Sometimes, saying “I’m proud of you” can make all the difference
When you become a parent, you pick up the basics pretty quickly. It’s figuring out how to raise happy and confident kids that can be a challenge as the years go on. What we do know is that positive words for kids will go a long way to help boost their confidence and change their day for the better—sometimes it’s words of encouragement, and sometimes it’s just a simple “I love you.” In that spirit, here are 30 positive things to say to kids.
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1. You make me smile. Telling your kiddo they make you happy is one thing. But telling them they're the reason for your smile will give them happiness and a sense of pride that'll stick around all day.
2. Your words matter. The old saying "sticks and stones" isn't entirely accurate. Let your kids know that words have power.
3. Tell me one good thing that happened today. Focusing on the positive helps keep the bad stuff at bay.
4. Tell me one bad thing that happened today. It’s important to talk about the bad stuff too.
5. I'm proud of you for doing XYZ. When kids hear that someone is proud of them, it has a big impact on them. Think of one positive thing, and tell your little one about it.
6. Mistakes happen. Kids are a messy business, and they may ruin the nice stuff you own. But what's more important—material things (just keep the priceless china stashed away) or your kids knowing they can come to you when they make a mistake? That knowledge that you love them unconditionally goes a long way in life.
7. How are you? Asking your kiddo how she feels shows that you are interested in them. Brandi Russell, a pediatric occupational therapist, and parenting coach recommends checking in with your little ones just as you would a spouse or friend.
8. What would you do? This is a great response to kids always asking for help with things. Empower them while giving yourself a break. You may not think much of it now, but that empowerment goes a long way as they grow older.
9. What nice thing did you do or say today? Encourage kindness by reinforcing it daily.
10. Nothing will change my love for you. This phrase may seem self-evident, but sometimes kids need you to state the obvious. Rebecca Eans, the bestselling author of Positive Parenting, believes you can't go wrong with this loving reminder.
11. Don’t let mean people define who you are. There will always be bullies in life. This simple phrase helps kids know that negative voices are not the most important, and it's a lesson they can remember as they encounter difficult people as teens and adults.
12. I like it when you … Even when the kids are driving you crazy, there’s always at least one thing they did that made you smile.
13. Please. If we want respect as parents, then we need to show that same behavior to our kids.Dr. John DeGarmo, a national foster parent coach, advocates parents should always say "please" and "thank you" to model respectful behavior.
14. Clean up your toys, dishes, or whatever is left out. Encourage kids to take ownership of cleaning up their belongings, says Maureen Healy, author of Growing Happy Kids. Even if it’s just one or two items a day, it will help you in the long run.
15. That’s smart thinking. Sometimes hearing you’re smart is even more powerful than telling a kid she looks cute. That early feeling of being called intelligent is sometimes one of the memories kids remember most as they grow.
16. I like you. Kids may hear the words “I love you” regularly, but do they know you like them too?
17. I’m proud of you. They know you love them. But do they know you’re proud of them too? Author, and clinical psychologist, Dr. Sherrie Campbell believes those words are just as important as affirmations of love to kids.
18. Thank you. Social skills and courtesy are important in the home and outside of it, and they are skills that go through adulthood.
19. I’m sorry. We all lose our temper or make mistakes. Dr. Alison Mitzner, a pediatric specialist, believes what’s important is how we react.
20. Just be yourself. Teach your kids they’re enough, and they never have to be anyone else.
21. I love being with you.Amy McCready is a parenting educator who believes encouraging words and phrases go a long way to help your kids feel safe and secure. Telling your little one how you love being with them is a great positive affirmation they'll never tire of hearing.
22. Do your best. It’s not about the result. It’s about how you get there.
23. Always tell the truth, even if it’s not great. The sooner kids know you’ll still love them after hearing the truth—even if it’s not great—the more truthful they’ll be as they grow.
24. I'm listening. What do you want to say? According to Katie Hurley, LCSW, 57% of girls say they don’t always tell their parents certain things because they don’t want their parents to think badly of them. Show your kids you do care what they have to say by demonstrating you want to listen to them share information with you.
25. You don’t have to eat it. It’s tough to deal with picky eaters. Instead of fighting with your kids to eat their veggies, give them the power to say no and be in control. But don’t provide an alternative meal choice or dessert either.
26. You make me happy. Because everyone wants to feel like they matter to someone else.
27. I love you. They may be simple, but Jennifer Wolf, a PCI-certified parent coach, believes there's no substitute for these powerful words.
28. What do you think we should do today? Letting your kids have a say in the day's activities will do a lot to keep them feeling satisfied and valued for more than just a few hours.
29. You make a difference... in life, in the family, and at school. When kids hear they're important, they feel empowered and happier.
30. You were right. To let a child know when they were right (and maybe you were wrong) is empowering.
Our family of four began our trek down into the Grand Canyon on a trail to Cedar Ridge—a spot known for its beautiful vista. It was late March, and we had hoped the snow and ice would have melted by the time we got there. It hadn’t. So, we gripped onto the ledge as we descended, crouching down, trying to avoid slipping on the ice below us. Without proper traction, it felt more like an ice rink. That’s when my eight-year-old daughter said, “I’m turning around, Mom. This doesn’t feel safe.”
She was right.
So, we all ventured back up to the top of the rim.
Sure, we were safe, but we all grumbled as we walked along the rim. There was no thrill up there for the kids, and no matter where we were, it all felt like the same view. Finally, after about two miles of hiking, we sat down in the dirt to eat lunch together. We nestled in a little circle, eating our sandwiches and hiking bribery—gummy bears. But even those didn’t sweeten the mood. The air felt heavy. Finally, I said, “OK, truth circle time, everyone. What are you feeling?”
My husband looked at me, eyes wide, and said, “Well, the Grand Canyon isn’t very grand now, is it?”
Then I said, “I have to admit: I wasn’t even excited to come here. It felt like something we had to do.”
Next, my 10-year-old son said, “This is the biggest waste of time in my entire LIFE.”
My daughter chimed in: “So, let’s leave then.”
We all exhaled. It felt so validating to speak our truths about this big day on our vacation. There was no judgment or shame. My husband and I didn’t make any speech about how lucky we are to even go on vacation (which, of course, we are). We just let out those complaints—and that’s it. So, after chatting (OK, venting) a bit longer, we took our daughter’s advice and left.
There was no use staying there and pushing through. We didn’t need to find the grand in the Grand Canyon just because everyone else seems to. Our experience was ours—and it sucked. So, we moved on.
You see, we spent the majority of our trip in Sedona, where we had a blast hiking up and down the red rocks. It wasn’t perfect, of course; traveling with family never is. There was a ton of bickering in the car and the hotel room, we got lost, and even had some bad meals. But overall, it was both fun and relaxing. So, when we got to the Grand Canyon, we had such high hopes. But hopes often don’t materialize.
The moment when we all aired our frustrations, though, turned into one of my favorite parts of the whole vacation because it led to an unpredictable connection. This prickly moment led to family growth. The ability to say how much we didn’t like something and that it was a giant letdown felt healing in a way. Because from there, we could pivot forward, together.
Thanks in large part to social media, we tend to put a lot of pressure on ourselves to have that perfect vacation. We want shots of our smiling kids in beautiful places. But as we all know, there’s a lot more that goes on behind the scenes. There are meltdowns, disappointments, transportation nightmares, and accidents. And that’s OK. In fact, I urge all families to openly address those letdowns.
That way, our kids will grow up understanding that crappy things happen, even on an epic trip. But as a family, we can come up with solutions.
