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Father’s Day Gifts for Every Type of Dad

by Kate Cartia

Dad isn’t expecting these…

Why is it that dads always seem to have everything they could ever want? Maybe they genuinely don’t want anything that they don’t already own. Or it could be just that he never really mentions wanting something specific. We think there’s a good chance he’s dropped a hint or two, but we’re pretty sure those hints are along the lines of something practical. And listen, we love our dads and our partners, but we just don’t think socks or a cordless drill backup battery really show what they mean to us. We also don’t want to know that much about drill backup batteries. That means every year, Father’s Day gift shopping can be a serious guessing game.

You’ve probably already done the tie thing. The tools thing. The iTunes gift card thing. Those are all fine, but we think we’ve come up with a few ideas you might not have thought of yet and that dad isn’t expecting. Whether he’s a sports guy, a foodie, or a fashion-forward father, we’ve done our research (just like dad taught us). There are some really cool gifts out there—or rather, right here—that are sure to excite him. So start visualizing your dad, stepdad, husband, partner, and any other dad on your list and check out these Father’s Day gifts.

Junk Food & Food Food Trivia

Brass Monkey/Amazon

Boring trivia? Not here. This delightfully pointless game covers all sorts of food knowledge from a bunch of misleading categories (like 'Hunger Games'—all about eating competitions). Junk Food & Food Food Trivia ($14.00)—Buy Here!

Bombas Men's Golf Ankle Sock 4-Pack Caddie

Bombas

Now, before you remind us that we seemed anti-socks-as-gifts, these aren't regular socks. They're Bombas. You've probably heard sock-wearers everywhere sing their praises and that's because they're honestly 100% worth it. We're guessing they're similar to walking on clouds. They also walk the walk by donating one for one. They come in multiple colors and styles, but we're fond of this 4-pack with bonus Bombas Hex Tec Sock Bag. Bombas Men's Golf Ankle Sock 4-Pack Caddie ($72.00)—Buy Here!

Omaha Steaks Premier Father's Day Gift

Omaha Steaks

If we’re already drooling, you know dad will love this gift from Omaha Steaks. Let him indulge in the tender & savory cuts of Bacon-Wrapped Filet Mignons, juicy Boneless Pork Chops, flavorful PureGround Delmonico Ribeye Burgers, and much more. Omaha Steaks Premier Father's Day Gifs (Starting at $99.00)—Buy Here!

'Fútbol is Life' T-Shirt

Tee Public

Attention, Ted Lasso fans. If you know, you know. 'Fútbol is Life' T-Shirt ($22.00)—Buy Here!

Lego Pac-Man Arcade

Lego

The '80s called and Lego answered. This retro game includes Pac-Man, Blinky, Clyde, and even a light-up brick for the coin slot. It's not a fully functional game, but who needs that when you have such a cool project to complete and show off? Lego Pac-Man Arcade ($269.99)—Buy Here!

Supernatural VR

Supernatural VR

This at-home workout is perfect for multitasking dads who just don’t have enough hours in the day to make it to the gym. Busy parent of three Kelly Ripa shared that Supernatural is “everything I’ve been looking for!” when it comes to fitness, and adds that “at-home workouts are here to stay and the convenience that they elicit is hard to compete with.”

Work out in exotic locations around the globe like Machu Picchu, The Maldives, or The Great Wall of China and to today’s top artists such as Billie Eilish, Megan Thee Stallion, The Weeknd, and more! Every day, a new workout is released and for those who aren’t in a fitness routine yet, there is an option for every fitness-level so everyone can move, have fun and feel rewarded. Along with a range of intensities, workouts include four different modalities—Flow (Cardio), Stretching, Meditation, and Boxing. Supernatural is available on Meta Quest 2 with pricing at $19/month or $179/annually. Supernatural VR—Start Now!

Get the Meta Quest 2 for only $399.00 $299.00 Here! (new pricing starting 6/4/2023)

The Arsenal Mens Grooming Kit

Wild Willie's

It's not often something as simple as a grooming kit has a 5-star rating. Even if he doesn't know what all of these tools do, he'll have a full 10 of them at his disposal for all his non-beard-grooming needs (and you can help explain how to use the full Arsenal). The Arsenal Mens Grooming Kit ($14.99)—Buy Here!

Tinybeans

Tinybeans

No, it doesn't come in a box, but aside from our obvious love, 150,000 5-star reviews from our users agree. With Tinybeans, you can easily and privately capture and organize your kiddo’s best moments and milestones in a single platform. Its intuitive interface, along with features like photobook creation and easy customization, make organizing and searching for memories a breeze. Tinybeans—Get it Here Free!

The 2 Million Dollar Puzzle

MSCHF

This is the best kind of chaotic mischief. A $20 puzzle. A chance to win between $1 and $1,000,000. Once dad completes the 500-piece puzzle, scan the QR code with your phone. Enter your secret prize code (found on the paper insert in your puzzle box) and learn what you’ve won. This isn't your average jigsaw. The 2 Million Dollar Puzzle ($20.00)—Buy Here!

Bespoke Post

Bespoke Post

Bespoke Post is a seriously sharp subscription service for the modern dude in your life. Each box is built around a specific story or theme, with the goal of introducing you to something new—a better way to shave, a stylish take on barware, a new hobby; stuff like that.Stay classy, San Diego (or wherever you are). Bespoke Post Subscription (Starting at $49.00)—Buy Here!

RadRunner 2 Electric Bike

Rad Power Bikes

Commute. Explore. Whatever dad does, he can do it in style with the ebike that's been hailed "the best affordable electric utility bike". With over 330 possible accessory combinations, he can customize this moped-style ebike to his heart’s content. Want the numbers? The RadRunner2 offers up to 45 miles per charge, can support up to 300lbs, and has a 750W motor. Available in 3 colors. RadRunner 2 Electric Bike (Starting at $1449.00)—Buy Here!

