From handheld pinball games to tiny tattoos to crayons you can wear on your fingers, these stocking stuffer ideas for kids may be the biggest hit on Christmas morning.
This year, fight the urge to wait until the last minute to shop for the smaller gifts on your list. To help, we’ve carefully curated a list of the best stocking stuffer ideas for kids. This treasure trove of doodads, trinkets, and mini-gifts is so good that this year’s stocking stuffers for kids may just upstage the fancy-wrapped presents under the tree. From brain busters to keep your crew engaged through the holiday break to sweet treats, this list proves what everybody already knows—tiny stuff is cool! Also, don’t miss our gift guides for kids of all ages, like the hard-to-buy-for-tweens, energetic preschoolers, and grade school kids. Ho, ho, ho!
Handheld Wooden Pinball Machine
Little ones who need to keep their hands busy will love this too-cute pocket-sized pinball machine.
This fun set includes a ton of games like Mini-Snap, Rhyme Time, and Name That Tune that are perfect for your next road trip or flight to visit the grandparents.
Got a little adventurer on your list? This kit comes with a baseplate field compass, a collapsible flatware set, a flint striker, and a compact travel memo book.
Your favorite candy just got an upgrade! These little swimmers have natural colors and come in sweet and sour flavors or a variety pack if you can't decide.
Got an anime or manga fan on your list? These fun blind bags come with an origami tutorial along with one of 8 figures to collect—a perfect stocking stuffer idea for kids.
The twelve shining tickets inside this booklet are redeemable for fun surprises like dessert for breakfast or an escape from chores for a day. A perfect stocking stuffer for kids.
We don't know about you, but we grew up with toothbrushes in our stockings. For kiddos 3-8, this is a total upgrade. Available in several characters, it's fun to use and utilizes red light for circulation and blue light to kill germs and lets them brush all their teeth at once.
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These toys and gift ideas for kids ages 6-9 include must-have items like the Bitzee Digital Pet and a Roblox gift card
It’s gift guide season, and today we’re tackling the elementary-age crowd (for younger kiddos, check out our preschoolers’ gift list and for the older crew our tween guide is a must-read). The 6-9 age group is so fun because they’re old enough to appreciate a thoughtful gift, yet still young enough to be wowed by the magic of it all. From the never-go-out-of-style gifts like LEGO sets to one of the hottest holiday toys of 2023, we’ve got a covetable selection of toys and gift ideas for kids ages 6-9 at a variety of budgets.
Air Hogs Zero Gravity Sprint
Zip, zoom, and drive this race car on any smooth surface, including the walls and ceiling.
The LeapFrog® Magic Adventures™ Telescope features up to 110x magnification and lets kids zoom in on the moon at night or nature during the day. Capture and save what you see, and explore out-of-this-world discoveries and more through 100+ NASA videos and images on the 2.4” screen.
If your grade school kiddo hasn’t been swept up in Minverse madness yet, here’s the perfect introduction. The kitchen comes with the UV-light oven needed to ‘make’ their treats, and two bonus recipes and oven mitts are also included.
The paper fortune cookie tellers of our youth are back and better than ever. This book is filled with tear-out pages to fill in and fold up (in gender-inclusive designs!).
Two toys for the price of one? We're there. This super durable set both light up and make sounds (but not overly annoying ones, we swear), plus they're collector's items. Hurry, though. They will sell out; they do every year.)
woom Bikes are designed specifically for kids and their needs. The woom OFF 4 Bike is a 20" bike that provides off-road capacity in a kid-friendly lightweight frame. Also available in black.
One of the coolest new toys we’ve seen in 2023, kids can pet, feed, and play with up to 15 3-D digital pets. The more they play, the faster they level up!
Create Like Frida Self-Portrait Mirror Painting Kit
Creative kids will be inspired by the world’s most famous self-portrait artist with their own art set that includes three pre-printed and one blank decal.
One of the hottest gift ideas for kids in 2023, little scientists can combine all the ingredients they need to create their very own beast. The sounds, lights, and mist actions give this kit an authentic lab vibe.
This brand-new game isn’t just fun for Barbie lovers! Design gurus will enjoy picking wallpaper and decor to create the ultimate home for the iconic doll and her friends.
Indiana Jones doesn’t have anything on your curious kid. There are six molds that look like iconic historical items like the pyramids, a Viking helmet, and the Great Wall of China. Using excavating tools, kids will dig for treasures in each one.
We love how Pair offers magnetic frames to customize your base frames, and we know kiddos will, too. Keep their sensitive eyes protected with a ton of color and lens options, so they can enjoy the sun in style.
Speedsters can create their own course with over nine feet of starter track, and you can incorporate materials you find around the house to create obstacles, tunnels, and more.
All of the fun of a pet without the cleanup! This interactive pup is ready for love and care and even comes with six games, like Fortune Teller and Ultimate Nose Boop.
Get your elementary school kids talking with three different sets of questions: Would You Rather? Family Edition, Would You Rather? Made You Think!, and Would You Rather? Christmas Edition.
In the latest installment of Dav Pilkey’s popular elementary school series, Piggy is back! Who will stop him from attempting to put his diabolical plan into action?
The ‘90s called, but we’re not giving these back! As fun as ever, kids can design their own line of clothing with this kit that now includes a set of cool stickers.
A Bluey video game is coming, and it sounds like it’s going to be fun for all ages (including parents, too)
If your kids (and you, it’s OK to admit it) are feeling a little lost without new episodes of Bluey, we have some great news! A video game based on the adorable heeler, her family, and friends is coming this fall. You and your kids will be able to step into Bluey’s shoes (paws?) to experience a new level of learning through play when Bluey: The Videogame drops on Nov. 17 for Nintendo Switch, PlayStation 5, PlayStation 4, Xbox Series X/S, Xbox One, and PC.
“It’s very important for us to capture the essence of fun and games that is central to the series,” Kevin Jorge, Head of Games at BBC Studios, said in a statement. “We know fans will be excited to explore Bluey’s world and join in with the Heeler family’s antics.”
Up to four people can play at a time as Bluey, Bingo, Chilli, or Bandit. You’ll be able to navigate through scenes from the show, including the Heeler’s home, the playground, the beach, and more while completing challenges and activities. Rewards include fun costumes for your characters, stickers, playable episodes, and new locations. Minigames and challenges are inspired by the show—yes, that does mean you’ll get to play Keepy Uppy and Magic Xylophone. And because Bluey: The Videogame is made for players of all ages, you can set the difficulty level. The idea is that younger players should be able to explore at their own pace and feel accomplished as they play, but older fans should still feel challenged.
“It is always our goal to create games that can act as an entry point to the world of video games and to some of the most important entertainment franchises on the planet like Bluey,” Stephanie Malhan, COO of Outright Games, said in a press release. “It’s a thrill for us to bring Bluey’s world to life with a level of interactivity that has never been seen before, and by ensuring that the game is accessible and enjoyable for all ages we know fans across the globe will be delighted.”