Sometimes the real magic can be found in the parts that just aren’t so great. Sometimes we don’t make it to that beautiful vista or we simply don’t think it’s as fantastic as everyone else does. Sometimes, the memories that make an imprint on our hearts are found in the journey together.
A mom’s TikTok video is going viral after she time lapsed cleaning up after her kids—and her good-for-nothing husband who helped them make all the mess
At this point, there’s just so much research that shows that chores, childcare, and the mental load of running a household fall disproportionately on women in heterosexual relationships, even when both partners work full-time jobs. It’s a well-documented reality, and while some men do step up, the vast majority of them just don’t. One mom’s viral TikTok is a heartbreaking example of being shouldered with being the “default parent” despite having a partner, and we’re only cheering because the mom in the video dumped her useless loser of a husband.
Lynalice Bandy (@5kids5catssomedogstoo on TikTok) shared the powerful time lapse video, which shows her cleaning up her house that has been absolutely wrecked by her five kids and their basically absent dad, who was supposed to be caring for them while she worked six 10-hour days.
After not even a week with her gone, this house (that another fully functional adult also lives in) is cluttered with piles of clothes, trash, and food all over every surface and all the floors. In the time lapse, Bandy painstakingly tidies every room, leaving the house sparkling and spotless at the end.
“I’d like to pretend I’m not the only one who cleans here but as you can see these rooms don’t get much attention when I’m not here,” she wrote in the video’s text overlay. “Every single day I’ve gotten home from work I’ve been met with one disaster to another caused by inattentive parenting.”
She goes on to list some of the messes her soon-to-be ex-husband could have prevented, like shampoo spilled on carpets, nail polish on nugget covers, and a DIY haircut done with kitchen scissors. All of this happened while her husband—the kids’ dad—was in the house and fully capable of engaging with his children, but he was “busy” working on cars instead.
Bandy notes in this video that she has plans to move out of the house, but the housing market in her area is too expensive.
“My soul aches without a place to feel safe and happy,” she writes. Ugh. Our souls ache for her.
In a follow-up video, Bandy reveals that she has moved out (good for her!). But that video shows her back at her ex’s house cleaning it because (surprise!) he still doesn’t bother, and this mom wants any environment her kids spend time in to be clean and safe.
We’re about to teach you how to get the rest you need!
National Sleep Awareness Week. Have you heard of it? It’s possible it missed your radar, considering all the millions of things that fill your day. From morning to night (and, as parents know, sometimes all through the night), we’re always on the go. We get up, make breakfast, make lunches, get kiddos out the door, go to work, clean the house, do school pick up, help with homework, make dinner, put the kids to bed, and attempt to squeeze in a little time for ourselves. All of those things that actually make it harder to get the rest we need. So if National Sleep Awareness Week 2023 escaped your attention, it’s not really a surprise. And if you’re perpetually looking for tips and tricks to nighttime bliss, you’re not alone!
The ultimate message of the National Sleep Foundation’s Awareness Week is to emphasize how important sleep is to our emotional health, physical performance, and overall well being. It may feel like sort of a “well, duh” statement (we won’t blame you if that was your first thought), but proper rest is beyond critical, especially for us moms. We think it’s the perfect time to offer you some sleep solutions to help make the sleep you do get as effective and restful as possible. While we can’t guarantee more sleep, we can definitely help to improve the quality of the rest you get. Keep reading for some of the best sleep solutions we’ve found to make waking up much easier.
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Women make the world go round. Just ask any toddler and they’ll tell you that mom is amazing! But did you know that there are tons of entrepreneurial women in Portland who run businesses that improve local families lives? From supplying books and toys for your kids, to creating inclusive cosmetics and cool hats, there’s an abundance of services and products that Portland women offer. Read on to find out where you can find these woman-owned Portland businesses.
So much more than a toy store, and owned by Jillian Sevick, Hammer and Jacks' adorable indoor playspace has become a vital community hub in the Foster-Powell neighborhood over the past four years. From lactation support groups and kindie music concerts, to storytimes in Spanish and birthday parties, there's always been something happening. Even before Kate Brown officially ordered businesses to close under the shelter-in-place order, Hammer and Jacks closed their doors and began doing curbside pickup and home delivery, which they are still currently offering along with in-store shopping appointments. Support this beloved shop when you buy all of your children's favorite toys from their large selection!
Is your Portland home in need of an update or expansion since becoming your families primary location for work and play? If you are in desperate need of an office addition, bigger kitchen, outside patio space or just a spring paint job, consider supporting this amazing Black Woman's business. Perfect for growing families, Willco focuses on remodeling, historical renovations, and residential and commercial painting. Owned by Ruth Warren, Willco’s diverse team of experts have years of experience to take your home projects from dream to reality.
Mimosa Studios Owner Austin Raglione provides a full-service ceramic painting studio to local families both in her studio and at home. When COVID hit Portland, she began offering take home painting kits that families could do at home to stay busy and work their creative side. Raglione remembers doing crafts with her mother when she was growing up, and she loves being able to make people happy by helping them create memories during a tough time. The Take Home Painting Kits come with all the ceramics, paint, brushes, and instructions needed to paint right at home. And now you can reserve a spot to do art in the studio too!
Mimi's Fresh Tees Kamelah Adams, referred to as Mimi by close friends and family, is a NE Portland Ore. native. If you are looking for some new threads for the family, you want to put these hoodies and tees on your "must buy" list. Founded in January 2018, Mimi’s Fresh Tees is a Portland-based t-shirt company that amplifies tough social justice conversations and allows people to wear their truth. Motivated by systemic racism her Black son experienced in the education system, owner and designer Kamelah Adams wanted to create a product that brought conversations around discrimination out into the open, in a quick and straightforward way. She started designing t-shirts as away for people to take a stand, break the silence and start a dialogue by wearing their truth.
Jennifer Green is the owner of this whimsical red-painted children's bookstore in the beloved Alberta Arts District. Beyond the hand-picked selection of children's books and the big green reading couch at the center of the store, there was the community of families that met weekly for multilingual story-times, craft sessions, and music circles. While all of that has changed since COVID-19 hit, this business is still bustling. She created an easy-to-use online ordering system, and the small team of booksellers is available daily by phone for book recommendations and ordering. With the ability to order just about any book through their distributors, including adult books, they encourage customers to pick up the phone and purchase a book if they don't feel safe coming is. However they are excited to announce that the shop is open again! They have put together a list of rules, so make sure to check for the changing requirements. Clean and safe curbside pick-up is available as well.
Raving Artist is an LGBTQ, Woman-Owned tattoo parlor offering body art in a bright, fun and friendly setting. Portland parents love their tattoos, and now you can enjoy getting one in a studio with inviting and colorful lighting as well as music played to your taste! Courtney Castman created her studio with the intention of moving away from darker settings that play heavy metal music to set the mood and opted for developing an environment that is modern, relaxing, and upbeat. While she joyfully creates any tattoo her clients request, her love for Oregon and nature comes through in the pieces she creates which primarily consist of flowers, foliage and stunning landscapes you can find throughout the state. Castman has won favor among local moms because of her cool environment, awesome work ethic and dedication to offering her customers the perfect amount of conversation (or quiet) while they are under her needle.
Jameesa Oakley and her husband already had a sign printing business, but when Trump was elected, they decided to use their vocation to impact social change. Their online shop now features striking yard signs, bumper stickers, and apparel featuring progressive statements on a range of issues, available for bulk order. Red Tricycle asked the Oakleys what they loves about what they do. "Our graphics bring progressive truths to the mainstream," Jameesa says. "The narrative in America is changing and we believe we played a small role." During the pandemic, the Oakleys have encountered supply chain issues and have had to use their creativity to overcome them. "It tested our resolve," the Oakleys say. "We’re stronger because of it."After the George Floyd murder tapes were released, demand increased more than Signs of Justice could have ever expected, and orders were temporarily delayed. "We couldn’t believe how kind and patient most people were. Love is winning."