The Office World’s Best Dad Pop-Up Card

Lovepop

Is there any dad who doesn't love The Office? Hook him up with a very cool greeting card from Lovepop. Whether you go The Office route or pick from another one of their Father's Day collection, you really can't go wrong—these are cards he'll want to keep for sure. The Office World’s Best Dad Pop-Up Card ($15.00)—Buy Here!

Dynamite with a Laser Beam Killer Pecans

Dude, Sweet Chocolate

Sweet, salty, spicy. These pecans deliver major flavor and are probably unlike anything dad's ever tasted. Dynamite with a Laser Beam Killer Pecans ($20.00)—Buy Here!

LAKA 30 Cooler

LAKA Coolers

The dad on the go is gonna need his trusty cooler, and this LAKA Cooler delivers. Available in 9 colors, it keeps ice for up to 10 days. Add a telescoping handle, serious durability, cup holder, bottle opener, and rubber wheels and you have a gift dad will use for years to come. LAKA 30 Cooler ($239.99)—Buy Here!

Mystery Tackle Box

Mystery Tackle Box

Does his Facebook profile picture feature him proudly displaying a freshly-caught bass? The Mystery Tackle Box is for him. Choose between a standard or pro plan for bass, multi-species, panfish and trout, walleye, or inshore saltwater fishing, and every month, he'll get a box full of bait, lures, and tackle to help fuel his fishy hobby. No two boxes are the same, either. Mystery Tackle Box (Starting at $48.45)—Buy Here!

National Park Welcome Hoodie

Parks Project

So this is a pretty cool vintage-fit hoodie. But it also gives back. Parks Project has a goal "to protect and preserve parklands for generations to come by educating, advocating, volunteering, and activating park supporters to get involved in conservation." Not only are you gifting his new favorite hoodie, but you'll be contributing to something bigger, too. (Heads up that it runs small, so be sure to go up a size or two.) National Park Welcome Hoodie ($72.00)—Buy Here!

Virgin Experience Gifts

Virgin Experience Gifts

What do you get the guy that has it all? An experience he's never had. From canopy zip-lining, murder mystery theater dinners, the ultimate home date night kit, race car drives, and more, Virgin Experience Gifts offers something for everyone, almost everywhere. Pick something for dad to do, or hook him up with a gift card to choose his own. Virgin Experience Gifts (Price Varies)—Buy Here!

Stitch Fix Men

Stitch Fix

Even if dad hates shopping, Stitch Fix for Men makes it easy for him. All he has to do is take their Style Quiz (or you can do it for him—they're used to it) and he'll get 5 curated pieces delivered to him. Whether he chooses to get his Fix monthly or on-demand, he'll find pieces that fit right out of the box, and if they don't work exactly the way he wants, he can send them back (free) with notes to make his next Fix perfect. He can even preview his pieces before they ship. It's the gift that keeps on giving. Stitch Fix Men ($20.00+)—Buy Here!

Threes Knees Spicy Gift Set

Bushwick Kitchen

Spicy Honey, Spicy Maple, and Gochujang Sriracha plus a BK kitchen towel create a divinely spicy set for the heat lovers among us. And don't worry; they're not so hot that you can't taste the actual (super yummy) flavors of these kickin' condiments. Threes Knees Spicy Gift Set ($49.99)—Buy Here!

Vibrating Pliability Mini Sphere

TB12 Sports

A portable massage sphere, this little gadget from TB12 Sports is for dads of all shapes and sizes. It relieves tension, warms up muscles, and basically feels awesome. Vibrating Pliability Mini Sphere ($99.00)—Buy Here!

Beer and Bourbon Liquor Peanuts Tin

Damn, Man

He'll probably assume an I.P.A. is in his Father's Day future, so surprise him with this tin of boozy peanuts. Just strong enough to make them super flavorful, they have a sweet and cocktail-y kick. Beer and Bourbon Liquor Peanuts Tin ($24.00)—Buy Here!

Beard Club Ultimate Beard & Trimmer Kit

Beard Club

Maybe you expected a shave kit on the list, but we promise you didn't expect this shave kit. The Beard Club Ultimate Kit has everything he needs for his best beard ever. Plus, the over 3,500 5-star reviews from happy guys speak for themselves. Beard Club Ultimate Beard & Trimmer Kit ($125.00)—Buy Here!

Superman 85th Diamond Anniversary Logo T-shirt

DC Shop

Even if he already owns a bunch of superhero tees, even if he already owns a bunch of Superman tees, the Diamond Anniversary t-shirt is a must for any fan. It comes in royal blue, light blue, and white. Superman 85th Diamond Anniversary Logo T-shirt ($25.00)—Buy Here!

Viking Acacia And Slate Cheese Board

Sur la Table

No one doesn't like charcuterie. No one. This acacia and slate cheese board from foodie fave Viking is sleek, functional, and perfect for parties or movie night. Set includes a wood board with slate inlay, two cheese knives, and three pinch bowls. Viking Acacia And Slate Cheese Board ($179.95)—Buy Here!

Reclaimed Whiskey Barrel DIY Watch Kit

Original Grain

Can't pick? How about something that covers all the bases whether he's a watch lover, a DIY fan, a whiskey connoisseur, or a vintage appreciator? This DIY kit from Original Grain lets dad make his own timepiece (and also comes in reclaimed military wood or reclaimed German beer barrel wood). What he creates is not only a very, very cool watch, but a keepsake he can be proud of. Reclaimed Whiskey Barrel DIY Watch Kit ($329.00)—Buy Here!