Live like Eloise, a pirate, or Aladdin in these themed suites
Who says a hotel has to be just a place to sleep? It’s time to make the hotel the destination by staying in a place that’ll whisk you away the moment you turn the key. Want to sleep in a Jurassic Park Gryosphere? That’s a thing! How about a fairy world suite that’s so authentic you’ll feel like you’ve shrunken down to the size of a mushroom cap? You can do that, too. From theme park suites to kitschy roadside attractions, here’s our list of amazing themed hotel rooms:
Jurassic World Kids’ Suites at Universal’s Loews Royal Pacific Resort – Orlando, FL
Loews Royal Pacific
These suites have authentic Gyrosphere beds that’ll make your kids feel like they’re going to wheel right out of the room and into the Jurassic section of Universal’s next-door theme park. Kids get their own themed rooms, complete with floors that look like grass, and a Jurassic jungle mural on the wall. Grown-ups will appreciate getting their space, too, with tastefully designed king rooms connected via a door modeled after the dinosaur enclosure.
Live a Fairy’s Life at the Roxbury Motel – Catskills, NY
Roxbury Motel
This two-story cottage is so decked out in magical forest trimmings that will have you thinking you’ve shrunken down and joined Tink and her team in Neverland. The cottage has two bedrooms and a Cedar stairwell bound by branches and greenery that will make you feel like you’re ascending a tree into the canopy above.
Note: If fairies aren’t your thing but a trip to the Catskills is, the Roxbury has several other amazing themed dwellings, including a Medieval Castle-themed cottage that’ll have you feeling like you’ve been whisked into an episode of Game of Thrones, and a Cinderalla-themed cottage that’s got a full-size bathroom nestled inside a giant pumpkin (!).
Step Inside the Adventureland Suite at The Disneyland Hotel – Anaheim, CA
Disneyland Hotel
All we can say is: If you can shell out the few thousand dollars it takes to stay a night at Disneyland’s luxuriously themed suites, we’re jealous. The hotel has five “Signature Suites,” each one more gorgeous than the next. And while it’s hard to narrow down a fave, we’d have to go with the Adventureland suite, a two-bedroom suite decorated with exotic furnishings and one-of-a-kind curios. It looks like a place Indiana Jones would hang with Walt himself.
Step into Agrabah at the Hilton New York Times Square’s Aladdin Palace Suite – NY
Hilton Times Square
Anyone who’s a fan of Aladdin will want to check out this colorful Times Square suite that’s straight out of the fictional land of Agrabah. Furnished with Jasmine-inspired silks, framed prints from the Broadway show, layers of Moroccan rugs, and a genie lamp that was an actual set piece, guests will feel suitably transported (even though the awesome skyscraper view is 100 percent Big Apple).
Guests will also be treated to specialty drinks, complimentary breakfast, and free parking. But the best part? The room comes with up to four premium orchestra seats for the show, located at the New Amsterdam theater right next door.
Slumber In the Jungle at the Madonna Inn – San Luis Obispo, CA
Madonna Inn
This sprawling Victorian mansion just off the 101 Freeway in Central California is a shrine to all things kitsch. It has 110 individually-themed rooms, each one offering its own brand of over-the-top style, from the signature Madonna Suite (think velvet furniture and pink flower prints galore) to the three-bedroom “Harvard Square” with red leather and dark wood touches. But we like the Jungle Rock Room best for its authentic, otherworldly gaudiness, with vines draped across the ceiling and an actual rock waterfall in the shower.
Tiny sophisticates will want to hit NYC in style after spending the night at the Eloise Suite at the infamous Plaza Hotel. Inside the perfectly replicated abode, everything is pink and white with a zebra carpet—just as Eloise likes it. Your little Eloise-in-training will feel right at home, especially considering that the closet is stocked with Eloise’s clothes (try them on!) and the shelves are filled with her favorite books, toys, and dolls.
The room also comes with tea for four at The Palm Court, a special welcome letter from Eloise, welcome sweets and goodies chosen by Eloise, and an Eloise gift bag with a special tote bag, Eloise robe, and other fun Eloise gifts
The submarine door (you have to crank the iron wheel to open it!) is just the beginning of the adventure at these immersive suites that will thrill any fan of Gru and the gang. Kids will love sleeping in their own room, which is outfitted with missile-shaped beds and a Minion mural on the wall, while adults get their own quarters with a king-sized bed and not a minion to be found.
Love the idea of camping but don’t want to deal with setting up the tent and sleeping in actual nature? This family suite is the next best thing! Complete with an indoor tent (already set up for you!), faux firepit, picnic tables, and twinkling ceiling stars, you’ll get the perks of the Great Outdoors—without having to actually be, you know…outdoors. And when you wake up, you can explore the actual wildlife, trails, and outdoor activities Lake Tahoe has to offer (the hotel is a five-minute walk to the lake).
While the rooms here are spacious and filled with African art and decor to match the theme, the best part of staying at Disney’s upscale safari-themed lodge is the view: Book a Savannah View room and you’ll be able to spot more than 30 species of Disney’s resident African wildlife—including giraffes, ostriches, and zebras—from your hotel room balcony! It’s better than watching TV (at least, that’s what you’ll tell your kids).
Make Like a Pirate at LEGOLAND’s Pirate Island Hotel – Orlando, FL
LEGOLAND
Say “Arghh” and step inside the colorful pirate suite at LEGOLAND Florida’s newest hotel. The suite comes with a separate kids’ room outfitted with a bunk bed with a pull-out trundle, plus a fully outfitted LEGO play area. Meanwhile, pirate parents can rest easy in their own room while their littles search for treasure (there’s an in-room treasure hunt with real treasure every day!). That, and it’s all just 130 steps from the theme park!
Note: All LEGOLAND Hotels have themed rooms, with choices including LEGO Ninjago Rooms, Adventure Rooms, Kingdom Rooms, and Pirate Rooms. There’s also a “Beach Retreat” hotel with individual Caribbean-style bungalows.
Get in the Game at the Curtis Hotel’s Video Game Room – Denver, CO
The Curtis
Donkey Kong arcade console? Check! Mario-themed color scheme? Yep! Retro candy to fuel your sugar high? You bet! This tastefully designed retro suite (it opts for sophistication over kitsch-ification) is an ode to 80s and 90s gaming. Your kids will be all, “Where’s the Xbox?” But now’s your chance to show them the art of pre-TikTok fun.
Splurge-Worthy Extra: Want to go old-school with a group? The Curtis (which has a slew of other awesome themed rooms, including a “Ghostbusters” room on the 13th Floor!) has a “90s-inspired package” that lets you rent the whole floor and soak up the 90s era nostalgia with your BFFs. The package includes an endless selection of 80s and 90s snacks (think cheese puffs and Razzles); a set of iconic “moon shoes” for every guest room; a 90s-inspired silent disco; retro clothing accessories including chokers, bucket hats, and slap bracelets; and a dedicated floor attendant who is at your service throughout your stay.
The Barbie Ultimate Staycation at the Grand Hyatt Kuala Lumpur is everything your Barbie self wishes she had, including a toy Barbie Dreamhouse propped in the room for pretend play, plenty of pink/Barbie branding to keep you in the mood, a “Pink Afternoon Tea,” and a fully stocked closet with enough wardrobe changes for your mini to put on the Barbie fashion show of her dreams.
SpongeBob Squarepants Villa in Punta Cana – This two-bedroom, three-bathroom suite looks just like the famous yellow sponge’s undersea pineapple abode—with indoor and outdoor living areas, an infinity pool, and private butlers to cater to your whims.