With over 24 years of experience working with children, Paula Rogers founded Reggio-inspired Flouriche preschool with the intention to combine the best of three guiding principles for developing minds: flourish, nourish, and niche. “The best part is the laughter and natural compassion that I am privileged to witness every day,” Rogers says. During the pandemic, the community has had to adjust to many changes designed to keep kids safe, from daily health checks to rotating mealtimes in order to reduce the number of children at the table. They’ve also begun incorporating Zoom circle times to include children who are unable to come to Flouriche, in order to help children feel connected. Flouriche stands in solidarity with the Black Lives Matter movement that is resounding all over the world, and has started a Facebook group for discussion around the history of racism. Rogers says she loves idea sharing and would love to connect with other diverse preschools in Portland, as well as develop a scholarship program for children who want to attend Flouriche but may not be able to afford it.
Andrea Wade originally served Honeybee Lemonade Syrups with sparkling water from the window of a West African & Caribbean fusion food cart. In 2019, her handmade artisan syrups hit the shelves, free from preservatives, artificial flavors, and sweeteners, and with a devoted following. With flavors like Mango Coconut Jasmine, Strawberry Raspberry Rhubarb Lime, and Peach Lychee, these shelf-stable syrups are made from whole fruit and can be used to flavor beverages, yogurt, as an ice cream topping, and much more. Wade's 17-year-old daughter helps with the daily operations of the business. When the pandemic hit, the mother-daughter team began offering no-contact door drop delivery and using their creativity to drive sales, much of which plummeted during the pandemic due to the cancellation of many spring and summer vending events. Honeybee Lemonade Syrups currently offers online orders and can be picked up in New Seasons Market and Market of Choice. Reflecting on the challenges she experienced in starting her business, Wade shares that, "...there is still a tremendous amount of work to do to dismantle systemic barriers for Black business that often keep us out. It is my hope that we will continue to work in solidarity because Black Businesses Matter!"
Kori Giudici is a mom and the hat-making genius who owns and runs Flipside Hats. Flipside Hats is a sustainable hat and accessory brand, making eco-cool products accessible to the mainstream market for men, women and kids. From slouch beanies to ball caps to cabbie hats and more there is something for absolutely every age and personality in your household. Each hat is made from large rolls of abandoned fabric from production and dye houses and then crafted into a unique piece that helps those who wear them express their own personal style. If your loved one isn’t a hat person, no worries! They also make headbands, scarves, hand warmers and masks now too!
Are you a dark complexioned woman who finds it challenging to find cosmetics designed for your skin? Do you have a tween or teen who is ready to start experimenting with cosmetics, but can't find options for her complexion? Hue Noir is a company you need to get to know today! Founder Paula Hayes, is a product chemist who embarked on a mission to rethink cosmetic formulas for multicultural women. Her goal was to create products calibrated to interact well with darker complexions. Her brand's soul mission is to empower girls and women to look and feel their very best while changing the face of beauty by putting multicultural women at the center of modern beauty movement. Hue Noir combines scientific-based research and development, leading edge light and color technology, custom-made manufacturing equipment, and innovative luxury ingredients to design textures and shades to work for women of color. With products ranging from hydrating lip butter to hand sanitizer. Bonus: they rely predominantly on natural ingredients for worry-free, everyday wear for even delicate skin. All of the products are cruelty free, hypoallergenic, and noncomedogenic. It's time to go shopping!
Anjelica Otness started Fat Cupcake for good reasons: she has always loved eating dessert, she enjoys the creativity of decorating cupcakes, and she wanted to create an environment where people feel loved, welcome, and known. “I love sharing the joy of a cupcake and celebrating exciting life events or being there when things are challenging,” Otness says. She jokes, “It's also a perk to be able to eat a treat whenever you want." In the wake of the pandemic, Fat Cupcake has added extra safety precautions to prioritize team members’ and guests’ health and safety. And with the world’s increased support for the Black Lives Matter movement, Otness says they’ve seen a tremendous amount of support from the local community in placing orders, coming in for the first time, and promoting Fat Cupcake.
Between 18 and 36 months, kids go through a period of developmental growth that’s nothing short of astonishing. Not only does the average toddler learn to walk, run, climb, jump, talk, and feed themselves, but they also begin to identify, express, and regulate new emotions. “Toddlerhood is a time of massive development and change,” says Dr. Whitney Casares, a pediatrician, author of Doing It All, and Gerber pediatric consultant. It’s also a time when these tiny people get up to some pretty weird stuff. Whether they’re stripping naked in the middle of the grocery store, chugging their bathwater, or demanding you read them the exact same book every night for six months straight, there’s never a dull moment. If you’re a new parent, some of your kid’s offbeat activities can feel especially confusing or even worrisome, so we asked Dr. Casares to explain eight weird toddler behaviors and share her advice on how to handle them.
1. Guzzling bathwater.
“Toddlers are notorious for exploring their environments, especially when those environments are warm and splashy,” says Casares. And if you’ve ever caught your toddler eating dirt or licking the couch, you know that they’re particularly fond of exploring things with their mouths. Little kids don’t realize germs or harmful chemicals may be lurking in their bathwater, but you do. A small amount won’t hurt them, but since you’re keeping a close eye on them in the bath anyway, you can decide when they’ve had their fill of murky pee water. Once they’ve hit their limit, take away any toys that act like a cup and explain that the water is for cleaning, not for drinking. Do your best to distract them when they try to sneak a sip or 12.
2. Only wanting one parent, period.
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It can hurt, being rejected by your toddler, even though they’re oblivious to your pain. Kids often develop a preference for one parent over the other depending on their developmental stage, how much time they spend with each parent, or different parenting styles. “Sometimes, though, a child might just be going through a phase that has nothing to do with the way you parent,” says Casares, so it’s important not to take it personally. “Focus on spending special time with your child, uninterrupted moments where you’re focused solely on building a connection, and know that your investment will pay off in the long run.”
3. Sticking anything and everything up their nose.
“Putting fingers or objects up their own noses, pulling on their ears, twirling their own hair—this is all part of the exploration and discovery process for young learners,” says Casares. To a toddler, their body is a playground, and exploring all the nooks and crannies can lead to things like pom poms or a big sibling’s LEGO getting stuck places. When this happens, reiterate that the nose is not a hiding spot and redirect their attention to something else. When it’s their finger they’re shoving deep inside their nostrils, explain that this is something they can do privately with a tissue but we’d rather not be their audience.
Even though it’s normal, this is one of the weird toddler behaviors that is startling the first time you see it. Toddler head banging often happens during times of dysregulation, like tantrums or anxiety. As adults with developed prefrontal cortexes, we’re able to make decisions using logic and reason, also known as executive functioning, says Casares. But our little ones? Not so much. “When toddlers are faced with something that triggers them, they become their most basic selves. They are no longer in control; they are operating fully on emotion,” she explains. In such an emotional state, banging their heads repeatedly against the nearest hard surface can act as an outlet for big feelings or help them find some calm. In fact, a 2022 study found that 42% of toddlers bang their heads during tantrums.
Overtiredness is another catalyst because the rhythmic thumping and vibrations, though confusing to adults, can be soothing to a toddler. It can look and sound a bit scary, but rest assured, your toddler won’t concuss themselves and will generally stop before it becomes painful (this can sometimes take 10 or 15 minutes, though). Stay calm and try to redirect them to another soothing behavior rather than showing your fear with a big reaction that tells them this is a good way to get attention (they will remember). If you still feel like something’s not right, speak with your pediatrician.