Herd & Grace Aussie Feast Starter Box

Herd & Grace

He won't find these cuts at the neighborhood grocery store. They're premium curated cuts from Tasmania and South Australia that are typically reserved for fine dining restaurants (the kind without chicken nuggets on the menu, so it's not likely dad's made it to one of those too often these days) and would cost at least $350. It's a major deal that doesn't feel like one at all. Herd & Grace Aussie Feast Starter Box ($134.99)—Buy Here!

SolidWork Safety Goggles

SolidWork/Amazon

Why would we include something that seems ultra-practical in a list of gifts? Because these safety goggles from SolidWork have over 11,600 reviews giving them almost 5 stars. That's some goggle love. SolidWork Safety Goggles ($19.99)—Buy Here!

Everdure Cube Portable Charcoal Grill

Everdure/Amazon

Everdure by Heston's wildly popular Cube 360 Portable Charcoal BBQ is the ultimate portable charcoal barbeque, uniquely designed to let him grill, smoke, and roast his way to outdoor cooking bliss. Available in 5 colors, too. Everdure Cube Portable Charcoal Grill ($156.99+)—Buy Here!

Nostalgic Chocolate Bars 5pk

Sugar Plum Chocolates

Apple Pie, Pancakes and Syrup, Fruity Flakes, PB&J, Milk and Cookies—what more could a dad ask for? Pick one of each, or snag five of his favorite flavors. Nostalgic Chocolate Bars 5pk ($25.00)—Buy Here!

Bond Heart Smart Necklace

Bond Touch

Obviously, anyone can wear a heart necklace. But even if dad isn't really a jewelry guy, this black (or white) heart necklace is more than just an accessory. It actually holds the heartbeats of those you love. Wrap your hand around the pendant and feel your loved ones' heartbeats without an internet connection. Anytime. Anywhere. Upload and request the heartbeats through the app, pair it with your Bond Heart, and you're set for up to 21 days before it needs to be recharged. Pretty special, right? (And if dad isn't into necklaces, check out Bond Touch's wristbands.) Bond Heart Smart Necklace ($99.00)—Buy Here!

Back to the Roots Hydroponic Indoor Garden

Back to Roots/Amazon

A perfect gift for dad that keeps on giving to the whole family! The Hydroponic Grow Kit comes with everything you need to grow fresh herbs year-round, indoors. Back to the Roots Hydroponic Indoor Garden ($108.99)—Buy Here!

Dad Bod Dessert Bundle

Magnolia Bakery

Celebrate dad (bods) this Father’s Day with a few of our favorite things. Enjoy two large classic Banana Pudding cups, two Banana Pudding cookies, and two Double Fudge Brownies. Maybe he'll share? Dad Bod Dessert Bundle ($60.00)—Buy Here!

Colsen Tabletop Indoor/Outdoor Ethanol Fireplace

Colson/Amazon

Concrete and fire. That's a Father's Day gift recipe for the books. This portable fire tabletop is fueled by smokeless, odorless rubbing alcohol with flame arrestor and can be used indoor or out. Seriously. Colsen Tabletop Indoor/Outdoor Ethanol Fireplace ($39.96)—Buy Here!

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Fatherless Dad Starts YouTube Channel to Teach Basic Skills

by Jennifer Swartvagher

Rob Kenney is looking out for kids who don’t have a father figure in their life. His popular YouTube channel,  “Dad, How Do I?” has recently gone viral. There he teaches skills you would normally ask your dad about. 

According to an article in Shattered, Kenney wants to leave a legacy, particularly for those who come from a broken family or have an absent parent. Kenney’s own father left when he was still a child. After raising two children of his own, he started making videos to help fill his empty nest. 

So far, the videos cover topics like checking the oil, checking your tire pressure, how to fix a running toilet, how to tie a tie and how to iron a dress shirt.

After the outpouring of support made its way to Kenney’s various inboxes, he shared a video to his account thanking everyone for their kind words.

 

 

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Make These Cute Valentines with Your Toddler—Featuring Handprints & More

by Oz Spies

From hearts and lovebugs to flowers and trees, these are all kinds of cute

Spread the love with these easy homemade Valentine’s Day cards perfect for making with babies and toddlers. Each card or keepsake features a unique touch—your kiddo’s thumbprint, handprint, or footprint. So these are frameable pieces you’ll want to save or give to buddies and grandparents. Gather up supplies like construction paper, tempera paint, and washable ink, and you’ll have unique, handmade toddler valentines in no time.

Thumbprint Hearts

cute thumbprint toddler valentine
Oz Spies

Brush washable tempera paint on your little one’s thumb, and then make two thumbprints, each on an angle, to create the shape of a heart. When the thumbprints dry, write your Valentine’s Day message around the heart. This easy-peasy Valentine will be ready in no time. Because it’s so simple, this Valentine is a perfect activity for playgroup buddies or preschool classmates.

Thumbprint Lovebugs

Oz Spies

Share a little love with a trio of lovebugs. Using washable ink in your little lovebug’s favorite color, help your child make thumbprints on the center of a piece of cardstock or construction paper. When the print dries, use a fine-tipped Sharpie to add legs, antennae and a cheerful smile. Glue on googly eyes for an extra-festive touch. Share these cards with neighborhood buddies or older siblings.

Related: 28 Easy Valentine’s Day Cards You Can Make at Home

Thumbprint Flowers

Oz Spies

By pairing two thumbprints together and drawing a stem, it’s easy to grow a bundle of flowers on your toddler's valentines cards. With a paintbrush, coat your kiddo’s thumb with washable tempera paint. Add as many brightly colored thumbprints as you’d like, and then use a green marker to add stalks, leaves, and grass. To complete the card, write “I’d pick you any day to be my Valentine” atop the field of thumbprint flowers.

