy Lake, so be among the first to check out the 2020 Husky men's football team! Fan Fest kicks off in the indoor practice facility with football fun for fans and fams, and freebies and festivities for small fry. Then the event moves outdoors for the first Husky practice of spring football. Go Dawgs!

Apr. 25, TBD
Dempsey Indoor Practice Facility
Alaska Airlines Field at Husky Stadium
3800 Montlake Blvd N.E.
Seattle, WA 98195

Windermere Cup & Opening Day Regatta
Every year UW creates one of Seattle's finest spring traditions by celebrating the opening day of boating season with this rowing classic. The free, family-friendly event sees the University of Washington compete against top U.S. and international teams. The event also includes food and drink vendors, kid-friendly activities and free giveaways. Following the races, fans are invited to join the champions for an awards ceremony near the finish line. Be sure to arrive early to stake out your spot on the Montlake Bridge or along the Cut. Event details.

May 2, 10 a.m.
Montlake Cut

Insider tip: Anywhere along the Cut provides a fantastic experience, but consider cheering for the Husky winners at the finish line, located on the northwest side of the Cut behind the UW Medical Center. The Montlake Bridge is another great (albeit packed) spot to watch the big races. It offers bird's eye views of the starting line to the east and the finish line to the west.

Good to know: Many UW spring sporting events are totally free all season, including men's and women's tennis, rowing, track, and beach volleyball!

Huskies Ticket Office
3910 Montlake Boulevard
Graves Building Room 101
Seattle, Wa 98195-4070
206-543-2200
Online: gohuskies.com

Seattle Pacific University

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Located along the Fremont Cut, the NCAA Division II SPU Falcons play 13 different varsity sports. Last year the Falcons won four Great Northwest Athletic Conference team championships in women’s indoor track & field and outdoor track too. Plus, the Falcons men's basketball team just pulled off an eight game winning streak on the road to March Madness. Long story short, it's a great time to learn to love these teams.

Upcoming Events

National Girls & Women in Sports Day Celebration
How about a two-fer? Watch the SPU women's basketball team take on the Western Washington Vikings and celebrate females in sports at the same time! Expect fun giveaways like Falcon scrunchies, a free yoga class, a climbing gym pass, and more. Psst...Promo code: NGW20 will get you $4 tickets. Event details.

Feb. 6, 5:15 p.m.
Brougham Pavilion
3414 3rd Ave. W.
Seattle, WA 98119

Girl Scouts Night 
The kids will flip for Falcon Gymnastics at this event. Extra perks to Girl Scouts (who receive a free patch) but the whole family will marvel at the feats of strength and agility. So bring the fam out to support the team!

Feb. 21, 7 p.m.
Brougham Pavilion
3414 3rd Ave. W.
Seattle, WA 98119

Falcon Regatta
Looking for something exciting to do with tiny early risers? Pack up the fam and head to the Lake Washington ship canal to catch the Annual Falcon Regatta. The Falcons will have free donuts and coffee on hand shortly after sunrise. Best of all, tickets are free! Event details.

Mar. 14, 8:30 a.m.
Lake Washington Ship Canal
Seattle, WA 98118

Falcons Ticket Office
Brougham Pavilion
3414 3rd Ave. W.
Seattle, WA 98119
206-281-2085
Online: spufalcons.com

Seattle University

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With a proud history that includes NBA Hall-of-Famer Elgin Baylor, Seattle University is back in NCAA Division I athletics after 29 years. The Redhawks have recently pulled off some stunning upsets over nationally-known teams, so it's a great time to become a fan. In fact, Seattle U wants to afford all grade school children the opportunity to experience the college environment through the fun of sports. Kids sixth grade and younger can join Rudy's Kids Club for free. Membership includes free tickets to select events, exclusive invites to Rudy's Club events, even autograph opps. Sign us up!

Upcoming Events

Fan Appreciation Day
The Redhawks are in the thick of things in the WAC race this year, so show your support against the Chicago State Cougars. They'll have groovy giveaways like fanny packs, deals on Chicago dogs, and discount coupons from team sponsor Pagliacci Pizza. Yum! Event details.

Mar. 5, 7 p.m.
Redhawk Center
550 14th Ave.
Seattle, WA 98112

Final Regular Season Men's Basketball Game
Cheer the Redhawks on to victory against the UMKC Kangaroos in their final game before the WAC Championship tournament in Las Vegas. This important game takes place in the 7,000 seat ShoWare Center in Kent, so arrive early and be loud!

Mar. 7, 1 p.m.
ShoWare Center
625 W James St.
Kent, WA 98032

Women's Softball First Home Game
Celebrate the return of spring by cheering for the Redhawks at their first home game.

Mar. 12, TBD
Bannerwood Park
1790 Richards Rd.
Bellevue, WA 98005

Redhawks Ticket Office
O’Brien Center
901 12th Street
Seattle, WA 98122
206-398-GOSU
Online: goseattleu.com

Bellevue College

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Home of the Bulldogs, Bellevue College competes in 11 different men's and women's sports. This Eastside, hometown fave competes as part of the Northwest Athletic Conference (NWCA). With baseball and softball season just around the corner, now's a good time to become a fan. Check out these upcoming games for electrifying fun with the fam.

Upcoming Events

Softball
Coach Lisa Francis has built this team into a force to be reckoned with, and their 42-7 overall 2019 record proves it. Catch the women as they take on the Edmonds Tritons and Everett Trojans in two, exiting games this spring.

Apr. 25 & May 2, noon & 2 p.m.
Bellevue College Softball Field
3000 Landerholm Cir. S.E.
Bellevue, WA 98007

Baseball
Recognized as one of the top junior baseball teams in the country, the Bulldogs are fun to watch. Come out to support the team this spring!

Apr. 4 & 26, 1 & 4 p.m.
Courter Baseball Field
3000 Landerholm Cir. S.E.
Bellevue, WA 98007

Bellevue College
3000 Landerholm Cir. S.E.
Bellevue, WA 98007
425-564-2396
Online: bellevuecollege.edu

—Natalie Compagno

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