5. So. much. nudity. (And touching themselves.)
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Your toddler may go through a naked streak and will definitely touch themselves. Everywhere. Anywhere. And if they have a blissed-out look in the bubble bath you’d better believe there’s a flurry of activity below the surface. But you can take comfort in the fact that this is totally normal and all that toddler nudity is just a phase. “Never shame or blame, but it’s good to teach our kids to be appropriate,” explains Casares. “Keep it clear, short, and simple: We keep our clothes on in public.” When it comes to touching their private areas, again, don’t overcomplicate it. “Toddlers are exploring their environment and their bodies are pretty fun, but they can definitely understand an action being OK versus not being OK,” says Casares. “Talk about what’s appropriate at home and what’s not, do not go into a long diatribe about why.”
6. Making a run for it.
If your kid has ever darted into the middle of the road and your heart has lept into your throat, you’re all too familiar with this one. It’s particularly serious because it can put your toddler in danger. But remember, they are developing their ability to understand the difference between right and wrong, so it’s best to give them some credit and plan ahead. “Let them know your expectations before you enter the situation,” suggests Casares. “‘We’re going for a walk down the street, but you will not run into the street. We wait until the walking person says it’s safe.’” Setting them up for success and encouraging them when they do listen will help you all feel safe.
“Parents are constantly teaching our kids the difference between what is acceptable behavior and what is not,” says Casares. “We need to teach our kids that all emotions are acceptable, but not all behaviors.” It’s OK to feel mad because you got the green dinosaur toy instead of the blue one; it’s not OK to hit someone, pull their hair, or bite them becauseyou feel mad. This is a lesson that takes time and can feel super embarrassing for parents. But no, your toddler isn’t disturbed—it’s just a developmental phase. If the behavior seems particularly worrisome, speak with your pediatrician.
8. Watching or reading or listening to the same thing over and over and over…
Like so many of us, toddlers find comfort in routine. Sometimes that means sleeping with a certain stuffie (hot tip: as soon as you notice your baby bond with a stuffie, buy a backup or three) or watching the same 2-minute video until it’s permanently worn into your brain grooves. Toddlers find comfort in the safety of knowing what’s next, but research also shows that repetition helps toddlers learn. So when you read Goodnight Moon for the 487th time, remind yourself that you’re also encouraging a love of language.
The best ways to honor Martin Luther King Jr. with your kids in Chicago
Martin Luther King, Jr. Day is Monday, January 16. With the kids off from school, you may be looking for ways to recognize this important holiday and honor & explore Dr. King’s inspiring legacy. Fortunately, Chicago has so many great museum exhibits, concerts, and service opportunities to choose from.
Did you know Martin Luther King, Jr. spent a lot of time in Chicago? He visited many times in the first decade of his public career. In 1965, he teamed up with the Southern Christian Leadership Conference (SCLC) to fight against segregation in Chicago Public Schools. He then became a leader in the Chicago Freedom Movement. The mission of the Chicago Freedom Movement was to end slums in the city, and it inspired two marches into all-white neighborhoods as part of an open-housing campaign. Martin Luther King, Jr. even lived for a time in a West side ghetto.
To learn more, visit the DuSable Museum of African American History or The Chicago History Museum. Appreciate the contributions of the African American community at the Chicago Sinfonietta or The Museum of Science and Industry. Follow Dr. King’s example by participating in a day of service. Whichever you choose, we got you covered with some excellent options for spending the holiday.
1. Martin Luther King, Jr. Day at the Chicago History Museum
Commemorate the life and legacy of Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. at the Chicago History Museum's day-long family event. Join the museum as they reflect on his life and work, particularly in Chicago with the Chicago Freedom Movement, through special family-friendly activities and performances. This event is FREE with Museum admission, which is complimentary for Illinois residents on this day.
Date: Jan. 16, 10:30 a.m.-3:30 p.m.
Chicago History Museum 1601 N. Clark St. Lincoln Park Online:chicagohistory.org
2. Chicago History Museum's Remembering Dr. King
Remembering Dr. King is a collection of 25 photographs depicting key moments in Dr. King's work during the Civil Rights Movement. The exhibit places a special emphasis on his time in Chicago shedding light on the existence of discrimination and segregation. the abysmal state of housing and the realities of poverty in the north.
Date:Ongoing
Chicago History Museum 1601 N. Clark St. Lincoln Park Online:chicagohistory.org
3. Chicago Sinfonietta's Martin Luther King, Jr. Tribute Concert
Leading the nation in programming works by women and diverse, under-represented composers, Chicago Sinfonietta, the nation’s most diverse orchestra, presents its annual MLK Tribute Concert, "Thunder", celebrating the life of Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. through family, equity and the encouragement to execute positive change.
Cradles to Crayons invites Chicagoland families to honor Martin Luther King, Jr. Day by donating new or gently-used children's items at one of their 37 drop-off locations. The nonprofit organization provides essentials such as clothing, coats, books and toys to ensure all children, regardless of their socio-economic status, have what they need to feel safe, warm and valued. Click this link for a list of accepted items.
Every day is a good day to visit the DuSable Museum of African American History. Home to hundreds of artifacts from the Civil Rights Movement, you will not only learn more about Martin Luther King, Jr. and the Civil Rights Movement, but also about the entire African American experience and accomplishments.
Date:Ongoing
DuSable Museum 740 E. 56th Pl. Washington Park Online:dusablemuseum.org
6. Institute for Nonviolence Chicago: Building the Beloved Community
Responding to Dr. King's question-"What are you doing for others?," the Institute for Nonviolence Chicago invites all ages to donate and help assemble toiletry packs, including toothpaste, toothbrushes, feminine hygiene products, soap, shampoo, conditioner, lotion, socks, and gloves, for neighbors in need.
Date:Jan. 16, 10 a.m.-1 p.m.
Institute for Nonviolence Chicago 819 N Leamington Ave. Austin Online:nonviolencechicago.org
7. Museum of Science and Industry's Black Creativity Juried Art Exhibition
Established in 1970, the Museum of Science and Industry’s Juried Art Exhibition is the nation’s longest-running exhibition of African-American Art, presenting more than 100 works of art from emerging and established African American artists. The exhibition is just one part of the Museum’s Black Creativity program which showcases achievements in scientific, artistic and technical fields by African-Americans.
Date:Jan. 16-Apr. 23
Museum of Science & Industry 5700 S. Lake Shore Dr. Hyde Park Online:msichicago.org
8. University of Chicago's MLK Commemoration Celebration
The University of Chicago will host its 33rd annual MLK Commemoration Celebration. The event is free and open to the public. It is held at the University's Rockefeller Memorial Chapel, where Dr. King himself spoke in the same space in 1956 and 1959.
Date:Jan. 23, 6pm
University of Chicago Rockefeller Memorial Chapel 5850 South Woodlawn Avenue Hyde Park Online:mlk.uchicago.edu
9. Fifth Annual King Day of Service: Bronzeville
In honor of Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr., the University of Chicago's University Community Service Center has partnered with community organizations across Bronzeville to bring together residents, nonprofits organizations, and institutions to work on beautification projects at Chicago Public Schools and other community sites.
Inclusivity can be taught from a very young age and these companies are doing their part to make the toy landscape a diverse one. From a doll that looks like your child to one that teaches about their medical condition, diverse toys can make us feel valued as humans and show us that there’s a whole world beyond our front door.