All You Need Is L O V E

Hello Wonderful

Spell out the word of the day using footprints as the V and a handprint in place of the O. This keepsake-worthy piece makes a perfect Valentine’s Day gift for the people who love your little one best, from grandma to dad. It’s a sweet Valentine to commemorate baby’s first Valentine’s Day. Head over to Hello Wonderful to find out how you can make your own.

Related: 18 Easy Valentine’s Day Gifts That Kids Can Make

Fingerpaint Heart

Oz Spies

Kids who love smearing paint on paper will be delighted to make this fingerpaint heart for Valentine's Day. Cut a heart shape out of paper and use double-sided tape to attach it to the center of another piece of paper. Next, let your budding artist paint all over the paper with their favorite finger paints. When the paint dries, simply peel off the heart shape, and voila! You'll have a brightly colored toddler-created masterpiece with a perfect heart shape in the middle. You can write a Valentine’s Day message in the center of the heart, or add your child’s handprint.

Tree of Love

a cute fingerprint toddler valentine from Etsy
Etsy shop Perfect Chaos Digitals

Want to make a cute card with minimal effort? This thumbprint tree is for you. You’ll get an adorable product, and all you need is a few washable ink pads and your little one’s thumb. Just purchase the card, print it on cardstock, and sprinkle thumbprints all over it. It’s the perfect card to send to extended family on Valentine’s Day.

Available at Etsy shop Perfect Chaos Digitals, $4

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Why It’s So Important for Kids to Spend Time with Their Grandparents

by Mira Temkin

Look no further than your own family to find role models for your children. Grandparents can inspire the younger generation’s values and future

We all know that grandparents are our kids’ go-to source for bear hugs, commiseration (you are the common enemy), and yummy movie night snacks. But did you know that kids benefit from their grandparent’s advice, guidance, and endless love, too? Yup, research shows that it’s a win-win for both generations, and so, in honor of Grandparent’s Day on Sept. 11, here are 10 reasons why your kids need to get in that QT with Nana, Pop-Pop, Mimi, or Gramps.

Grandparents Provide Unconditional Love

Mira Temkin

Grandparents love your children and want to be around them, helping them mature and shaping them into smart, caring adults. Showering your children with unconditional love will go a long way toward instilling confidence in them and ensuring that they have a brighter future. 

You'll Help Your Parents Live Longer

A grandfather happily lifts his baby grandson into the air
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Scientists now believe that grandparents who babysit live longer than those who don’t. A study showed babysitting grandparents had a whopping 37% lower mortality risk than adults of the same age who have no “caring responsibilities.” They believe time spent with grandchildren creates a sense of purpose and also helps keep grandparents physically and mentally active. 

Related: The Most Awesome “Gramping” Packages for Skip-Gen Travel

Grandparents Want to Show Them the World!

A child spends time outside in the park with his grandparents
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Hopefully, your mom and dad will want to explore the world with your kiddos and take them to visit historic and educational destinations. Your parents may have the financial means to go a little further and take the kids on a skip-gen trip by themselves. Count yourself very lucky if they can.

Related: 11 Tips for Grandparents Traveling with Grandkids

They Can Enjoy New Experiences Together

Mira Temkin

Let your mom and dad take your kids on educational, yet fun outings—to museums, art shows, and musical theatre performances. Let the grandparents serve as role models, showcasing their passion for culture. Kids who are exposed to the arts will be more likely to pursue these experiences on their own as they continue to grow.

You Can All Be Part of a Team

A girl and her grandfather are in the kitchen cooking together
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Raising children is like a team sport. You’ve heard the expression, “It takes a village to raise a child.” Encourage your parents to be a part of the team and let them take great pride in fostering your children to become confident, healthy adults. That’s something you can all be proud of accomplishing. 

Related: 12 Games to Play with Grandparents

You'll End Up with Happier, More Secure Children

Happy grandparents spending time with their grandchildren sit on a couch laughing
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If you need more convincing, a study at the University of Oxford by Professor Ann Buchanan from the Department of Social Policy and Intervention showed that “a high level of grandparental involvement increased the well-being of children.” Their study of more than 1,500 children showed that those with a high level of grandparental involvement had fewer emotional and behavioral problems.

Grandparents Can Be Your Child’s Best Sounding Board and Source of Comfort

a boy hugs his grandpa from behind on a sunny day
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It’s a tough world out there. Your kids see how hard you work and may feel more comfortable sharing their issues and concerns with their grandparents, who might be less judgemental. If your child dreams of becoming an astronaut, grandparents have the power to encourage them. If a family is struggling, grandparents can just be there to listen and provide empathy for their fears.

Your Kids Can Learn about the Past

Grandparents sit on the beach with their two grandchildren
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There was a time in the not-so-distant past when our lives weren't ruled by technology. Grandparents can share stories about years when humans weren't living in a digital world; kids will love seeing pictures of their grandparents doing their favorite things and come to understand how different life was back then.

Grandparents Can Help Kids Do Good for Others

A girl and her grandmother look at grapes on a vinyeard
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The elder generation may also place a high value on volunteering at religious and social service organizations. They may ask to bring the kids along with them at events like sorting donations at a food bank, packing school supplies, and purchasing warm coats for needy children. Participating in these kinds of activities will teach your children about compassion.  

 

Your Kids Can Learn about and Share Their Values

Mira Temkin

Grandparents have an opportunity to share their values, like the importance of getting a good education, staying close to family, and being kind to children at school who may be physically and mentally challenged, with your kids. The influence of positive role models is critical as children tend to model the behaviors they see; listening to their grandparents will serve as a guide for your kiddos.