Harry Potter Room (the Wizard’s Chambers) in London – You’ll walk through a hidden bookcase down a candlelit,portrait-lined hallway just to find this spellbinding Harry Potter-themed room located inside the 172-year-old Georgian House Hotel. Once inside, the room features stained glass windows, stone walls, archways, trunks, cauldrons, four-poster beds hung with velvet curtains, and an assortment of magical extras that Potter-obsessed muggles will love.
Already, one-third of kids ages seven to nine—and half of all 10- to 12-year-olds—are using sites like TikTok, Instagram and Snapchat
We live in a world where our baby’s first steps are just as likely to be posted online as they are to be saved in the baby book, so is it any wonder our kids are clamoring to get on social media? According to this study from the University of Michigan, one-third of kids ages seven to nine and half of all 10- to 12-year-olds are already using sites like TikTok, Instagram and Snapchat. And with all the news about how social media may damage kids’ self-esteem, potentially attract sexual predators, and encourage online bullying—exactly how worried should parents be?
“Parents are generally concerned about kids’ safety when it comes to online predators,” says Patrick Quinn, a former teacher and the official parenting expert for Brainly.com, an online homework help site run by teachers and kids. “But the bigger danger is the matter of kids not being able to realize that everything on the internet isn’t exactly true. Everybody wants to put their best foot forward online.”
Consequently, self-esteem can take a hit. According to a 2019 Johns Hopkins study, teens who spent more than three hours a day on social media were likely to see negative mental health impacts. That said, Quinn believes there are plenty of redeeming qualities of social media platforms. Finding connections and community support, for instance, can be important, especially for teens and tweens who feel isolated or different.
So what’s a parent to do? According to experts, best practices include installing good parental controls, setting clear rules, and teaching kids what good “digital hygiene” means. “We recommend sitting down with your child and talking through any new apps they’d like to download,” says Titania Jordan, Chief Parenting Officer for the BARK parental control app and the author of Parenting in a Tech World. “Discuss the pros and cons of each, keeping in mind that ‘because everyone else has it’ isn’t the best of arguments. But be sure to listen to what they have to say. Their research and passion may surprise you.” Now then: What’s a Snap? How do you Twitch? Who can DM your kids? From Facebook and Instagram to Twitch and Discord, here are the pros and cons of social media for kids.
Ask your child to sign a social media contract (we love this one from iMom) that lays out the general rules for what kids can and can’t do on social media—and what will happen if they break these rules. If you’re not sure your child can police themselves, parental control apps can help by setting bedtimes, setting screen limits, and blocking apps or sites you don’t want your child to use.
“When you make your expectations clear, your child will have a better understanding of what they can do and when,” Jordan says. Also, when your child signs up with a social site, make sure they add you as a “friend” so that you can see and monitor what they are posting. Kids should also give parents their login information so they can check up on what they’re doing online.
Some things to talk about before letting your kids loose on any social media platform:
Knowing the difference between “real-life” friends and online “friends”
Understanding that pictures posted on social media don’t tell the whole story (and that, despite how it looks, nobody has a perfect life)
The dangers of misinformation
Understanding that strangers who contact them online may not be who they say they are
The importance of never disclosing personal information online
Make sure to make space for “digital downtime” to keep life balanced
Understanding that anything you put online may be seen and shared by others
How parental control and privacy settings within individual apps can keep them safe
What is it? An image-sharing site that allows users to view and post pictures and videos.
What do kids do on Instagram? Share their photos and view their friends' feeds, as well as keep tabs on celebrity feeds and follow users (often strangers) with similar interests. Users can also communicate via direct messages (DMs).
What parents should know: Instagram has been under attack for allegedly causing low self-esteem, especially in young girls. To combat this, parents should have a serious conversation with their kids about how what they see on Instagram isn't actually "real life." Show them how filters can make people look different/better/thinner—and how everyone has flaws to hide (this enlightening short video from Ditch The Label explains the "Insta-Lie" perfectly). There is also a "disappearing message" feature that lets kids send timed photo or video messages that users can only view once before they disappear (though screenshots can still be taken), so many kids use this feature to hide things they may not want their parents (or others) to see.
How to safeguard kids: Common Sense Media rates Instagram as best for ages 15 and up because of its easy access to mature content, as well as access to strangers. When you do decide to let your kids use the site, make sure they add you as a friend (create your own Instagram account if you don't already have one) so you can see what they are posting. You can also make your child's account private, so only their friends can see their posts. To do this, go to Settings, then Privacy, and toggle on the Private mode (You can't lock this setting, so know that your kids can always change it back.).
What is it? The hottest social media site for teens and tweens, TikTok has racked up more than 3 billion downloads, with youngsters everywhere clamoring to show off their antics or watch short, punchy video clips. The app is supposed to be for kids 13 and up, but younger users can easily skirt this rule by lying about their birthdays when they sign up. Also: Like YouTube, kids don't need an account to view videos, but they do need one to post them.
What do kids do on TikTok? Watch endless video loops of dance routines, makeup tutorials, homemade music videos, cooking demos, physical stunts, and more. Videos can be up to 10 minutes long, though most are only a few seconds. Creative or enterprising kids can make their TikTok videos by uploading videos from their devices or by recording, editing, and adding effects (as well as music and filters) directly in the app—making it a great place for self-expression.
What parents should know: Profanity and sexually suggestive content are commonplace, even with parental controls enabled, according to ProtectYoungEyes.com. The app also has direct messaging features, meaning that kids can easily contact and be contacted by strangers. That said, users ages 13-15 automatically have the following features set: -No direct messages -Automatic private accounts -Comments can be made from only “Friends” or “No One.” -No videos can be remixed or downloaded.
How to safeguard your kids: TikTok has parental control settings, as well as “Digital Wellbeing."Go to the settings tab in the app on your child’s device and click on “Family Pairing” to set restrictions and screen time allowances. If you are giving your child your phone to use, go to the app, click settings, click on “Digital Wellbeing” to set time limits, and set to “Restricted” mode.
What is it? A camera tool and social messaging app that lets users send "snaps" (messages) to each other, mainly in the form of pictures. Pictures and messages are (supposedly) automatically deleted after they are viewed—but this doesn't stop the receiver from taking a screenshot, so kids should know it's still possible their messages will be shared or reposted.
What do kids do on Snapchat? Younger kids will be all about the camera filters and augmented reality elements that allow them to take fun pics of themselves with glamorous makeup, bunny ears, or a big cat sprawled on top of their heads. Older kids will likely use Snapchat as a messaging tool—sending Snaps to friends and posting photos to their “story," which disappears after 24 hours.
What parents should know: Kids may be exposed to inappropriate content on the Story feed, where they swipe through everything from up-close pimple popping videos to dance tutorials. Also, it may be hard to lull kids away from the app since users are rewarded for "Snapstreaks"—when two users send Snaps to each other at least once within 24 hours for more than three consecutive days. These reward badges are removed when the streak misses a day, so kids are incentivized to keep the conversation going.
How to safeguard kids: Parents can go into the app to prohibit location sharing (go into settings, go to “See My Location,” and set it to “Ghost Mode.”). Parents can also specify who can view or contact their kids. Parents should explain to kids never to send pictures they wouldn’t want their whole school to see (because it doesn't really "disappear"). Also, parents need to explain that kids should never post pictures of friends without similar consent.