Barbie Inspiring Women Series
Showcasing women who've made the world a better place through determination and fighting for justice and equal opportunity, Barbie's Inspiring Women Series includes change makers like Eleanor Roosevelt, Dr. Maya Angelou, and Hellen Keller. Now the collection has a new doll: civil rights activities and women's suffragette, Ida B. Wells.
Wells co-founded the National Association of Colored Women’s Clubs and the National Association for the Advancement of Colored People (NAACP) which fight for freedom, justice, and equal opportunity to this day. Not only does the doll pay homage to this history-making woman, but Barbie has also partnered with Girls Write Now, a non-profit organization that removes gender, race, age, and poverty barriers to mentor future writers and leaders.
Teni and Tayo Creations are excited to share a piece of Africa with young children. Omobola Imoisili founded the brand after relocating to L.A. from Nigeria and wanting to give her small daughters something representative of their heritage while they attend school. Brand mascots Feyi Fay, a superhero fairy, and Captain Nosa, a Nigerian scientist, and superhero, encourage kids to do well in school and promote a love of learning in all the brand’s offerings. From STEM toys to books and apparel, there are diverse toys available for everyone.
ISH Dolls creates diverse toys and clothing that celebrate culture and the Hindu faith. Their colorful plush dolls are designed to bring joy to children of all backgrounds and to introduce them to the avatars found in Hindu culture. This mom-owned business launched at the height of the pandemic in May 2020 with its first plush, Baby Krishna, and followed up with his companions Rahda, Durga and Baby Lakshmi.
Everything—and everyone—is awesome! Inspired by the rainbow flag of the LGBTQIA+ community, LEGO's “Everyone is Awesome” 346-piece set features 11 unique monochrome figures with individual colors and hairstyles. Once completed, it’s the perfect size for a desk or window display, to bring a colorful pop to life every day.
Qai Qai is no ordinary doll; since appearing on social media alongside Serena Williams, Alexis Ohanian, and their daughter Olympia, Qai Qai has amassed thousands of followers of her own. According to Serena Williams, "When we first opened @RealQaiQai's account on Instagram two years ago, it was just supposed to be an inside joke, but we've come to realize that Qai Qai could be the beginning of a new kind of toy story, and one that we're excited to help bring to life so our daughter and millions of other children can see and play with more toys that look like them."
Your heart will melt at the cute offerings from Red & Olive. Not only are the knit ethical dolls adorable, but they also help support the artisans who handmake each one. Each fair trade doll is handmade by Peruvian artists, empowering them to provide for themselves and their families. The companion dolls come with either matching beanies or bows.
Celebrate the culture and traditions of India with Modi Toys. This family-owned small business offers plush diverse toys and gift baskets that feature Baby Ganesh, Baby Krishna, and Baby Hanuman along with books that explain their history. You can even personalize the plush toys with a baby's name—the perfect gift for a new arrival.
Diversify your child's bookshelf with the help of The Little Feminist Books Club. When you select the 7-9 age group, you will get two paperbacks or one hardcover book each month, along with a hands-on activity that goes along with the book, a discussion card, and a parent letter explaining why the book was chosen.
The Healthy Roots Doll Zoe is a life-like 18” doll with hair uniquely designed with curl power that allows it to be washed and styled, giving kids the chance to learn more about how to care for their curls by practicing on hers. The inspiration for Zoe came from Yelitsa Jean-Charles, a young woman—who like many others—never had a doll that looked like her growing up.
Kids can use real products and try out countless styles from puffs to box braids! Zoe learned to love her hair after she did the big chop with her mom. Together they learned how to love every single one of her curls. Now she’s here to help other girls learn to love their curls.
Check out these dolls for girls on a mission to change the world. Inspired by their upbringing in Brooklyn, New York, twin sisters Laken and Carlissa King sought to create dolls that spark creativity and celebrate togetherness.
Worldgirls are 18-inch dolls representing girls from around the world who are chosen to attend the top-secret school, Worldgirls Hall. Each Worldgirl is assigned 1 of 5 traits: WARRIOR, HEALER, EXPLORER, REBEL, and SCHOLAR. The company created the traits so children could connect with the dolls' unique passions rather than their looks.
When Dr. Lisa Williams, CEO & Founder of the only Black-owned major doll company, saw the psychological implications of the importance of your toy box no matter your race or ethnicity, she created the Positively Perfect Dolls for younger children. In recent years her company has created The Fresh Dolls featuring black and multicultural fashion dolls and accessories. The Fresh Dolls were intentionally created with fuller hips and thighs, and a more realistic waistline, with trendy fashion pieces. New this year is their Wakanda Forever superhero line!
If you’ve ever had the frustration of finding dolls that look like your family (or friends!), you’ll LOVE this. Multiracial families, same-sex families, single-parent families, and adoptive families can now construct dolls that capture the beautiful reality of their households. MyFamilyBuilders is a unique, educational wooden diverse toy that is stackable and magnetic to create the perfect doll.
Created by single adoptive mom Kayla Lupean, Play Maysie is a portable, customizable world in a case for the pint-sized bunch. Noted as “everything a dollhouse should be,” this diverse toy is a gender-neutral classic childhood favorite that is made for adventures. Play Maysie’s design was inspired by the nostalgia of vintage tin lunchboxes. It folds out on both sides to showcase interchangeable, magnetic rooms with fixed wooden furniture—built for frustration-free play, less mess and no more lost pieces! With an eye on teaching sustainability, each Play Maysie is made of eco-friendly, renewable materials for indoor and outdoor play either at home or on the go.
At the core of the company's mission, for every three Play Maysie cases purchased, they will donate another one to a child who is entering the foster care system. Their hope is, with an integral sense of ownership, foster youth can open their Play Maysie case at any time to create an experience where they feel safe, secure, and in control during a time where nearly everything in their world is unfamiliar.
While you might be used to seeing ribbon wands in rainbow or pastel colors, the Melanin Magic Ribbon Wands are a celebration of melanin. Kids need to see all skin tones all together all on the same toy. Each ribbon deserves a place and the rainbow would look incomplete if it were missing one. These simple toys make a wonderful gross motor skills tool for dancing, twirling, jumping, and shaking. They also make a great conversation starter for kids. Purchasing one of these diverse toys support Brown Babes Rep Too, an organization dedicated to ensuring a diverse environment in small business advertising.
Dolls with Autism, Dwarfism and Hearing Loss from Lottie Dolls
Lottie Dolls introduced a doll inspired by an autistic boy who loves astronomy. The diverse toy comes with an astronaut-in-training jumpsuit, companion dog, noise-reducing headphones, and sunglasses to reduce visual sensory overload.
Lottie Dolls offers dolls that highlight diversity, including the Mia doll, a wildlife photographer with a cochlear implant, and the Sinead doll, the world's first doll with dwarfism.
Crystal Kaye is the artist behind Kay Customz. Not only are Crystal’s custom dolls cute, but they’re also inclusive. She goes beyond creating dolls in a few different skin tones, and makes dolls with freckles (and not just the traditional two or three that are meant to look cute but don’t really represent what a normal person looks like freckles), vitiligo and albinism.
Build-a-Bear & Vermont Teddy Bear Company Amputee Bears
For kids with limb differences, Build-a-Bear and the Vermont Teddy Bear Company are there to create a bear with the same limb difference. Both offer customization that allows this treasured bear to match its owner.
Differently-Abled Dolls from Barbie's Fashionistas Line
The Barbie Fashionistas line, which already includes Barbie dolls with various body types and hairstyles, also offers two differently-abled dolls. The first doll is in a wheelchair and the second is fitted with a prosthetic leg. “As a brand, we can elevate the conversation around physical disabilities by including them into our fashion doll line to further showcase a multi-dimensional view of beauty and fashion,” Mattel said.