 

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Get a Letter from an Astronaut by Writing to NASA’s Pen Pal Program for Kids

by Shahrzad Warkentin

Every kid loves getting something addressed to them in the mail, but what if they received correspondence from a real astronaut? Thanks to NASA’s pen pal program, they can write and receive answers from real, live astronauts. It’s a great way to keep kids interested in science, and if a letter does come back, it’s a pretty cool item for the family “brag board.”

Astronaut in space

Step One: Pick an astronaut

Have your kids look through the list of astronauts on at NASA’s website and read through their bios to see what each one does. Maybe your kids want to know what it’s like to live on the Space Station. Maybe they are more interested in the engineering and problem-solving that goes into making a rocket fly. Picking an astronaut who deals with exactly your kid’s interests makes the NASA pen pal program process even more fun.

Step Two: Decide what to ask their astronaut of choice

Once you’ve picked your lucky astronaut, you should help your kids compose their letter (or have them write it on their own if they’re old enough). The best bet is to ask a specific question that an astronaut can answer. (Check out this amazing two-page letter one four-year-old received after her dad helped her write a letter to NASA scientist Dr. David Williams with a question about a probe headed to Jupiter’s moons.) Kids can think about what they’ve learned in school to help draft their questions. You can also make a request for an autographed photo from current astronauts who are in training or are assigned to an upcoming flight.

Step Three: Address and mail the letter to the NASA office

Any mail and photo requests can be sent to:

NASA Johnson Space Center
CB/Astronaut Office
Houston, TX 77058

You can make it easier on the astronauts by including a self-addressed and stamped return envelope.

Good luck, space cadets!

 

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When He’s Not the Best Husband—but He’s Still a Good Father

By Tammy Letherer

I had been divorced for a couple of years when my former husband called with a surprise. Thankfully, it wasn’t the type of surprise he delivered the night he sat me at the table and told me he had been unfaithful for more than a decade and was leaving me for someone he met in Las Vegas.

No, this surprise had to do with our 12-year-old son. He said he was taking him to China for a vacation. I got that feeling you get when you walk in on a conversation, and everyone is laughing and looking at you like you know what they’re talking about.

China?

How had this come about? I searched my memory for some mention of anything remotely Chinese on my son’s wish list. Had the two of them been to see the First Emperor’s Terracotta Warriors on display at the Field Museum? Or taken a school field trip to Chinatown that I didn’t know about?

The only connection I could come up with was my son’s collection of Pokemon cards, but those are Japanese.

“Um… that would be cool, I guess,” I said, still processing the random nature of his declaration. By the time I gathered my thoughts enough to pose some questions and concerns, he announced that he had bought tickets to travel during a school week and over days that were technically mine on the parenting schedule.

“I can’t change it,” he said. “If I do, I’ll have to pay $1,000 and I know you don’t want that.”

What I didn’t want was to be told what to think or how to feel. An immediate, familiar pressure gripped my chest as I recalled all the activities and decisions that had already occurred behind my back. That he would plan something so extravagant for our son without discussing it with me felt too unfair. I was already struggling with the realities of co-parenting our three children, still getting used to the myriad ways a divorced mom must learn to let go as she is eased out of her job.

After college, I worked as a secretary in London for a few months and learned that, rather than firing people, workers are “made redundant.” It means the same thing but sounds so much nicer. I’ve been made redundant as a mother—no longer needed or useful in all the ways I once was.

This shows up in small ways:

Tell me about your science project. “I don’t want to talk about it. I told dad all about it.”

Want to see the new Marvel movie? “Sorry, mom, we saw it with dad.”

Guess what? I got pizza for dinner! (A chorus of groans.) “We had pizza two nights in a row with dad!”

And in big ways, like feeling helpless and broken during that stretch when my daughter called, in tears, begging to come home every time she was at her dad’s. Or having no words of comfort when my boys expressed their anger about their dad’s girlfriend moving in.

All of those impotent moments were triggered again by the thought of my son flying halfway around the world without me. I imagined him sleep-deprived and anxious from the long flight, wandering lost in a crowded street market, even starving, thanks to his finicky diet.

Overprotective? Maybe. But once your trust in someone is so completely shattered, how do you patch enough of it together to cover some areas and not others? I believe my kids’ dad is, as a parent, loving and devoted. But I believed that about him as a husband, too, and I was wrong.

I don’t blame myself for being guarded. I believe that any mother who has ever experienced betrayal would likely volunteer to go through it again rather than see her kids suffer a similar disappointment. At the same time, I have to be careful not to color my kids’ experiences with my disappointments. For me, this meant smiling while I packed a suitcase and waved bon voyage to my baby. It also meant feeling genuine happiness when my baby returned unscathed, unperturbed and a little more worldly.

Yes, I have learned some wonderful lessons on this road back from betrayal.

Here are the big ones.

Respond rather than react.

One of the best decisions I made early in the divorce process was to treat negotiations as business agreements and relegate them to emails rather than phone calls. That way, I can take my time and formulate a clear-headed answer on my timeline. Reacting equals losing power. Responding equals reclaiming power.

Have your facts straight.

In the case of the China trip, I assumed that my son couldn’t be taken out of the country without my permission. But when I checked our parenting agreement, I saw that my former husband only needed written permission from me for the first 24 months following the divorce. Wow. That shocked me, but there it was, in black and white.

Gathering the facts gave me time to gather my thoughts enough to get clear about my objections and whether they were ones I had a right to make. As galling as it is to have to follow rules with a rule-breaker who broke your heart, do it anyway.