What is it? An online discussion/chat forum, originally designed as a way for gamers to chat while playing a video game. While the site is still mostly geared toward gaming, it has evolved into a forum to explore any subject-specific interests and group audio chats with friends.
What do kids do on Discord? Talk to other users about topics of interest (mainly gaming, anime, or music). Discord offers voice chatting, video chatting, and text messaging (it's Skype mixed with Reddit), and users can either join or create public or private groups (called “servers“) about whatever specific topic they want to talk about.
What parents should know: Being a user-generated site, kids may be exposed to inappropriate content including swearing and graphic language and images (though there are groups with rules against these things).
How to safeguard kids: While there are no parental controls, Discord does have some safety/privacy settings to control who can direct message or add your kids as friends. Its "Safe Direct Messaging" feature is supposed to delete any direct messages with explicit content (although, according to Common Sense Media, this isn't foolproof). To be safe, instruct kids to only accept invitations from and participate in private servers with people they already know.
What is it? An online discussion board where users can post questions, start conversations, and share pictures and videos of things that interest them (its slogan is "Dive into anything"). While the site is designed for adults, it's easy for kids to explore, even without signing up (though they need to be signed up to post questions).
What do kids do on Reddit? Share stories with others who have similar interests or questions, ranging from talks about their favorite video games and TV shows to personal questions about sexuality, friendships, and physical health. Once they register, users can vote, post, or subscribe to “subreddits” that focus on specific topics.
What parents should know: There are no parental controls on Reddit, so kids asking particularly iffy questions may see or be exposed to inappropriate content. Also, given the nature of Reddit as an open discussion forum, kids may go down a rabbit hole of extreme opinions that may reflect racist, sexist, hate-filled, or ignorant points of view on a variety of heated topics. Parents should talk with kids about how to spot misinformation and extremism as well as how to differentiate between fact and hearsay. That said, if kids are looking for a community of people who understand particular issues, Reddit can help kids feel a little less alone in their plight.
How to safeguard kids: Reddit is meant for adults, so it's recommended to use filters to block the app until your child is at least 13 (given the adult nature of some posts). If you'd like to let your kids explore the site, parental control apps such as Bark can send you alerts if your child is exposed to or posting anything concerning (including drugs, sex, violent or suicidal ideation).
What is it? With 2.74 billion users (and counting), Facebook—now part of Meta—is the most popular social media site out there, offering an easy way to share and view photos, videos, opinions, and thoughts. While the app is meant for users 13 and up, according to the BBC, it's estimated that more than 20 million of its users are younger than this. Also, even if they don't have an account of their own, anyone can view posts on Facebook (you only need an account to post or contact other users).
Note: Facebook is so adamant about its 13+ age limit that there is a page on its site devoted to reporting and deleting accounts believed to be for children (useful if you've banned the app from your house and find that your child set up an account anyway).
What do kids do on Facebook? Share and view photos and videos of themselves and others, keep up with their favorite celebrities, watch videos of interest, and message each other.
What parents should know: Kids can easily be exposed to inappropriate content—as well as be contacted by strangers. Also, like Instagram, users can easily become obsessed with "keeping up" their image and trying to maintain the illusion of a "perfect life." Parents should keep in mind that if their kids are on Facebook, they can easily see all the things you've ever posted (something to think about if you've ever posted exasperated posts about your parenting journey or baby pics that would mortify your kids today).
How to safeguard kids: If you allow your child to have a Facebook account (preferably at 13), make sure it's set up as a private account to limit who can see their posts, photos and profile. To do this, go to the Privacy section of the Settings menu and pull the drop-down options to "Friends," "Only me," or "Close friends" (which requires you to enter specific names).
What is it? An app for kids that lets users talk via text and video chat. While Facebook itself maintains the 13 and up standard, Messenger Kids skirts this rule because parents set up and manage the account on behalf of their children. Bark calls this setup—where kids use the app, but parents manage every aspect of it — "like training wheels for a child’s first social media experience." This lets parents see who their child chats with, how much time they're spending on the app, and every image they send/receive. Note: This is the only app on the list that was designed for kids under 13.
What do kids do on Facebook Messenger Kids? Talk and video chat with friends.
What parents should know: Parents must have a Facebook account to set up Messenger for their children. And while kids won’t have a public profile, parents can allow their name and profile photo to be visible to others (or not). Another important thing to note is that kids can't send links or YouTube videos through the app, which keeps them safe from iffy content.
How to safeguard kids: If you're worried about excessive use or unwanted friends, you set in-app time limits, approve or deny new friend requests, and remotely log your child out.
What is it? A live-streaming site, primarily for gamers. Any kid who's obsessed with video games will likely be obsessed with watching other kids play video games—which is exactly what they do on Twitch.
What do kids do on Twitch? Watch live streams, most of which are devoted to gaming. If they're logged in, they can talk directly to the streamer and ask questions about the game (which may or not be answered, depending on how many people are watching the stream). For a fee, kids can also broadcast themselves playing.
What parents should know: While the app doesn't technically allow threatening language or sexually explicit content, kids will still likely be exposed to plenty of profanity in the chats, which stream live beside the video. Kids don't have to sign up to watch live streams, but they do to chat. Users can also send "Whispers" (direct messages) to other registered users, though this can be restricted in the app's settings.
How to safeguard kids: Twitch doesn't offer parental controls, but logged-in users can set chat filters to limit discrimination, sexually explicit language, and profanity (though, according to Common Sense Media, these filters aren't foolproof.).
Free kids’ movies like March of the Dinosaurs and Quest for Camelot will be instant pleasers
If your Netflix queue is looking a little stale, you might want to think about the treasure trove of free kids’ movies on YouTube. (we also happen to love these YouTube channels just for kids). You don’t need a subscription to watch, and even though you’ll have to sit through a few commercials before your movie, don’t let the ads turn you off. These free movies on YouTube are well worth your time. If you’re on the hunt for even more classics, scan through the best movies every kid should see before they grow up—and don’t forget some creative movie night snacks!
1. Thunder and the House of Magic
When Thunder, an adorable orange cat, is abandoned, he wanders the unfamiliar neighborhood looking for shelter. When chased by a big Dobermann, he finds himself in the local "haunted house," the home of an old magician named Mr. Lawrence. Thunder meets a terrified mouse named Maggie and her friend, Jack the Rabbit. When Mr. Lawrence is injured and his sly nephew tries to sell the home from under him, Thunder must join forces with Maggie and Jack to save the day.
Before there was Frozen, there was Snow Queen. A more direct take on Hans Cristian Andersen's iconic tale, a young girl named Greta must battle the evil queen and rescue her friend in this free movie for kids on YouTube.
Follow 10-year-old Arthur as he tries to find a way to save his grandmother's house from being destroyed. He enters into a world of tiny creatures, who live in harmony with nature in search of treasure and, along the way, makes many discoveries.
Train lovers will love this live-action version of the iconic engine and friends. Mr. Conductor's (Alec Baldwin) supply of gold dust is critically low, and he needs the help of Lily, the granddaughter of a caretaker in charge of a magical steam engine, and Thomas the Train. They leave the imaginary island of Sodor and head to the real world to find more and meet the trouble-making Deisel Engine 10 along the way.