To encourage their daughter's interest in African culture, two parents created this doll company with different shades of skin complexions and hair textures available. They even have a buy-one-gift-one program!
Inspired by the letter from a six-year-old girl, the iconic green army men sold by BMC Toys now have an addition—women soldiers. They are available in four different military poses
The idea was inspired by Matthew Shifrin who was born blind and loved to play with LEGO bricks. As a child, he had a friend, Lilya who would painstakingly write down all of the LEGO building steps so that he could upload the written directions into a system that translated them in a Braille reader. For the first time in his life, he was able to build LEGO sets entirely on his own.
When Lilya passed away, Shifrin decided he wanted to share his experience with others like him. A friend from the Massachusetts Institute of Technology introduced him to the Creative Play Lab at LEGO Group and his wonderful idea was developed into the LEGO Audio and Braille instruction. LEGO also has LEGO Braille bricks!
With dozens and dozens of looks to choose from in the Truly Me collection, your child can bring home an American Girl doll who brings out exactly who they are. From singing to soccer to so much more, every child can find outfits and accessories to match their interests.
Kids can even have their dolls fitted with a prosthetic leg by the company A Step Ahead Prosthetics.
Lakeshore Learning's People with Differing Abilities
We all want our kids to be open-minded, but in order to understand other people's differences, it's important that kids see those differences first-hand—and talk about them. Lakeshore Learning's People with Differing Abilities include people with realistic details and adaptive equipment—from a girl in a wheelchair to a boy with leg braces. For younger kiddos, Lakeshore also has a "Soft and Safe" version of these diverse toys that feature children with various disabilities.
If you've got a superhero-loving kid who wants a doll—but not that kind of doll—Wonder Crew dolls are the perfect addition. The collection of boy dolls was designed to have the "adventure of an action figure with the emotional connection of the favorite stuffed animal." They're soft and perfect for cuddles, but they're also superheroes. What's even cooler? Each doll comes with two masks and capes: One for the doll and one for the kid who plays with it. Genius.
By taking care of Jerry's diabetes, children gain hands-on practice with counting carbs, monitoring Jerry's blood sugar and dosing Jerry with insulin. Kids care for Jerry using the virtual diabetes tools and the digital pantry in the product's app.
Follow along with Jerry's journey to train for the All-Stars Games! All 21 interactive storybooks are paired with care tasks to reinforce important diabetes lessons. The curriculum is co-designed with doctors, educators and families to create educational content that kids love.
Do you know what's not empowering? Dolls with body proportions that are impossible to have in real life. That's why the makers of Lammily Dolls decided to make a collection of dolls using proportions akin to the average 19-year-old American woman. That means everything from the hands, arms, and neck to the waist, legs, and feet are realistic. The makers hope that playing with "normal" dolls will help young girls see their own bodies more positively (because sadly, studies show girls start worrying about their looks by age five).
Diversity is the name of the game when it comes to this line of dolls. Maru and Friends dolls are making a statement, and it’s one that’s long overdue. These dolls are more than just pretty playthings. Maru and Friends tell the tale of life as an immigrant. And your child can learn Maru’s story, as well as what it’s like for her friends to grow up in America.
This line of dolls and accessories was created by Cynthia Watkins and Kathryn Burnett, a mother-daughter duo, in 2017. Different skin tones, sizes, and hair types are available and each doll is handmade with painstaking detail given to outfits with the ability to match a specific outfit if desired.
This award-winning game matches faces to countries. Twenty-four pairs of illustrated cards depict the happy faces of children from all over the world and make for a fun and educational memory game. At times challenging, the game helps sharpen recognition and memory skills. The back of the game box shows which country each child is from.
Great for multicultural arts and crafts activities. This set includes 10 sheets of each of these five colors: Manila, Salmon, Light Brown, Brown and Dark Brown.
Ice caves, whale watching, and whitewater rafting are what make these getaways shine
From Washington’s famed Olympic Peninsula all the way down to Ashland and its small-town vibe, these Pacific Northwest road trip destinations along the I-5 corridor (and beyond) are what family time is all about. Whether you plan to hit the road when the summer sun is shining or when the waterfalls are bursting with spring rain, you’re going to amazed at how beautiful this part of the country is.
Families flock to Bend from all over the country for its unmatched outdoor recreation and adventures. No wonder it's a popular Pacific Northwest road trip destination, especially in summer when you can get wet and wild on the Deschutes River with Sun Country Tours. Their guides can take you on a white water rafting excursion or a relaxing tour down the river by stand up paddle board or inner tube. Just a little further south on 97, you'll find the world-renowned Smith Rock; climbers come to the area for an opportunity to scale the sheer walls of Monkey Face. Your little monkeys may not be ready to climb like a pro, but book a day with the guides at Chockstone Climbing Guides and they will be well on their way. All of the required gear is provided, and you will feel safe in the hands of these climbing experts.
When in Bend, do like the locals and hit the breweries. Stop by the iconic Deschutes Brewery for some true Central Oregon flair. You will enjoy a selection of award-winning craft beer and hand-crafted ales. Plus, if you are craving a good burger, they won't disappoint. 10 Barrel is another local brewery that offers up fantastic brews along with outdoor fire pits and plenty of room for kids to be kids.
Mt.Bachelor Village gives traveling families a variety of lodging options. Rent a hotel room, a river view condo or a vacation home. There is something available to fit every family budget and all options come with amenities like indoor and outdoor pools, playgrounds, golf courses and access to biking and hiking paths.
If you want to give your family a truly epic Pacific Northwest road trip experience, there's no destination like one that takes you to one of Oregon's gorgeous hot springs. While there are many to choose from, Crystal Crane is well worth it for families. This eastern Oregon hot spring is a wonderland for both parents and kids alike. The large heated pond is spacious enough for little ones to splash and enjoy themselves, and there's a private bathhouse where parents can soak in cedar-enclosed tubs. But, the hot spring is only part of the the fun. Lodging options include cabins, tent and RV camping. All of the options are cozy and rustic, and will have your kids talking about it for years to come.
For a little adventure head to the Malheur National Wildlife Refuge. Just 29 miles away, this location is home to over 58 species of mammals including mule deer, pronghorn antelope, Rocky Mountain elk, coyotes and bobcats. The visitor center is a great place to start, and late summer is perfect for wildlife viewing, fishing and some great photos.
Summer is the perfect time to witness Oregon's waterfalls in their full glory. Gushing with runoff from the winter melt, the views will leave you in awe. Silver Falls State Park is easy to overlook for bigger vacations elsewhere, but don’t be fooled, the green jewel is full of fun times and is affordable and easy to get to. You’ll be able to escape to the woods while still sleeping warm and cozy.
The state park offers over 35 miles of hiking trails, and the good news is that summer is the perfect time to see wildflowers. Waterfalls are the thing to see here, and the full seven-mile trail of Ten Falls loop will let you see them all. Don’t miss out on the four falls that you can actually walk behind. If you’re not up for the full loop you can easily drive to the trailheads and break it up into sections as small as one or two miles. And if you want to go a bit faster, hit the dirt on your mountain bikes. Or just spend a day hanging by the wide creek and throwing sticks in the river on the South Lawn. Nearby you’ll find picnic shelters, barbeque stands, a playground and horseshoe pits for the perfect afternoon picnic.
If you need a day in town after some hiking, drive 15 minutes to Silverton, a sweet historic town. Go on a mural hunt for the town’s 30 gorgeous works, try some locally-brewed beers (ok, parents only), find a Frank Lloyd Wright house or stop by the 80 acres of the Oregon Garden for more spectacular summer blooms.