Come from a “well-fed” place.

This is the juicy center, the meat inside the sandwich. Everything revolves around my ability to get quiet, tune in and take responsibility for my inner world. What are my motivations? Is this about me or my kids? Am I fighting for the sake of fighting? Am I settling an old score? Am I bored, lonely or craving drama? I need to look at whether I’m feeding myself what I need rather than entering into a “hungry” exchange with my former husband.

Of course, life, in its perfection, always provides us with opportunities to practice these skills. I had another chance when our daughter turned 13 and her dad decided it was her turn for an extravagant trip—to Thailand. This time I was prepared.

My response? Don’t forget your sunscreen.

Oh, and bring me back a Buddha.

Originally published in June 2018 on She Does the City.

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Dear Husband: I Need More Help from You
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Celebrate Dad with These Fun Father’s Day Activities

by TaLeiza Calloway-Appleton

Family head. Source of tough love. Our greatest supporter in all we do. Fathers are special people in our lives and a constant reminder that we are loved. This Father’s Day, make Dad feel special with these fun activities that are sure to bring on the smiles and create lasting memories. After all, just like a homemade DIY card, the gift of time is priceless.

Take Dad to a Ballgame

Fans watch an Oakland As' baseball game
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Channel your inner sports fan and take Dad to a baseball game this Father’s Day. The Oakland A’s will face the Kansas City Royals at home. This three-game series starts on Friday, June 17 and runs through Sunday, June 19. Batter Up!

Classic Car Show Fun

TaLeiza Calloway-Appleton

Rev up the fun at a Classic Car Show. The Garlic City Car Show is back to Gilroy after two years! This year’s car show will take place on Saturday, June 18 from 10am-4pm in Downtown Gilroy. There will be live music, vendors, and over 200 of the coolest classic cars in Gilroy.

Celebrate Heritage and Tradition

A Native American dance group performs at Yerba Buena
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Father’s Day is a celebration of family. Enjoy a beloved Father’s Day tradition with the 20th annual Native Contemporary Arts Festival. Part of the Yerba Buena Gardens Festival, the special event will showcase a diverse program of native music, dance, spoken word, visual artists, vendors and native crafts. 

Celebrate Juneteeth

Celebrate African-American culture at the Children's Discovery Museum or at Lake Merritt.

Dine on the Water

Treat Dad to an unforgettable meal and memories aboard the Hornblower’s Father’s Day Brunch Cruise. Enjoy chef-inspired, plated entrees, music and more on this picturesque two-hour yacht cruise. Bonus: Seats are assigned and you even get a keepsake photo.

Head Outdoors

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Fishing is a fun pastime to spend with dad and we've got the full scoop on all the great spots in the Bay Area to cast a line. Prefer a low-key, equipment-less outing? Take a family nature walk, join a Bioblitz or tidepool tour. We also enjoy exploring while hiking with our dad and these unique and waterfall trails are perfect for an outdoor adventure everyone will remember. 

Jam at a Music Festival

A father and daughter enjoy a music festival on Father's Day
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The music festival scene in the Bay Area is ripe this summer! Check out San Francisco’s North Beach Festival. One of the city’s largest street fairs, the two-day event will include live music, food, arts and crafts and more Father’s Day weekend. Other fun options include the Stern Grove Festival and Novato Art, Wine and Music festival.

Quality Time at Home

A father gardens with his children
TaLeiza Calloway-Appleton

Nothing beats good ole quality time at home. Does Dad have a green thumb? Plant a garden in your backyard. Here’s our list of fun gardening ideas.

Get Creative with Art

A handmade card speaks to the heart and we’ve gathered some festive DIY ideas to spark your creativity. Kick it up a bit by painting together at a local Paint Nite, Craft Night or even make a scrapbook together.

—TaLeiza Calloway-Appleton and Kate Loweth

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Super Fun Father’s Day Activities with Dad in Chicago

by Maria Chambers

Dad, pop, daddy, poppa, dadda, father, old man—no matter what you call him when ya need him, he’s extra special and oh so important. From baseball games celebrating Chicago’s love of hot dogs to art-filled exhibits, these Father’s Day activities in Chicago will make him feel celebrated. Here’s our list of what’s tops for pops (or someone extra special who walks in those shoes) in Chicago this Father’s Day.

For Food-Loving Dads

Blue Man Group & 2D Restaurant
Take dad to experience 2D Restaurant, an immersive and interactive 2D comic-book-like restaurant, and snag a Blue Man Group-themed donut. The donut features fresh blueberry puree sprinkled with colored cocoa powder and topped with a marshmallow. Purchase throughout the month of June to receive a code for 20% off an upcoming Blue Man Group performance, which would make a fun Father's Day gift.

Ribfest
There’s a reason why this annual, finger-licking extravaganza of BBQ is so popular: Grillers come from all over the country to dish their ‘cue and compete for the festival title and the music lineup is always impressive. This Father's Day, Brett Eldredge is headlining. The Family Area at Ribfest is a fest unto itself with a petting zoo, magic shows, inflatables and more.

Themed Restaurants
Dining out doesn’t have to be a snooze fest. There are lots of places to let imaginations run wild that range from a venue fit for a spy to a delightful meal in a rainforest. Sure, we know these themed restaurants in Chicago can sometimes be sensory overload, mostly for parents, but embrace the silliness. Who says you have to be serious all the time, anyway?

For Sports-Loving Dads

The Chicago Dogs
Chicago's newest baseball team pays homage to Chicago's favorite street food, HOT DOGS! Make it a low-key Father's Day spent at Impact Field in Rosemont watching The Chicago Dogs bring home a "W".