In this sweet free kids' movie on YouTube, a young fish named Pi loses everything and heads to the Reef and his family. There he meets a beautiful fish trying to ward off the affections of a bully shark. Will Pi save the day?
Older kids will appreciate this gorgeous film about a young African boy who befriends a white lion cub before embarking on an epic adventure. The film uses beautiful real-life nature footage to tell its story. Consequently, expect sad scenes depicting the cruelty that the infamous "circle of life" imparts.
This free movie for kids on YouTube is about a frog who doesn't enjoy water or jumping and wishes he could be like other animals in the rainforest. So, he sets off with his best friend, a flying squirrel, to discover his true self.
Calling all budding paleontologists! This animated docu/drama is set in North America during the Cretaceous Period and follows a young Edmontosaurus named Scar as he and his herd migrate south for the winter, as well as a Trodon, who stays put in the frigid North. Dinosaur enthusiasts will love the action, although young kids might be scared when mega meat eaters Gorgosaurus and Albertosaurus make their entrance.
What do you get when an adventurous girl, a blind hermit, and a silly two-headed dragon team up to find the sword Excalibur in hopes of saving King Arthur and Camelot? A journey through the Enchanted Forest filled with danger, bravery, and laughs. Will they get the sword to King Arthur in time to foil evil Sir Ruber's plan?
This South African-made film is about a zebra prince born without all of his stripes who is cast out from the herd. Khumba isn't quite The Lion King, but there are a few similarities, namely the trio of goofy animal outcasts (here it's a wildebeest and an ostrich) that team up with the misfit zebra and help him learn to love himself—half-stripes and all—before returning to the herd.
Raoul and Emile release a monster from a scientist's greenhouse by accident and begin to track it down. As they do so, they realize it may not be as scary as they once thought.
While on a visit to their grandparents, two young kids, Travis and Whitney, discover a greedy land developer's sinister plot for a Minnesota town. When Travis falls through a magic portal, he meets the mythical Paul Bunyan and his blue ox, Babe. The unlikely team faces minor peril, and has plenty of unforgettable adventures, but will they be able to save the town in time?
Anime fans will love watching this feature-length free kids' movie on YouTube! Based on the Sailor Moon manga series by Naoko Takeuchi, kids all over the world are being hypnotized by fairies and taken to a dark energy field called the Black Dream Hole.Why is this happening? Queen Badiane wants them to stay asleep permanently in Dream Coffins, where she'll be able to harness the energy from their dreams and eventually absorb Earth. Sailor Moon, Perle, and the Sailor Guardians must hurry to save the children before they go to sleep forever.
Starring Selena Gomez, this is a sequel to A Cinderella Story. Mary lives with her adopted mom and sisters, and she's the one stuck doing all the chores. When pop star Joey Parker returns to school for his senior year and hopes to reconnect with his love of dance. During the school's masquerade ball, Mary and Joey wow the crowd with their moves, but when Mary notices the time, she leaves quickly, leaving behind her iPod-like device. With catchy tunes and a heartwarming modern plot, this is a fun free kids' movie on YouTube for tweens.
Fairy tale-loving tots will want to sing along with this 1965 version of the classic story. With minimalist sets and tons of musical numbers, this Cinderella feels more like watching a stage show than a movie—so don't go in expecting special effects. But anyone who loves the story of the cinder girl who finds her prince will be all in.
When some important machinery belonging to an oil company is lost in Canada, a man and his son have to cancel their trip to Disney to find the missing machinery. But they find an adventure they couldn't have expected when they discover a legendary sea creature.
In the sequel to the classic '80s film about intelligent rats living on a farm, this is the story of Timmy, the young son of Mrs. Frisbee. After growing into a strong rodent, Timmy sets out on a journey that will challenge him.
A little girl from a tough neighborhood in LA learns she's got a knack for spelling—and that she doesn't need to change herself to fit in. Lawrence Fishburn stars as the spelling tutor who coaches her to the Scripps National Spelling Bee while teaching her to believe in herself. Note: There is some mild profanity in the film, so parents who have a no-tolerance policy toward this may want to wait a few more years.
Guess what? They can tell when your kid has had too much screen time
From excitement to anxiety to sighs of relief, going back to school this year looks a little different for everyone. But, according to a survey by Learning Resources, more than ever, one of the most important things is active parent involvement. In order to get an idea of what that really means, we talked to school teachers across the country (many of whom are parents themselves) and gathered up their best back-to-school tips for parents to succeed throughout the school year.
Back-to-School Tips for Parents About Attitude
Almost every teacher we talked to said something along these lines:
“Your children take on your attitudes, BE POSITIVE!” —Michele Jenkins, Fernley Elementary School 1st-grade teacher, Nevada
“School is fun! Remind your kids to be creative and take risks.”—Anonymous
“It’s okay to cry on that first day, it can be emotional for parents, but try and wait until your kiddo gets to the classroom before you burst into tears.”—Anonymous
“Dress them for the weather because we're going OUTSIDE!”—Teacher Tom
“Be aware, those cute shoes they get WILL get dirty while doing PE. Don’t tell them they can’t run in shoes you buy them for school use. They will run at school. Don’t punish them for dirty shoes; shoes get dirty when worn properly. Also, close-toed, non-dress shoes (athletic shoes) have the best support, so please make sure they wear a pair any time they have a day that includes recess or PE.” —Anonymous PE teacher
“If they come in tie shoes, they should know how to tie them themselves, or else come in velcro.”—Erin S.
“If you live in a climate with cold winters, get your kids used to taking on and off snow clothes, boots, etc., so they have a routine for doing so before winter and the end of the day. Practice on the weekend as cooler weather arrives and make a game of it by timing each child to see who can get cold-proofed fastest.”—Anonymous
Tips for the Early Morning Routine
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Not surprisingly, a lot of teachers spoke about the importance of eating a healthy breakfast, being on time for school, and getting a decent night’s sleep. Here are a few other helpful tips:
“Don’t delay drop off for little ones. Give a big hug and kiss and get out the door. Lingering only leads to upset kids.”—Early elementary teacher
“For an easier beginning to the year, start routines like going to bed and waking up on time before school starts again, not the day of.”—Jared H.
And Brad B agrees: “Get their bedtime routine back in order before school starts. Lack of sleep affects so many things beyond drowsiness or lack of attention. I personally think it undermines our confidence."
“Go to the bathroom at home before school!”—Anonymous
“Routine in the morning is important to start the day positively. Pick out clothes the night before (or even the whole week before and put in boxes for each day if you have a diva girl like mine!).”—Anonymous
Teacher Tips for School Supplies
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School supplies don’t just mean what you need for your own child. Consider what a classroom needs and grab an extra item or two when you can afford it. Don’t forget tissue during the winter cold and flu season!
“Small tokens of appreciation throughout the year are a real pick-me-up! A pad of post-it notes, sharpies….teachers are easy to please, and it’s nice to let them know you notice their hard work. Also, read the weekly newsletter...please!” —Early elementary teacher, TX
“If there are specific things on the supply list (like particular brands), I promise the teacher isn’t trying to be difficult. They’ve probably learned from experience that that particular type works the best or lasts the longest.” —Nicole D., middle school math
“As teachers, we spend a great deal of our own money on supplies to make our classrooms a more creative learning environment for your child. So please, believe me when I say that every little bit helps our classroom; an extra ream of paper, a container of disinfecting wipes, paper towels, etc. It means so much, and I promise they will be put to good use.”—Holly R., autism teacher
“Make it a habit of asking a teacher if they need anything for the classroom or upcoming projects or holidays. Most teachers will be happy to give you a few inexpensive items they need that you could pick up at the grocery store.”—Anonymous
When it comes to communicating with your teacher, whether it’s messaging during the day or at parent-teacher conferences, or even a requested meeting, consider these factors from a teacher’s point of view. One overarching theme? Teachers know and love your children, too!