Another short jaunt north leads you to Mt. Angel, the faux-Bavarian town that hosts an Oktoberfest every year by their authentic glockenspiel. Get some sausages at the Mt. Angel Sausage Company, and stay in cabins at the park through the state park site.
If you want an Oregon road trip that will fulfill all of your PNW getaway dreams, Ashland is a must-visit locale. Southern Oregon boasts beautiful green fields, a wine country to rival the best and stunning rugged landscapes. It also has some of the best family-friendly activities around. Ashland is known for its Shakespeare Festival, with performances through October, and you can also check out the charming town and its many offerings in the way of restaurants and shops. An experience that's perfect after a day of outdoorsy fun. The nearby mighty Rogue River is great fun to raft in the summer, and the family-owned Fishing the Rogue will set you up with an unforgettable chance to fish for your dinner.
For a unique experience, why not stay at a working farm? The Willow Witt Ranch has 445 acres of forest, wetland and a small sustainable farm. Choose from the Farmhouse Studio, the large Meadow House or pitch your own tent. Then spend your days finding spring blooms in the meadows around it. For a really different experience, go on a day hike with the goats. The goats will pack your lunch on the 4-hour excursion up to nearby Grizzly Peak, where you can enjoy beautiful views of the valley below. There's also birding opportunities available, as well as miles and miles of hiking trails right outside your front door.
Astoria
Sharon Mead
What would summer be without a little ocean air? This historic town is where the forest meets the sea, and your family meets a good time. Started by Scandinavians, fur traders, Lewis and Clark, and named for John Jacob Astor, the city boasts a mix of all those influences perfectly. Admire the lovely Victorian houses on the hilltops, stop by Finn Ware for some Scandinavian-inspired goods (like salty licorice) or check out Lewis and Clark’s 1805 winter camp at Fort Clatsop.
In town, don’t miss a walk along the pier and a stop at Frite and Scoop ice cream before heading to the Columbia River Maritime Museum, especially if your little ones are fans of boats. This small museum does a really great job offering interesting and dynamic exhibits, and you can even step aboard a real floating lighthouse ship. You’ll look at the river outside differently once you learn how dangerous it actually is to the ships sailing it.
Stay at the Cannery Pier Hotel, built on the site of an old cannery, 600 feet over the water. You’ll get views of the real working boats that ply the waters, and you can rent bikes to explore even more.
Across the river in Washington, take a day to explore Cape Disappointment, which is much better than it sounds. Clamber over rocks to scan the waters for whales, who spend summers in the area. The numerous hiking options include a great lighthouse, and you can also visit the Lewis and Clark Interpretive Center, which marks the end of the group’s epic journey to the Pacific.
For a stay on the Washington side of the river, check out the Sou’wester Lodge in Seaview. A beloved hipster hodgepodge of vintage airstream trailers, cabins and a guesthouse, the campus offers a sauna and spa services, live music on weekends, fire pits for roasting, an honor-system store with local goods and bikes to borrow to search out the beach just down the road.
Crater Lake is a destination that stands out from most Oregon road trip destinations. It should definitely be on your Pacific Northwest road trip list this summer. Did you know it is the deepest lake in the United States? The water-filled caldera is a stunning blue and the scenic Rim Drive is a must-do activity for all visiting families. This 33-mile tour winds around Crater Lake and has plenty of pullouts along the way for photo ops and restless legs.
Crater Lake National Park Lodge offers visitors three types of in-park lodging to choose from. The lodge is located in Rim Village and overlooks the lake. They also have cabins at Mazama Village located south of the rim in a beautiful forest setting. And for families who want to camp, the Mazama Village Campgrounds are available. If you decide to leave the lodge for dining, check out Beckie's Cafe. Try the hot cakes for breakfast, a Farewell Bend Burger for lunch or a Rogue Gorge Steak for dinner. And don't pass up a piece of the homemade pies.
These Easy Washington Road Trips Aren’t Too Far
Hood Canal
Allison Sutcliffe
Packed with activities and events, Hood Canal calls itself the “wild side of Washington,” but sometimes its best moments are found simply relaxing on a deck, looking at the view. The Hood Canal is “wildly” popular in summer—but summer tempts without the crowds. Approaching the fjord, the winding waterway gives drivers glimpses of sparkling blue, while scenic spots offer insta-worthy mountain views. Bike trails abound, from long distance to leisurely pedaling. Anglers will rejoice; grab a pole to catch dinner. You’ll also finds scenic hiking trails, golf courses for all levels, kayaking, SUP and boating galore. The Ridge Motorsports Park is a racing course for tiny speed demons. Want more? Hood Canal is famous for SCUBA, with its gentle currents and giant Pacific octopuses as diving friends.
Meals are meant to be savored outdoors in Hood Canal, overlooking happy campers playing in the water. When the family cook is off-duty head into Union for some stand out options. The Restaurant at Alderbrook is a culinary treat with views to match. Union Square Deli is the place to pick up sammies and pizza. The charming, European-style Union City Market at Hood Canal Marina is a must. Grab provisions, souvenirs and wine, and sit outside on their eclectic patio with stunning views of the Olympics over the water. The world-famous, all-ages Hamma Hamma Oyster Saloon awaits up in the road in Hoodsport.
There's no better home base for this trip than Alderbrook Resort & Spa. Book one of the two-bedroom cottages for great views, more space and a kitchen that helps cut down on the cost of food when you travel. Everything you need to enjoy the Hood Canal is at your fingertips here, including watersport rentals and an indoor pool that sits right on the shores of the Canal.
For families dreaming of surf breaks in the summer, head to Long Beach Peninsula, where beach life is a year-round state of mind. One of our favorite Washington road trip destinations, the aptly-named beach is an adventure wonderland. Splash, play tag, build sandcastles, fly kites or stroll the half mile boardwalk through the rolling dunes to spot whales. There is much more than the beach to entertain families. Visit the World Kite Museum and take home a flying piece of art. Afterward treat your sweet tooth to some delectable goodies at historic Cottage Bakery and Delicatessen. West Coast Horse Rides will put smiles on your budding wranglers.
There are many culinary delights in town but these two are highly recommended and worth the short drive. The Depot in Seaview was once a working train depot, now Chef Michael Lalewicz works to create magic on a plate. Kiddos love their burger night. For a unique experience enjoy oysters, beer and wine at Oysterville Sea Farms & Seafood Market, the only spot in historic Oysterville on the Willapa Bay.
This Airbnb sleeps up to eight and has an awesome game room with air hockey, foosball, dart board, cornhole and a wall-mounted, flat-screen TV. Bikes are provided for guests to enjoy and the Discovery Trail is just a quick pedal away.
Glenwood
Allison Sutcliffe
Just north of the Columbia River Gorge, Glenwood is an easy drive for Portland families and a fantastic launching point for your summer adventures. We love that you're just a stone's throw away from the watersport mecca, the Columbia River Gorge, without being in the thick of it.
Start your family adventure with a run on the White Salmon River. Zoller's Outdoor Odysseys runs a tight ship, and you can't go wrong booking a trip with them. That's one way to stay cool in the heat of August. Another excellent adventure for families looking to create memories is exploring the Guler Ice Caves. Fair warning, it's cold down there and you'll definitely want to bring a headlamp or two (although your cell phone flashlight will work in a pinch). There are so many quick hikes and wilderness areas to explore, you'll find reasons to go back again and again.