Miniature Golf
Maybe you have a dad that likes to spend weekends on the greens? Indulge his love of golf by hitting up one of Chicago's mini-golf courses. There's even a limited-time-only Pixar-themed course at Navy Pier.

For Art-Loving Dads

Mexican Art Exhibit at Cantigny
Cantigny Park in Wheaton is hosting Alebrijes: Creatures of a Dream World, Jun.-Oct., featuring dozens of mythical animals inspired by Mexican folklore.

Immersive Monet & The Impressionists
State-of-the-art video mapping and ground-breaking animation bring the art of Impressionists to life like never before in Immersive Monet & The Impressionists. Viewers will be bathed in the brushstrokes and colors of Claude Monet, Auguste Renoir, Edgar Degas, Mary Cassatt and many more.

Human + Nature
Five massive outdoor sculptures created exclusively for Morton Arboretum rise above the natural landscapes in the Human + Nature exhibition. The 15- to 26-foot-tall sculptures installed across the 1,700-acre site use thought-provoking human forms paired with elements of nature to bring attention to the deep connections between humans and nature. Three new sculptures will be unveiled Jun. 17.

For Boat-Loving Dads

Sail GP at Navy Pier
Experience the high-adrenaline racing of Sail GP, sailing's pinnacle league, when 10 national teams race cutting-edge sailboats capable of speeds in excess of 60mph. They'll turn Chicago's lakefront into a racecourse at the United States Sail Grand Prix, Jun. 18 & 19.

Chicago Fire Boat Tour
The Fred A. Busse was the largest diesel-powered fireboat in the world and served the Chicago Fire Department until 1981. The Chicago Fire Boat was built specifically to fit under Chicago’s bridges, minimizing response times for emergencies and helping ease congestion in a booming city. Her new owners renovated the retired fireboat and she is now cruising the Chicago waterways once again!

For more boat tour ideas, read our story: Explore Chicago’s Waterways on a Family Boat Cruise.

For Movie-Loving Dads

Chicago Philharmonic's Black Panther
Experience Marvel Studios' Black Panther in Concert with Chicago Philarmonic at Chicago Theatre. The night will feature a screening of the complete film with the musical score performed live.

Movies Under the Stars
While an air-conditioned theater might be just what a sweltering summer ordered, the best way to watch a movie in Chicago is outdoors. There are parks, nature centers, drive-ins, hotels and historic attractions reeling family favs. And their lawns or rooftops are yours for the taking. Watch a flick while fireflies dance with our guide to summer outdoor movies.

For Music-Loving Dads

Prince: Immersive Experience
Chicago is glowing purple, Jun. 9-Oct. 9, with Prince: Immersive Experience. Fans can immerse themselves in the music and life of Prince in 10 multi-dimensional spaces. The Experience will also feature historic wardrobe pieces, photography, instruments and much more courtesy of The Prince Estate. 

Pride Fest
Home to an eclectic mix of arts and crafts, food and other vendors, Pride Fest is hands down the Midwest’s largest celebration of gay pride. Four stages play host to some of the most fun pop and dance entertainment acts of summer, one of which highlights Chicago’s best performers in the LGBTQ community.

For Play-Loving Dads

Raging Waves
Splish, Splash! Turn Father's Day into a play day at Raging Waves. Experience Aussie Mat Dash, a six-lane racing waterslide. Six riders race side-by-side on mats in tunnels to an exhilarating finish at the bottom. You'll also find several family friendly attractions, including 32 water slides, a huge wave pool, three kiddie pool areas and a relaxing lazy river.

Nickel City
Play old-school games like Skee-Ball and Bozo Buckets at Northbrook’s Nickel City where, you guessed it, games are a nickel.

Fairmont Chicago Lake House
Fairmont Chicago is capturing the magic of lake living with its summer pop-up experience, The Lake House. The lobby has been transformed to emulate the spirit of a Chicago summer spent on the lake with a built-in boat house surrounding the lobby bar accompanied by lake-house-inspired food, drinks and games like cornhole and fun photo opportunities throughout.

Scottish Festival & Highland Games
Travel back in time to a life on the Scottish Isles at the annual Scottish Festival & Highland Games, Jun. 17 & 18. Your wee ones are sure to enjoy the men dressed in kilts, caber tossing, bagpipers strolling, adorable dogs dressed in Tartan, beautiful Heather queens, Haggis eating, and the shortbread contest at the Midwest’s largest Celtic Family Festival.

For Exercise-Loving Dads

Bike Trails
Dust off those bikes, grease the chains, strap on a brain bucket and get those legs pumping on a Chicago bike path. From the shores of Lake Michigan to the furthest reaches of the suburbs, here are our favorite spots to cycle as a family in Chicago.

Climbing Walls
Keep the kids from climbing the walls this Father's Day and take the family for a rock climbing or bouldering experience at one of our favorite climbing facilities for Chicago families.

For Chicago-Loving Dads

Sky Deck
Sometimes it's fun to play tourist in your own city, especially when the payoff is great views of our gorgeous skyline and lake. Pay a visit to Willis Tower and, if you're brave enough, walk the 4.3 feet into a glass box—The Ledge. Before you head up, check out their new museum packed with Instagramable photo opps and fun facts.

360 CHICAGO
For more great views and heart-pounding adventure, head to Michigan Ave. to 360 CHICAGO and TILT. You'll shoot 94-floors high and lean (and squeal) 30-degrees over Chicago.

For Craft Beer-Loving Dads

Ravenswood on Tap
Ravenswood’s "Malt Row" is home to one of the country’s most prolific craft brewing communities and they're celebrating that scene at the third annual Ravenswood on Tap craft beer festival, Jun. 18 & 19. This two-day outdoor event features beer and spirits from local breweries, grub from some of Chicago’s favorite restaurants and food trucks, a killer lineup of live music, and handmade goods from local retailers and artists.