“Parents, teacher, and students are all on the same team–parents need to be open to communication and should be open with teachers about student needs.”—Tori R., teacher
“Remember that teachers see your children in a totally different environment with a totally different set of kids at a totally different time than you do on a normal basis. It should be expected that we see behaviors, attitudes, and reactions that are different than what we have come to know. Be open to learning about your child in a unique setting to understand them better.”—Anonymous
“Please be on time for meetings. Our time is very limited.” —Janel M., middle school teacher
“Please don’t expect an email response within the hour. We are teaching 90 percent of the day and often have meetings to attend during our conference period and/or after school.” —Kristi W., elementary teacher
“If there is a conflict at school, notify the teacher. Listen to what your child has to say and encourage him/her to tell an adult at school. Do not bash the other student in front of your child. So many times, this is just a misunderstanding that has been blown out of proportion. Little ones learn how to problem solve with their peers and hearing their parents becoming angry and calling names shows them that that is the right way, which we know it is not. Listen to the details and then call the teacher!” —Anonymous
“Meet the Teacher night (before school starts) is NOT the appropriate time to verbally tell the teacher your child’s specific needs. ... put it in writing (an email is great). So much is going on that the teacher may not remember what you told her or even who your child is yet. You might introduce yourself and let them know to look for an email from you.” —Kristi W., elementary teacher
“Teachers spend a LOT of time on communication mediums and may only have 30 minutes of prep time during the day…so read/reread ALL the emails, updates and directions before you email/call the teacher (resourcefulness and responsibility — this is what we’re trying to teach your kids, too.).” —Katie, teacher and mom
“We are here to help your child. We want the best for them just as you do. Please give us the benefit of the doubt and the respect we deserve. We are not out to get your child. We aren’t telling you things because we are mean. We are telling you the truth about your child in the classroom. And no, they may not act like that at home, but they may act differently in a classroom setting. Believe us. Help us.” —Anonymous PreK teacher
“Be sure to check in on your child’s well-being socially, emotionally, and academically and ask for help if needed!” —Tiffiny Peterson, American Heritage Charter School 2nd-grade teacher, Idaho
Every parent wants their kids to do well in school, and pretty much every child will groan about homework at some point. Here are some ideas for helping kids stay on track and keep up the good work.
“Set aside time daily during the first month of school to help your child unpack/pack their backpack, go over assignments, organize supplies and binders, and chat about school. This helps you both ease in and allows your student to share concerns with you organically and as they arise.” —Anonymous 7th & 8th-grade teacher
“Sleep. They are better students with a solid night of sleep as opposed to those who stayed up all night studying.” —Kathleen, teacher
“The grade is never as important as the effort behind it.”—Katy D., teacher, and mom
“Teach your students to advocate for themselves... to ask for help and to pursue it until they receive it and understand the concept with which they are struggling. A helicopter parent can never be as effective as a student who is determined to learn and knows how to make it happen, regardless of their level of intelligence.” —Jeremy H., veteran elementary and middle school teacher
“Read, read, read to your child! Be sure to talk about the book. Ask questions about the characters and the problems they face, your child’s favorite part, etc. If your child is bilingual or learning English, reading to your child in your native language will not interfere with learning English in school, but will actually help develop their background knowledge and vocabulary acquisition in both languages!” —Anonymous
“Please limit screen time and take your kids either outside to play or engage with them in a board game, puzzle, helping with homework, having them help with dinner/dishes/ANYTHING! So many young kids I teach are turning into little zombies because they come home from school and just sit in front of video games. And remember, your child is NEVER too old to be read aloud to.” —Anonymous
“Even if you don’t agree with the common core or the amount of homework, you want your child to respect his/her teachers and the expectations.” —Anonymous
Advice About Volunteering
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You might not be able to make every function or volunteer a ton of classroom hours, but just being there for your kids makes a big difference.
“For many working parents, daytime events at the school or volunteering isn’t always an option, we get that, but even just one event per school year makes a lasting memory and positive reinforcement for your child. We provide a calendar at the beginning of each school year so parents can plan ahead.” —Anonymous
“Read and play games with your kiddos! There is nothing a teacher can do that takes the place of family time!” —Tess Brist, Marion School 3rd-grade teacher, Montana
"You don’t have to be perfect. Just show up."—Anonymous
Gentle Reminders: Teachers Are Humans, Too
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Don’t forget that teachers, while they are modern-day superheroes in many ways, are also human with families of their own!
“I spend seven hours teaching 125 students each day for 9 months, each year. Please don’t judge me if we meet at the grocery store and I totally space on your and your child’s names.”—Betty R., 7th-grade science teacher
“Remember that the teacher can have 30 other children—be patient and start a positive relationship from the start.”—Tori R.
“Many teachers are parents as well. Please don’t think I am ignoring your 6 p.m. email because I don’t respond within an hour. I am spending time with my own child.” —Anonymous
While they won’t help with the inevitable eye roll, these tips can help you connect and build mutual trust
If you’ve got kids approaching the tween years, you’re probably a little nervous (ok, let’s be honest—totally freaked out) about what’s going to happen when that inevitable sprout of independence blooms. Will you still know what’s going on at school, after school, or with friends? And, most importantly: How will you stay connected and close? The answer? Mutual trust. We asked experts to tell us some of the best ways to build trust with kids before they become teenagers.
Here’s what they said about building trust with tweens
1. Talk to them!
According to Mindy McKnight, author of VIRAL PARENTING: A Guide to Setting Boundaries, Building Trust, and Raising Responsible Kids in an Online World, the most important thing parents can do to build trust with their kids is to talk to them. Like, REALLY talk. The mom of six says, “Do your best to have open and honest conversations as often as you can. Yes, talk about the easy stuff like friends, school, interests, and memories, but don’t be afraid to delve into the more difficult stuff as well. Like bullying, sexuality, puberty, and hormones. Parents should be the first (and most reliable) source of information when it comes to establishing the foundation for their newly-forming ideals and opinions.”
Of course, finding time to talk can be tough. Try getting a few words in at bedtime or on car drives, when your kids are less likely to be distracted by screens, homework, or siblings.
2. Listen carefully to their perspectives—and validate what they are saying to you.
“When I was 12, we visited my uncle, who worked as a fertility endocrinologist in California. He was discussing abortion with another adult in the room, and I vividly remember him turning to me and asking what my opinion was on the subject. At age 12, I’m not sure I even really knew enough to have an opinion, but I remember exactly how I felt when he believed I might have something important to say. I felt so important. Ask your tweens their thoughts on important subjects, and you might just be surprised by what they have to say. Conversations like these also help them to become more informed and to share their opinions in a mature and respectful way,” says McKnight.