For an atypical family trip, book a Getaway cabin that sleeps anywhere from two to four people. A truly unique experience, these quiet cabins don't have WiFi, but they do have walking trails, fire pits, heat (for fall and winter months) and all the peace and quiet your family needs to regroup before the summer ends.
Just over the Tacoma Narrows Bridge, gateway to the Olympic Peninsula, you'll find the charming town of Gig Harbor. If you're looking to explore a true Pacific Northwest hidden gem, you've found it.
Get to know the city by taking a gondola ride around the Harbor where you'll learn its history and be shown all the important landmarks that are worth exploring once you're back on land. A trip to the Harbor History Museum is always a hit with kids, and the fact they offer free admission for everyone is an added bonus for parents. Nearby Donkey Creek and Crescent Creek parks are great places for kids to wander or to enjoy a summer picnic. The waterfront offers miles to explore by foot, and families can duck into sweet shops and eateries as they make their way from one end of the harbor to the next. Some of our favorites stops include the Harbor General Store, Suzanne's Bakery and Frills and Java & Clay Cafe, where you can spend the day painting pottery they'll ship to you once you get home.
Beyond the two hubs of activity in town, families can spend time at the beach. Bring your floaties to Kopachuck State Park where it's easy enough to wade in the water at low tide. And putting in a SUP or kayak off of the DeMolay Sandspit is easy enough your kids can do it too. Narrows Park is another one the check out when you visit. With views of the bridge, Mt. Rainier and a chance to spot some orcas, consider it a can't-miss spot. Just remember to pack your beach toys and a blanket, the kids will want to stay a while.
We'll cheat a little bit on this one because this Pacific Northwest road trip is worth the extra hours. Make it more than a weekend when you head to the Olympic Peninsula and explore at your own pace. Washington’s largest national park is a vast playground of snowy peaks, temperate rain forests and dramatic Pacific sunsets. Start with Port Townsend, go beachcombing around Fort Worden, then take a break in town—the kids will love Elevated Ice Cream. Walk along the shops and bites of Water Street and take in the festive vibe.
Beachcombers and tidepool fans will enjoy exploring Dungeness Spit, an 11-mile sand spit that also gave us the tasty crab of the same name. The kids will love Olympic Game Farm where they can gawk at lions, tigers, bison, zebras and lynx without leaving the car.
Further afield, families who are truly yearning to get away from it all will value the solitude at Kalaloch. You and the kids will find yourselves surrounded by miles of ocean, forest and very little else. Enjoy lunch on the beach among the massive logs, then drive to spectacular Ruby Beach for sunset.
Hikers and nature lovers will thrall to the Hoh Rainforest. The Hall of Mosses Trail is perfect for tots; at less than one mile, it's still packed with natural wonder. Tired muscles should seek out the soothing waters of Sol Duc Hot Springs. With multiple pools at up to 104 degrees, (including a full-sized swimming pool) tadpoles of all ages will revel in a soothing soak. Also nearby you'll find a scenic hike to Marymere Falls and it's hard to resist lunch at Lake Crescent Lodge.
Looking for a much-needed break this summer that won’t wreck your budget? While an international epic vacation may be out of reach for most us, we can still have a ton of memorable fun, just a short drive away. And as we know, summer in the Pacific Northwest is truly magical (there’s a reason most people visit here Jun.-Aug!). From mountain retreats to high desert adventures, to sweet getaways right on the ocean, here are some of our favorite roadtrip destinations—all under three hours from downtown.
If the idea of spending a weekend in a cabin in the woods sounds like bliss, then Mt. Rainier is the spot for your family. There are plenty of lowland hikes that will take you through towering trees, along babbling rivers and streams and by crystalline waterfalls. For families looking for tours, opportunities to meet wildlife up close and in person, make a reservation with Northwest Trek.
Where to Stay in Mt. Rainer: While hotels are nice, there’s nothing like a night or two in a luxury cabin. Altimeter Cabin is our top pick for the perfect family retreat. This rustic, yet luxurious spot has a private hot tub, free wifi, a fire pit, wood stove and a fully stocked kitchen. The kid will love playing a little putt putt golf while mom and dad grills up dinner. And then, once dinner is complete, spend time with your loved ones beneath the starry sky surrounded by towering cedars while you relax in the hot tub or roast marshmallows by the campfire. Sleeping arrangements include a fun, open sleeping loft with log ladder.
Bingen is just a short car drive away but if you aren't in the mood to hit the road, it is only two stops away from Portland and three stops from Seattle by Amtrak. Another outdoor mecca for active families, Bingen is home to The Historic Columbia River Highway State Trail—a scenic spot for family bike rides or hikes that takes you along the winding curves of the cliffs of the Columbia River Gorge where you'll see unspoiled breathtaking views of the water. You can also observe natural life along the Catherine Creek Trail—a stunning wildflower hike that gives visitors breathtaking views of Mt. Hood. It’s easy for little feet and parents with kids on their backs—making this one a great morning or afternoon activity.
Insider Tip: For extra hot days, book a full or half day trip (or a multi-day trip if you're inclined) and go whitewater rafting down the Lower Salmon River. PS: these trips are best for kids 10+ years old.
Where to Stay in Bingen, WA: The Society Hotel is only five blocks away from the Amtrak station and features a community gathering space that offers affordable rates, varied accommodation options and concierge-style service parents will appreciate. Room options include 10 European-style standard hotel rooms that are each themed after a school subject and have access to a shared bathroom.
For larger families, we suggest one of the 20 cabins that encircle a grass area with a fire pit, bathhouse and spa. The two-room cabins are perfect for a family of four. They have cozy beds, a sitting and dining area and a small kitchenette where you can cook your own meals. Outside you’ll find a picnic bench and hammock swing to kick back in.
Located in the gorgeous high desert of Central Oregon, visitors can enjoy a multitude of activities in the area like hiking, biking, and rock climbing. As the temps rise, prepare to get wet and wild on the Deschutes River with Sun Country Tours—their guides can take you on a white water rafting excursion or a relaxing tour down the river by stand up paddle board or inner tube. Just a little further south on 97, you'll find the world-renowned Smith Rock; climbers come to the area for an opportunity to scale the sheer walls of Monkey Face. Book a climbing session at Chockstone Climbing Guides who will help your little monkey learn to climb rock walls.
For some low-impact local fun, you can stroll through Drake park and watch the ducks and geese play or hit a nearby trail on bike or on foot.
Mt.Bachelor Village offers families a variety of lodging options. Rent a hotel room, a river view condo or a vacation home. There is something available to fit every family budget and all options come with amenities like indoor and outdoor pools, playgrounds, golf courses and, of course, access to all the biking and hiking paths.
Cruise along the Pacific Coast Scenic Byway, and you’ll reach Astoria Seaside, Pacific City and Cannon Beach. Listed as some of the best Oregon coasts worth a visit (there’s a great riverfront trolley you can take here), there are historical landmarks and shipwreck remnants plus Astoria Column—a breathtaking view for those who dare to climb to the top.
Here you’ll also find the Maritime Museum which will thrill you little sailors. Don't forget to indulge in cinematic nostalgia—Goonies was filmed near here afterall. Nearby Cannon Beach is popular for families and offers bird and whale watching, plus water activities like surfing and boating. And don't miss Oregon Dunes National Recreation Area—another cool place to explore. This rolling-hills beach with giant dunes covers nearly 40 miles—the largest dune expanse in North America. Of course, you’ll find lots of activities suited to the area: ATV riding, hiking and camping.
Astoria has a variety of lodging options for your stay but we recommend Best Western Astoria Bayfront Hotel. This lovely hotel has beautiful, spacious rooms with high quality linens and amenities.