— Maria Chambers

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Father’s Favorites: Gift Ideas for the DC Dad

by Meghan Yudes Meyers

From thrill seekers to gamers, movie buffs to history buffs, fishers to swimmers and everything in-between, we rounded up the best experience gifts and products for every type of Dad this Father’s Day. Spend nothing but time while fishing in Anacostia or invest in tickets to Dad’s favorite attractions, like nearby HersheyPark or prime seats at a Nats game. Whether you want a special experience you don’t have to wrap or something special to open on Father’s Day morning, here are our picks for best gifts from DC-area establishments.

photo: Wolf Trap 

May the Force Be With Dad
Rule the galaxy as father and son (or daughter) with Star Wars tickets. Your favorite Star Wars fan will appreciate the July 29th musical presentation of the The Empire Strike’s Back’s famous score at Wolf Trap where Storm Troopers make a personal appearance. The film will play while the National Symphony Orchestra plays the film’s soundtrack life (a screen will be both on the stage and on the grass so those with lawn seats can see). Tickets start at $42/person.

photo: Hershey Park 

Give Free Kisses
Hershey Kisses, that is! Make this Father’s Day a sweet one with a daytrip to Hershey Park. Just two hours north of DC, this amusement park boasts over 70 rides and attractions, including roller coasters, the largest water-play structure in the world, live entertainment, games, food, shops, and even a simulated tropical rainforest where visitors learn how cocoa beans grow and are harvested. Ticket purchases include admission to ZooAmerica North American Wildlife Park, an 11-acre walk-through zoo that includes more than 200 animals from five regions of North America.it! While you’re in town, check out Hershey Gardens. It’s free for Dad on Father’s Day. 

Family matching swimsuits

Show Don’t Tell
How do you tell the world you’re a family man without telling the world? Father-and-kiddo matching outfits! Pools are open, so dive in with the gift of coordination because nothing says “we’re all together” like showing up to the pool in matching family swim suits. Tea Collections offers select patterns in sizes to fit the whole family, so everyone can get in on the fun (including Mom!). Tea is sold at Mom-and-Pop shops Wee Chic in Fairfax VA and Kinder Haus Toys in Alexandria, VA carry the line.

 

photo: The Dad Hoodie

 

The Gift of Pockets
The Dad Hoodie is the Swiss Army knife of garments. The inside of this hoodie is lined with pockets that last Dad ditch the diaper bag.  That’s probably why they weight a ton. Lighten her load this Mother’s Day with a hoodie that does it all. This unisex hoodie ($98) has room for all of the essentials  (and more) for those long walk around the ‘hood. With six inside pockets and two outside, this hoodie has room for diapers, wipes, bottles, snacks and possibly even the kitchen sink.

 

photo: Hello, Wonderful

Share His Story

The best presents are often the ones that are handmade at home. This creative fill-it-out yourself booklet designed by Hello, Wonderful are what memories are made of. Your guy will forever cherish the innocently hilarious answers his kiddos give to creative questions like, “the most fun thing I’ve done with my dad is…” and “my dad smells like…”. For more DIY Father’s Day card projects, go here.

 

photo: Monster Jam

Get Revved Up!
Celebrate Father’s Day a week early at Monster Jam, the ultimate display of monster trucks. Spend a day watching high-octane action as these supersized beast-like vehicles compete at FedEx Field on June 11. Tickets start at $33 and include 2.5 hours of flips, tricks and daredevil racing.

Man Driving antique car at antique car show

photo: Craige McGonigle via Unsplash 

Turn Back Time

Enjoy Father’s Day at this annual antique car show where over 400 cars are on display. Spend the day listening to live music, doing hands-on activities in the kids’ tent, shopping the flea market and possibly buying Dad a new car (some of these beauties are for sale!). While you’re there, tour the Sully Historic House.The Antique Car Show Admission fee is $12 for adults, $10 for seniors, and $8 per child. Historic Sully House fee is included in admission at no additional cost.

 

photo: Jose Morales via Unsplash

Go Nats!
Whether you give him a night off to hang with friends at Nationals Park or get the whole family into the game, what could be better than an afternoon or evening at a Nats game! The weekend after Father’s Day the Nats take on the Philadelphia Phillies (June 19 at 12:05 p.m.). Family Fun package tickets, which include a hot dog, chips and soda start at $23/per person. Children under 10 attend free.

 

a dad and daughter catch a fish

photo: iStock 

Make Memories for Free
You don’t have to spend a dime to give Dad a special holiday. The first Friday Night Fishing kicks off along the Anacostia River on June 17. Bait, tackle and rods are provided, but come early. This weekly event is first come, first served (when the dock is full, fishing is capped to one hour so those on the waitlist can have a turn). Make it a summer tradition and go every Friday, June 17-Aug. 26 from 5-8 p.m.

Cave Men Rule
If you haven’t yet journeyed out to the Luray Caverns in Northern Virginia, this is a fun family day trip that is sure to please even the hardest to satisfy caveman as well as the kiddos. Pack plenty of snacks and a lunch for your adventure. Note: this trip is not for the weary—the tour is about an hour and you’ll cover 1.25 miles. Strollers are OK but bring the smaller one you have due to some of the stairs and steep inclines on parts of the tour ($32/adults; $16/kids 6-12; free/5 and under). Admission gets you access and the Luray Caverns tour, a self-guided tour of the Car and Carriage Caravan, and the Luray Valley Museum.

Meghan Yudes Meyers and Kristina Messner

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