3. Be specific when setting boundaries—and stick to them.
Consistency and reliability are important building blocks of trust. If you’re going to set rules, make sure you’re specific, and stick to the rules and the consequences you’ve laid out if they aren’t followed. “We love contracts in our family. They help us ensure we have discussed all the different rules, potential outcomes, and subsequent consequences in teen-sensitive areas like the usage of smartphones, laptops, social media, cars, etc. Be careful not to establish consequences that you won’t actually enforce. Your war will be lost before you even begin,” McKnight says.
4. Take interest in your tween’s interests.
“If you notice that they have a specific interest in something, like video games or fashion, be sure to make that an interest for you too,” Mcknight says. “Learn about it, and talk about it. Even if the activity isn’t something you particularly love. Taking part in it will help open up many opportunities to spend quality time with your child, and communication with them will become much easier. Try it, and you’ll be surprised at how well this works.”
When a child or tween asks you questions about something—whether it’s something they saw on TV or something they heard in school—answer them without judgment. According to New York psychologist Sanam Hafeez, “Most parents just go into panic mode asking where they heard what they heard and then judging and getting negative. When kids feel as if they can communicate openly with parents without it turning into drama—or worse, accusations and arguing—they’ll be more trusting of their parents and will value their guidance and advice.”
6. Honor their personal space.
By age 8 or 9, privacy starts to become important to kids. Consequently, that’s when parents need to start respecting their personal space—for instance, always knocking on their door (or the bathroom door) instead of just barging in. “Respect and trust are intertwined. When a tween is concerned that their parents might move their things in their room, or think nothing about coming into the bathroom while they are showering, or randomly redecorate something in their room without first checking with them, it can fracture the trust,” Hafeez says.
Note: If you have a house policy where all doors must be open a few inches, Hafeez said you can stick to that rule but still knock and peek in before swinging the door open.
7. Lead by example.
If your eyes are constantly on your phone, and then you scold your kids for being glued to their iPads, they won’t be as willing to take you at your word. Be ready to “walk the walk” when you set rules for the family. Hafeez says, “Declaring you are going to revamp the way the family eats and then actually involve the tween in meal-planning… that could be a fun way to show that you stick to what you say you are going to do. This inspires trust and respect.”
8. Show your tween that you respect them.
Trust hinges on respect—and this respect should be mutual. So show your tweens that you respect them—even when they misbehave or disappoint you. When your child sneaks his iPad (again) on a school night, for instance, sit him down and admit that you’re disappointed. Ask him why he finds it hard to follow a particular rule and listen to his feelings about it. Whatever you do, don’t make rash statements like, “Why can’t you ever follow the rules?” or “We just can’t trust you.” Those statements just make kids feel like their parents don’t respect (or believe in) them. Parenting expert and former high school teacher Kara Carerro noted on her blog, “When a child grows up respected, they are more apt to confide in and trust their parents.”
9. Show your kids unconditional love.
Sure, you know that you love your kids unconditionally—but do they know? In this article, outreach specialist Tyler Jacobson says it’s important to show your kids that your love never diminishes or disappears. “The fact that you love them and want to rebuild your trust could go a long way to setting the tone for healing. Even when kids are little, it can be hard to forgive quickly, offer support for every little thing, and accept them for who they are NOW. But these are all ways to show unconditional love,” he says.
I have a video of my two-year-old daughter sitting quietly in the middle of a tornado. Not a real tornado, of course. Just the whirling, noisy storm of her two older brothers literally running in circles around her. In that moment, she is sitting on the floor rocking a baby doll while her brothers bounce around the room like pinballs. While they’re shrieking and giggling, jumping from couch to floor and back again, she is singing a lullaby nobody can hear—as if she and her doll are in a quiet place somewhere far, far away.
I watch it now and say a silent thank you. Because—while it may have taken me three kids to get there—it was in that moment that I knew I had a child who is happy just playing by herself.
And that matters. Experts say solo play or “independent play” not only helps children build confidence in themselves; it also helps inspire creativity, build focus, nurture problem-solving skills, and inspire trust—both in themselves and in their relationship with their parents.
Then of course there’s the (very important) fact that alone time for the child gives parents a little time to themselves, too. “It does give parents a break,” said Bryana Kappadakunnel, a Los Angeles-based LMFT and founder of Conscious Mommy, which offers coaching and workshops for parents of young children. “If a child knows how to play independently and doesn’t require the parent to engage or entertain them, it makes things like preparing dinner much easier.”
So where do you start? How can you turn your wiggly, codependent toddler into a self-sufficient kid who’s happy to play alone? I asked some experts and am sharing my own experiences to give you some suggestions.
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Start by doing solo time with your child
Sure, we all want to have children who can let us go to the bathroom without knocking incessantly at the door because they need us right now (just saying). But that doesn’t mean we can send our unsuspecting two-year-olds to their rooms and expect the magic to happen.
Start by setting up a space that invites them in: Put some paper and crayons on the kitchen table while you’re cooking dinner; set up a playdough station; put a box of Magna-Tiles on the living room floor. Or, says Amy Carney, author of Parent On Purpose: Raising Thoughtful Children in a Complicated World, set up a “boredom box” with age-appropriate items that spark creative play in your child. For this, Carney recommends small items like art supplies, trinkets, toys from birthday party bags, figurines, slime, or putty.
Want to make your toddlers feel good about playing by themselves? Sit nearby and “narrate.” This means just acknowledging what your child is doing, i.e. “You are building a really high tower!” or “You’re really being caring to your baby doll.” Doing this builds children’s confidence about what they’re doing.
By the same token, avoid correcting your child or trying to make it a teaching moment—don’t quiz them about colors or ask them to count the blocks in their hands. After all, this is play; not school.
And, replace your instinct to correct with curiosity: for example, if your child is using stacking blocks for all-things-NOT stacking (hey, they make fun hats!), say something like, “Hmm you seem to have found a new way to play with that toy.”
Finally: Don’t ask questions, which Kappadakunnel said can be distracting to the child. Just watch and narrate. Imagine that you’re a nature photographer and just observe the child in her “natural habitat.” (They’re interesting creatures, those kiddos!)
Don’t overload the space
Apparently, your child doesn’t need a lot of toys. A 2017 study from the University of Toledo in Ohio suggested that an environment with fewer toys is better for toddlers and that too many toys actually decrease the “quality of play.” It becomes overwhelming for the child. For each play session, just a handful of toys is enough.
Start by putting out a few toys and telling your child that you’re going to watch them play and that they can show you how the toys work. Let your kid get busy, and just be there to watch (if they ask you to play, tell them it is their time to show you or to play on their own—but that you’re there to see all they can do!). Then, once they are used to playing without you as a playmate, you can try putting the toys down and walking to another room (or another part of the room where you can do something else independently of your child).
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The kind of toy matters
They say “the more a toy does, the less your child does.” So choose simple toys that inspire open-ended play. Some good examples are:
Magna-Tiles
Blocks
Pretend play items (a kitchen, tools, etc.)
Baby dolls or a dollhouse
Simple instruments
Sensory play (playdough, clay, slime, etc.)
And don’t tell your child how to use the toy. Let them explore it for themselves. There is no WRONG way to play with a toy (unless it puts the child is in danger, of course).
Note: Avoid toys with screens or sounds—and don’t use toys that are meant to “teach” (like toys that claim to teach ABCs or colors). Toys that teach have their place, experts say, but when it comes to solo play, open-ended toys are best because they inspire creativity and free thought, and allow the child to lead the way.
“If we can take the pressure off of play to be academic and instead see the learning in play associated with how a child learns to regulate their body, how a child learns to interact with others, how a child learns to occupy themselves—play then becomes this rich, wonderful work that is fascinating,” Kappadakunnel said.
If your child is resistant to solo play, ask, “Have I been available?”
Does your child fight you when you try to get them to “go play”? Kappadakunnel said maybe your child just needs more of you, first.
Ask yourself: Have you been available to your child lately? If the answer is no, then figure out how you can change that. It doesn’t have to be much: Even 10 to 15 minutes of scheduled “special time” a day does wonders for kids. Just set a timer and sit down on the floor with your child. It may seem like a blip to you, but those 10 minutes can really make a difference—for both of you.
Remember that screens don’t count as “alone time”
While an older child might prefer to spend every moment of her alone time on an iPad or video game console, kids need to make time for more productive time alone. That means, maybe, instead of turning on cartoons first thing in the morning, put down some novel toys and ask your child to make something of them. It may be a hard shift at first, but beginning the day with play is a good way to start!
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Now is as good a time as any
Whether you’ve got toddlers as clingy as koala bears or older kids who still consider you Playmate No. 1, it’s never too late to start encouraging a little solo time. For toddlers, having “Alone Time” bursts once or twice a week is a good place to start. You can also lead by example, scheduling time for yourself as often as you can and sharing your feelings about it with your kids.
And don’t forget about YOU. We all know you need some of that precious me-time, too. So make yourself a model: If they see how happy you are doing something for yourself, by yourself (arts & crafts, taking a walk, reading quietly), maybe they’ll start to crave those same sorts of experiences, too. Remember: You can lead the way.
Read books that celebrate being alone
Books are a good way to teach young children—especially when it means they get some quality time with you. Try reading these books to get your kiddos craving solo play:
Several Gaming YouTubers have become global superstars in recent years
Like a lot of eight-year-olds, my daughter Alex loves video games. If given unfettered access, I imagine that she’d play video games for hours, if not days, pausing only for occasional snack and potty breaks. And like so many of her peers, in addition to playing, my kid also thoroughly enjoys watchingothers play video games. Whether it’s Roblox, Minecraft, or Mario Kart, watching other video gamers play IRL, via live-streaming platforms like Twitch or on video-sharing sites like YouTube, has become a preoccupation for her.
While the phenomenon of kids watching others play video games isn’t anything new, the trend of video gaming as a spectator sport has gained steam in recent years. Known as “Let’s Play” videos, this genre of video content (either live-streamed or pre-recorded) features video gamers sharing screens and commentary over gameplay, often with the addition of personal storytelling, humorous anecdotes, and lots of enthusiastic yelling and screaming (iykyk). What was once deemed a niche endeavor has grown into big business and turned some video-gaming content creators like PewDiePie, Markiplier, JuegaGerman, and DanTDM (to name just a few) into global superstars.
Today, Amazon-owned Twitch boasts more than 140 million monthly active users, and YouTube Gaming reported more than 40 million active gaming channels and 100 billion hours of watch time in 2020, the vertical’s biggest year since it launched.
Experts say kids’ interest in watching gaming YouTubers play is similar to watching any other sport. “The truth is, watching video games is not that much different from watching football games, poker, racing, golf, or some reality shows. Viewers learn a bit about the game, are entertained, and have something to share with like-minded friends,” said Dr. Randy Kulman, founder and president of LearningWorks for Kids.
For many parents, the practice of watching someone else play video games instead of playing the games yourself doesn’t make much sense. But for kids who have been raised on a steady diet of digital media and entertainment, watching others play video games can be both fun and educational.
“As humans, we have been playing since the beginning of time. Play is important for human well-being throughout our lifespan, and crucial to creativity and happiness. As a video game researcher, I was happily surprised to see this shift highlighting the positive uses and effects of games,” author and video gaming expert Dr. Rachel Kowert wrote in a blog post.
So what’s with the fascination of watching others play video games? Experts say there are many reasons why our kids enjoy watching others play video games, including:
There’s plenty to learn from others: Upskilling is a big reason why kids like watching others, especially seasoned gaming experts, play video games. By observing more skilled players, like gaming YouTubers, newbie gamers pick up tips and tricks that they can apply to their own gameplay.
Trying out new games: Some video games are expensive or are rated for older audiences, so watching others play games that are new or out of reach gives kids the opportunity to “test drive” a game before committing to making a purchase.
Building social connections: Viewing something together is inherently social, and watching others play video games on platforms like Twitch or YouTube lets kids connect with others who have shared interests and have the chance to discuss the games they are watching.
Creating a sense of community: Many online video games are multiplayer and require collaboration and teamwork to succeed. Watching other gamers work together to achieve success as a team can help build community and a sense of belonging, allowing kids to feel like they are part of a larger group of fans.
It’s fun and entertaining: Simply put, watching others play video games is entertaining and engaging, especially if the players are skilled, funny, and have big personalities. Kids enjoy the thrill of watching their favorite gaming YouTubers or Twitch streamers play games they love and succeed in challenging tasks.
As parents of young children, we often receive a stream of cautionary advice about the harms of our kids’ overexposure to too many video games and too much screen time. While the negative aspects of excessive video gaming and screen time have long been documented, ranging from increased social isolation to impaired mental health, a growing body of research is showing heretofore unknown benefits to playing video games, particularly for developing young minds.
In a recent study published in the Journal of the American Medical Association, researchers found that children who played video games showed enhanced cognitive performance compared to those who did not play video games. “In contrast to the negative associations with mental health, video gaming has been proposed to enhance cognitive flexibility by providing skills that can be transferred to various cognitive tasks relevant to everyday life.”
Researchers found that video-gaming kids fared better than their non-gaming counterparts in cognitive flexibility, such as certain decision-making skills, as well as better visual and spatial memory. Another recent study by researchers at the University of Houston College of Education examined the video-gaming habits of diverse urban public-school preteen students and concluded no direct linkage between video game playing and diminished cognitive performance.
If you’re concerned about your kid’s video-gaming habits, here are a few considerations:
Moderation is key: Most experts agree that video gaming can be a healthy and enjoyable activity for kids as long as it’s done in moderation. Parents should monitor their kid’s gaming habits and make sure they aren’t trading video gaming time for other important activities such as homework, physical play, and socializing with friends and family.
Establish clear screen time guidelines: The American Academy of Pediatrics suggests that children between the ages of 2 and 5 years old should have no more than one hour of screen time per day, while children ages 6 and up should have consistent limits on the amount of time they spend on screens.
Monitor game content: The content of the games that children play can have a significant impact on their development and behavior. Parents should be aware of the content of the games their children are playing and make sure that it is age-appropriate and aligns with their family values.
Consider positive effects of gaming: While there can be potential negative effects of video gaming, such as addiction and exposure to violent content, there also are potential positive effects, such as improved cognitive skills, problem-solving abilities, and social connections with other gamers.
Get involved: Experts agree that parental involvement and monitoring are key to ensuring that video gaming is a healthy and positive activity for children. Parents should talk to their children about their gaming habits, set clear rules and boundaries, and be aware of warning signs of problematic gaming behavior.
